Beating Gym Anxiety in 2023 | How To Start Your Gym Journey
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What's up guys, it's Sam and Taylor, and we want you to put your shoes on, pop open that energy drink, and go. Welcome back to another episode, I'm Taylor. I'm Sam. First episode of the new year. I know, how exciting. We hope you guys enjoyed the little recap of our year last episode.

Happy 2023. If you want to know our New Year's resolutions, like Sam just said, we did a little New Year's episode last week. Don't miss it. Speaking of New Year, I just posted about this on stories. And I don't know if you forgot because we had this planned a little while ago. Our merch T-shirts are on sale. Oh, yeah.

For the first week of the new year. We had this scheduled on the website, so I kind of forgot about it because we scheduled it like two weeks ago. Yeah, we can hype it up on the Instagram after this. Yeah, I posted stories about it. But our t-shirts are on sale for 23% off in 2023. I know. It's already applied. You don't need a discount code. It's just going to show up that way on the website. I wore it to the gym the other day and I got so many DMs like, where's that shirt from? I'm like, guys, it literally says the F word podcast on there. Like, I designed this shit. It is...

amazing. Like the F word, what is that one called? The Banty. Yes. We've never done a sale before. Nope, never. And who the hell knows if we're going to do another one ever again. We just felt like giving. Is that Christmas money? Yeah, literally. It's for one week, so it ends...

I think it ends on the 8th. I think I did. Either ends on the 7th or the 8th. Like I either did it like Sunday to Sunday or like the 7 days. Yeah. I don't know. We'll have to double check but just don't wait till the last minute anyway. If you get it now and you're listening on Friday you'll be good to go regardless. Facts. Yeah. Merch is on sale. That's super dope. I'm so excited to catch up. Yeah. And the app is so cool. I know guys. I got an email. So everyone's been harassing like crazy like we get it. I know I'm like super annoyed too. Like

The app development is, like, so hard. It's a long thing. Like, it's really hard. Especially with the New Year's and all the holidays. Like, they were out of office, which is super annoying. But we did get... How dare people take time off? We did get the approval and the email that we can launch it into the App Store. So now we're going to launch it into the App Store, but it's only going to be available for Taylor and I and whoever else we give access to so that we...

We can test flight it, make sure everything is running smoothly, and then launch it, baby. Yeah, and it's a really long process. I feel like people, when they DM, almost think that we're not doing it. I feel like I get DMs as if we forgot about it. I'm like, no, no, no, still a thing. Oh, also, this just totally came to my mind, and I meant to tell you this before the podcast, and we never get comments about it, so I don't know if it's just maybe other people don't mind.

Maybe you guys can leave nicely, nicely. Let us know. We talk so fast. Because I make the real things and sometimes the clip that I'm trying to put words on is .2 seconds long and there's like 10 words I have to caption in there. And I'm like, yo, we talk.

fast like writing the captions i just do in general like even if we're recording or not recording i just talk me too i talk really fast too but i'll be making the reels and i'm like i can't even like writing the words because like they're manually written on there i'm like oh my god like i we talk too fast you can also slow down the episode in the that's true you can't

I meant to tell you that before we started recording. Oh my god, imagine if we talked slower. Our episodes would end up being so much longer if I talked really slow. I know, but making those little clips is freaking... Like, I'm not even getting the clip is like 2.2 seconds and I need to put like six words on it. Oh my god, we're talking so fast. Oh, fuck. Alright, I'll try my best, guys. I'm sorry. But, I mean, we've never gotten a comment about it. Okay, good. So, that...

It's honestly just more of a me editing issue. Yeah, I just get comments that I'm like illiterate and I make no sense when I talk. So that's all I get. That's part of the like... That's what makes the podcast fun. Yeah. Anyways, I really want to get into like the whole like catch up part because I have so much to catch up on.

Sound off. Go. Okay. Guys, I'm not even going to start with New Year's because I went out before New Year's on literally the day the podcast was going live or like we recorded a day early and then I went out back at home in Boston and I didn't think I was going to go out or like go crazy or anything. I was like, oh, I just want to see my friends back home. Like I'm going to have like one or two drinks.

I live like I said 25 minutes south of the city So I hopped in my car picked up my friend kylie who literally lives in my neighborhood and we both headed into boston We parked at my friend's house and we were like, you know what? I'm just gonna have like two drinks. That's it. I just want to see my friends and go home

I ended up like drinking like quite a bit having way too much fun like a few of my friends were buying me shots and I'm like I can't pass up free shots right now and also like I never get to see these friends like I see them what three times a year now I live on the other side of the country I'm gonna go boss the wall right so I went boss of the wall with them and it was just so much fucking fun and I just felt bad for Kylie because Kylie wanted to go home and I was like no like I'm just

gonna sleep at like one of our guy friends apartments it's fine like i'll do that so i ended up staying there but she ended up ubering home and which actually i don't even know if kylie actually listens to all the episodes hi kylie if you're listening um we had so much fun and yeah so i ended up staying and i went a little too crazy and i woke up at 7 30 in the morning i literally had to tell my friend i was like i need to set an alarm right now because i need to be up because i had my brother's hockey game that i was literally like

I wasn't pre-gaming, but like I had to be up at the parking lot at like the restaurant by 11 a.m. So I was like, I have to leave at like 730 to go home, shower, like make breakfast and do all that shit. And then I ended up flying. I don't know if I want to add the part of me. Let's just say Sam found a man the other night. Someone from my hometown. But we're not going to talk about that in too much detail because I know a lot of my

People from my hometown listen to this podcast and they say a lot of shit to my friends and should No, but it's not good. It's not good It's not good at all and I get really annoyed by it because one of my friends The one that lives in hawaii. He was like I heard you saying this i'm like, no you didn't no you didn't But um, yeah, so I don't want to get myself in trouble But then we I came back literally the next day and it was new year's eve

Hell yeah, it was. It was grinding. I was like, we're going crazy. I don't even care. I never drink twice a week. Yeah, and New Year's was a good time. We looked absolutely stunning, if I do say so myself. I bought five outfits to make sure that I looked stunning.

Fantastic. Yeah, I bought three, but I had one in mind that I knew I wanted to wear and it did fit. So all went as planned. I got new shoes, did the whole thing. Loved it. I love an excuse to dress up just like different because...

