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Aubrey O’Day: Overcoming Toxic Men (ft. Diddy, Trump & Pauly D) (FBF)

2024/11/1
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Key Insights

Why did Diddy fire Aubrey O'Day from Danity Kane?

Aubrey wasn't willing to comply with expectations not related to talent, such as certain personal behaviors.

How did Aubrey O'Day feel about her relationship with Donald Trump Jr.?

She felt happy and in love initially, seeing him as her soulmate, but later felt accountability and shame after witnessing the physical toll of childbirth on her best friend.

What was the dynamic between Aubrey O'Day and Diddy during their time together?

Diddy was a powerful and intense figure who instilled a strong work ethic in Aubrey but also engaged in manipulative mind games and betrayal, leading to a toxic environment.

How did Aubrey O'Day's relationship with DJ Pauly D compare to her relationship with Donald Trump Jr.?

Her relationship with Pauly D was incredibly toxic, involving mental abuse and control, unlike her more emotionally fulfilling relationship with Trump Jr.

What impact did constant body shaming have on Aubrey O'Day?

Body shaming deeply affected her self-worth and led to a period of self-doubt and unhappiness, influencing her perception of beauty and her place in the industry.

How did Aubrey O'Day cope with the trauma of her toxic relationships?

She turned to touring and making music without processing her trauma, leading to substance abuse. She later sought healing through natural remedies and self-love practices.

What was Aubrey O'Day's first impression of Donald Trump?

She initially saw him as a powerful figure who could be easily manipulated by focusing on his appreciation for smart and impressive individuals.

How did Aubrey O'Day's childhood experiences influence her adult relationships?

Her childhood involved abuse and a survival mentality, which affected her ability to recognize and escape toxic relationships as an adult.

What advice does Aubrey O'Day have for recognizing and escaping toxic relationships?

She advises training men early in the relationship to understand boundaries and not compromising on one's self-worth, as small compromises can lead to larger, more damaging expectations.

How did Aubrey O'Day respond to public scrutiny and body shaming in 2020?

She felt degraded and misunderstood, but chose not to engage in defending her appearance, focusing instead on the narrative that people were projecting onto her image.

Chapters

Aubrey O'Day reflects on her time on 'Making the Band' and the whirlwind of fame that came with it, including the grueling work schedule and the disconnect from understanding the show's impact.
  • Aubrey and her bandmates were constantly on the move, working non-stop without realizing their impact.
  • They were removed from the public's perception and the gravity of their success.

Shownotes Transcript

Aubrey O’Day joins Call Her Daddy to reflect on nearly 20 years in the industry and the toxic men she met along the way. Aubrey shot to fame on one of MTV’s most popular shows, Making the Band, and was the first person selected in the girl group that emerged, Danity Kane. She recounts body shaming, manipulation and her experience with executive producer P. Diddy. Aubrey talks about the real reason Diddy fired her from Danity Kane - and it’s not what the public was told. Aubrey doesn’t hold back during this interview. She opens up about being the other woman, and shares details about her affair with Donald Trump Jr. She shares her thoughts on his father, the former president of the United States. Aubrey compares the abuse she took from her mother to the experience she had with DJ Pauly D from Jersey Shore. She details all the red flags she recognizes now - and wished she knew then. The public has had an opinion about how Aubrey looks for as long as she’s been in the industry. She opens up about how constant body shaming has impacted her - and the low point it brought her to. Today, Aubrey reclaims control over her narrative and looks back on her story with wisdom, humility and grace.