'Rainbow farts' refers to sincere and timely compliments that help create a supportive and relaxed environment. In a high-pressure work setting, this practice fosters optimism and resilience by acknowledging and appreciating each other's efforts, which strengthens team bonds and morale.
Timely compliments are crucial because they capture the authenticity of the moment. Delaying praise can make it harder to express genuine appreciation, and the impact of the compliment may diminish over time. Immediate feedback reinforces positive behavior and strengthens relationships.
While the core principle of sincere praise remains the same, adults often require more nuanced and specific compliments compared to children. For children, even simple affirmations like 'good job' can be highly motivating, whereas adults benefit from detailed and thoughtful recognition of their efforts or achievements.
Sincerity is the foundation of effective compliments. Genuine praise, rooted in observable facts or specific actions, is more likely to be well-received and impactful. Insincere or exaggerated compliments can come across as flattery and may undermine trust.
Repeated compliments gradually break down a person's defensive barriers and help them internalize positive feedback. Over time, this consistent affirmation can boost self-esteem and reinforce the belief in their abilities, leading to increased confidence and self-assurance.
Specific details make compliments more meaningful and credible. Highlighting particular actions, traits, or achievements shows that the praise is thoughtful and based on genuine observation, which enhances its impact and makes the recipient feel truly valued.
In families, sincere compliments can reduce tension and foster a more positive atmosphere. Acknowledging each other's efforts and contributions, even in small ways, can strengthen emotional bonds and create a supportive environment where everyone feels appreciated and understood.
Separating intentions from reactions, a concept known as 'task separation,' reduces overthinking and emotional burden. The giver focuses on expressing genuine appreciation without worrying about how the recipient might interpret it, leading to more authentic and stress-free interactions.
In professional settings, 'rainbow farts' can enhance teamwork and morale by fostering a culture of mutual appreciation. Recognizing colleagues' contributions, whether through formal feedback or casual compliments, can improve job satisfaction, collaboration, and overall workplace positivity.
Effective compliments should be timely, specific, and sincere. Focus on observable details, use the recipient's name to personalize the praise, and deliver it in a way that feels natural and authentic. Repeated and consistent compliments can also help build trust and confidence over time.
这期节目我们想和大家聊一个轻松又实用的话题:「彩虹屁」。
熟悉节目的朋友都了解,我们的团队文化之一就是「彩虹屁」。因为每个人都很会夸夸,使得我们在卷到飞起的大环境下,依然能够保持着一份松弛、乐观和从容。
所以,我们很想把这种保持“好心态”的方法分享给大家,尤其是那些羞于赞美别人,也羞于接受他人夸奖的朋友:每个人都需要赞美,恰到好处的赞美是传递爱与感谢的方式。完美的「彩虹屁」不仅是有技巧的,也是最真诚的。
希望我们可以面带微笑,心存感激,接受赞美,赞美别人。
⌛时间轴
Part 1|勇敢的人先享受世界
01:18如果希望自己被看到,不如先看到别人
05:34没有人不喜欢被夸赞,只不过羞于表达
09:08好好沟通| 只需用善意真诚的方式说出事实
12:19好好沟通| 要先学会用夸奖代替反问与指责
13:33好好沟通| 也要学会用善意理解他人的赞美
15:13好好沟通| 表达好感是双方都能受益的事情
Part 2|学会如何「彩虹屁」
20:38及时,有话当场夸,酝酿越久反而越难开口
23:48当面,现场的的语气、表情和动作都很重要
25:18反复,真诚总经得起考验,真心总会被听见
28:33称呼,夸赞陌生人时,能记住姓名更显真诚
29:49心态,降低期待,要解决问题而不是抱怨发泄
32:58分离,夸奖是我的事,别人怎么想是对方的事
34:32找补,「不好意思」和「赞美」可以同时表达
37:19具体,细节最真实,发现他人的每个细小优点
39:27策略,对不同的人,可以采取不同的表达方式
【往期精彩节目】
🎯 人生管理
EP46 2023年,我们想通过这几个“锚点”连接生活)
EP60《百岁人生》:既然有可能活到100岁,那不如重新来设计一下人生轨迹吧)
EP71模板分享+思路讲解 |你我的人生梦想,都在这张家庭财务规划表里了)
👴 养老
EP07 独生子女、延迟退休和养儿防老——和凤凰财经记者聊中国式养老)
EP21 养老阶段搞不好长达40年,你想过钱从哪里来吗?)
EP45 个人养老金,可能有不一样的理解)
EP63 如何在30岁规划七份养老金来源:尽力而为,量力而行,小额投入,减缓焦虑)
EP66 社保退休金原来是这样算出来的,四大因素决定能领多少钱)
EP72专属商业养老保险:可能是“门槛最低压力最小”的养老金)
💪 健身
EP49 练了200节课后,我把团队小伙伴都拉去健身了:行动与计划之间只差一个助力?)
EP62 和健身教练聊科学锻炼 | 运动无限好,健身请趁早)
👨💻 职业
EP50 如果我三十五岁前知道这些就好了:聊聊职场中的底线思维)
EP51 做副业搞钱,难吗?)
👨👩👧👦 婚姻、生育
EP19 婚姻和生育,都阻挡不了我们成长的脚步)
EP33 电视剧只是生活的一部分,生孩子到底可不可怕?让妈妈们自己说)
EP36 我们讨论丁克,并不是为了站队,而是呈现人生的更多可能)
💸 记账
EP29 聊聊攒钱:并不只是物欲的克制,而是掌握人生的第一步)
EP43 记账三年,我从月光实现了买房)
EP61 那些记账后才明白的事|更焦虑或是更有数儿,都是【有知觉】的真实生活)
💰 理财
EP17 跟也谈钱聊聊财务自由:人生要多做可逆的选择)
EP05 串台小酒馆 | 为什么有钱人也需要保险?聊聊保险和投资的关系)
EP47 女性财务规划指南 | 大胆谈钱、勇敢说不,怎么用钱更好地解决问题)
EP73 投资小白的反思|定投都亏成这样了,为什么还在投?)
🎙节目介绍
『保持通话』是一档深耕于保险,却不局限于保险,而是“从保险的视角去观察世界,思考人生,寻找生活密码”的中文播客节目。
保险源自于生活中的不确定性,本质是对人生风险的管理。
我们希望通过传递更多的专业知识和行业信息,做好保险科普,让更多的人了解保险,让有需要的人用好保险。
通过对「理财」、「职业」、「健康」、「认知」、「成长」…不同话题的延伸,去寻找解决问题的底层逻辑,探索个人和家庭的能力边界。
用保险的方式【理性应对人生】,平滑生命周期中可能遇到的人生风险。以保险的视角【感性链接生活】,在不确定的世界中获得对生活的掌控感。
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【编辑制作】柯霖
【节目制作】Meng
【节目运营】Meng、阿九
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