Like there's no really need to go out in like a really fancy sparkly dress except for new year's eve So, you know, we had to do it had to like really pull out all the stops. We looked great We threw a little pre-game we did the decorations which is like that's what happens when like the influencer girls throw a party It's like we need the photo ops. Yeah, like if you think you're just coming over and there's gonna be like nothing there like whether it's like

random alcohol like cute like cocktails like whatever like there's gonna be something yeah and it's like even if it's just like the way like we put things out like pretty it's like it's it's one because we like hosting but two it's like we took a picture of it yeah like like yeah like we wanted to like make martinis like why because i made a tiktok about it yeah so it's like you know we're gonna they loved it they all were taking photos that little like 100 which they never posted any of them

yeah i don't know boys are weird but like people did also take photos you know it was good we literally got a pack of new year's eve decorations like the pack i bought was like 20 bucks and it had so much stuff in it really good really good purchase and we still have the numbers up in our living room but we pre-gamed i took it so slow at the pre-game and like everyone was so drunk and i was like what the hell i did the complete opposite of that

We went to the liquor store and bought alcohol because I wanted to do like different shots. Like I was like... So Taylor bought like on Amazon plastic champagne glasses and shot glass. But the shot glasses were like half a shot. They were little. They were so small. So I just used that as an excuse to have even more shots because I was like, it's half a shot. I can do two because it's technically one because they were so small. And we bought screwball and this like raspberry liqueur to make like PB&J shots. And...

And I was just handing them out to everyone like a motherfucker. I was like, I was thinking where I was like, okay, we're doing dry January and I have this whole, both of these handles of alcohol. I'm like, these need to be gone before we leave. Are they empty? Almost. Yeah. Jesus Christ. I know. I was just handing shots to everyone. Did you see me with the platter? I literally put- Yeah, that you spilled the-

the platter was like purple these are not very good I'd say drunk people friendly shots because that liquor's dark purple yeah like that's not very like drunk person friendly I also shouldn't have been like walking around with it I should have just left it where it was but I was like there's no way no one's gonna want any like it's just sitting here how are they gonna know so I was like I'm gonna pour a bunch of shots and walk around

Yeah, she was literally like a cocktail waitress. I literally was. And then as I stood up to like start walking, I tripped and I dropped like three of them. And I was already so drunk at this point. Well, hold on. I'm going to backtrack a little bit because one of our friends showed up, one of our guy friends. He's like the crazier one about all the guys. Says a lot. Yes. What do you mean? Like for you to be named the craziest? Yeah. Those dudes. I know because they're all crazy. They're all crazy. So he gets there and I'm like, hey, do you want to do a shot?

And I'm like, sure, let's do a shot, whatever. We do one. I'm like, it's kind of like a half shot. And he goes, so that means we got to do another one. And I'm like, okay. So then we do another one. And then one of our other guy friends comes over to me and he's like, wait, I want to do one with you guys. So I'm like, oh, fuck. Like, this is about to be my third shot. And I think in total, I took like 10 shots. I took one. I took two of them. Okay, no, 10's aggressive. Maybe like six. I was, yeah, 10's a little bit aggressive. I took one.

Two of them, I think. I took three within like two minutes span. And before that, I also had an espresso martini, which my espresso martinis...

So good. But yeah, our guy friend's like, when I'm having fun, I just forget how much I'm actually consuming, which is so bad. Which as long as you're safe, it's okay. I know. Taylor was so concerned too. We'll get there. Yeah. Yeah, we'll definitely get there. But so then we got in an Uber and it was the best Uber I've ever been in in my life. We get in, he's blaring Picture to Burn by Taylor Swift. And I'm like, this? Yes. I was like, this is...

the best Uber I've ever been in. And he was like jamming to it. Like he knew he was playing bangers. Like it wasn't like he was like really trying to keep us entertained. And like Picture to Burn by Taylor Swift. That's such a like that's such a good song. I was like this is the best Uber ever. Taylor Swift, Justin Bieber like taking song requests. Like we were like

having the best time in that uber it was like honestly one of my favorite parts of the whole night also had those like glasses that like he was letting us wear he was amazing i left him a nice solid tip because he made my night like he was truly like the star of my new year's eve

Which was so much fun. And then we got a table at this club called Summit. So like we hop on over to our table. We're vibing. I'm so sober at this point. So I'm like, oh my God, I need alcohol. I can't believe that. So I was like pouring, like not going to lie. Like I probably like hogged a little bit of the Tito's. As you should. You were dead sober. I was like, y'all bitches are drunk. Yeah. You guys don't need this. I was like, I need it. And I like, I was like, so yeah. Like when the bottle girl came over and was like pouring champagne. I was like, if I don't get one of these glasses, I'm going to be pissed. Like I

i probably drank that she handed it to me and i was like look we shouldn't have done the champagne i love champagne yeah but we shouldn't we should have done like because we got three bottles we did vodka tito's yeah but it depends on like the like you have to like like the prices of everything shit because i was gonna say wait no no no the bottles dean told me the bottles were the minimum and he got the shit like he paid extra for it oh

He paid extra for some of the stuff. But whatever. So I was like loading up these vodka cranberries. And like every time I got halfway through, I just like put more. So because I was like, I need to be... I can't be at a club at a table sober. That was not fun. Like and 10 more minutes sober, I would have been like, I'm leaving. So I finally got like tipsy enough. I never got really drunk the whole night because I don't know. Like it's just low-key bottle. I think if you're just around a table...

Like normally if we go to other bars, we're constantly at the bar. So people just order drinks. But when you're at a... The liquor runs out and the liquor runs out. And that's just kind of like what it is. So... I didn't even drink really... I had like one drink at the table. Because I was like totally fine the whole time. And I was just like holding it and like drinking really slow. And we had friends that had another table right next to us. A bunch of like our girlfriends. And...

I just kept bouncing back and forth, like hanging out with them, hanging out with our friends. Just kept moving back and forth because like, I don't know. That's just what I do. Yeah, you got to move around. I can't stay still. So we were moving around, bouncing around. And there was this, these groups of guys at that table that would not stop staring at us. You have,

You have a different recollection of that than I do. What was the recollection? I was like, that dude's kind of hot. And I just said that. Yeah, but I said something earlier in the night to them because they wouldn't stop staring because I was next to Gabby. Well, I was just like, that dude's kind of hot. And Sam just looks over and just waves at them. Yeah, but I said to you, I go, oh, yeah, I talked to them earlier and then I waved. And I was like, uh. The flirtiest wave, too. It was like, hey. Yeah, literally.

was like okay i was like just full set i literally was like that guy's hot yeah his friend the the short like the shorter one i had talked to him earlier in the night about something so fucking random like

I was just like, I don't know. We were standing next to each other and he said something and I said something back and I was like, yeah, great. And then I was like, do you know Gabby? He's like, no. I was like, okay, bye. And just went over to Gabby. And then that like what? 30 minutes later, that's when that happened. Yeah. And guys, I'm not going to lie. Like I'm going to be straight up with you guys. And I don't really care because this is a girls only podcast.

