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36 逃避无用但不可耻!聊聊回避型依恋

2024/6/11
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小井:回避型人格并非精神疾病,而是性格特点,它源于儿童时期的依恋模式,在亲密关系中表现为回避冲突和冷暴力。其形成与过去的失败沟通经历有关,导致个体选择逃避冲突。判断是否喜欢一个回避型人格的人,取决于能否接受其回避行为作为其本性的一部分。社恐是精神疾病诊断,与回避型人格不同。回避是一种防御机制,为了避免潜在的伤害而选择逃避。并非所有回避行为都属于回避型人格,需要结合具体情境分析。很多人回避麻烦,但解决麻烦的能力和习惯不同。人可以分为未雨绸缪型和亡羊补牢型,这与个人的生活方式和焦虑程度有关。对健康的关注方式与中西医理念差异有关。回避型人格的起源可以追溯到婴儿时期与父母的依恋关系。改变回避型人格很难,但可以改变与他们的相处模式。回避型人格导致的情绪问题可以通过药物和心理治疗来改善。精神动力学疗法可以帮助理解回避型人格的形成原因,认知行为疗法则通过实践来改变行为模式。对有回避型人格倾向的未成年孩子,家长应反思自身问题并寻求家庭心理治疗。 小熊:主动解决问题能减轻压力,并获得掌控感,但可能导致孤独。个体构建安全感的方式不同,导致对压力的应对方式差异。压力可能导致回避型人格行为的出现或加剧,应关注压力源并寻求解决。对回避型人格的理解视角不同,小井从精神病学角度,小熊从人际交往角度。人格分类有助于理解他人,但不能成为逃避责任的借口。能改变的只有自己,虽然这样可能会显得自己很舔很吃亏很卑微,但是其实反而主动权就在我们手上了。

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What is the difference between avoidant personality and avoidant attachment?

Avoidant personality refers to a personality trait where individuals avoid social interactions and responsibilities due to fear of criticism or rejection. Avoidant attachment, on the other hand, originates from childhood and describes a pattern where individuals, often due to neglect or inconsistent caregiving, learn to suppress their need for closeness and care, appearing indifferent to relationships.

Is procrastination considered a form of avoidance?

Procrastination can be a form of avoidance, especially when it involves delaying tasks that are perceived as stressful or unpleasant. This behavior can be linked to avoidant personality traits, where the individual avoids tasks that may lead to discomfort or failure.

How does social anxiety relate to avoidant personality?

Social anxiety, or social phobia, involves intense fear of social situations due to worries about being judged or embarrassed. While it shares similarities with avoidant personality in terms of avoidance behaviors, social anxiety is more about fear of negative evaluation, whereas avoidant personality involves a broader pattern of avoiding social interactions and responsibilities.

What are some typical behaviors of someone with an avoidant personality?

Typical behaviors include avoiding social interactions, reluctance to engage in activities that involve interpersonal contact, hypersensitivity to criticism or rejection, and a tendency to withdraw in the face of potential conflict or stress. These behaviors are often a defense mechanism to protect oneself from perceived emotional harm.

Can stress exacerbate avoidant behaviors?

Yes, stress can exacerbate avoidant behaviors. When individuals with avoidant tendencies face stressful situations, their natural response may be to retreat further into avoidance as a coping mechanism, reinforcing their avoidant patterns and making it harder to engage with the stressor directly.

What are the challenges of living with an avoidant personality?

Living with an avoidant personality can lead to significant challenges in personal and professional relationships. Individuals may struggle with intimacy, have difficulty forming close relationships, and often feel lonely or isolated. Professionally, they may avoid opportunities for advancement or collaboration due to fear of criticism or failure.

How can one effectively communicate with someone who has an avoidant personality?

Effective communication with someone who has an avoidant personality involves creating a safe and non-judgmental environment. It's important to be patient, offer reassurance, and avoid pressuring them into social interactions. Encouraging small steps towards engagement and expressing understanding and acceptance can help build trust and reduce their avoidance behaviors.

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本段落介绍了人格的概念、分类方法和意义。它解释了人格类型不是疾病,而是性格特征的分类,并区分了人格障碍和精神疾病的区别。
  • 人格是性格的分类方法
  • 回避型人格并非精神疾病
  • 人格障碍和精神疾病的区别

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欢迎大家收听空井效应!我们是一档关注精神心理健康的科普访谈类节目,由精神科医生小井担任主播,希望可以收集大家的故事引起对精神心理健康的重视。

本期是与大夫有话说)的主播小熊的一期串台节目,我们从回避型人格聊起,分析不同依恋类型的相处模式,分析拖延、社恐是否属于回避的表现,探讨了压力与逃避行为之间的关系,对结合回避背后的心理机制与人生课题之间进行了一场温和且酣畅淋漓的讨论。

时间轴:

02:28 人格是什么?怎么归类?

04:02 什么是回避型人格&回避型依恋?

09:17 拖延症算逃避么?

13:52 社恐是回避型人格的表现么?

17:05 任何有压力的事都会导致逃避么?

23:23 人分为未雨绸缪型or亡羊补牢型?

29:39 抵触任何麻烦算不算?

36:50 哪些行为可以被定义为逃避型人格?

42:43 压力真的会强化逃避行为么?

48:56 主动解决问题的人生又是什么样

50:47 漫漫人生路,是不是所有问题都要解决

本期主播&嘉宾

小熊:《大夫有话说》主播,中医生活方式推广者,受听友群号召录本期播客,治好了心里不少小疙瘩

小井:精神病院住院医师,下班忙着去黄浦江钓鱼,把节目剪辑丢给搭档

剪辑&后期 小熊+夏虫

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