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How to protect your emotional health during the holidays | Guy Winch

2024/12/23
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Guy Winch: 如同身体需要急救一样,我们的情绪也需要急救。我们需要积极对待情绪创伤,例如拒绝、失败、心碎或孤独等经历。这些经历会对我们的身心健康产生重大影响,但它们是可以被治愈的。疫情后,人们对情绪健康的关注度提高了,但实际情况是情绪健康状况在恶化,例如孤独症的流行和工作场所压力的增加。因此,情绪急救比以往任何时候都重要。节假日是情绪容易波动的时间,因为环境变化(如季节性情绪障碍)、回家后的情绪波动(重温家庭角色)以及节日的压力(难以达到理想状态)共同作用。新闻不再仅仅是信息来源,也成为了重要的压力来源,需要主动管理信息摄入量和时间。情绪急救的预警信号包括行为、心理和情绪上的变化,例如:过度焦虑、难以集中注意力、生活习惯改变等。情绪急救需要付出努力,主动关注情绪状态,避免自我伤害行为,并积极采取措施改善情绪。健康的反思方式是既要看到积极方面(学习成功经验),也要看到消极方面(从失败中学习),并以非评判性的方式进行分析。节日期间应对失恋或丧亲之痛,关键在于减少对失去的人的思念,并积极填补生活中的空缺。健康地使用社交媒体的关键在于主动使用而非被动浏览,避免在情绪低落时被动浏览,加剧负面情绪。应对有毒的人际关系,需要主动设置界限,并坚持维护这些界限,不必试图改变对方的想法,只需改变他们的行为。 Whitney Pennington-Rogers: (引导问题,未表达核心观点)

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Why is emotional first aid more important now than ever?

Emotional first aid is crucial because there's a global epidemic of loneliness, especially among teens and young adults, and workplace stress and burnout are at an all-time high. These factors make emotional health more critical than ever.

What makes the holiday season particularly challenging for emotional health?

The holiday season is emotionally challenging due to seasonal affective disorder caused by reduced light, the pressure to feel happy during holidays, and the emotional time travel of reconnecting with family, which can bring up both positive and negative memories.

How does social media impact emotional health, especially during the holidays?

Social media can negatively impact emotional health by showing others in their best moments, which can make you feel worse if you're already feeling down. It's important to use social media actively, like reaching out to friends, rather than passively scrolling when feeling low.

What are some red flags to look out for when assessing emotional health?

Red flags include changes in behavior, mental state, mood, and habits. For example, if you're more distracted, less focused, or your usual routines are disrupted, it could indicate emotional stress that needs attention.

What are three key strategies for emotional first aid?

First, pay attention to how you're feeling and functioning. Second, avoid making emotional wounds worse by being self-critical or avoiding anxiety-inducing situations. Third, be proactive by using tools and techniques to heal emotionally.

How can reflecting on the past year be done in a healthy way?

Reflecting on the past year should include both successes and failures. Focus on what worked and what didn't, and analyze failures without being self-critical. This helps identify patterns and learn how to overcome obstacles in the future.

What is the goal of recovering from heartbreak during the holidays?

The goal of recovering from heartbreak is to think about the person less and less, reducing their presence in your thoughts. Avoid actions that keep the pain alive, like checking their social media or revisiting mementos.

How can employers support employees' emotional health during the holidays?

Employers should give employees a true break from work, avoiding expectations like checking emails or attending meetings. This allows employees to recharge, which increases productivity and engagement when they return.

What is the role of kindness in emotional health?

Kindness improves emotional health by making you feel connected and useful. Acts of kindness, whether to friends or strangers, create a positive feedback loop that benefits both the giver and the receiver.

Why is humanity becoming more stressed and insecure?

Humanity is becoming more stressed because when things are bad, people tend to reinforce negative behaviors, like avoiding social situations due to loneliness or becoming self-critical after failures. This creates a vicious cycle of emotional decline.

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The end of the year is often a time to reflect and spend time with family — activities that may seem joyful or anxiety-inducing, depending on your circumstances. Psychologist Guy Winch offers actionable advice on how to manage your emotions with confidence during the holidays, from setting boundaries to healing heartache — above all reminding you that emotional health is possible, as long as you're informed and willing to do the work. (This live conversation was hosted by TED's Whitney Pennington Rodgers. Visit ted.com/membership to support TED today and join more exclusive events like this one.) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy) for more information.