Not girls only. Like there are guys that listen to this, but for the most part, I'm in a safe zone. But I really just wanted to hook up with someone like the other night, like so bad. I'm just like, I kept going around and like everyone,

Everyone has a relationship. Like, this is so boring. So I was like, you know what? Fuck this. I'm going home. Like, I'm not going to find anyone tonight. Yeah. So I'm hanging out with this dude and I'm just, like, vibing, like, having a decent time. I just like socializing. I like talking to new people. Like, I like being at bars and, like, talking to random people. Oh, wait. We completely...

past the part of like new year's like midnight oh well okay because people were wondering on my post i kissed taylor for new year's she was my new year's kiss and then like 30 minutes later this is where we get to this part yeah so sam's like i'm going home and i'm like what like it was literally 12 30 and like i was like i'm not going home i was like i don't want to go home like like i was like we literally like paid for a table i'm not leaving and i was like i'm staying

So I was like, I'm literally staying. I don't want to go home. Like that's super lame. And then I'm like texting Sam. Like, are you home? She's like, no. Like this is like another 30 minutes had passed where I texted you. And I'm like, damn. Like I know Ubers were crazy because before you left, you were like, I was like, she's probably waiting for an Uber. Like I was for a really long time. And so, but I was like, I stayed. I realized that my friends were still there. Like some of our friends from the table. I was like, I'm just going to, which another thing I want to add in is I left because no one was at the table.

Literally everyone had left but I guess they all went to the bar to get drinks. But I thought they left. So I was like I'm leaving too. Fuck this. Yeah so she's out of there. And I was like okay she went home. Whatever. So I end up hanging out with like this guy and I made a girlfriend at the table and like everyone all these guys were like so cool and like the girl was cool. I was like I'm down. Like I'll hang out with you guys. And they were like gonna go to this after party because everything closes at 2. And I was like

Do I go to this? And the girl was like, yeah, like, come. Like, come with me. And I was like, okay. Like, you know when you just, like, make a girlfriend at a bar and then she's, like, your best friend? Yeah. I'm like, well, now I can't leave you. Yeah. If you're going, like, girls gotta stick together. Yeah. Like, okay, I'll ride with you. We go to this random-ass place on, like, east side, but, like, not east side where the bars are. This random building I've never seen before. It was, like, 50 bucks to get in. This is after we waited, like, 20 bucks for an Uber. And the guys were like, we'll pay if you guys want to go in.

And I'm like, you're not paying $50 for me to get into a club I literally don't want to even go to. Like, I feel bad. Like, no, like, don't pay $50 for me to get in. That's ridiculous. $50 to get in somewhere in Austin, Texas. Where are we, Vegas? Yeah. Like, no. So we didn't go. I Uber myself home, paid like almost $60 to get home in like a seven minute Uber, which is freaking nuts. But I mean, it was New Year's Eve.

And I get home and Sam's not home. Yeah. And I... So let me fill my ends in. So... I get home at 3 in the morning. Sam left at 1230. Sam's not home. Thank you so much for listening to our show. I just wanted to let you know that this episode is sponsored by Waterdrop. And you guys know if you're listening to this how important working out and staying healthy is for us. And if you are listening to this episode, it's probably really important because...

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back in like come on back in I was like no I'm ordering an uber I'm getting out of here I could not get an uber for the life of me I signed up for Lyft too like I'm sitting there putting my email in my I'm like hammered should not be doing this I'm like putting in calling uber I'm like where's my uber and it kept canceling on me and you know what I was like

Perfect fucking timing my friend hayley comes running down the street and she sees me and she goes sam Like oh my god, and i'm like hayley like at this point it's like 1 15 ish and i'm like, what are you doing? Hayley, she's like, what are you doing? I was like I was gonna uber home, but it's like 60 and they keep canceling on me and she's like Well, let's go somewhere else. Where do you want to go? And I was like

I got an idea. I looked on my hinge. I had been messaging a bunch of guys on hinge and I knew where one of these guys was. And I was like, I had been talking to him and like I told him I was like, maybe I'll stop by. So I was like, you know what, Haley, let's go. So me and Haley walked from Summit to Buford's.

And let me just say that's a long walk It's like a mile to get there and haley's barefoot and i'm like in my heels and we're trotting down Downtown getting over to buford's we get there It's around like two in the morning at this point and buford is like about to close and I see The table that he's at but my friend haley's like hold on. Give me one second I need to use the restroom and i'm like, okay perfect like go use the restroom. I'm gonna stand right here

And then as I'm staying there, the corner of my eyes, I see the most, like, gorgeous, perfect man I've ever seen in my life. And I was like, I was like, I need to go say something to him, like, right now. So as Haley's in the bathroom, I go up to him and I just start chatting with him. And I don't even know what I was saying because, like, it's kind of like a blur. But yeah.

We just started talking and I looked at him and I go do you know like those guys over there at that table is at the table you're at referring to like the guy on his that I was talking about and he was like no that's I don't know them we have another table back there and I was like oh I was like even better like I'll come with you so then Haley comes out of the bathroom and then we go back to his table and

and I'm just talking with him, and he sits down on the couch, and all of a sudden, he just sits on the couch and pulls me onto his lap, and we just start making out. And I was like, all right, like, I guess it's gonna be one of those nights. All right, yeah. And then Haley is just sitting there like, oh my goodness, like, this is happening right now. And I'm like, yep, it's happening. So we end up leaving around, like,

I don't know, 10 minutes later. And we all Uber back to his place. And Haley was just like, you know what? I don't want to like third wheel anymore. I'm going to go home. So I ended up staying the night with this guy. Not even the night. Oh my goodness. No, it feels like the night. I stayed at his place for probably like 45 minutes, like 30 minutes. I don't even know. But yeah,

Yeah, we hooked up and then I was laying on the couch with him for like 20 minutes and we were just talking and I'd like laid back. I was about to fall asleep on the couch. Like me and him were like about to doze off and I just got the spins like out of nowhere. And I look at him like I need to go home like right now. He was like, okay, okay, like you can go home. And he orders me an Uber and I get home and I'm so fucking drunk. Like I... Like the Uber back, I do not remember. I don't know what happened, but like...

