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Hello everybody, welcome to another episode of Christ with Coffee on Ice. I am your host, Allie Yost, and I am so excited to be back.

Oh my gosh, I missed you guys so much. Happy season four, you guys. We have been highly anticipating this season, y'all. It's just so cool because I feel with every season, the Lord is like leveling up. And so this season is gonna be lit.

This season is going to be so good. I just feel a lot of vulnerability. I feel a lot of honesty and truth to the gospel. Honesty where maybe it might be hard to talk about and to confront, but I also feel the Lord's grace and his gentleness for this season because with, you know, any father, he's our dad.

He's going to guide us. You know, we think about the Lord and we think about how he's a shepherd, you know, to sheep. And so a shepherd normally like has a little stick or something that's like keeping the sheep in line, you know, and

And so I was just reading in Proverbs where it mentioned parents disciplining their children, you know, and we need discipline from our father. You know, at the end of the day, it doesn't matter how old we are. We are still children to the Lord, you know, and we are his kids. And so there are some tough things that need to be said. There are some tough things that we need to come to the just realization of.

And there are some tough things that, you know, it's kind of hard to swallow, but it's just the truth. And we know it's the truth because it comes straight from the Lord's mouth. And he only tells the truth. He doesn't lie. He doesn't ever mislead us. And he doesn't want us to feel restricted, but he's

He does guide us, you know, and it's for our good. It's out of the love of his heart. And so, yeah, I feel that for this season. Like we're going to talk about some tough things, but there's love still. And there's the father's love and it's beautiful. Like,

It's just beautiful. We're just so blessed to have the Lord, like period. It's just the fact that we have the most wise man. He is wisdom and we get to learn from him. And so I'm really looking forward to this season. I think that a lot of it might be convicting for all of us, including myself. And I also just want this season, just like all the rest of the seasons, to be a...

stage for the Lord to just speak. I also had asked you guys what y'all would want to see for this season and we got a lot of feedback and a lot of it was kind of like tough topics, like topics that a lot of churches don't want to touch, topics that maybe some other podcasts don't really speak about. I, some of these topics, I'm like, dang, I don't know if I could even find anything like this

that's being talked about in this generation. And so this is also just what y'all want to hear about. This is straight from Abba, but it's also straight from his children. Like y'all are like, no, I really want to talk about this because I think there are some underlying topics and things that, you know, we all deal with on the daily, but no one's

bringing it to light. And I just think that this season will be really great for allowing people to feel seen and heard, which is always something I've stood by, like literally always is I've always wanted my platforms to be a place where people can feel heard. I've always believed in my platforms, you know, in being a place of safety and feeling seen and understood. And so I pray for that for this season too.

So today, what I want to talk about with y'all is I want to talk about lust. I want to talk about sex before marriage. And I want to talk about boundaries and what that could look like as dating in the Christian world, right? And I know that a lot of my listeners can be quite young. I've gotten feedback that there are some moms and dads that like to listen to this podcast with their kids. So parents, I'm going to let you guys discern on this.

Whether this is something that you want to talk about with your kids. I don't know how young it goes, but I do think this is important for preteens, teens, and then even us in our mid to late 20s, 30s, whatever. If you're new to your journey with the Lord and you've never really dated anyone,

while being a Christian like truly following the Lord and being obedient to him this is gonna be a great episode for you and I'm gonna share Just some convictions that the Lord has given me personally I'm gonna share some examples of what it says in the Bible when it comes to these things Which is the truth so we need to believe everything in the Bible not just some things we need to believe it all because it's all the Word of God and

and we need to be obedient to all the things in the Bible. The Bible is not just like a suggestion book

Handbook of like picking and choosing y'all. It's serious, you know every word From the lord is serious and should be taken seriously And that's also spoken about in the bible too Like we can't just pick and choose the things to be obedient to and then say oh well god I'm obedient to all of these other commandments, but I don't do this one. That's not being faithful to god So let's talk about it because I think this is a really this is a really important one. This is a very important commandment topic concern and

I wish that this was something I knew before I started dating. I didn't know the seriousness of having sex before marriage. I didn't know the seriousness to what sex is and what God has created it for. Wow, okay. I don't know why I just got... I didn't know...

And so if I could help bring clarity to anybody about, okay, okay, what the heck? Where did that come from? I did not expect to cry. Okay. But if I could just help anybody receive clarity to the importance, to the holiness of having that intimacy with somebody you're married to versus somebody that you're just dating, that would just mean the world to me because I...

