Deep Dive
What is Becky's main concern about her husband?
Becky is concerned about her husband's infidelity, as he has been texting, calling, and video chatting with another woman despite her efforts to work on their relationship. She feels betrayed and unsure about what to do, especially since they have six children together.
Why does Becky feel conflicted about leaving her husband?
Becky feels conflicted because she loves her husband and has been with him for 23 years, standing by him through difficult times, such as when he was burned. She also believes in the commitment of marriage and doesn't want to divorce, but she struggles with the lack of trust and his repeated infidelity.
What advice does Dr. Laura give Becky regarding her situation?
Dr. Laura advises Becky to stay in the marriage for the sake of her children, as divorcing would mean the kids would have to split time between homes and potentially meet her husband's new partners. She suggests making the best of the situation, maintaining a peaceful home, and using condoms to protect against potential sexually transmitted infections.
What does Dr. Laura say about Becky's belief that she can fix her husband?
Dr. Laura criticizes Becky's belief that she can fix her husband, comparing it to trying to fix a car without knowing how. She emphasizes that Becky cannot change a man who is a 'creep' and that her efforts to fix the relationship have only led to more children and prolonged unhappiness.
How does Becky feel about the impact of divorce on her children?
Becky is concerned that divorce would negatively affect her children, as they would no longer have their father under the same roof and would have to split time between homes. She believes it is unfair for them to go back and forth and potentially meet her husband's new partners.
What does Dr. Laura suggest Becky do to protect herself and her children?
Dr. Laura suggests that Becky make the best of her situation by maintaining a peaceful and pleasant home environment for her children. She also advises Becky to use condoms to protect herself from potential sexually transmitted infections and to avoid arguing or creating negativity in the home.
- 23-year marriage with six children
- Husband's infidelity (texting, calling, video chatting with another woman)
- Wife's internal conflict between love for husband and desire for a better life
- Consideration of impact on children
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Hear the winner's stories now by visiting BeThereWithCare.com. Contest ended November 15th. Official rules at BeThereWithCare.com. Thanks for listening to my Call of the Day podcast. You can hear my live radio program Monday through Friday from 2 to 5 p.m. Eastern Time on Sirius XM Triumph 111. Becky, welcome to the program. Hey, how are you? Good. What can I help you with?
Okay, so Dr. Laura, I need you here twice because you're the girl to ask. I've been with this person, Mary, for 23 years. Had a hard life before that, you know, anyways. Got married when I was 18. Got six beautiful children.
Been with this guy, like I say, 23 years. Everything was great in the first little bit, you know, but then he started cheating on me and I was like, you know what, we're going to work on this. We've got this. We're a team. We're a rock. We're solid. We can make this work. Anyways, yeah, here we go again because now he's texting, calling, and video chatting with another woman.
He told me that he got rid of pictures and everything, and he didn't. And, like, I just don't know what to do because I love this guy, and I married him for better or for worse. But, you know, like, sickness and health. Like, he was burned. I stood beside him, you know. Like, I'm lost. I don't know what to do. Okay. No, you're just going to continue with a man you cannot trust and count on.
make sure you use condoms when you have sex with him, just in case he's going to transmit any diseases to you, and continue along. That's it, because you don't believe in divorce. So when you've got six kids, this is it. This is what you got, babe. You have to make the best of what you got, babe. Ain't going to get better. Can I be honest with you? I've been doing a lot of soul searching, though, and I'm just like, you know what? I am better than this. I really am. I don't know what better than this means. I mean, there are some women...
worse than this i don't understand i mean i don't understand what that means it means that i have to find myself and i have to even though it's going to hurt like hell excuse my language i have to do what's best for me and my kids and is it best for your kids not to have a dad under the same roof and to go back and forth between homes
No, it's not fair like that either. Like I say, at the same time... Oh, don't tell me what you... Ma'am, ma'am, never tell me like I said, because I listened carefully, and I responded. You said what's best for me and best for the kids. What's best for you is not best for the kids, and it's not even best for you if the kids are going to be going back and forth and meeting many of his honeys. I agree.
So understand you have the wrong man, but you're trying to keep the family intact pleasantly so the kids can grow up in a home that seems peaceable and kind. I mean, faking it is useful since you love him no matter what he does. That's helpful. But no, divorcing would be terrible for the kids unless he beats them.
No, he doesn't hit us. He doesn't like anything like that. That's not the point. That's not the point. The point is it's not best for them for you to divorce. Can I be honest? I don't want divorce. That's something I don't want. Please don't preface anything with can I be honest. I'm assuming honesty in this entire phone call. Yeah. You're stuck with a bit of a creep, but you love this creep.
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Millions of unpaid family caregivers look after their loved ones, a true labor of love. This season, Halion, maker of brands like Advil and Centrum, has supported three caregivers with $10,000 from renovating their homes to make their loved ones comfortable to taking on extra shifts at work so their family can rest easy. Each individual goes above and beyond in the way they care.
Hear the winner's stories now by visiting BeThereWithCare.com. Contest ended November 15th. Official rules at BeThereWithCare.com. Okay. Yeah. Your biggest mistake was when you knew he was a creep to think you had some magic and you were going to fix it and then have a few more kids. We're going to fix this. And I'm thinking I know how to fix a car. I don't, but I'm making an image.
Because there are ways to fix it and actually make it run again. You can't fix a man who's a creep. No, I know that for sure. Yeah. How old is the youngest child? She's eight. Did you say eight? Yeah. Well, we have ten years, so try to make it pleasant for ten years and use condoms. All right. Or do you want to see your kids half the time as they meet his girlfriends?
No, my kids and I are a team. We stick together through. That's not, I didn't ask you to go on and on and on. I just asked you, do you want to have the kids in your house full time or half the time and meeting his girlfriends? I want them in my house. Then make the best of it and don't be arguing and looking disparaging and making the home negative for the kids because then you might as well divorce. Okay.
sorry ten years you'll still be young my number one eight hundred three seven five twenty eight seventy two denial has us stay in a situation to make more babies and keep us in there longer denial is not a good thing nope nope
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