I just like blacked out out of nowhere. I remember everything all the way until getting into that Uber. Yeah. So when Sam is in here, I'm literally having a panic attack because my friend told me she was coming home and now she's not home. And for some reason, I couldn't see her location. It just said that she could see mine.

Like what it says when you're sharing with someone and they're not sharing it back. Like it just said, Sam Taylor can see your location. But she's not here. I'm calling all of our friends. I'm like, did any that were at the table? I'm like, do you know where she is? And they're all like, no. Like, and they're like literally all together, like drinking in someone's apartment. And I was like, you guys are fucking useless. I'm like, you guys are literally fucking useless. And then this one guy's like, her location says she's home. I'm like, well, I'm home. I was like, so no, she's not. I was like, because I'm literally, I literally checked my room. I'm like, maybe she's in here.

I don't know. I'm like checking everywhere. I'm like, no, she's not fucking home. Like maybe you're asleep on the office floor. Like who knows? Yeah, maybe. So she's not here and I'm like, oh my God, like,

What do I do? Like, my friend's like, just, like, chill. Go to bed. Like, she'll be there in the morning. And I'm like, that's the worst fucking advice I've ever heard in my life. What do you mean, chill, go to bed? Boys are the worst. She'll be here. I'm like, I can't chill. Go to bed. Like, what do you... I was about to start, like, going back to West and, like, looking for you. I'm like, what do you mean? So then Sam FaceTimes me, and I'm like, phew. And she's like, open the door. I'm like, oh. She's here. And, like, I literally just, like, hug her. And she's like, what? Like, you're, like, holding her. She's not like...

like bro i thought you were dead like i thought you were dead like i thought you went home at 12 30 it's 3 30 i remember this part i'm freaking out because for all i know for the last three hours where you were supposedly home you're being murdered like in a back alley and i didn't know you met up with hayley i didn't know any of this so i had no idea i just remember looking at you go i

Just screaming, I had sex. And then when you were like, I went to Buford's with Haley, I was kind of salty because I was like, I would have rather done that. Like, I thought you were home. So I was just trying to fill my night with like randoms. Like, because I didn't want to go home because I was like, it's New Year's Eve. Like, I'll do something. Like, I don't feel like going home yet. And I was like, you were at Buford's with Haley. I so would have gone there. Like, I so would have done that instead. And then...

I'm just like trying to nurse him back to life. I'm like, do you want me to take your makeup off? She's like, no. Oh yeah, I was on the toilet. I'm like, are you sure? And she's like, no. So I'm like, okay. And then she just like crawled into bed and I'm like cleaning up from the party and...

dealing with Mac pooped inside so I had to clean up Mac's poop and um so I'm like cleaning I literally am being like just caretaker like cleaning Mac's shit making sure she's not like puking in her bed cleaning up from the pregame then the guy I was hanging out with all night was like what are you doing I was like honestly

now i'm awake and i'm really bored like if you want to come hang out you can hang out because i was like not going to sleep anytime soon and we just went to go get food and like hung out like we didn't even like do anything we just got french fries from whataburger because i was starving and i was like let's literally go get food and hang out here and like watch a movie like i'm i'm bored but he's not even from here so i'll never see him again but like he was pretty cool he was a cool guy like usually like random as if it happens all the time

normally when taylor brings random guys home no this only happened like twice but like we've had incidents where like i just cannot stand the guy that's like in the presence of my home and i'm like he needs to get the fuck out of here but like i was able to have like good conversation with this man i was like you're a cool guy like too bad you don't live here because you could be our friend yeah so i was kind of like i feel bad because i never saw him again but like not my fault like he was only here for like one more day and i'm like you literally don't live here anyway so yeah

Good riddance. So also, should also mention, if you guys remember the story of Michael and Josh from like two episodes ago when I like had two guys meet up at the bar. So Josh, one of the guys, is a part of that friend group.

and Taylor also had messaged him or called him that night wondering where the hell I was and was like all pissed because I never went home with him. What did he say? He was like, you should check with so-and-so's friend that she was like all over. And I was like, okay. Okay, he's pissed. I was like, I'm being serious right now with serious issues. I don't need your like petty ass drama. I didn't ask. But it was still really fun. It was just an interesting experience.

Just interesting. Like, really, like, just a boatload of stories. Oh, I fell in love with that man. Sam did fall in love. I'm hopefully going to see him again tomorrow. Yeah, so stay tuned on that. But then the next day kicked off January. And now it's New Year, new us, dry January. Yep. In full swing. I mean, it's been four days. So if I said that we broke it, that would be... Really fucked. Really, really fucked. I think... I'm going out of town this weekend to my niece's...

um second birthday so that's already one weekend super easy to not drink and my sister's pregnant so that's another person in the house that like won't be drinking so easy weekend of no drinking um because if you know us we know we only drink on the weekend so it's not like during the week we have to like think about it it's only a weekend thing so just four weekends basically and should go strong it feels so good

um yeah i feel i'm almost done what's today say the fourth we're recording this on the fourth um i should finish my book today so four days in that'll be one book one out of 50 for the year and one out of five for january oh also um my new year's resolution like i had mentioned is take care of my mental health i have my first therapist appointment and

our meeting, whatever you call it, tomorrow. Yay. I'm so excited. Fun. Oh, speaking of appointments, tomorrow I'm getting bangs, like fringy bangs because Kenzie Meads, I saw her TikTok where she has these like really cute fucking bangs and like sometimes I just see something and I need it. Like that second I need it to be done to me. So I texted my hairdresser. I was like, when's your next appointment? And she was like, January 10th. And I was like,

Damn, because I wanted it like sooner and then she was like actually I have availability thursday I was like, yep. There we go. I was like i'm coming. I was like i'm coming on thursday So i'm really excited Because I just want to do something different and my hair grows really fast So if I hate it, it's like not that big of a deal. I can just let it grow out But i'm getting bangs. They're gonna be so cute And i'm really excited about it box

Yeah. Yeah, I'm going to catch you guys up with the rest of my week plans next episode because I have my boob appointment and a bunch of other appointments. So I'll catch you guys up next week on those because I haven't gotten to them yet. But let's get into the episode of all things newbie gym stuff.

things. Yes, this is the episode for all of you girlies that made your resolution to start going to the gym in 2023. And if you are a new listener and you're just finding this episode, I hope you enjoyed our little chaotic catch up. I swear we're not that crazy. It was just New Year's weekend, you know, so let's get right into it. Beginner's Guide to the Gym.

