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Hello, my beautiful friends, and welcome back to the Claim Your Power podcast, the ultimate show for all things spirituality, self-love, and personal development. I'm your host, Kim Peretz. I'm a two-time author, content creator, yoga teacher, and entrepreneur. You are at the right place if you're ready to tap into your gifts, unleash your potential, and become your higher self. It's time to claim your power.
Hello, my beautiful friends, and welcome back to another episode of Claim Your Power podcast. In today's episode, we are talking how to take your power back from anyone in your life who has hurt you, whether it be a friend, an ex, a
a family member, anyone that you are thinking of right now when we start off this episode. Maybe you're thinking of a specific person that has been controlling the way you feel about yourself and honestly controlling your life and how you operate and the things that make you feel good. And so if you have that specific person in mind, in today's episode, I'm going to be teaching you how to call your power back from that person and genuinely move on with your life and claim back your joy.
The first thing that I wanted to talk about when it comes to taking your power back from anyone who has hurt you is realize that you need to be able to accept the past. And the reason that so many people walk around letting other people control their lives and control the way that you feel about yourself and letting other people that have hurt you in the past dictate the way you feel in the present is because they lack that acceptance.
And when I say you have to accept the past, I'm not saying you're accepting what happened. You're accepting the fact that it did happen so that you can attain a sense of peace in your life. So you're not accepting the way they treated you or what they said or how they hurt you or their actions or their behavior. You're not accepting any of that. You're just accepting the fact that you can't go back in the past and change it. You can't go back and change what happened.
So you accept it for what it is so that you can move on and you can attain a sense of peace in your life. I think the reason so many people go down this miserable spiral is because they're so focused on the what ifs. What if things unfolded differently? What if they felt this way about me? What if they said this? What if this had happened this way? Da da da.
But you're putting yourself down a rabbit hole that you will never get out of because some things in life are out of your control. And we cannot control our circumstances in life, but we can always control our response. So if you put your energy on what you're going to do now, okay, because you are not responsible for the wound, right?
but you are responsible for your healing. So maybe somebody has hurt you. Maybe somebody has made you feel unworthy, small, powerless, whatever it is, that was on them. But now it's on you, the responsibility on how you're going to claim your power back, how you're going to take your energy back, how you're going to heal, how you're going to put yourself first, how are you going to respond to this situation? That is how you are defined, not by the fact that somebody hurt you, by how you rise once you fall. So I made a list of a few things that I want to go over with you guys. The first one,
Being that in order to call your energy back you genuinely have to call your energy back And so there's some spiritual things that you can do to actually do that one of the most powerful things that I recommend is a cord-cutting meditation because once somebody has Impacted you to the point where they have hurt you so bad where you're emotionally dependent
or attached to what happened and you feel like it's still controlling your life, that means that there's still an energy cord with you and that person. And so doing an energy cutting meditation where you're visualizing yourself cutting the cord between you and that person is super powerful.
There are a ton of cord cutting meditations on YouTube so I really suggest you guys do that if you have a specific person in mind that you're really ready to let go of the fact that they hurt you and you're done. You're done with this spiral on your head of overthinking and reliving the exact same situation over and over again. Something that you have to realize is that
you are only reliving that situation over and over again in your head. Like what happened, the way they treated you, the way that person hurt you, whatever it may be, that happened already. That's in the past. But you are reliving the past over and over and over again. And so that is why being back in the present moment and really consciously choosing to let it go so that you can set yourself free and that you can call your energy back is so powerful and you will attain it
a really, really, really great sense of freedom. Something that I recommend if, because, okay, this is something that you guys have to realize is a lot of the time when you're finally letting go of the person who hurt you and you're letting go of what happened, you're not going to have that closure with that person. And in fact, do you even need that closure? Do you even need that person to come into your life and tell you, you know what I heard too, and I know that I hurt you. Do you need them to do that?
