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Nobody Should Believe Me

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Oprah: 本播客旨在探讨人类体验和生活中真正重要的事情,并与专家、思想领袖和作家进行对话。此次读书会以Claire Keegan的小说《Small Things Like These》为中心,探讨爱尔兰历史、社会责任和人性善恶等主题。 Claire Keegan: 小说《Small Things Like These》并非基于个人经历,而是源于对爱尔兰“麦格达琳洗衣房”事件的反思,以及对人们在明知情况下的沉默和不作为的质疑。小说主人公Bill Furlong的形象是虚构的,但其内心的挣扎和选择具有普遍意义。作者认为,故事会主动寻找作者,写作需要耐心和倾听。书名“Small Things Like These”代表着人生中点点滴滴的积累最终构成了人生的全部。 Maureen Sullivan: 作为“麦格达琳洗衣房”的幸存者,Maureen Sullivan分享了她12岁时被送往洗衣房的经历,以及遭受的虐待和不公。她认为小说真实地反映了修女们的腐败和权力,以及教会对受害者的掩盖。她鼓励人们勇敢地讲述自己的故事,并寻求治愈。 Frances和Lena Rose: 两位爱尔兰高中女生分享了她们阅读《Small Things Like These》的感受,以及她们对爱尔兰历史和社会现状的看法。她们认为小说突显了爱尔兰对女性的压迫和羞耻感代代相传,并呼吁人们更多地关注和讨论这一问题。 其他观众: 其他观众就小说中涉及的社会责任、道德、罪恶感、同情心、勇气、家庭、信仰等主题提出了自己的看法和疑问,并与作者和嘉宾进行了深入的探讨。 Oprah: Oprah主持了本次读书会,并与嘉宾和观众进行了互动,引导大家对小说主题进行深入思考。她分享了Maya Angelou关于遗产的观点,并赞扬了Maureen Sullivan的勇气和力量。 Claire Keegan: Claire Keegan详细地阐述了小说的创作过程和灵感来源,并对小说中人物的性格和行为进行了分析。她认为,脚步不会说谎,跟随人物的脚步可以找到人物的真相。她还探讨了悲伤与同情心的关系,以及人们给予爱的能力与其所获得的爱之间的联系。 Maureen Sullivan: Maureen Sullivan分享了她个人在“麦格达琳洗衣房”的经历,以及她如何克服创伤,并通过写作来寻求治愈。她对小说能够帮助受害者开启治愈过程感到高兴。 Frances和Lena Rose: 两位高中女生分享了她们对小说的理解和感受,以及她们对爱尔兰历史和社会现状的看法。她们的观点代表了年轻一代对这一问题的关注和反思。 其他观众: 其他观众就小说中涉及的社会责任、道德、罪恶感、同情心、勇气、家庭、信仰等主题提出了自己的看法和疑问,并与作者和嘉宾进行了深入的探讨。

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Why did Oprah choose 'Small Things Like These' as her 109th book club pick?

Oprah chose 'Small Things Like These' because it was listed by the New York Times as one of the 100 best books of the 21st century and explores themes of social responsibility and morality.

What is the significance of the title 'Small Things Like These'?

The title signifies the accumulation of small actions and decisions that shape one's character and life, emphasizing the importance of empathy and kindness.

How does Claire Keegan develop the character of Bill Furlong in 'Small Things Like These'?

Keegan follows Bill Furlong's physical movements through time, believing that one's feet never lie, which leads to the truth of what they want and their emotions.

What impact did the story of 'Small Things Like These' have on Maureen Sullivan, a survivor of the Magdalene laundries?

Maureen Sullivan found validation and a sense of healing through the book and its movie adaptation, as it brought attention to the harsh realities she and others faced.

How do young women in Ireland view the themes of 'Small Things Like These'?

Young women in Ireland see the book as a reminder of recent historical injustices and a call to continue discussing and addressing the cultural taboos around women's experiences.

What message does Claire Keegan want readers to take away from 'Small Things Like These'?

Keegan believes that each reader's personal response to the book is valid and that the reader completes the story, making it a deeply personal experience.

Why does Claire Keegan think sadness is important for empathy?

Keegan argues that sadness fosters empathy by making individuals think about the lives of others, contrasting with the death of empathy that would result from a lack of sadness.

How has 'Small Things Like These' contributed to the ongoing conversation about the Magdalene laundries in Ireland?