Taylor wrote this all up, so I'm kind of just like winging it on this. Yeah, there's a lot to say for a beginner's guide to the gym. So it's hard to put it all into one thing of notes because there's so many different ways we could go. But this is like specifically for the gym, not like beginner's guide to like fit lifestyle and like eating simply just to entering a gym and working out and then everything else.

Would have to be other episodes. And you can apply this to so many other aspects of, like, fitness, too. Like, I know some of these, like, are going to be, like, kind of relative to, like, the gym. But, like, if you want to apply it to, like, a workout class or just, like, anything that, like, is something new to you, try to apply it. Yeah, this could go for workout class. Workout class and gym for sure could go to a workout class. So the first one is gym workouts.

anxiety as a whole which all of this is very like also workout class this section um and my number one tip for this that i wrote down is to try out different gyms in your area because the vibe of a gym will do wonders for like your comfortability there it doesn't matter how

into the gym you are like we go into gym sometimes and like i feel weird in certain gyms yeah i feel weird i feel intimidated i don't like the vibes i feel like people are looking at me and it's like you got to find a gym that you like especially if you're a workout class girly like find a place that you like do trials a lot of places have free trials if they don't pay the 15 day pass honestly try it out see if you like it see if you like the machines see if the people there are like

Good vibes, not good vibes. Like, I think it's worth it to try out different gyms because you're going to be going here every single day for, like, a few hours a day. Like, you should feel the vibes and like it there and feel comfortable there. And, like, is the drive there nice? Like, does it have good parking? Like, all that shit's going to make you feel more comfortable. And also another thing to consider, too, is, like, it can go either way. Do you want to go to a gym that you know a lot of people are going to be there? Or do you want to go to a gym where...

Not many people you know are there. Like, it kind of can go both ways. Maybe you feel more comfortable having a lot of your friends that go to that gym. Or maybe you don't feel super comfortable having a lot of, like, your classmates or, like, friends there. And you kind of just don't want to be seen until you feel comfortable using the gym. So, like, decide, like, what is best for you in that aspect as well. Yeah. It just... There's so much that...

goes into it but it'll really make a difference if you go somewhere that you feel comfortable in it will literally make all all the difference so make sure you just try out different gyms

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home-trial that is one peloton.com forward slash home-trial um the next one is your workout clothes slash like accessories and stuff i feel like this is definitely like big but also at the same time if you're just starting out it can definitely be expensive kind of like working your way into that type of stuff

but just feeling good and looking good goes a long way with like your gym anxiety yeah and even um because i knew that was gonna be like a point made like obviously like if you're gonna buy like full like athlete wardrobe it's gonna be expensive even doing something as simple as like

going to target and getting like a plain black sports bra that like fits you right like it's not necessarily about like what's like the coolest most expensive it's just like if you have a sports bra that you've had for five years and you have to like pull the straps every time you move to like adjust it you're not gonna feel comfortable in that yeah you can literally go to target walmart um

I don't know. Any other like... Probably like Old Navy. Poshmark. Oh my God. People sell so much. I know. We did. I do. Yeah, I did. I sold so much like Gymshark. People sell Lulu like Poshmark. That's a really good tip actually. But like anywhere, like literally go to Target. Just get stuff that fits you.

you like you don't want pants that you have to like pull up and mess with like you don't want a bra that like you think fits you weird or you're insecure in because you're never gonna feel confident if you don't have that you're gonna like no one wants to be walking around adjusting their sports bra everywhere you go you just want to find something that fits you nice and if you like it is worth if you can investing in like at least like

a pair of shorts and a sports bra that fits you. Like this is all about fit. I'm telling you like don't do like a brand just because it's a brand or like something trendy just because it's trendy. Like get something that fits you nice that you think is like flattering on you that you want to wear or else like there's literally nothing worse than like hating your workout because your clothes are giving you problems. It's the worst. Yeah.

And then, like, throw a baggy t-shirt on. Like, and you can... Our merch is 23% off. Hell yeah. Throw a t-shirt on. We love the baggy clothes. Yeah, like, everyone loves that. Don't always have to be skin tight showing off your whole entire body. Like, literally, today I went to the gym, I was wearing sweatpants, and I was wearing, like, a long-sleeved shirt, so... Mm-hmm. And then with the accessories, this was, um...

A splurge for me was my Christmas present, but getting my new headphones. I've had the best workouts in the last two weeks that I've had in so long because I'm just so like immersed in my music. Part of it's because the headphones are good and part of it's just like something new and exciting. Yeah. You know, it's a kind of headphones so bad. And I don't know shit about headphones. So like.

Feel free to let people know maybe on instagram or something like affordable good headphones. I know the apple ones are expensive Um, that's why I asked for them as a christmas gift and like i'm just a clout chaser So I like the way the apple ones look but i'm sure That there's cheaper better headphones, but I don't know anything about headphones. So

don't ask me because i don't know and then little things like a water bottle which you can literally get it like five below like you can get stuff like that at five below like all their gym accessories like if you want a nice water bottle if you want ankle weights like a foam roller any of that shit five below yeah facts which is nice to bring like foam roller stuff like that if you don't feel comfortable like knowing i used to not know in a gym what i could like

I'm like, can I use that phone? You can use everything. You can use everything, but I always felt weird. You can just bring your own if you want. Next one is going to be going with a friend. This can literally go...

Either way, you two are both newbies and you want to start going to the gym, start together or ask a friend that's been going to the gym for maybe two to three years already and they know what they're doing and you just need a little bit of guidance. You don't necessarily have to be going with them every single day, but maybe like twice a week just to help you kind of get like a little bit confident and comfortable in the gym.

Even if like you don't even work out with them the whole time just knowing that there's someone that you can be like Hey, can you help me do this? Yeah, like can you like show me how to use this? Whatever makes it so easy and if you know someone in your life that works out Most people into the gym are so incredibly enthusiastic about helping other people learn how to lift weights and go to the gym So i'm sure they'll be more than happy

Yeah. Like to help you. They're not going to like, I don't want to work out with you. Like if anything, they're gonna be like, oh yeah. Like, hell yeah. I want to work out with you. Let's go. Yeah. Like I know for me, like with my friends, I feel like I had to like, I feel like I was like dragging them by the ankles. I'd be like, come to the gym with me. I'm like, come. It'll be so fun. I used to always, when I was home, ask my friends then to be like, no, like, oh, I can't. I have work or I got this. I'm like, fuck. Like, damn it. Yeah. I even bring my, I brought my dad when I was home. I was like, do you want to come to the gym? He's like, if you don't mind. I was like, no. I'm like, I would literally rather just not show up alone. Yeah. Do you want to come? Like, come.