I didn't know before. I am grateful that the Lord allowed me to experience this so that I can talk about it and I can talk from a POV of somebody who has had premarital sex and has been in intimate relationships.

And I've even lived with a man before, you know, I acted as if I was married to a man when I wasn't married to him. And so I'm grateful for that. I'm grateful that I got, I lived that out though. At the same time, I don't have regret because I,

I believe it allowed me to have the authority to talk about this. You know, I'm not coming to you guys as somebody who has saved themselves for marriage their whole life. I'm coming to you as a person who didn't know and now I know the truth and the Lord does have forgiveness for that too. So anyway, before all else, I just want to talk about what the Lord created sex for. Let's just talk about what it is. What is

What is it? It's not just something to satisfy our flesh with. That's the truth. And I think that a lot of us have seen it that way, that the world has convinced us that sex is something to just satisfy our flesh. You know, like when we want it, we just do it. And there's nothing wrong with that. And that is not the truth. Sex is, from what God has explained it and what he's told us that it's meant for, it is a covenant.

which is a promise, it is a way to deepen your intimacy and also your unity with your spouse, who you're married to. So your husband or your wife, that is what sex is for.

And the world has perverted it, but that's what God made it for. And I know that we mentioned this in the episode that I did with Ashley where we were talking about modesty and purity. And in a part of that episode, I had mentioned that there is a lie, and I believed this for a while, from the world that you're supposed to be having sex with your partner before you guys get married to know that you're compatible.

But I really believe that that is a straight up lie from the world. And if we had full faith in our father, when it comes to our partner, right? When it comes to the partner that he has planned for you to be with, we need to trust him that in all aspects of that relationship, even down to the intimacy with your partner is going to be beautiful. And I think a lot of what the world likes to do is it likes to plant fear in our minds and

The world likes to make us fearful, it likes to make us paranoid, and it likes to mask it and make it seem as if we're protecting ourselves or being proactive to something.

When in reality, we are breaking God's heart, going against what he says, and ultimately hurting ourselves. There is no trial run. There is no test run. There is no, I just want to see if we're compatible in every single way before getting married. That's not having full faith in God. Having full faith in God is saying, Lord, I'm

I believe in every other way that this man or this woman is meant for me. And so I'm going to trust you that that part of our relationship is also going to be beautiful because you know what you're doing. And I said this in the last episode when we talked about it, I was like, the Lord knows what he's doing when he's putting two people together. And the reality of it is God has also created sex and he knows all that comes with it. Okay. He made it. He made it y'all. Let's just be so for real. He made it. He knows, he knows.

And so this might be uncomfy. It shouldn't be. But like he knows about that part. He knows that the intimacy of what y'all have, that bond, that covenant that he made. Okay. He knows how important that is. He knows that that's a very important part to feelings.

feeling one and being one. That's Bible. We go back to Genesis, y'all. Genesis 2.24 says, this explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and they too are united in one. So that unity in one flesh is that covenant and promise to one another in marriage. And God understands that. He knows that's a very important part of

marriage. And so we can't doubt him in that. We can't doubt him in any of it. We can't say, okay, God, I trust you in like all the other stuff, but I just got to make sure this part is good. That's not trusting him. So in first Corinthians seven, one through two, Paul speaks about marriage, having sexual relations outside and inside marriage.

Paul says that each man should have sexual relations with his own wife and each woman with her own husband as a cure for sexual exploitation. This verse can be interpreted as considering any sex outside of marriage to be immoral, including premarital sex. It is better to marry than to burn with lust.

Galatians 5.19 also reads,

and other sins like these. Let me tell you again, as I have before, that anyone living that sort of life will not inherit the kingdom of God. So what Galatians is telling us there is that these are our sinful, this is our nature without Jesus, without the accountability of the Holy Spirit, without him and his strength. These are the things that we do. These are the things we do. And so one of those things is,

Is sexual immortality, impurity, lustful pleasures and satisfying our flesh in itself is a sin in any way. And so sexual immortality is just an example of that. Now, when it comes to lust as well, I think that's worth mentioning because the thing is, is lust is always going to be a temptation to all of us.