The book and its movie adaptation have opened up conversations in Ireland, providing a platform for survivors like Maureen Sullivan to share their stories and for society to reflect on past injustices.

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Hi, it's Oprah, and welcome to my podcast. I am delighted and excited to begin sharing conversations with experts, with thought leaders, with writers around the human experience and what really matters in this one precious life we have, as poet Mary Oliver famously has said.

We're starting off with a fascinating conversation with acclaimed Irish author Claire Keegan about her novella, Small Things Like These. Claire is a brilliant writer and also quite funny. She had so many insights to share. She had me and everybody in our audience at Starbucks really seeing things in a new light. And I hope you enjoy it. And I appreciate so much you joining the Oprah podcast.

Hi, everybody, and thank you so much for joining us. I think this is so cool. Clara Keegan has traveled all the way from Ireland. Let's welcome her here to Starbucks. Thank you. I think sadness actually makes you think about what life is like for others. I think being upset is really important so you can think about what others go through. We are ah-ha-ing all over the damn place. All over the Starbucks cafe. That is such a big ah-ha. Starbucks kind of day. Ah!

This is Claire Teigen, everybody. Stand by, please. Okay. Great. Anytime. Hi, everybody, and thank you so much for joining us. I think this is so cool. We are bringing great books, great coffee, and great conversation together. In the best place to do it, Star

Now, listen to this. Every month, I'm going to have a new book club pick, and Starbucks is going to pair a delicious cup of curated coffee. The pairing for this book is Christmas blend coffee, which pairs perfectly with the December book.

because it takes place, wouldn't you know it, at Christmastime. And then we'll have conversation with the author inside Starbucks cafes all around the country. Books, coffee, and conversation. I love this idea because I think that sharing ideas and connecting in person makes life sweeter and definitely more fun. So here's the thing. You are the very first audience. So thank you.

Thank you. Thank you. So my 109th book club pick was listed by the New York Times as one of the 100 best books of the 21st century. And I had never read it. It is a novella. It's small, only 114 pages. And it's by Claire Keegan. And it's called Small Things Like These.

Small Things Like These is set in 1985 in the small town of New Ross, Ireland. At that time in Ireland, the Catholic Church held power over the culture. Author Clare Keegan's story centers around Bill Furlong, a husband and father of five daughters who runs a coal delivery service.

The town is home to a convent and one of Ireland's Magdalene laundries, also known as mother and baby homes, run by Catholic nuns. For decades, it was an open secret that tens of thousands of young women in Ireland who were pregnant out of wedlock were housed in these institutions against their will. They were forced to work in the laundries without pay or the freedom to leave.

While delivering coal to the convent and laundry, Bill Furlong encounters a young woman who has been locked in a shed with no food, water, or even a toilet. She tells him her baby has been taken away from her. As the story progresses, Bill confronts memories of his own childhood being born out of wedlock and how the local people and even his own wife encourage him to ignore the young woman locked in the shed.

Claire Keegan's exquisite writing examines Bill's struggle to go against the church and the dire consequences weighing on him. On page 113, she writes, "He found himself asking, 'Was there any point in being alive without helping one another?'" Our audience has read this book, and don't you think it's a classic? Yeah.

It's a classic. How many of you have read it more than one time already? More than one time already. Okay, that's really good. So I am so happy that the author of this beautiful story, Small Things Like These, Clara Keegan, has traveled all the way from Ireland. Let's welcome her here to Starbucks. Thank you.

Well done, well done. And thank you for being here. Thank you for being here. Thank you for having me. It's a pleasure. When we meet the main character, Bill Furlong, is this somebody you knew or a composite of somebody you knew?

Or how did you come? Was he was he what came to your mind first when you were writing the story? No, he's a he's a complete invention, not based on anyone I know. And I didn't even have a conversation with a cold man before or during or after writing this book. I just made him up. But I think the imagination, I think language is older and richer than we are. And

When you start playing around with it, it gives you sometimes what you're looking for. I started writing a short story about a boy who goes with his father to a Christian brother's boarding school to deliver a load of coal. And the boy, when he opens the coal house door, finds another boy just about his own age locked inside. And his father...

bids him to just come on and lock the door. And I was really interested in what you would consider your father to be. If he told you that? Yeah, if he'll do that to a boy just like you. And then why wouldn't he do it to you?

And is it all right that he won't do it to you and he'll do it to somebody else? And then I thought, well, what am I going to do with that? I was interested in that, but what am I going to do with that? Because the child always is living at the mercy of who's minding him. Yes, yes. So there's nothing really the boy can do but carry it. So then my preoccupations shifted to what if it was the father's story?