Like I would love to go with you So definitely asking someone That you know that goes to the gym Like you are definitely not inconveniencing them I mean unless they're just like a bitch But I know I personally My friends like if anyone came to me And was like I really want to like

get into the gym like can you help me I'd be like hell yeah let's go yeah literally so I actually got a text earlier today from one of my guy friends asking me for a grocery list haul and I was so excited when I got that message so like just reach out to anyone whether it's gym related food related anything mm-hmm

You want to get the next one? Yeah. Cause like I, Oh, I'm sorry. I thought I said the last one. Sorry. Um, so this is my favorite thing to do when I was new in the gym and it just always kind of helped me out is like starting either on a cardio machine or in like a corner stretching, depending on the layout of your gym. And while you're there, you don't actually have to be stretching or doing cardio. Look around and find everything. So like, um,

Some gyms where the treadmills look over the whole gym, that's your best bet because you can see everything and where everything is. But just little things because you probably... It could be hard. Let's say you find a workout on Instagram and it says leg press this and you have no idea where that is. You can literally be like, oh, I see. Okay, the leg press is over there. Oh, got it. Okay, found the hamstring curl. You can just kind of take...

take in your surroundings or and even i feel like some gyms maybe it's like okay i kind of get it like there's dumbbells here over there but like that area is more like crossfit vibes so like those people are more doing like like hit stuff over there and like the bodybuilders are more over there yeah for the most part like gyms are pretty organized like for the most part okay keep this in mind like i'm

upper body things are all relatively in the same area lower body things are all relatively in the same area then we got like the dumbbells in one section like it's usually not super chaotic so it should be pretty easy to find things but i don't know some gyms are a hot fucking mess some gyms are hot what was that gym when we went to dallas absolute re-comp absolute re-comp fucking horrible absolute re-comp and uh la fitness on us1 in miami florida yeah

y'all gotta get your shit together but like just looking around and just taking a vibe and maybe like you can literally like not to not to be staring at anyone or be a creeper like let's say you know when you work out like you're gonna be using like the leg press like watch the person on the leg press and be like okay like look at them on racket look at that like you can just like take a look at everything going on and like kind of being creeper and kind of watch people but like just to see like the flow of what people are doing yeah um

um my next one like i kind of want to add in before going into the next ones is like starting off with your machines being all like the cable machines you don't need to jump into using the barbells and dumbbells like literally if you go to the gym and just use literally walk down the line of just using like all the cable machines like the leg press the hamstring curl for like lower bodies where you're just adjusting the little cable that's a perfect way to start out with it rather than feeling stressed on like

what dumbbell weight do I grab? What weight am I putting on the barbell? So like, don't feel stressed if you haven't gotten over to the barbell slash dumbbell section, like start small. Yeah. I have that in our next little section about workout plans. So like, we'll also like get into that. Okay, cool.

So the next thing on here is like even though I just told you to look at people you're looking at people for demo You're not looking at people to judge because no one's judging you and no one cares what you're doing Like you're not that important. No one cares. Yeah, literally no one cares what you're doing Um, we've said this before on the podcast the only time I am looking at someone and genuinely caring what they're doing is because they're doing something insanely impressive to me like if you're a girl and you're

repping a plate on bench i do care what you're doing and i'm very invested because i'm very impressed yeah like like then i do care and i am staring or like if you're a girl and like your ass looks so good i'm like wow she looks phenomenal but if they're staying for no reason they're probably zoned out zoned out like literally or i'm just like well her shorts look so good on her and it's like i have never once taken time out of my workout because i was like

judging judging someone like in a negative way yeah it's like always in it like i will just be like holy shit like she's a girl doing pull-ups over there she's fucking crazy yeah and like i would never be like that girl can't even fucking do a pull-up loser i can't even do like i would never think that and if someone is out there doing that like they're miserable as fuck yeah and like they weren't they are not going to be like

That just like doesn't happen. And like if you think it's happening, it's it's it's really not like sometimes like I look like bitchy and like annoyed in the gym. It's like I'm just like dealing with I'm just like in my zone. Yeah. Like I look mad because like I just destroyed my legs doing like split squats. I'm not mad at you. Yeah. Like I'm just like hurting. There's always who would always was like no Noah.

like he would just like sometimes he'd just be like are you okay i'm like oh good i'm like i'm just like about to pass out i'm like i'm so chilling though like in the summer i lift like with no ac i'm like literally just like trying not to vomit and he's like are you good i'm like i'm sorry i'm not i'm in a great mood like he's like what's wrong i'm like nothing i'm just dying um but yeah no one's judging you and it's like easier because

like said than done to realize that especially if you're at college gyms where everyone is like your classmates yeah that's hell on earth but i mean that's a i can't give advice on that yeah that's a different culture of people yeah um yeah and then another one taylor wrote down is also youtube tutorials or even just like youtube workouts or like any type of like anything that's on social media to just like watch and feel comfortable i was like really big on this just like saving like the like

workouts on Instagram and just like bubbling it around and just like acting like I knew what I was doing but really I just had no idea what I was doing. Bro, I used to look up how to use the Smith machine. Yeah. I vaguely remember... Not vaguely. That is not the right word. I like clearly remember looking up how to use the Smith machine. I would look up like...

leg press what like what muscles are being targeted on like leg press or what muscle is being targeted on like hamstring curls like stupid i would just constantly be like how to use leg curl machine how to use that like and i would just look it up and like my gym had no service so sometimes i'd be like sitting on the machine i'd be like because the video wouldn't load yeah and like there was so many times where i'd try to be using like a machine and i just couldn't get it

And I tried five times and I just get up and walk away. I still do that because you can be so good at the gym and you're going to go to new gyms that have machines you've never seen before. Like learning how to use machines. Is it something you don't just one day learn how to do all of them? I...

who frequently walk into gyms or at our same gym but they get a new machine like how do you use this or even like some hip thrust machines are so different like they all look the same but they're so different and like there's certain hip thrust machines i don't like i'm like i am not using that one i know i'm not gonna like it but it's like i'm not gonna know that unless i use it so like it's not everyone's gonna like the same machines and equipment yeah and like that is just something that you're gonna have to like

know that asking people how to use equipment or needing a demo on equipment is not something that you ever stop needing yeah like you are going to encounter new equipment and need to learn how to use it that's just something that's always gonna always gonna happen but also asking people especially if you don't go to a commercial gym commercial gyms are like weird but like

We go to such a cool gym that like if you went to like Lift ATX here in Austin, like they would be more than happy to show you how to use anything. Like it would not even be weird at all. There are people like literally anyone would help you do anything if you just asked. And then the next part of like going to the gym is knowing how to do a workout plan.

