Ep. 40 - More Sex or More Intimacy?
The Submissive Next Door Podcast
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Let's talk about Libido... in particular, how do we overcome libido discrepancy? (i.e.: when one partner wants more sex than the other.) While we are at it, let's take it a step further and throw parenting, life, and a little kink into the mix! In this episode, I'm going to address an insightful question from a follower concerning how to talk to their partner about the tough subject of getting more sex when one partner isn't feeling it. I also take you on a deep dive into a conflict resolution technique called "The Imago Dialogue" (and how it can be used as check-in method for D/s dynamics), how this fits in with creating more responsive desire, as well as teach you how to find what your inner self actually needs from sex. I'll also give actionable steps to reframe what pleasure is, and build a container of safety that will help partners connect on a deeper level, even when sex isn't on the menu! Let's get going! Links for this episode:
Dr. K's Imago-Inspired D/s Relationship Dialogue Script will be available on Patreon) and her Online Center for Sexuality & Kink Education)
Book: Come as You Are by Dr. Emily Nagowski)
Book: The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel Van Der Kolk)
Book: Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships by Stella Harris)
Book: Becoming Cliterate by Laurie Mintz)
Book: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples by Helen LaKelly Hunt ) (Great info on the Imago Dialogue)
Site: The Imago Relationship Official Site)
Additional Resources:
Site: TASHRA (The Alternative Sexualities Health Research Alliance))
Site: TASHRA's Research)
Site: The Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality)
Dr. K’s Official Goodreads page – For the Book Lover)
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Consent Counts Resources from the NCSF (National Council for Sexual Freedom))
About SESTA/FOSTA:) Information relating to how the changes in the law have to affect TOS across social media and inadvertently create issues for those in the field of sexual and reproductive health.
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