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823: The Question Trap

2025/1/26
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Janelle Taylor
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Milo Kramer
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Tobin Low
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我搬进新家后,亲戚朋友们问‘谁比较擅长修理东西’,表面上是关心生活琐事,实际上是想探究在我的同性婚姻中谁扮演着更传统的‘男性’角色。这让我感到不舒服,因为这触及到我过去在成长过程中努力隐藏自己性取向的经历,以及对社会刻板印象的担忧。我不认为他们是有恶意,但这个问题确实让我感到被评判和被归类。

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An investigation of when and why people ask loaded questions that are a proxy for something else.

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  • Prologue: Host Ira Glass talks with producer Tobin Low about the question he got asked after he and his husband moved in together, and what he thinks people were really asking. (4 minutes)
  • Act One: “What do you think about Beyoncé?” and other questions raised by people on first dates. (12 minutes)
  • Act Two: When a common, seemingly innocuous question goes wildly off the rails. (13 minutes)
  • Act Three: Why are people asking me if my mother recognizes me, when it’s totally beside the point? (14 minutes)
  • Act Four: Schools ask their students the strangest essay questions sometimes. The experience of tutoring anxious teenagers through how to answer them requires a balladier, singing their lived experience to a crowd as though it were the Middle Ages. (10 minutes)

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