And it was a longer story. And it was the story of what the father does with that. Because he's an adult and he's a male. And he has agency and he can do something. Whereas a child wouldn't be able to do something. I love the way authors think!

I love the way stories arise from nowhere and you were able to put words on a page and leave us with something that is so profound. And I heard that you said stories go looking for their authors, that they even exist already. Do you believe that? I do. I really do. I don't know why I believe that, but...

That the story finds you. You don't find the story. I do. And I think you have to listen for it and wait for it and not force it and play with it and sometimes just be really patient while it's making up its mind.

I know you have dogs. You know when you're lazy and you don't walk your dog on a wet day and the nose keeps coming? Yeah. There? Yes. Well, I think that stories, when they start doing that to you, it's time to either write them or then they'll go off and find somebody else who will. Really? Yeah. Yeah.

Yeah. When did you know that you were a writer, that you were able to meet the story? For this one, you mean? At any time, when you first recognized that you were able to recognize the story that had come to you and to take that and put it, form words on a page. I never have and I don't have it yet. I've never felt that. I don't know if it'll come again. You don't know if it'll turn into something even.

Even when you're in the middle of it, you don't know if you'll finish it. I couldn't say that I've ever known that. Okay, I've heard that you never give a story a title until it's finished, that you don't do that, that the title comes to you, you're searching for the title, even as you're writing it. I've no talent for titles at all.

I really don't. I don't know what to call something. I think what you call something is actually a different talent to writing movement. When you're writing a story, you're writing movement over time. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And then naming it. Sometimes when, you know, I've been teaching creative writing for 30 years and sometimes there'll be somebody in the group who'll know exactly what to call it. Yeah. And they have that talent. They can name it.

That's a separate talent. I think it is. Than actually writing it. I think so. So when did small things like these occur to you? You know, you make a reference to it here on page 11. Some nights Furlong lay there with Eileen going over small things like these. I think it was the best thing that I could pick out of the book and my editors couldn't come up with anything better. LAUGHTER

Well, we love the title, right? Great. I think it's a precious title. And what does the title mean to you? It means everything to me. I think we all, you know, you live your life over time and how you use the minutes and the hours and the days that build into years becomes your character. Mm-hmm. And that becomes who you are and becomes who you treat people as.

And how you relate to people and how people relate to you and it's also about the things you could have done which you haven't. Yeah. Or the horrible things you could have said which you didn't. Yes. Whatever it is turns into a life.

Turns into a life. Small things like these turns into life. I love that so much because it reminds me of one of many great lessons I learned from my mentor and teacher, Maya Angelou, who said to me that your legacy isn't one thing, but your legacy is every life you touch.

It's everyone you encounter during the day. It's how you treat every single human being you encounter. You're leaving and building your legacy every day from the small things and the extraordinary things. So you said that Bill Furlong wasn't inspired by anybody you know. So often we read about main characters who are good people, who make a wrong decision or do something bad.

you know, where we're talking about, and then have to recover from it. This story is so different. How did you develop him? I just follow somebody physically through time. You see, I believe your feet never lie. I'm really interested in horses. And one of the things that horses and starting horses taught me is that your feet never lie.

You know, you can go up into your head in that place above your eyebrows and you can say something that absolutely isn't true is true because you've come to believe it. But your feet never lie. So one of the things I do when I'm writing is I just follow somebody's feet through time because that'll lead to the truth of what they want. What the hell? What'd you just say? Did you all follow that?

Okay. Con artists, your feet are going after whoever it is or whatever it is you want to con. Uh-huh. So it's just, I don't try and analyze what somebody is thinking, but your feet are just hooked onto your emotions, and your emotions also are always accurate. Well, I had never thought this before. I love the idea of having a thought I never thought before.

I never thought this before. I also, you've said that elegance to me is writing just enough. And about Bill's character, you said a longer novel would not have suited his personality. I'm so curious how you came to know that. Because he's a man of few words and he isn't a gossip and he doesn't say very much. I actually think he wouldn't make a long night shorter. Mm-hmm. You know? Um... Mm-hmm.

So he's not somebody who goes on and he needs to keep busy. And I think he likes the repetition of work. And I also think he's kind of afraid of falling apart if he stops. Yes, but isn't he also in that period that so many men have in their lives and women, of course, but I never thought of men thinking about these things. Women actually talk about these things like, what is it all for? What am I even doing? What is it all for?