Or can you come face to face with you in the mirror and work on your wounds and work on the way that you have been hurt and heal that on your own? Because the truth is, no matter what, if that person came back, gave you the closure that you needed, that still wouldn't disrupt the way that you have felt. And that still wouldn't really put you through a healing journey unless you have chosen to do that for yourself. And so something that I really recommend to do a really great exercise is writing a farewell letter to the person who has hurt you.
Whether it be an ex-best friend, an ex-boyfriend, a family member, an old co-worker, whatever it is, take a journal, take a piece of paper and write down everything that is in your mind that keeps racing in your head. Because I know that when you're overthinking and you're overanalyzing and reliving the situation over and over again, you're not even conscious of it anymore. So scripting it all down and writing down everything that you wish you could have told that person that hurt you, everything that, all the conversations, everything that's living in your head,
and physically writing it down, and then taking that piece of paper, writing a farewell, and burning it is very, very powerful, okay? You have no idea how much writing things down will actually get things out of your head and into motion. Because if you're going to be reliving the same thing over and over again, you're never going to be able to move on. And as long as you do that, that person that hurt you still has power over you.
Every single time that you are thinking about that situation, that you are overanalyzing it, that you are letting that person or that experience or that past control you, you are giving all of your energy and all of your power to that person. And what you need to do right now is you need to claim a
and you need to realize that this is your life and you are not defined by your experiences, you are not defined by your past, you are not defined by the way somebody else feels about you, you are defined by you, by your soul, by your heart, by your intentions, that's what defines you. As long as you are holding on to anger and resentment and hatred, even if you cut out that person who hurt you out of your life completely,
that person is still controlling you because you cannot let somebody go by hating them as much as you can you let somebody go by loving them as much as you can and i know that sounds like the most counterintuitive thing like how can you love the person who has hurt you how can you send that person love but when you have gratitude for the things that they have taught you and for the way things unfolded because it made you stronger it made you wiser
it taught you something about yourself and it was a life lesson, when you're in that energy of gratitude and not hatred anymore, that's when you change your life and that's when you call your energy back. And I'm not saying it's super easy to do that right away. If anything, experience the anger, experience the resentment, experience the sadness. Feel all those emotions that you have for what happened first, okay? But once you're ready to get out of
of that misery, to get out of that dump and you wanna come back to yourself and come back to your happiness, you're gonna have to let that person go fully. And by letting that person go fully and letting go how they have hurt you, you have to also be willing to let go of all the emotions that you are holding on and sending them all the time.
Because even if they're not in your life anymore, if you're still so angry and all the time you're thinking about, I can't believe they did this to me. I can't believe they did this. Or you're so sad and you're overthinking and you're anxious and you keep reliving that day or that person or that experience in your head. You're letting that person control you subconsciously and you don't even know it.
The way that you truly claim your power back from anyone in your life who has hurt you is you become emotionally stable, emotionally strong, and emotionally intelligent. Because when you have control over your emotions and you know how to connect to your emotions and work through your emotions with that
letting it go down a spiral and a rut, you become powerful and nobody can no longer control you. Because that versions of me that I look back that would let people control the way that I felt about myself or the way something happened in my past control my future, that version of me was not emotionally strong or connected to myself. And when I started working on my emotions, connecting to my emotions, feeling my emotions, and I stopped suppressing them or avoiding them, you cannot escape your healing journey
As much as you run away from it, that thing is going to keep haunting you back and running back and life is going to show you the same circumstances and the same people and the same experiences in different fonts until you choose a new path for yourself and until you choose to genuinely heal and work on yourself. And so do yourself a favor and do it now. Even when it's hard, even when it's difficult, do the inner work because there are so many people that walk around life
having no self-awareness. And that is why life is so hard for them. It's because they keep getting stuck and stuck and stuck and they keep running into the wall and jamming their head and they keep running into closed doors because they are unable to work through their own healing. And if you are somebody who truly wants to take your power back from anyone in your life, you have to realize that the responsibility is on you. I know that that person has hurt you. I know that that past was hard. I know that experience was not easy, but are you going to let
that define who you are. Life is hard for everybody. There are difficult moments for everybody, but your strength is determined by how you rise once you fall, by how you pick yourself back up, how you tend to yourself, to your needs, how you allow yourself to truly flourish and how you take your pain and you turn it into power. One of your greatest tests in life will be how you handle people who mistreat you, how you handle situations where
where they weren't as fair as you thought they would, or how you handle situations that are hard, or you felt small in. And if you can take those situations, and you can take your past, and you alchemize it, and make it into your success story, your entire life will change. You can be either a victim of your circumstances, or a creator, and turn your circumstances and alchemize them into something amazing, and something great, and you can turn your life around. So do not let the
people who have hurt you in your past control you and determine your future because they are in the past. They are in the past. And if you continue living the same day in the past over and over again, you will never evolve. But if you choose to take your power back now from every single person and you tell yourself, like you put your hand over your heart and you tell yourself,
I claim my power back now from any person who has ever hurt me. I take my power back now. May any energies that are less than love I release now and I stand only in my own energy and I only welcome good people and good experiences into my life.