And it's just a matter of finding strength in the Lord and praying, praying a lot. I think I'm just going to be really vulnerable, I guess, and say from experience, I think lust can be a lot harder when you've already done it. Like when you've had that premarital sex, okay, and you did it and then you were saved, I believe sometimes it can be a lot harder because you have memories. You have things that...

bring you back. And so that's real. And it, it can be harder once you've already done it, but it's not impossible. And it's not something the Lord can't deliver you from. I'm going to say that if you are somebody who struggles with lust, like it's just something that you struggle with, whether you have experience or not, um, you know, being in intimate relationships with people, um,

If you struggle with it, the thing that I would tell you to do first and foremost, what I want to say is that you don't have to struggle with this. You don't. It doesn't have to be a constant battle and struggle for you. The Lord can deliver you from that and he can give you peace.

But what you need to do is, I think the biggest thing you need to do is repent. We talk about that often. But if you've entertained your flesh, if you've entertained those thoughts, if you're looking at certain Instagram pages of people who are not modest, maybe a lot of their brand online is giving lust, that can be

Honestly, y'all, that can be as simple as like, obviously somebody showing off their body online, but also there are people who have very like lustful kind of sexual brands, like that's their thing online, but they're not necessarily showing off their body. But you know what I mean? Like it's in their eyes, it's in their face. And so anyway, if you're like, if you're watching people online or if there are things that you are accessing online,

like pornography, where you're entertaining that lust and you are satisfying your flesh that way.

the Lord can deliver you from that. It's not something that you need to be enslaved to. And it's not something that you have to feel like you are just going to struggle with forever. You need to repent and say, Lord, I'm sorry for entertaining these things. God, I really don't want to be like this. I don't want to be a slave to my flesh anymore. I don't want to be a slave to whatever my body wants, you know, and it never leaves me feeling good. And so I'm

I apologize, God. I'm sorry for entertaining these things. Our bodies are not the boss of us. They carry our spirits and they are the...

Shall to who we are on the inside but who we are on the inside does not need to answer to this on the outside our spirit man does not abide by our body or our body abides by our spirit man and so The only way we can grow our spirit man and make it stronger is through the strength of the Holy Spirit Relation with God the Word of God fasting. That's another one. We've talked about that too and

The more that we strengthen our spirit man the less this is like screaming and shouting does that make sense and

All right, now that we got the like super, super heavy stuff out of the way, I want to talk about just like the personal convictions that the Lord has given me about this area of my life and dating and like what that will look like moving forward. I'm going to be honest. I have not dated since being saved. That hasn't happened yet. So I'm okay with that though because I've been thriving with the Lord. I'm not complaining, okay? But I say that to preface that I have not yet actually...

gone out on dates as a full-blown on-fire Christian abiding by the Lord, saved, living, laughing, and loving just the Lord, okay? But the Lord has definitely been preparing me for what that will look like and I am grateful for it. I feel like he's really prepared my heart. He's really prepared me

and he's really strengthened me and he's given me a lot of wisdom as to what that's gonna look like. And I think he's also brought clarity to what my personal boundaries are going to have to be because the other thing is that each and every one of us

We all have our own strengths and weaknesses, right? And so I don't think that that should be used as an excuse of like, oh, well, I can really push it because I'm strong. Hi. Sorry. Did I startle you? When you're used to hearing a certain type of commercial, something like this can, well, take you by surprise. That's kind of how it is with the Lexus RX, a vehicle that has continued to defy expectations for over 25 years. From the first luxury vehicle of its kind to the next.

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The personal conviction that I've received from the Lord that I think all of us should listen to is don't do anything that you know would tempt you to no longer be pure with your partner before marriage. The Lord rejoices in purity and honesty. And what he's shown me is that the relationship is going to be pure and it needs to start pure.

Like, if me and my partner are sinning and doing all of these things before marriage, to me, it's not giving we're going to have a very strong marriage. Because if we can't simply resist sin together before marriage and, like, resist temptations and just trials in general, like, if we can't do that before marriage...