But I kind of wrote this in reverse order because I kind of want to put the last thing I wrote towards the top. You don't need to do any specific exercise plan, anything right away, especially if you've never gone to the gym before. Literally, the only thing you need to do is go. Whether you go and do like bodyweight abs for 10 minutes or you go and stretch or you go and do like, I don't even know, like the treadmill. Like if you just show up eventually, you're

now at least you're in the habit of going and you'll get into the swing of it but like at least just show up and go yeah like and you don't like need to be doing shit same thing like you said like you don't need to do a certain exercise you don't need to do anything yeah you don't need to use a barbell you don't need to use dumbbells you don't have to do anything right away because all you need to do is start yeah i also get questions all the time on like even like equipment too of like

oh, I want to do this workout that you just posted, but I don't have a belt squat machine. Like what's a good substitute. And it's like, at the end of the day, there is no real like quote unquote good substitute. Like do any squat variation that you want, that you like to do. Like I fucking hate doing squats right now, barbell squats. So like if there's a different squat variation that you can do, do it. It's all about like having fun in the gym and just enjoying the exercises you're doing. Don't force yourself to do shit you don't want to do.

Yeah. And when I unless like there's a certain degree on what what I'm saying that but like realistically don't do anything wrong. Yeah. But like if it's not like wrong, yeah, it's fine. But it's like I went to the gym first and like was nervous, but I'd kind of fuck around most days because I was too scared to like do anything serious. But I went and eventually obviously now I'm in the groove that I know how to go to the gym and lift weights and do the whole thing. But like I had to have that time of being like, I don't even know what I'm doing in here.

And like feeling weird and kind of just fucking around. Honestly, that's literally what I was. I would kind of fuck around. But like you got there and I showed up and it it just makes you more comfortable with being in the environment. But if you want an actual plan to follow, in my opinion, I wrote, I just think an upper body, lower body split is pretty easy. Yeah. Like do upper body one day, lower body the next. I think that's fairly easy.

fairly simple. That's the easiest in my opinion. Yeah, you don't need to start going to the gym six days a week. Like start four, do two lower body days, two upper body days, and then slowly work up to like six if you want to. Taylor and I honestly like some weeks I go four days a week. I go five days a week. I go anywhere from four to five days a week. You don't need to be going six or seven days a week. Yeah.

Yeah. Like, be real about it. Like, you cannot set your New Year's resolution to be going seven days a week and if you've never even been once. Yeah. Like, that is just... Like, you just want to make sure when you're kind of figuring out what your workout split is going to be that you are hitting each muscle group at least twice a week.

So if you're going to do three days a week, do a full body day and then a lower body day and then an upper body day. So that way you are always hitting every single muscle group at least twice. And then if it's four days a week, just two lower, two upper body days. And don't worry because when our app comes out, that'll all be there for you. Yes. And another thing too I do want to say with the app, which we'll have another whole episode coming,

Explaining the app how you should go about it but like even for another example like we were just kind of like not like shitting on workout programs but like realistically like yes our workout programs are going to be there but like if you don't want to do a specific exercise in the program like change it substitute it it doesn't have to be so strict. Yeah workout programs are there for me at least so you don't have to like unless it's like a

For a specific competition. They're there so you don't have to think. Yeah. And if you'd rather think and switch something out because you know your gym and you know you like a certain thing better than... Yeah, and to track your progress. Yeah, to track your progress. With the app, you're going to be able to plug in the weight you're using and you will get notifications each time you go back to that specific exercise and you've increased weight. So that's another thing to keep in mind if you want to continue to use the same exercises. Stick to it, but...

If you're a beginner, don't stress about it. Right. I have on here that if you want to make your own day of workouts yourself, your leg day, this is a pretty basic thing to follow that is pretty solid. And you don't need to listen to everyone being like, is that optimal? This is optimal on TikTok. You just need to be getting these done. So this is a pretty easy thing to follow. Every day that you're in the gym, you want to do like five to six exercises.

Every single exercise, four sets, eight to ten reps, and you want to do your hardest exercises first. That's pretty standard. And then obviously, once things get heavier, then you might start doing like

heavier things lower reps you know you'll figure out all of that but I just think five to six things four sets eight to ten reps that'll do you pretty solid for a workout that's like really really basic um is it going to be like the best workout plan you've ever seen it could be if you put in the work like you'll make progress like you can obviously get more intense with it but that's like really solid that's that's as basic as it's going to get yeah I feel like that was pretty good

Thank you. I'm very proud of you for writing that. I keep trying to like press on it to like delete things, but I realized it's a photo. But yeah, I just think that's like really simple. You don't need to be out here. Like when I see these videos, like don't use this lat pull down attachment, blah, blah, blah. Like you put the handles on.

Think about it this way. These old school bodybuilders that have the craziest physiques, Mr. Olympia, like these huge dudes were not training like that when TikTok was a thing and people were telling you what's optimal or not. Go to the gym, put in fucking work. It doesn't matter. Like it doesn't matter. Like if you're going to, I feel like don't get in your own head about like, oh, I want to do lat pull downs. But like they said, this attachment isn't optimal. The attachment's fine.

You'll be fine. Just put in work five to six things. Get it done. Upper lower body is pretty, pretty easy. You don't have to do push pull yet. I mean, if you want to, if you are like you followed us for a while and you're like, now's my time. And you're like, no, I know what to do. Start with a dope split. That's great. But there's no pressure to.

um and then this is miscellaneous stuff um follow influencers that make you feel good and you know you're gonna have off weeks and off days no matter how far into your fitness journey you're gonna have off weeks and no matter how far into it some days are harder than others it's never just gonna be easy to go to the gym every day sometimes you don't fucking want to and sometimes you get there and halfway through our workouts we're like f this like i'm walking on the treadmill i don't want to finish or like

the weight is heavy that day. Like you're always going to have off days no matter what. So don't get too hard about that. Phineas, he just opens the door like he like runs his place nowadays. It's so bad. It's so bad. He's fat too.

bro okay it's so random but like when we when i wasn't home last week i got a notification on our ring camera that there was a missing cat and it was like a it was a brown tabby it was the same cat as phineas and i thought it looks like phineas so i sent it to her like oh my god like look i thought phineas was like missing her on the loose she goes that cat is so fat that phineas isn't that fat i go phineas is fat like he's literally bigger than mac now

He's fat, but he wasn't as fat. I don't know. He looks it. Sorry. Yeah, but he can open doors. Sorry, I'm fat-chinning our cat. Oh, damn. Anyways, I'm really upset. My computer's dead. Oh, can I open it on my phone? Yeah, you probably can't. Are you logged into the F Word email on that? Yeah. Why don't you go to Google Forms? Yeah. You don't go to the forms. You go to the Excel sheet thing.

