How To Make The Greatest Comeback Of Your Life
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Most people feel trapped. Their mind feels narrow and small. They can't escape the bubble of repetitive negative thoughts. They lack clarity on what to do with their life. They don't know that one thing they want to commit to because everyone in the self-help space yells at them to focus on one thing, but that completely misses the point. You don't focus on one thing. You focus on one mission, which requires you to learn many things. If you only focus on one thing, that's a surefire way to make yourself dependent on

on that thing so that you can adapt and therefore you are replaceable they have these random ambitions like gaining some followers on social media starting some random business they found out about online trying to get a girl to in their loneliness or any other thing they can latch on to for some sense of direction in their life those things in particular like building a business seem worthwhile because at least it's a different path from the dead end one that our botched culture set them on

It's no wonder why most people fail to start. It's no wonder why they question everything they do. It's no wonder why most people struggle to achieve anything worthwhile. So they slowly start to accept that maybe they were meant to be average. Maybe you were meant to wake up, hit snooze four times, walk the dog, commute to work, act like you enjoy the people there, act like you care about your task, commute home, argue with your significant other, watch TV, pass out.

Repeat. But there's something missing. You're trying to achieve freedom with a mind that was conditioned to be a servant. That's like trying to put a square block in a circular hole. It will never work.

I want to start this section off with a sentence that I think will help. The greatest skill you can develop is the ability to figure it out. That's what we need to talk about. We need to talk about how to figure out what you want out of life. And I can guarantee you right now that it doesn't come from someone else, even me, telling you what you should do. Why is that?

It's because humans are natural generalists. Humans build tools to adapt to different niches and environments. Animals, on the other hand, like lions in the Sahara or polar bears in Alaska, wouldn't survive if they were thrown into a different niche. And this extends beyond physical tools. Humans invented mental tools like language,

culture, religion, and stories so they could build, adapt, and acquire the skills and knowledge necessary to adapt to any niche. This is the ability that makes us unique. This is the ability that most people have lost. You see, as children, we love to adventure. We love to discover. We love to figure things out. We make mistakes and learn from them. We touch fire.

But then, our learning stops being about real mistakes. It starts being about the traits our parents and teachers dislike in us. The traits they find annoying or uncivilized. The traits they don't think will lead to the version of success they were conditioned to believe is the only one true path. And they haven't opened their mind to the discovery that there is never only one true path.

And what is that one true path that they want you to go on? It's the reason you feel so lost, overwhelmed, anxious, confused and the rest. Your parents didn't teach you the singular trait that we are going to go over that allows you to figure out what you want. The world changes. Things change. You being conditioned with the mind of your parents who lived in the last generation and probably didn't if they aren't in the top 1%,

then they probably don't have a mind that got even results in their generation so you're listening to them tell you something that they think will bring success in their generation

not ours. So you feel lost and overwhelmed because you have no idea what to do. You're doing these things and you don't see what could come of them because you know better. You're the one that's learning things online. You're the one that's studying these different books and expanding your mind. And you're trying to battle against this 18 years of code being wired into your brain. And that's painful.

The path that was supposed to be safe and secure was the complete opposite. You were plopped in front of a government-trained expert trained by government-trained experts who are clearly not doing what you want to do in life for six hours each day, being told what to learn and how to act while constantly being prodded toward the status symbol of a job and degree. And if you understand how the mind works, you understand that the goals that compose your worldview, which are fancy degrees and high-paying jobs for most people, determine your mind's potential development

and freedom. You were trained to be a specialist. You were solely focused on becoming a doctor, lawyer, artist, designer, engineer, or any other self-limiting identity that shaped what you were able to perceive and learn. You failed to develop agency. You failed to explore, make mistakes, discover, and build by your own desire, not someone else's. You failed to develop the singular trait of a free individual.

