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The Self-Care Delusion: Why It Can't Fix Everything

2024/11/21
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Jonathan Fields:本期节目的核心观点是,过度依赖自我保健并不能解决所有问题,尤其当个人生活与核心价值观严重脱节时。通过讲述自己患带状疱疹的经历,他指出即使拥有良好的自我保健习惯,如果工作和生活方式存在根本性错位,身体也会发出警报。他强调,自我保健无法弥补因违背核心价值观而造成的损害,也无法补偿因目标错位而导致的意义、连接和快乐的稀释。他建议人们关注工作方式是否符合“少而精”的原则,并呼吁人们重新调整生活与核心价值观的一致性。 Rosemary Watola Trummer:Rosemary Watola Trummer的观点是,创作的重点在于真实,而非完美。她分享了自己每天写诗的经历,指出并非每天都能写出优秀的诗歌,但重要的是保持真实的表达。她认为,这种坚持真实的创作实践改变了她看待世界的方式,也让她在创作中找到了可持续性。

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Key Insights

Why can't self-care practices fix fundamental misalignments in life?

Self-care practices can't compensate for core misalignments in areas like relationships, health, or work. For instance, if work is overwhelming and not aligned with personal values, no amount of meditation or healthy habits can fix the underlying issue.

What led to Jonathan Fields' shingles outbreak?

Fields' shingles outbreak was likely triggered by stress and a dysregulated nervous system, despite his extensive self-care practices, including meditation, hiking, and healthy eating.

How did Jonathan Fields' work overload contribute to his health crisis?

Fields was juggling multiple projects simultaneously, violating his own mantra of 'fewer things better.' This overload led to burnout and a breakdown in his immune system, culminating in shingles.

What is the dark side of self-awareness mentioned in the podcast?

Self-awareness can reveal how 'weird' we are, leading to self-judgment and fear of how others perceive us. This can result in self-loathing and a stifled life, despite knowing oneself better.

What is the key difference between 'good' and 'true' in creative practices?

The distinction lies in the focus: 'good' emphasizes excellence, which can be limiting, while 'true' allows for authenticity and sustainability. Creators can always be true, even on days when they can't achieve 'good.'

What are the three delusions of becoming discussed in the podcast?

The three delusions are: 1) elevating control over serendipity, 2) living in the friction of push rather than the lushness of pull, and 3) forsaking the present in the name of shaping the future.

How does the concept of 'invincible summer' relate to personal resilience?

The 'invincible summer' concept, from Albert Camus, suggests that even in the midst of hardship, we carry within us the potential for joy and resilience, acting as sources of warmth and possibility.

What is the misfortune in not loving, as per Albert Camus?

Camus argues that while bad luck may prevent us from being loved, it is a misfortune to withhold love. We have the agency to give love, even if we don't always control being loved in return.

Shownotes Transcript

Stuck using self-care as a quick fix for deeper dissatisfaction? Jonathan Fields' provocative spoken essay from his "Awake at the Wheel" Substack unmasks the dangerous self-care delusion trapping so many.

Discover why fleeting "treat yourself" moments merely numb the real crisis - your life is fundamentally out of alignment with core values. This is an essential reality check about self-care's limits and the courageous self-inquiry required to realign your increasingly frantic modern life.

You can find Jonathan's new writing project: Awake at the Wheel) | Instagram) | Episode Transcript)

**If you LOVED this episode **you'll also love the written essays from this episode. You can find them at Awake at the Wheel).

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