and cheers to new beginnings. And you tell yourself these mantras and these affirmations every single day until you fucking believe them, until they're running in your veins, until you truly embody it. Another really important point that I want to mention to kind of close off this episode is so many people, when somebody has hurt you in life, all you think about is revenge.
When that ex hurt you, all you think about is, you know, I'll level up, I'll get hotter, I'll get stronger, I'll get prettier, and then they'll want me back. Then they'll regret, then I'll make them pay. Or that best friend has hurt you, so all you're doing is trying to take away all her friends and get that revenge. Or you didn't get that job opportunity, so you feel the need to sacrifice yourself and prove yourself and constantly increase your self-worth so that you feel good about yourself.
but it's all an illusion, it's all fake. And the more that you seek that revenge, the less happy you're gonna be and the less satisfied because revenge is a low frequency. If you do things, do it for you. If you heal yourself, do it for you. If you work on yourself, do it for you, but do not do it for other people because that's gonna end up making you miserable and so unsatisfied with yourself and it's gonna end up not only making you resent everyone around you, but it's gonna end up making you resent yourself. And so if you start doing things to get better and to heal and to work on yourself,
Do it, but do it with an intention that you're doing it for you. Become so unbothered about the people from your past who have hurt you, the people who didn't believe in you, the people who have caused you pain. Do not let them have any power over you and that is your greatest sense of revenge. When you genuinely don't care and you put your happiness first. When you put your best foot forward and you move on with your life and you genuinely focus on being happy and
following the joy in life, that is your greatest sense of revenge. When you can get to a point in life when you genuinely do not care, when you are genuinely unbothered about the person who has hurt you, about the experience that you had, about the past, when you genuinely get to that point where your happiness is priority so you no longer give your energy to that person or those experiences in the past, you won.
If you can get yourself to that point where you are so unbothered and all of your priority is truly being happy and moving forward and building a better life for yourself, you won. And so if you're not there yet right now, that's completely fine. We're all, it's a work in progress. This is life.
But if that, make that your goal. Every single day, wake up and tell yourself, I'm getting better each and every day and I'm working on myself and I'm becoming my dream person because this is your opportunity to level up. Every single time life shows you pain and life sends you an experience where you're feeling low or small or unworthy, that is your greatest opportunity for growth.
Use that as a stepping stone. Use the people who have hurt you as a stepping stone to leveling up. Instead of hating them and putting all your focus on them, say thank you. Thank you so much for the things you have shown me about yourself. Thank you for the way that you have hurt me because that awakened something within me and now I can move on. I can move forward and be happy and put my focus into a better place. So I'm going to leave you with one piece of wisdom and that is level up in life so high. Use your pain and use your low moments as a stepping stone to the point that the
people who have hurt you in life, they can't even reach you. You are in a new frequency. You are in a new energy and you are in a happier place that their energy is no longer in alignment with yours. Beautiful souls, thank you so much for joining me in today's episode. Feel free to leave a review or DM me any topic suggestions. I hope you feel inspired to claim your power today.
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