Because in the past, free men or just free people in general were expected to act on their own interest. They were expected to do what they want, explore new places, navigate the world, discover new things. And in order to do that, they had to learn many things. If you're so focused on learning one skill or getting one degree or going to one job, by definition, you limit how much you can learn. You are overestimating.

only learning within this narrow little box and your mind becomes that and you're not giving yourself enough credit for your ability to learn more things you can actually do this but you just spend your days doing anything aside from that because you only have one goal a specialist goal of

getting the job, getting the degree, learning one skill, learning one specific thing when your mind can do so much more than that. I mean, your mind is able to render reality. It's the fastest supercomputer in the world. The thing with this is that the greatest designers or the greatest artists or the greatest writers were only great designers.

because they had experience in other domains, not because they went to some high status school and somehow studied the curriculum that everyone else is going through better than them. When you're studying the same thing as everyone else, you may be able to have different insights, but you're still studying the same things as everyone else. What makes a great designer is not how well they understand Photoshop.

Think about that. A free individual is the opposite of a government trained specialist or someone who is viewed as a machine for labor, a useful worker or a slave. The thing with this, when I mentioned this in previous videos, is that not everyone, I would say maybe 1% of people get upset because they close their mind. They're proving my point when I say they are these things.

But the thing here is that I'm no different. The people who don't react to this specific thing are any different. We're all slaves in our own regard. It's not physical, it's mental because we're learning to navigate this world. The only thing that I'm trying to do, I'm not trying to make you feel bad. You are making yourself feel bad and reacting because of it, because of how you perceive what I'm saying right now when that's not the intention at all. My intention is

is to make you aware of something so you can improve your life. And if you see it any different from that, then that's going to be difficult to overcome. Okay, so I danced around the point of it and how to figure out what you want out of life, but it's absolutely necessary that you have awareness on what you don't want out of life. I'm digging deep. I'm

I'm exaggerating the point. I'm saying you're a slave and you're all these other things when I know you're not a slave. You're not in physical chains right now. But metaphorically, the concept of what one is, you could potentially be that in some area of your life. So by becoming aware of that, because most slaves don't know they're slaves because it's just the norm, it's being average. If we want to define what a slave is, it's being average.

Now that you're aware of that and what you don't want, you don't want to be average, simple as that, and you're aware of all of the many negative ramifications that come along with that, now we can start moving in a better direction because you need to move away from something in order to move towards something. So I'll start this with another sentence to help frame what we're going to talk about. The greatest mistake is not me.

making mistakes. Because the thing is, you're different. You're aware of this. You're observant. Maybe a bit quiet. Afraid to speak your mind because they won't listen anyway. But that silence is killing you. You tried to fit in. You tried to trust others with your future. You tried to demonize money, success, and the rest because people told you that you don't need it to live a good life, but you need to build

because that's how you contribute to others, connect to something greater than yourself and embark on a unique journey that brings an end to robotic living because you have the money to remove your dependency from that robotic living. We'll talk about this in another video, and I've talked about it in past videos, but

Money wasn't a necessity to go out and explore and discover new things in the past. It still isn't in many regards today, but it is a multiplier. It is a catalyst for being able to discover, build, explore, make mistakes, connect to something bigger than yourself, contribute to others. Money is simply a piece of paper.

It has the meaning that you assign to it. And many people who assign this negative thing because they lack an understanding or awareness of how the world works, then again, they become the S-word to that thing. A good way to test whether or not you are an S-word to...

money is when I mention money or that it can be good, do you have a reaction to it? Why does a word like money have so much control over your mind? But the thing with all of this is that you're still looking for that one true path. And I'm here to tell you that there isn't one. If there was, we would have found it by now and everyone would be rich, happy, and healthy. But that's not how reality works. Things will never always be happy. Why? Because happy doesn't make sense without sad.

a hand doesn't exist without an arm the physical biological mental and spiritual planes all contain this pattern one thing cannot exist without the other when you go on vacation for say two to three weeks eventually it becomes normal to you it starts to become boring it starts to become everyday life you aren't discovering anything new you go to the vacation and you get all this dopamine because you're like wow this is a new place oh that's beautiful but then once you're there for three weeks it's just like

If you were back home, but now you don't have anything to do. You don't have any work or business or purpose or project to focus on because you're on vacation. And so now when it gets normal, you just want to go back to work. You want to go back to your normal life. You want to do something, anything that allows you to explore and discover since you're on vacation and it's become normal. You miss out on that. And so now you want to go home. But since you've already tapped

that out of the vacation. Now you want to go home so you can experience something relatively new. But then if you don't focus,

You're going to be searching for that discovery and exploration that your mind craves inside of your phone or on social media or by scrolling or with video games or with Netflix at night or any of this other novelty that you can find at the click of a button and get that short term dopamine hit that slowly makes it so you stay the same.

