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心理:缺乏安全感是什么样的

2019/5/10
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What is the definition of an insecure person?) Jane Olaguer), I had an unpleasant encounter with an insecure person ) An insecure person is,) )Someone who extremely lacks )self confidence). He or she won't know their worth and they would dislike their physical appearance. Not feeling good) enough, feeling sorry for themselves, feeling sorry for people who look at them. Insecure people are really kind at heart, they just don't love themselves. Due to the influence of others, be kind. Words do hurt, what you say matters. Their insecurity results from low self-esteem), often due to rejection or a humiliating experience as a child. They feel socially inadequate), causing them to worry about what people think about them. They want to be liked by people and will go out of their way to please others, because they don’t want people to get mad at them. They constantly compare themselves to their peers and others to see how they “stack up)” against the perceived “competition.” They will often insult or bully others to feel better about themselves. They will also lie about their alleged “success” to impress people. They basically hide their real self to avoid being rejected or despised, when most of their perceptions are false. For example: An insecure male will often be controlling in his relationship, because he feels he is not worthy) of having his woman and therefore, fears his girlfriend will find a better man. He gets angry and jealous if another man only looks at his woman in admiration. He will listen to other people’s conversations in order to hear if they are talking bad about him, or will read through his woman’s text messages and diary) to see if she is betraying him.