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Andrew Garfield Wants to Crack Open Your Heart

2024/10/9
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Andrew Garfield: 这部电影并非出于职业考量，而是源于我对人生阶段的反思和探索，电影主题与我当时的内心状态高度契合。拍摄过程如同雕塑或制陶，帮助我将内心的感受转化为具体的艺术形式，从而达到疗愈和释放的效果。电影中的细微日常瞬间旨在展现爱情的普遍性和真实性，让观众在其中找到共鸣，并反思自身的情感经历。人生的本质在于不断地放手，而非执着于拥有，珍惜当下才是最重要的。我从耶稣会士那里学习到了一种珍惜生活点滴的修行方法，即每天晚上回顾当天感受到生命活力和与自身连接的时刻。我敬佩那些能够轻盈地生活，并慷慨地将自己的生命经验奉献给他人的人。只有经历过心碎，才能真正体验到生命的活力，因为心的扩张是通过不断地裂开实现的。“唯我论”的概念是认识到自身经验的有限性，这正是人生的意义所在。艺术能够触及我们内心深处，带我们到达其他方式无法企及的地方。电影中人物对生活的渴望代表了所有人的共同愿望：获得公平的机会去创造属于自己的人生。对失去的悲伤是源于对连接和爱的渴望，不应该对此感到羞耻。社会文化中压抑情感、避免脆弱的观念阻碍了人们建立真挚的连接。在当今世界，人们容易感到绝望、麻木和孤立，但对连接、爱和冒险的渴望依然存在于每个人心中。“成为最好的囚徒”指的是在人生的限制中，努力成为最好的自己。人生的意义在于努力活出自己的本真，并最终能够坦然面对人生的终结。虽然我们表面上看似彼此独立，但实际上我们每个人都独自存在于自身的局限之中。时间是相互连接的，过去的遗憾可以成为指引未来的明灯。追寻内心的渴望需要勇气，因为这可能会带来心碎，但同时也是通往充实人生的道路。我的人生渴望包括：爱、连接、勇敢地生活、创造有意义的事物、拥有美好的友谊和家庭关系，以及处理好自身的人际关系边界。我目前正在努力处理自身生活中存在的依赖性问题，希望能够更好地界定自我与他人的界限。这次访谈中能够坦诚表达自己的脆弱，并感到安全，是一件非常宝贵的事情。 Anna Martin: 电影《我们生活在当下》真实地展现了爱情故事中细微日常的瞬间，这些瞬间构成了爱情的基石，也让观众产生共鸣。

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Why did Andrew Garfield choose the Modern Love essay 'Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss' to read?

The essay resonated deeply with Garfield, feeling both familiar and transformative. He felt it was a perfect fit for his emotional state and the themes he was exploring in his life and career.

What does Andrew Garfield hope audiences take away from the film 'We Live in Time'?

Garfield hopes viewers feel connected to their own lives through the film's intimate, everyday moments, which reflect the universal experiences of love, loss, and the passage of time.

How does Andrew Garfield describe the concept of 'onism' in relation to life?

Onism refers to the awareness of the limited experiences one can have due to being confined to a single body and life. Garfield sees it as a reminder of the finite nature of human existence, which makes life both meaningful and sorrowful.

What does Andrew Garfield believe about the role of art in human life?

Garfield believes art is essential for cracking open the heart and accessing emotions that might otherwise remain hidden. It allows people to connect deeply with themselves and others, especially in moments of vulnerability.

How does Andrew Garfield view the concept of 'letting go' in life?

Garfield sees life as a series of letting go, where holding on is impossible. He emphasizes the importance of savoring moments and accepting the transient nature of existence, which he learned from the Jesuits and his own experiences.

What does Andrew Garfield think about the idea of 'the prison' in life?

Garfield views 'the prison' as the physical and temporal limitations of human life, such as the body, time, and individual experiences. He believes the goal is to be the best version of oneself within these constraints, living fully despite the limitations.

How has playing Tobias in 'We Live in Time' influenced Andrew Garfield's perspective on grief and loss?

The role helped Garfield honor the experience of grief and loss, teaching him to accept the inevitability of letting go. It also reinforced the importance of balancing the present with the future in relationships and life.

What are some of Andrew Garfield's personal longings in life?

Garfield longs for love, connection, and the courage to live authentically. He desires meaningful relationships, creative expression, and a life that balances independence with interdependence, particularly in overcoming codependency.

Shownotes Transcript

In the new movie “We Live in Time,” the actor Andrew Garfield plays a newly divorced man named Tobias who falls in love with a chef named Almut, played by Florence Pugh. Their story feels epic and expansive, but still intimate. It focuses on the small, everyday moments that make up a love story: washing dishes together after a dinner party, sharing biscuits, smelling fruit at a farmers’ market. These are the moments that sustain them through Almut’s excruciatingly difficult medical crisis.

In this episode, Garfield reads the Modern Love essay “Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss,” by Chris Huntington.) His reading was unlike any other in the history of this show. Mr. Garfield was so moved by Mr. Huntington’s essay that he spoke in a surprisingly raw way with the host Anna Martin about the need for art to crack us all open, including himself.

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