You feel like you're discovering things, but you stay the same. And if you understand entropy, you understand that you aren't staying the same. You are slowly decaying into chaos. All of this is leading up to say one thing. You aren't where you want to be because you're afraid of making mistakes. And I cannot express that enough. If there were

One single sentence from which to orient your life, it would be that. Mistakes are nature's compass. If happiness can't exist without sadness, success can't exist without failure. It's a universal law, a pattern of reality, a phenomenon that has been around since the first sign of life because something can exist without nothing. You can make mistakes on the conventional path, schools and jobs, but you are still working towards a narrow goal.

The mistakes don't lead toward a new, better path. They simply lead you to feeling sorry for yourself. When you decide to be free and reject the goals assigned to you at birth that made you think small and trapped you in this negative bubble of thoughts, your mistakes are your light in the dark. But you don't know what you want.

That's the problem. You don't realize that you will never know what you want. It's in the future. It doesn't exist. It's imaginary. Life changes. What you want now could and will absolutely be different tomorrow, the next day, and the next decade. But you'll never embark on this process of refinement and purification because you can't seem to allow yourself to fail. Failure and mistakes are the process of refinement and purification of your character.

What you want out of life becomes more clear when you realize what you don't want out of life and work in the other direction. Since you haven't made any mistakes on your own path, it's obvious why you don't know what you want out of life. So my advice is to do what you want,

without permission from someone else. That's agency. Go to the party, get drunk, start the business, scroll on your phone all night, do whatever your little heart desires. Seriously, because denying those desires is only going to bind you to them. But here's the catch. You need to be able to realize when those things

are a mistake. Getting drunk every night isn't a mistake if you don't have meaningful responsibilities to wake up to every morning. It's not hurting your ability to achieve the goal. Managing parties and alcohol or other vices becomes a lot easier when it impacts something more important than parties and alcohol. Since something like your schooling and jobs

aren't more important than those things, then you don't care to go out, get drunk, get messed up, come back in the morning, feel like crap, go to the job because you don't care how you perform on that thing. If you do that, then you are not happy in your job because it's not important to you. I don't care how much you justify to yourself.

of, oh, it's I just like the structure of a job or I like this. If you're doing all of these things around the job that impact your performance at the job, I'm assuming that you don't have anything to pour energy into. And per psychology, per almost any text you could read on this topic, you are not fulfilled because you haven't invested into something. You haven't

poured your heart and soul into something so that it becomes your purpose, so that you are passionate about it, so that you don't want to do this partying, drinking, playing video games, ruining your health because you don't want to impact your performance on that one thing because that's the source of your fulfillment and happiness. You need your own goals to pursue, not ones that were assigned to you. If you don't create a purpose, you will be assigned one. And you can only create those goals if

and not be susceptible to other goals or purposes that are trying to be assigned to you by society at every waking second, you need to get absolutely fed up with where you are and reject everything that you thought was true. You need to start from scratch.

To break things down even further, we now need to talk about how to make the greatest comeback of your life because you understand how to get what you want. If you missed it in that last section, how to figure out what you want, it's trial and error. That's it. I could go in and I could explain how that works in multiple different examples and situations in your life.

but it's trial and error you make mistakes because mistakes give you direction and if you latch on to this goal and this path and this prescription that someone else created for you you think you're going to get the same results as them but you're probably not going to a lot of the times you may if those results are mediocre and easy to acquire and everyone else in society is doing them like getting a job getting a degree getting everything else but then it's not fulfilling because everything everyone else is doing it you're not unique so you understand how

to pave the way. You're just afraid to start and go into the unknown. So let's wrap this up and start this next section with a quote from Krishnamurti. Tradition becomes our security, and when the mind is secure, it is in decay. Entropy. When it's secure, when it's stable, when you think you're just staying the same or you're just chilling, you're not. You're in decay, and it's very slow. So it's like going on the vacation.