I don't know what our marriage is going to look like. Does that make sense? So boundaries are very important and the Lord has showed me that I will need boundaries. I'm not going to push my limits with my partner. I'm not going to allow myself to be like alone watching a movie with him at night. Like that type of stuff, you know, when you think about scenarios, situations, like what

what would be wise and what wouldn't be. And it doesn't matter how strong you think you are. We're talking about the love of your life, like aside from Jesus, but we're talking about a person that you probably are going to marry, like somebody that you're madly in love with. So can we just keep it a buck and say,

Yeah, let's just be smart. Let's not like sit alone in a dark room watching a movie together. That's just not, that's not wise. Or like even doing things, I'm gonna say this too, because this isn't pure y'all. This ain't purity. I think a lot of times too, some Christians might think like, well, we could do like everything but, and it's just like, y'all might as well just be doing it at that point. If you guys are doing all the stuff except for like the thing, then you're not doing

You might as well be. I mean, the purity has left the chat. It's out of the room.

So no, there's no like cutting corners when it comes to the word of God. There's no loopholes. If you are pleasing your flesh, you're already doing it. You're already doing it. I'm even like, y'all, I'm gonna keep it a buck and say like, I don't even know if I'm gonna be like kissing my partner a lot, okay? Because even that is like, it's way too easy of a segue to, you know,

And so having those boundaries is going to be very important. And I believe that the Lord has prepared both me and my person, whoever he is, and we're going to be great at it. We're going to do a great job at keeping boundaries. Is it going to be challenging? Is it going to be tough? Yeah. But is it going to be worth it? Yes, it's going to be worth it because we were able to keep our relationship here and we were able to do it the way that God intended it to be, which is also what's going to make our marriage 10 times more special.

And beautiful is because we did it the right way. Like we did it the way that God tells us to do it.

So I think, yeah, just reflecting, being honest with yourself and the Lord and saying, what boundaries do I need to set with dating? And if the person that you're seeing does not agree or see eye to eye, like let's say you're like, hey brother, I can't be making out with you because that's a little tempting for me. And it's going to make me want to get to the next base and the next base and the next base. So we can do that. And if that's a problem for them,

Right, right. So that's not your partner. Like it also just shouldn't be a problem. So there shouldn't be any fear of looking like a prude. There shouldn't be any fear of disappointing that person or being like you're too much of a Christian, like that.

The truth of the matter is that whoever your partner is will respect that and actually probably agree with you. So the other thing I don't want y'all to fall into is that guilt of being like, am I too much of a prude? I don't care if people think I'm a prude now. Can I be honest? As long as I'm making my heavenly father proud, that's all I care about. The other thing y'all is that if you have a very close relationship with your heavenly father is he is so kind and

That he gives us discernment and he gives us gut feelings. And so if you are participating in something or if you're thinking about doing something or if you're entertaining something or if you're watching something and you get that tummy feeling, that's wisdom from your dad and you need to listen to that gut feeling. A gut feeling is just a signal from God.

And he's saying, you don't want to do this. Don't do this. And he's saying it because there's normally consequences or guilt or shame or emptiness. Probably will leave you with that. I think that the reason I got so...

The reason that I got so choked up, y'all, in the beginning about just wishing that I knew sooner about these things is because of also, y'all, the heartbreak. Can we be so honest? The minute that you're intimate with somebody like that is the minute that you are so much more invested. And I think sometimes the world also lies to us.

about, you know, you have like buddies that you just go and hook up, like hookup culture, you know, where it's like, ah, just satisfy your flesh, just get it on and get on with it. Like, that's just not a thing. Because again, the Lord created sex for such a beautiful and intimate thing to have with just your partner.

There is no going outside of our nature like that is what it was made for and so the world lies to us and says that you can have casual sex or You can have sex before marriage and like it's fine. You know, you'll be fine There are soul ties that you have to people in

It is a very holy and intimate thing to do with somebody. I don't care what your mindset is going into it. That is just how it is. And so because of that intertwining of flesh, like you're becoming one with that person. I don't care how casual it may feel. Like you are. This is like a very intimate, that's the most intimate thing you could do with a human being.

Your heart is going to hurt, sister. Your heart is going to hurt, brother. Okay? And can I just say that it would also spare you from a lot of heartache? The Lord knows that too. The Lord knows how special and intimate that is supposed to be. And so to do it with somebody who is not your partner for life is painful. Even if you may think that that person is your partner for life, I thought that time

times too. Like I thought I had met, God bless her heart, BC Al, but there were times I thought that too. And here I am sitting here, not with those men anymore. So you can think that all you want, but it's just not wise. It's not wise to do before marriage. The thing is too, guys, is that we were never supposed to experience heartbreak like that.

