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#301 Saying 'Sorry' Like a British Person

2024/12/4
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Michael Lavers: 本期节目探讨了在英国文化中使用“对不起”的多种场合及表达方式。在英国,“对不起”不仅仅用于表达对错误的歉意,还广泛用于各种社交场合,例如: 1. 占用他人时间或造成不便:例如在餐厅点餐、问路、没听清对方说话等情况下,用“对不起”开头可以使请求更礼貌,也更符合英国人的表达习惯。 2. 表达同情和移情:当听到他人遭遇不幸时,用“对不起”表达同情和理解,体现了英国人注重情感交流的特点。 3. 缓和语气:在表达不同意见时,用“对不起”开头可以使语气更柔和,避免显得咄咄逼人,这体现了英国人注重社交礼仪的文化特点。 4. 请求通行:在人多拥挤的场合,用“对不起”代替“打扰一下”请求通行,更显礼貌和体贴。 5. 在谈话中插话:在小组讨论或会议中,用“对不起”开头表示尊重他人时间,体现了英国人注重团队合作和沟通的文化特点。 节目中还详细讲解了不同等级的道歉表达方式,以及如何根据情境选择合适的表达方式,并结合自身经历,生动地阐述了不同语调下“对不起”的含义,以及如何避免因使用不当造成误解。

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Key Insights

Why do British people use the word 'sorry' in so many different situations?

British people use 'sorry' not just for admitting fault but also to show politeness, empathy, and to soften the tone of a conversation. It's used in situations like asking for help, expressing regret, or even when inconveniencing someone slightly.

Why is 'sorry' considered a better alternative to 'what' when you don't understand something?

Using 'sorry' is more polite and less blunt compared to 'what'. It shows that you are attentive and not causing any inconvenience intentionally.

Why is 'sorry' used to express empathy in English-speaking cultures?

In English-speaking cultures, 'sorry' is used to express empathy, especially in situations where someone is experiencing sadness or loss. It shows that you care about their feelings and are there to support them.

Why do British people use 'sorry' when they bump into someone, even in a crowded place?

British people use 'sorry' when they bump into someone to show politeness and acknowledge the inconvenience, even if the situation is minor and in a crowded place.

Why is 'sorry' used to soften a disagreement in English?

In English, 'sorry' is used to soften a disagreement, making it sound less harsh and argumentative. It shows respect for the other person's opinion while expressing your own.

Why is 'sorry' used to ask for permission to pass someone in a narrow space?

Using 'sorry' to ask for permission to pass someone in a narrow space is considered more polite and less confrontational than 'excuse me'. It shows respect and minimizes the request.

Why is 'sorry' used to interrupt a conversation in a group setting?

In a group setting, 'sorry' is used to interrupt a conversation politely. It shows respect for the time and attention of others while requesting to add a point or ask a question.

Why is it important to use the correct intonation when saying 'sorry'?

The intonation of 'sorry' can change its meaning. A rising intonation can indicate a request for repetition, while a more neutral tone can express genuine apology. Using the correct intonation ensures clear communication.

Why is 'sorry' used sarcastically, and what does it convey?

A sarcastic 'sorry' is used when someone is annoyed and doesn't think they should be apologizing. It often emphasizes the word and can convey frustration or annoyance with the other person.

Why is 'I apologise' used instead of 'sorry' in more formal situations?

'I apologise' is used in more formal situations because it sounds more sincere and respectful. It is often used in writing or in professional contexts to show a higher level of formality and respect.

Why is 'I am ever so sorry' used for more serious apologies?

'I am ever so sorry' is used for more serious apologies to convey a deep sense of regret and sincerity. It is often used when the mistake has caused significant inconvenience or harm.

Why is 'please forgive me' used in apologies for significant mistakes?

'Please forgive me' is used to ask for forgiveness and to show that you understand the gravity of your mistake. It is often used in situations where the mistake has caused significant harm or inconvenience.

Why is 'I feel deeply apologetic' used for very serious apologies?

'I feel deeply apologetic' is used to express a very strong sense of regret and remorse. It is often used when the mistake has caused significant emotional or physical harm and requires a deep and sincere apology.

Chapters
This chapter explores the various contexts in which British people use the word 'sorry', beyond simple apologies for mistakes. It examines how 'sorry' is used to express empathy, soften disagreements, and navigate everyday social interactions.
  • British people use 'sorry' in many situations beyond admitting fault.
  • 'Sorry' can express empathy, soften disagreements, and replace 'excuse me'.
  • The indirect politeness of using 'sorry' is a cultural aspect of English communication.

Shownotes Transcript

You may know that British people are famous for using the word 'sorry' all the time.In this episode, I talk about this habit and how much truth is behind it, but I also share the different situations in which we would say 'sorry' in the UK - and maybe more generally in the English-speaking world too.Sorry is so much more than a word used when you make a mistake and it can have many different meanings. There are also many different ways to apologise and say you're sorry depending on how serious the situation is, so in the second half of this episode, I cover these different phrases.Show notes page - https://levelupenglish.school/podcast301)

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