You don't really notice it becoming normal and then it becomes normal and you're like, holy crap I'm in a much more terrible situation than I was and it's so much harder to dig out Once you let that go for too long life is tricky In that way where you dig yourself into this hole and you don't even realize it and when you do realize it it becomes

becomes very difficult to get out. You cannot make discoveries in the known. It just doesn't make sense. Please realize that. You absolutely cannot live a full, open, and non-robotic life if you operate by what your parents and teachers planted in your head. Sure, you can be happy at times, like all people are, but being deeply fulfilled is a different story. Most people haven't experienced that feeling because it's a

known to them so they don't bother searching for it and instead project their insecurities by telling you how fulfilled they are working as a robot would. The lines of code are engraved on their brain. And again, you can't perceive what is a mistake if you don't have a goal that allows you to. So living the life you live now is perfectly fine to you until you finally set your

and cultivate a new goal. You develop a reason behind it. You understand what you don't want out of life, set the goal, and now you have a frame from which to operate from so that you can fix the mistakes in your lifestyle. You must launch into the unknown, feel as if you are drowning, and learn how to swim. That is how you learn anything

and that is why most people learn nothing. They would rather jump off the deep end, complain about how hard it is as if it were supposed to be any other way, or as if something that is hard is bad or negative rather than reality itself, and then blame anyone but themselves for their inability to do anything without it being given to them. So what do you do? How do you learn? How do you make the greatest comeback of your life?

The first step is to get mad at where you are. Because the best periods of my life, as I've said before, came after getting absolutely fed up with the lack of progress that I was making. I didn't care what I did. I just had to do something. I would try anything to get out of that situation. Most people would call that desperation desperation.

but I would call it a mind that's hungry to learn, grow, and evolve to the next level. The goal isn't to immediately find one thing that eases your pain after jumping into the unknown. The goal is to accept a radical shift in how you live. You must realize that all of your actions compounded to where you are right now, and if you continue doing those things, you will remain where you are.

The only real change is behavior change, so say goodbye to almost everything you hold onto so tightly right now that you think aren't that bad. You clearly can't manage them well. You must become disgusted with where you are. You must fabricate a mental rock bottom. Write down everything you don't want in life. The stupid mind, the pudgy body, the sluggish energy, the dead-end relationships.

reject them. You're allowed to be extremely negative as negative energy is much more potent than positive, but you must channel it toward forging a new identity. I'm not telling you to make simple habit changes or take the soft approach to change. I'm telling you to completely flip the switch overnight, because if you do this correctly, if you gain absolute awareness on what you don't want out of life, then this isn't a difficult

process. What I mean by that is if you gain absolute awareness of what you don't want in life, then you will never do those things again. If you want to do those things again, you do not have absolute awareness of where that will lead you in life. You don't understand the pain and the stupidity of doing those things yet. And when you do that, you won't want to do anything other than the opposite of that thing.

When you reach that point through contemplation and really understanding what you don't want in life, you disappear for three months minimum. In other words, you cut off all of the anchors that are holding you in the situation that you're in. Because with this, if you don't have a vision, you are lost. The negative energy has nowhere to go. So it gets trapped and wreaks havoc in your mind. Psychic energy.

Entropy. If you don't have a meaningful path, system, or goal to invest that energy into, you decay. But a vision doesn't start out clear. It starts as an educated guess. You won't be confident in it. I think I want to try this business. I think I want to read this book.

And that's all it takes to begin reprogramming your mind in a positive direction by redirecting energy toward a better life. Now, if you want to map these things out, you want to write down what you don't want out of life, what you want out of life, and then be able to break it down into weekly goals and priority tasks on what you're supposed to do. There's, if you join the newsletter, there is a document. I'll actually just link the document as well that you can download to duplicate to

to cortex and fill it out. Now that you're brutally aware of what you don't want, laser in on what you think you want. Fix your physical diet. Fix your mental diet. Go on more walks. Learn a new skill. Go to the gym. Fix your physical diet. Fix your mental diet. Go on more walks. Learn a new skill. Go to the gym. Talk to someone new today. You're in the unknown, for Christ's sake. Yes, it's going to be a bit uncomfortable, but that doesn't take away from the fact that a mediocre life is the most uncomfortable thing in the world.