Like if you've been intimate with somebody and you are no longer with that person, that type of heartbreak was never meant for us. The only reason that type of heartbreak exists is because we decide to be intimate with somebody outside of marriage. Also to go back to that verse that Paul said where he said it's better to get married than to burn with lust. That doesn't mean that we're just going to like settle for anybody just so we can, okay,

We need to be patient. We need to pray about it. And we need to make sure that who we're marrying, it's not just like anybody. But also, don't just date somebody for like three to four years and just burn with lust the whole... Just get married is essentially what I believe Paul is saying. But anyway, yeah, back to the heartbreak. I don't know where that came from. Yeah. I also say that to just spare y'all from the hurt because I've experienced that. And that's very real. And...

It's a lot harder to get over somebody when you've already shared that part of yourself with them. Now, the last point that I want to make about this topic is that if you are somebody who has participated in, you know, just intimacy like this with somebody before being married to them is how to deal with that guilt. Because there is some heavy, heavy guilt that comes with this specifically. At least I can speak from my own POV perspective.

I struggled with such guilt with, you know, coming to the Lord and realizing, cause I, again, I, I didn't realize, I didn't know the heaviness of it. And so after learning that from God, I mean, he's the one that's been teaching me y'all. This is from being in the secret place, spending time with him, being in the word. Like this is directly what the Lord has taught me. And so I, I,

it was hard for me to not feel guilty and feel like an idiot for like living such a way of naiveness. And I, I didn't, I didn't know.

And there might even be some of us that are following the Lord and we do fall to our flesh. Even though we're being faithful to the Lord, we fall and we make mistakes. And so maybe, you know, in your journey, you've been following the Lord faithfully and this is something that you've done and you feel that guilt and shame.

The thing is, is God promises to forgive us of all of our sins. So this is something that falls into that category. This is not something that's like, you know, like if you grew up in a religious church environment where they taught you that you would go to hell if you had sex before marriage, that is just not the case. In the Bible, God tells us that he forgives all of our sins, which includes having sex before marriage. So you should have peace in that knowing that

that you are not going to hell because you did that. So there's peace in knowing that, that you're not going to hell if you participated in premarital sex.

You are not going to hell if you have entertained your flesh in a lustful way. But the Lord can strengthen you and you don't have to live like that. The world tells us that these are the things, like there's like all these dumb statistics that are like, you stay healthier if you do these things. You know, it's good for your body's health. Like, I'm sorry, but the Lord knows the most about my health. And if he's telling me I don't need to do these things, then I don't need to do these things. And I live a very happy life.

There's just all these traps and all of these lies in the world that just want to get us to go against what the Lord says. There is a version of me, BCL, who would have had a really hard time believing that there is a version of me now that no longer believes that I need those things. Does that make sense?

So just don't let the lies of the world or your own flesh make you believe that you need to participate in any of this stuff outside of marriage because it's not true. I don't care how many freaking statistics or articles are written. It's all bogus. The Lord knows what we need. The Lord knows what we can handle. The Lord knows what's good for our souls, for our spirits. The Lord knows what protects us.

The Lord knows what keeps us safe, which is his word and his shepherding. That that's what keeps us safe. I mean, do I say this? But it makes me think back to like sexually transmitted diseases, like STDs and stuff. You think about it, like if every single one of us from the beginning of time just saved ourselves for our partner, none of that would exist, right?

none of that would exist. It's all a result of sin, y'all. It's all a result of not saving something that's so special for marriage. The Ten Commandments are not just the Lord trying to like tell us what to do and boss us around. It's protecting his children. Just as you would advise your child to not run out in the street.

Even though it could be thrilling and fun to do hopscotch in the middle of the street, we used to do that as kids. We'd be like, it was way more exciting to like do the chalk, like the hopscotch or like four square. It'd be way more fun to do it in the street than it would be in like a driveway because it's kind of like thrilling. But y'all, just as you would be a parent, you'd say, no, you're not going to do that in the street. You can do it in the driveway.

Because there are consequences to us going outside of the word of God. There are consequences to going outside of what our parents tell us to do as children, you know?

And at the time when we're little kids, it feels like they're just being buzz kills. It makes us feel like they're just being party poopers where they don't want us to have a good time. But it's our naiveness. It's because we're just young and we don't know any better. We grow up, right? We gain wisdom. We become adults. And then we realize looking back at those moments, we say, oh, no, my mom was right. Oh, wait, no, my dad, my parents, right?