You go into Excel sheets and like the answers in the Excel sheets. But yeah, like I said at on my Instagram story, we have you guys submit any advice or anything you guys may have and we will answer them. Okay, I like this one. So I need help on knowing when to ask for a guy's number or when to...

Or when to know to wait for him to do it. I have a crush on this guy at the gym. We've talked a few times. Every time I see him, I make a point to at least acknowledge him. Props for you for that. In fact, I even made the first move. I don't want to come across as a creep and I think it's tricky when talking to people at the gym. Another issue is it's winter break for us college students. So I know he's leaving in a few weeks. LOL. So is this pointless or should I ask for his number because he's going to be leaving or should I wait for him to grow a pair and ask me? Girl, you need to go get his number. Why not like get the Instagram?

No, come on. I honestly I've come to the realization that like the girls have to be making the move in the gym guys He probably like is into you too and like making eye contact whatever but He's probably just scared to approach you because there's this whole stereotype against like approaching girls in the gym I think she should just go and full send and ask for his phone number. Yeah, do it and he's leaving in a few weeks, but like

You live in the same home. Somehow you're in the same town sometimes of the year. Yeah. Right? Because you're at the... Like, if you're both home and that's your both hometown, you're going to see him again. Yeah. Full send. Go get that number. Okay. Listen to this one. Okay. I've cheated on my boyfriend multiple times. Good.

And I know it isn't the right thing to do, but I'm just not happy. This man sees a life and a future with me and I did at first, but it stopped. It sounds conceited, but I help him through so much in life and I don't know what he would do without me. I don't think he would ever do anything serious, but I really think he'd be lost and depressed, but I'm so scared to leave. I want him to be happy, but I also want to be happy. Any advice?

okay i kind of went through this a little bit with my like very first ex-boyfriend me too i never i never cheated on him but i was too scared to break up with him because i was too scared of his like of his mental health me too and like how he was gonna react to it so you need to like approach the breakup in like the nicest way ever they're probably not gonna understand with the way you're approaching it

that, like, you're actually breaking up with them, but you need to do it in a way where it's, like, friendly. I personally told my ex-boyfriend at the time that, like, I'm not, like, I put it all on myself that, like, I wasn't in a spot where I could be in a relationship. Like, you don't want to put it on them saying, like, like, it's you, you can't be with me, like, we just can't. Put it kind of on you. Obviously, it's probably, like, not true, like,

Maybe it's just like you can't be with him, but be really nice about it because you don't want to like destroy something that's already fragile in a person. So that's my advice.

I think that was well said. Okay, cool. And just, like, really have, like, a really mature conversation about it and, like, talk, like, for real, for real. And, like, if you're an important, like, and make sure he knows, too, like, that you're not, like, leaving him in the dust. Like, make sure he knows that, like, if he ever, like, was feeling, like, that depressed, like, that lost, like...

even though it's like he shouldn't like talk to you all the time like let him know you're still there like you still care but like you're not happy and you shouldn't be together and it would make him probably happier to be with someone who's not cheating on him yeah because if you don't if you don't okay like i'm gonna be like a little mean to you right now girly if you don't want to hurt his mental health like girl you cheated on him yeah like that i'm gonna end up finding that out that went out the window like you that was wrong

We have to be brutally honest right here, right now. Yeah, that was wrong of you. So, like, not gonna lie, like, the caring about his mental health, like, seems like that's kind of out there. You don't really. So, yeah, I would hope he doesn't find out. Yeah, poor man. I had one that I was ready to read, and then I kind of lost it. I hate when that happens. Ooh, I like...

I like guys this. I feel like there's a lot of good ones that are actually way more detailed, which I really like. OK, so I'm in college and I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now. Something that's bothered me for a while is the amount of girls he follows on both IG and TikTok. I mean, girls, he doesn't even know who posts a cast half naked thirst traps. I understand following famous influencers, but it's obvious that there's also a good amount of girls in here that he doesn't.

that he doesn't follow their content or fame but purely the reason they post their body i've talked to him about this and he stopped for the most part but i'm tying tired of seeing all new accounts that in his following or seeing his name in the likes of everyone's bikini post is there something valid to be upset about or is this coming from my own insecurities help i feel crazy you're right no you're definitely right i think everything you said is right i was not big on that at all i don't think you should be following like

thirst trap Instagram models on Instagram because I don't do that. Like, I don't follow thirst trap dudes on Instagram when I'm in a relationship. That's something I've done, like, single and, like, I, and I like dudes things now single. I wouldn't even do that in a relationship. I just wouldn't. Like, I was big on that. I was big on, like, you don't need to be following a

girl like girls that are famous on tiktok for being hot why do you follow them yeah like that's weird and it's like i always tell you if you're liking someone's post like why are you liking it like there's that chance what like they're gonna see you liked it why are you liking it like for what i don't think you should fall i don't think you should follow

random girls on instagram that you don't know like i don't know i think that's fucking weird i agree he definitely needs to figure that out because it's not okay i think it's weird i think it's bizarre i think you're 100 right i don't like feelings are valid yeah and like i don't think that's an insecurity thing at all i think it's a respect thing because like he's gonna turn it on you and be like oh my god it's just instagram no it's fucking not like that's your like morals yeah i would you do that to him like are you out here like

following these famous people for no reason no you're not and it's even like you even said like it's not even like you get famous people but like i kind of don't and like maybe i'm being sexist but like to me it's different like i can't think of that many famous girls guys care about to like follow yeah like i can think of girls maybe wanting to follow dudes because it's like i watch like reality shows and maybe i want to watch like

I want to follow the people from the reality show I watch, but like guys don't like really do that. So I don't know. I think you're right. I think you're 100% right. I think he needs to get his act together. Do you want to do one more?

no i think we can we're done this was a long episode kind of was i'm hungry well with that thank you guys so much for listening i like doing the advising at the end and reading your guys's problems in your life i find it really interesting i feel like i connect with you guys on another level yeah i just feel like i'm really good or bad in your life and i love it

All right, guys. Well, I'm going to go downstairs and eat some Trader Joe's soup dumplings. So catch me in the next episode. We love y'all. Bye. Bye. See you on Friday.