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#396 – James Sexton: Divorce Lawyer on Marriage, Relationships, Sex, Lies & Love

2023/9/18
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James Sexton认为婚姻失败的最常见原因是夫妻之间的隔阂,这并非源于单一因素,而是许多小事的累积。他强调,出轨等事件只是压垮骆驼的最后一根稻草,关键在于理解导致隔阂的根本原因。他建议伴侣之间要坦诚沟通,及时解决问题,即使是看似微不足道的小事。成功的伴侣关系需要双方互相欣赏、支持,并避免对伴侣进行批评。他认为,成功的婚姻不是一场持久战,而应该是双方共同享受的旅程。选择看到美好的一面是一个有意识的选择,需要练习,尤其是在关系出现问题之后。他还强调,不要过于在意别人的看法,要专注于彼此,坦诚沟通性需求,避免压抑需求而导致关系破裂。压抑自己的真实自我,会阻碍与伴侣建立真挚的联系。亲密关系需要脆弱和坦诚。他认为,爱是需要勇气的,即使会带来痛苦,也要珍惜美好的回忆。成功的伴侣关系需要双方互相欣赏、崇拜,并为彼此的成就感到高兴。

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OUTLINE: Here's the timestamps for the episode. On some podcast players you should be able to click the timestamp to jump to that time. (00:00) - Introduction (09:01) - Why marriages fail (30:32) - Sex and fetishes (39:49) - Breakups (1:05:35) - Johnny Depp and Amber Heard (1:25:36) - Complicated divorce cases (1:32:22) - Cheating with the nanny (1:34:39) - Relationship advice (1:43:20) - Cost of divorce (2:05:11) - Prenups (2:19:33) - Cheating (2:27:17) - Open marriages and threesomes (2:40:05) - Sex and fighting (3:05:00) - Kevin Costner's divorce (3:14:44) - Lying (3:22:12) - Productivity (3:30:06) - Jiu Jitsu (3:38:38) - Sex, love, and marriage