Yes, I think he's that thoughtful type of a person who's asking what he's doing with his time. I think also it's part of his upset. Is he doing what he should have done with his life, with his time, as a father, as a husband, as a man?

Also, I think in that time leading up to Christmas, we all wear some type of a shield. And I think especially if you have children, that at Christmas time, that shield grows a bit thinner. Why? Because you're supposed to be a Christian. You're supposed to be thinking about how you're getting on. You're supposed to pause. And look at your life. I think so. Mm-hmm.

So I want to ask the audiences, had you all heard or knew about the Magdalene laundries before this? You all had. Oh, you very educated people. I have to tell you, I had never... Who had not heard? Not heard. Not heard. I had not heard. And who had heard? Y'all are...

I'm impressed. I had never heard. In the dedication of the book you write, the story is dedicated to the women and children who suffered time in Ireland's mother and baby homes and the Magdalene laundries. Our audience came with plenty of questions. Katie, where are you? Go ahead.

Hi. I had a family member who went through an experience like that. She was a teen mom, gave up her baby, and she just recently reunited with her son almost like 50 years later and had a really beautiful story and a beautiful reunion. But I was also wondering if you, I know you talked about your, if you had a personal connection to the characters, but did you have any personal connection to the laundries or anyone that you knew of that had the similar experiences that these women had?

No, I didn't. I didn't have any relative or anybody I knew in the laundries. It was just all over the news for a long time in Ireland and I think the question I was asked

interested in was why did people do nothing when the police knew, the social workers knew, and the parents knew, the Catholic Church knew, the priests knew, the nuns knew, and nobody did anything. And I wasn't able to not ask the question while I was writing. Really, I think the book is a response to my asking the question.

I want to take a moment now to introduce you to Maureen Sullivan, who was just 12 years old when she was taken from her family and sent to live in one of the laundries. And she wrote about her experience in her memoir called Girl in the Tunnel. These are excerpts from the documentary Ireland's Dirty Laundry, which was produced by New Decade Films. Here's a brief look at Maureen's story. Take a look.

Our father had died. He died just before I was born and my mother remarried. In 1964, 12-year-old Maureen Sullivan, who grew up in an impoverished home, says she bravely made a confession to a nun at her school. She called me into the office and I told her that my stepfather was hurting me. It was sexual abuse and I was only a little child.

The next day, there was a man who drives the laundry van and he came to collect me. I was innocent. I thought I was going to go to school. The day I arrived, I knew by the two nuns that came out to greet me, I knew straight away this is not going to be good.

In the morning you'd go up early and you'd clean the corridors. One morning you might polish them, the next morning you'd shine them, the next morning you'd wash them again. And then you'd go to Mass, then you'd come back and you'd have your breakfast, and then you'd go on to work in the laundry. If you maybe weren't working quick enough, you'd get a dig of the cross into you. They used to carry these rosary beads around on them, big long rosary beads. But the cross was really big on it.

and they'd put their two fingers around the cross and they'd just dig it in. There'd be bruises on you for weeks after it. Maureen says when inspectors came to the laundry, the nuns would hide her in dark tunnels for hours without food or water. It was just horrific. And you were afraid to talk about it. And the way that the church covered up, nobody cared.

I think I thought I was there for life. And of course, it's in your head. Am I ever going to get out of here? Is this my life now? Maureen is Zooming in with us today from her home in Carlow, Ireland. Maureen, hi there. Hi. Hello. Hello. Thank you for being with us today. Thank you. I know you've read Clare's book. What kind of emotions came up for you when you were reading small things like these? Yes, a lot of emotions came up for us.

When you would get deep into it, I liked the way she told the truth about the nuns, the way that they were able to bribe people, the power that they had in Ireland. I think that's the first time that it's ever really come out that strong. Really? Even with all the stories in the news? Because one of the things Claire was sharing with us is that, first of all, this was happening in the 80s and

The last laundry was closed when in 1996. I think so. Yes. 96. I mean, this is very, very recent that this was happening. And I hear that you felt so broken from the trauma in your 30s that you even attempted suicide. I did, yes. Yeah, I was in a very dark place. I think you're trying to survive in your younger life.

and you're working and you're trying to survive. And then all of a sudden, then it just hits you some stage of your life. If you don't deal with it and try and heal, it will hit you in a big way. And that's what happened with me. How old were you when you were thinking of killing yourself? I was in my early 30s, 34, 35. Early 30s. So what is the thing that has helped you to heal? First of all, you...