They knew what they were talking about. But when you're a mere child, you know, it doesn't make sense. And I think that that also is very important to remember about our spirits, you know, like our spirits mature and our spirituality with the Lord, it matures, you know, the older we get.

The more time we spend with God, the more our spirit kind of grows up and matures. The more that we learn from the Lord, the more that we read the Bible, the more that we consume his wisdom and his guidance, the more we go, oh, oh no, wait, no, that makes sense. You know, like we're no longer infants. We're growing up. We're teenagers. We're young adults. And we look back and we say, oh no, that's why God told me I can't do that. It's also maturing in the spirit.

When we understand that this is all just God's love and it's all just him trying to keep us safe is when we're maturing in the spirit and we're like, okay, wait, I don't blame God for telling us not to do this. It actually, I'm seeing that it makes sense. I'm seeing that there are consequences to these things if we go outside of what he tells us what to do and we just lean on our own understanding and do whatever we want and just follow our flesh and our mind and our body and whatever, right?

It's protection from our heavenly dad. It is. Also, can I just say that I'm actually really excited to date whoever my future husband is because it's going to be so pure and beautiful. Like, I just think about the fact that he won't expect that from me because I know for a fact he'll be on the same page as me. Like, we're going to have the same. He's not going to expect it. I'm not going to expect it. It's...

Very understood that this is both something we are waiting for marriage for okay right off the bat I'm making sure that foundation is set and

But it's just going to be so pure and it's actually probably going to be so healing for me personally because I've never had that. I've never dated somebody in such a pure way where it's like all of that stuff is out of the equation and it's just about us falling in love and like getting to know each other and creating really sweet memories together and falling in love.

Without the lust part, you know, and I've never had that. And so I'm excited because I think it's going to be really sweet and I'm not going to regret it. Like I'm not going to regret or feel like it's like such a drag that I'm not participating in those things before marriage. It's actually going to make it more beautiful.

It's going to be so pure. What the heck? And I just, I trust God. I really do. I trust God with my life. I trust God with my future husband. I trust God with my, my future children. I trust God with my entire life.

And I really encourage y'all to all feel that way about your dad too, because we have the same dad, by the way. Let's just believe in him together wholeheartedly, like for real, for real. Let's believe in God that he's going to deliver. If it is a desire of your heart and it's something that you want, he's going to deliver a wonderful partner to you. If not, if he hasn't already, I don't know. There could be some listeners who you've already met your person and that's amazing, but you

Yeah. Wow. I'm really glad that we talked about this, guys. And I think it was really important. I kind of feel like we were just in a little bit of like a sex ed class. Like, this is kind of crazy that we're talking about this for a whole hour. I was never, ever expecting to talk about this type of stuff on the podcast. But you guys asked and I

Abba said let's talk about it because it's real what it's real and I appreciate you guys for letting me get vulnerable and yeah I just hope that it brought a lot of clarity and I think ultimately y'all at the end of the day as well just talk to your dad about it like talk to God and

Ask him what to do in this area. Go to his word, go to him, go shut the door, be in the secret place and bring these things to God and say, God, what are my boundaries when it comes to this? What do I do with you?

To keep my heart safe in this and to stay obedient to what you tell me, because also at the end of the day, we should always just want to make the Lord proud, abiding by his word and abiding by the things he tells us on a daily basis should also just come out of like the genuineness of our hearts that we just want to make God proud.

This isn't even just about me and being like, oh, well, I better, I want to do this so that I can like have this, that, and the next. And I want to be safe from heartbreak. Like, of course I want those things, but that's not why I do it. I do it because I actually just want to make my dad proud and I want him to be pleased with me. And so I think it also comes down to that as well. Like wanting to make the Lord proud. And then y'all, I really feel like the rest will just follow.

Oh my goodness, guys. Wait, I have to read this. Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Abba. This is 1 Corinthians 6, 12. I'm sorry. We have to read this really quick. I just stumbled upon this because I had another verse from 1 Corinthians that came into my mind and I was looking for it and then I saw this. Okay. This goes to like what I was saying about how the world tells us that we should just like please our bodies and we should just whatever, right? Okay.

Like all those weird stats that are like, this is good for whatever you say. I am allowed to do anything, but not everything is good for you. And even though I am allowed to do anything, I must not become a slave to anything. You say food was made for the stomach and the stomach for food. This is true, though. Someday God will do away with both of them.

