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We Suspect Our Son is a Thief!

2024/12/24
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Michelle: 我女儿丢失了15000美元,我们怀疑是她20岁的弟弟偷的。弟弟平时经济状况不好,但最近却有钱购买东西。我丈夫设下陷阱,发现弟弟在姐姐房间里,之后弟弟还了他900美元的旧债,而这笔钱他之前声称没有。 我们之前就警告过女儿不要把钱放在家里,但她没有听从劝告。现在钱丢了,家庭关系也变得很紧张。我不知道该如何处理这件事,希望得到你的建议。 Dr. Laura: 仅仅钱不见了并不能作为直接的证据证明是你的儿子偷的。你需要更确凿的证据。但是,如果你的丈夫设下的陷阱确实如你所说,那么在家庭内部,这已经足够说明问题了。如果情况属实,那么你儿子不仅偷了钱,还愚蠢地认为自己能逃脱惩罚。 在这种情况下,我会毫不犹豫地让他离开家,并且要求他赔偿女儿的损失,这是他重回家庭的唯一条件。如果他拒绝赔偿,那么就让他离开,即使这对你来说很难。你必须决定,你更不愿意让谁失望,是你的女儿还是你的儿子。你不能因为他是你的儿子就纵容他,这会严重伤害你的女儿,让她觉得你偏袒儿子,不在乎她的损失。

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What evidence suggests that Michelle's son stole $15,000 from his sister?

Michelle's husband set a trap by placing a vacuum and other items in front of the daughter's room. The son moved the items and was seen leaving the room, despite denying he was there. Shortly after, he repaid $900 he owed his father, despite previously claiming he had no money. The money went missing after the son was in the room, and no one else was in the house at the time.

What advice does Dr. Laura give Michelle regarding her son's suspected theft?

Dr. Laura advises Michelle to ban her son from the house until he repays the stolen $15,000 to his sister. She emphasizes that if the evidence is clear—money was present before the son entered the room and gone afterward—the family should hold him accountable. If he refuses to repay, Michelle must choose between supporting her daughter or enabling her son's behavior.

Why does Dr. Laura criticize Michelle's daughter for storing $15,000 in her room?

Dr. Laura criticizes the daughter for ignoring her parents' advice to deposit the money in a bank. She compares storing cash at home to walking down a dark alley with money taped to one's body, highlighting the inherent risk of theft in such situations.

What does Dr. Laura suggest about the son's behavior during the theft incident?

Dr. Laura describes the son as both arrogant and foolish for believing he could steal the money without consequences. She notes that his actions—moving the vacuum and repaying his father $900—demonstrate a lack of subtlety and awareness of the evidence against him.

What emotional challenge does Michelle face in dealing with her son's suspected theft?

Michelle struggles with the emotional difficulty of potentially cutting ties with her son if he refuses to repay the stolen money. Dr. Laura emphasizes that failing to hold him accountable would send a message to her daughter that her feelings and loss don't matter.

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Michelle's 22-year-old daughter is missing \$15,000 from her room. The family suspects the 20-year-old son, who has shown suspicious behavior. Dr. Laura guides Michelle on how to approach this sensitive family issue.
  • Missing $15,000 from daughter's room
  • Son's suspicious behavior and financial inconsistencies
  • Lack of concrete evidence but strong circumstantial evidence

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Michelle fears her son may have stolen thousands from his sister. Now she needs Dr. Laura's guidance on what to do. 

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