You know, God bless you. I read your book, which is available on Amazon. It's called Girl in the Tunnel. So those of you who have read small things like these, if you want a true, true story of what really happened, Maureen's book, Girl in the Tunnel. I just can't imagine the kind of courage and will it takes to be you. You are one strong, powerful woman. Thank you.

Thank you so much. Just one strong, powerful woman to come through what you did, the assault, abuse and constant sexual molestation from your stepfather. And your mother knew your mother knew. And I love that first chapter in Girl in the Tunnel when you say, what did I do wrong? What did I do wrong? You simply told on him and by telling on your stepfather who was constantly sexually assaulting you.

you then were sent to the laundries to an even worse existence. Yeah, I was punished. And not only that, I think the part that really hurt me is when you try to heal and you try to bring your story out

and heal yourself, then they denied they were really trying to cover my story up and still are. And that's why I've written my book. They really want to hide my story. They don't want anybody knowing that that's what they've done with an innocent child that went to look for help. That nun approached me and she said, you look pale.

You look very disturbed. You're not speaking to anybody. And I opened up and trusted her and told her my story. And I went back to the nuns. I'm very lucky in life in a lot of ways. I met very good people.

And the man that I started working for, Arnie Stevenson, he took me down. I said to him, I'm going to bring my story forward. Will I damage your business? And he said, I don't care. He said, I will stand by you. He said, that story is horrific. He said, you have to get the truth out. When I went to meet that nun, I'll never forget it.

I asked her, well, he asked, my boss asked her, why was my name changed? Why was my hair cut? Why was I made a slave of? And why did they hide me and not give me my education? And her words was, I'll never forget. Mr. Stevenson, have you got children? And he said, I do. He said, I have two daughters. She said, would you like your children playing with Maureen?

And he was shocked. And he said, why? And she said, we couldn't have Maureen playing with the other children. She would corrupt their little minds if they asked her why she was there. Wow. Yeah, I was a soiled child. So I was punished the whole way through for his crimes. I'm so sorry. This is the thing that is so striking, those of you who will read Girl in the Tunnel,

Your stepfather was a pure predator because not only was he sexually assaulting you on a regular basis and everybody in the house knew, certainly your mother knew and your grandmother knew, but nobody could do anything about it. But he did what a lot of predators do. He started calling you a liar.

Maureen is a liar. Maureen is a liar. And he started doing that long before you told so that when you did tell, nobody would believe you. So even at school, kids would call you Maureen the liar.

Yes. Your mother started calling you a liar. Yeah. I mean, he brought his children up like that. You see, his own children heard these words, Maureen, the liar. He was himself covered in every way. How how how nasty. Yeah. How evil of a man he was. Yeah.

Well, Small Things Like These has been made into a movie this year, co-produced by Matt Damon and Ben Affleck, and it stars Oscar-winning Irish actor Cillian Murphy. And I say, read the book first. Read the book first, Small Things Like These. Maureen, I hear you went to the premiere. How was that experience for you? And I hear you've seen it now multiple times.

Yes, and I'd go back again to see it. The hope that you get from it, it was the truth that came out in it, the way the nuns were so corrupt, that they threatened people, your job could be gone, your children mightn't get into school.

bribing with money. That's exactly what they did. And that side has never been told before. And then Cillian Murphy, the way he acted, it was just fantastic. So do you feel by small things like these, Claire's book, and now this book being made into a movie, do you feel some sense of validation that you have been heard? Yes.

Yes, I do. I do. And I thank Claire very much for writing that book. And I thank her for getting the movie and everything done. It's given us, we're healing. We're starting to heal.

You know, and I really do thank her. Yeah. And I think you're starting to heal because you can be heard. And just know that all of us at the Starbucks Cafe here, we hear you. We hear you, Maureen. Thank you. We hear you. Thank you so much. Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. Maureen's book, Girl in the Tunnel, is available on Amazon. How does it feel to know that the story you have written has now enabled many of these women who still are alive to...

to start the healing process for themselves. I'm just delighted. I'm just delighted to have, you know, had the opportunity to write the book and be heard and to say something about misogynistic Ireland. Because one of the things I know about the misogynist is that he wants to shut you up. Verbally and physically. In Maureen's case, obviously, she was incarcerated.

So it was lovely to be able to come out the far side of that and use my voice and use my power to be able to say something which obviously Maureen at least does not find in any way offensive and finds it accurate.

