Jay felt they trespassed on the lives of Cedric and John, who were dealing with the terminal illness of one and the emotional burden of the other. Jay believed they were taking from them rather than giving, which made the experience morally wrong.
Jay struggled with the intrusion of their presence in a deeply private moment of Cedric and John's lives. They questioned whether it was their place to document such a difficult part of their journey, especially as John became sicker and more reluctant to share.
Jay bought strawberry ice cream, thinking it would show care and concern, but found that others had already provided for them. This made Jay feel even more out of place and intrusive.
The story highlighted the bond between two friends, one of whom was dying of cancer, and the other who sold his home to care for him. It illustrated the modern predicament of living far from family and the importance of community and friendship in such situations.
After years of reflection, Jay realized the importance of the story in showing how people can support each other in the absence of family. They reconciled their ethical concerns, though they still feel a mix of pride and discomfort when the story is aired.
Cedric listened to the story but never explicitly shared his thoughts with Jay. Their communication was limited, leaving Jay uncertain about Cedric's feelings regarding the piece.
The phrase was borrowed from the documentary 'Stranger with a Camera' (2000), which explored the exploitation of people living in poverty in Appalachia and the ethical questions surrounding media representation.
When should a reporter turn around a leave? At what point do should they say "I won't report on these people. They need their space, not a stranger with a microphone." Jay Nathan faced that exact situation some years ago reporting on a man who was dying of cancer and the friend taking care of him. But, instead of turning around and leaving, Jay stayed. Jay is still haunted by the decision.