But you can't say that our bodies were made for sexual immortality. They were made for the Lord and the Lord cares about our bodies and God will raise us from the dead by his power just as he raised our Lord from the dead. Don't you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never. And don't you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her?

For the scriptures say, the two are united into one, but the person who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with him. Run from sexual sin. No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immortality is a sin against your own body. Don't you realize that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who lives in you and was given to you by God?

You do not belong to yourself for God bought you with a high price. So you must honor God with your body. Oh my gosh. Oh, it's also about honoring the Lord with our bodies because our bodies are not ours. They were a gift to us. We did nothing to earn them. We did nothing to earn these bodies. They were a gift to us by the Lord. And also the part that just pierces my heart is

Is that our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, which is pure and holy, which means we should treat our vessels in a way where we see them as holy as well. Because it's what's carrying the Holy Spirit. We can't be just doing this, that, and the next, whatever we want, because one, our bodies are not our own. They're the Lord's. And God bought us with a high price, which was the death of Jesus.

We didn't do anything to earn these bodies. They were paid for with the high price of him giving up his one and only son and allowing him to be crucified and die on the cross. So we must honor God with our bodies. It's also about honoring the Lord, y'all. Wanting to make him proud, wanting to honor him and obey what he says. Our bodies are holy, y'all. They're holy, y'all.

It's a gift from God and we're not just going to use them any old way. We're going to do it the right way. Okay, but where was it? Where was the verse I was looking for though? Guys, I can't find it. Could somebody else comment it maybe below if you find it? But it was just, I remember reading just the other day with a friend about how it's the spirit that purifies us through Christ Jesus.

Like just being in his presence and spending time with him and the rest will come. That he purifies our souls, our spirits, and our bodies. And so it's not actually something we have to try to do. It's not something that we have to strive to do. We don't purify ourselves. He purifies us through the Holy Spirit. And that can only happen if you are spending time with the Holy Spirit.

being in communion with the Holy Spirit, like reading his word, being in the secret place, right? We say this a million times, but it's just the truth. Like if you want to know how, first off, just be, just be with him. I didn't even know that there was so much the Lord had to do in me. And honestly, it's probably a good thing I didn't know because it probably would have really overwhelmed me had I known all the things he had to fix in my heart, you know? And

He's so good that he doesn't ever tell us like you got to do this that the next and this and this and this and you better work on this too like he does it all he does it he does it so those desires you know like even when it comes to just sin in general like the more that you're in his presence and you're just with the holy holy spirit he purifies us and sanctifies us and

Next thing you know, you're going to turn around and you're going to say, oh my gosh, like I'm not even the same person. And that was because you were just being with him. You were just being. So I want that to relieve anyone from any type of weird stress or anxiety that could be going on too right now where you're like, oh gosh, I really got to clean up. I got to get that. Just be with him. Just be, just pray, repent, be, learn, love, repent, learn, and love him.

That's all you have to do. I love you guys. Was this okay? Do you feel the Lord's grace? Do you feel his love? Do you feel his gentleness? Because it's here. I feel it. He has so much grace. He has so much compassion. He has so much forgiveness that there's nothing to feel ashamed of because the thing that Jesus did is he covered all of our sins with his blood by dying on the cross and shame. The way that he was crucified was shameful. He covered all of it.

So we don't need to feel shame. We need to just ask for forgiveness and run into his arms. It's beautiful. He's the best dad in the whole wide world. I love you guys. I'm really proud of y'all. Thank you for letting me talk about this. I hope that it brought a lot of clarity. I hope that it brings you peace and not guilt. If there's any guilt in the name of Jesus, I rebuke it now in Jesus name. There's no guilt.

We become better and better in Christ every day because of him, only because of him. Hey y'all, can we do something cool today? Can we do something cool this weekend for the rest of the week until I see you guys next Friday? Can we show somebody how cool Jesus is? Can we do something cool and show someone how cool Jesus is? Love on somebody, love somebody like the Lord would, have compassion, be giving, give, give to somebody this week. Whether it's your time,

Whether it's financially, I think giving would be really sweet to do for someone, anyone. It could be a stranger, it could be a friend, it could be a family member. But yeah, let's just be more like Christ. Let's be more like Christ. I love you guys. I will see you in the next episode. I'll see you on next Friday.

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