Once you realize that, truly realize it, everything else doesn't seem so bad. Give yourself three months, not two weeks. You need enough time to invest the right amount of energy to the point of seeing that thing as important. Like a song you don't like, but when you listen to it enough,

it becomes your favorite song. The gym isn't going to be fun the first time. The skill is going to be difficult the first time. But as your skill begins to match the challenge of the situation, you begin to find the game extremely addicting to the point where it's all you want to do. When many people learn something new, especially when they haven't been in school for a long time, the first thing they say is usually, oh, this is overwhelming, or this is really hard. Yeah, it is. You're learning something. It's something that you don't know. It's in the unknown. It's

It's scary. It's dark. You don't know what's going on. Overwhelm and struggle and mistakes and all of these other things are signals that you're moving in the right direction. It's a signal that you're moving toward a better life and not staying in the comfortable life. If it were comfortable, it wouldn't be worth doing. It wouldn't be a challenge. It wouldn't push you to grow.

so that leads us into our last point to tie everything together if it wasn't a mistake you didn't learn a thing because again the best decisions of my life are the ones that most people think are stupid and it's actually quite fun because i can give myself permission to do these stupid things and discover so much in the process a lot of people hold themselves back from doing these stupid things which is smart for many people if they can't pull through or they're ruining their lives doing it but just be smart about these things

The most massive mistakes in my life are the ones that have led to the most growth. In 2018, I maxed out my first credit card to try to make a business work. In 2019, I got rid of everything I owned except for a bag of clothes and my laptop and flew to a different country. In 2020, I signed a lease on an apartment that was 2x what I could afford, and this forced me to make my business work. The catch here is that these don't start as mistakes. They start as risks. The pay

payoff of that risk is the mistake because if that risk only led to success, you wouldn't learn a thing and you wouldn't be able to replicate it. So am I telling you to do something that's absolutely stupid and you know you shouldn't do? No, you need at least a shred of self-belief that you think you can make it work. You're not just going and doubling your rent.

because it'll somehow magic. Again, you're searching for the quick fix. If you have the quick fix mindset and you think, oh yeah, if I just go double my rent, then I'll make 10 times more in my business. No, you have to understand the process of putting yourself in a stressful situation. It has to be calculated to the point where you know that you don't have any other option, but you're

Success. So why does this work? Why does this work if you have things right and you aren't just doing it for the quick fix? Reason one is that goldfish grow to fit the tank you put them in. But if you keep them in a small bowl, they never grow. The same is true for your mind. Reason number two is

is Parkinson's law. Work expands so as to fill the time allotted for completion. But when you launch yourself into the unknown, you threaten your survival and you have less time to become a success. Reason number three is the theme of going full circle. So imagine a straight line with black on one end and white on the other end blended in between with a gradient. So it's a black to white gradient on the line. Now, if you connect the two ends so it forms a circle, there is an instant flip from black to white.

A joke that's so unfunny that it becomes funny. Someone who is so dumb, they become insightful. Someone who is in so much pain that they have no option but to find enjoyment. This is a universal pattern. Leverage it. And there's a psychology behind it. By setting a challenging goal that deep down you know you can achieve, you create a real deadline which eliminates distractions. It leverages your survival instincts to

quickly learn what's necessary to stay alive so your mind focuses on only the important things. So what do you do? One, feel into your situation. Become brutally aware of the life you don't want to live. Let your mind simmer with negativity. Two, launch into the unknown. Make a stupid decision. Force yourself to pursue the dream you've been putting off. Sink and

or swim and understand that you can learn how to swim. Three is learn and build like a mad scientist. Perform emotional alchemy with the stress, pain, and overwhelm. Channel everything into that one meaningful goal. Study and learn while your mind is primed to store all relevant information. You'll make it through.

Thank you for watching. Like, subscribe. Links in the description if you want to learn a high income skill like digital writing or if you just want a starting point for all of these things. But if you grab a course or you grab my book or you grab Cortex or whatever it is, build the project. Start building the project. Supplement with the education. Don't just go through the course and then forget about it like everyone does. That's it. Thank you for watching. Bye.