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How Do I Confront my Co-Worker?

2024/12/25
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Nevaeh: 我有两个关于工作的问题:一是怎样礼貌地应对那些说话不经过大脑的同事;二是怎样应对那些试图把工作推卸给我,但他们既不是我的上司,也不帮我做任何事的同事。 Dr. Laura: 对于说话不经过大脑的同事,你可以请他们重复他们说过的话。当人们说了一些愚蠢、不恰当或不聪明的话,并且他们事先没有思考过,那么你只需要说:‘请问您可以重复一下吗?’ 因为人们很难重复那些愚蠢的话,因为在那一刻,他们意识到自己犯了一个错误。这适用于所有人。有时候我们只是说了一些话,然后想:‘哎呀,我应该先考虑清楚。’ 所以处理这种情况的方法是面带微笑,然后说:‘请您再说一遍好吗?’ 对于第二个问题,你可以说:‘我很想帮你,但我现在正忙着做……’(说出你正在忙的事情)。 记住,不要直接回应那些不当言论,而是请他们重复,这会让他们意识到自己的错误。这是一种更温和的方式,避免直接对抗。你可以说:‘请问您可以再说一遍吗?’或者‘我很乐意帮你,但是老板让我做……,我觉得我可能没时间帮你做这件事了。’ 这就像下棋一样,是一种更巧妙的策略。 如果你想避免冲突,可以打电话给我,告诉我情况,让我们一起想出更好的沟通方式。

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What is a professional way to handle a co-worker who doesn't think before they speak?

Ask them to repeat what they said. This approach forces them to reconsider their words, as it’s difficult to repeat something inappropriate or thoughtless. A calm and pleasant demeanor is key, such as saying, 'Would you mind repeating that?'

How should one respond to a co-worker trying to pass off duties without reciprocating help?

Politely decline by stating your current workload. For example, say, 'I’d love to help, but I’m busy with this.' This sets boundaries without escalating the situation.

Why is it effective to ask someone to repeat what they said when they speak without thinking?

Asking for repetition makes the speaker aware of their thoughtless comment, as they often realize their mistake upon hearing it again. This gentle approach avoids confrontation and encourages self-correction.

What is the recommended tone when addressing workplace conflicts?

Use a gentle and non-confrontational tone. For example, phrase responses like, 'Would you mind repeating that?' or 'I’d love to help, but I’m busy with this.' This approach minimizes tension and fosters a cooperative environment.

What is the broader strategy for handling workplace conflicts without confrontation?

Avoid direct confrontation by using subtle, strategic communication. Techniques include asking for clarification or politely declining additional tasks. This approach is likened to chess, where thoughtful moves prevent escalation.

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