Erin, where are you? You have a question? Yeah, go ahead. Hi, I have lots of family in Ireland. I've been there many, many times over the years and I was just curious how your experience in Ireland had an impact in explaining the differences between and the character development of Catholics and Protestants in Ireland at that time. Thank you. Well,

Ireland is and was primarily Catholic, you know, and the Catholics were...

generally speaking, poor and Protestants were not. But I just wasn't brought up with any hatred. I was very lucky in that regard. And I never remember my parents having any kind of a them and us. And I actually remember my mother saying that a Protestant was more likely to give you a lend of a plough than a Catholic would be.

And so I was very lucky. I didn't think about Protestant neighbours as being anything other than more privileged than we were. So there was just no hatred at all. There was no hostility as far as I remember anywhere in my childhood. And maybe that's why Mrs Wilson in the book is kind. I was...

I was going to choose Mrs. Wilson. Were you going to choose Mrs. Wilson for real? Yes. Yeah, why would you choose Mrs. Wilson? I just thought, you know, going back to it was very much male-dominated society at that time. I thought she was a woman and she was very brave to take this young girl in. Yeah.

and provided really Bill with an avenue by giving him the book, gave him really an outlet of utilizing the book, matching it up with then the dictionary and kind of giving him a base for getting out. - Yeah, there's a line you used to describe her like she was a woman who could make her own decisions or a woman who could decide for herself. And I just thought, I wanna talk to that woman

who at that time was able to do that. And it feels so dated. I was talking to some of the group earlier. We were saying this feels like it's the 50s or something. It feels so, it doesn't feel like it was the 80s.

There wasn't a great deal. Apart from the motorcars, I don't know that there was a huge difference between the 80s and the 60s or the 50s. Wow. We had bad hairdos in the 80s. Contraception was illegal in Ireland until 1985. Martial rape was legal until 1990. So that'll give you a picture of...

what the 80s were like in Ireland. We also had the highest unemployment in Western Europe. Wow. So it was a difficult and backward time.

Well, we wanted to know how young women in Ireland today feel about this book. And my team talked to two high school friends from Claire's hometown of Wicklow. They're joining us now from a nearby Starbucks in Bray, Ireland. Hello, Frances and Lena Rose. Hi. Hi, Grace. Thank you for having us. What kind of coffee are you having today?

Chai latte. Chai latte. I believe in it. So tell us, I hear you encouraged your high school teacher to have your class read small things like these. And each student is now writing a paper about the book. How great is that? Way to go, Lena Rose. So basically, it's one of the choices on our curriculum for our

English class. Yes. It's one of the options that we can pick. So I had read it already and had gone to my teacher and said, I really, really love this book. And would it be possible? And then she went to the board and they spoke and they decided to do the book. So we're learning it as part of our final assessment. So as young women, we were just talking about how this...

doesn't feel like it was as recent as the 80s and 90s. And in 1996, I know you still weren't born, but as late as 1996, these stories were still happening. So as a young woman, how does that make you view your history in the country? Yeah, I think that it highlights how recent it is, especially with Clara's book, Small Towns like the Hassan.

um, orients as well, girl in the tunnel. I think you see it around you all the time with young women like us, but also with our mothers and our grandmothers. Um, a lot of that shame and guilt has passed down through the generations. And whether it was directly or indirectly, uh, the women in our lives have all been affected by the laundries and the culture over here against women. Because I think at the end of the day, women were punished for being women. And, um,

There's just so much hurt and pain, and it's still such a taboo topic to be discussed. And when I've talked to anybody who has been affected by the same themes of the laundries, they blame themselves. And it's hard for that to go away, especially when it was so recent. I think that a

If we're being honest, it wasn't, you know, a giant secret. And I don't think Ireland, I don't think it's time for us to move on from it. I think having the spotlight on it for longer and talking about it is really important. Wow. One of my favorite things about the book, the reason I love it so much, is that it is so unapologetically and unavoidably Ireland in the 80s. Like you can't, there's not a second when you're reading the book that you can genuinely believe that this is in a different place or this is in a different time.

You can't take yourself out of the story. This is your village, your people, your town, your community. And that's so powerful that you have to are forced to acknowledge this is a part of your very recent history. Wow. So wise, girls. So wise. Do you have a question for Claire? Was there a specific event that inspired you to write this? Like, why did it feel so personal to you?

