They turned their painful family experience, including a public divorce, into a sitcom called 'Lopez vs. Lopez' to explore their father-daughter relationship with humor and emotional distance.
The family was filled with humor; they communicated through jokes and often performed bits together. Her parents were affectionate, and there were no obvious problems in the family.
Mayan and her father were estranged for many years after the divorce. She felt betrayed and couldn't be in the same room with him without bursting into tears. It took her until she was 16 to cut him off completely.
Humor was a constant in their household. They communicated through jokes and often performed bits as a family, even mimicking strangers they saw on the street.
During the COVID-19 pandemic, Mayan's father, who was immunocompromised, started visiting her and her mother. They rekindled their bond through small, affectionate moments, and Mayan saw a glimmer of their past love.
Family to her is a tether, a shape that can form even if it’s not perfect. The fact that her parents and she can come together and form a triangle, even if not all the time, means everything to her.
The turning point came when she decided to cut him off at 16 after years of trying to forgive him. It wasn’t until they worked together on 'Lopez vs. Lopez' that their relationship improved.
The divorce made her avoid confrontation in her own relationships, leading her to break up at the first sign of tension. It wasn’t until she met her future husband that she learned to navigate conflict in a healthy way.
Mayan's mother donated a kidney to her father when Mayan was eight. It was a one-in-three-million chance that they were a match, and her mother saw it as the greatest gift she could give—the gift of life.
Mayan takes stories from her real life, including her parents' reconciliation, and incorporates them into the show. For example, she wrote an episode where her character brings her parents together for Christmas, mirroring her own experience.
The actress and producer Mayan Lopez has seen a majority of her life play out on television.
Her father, the comedian George Lopez, produced and starred in a hit ’90s sitcom based on his real-life relationship with Ann Serrano, Mayan’s mother. But their fictionalized story became a reality when she watched her parents go through a very messy, public divorce.
The experience could have shattered the family beyond repair. But more than a decade later, Mayan and her father have turned their painful experience into another sitcom on NBC, based on their relationship. It’s all very meta. The show is called “Lopez vs. Lopez.”
Mayan reads a Modern Love essay about a daughter who also watched her parents’ marriage fall apart, but then as an adult sees them repair their relationship. The essay, “The Original Conscious Uncouplers),” by Cole Kazdin, explores what it means to redefine what a family means after divorce.
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