Hello, Wicklow. Bad Wi-Fi in Wicklow. No, there really wasn't. It was just after reading the Ferns report, first of all. And then I...

I heard what was going on in the Magdalene laundries and the radio and I just needed to write something about it. But it wasn't in any way personal for me on an autobiographical level. It was what I was imagining. But I don't think there's anything more personal than what you imagine. Yeah. Good luck with your studies. Good luck with your studies and thanks for getting more people to read small things like these. Thank you, Frances and Lena Rose. Thank you. Thank you both. Thank you.

When you wrote this, I'm sure, I don't know if writers think about it moving on from generation to generation and now that it's, you know, being read in classes and all of that. It does what for you as an author? It just makes me feel grateful that I have the life I have and that I'm able to make a living writing stories and that people want to read them and

and that they're being taught in the schools. And it's lovely to think that there are, you know, teenage boys in Ireland now asking the question of what would I do and how am I and how do I treat women? Wow. Because that misogyny just moves from generation to generation. Yes. Let's hope not. Yes. Yeah. The whole idea of your husband comes home and you're

They're to greet him and to make his life as easy as possible and going through the whole, the things that we heard our mothers did and their mothers did and their mothers did that we have been liberated from. I think to be reminded that in the 80s and 90s, this was still very prevalent in other parts of the world is important for we as women people particularly to know. And those of you who are guys who read this, did it surprise you?

Yes, it did surprise me. What really resonated with me as a father, the longing to be part of the family more. He left home, he had to go to work, and when he came home, he was present, but he was always worrying about the next paycheck, the next bill, the money owed to him to cover his expenses.

large family in that day and age but even now if you have that many kids being able to feed them, worrying about his wife's happiness while she's sleeping right next to him longing for her but realizing maybe she had a rough day that she needs to just sleep and rest and he has to get up and leave and

him wanting to be more in his daughters' lives, but realizing his job is to provide for them and step away and do the job, do the work. Wow. Yeah. Did you relate to him? I did. I did, as a father. Yeah. Okay. I heard you see this as a love story. Tell us why. I think the main difference between Furlong and some of the other men in that community might be that when he was young, he was loved and cared for.

He was living in privileged circumstances and the three people who lived there all cared for him and cared well for him. And even though he lost his mother when he was young, she loved him and she minded him. And people in that house respected each other. And there's a wonderful poem by Philip Larkin called An Arundel Tomb and it concludes with the line, what will survive of us is love. Mm-hmm.

And I think that carries over into Bill's personality. Because he wasn't brutalized, perhaps, the way other people were. Wasn't so hard. Seamus Heaney says we get hurt and get hard.

And I think he was able to keep some of his softness. And I think this too, I was saying this to our group earlier, that I think that people are able to give. You all think about this question, is it true for you and also for people in your life? Not just the characters that we read about and small things like these. You are able to give love in direct proportion to how you've been able to receive it.

And exactly what you were saying about Bill Furlong, he was able to do that because he was loved, loved by his mother for as long as she was there able to give it to him. But also the kindness shown him, the care shown to him, just that one day Mrs. Wilson patted him on the head and he walked around that whole day and even longer thinking that he was somebody and as good as the other kids ever.

I think you're able to do that in direct proportion to how you're given it. And if you're not given it, you never receive what you needed. You walk around bitter and that's what's coming out of you all the time. And so often what we see from people is the bitterness from the love they never received. That's what I think. Yeah.

Erica, what is your question? What is your question for Claire, Erica? This was such a powerful book. I know it touches on things such as social responsibility, morality, and guilt. So I was wondering what messages you wanted the readers to kind of take away, especially in this climate that we're living in today. There's so many things that this can, even though this book was written, you know, in past times, we're living today.

this again in different ways, in different terms. I was curious to see what you want readers to take away. Thank you for the question. I'm not sure that there is a message I want anyone to take away from the book. I think reading a book is a really personal thing. And whatever you take away from it is all right. And you know, some people may think this is a story of a

of a fool. I mean, he was born on April Fool's Day and people predicted when he was born that he would turn out to be a fool and maybe that's what the story is. Maybe there were cleverer ways to get done what he got done.

Maybe it's a story about love. Maybe it's a story about a marriage falling apart. Maybe it's a story about a man breaking down. But whatever it is, whatever it is, is all right. Because I think your response to a book is deeply personal and shouldn't be interfered with. I think the reader completes the book. Oh, we love that. Yeah.

All of us readers went, oh, thanks. We the reader, we complete the book. Would you agree, Dennis? That's true. Yeah. Yes. Okay. Nuro, Nuro, where are you? Okay. Nuro with the pink shoes. Go ahead. You wrote in the final chapter how Bill notices his courage and self-preservation battling itself.

And it reminded me as a therapist how so many people, their past experiences inform and direct their current choices. And because he had experienced that experience,

goodness he was able to make the courageous one. And I think I was wondering what makes the difference in someone making that courageous one. I know one of my favorite lines in your book was the hand that poured was steady. Yes. Seeing no remorse, no anxiety, she had it down. So what makes the difference in someone being able to make the courageous choice versus being either complicit or a bystander? I think it's empathy. I actually think it's sadness in the end.

I know that we're supposed to be happy all the time, but I mean, I just think that would be death for empathy. I think sadness actually makes you think about what life is like for others. If you weren't sad, if you didn't feel that, you wouldn't have empathy. Not having sadness would be death for empathy. I do think that. Oh, that's so brilliant. I actually do think that's brilliant. Don't you guys think? I think being upset is really important for your development.

So you can think about what others go through. We are aha-ing all over the damn place. All over the Starbucks cafe. That is such a big aha. Didn't you think? I think so. And at the same time, I'm a therapist. My friend's a psychologist. We see sadness go the other way. It becomes so self-protective that you can't step into empathy either. So it's a fine distinction. Well, I think then you're so sad that you're damaged.

You've hardened. That's the hardness I was talking about earlier. Yes. You get hurt and get hard. You get hurt and get hard. That is true. So many people have done that. This is what I so appreciated, and I think you're talking about this. This is on page 113. He found himself asking, was there any point in being alive without helping one another? Was it possible to carry on along life

through all the years, the decades, through an entire life, without once being brave enough to go against what was there and yet call yourself a Christian and face yourself in the mirror. I thought that was just so poignant. And also, the thing for me is the very last sentence of the book, climbing the street towards his own front door with a barefooted girl in the box of shoes saying,

His fear more than outweighed every other feeling. But in his foolish heart, he not only hoped, but legitimately believed that they would manage. Okay, we need a sequel.

Because what happens? I mean, we were all saying this morning, when he gets home, Eileen is going to blow her. She's going to be that emoji with the blown head off, right? And it's not one of the things we appreciate about the story is that

You don't know what's going to happen except it's not going to be easy. And that's why his fear outweighs every other emotion and also why it is the ultimate act of bravery because you have to have fear in order to be courageous. Don't you think, though, it's also kind of comical that you'd be afraid to take a girl home on Christmas Eve? That looking back, for me now looking back, why would anybody not do that?

is also comical. Because he knows it's going to keep his girls out of that school. His girls aren't going to be able to go to that school. Those nuns are going to make life miserable for him. I agree. I mean, I know. I'm not disagreeing with you, but what I'm saying is... How's he going to live in that town? And Eileen is going to resent him forever. She's never getting over it. I agree. I think it's all bad.

Eileen is mad right now. She's mad. Eileen is mad that there's a book and Eileen is mad that there's a movie. She's mad that Lena Rose and Francis are talking about it. Eileen is just mad. Yeah. Yeah. I just think looking back now, how afraid people were of the church. And obviously still are based on what Lena Rose and Francis were saying. People still don't want to talk about it.

Yeah, people have been silent for so long they don't know how to find the words now. But the Catholic Church has collapsed in Ireland. People just don't go. People don't mind. People don't worry. And that's interesting. So do you think your book...

And the subsequent movie with Oscar winner Cillian Murphy playing the role of Bill Furlong, that that is going to open up the conversation in a way that hasn't been. Because storytelling does that in a way that no news story can. I would hope so. Yes. It's already opened up in Ireland to a great extent. It really has.

But I'm just glad that other people in other parts of the world can hear about it and think about it and

It's lovely really to be a novelist or a short story writer because you don't have to pretend you work for the tourist board. It's nice to be a critic of your own society and get that chance. Yeah, yeah. Well, what a brave thing for you. Were you afraid ever in writing the story of what might happen to you as a writer or what people would say or how the book would be received or not be published?

Not at all. I've never worried about that. I've always written what matters to me. And if you don't like it, well, just go find and read another book. Well, we're glad you wrote this one. Thank you, Claire Keegan, for small things like these. Thank you. And thank you all for your thoughtful questions. Thank you. Thank you.

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