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Hello, my beautiful friends, and welcome back to the Claim Your Power podcast, the ultimate show for all things spirituality, self-love, and personal development. I'm your host, Kim Peretz. I'm a two-time author, content creator, yoga teacher, and entrepreneur. You are at the right place if you're ready to tap into your gifts, unleash your potential, and become your higher self. It's time to claim your power.
What's up friends and welcome back to another episode of the Claim Your Power podcast. If you're new here, my name is Kim and I am your host and I'm so excited to dive into today's topic because when I tell you, I get a message about you guys wanting me to talk about this topic at least once a day. So I'm finally doing it. Today we're talking how to embrace your feminine energy. I want to start off this episode by saying that
Feminine energy, when I'm referring to feminine energy, I'm not referring to gender at all. So it doesn't matter what your gender is, you can still learn how to tap into your feminine energy because we as people, we all have masculine and feminine energy, the yin and the yang. It's in all cultures.
but we're just gonna refer to it as feminine energy in this video and in this podcast. But feminine energy is all about being in your feelings and embracing your slow, nurturing, and loving side. Masculine energy is all about action and logic and taking initiative. So for example, in my life, for a very, very long time, I was only operating for mainly my masculine energy.
I was always in a rush, I was always trying to accomplish the next thing, I own a business, I'm a student, so I'm always taking that initiative and working hard and using logic in my decision making. And of course being in your masculine energy is very important, especially when you're in those sectors of life of like owning a business or maybe you're a student or you just have to make certain decisions in your life.
But what happened is I was only operating from my masculine energy and as a woman, that put me in a fight or flight state because I lost touch with my feelings, with my intuition, and I felt like I was always in a rush. And that led me to form so much anxiety in my life because I was constantly chasing after the next thing instead of being in the present moment.
And I think there's so much knowledge and so much wisdom when it comes to feminine energy. But for me, being in my feminine energy truly means being here in the now and being in the present and taking care of yourself.
So, in today's episode, I'm going to teach you all the things that I've done in my life that have helped me tap into that feminine side and embrace my feminine energy. So, the first thing that has shifted my entire life and my feminine energy and this piece of advice is mainly if you are a woman and you have a cycle, but it's cycle syncing. Something that you have to realize is that men and women are not the same on a hormonal level.
are run by the sun. They have a hormone cycle that fluctuates every 24 hours and women are run by the moon. So our hormone cycle is a 28 day cycle if your period and cycle is balanced. And so being able to attune your life to your cycle and cycle syncing has changed my entire life.
Something that you have to realize about being a woman is you're not going to operate on the same levels of energy as a man. A man wakes up and he has high energy and throughout the day, his testosterone levels go down. A woman, our estrogen levels fluctuate throughout the month. And being able to attune ourselves to where we are in our cycle and show up for ourselves with that same energy and with the foods that we need and with the workouts that we need changed my life.
Like for instance, the couple of days before your period, before you're menstruating or on your menstruation, you are going to be in low energy. You're not going to be as social. You're not going to be as open. That's your like your hibernation time. And instead of fighting that time of the month and trying to like put all your busy parts of your schedule and meeting up with every single friend and getting all that work done and getting five hours of sleep while you're menstruating, instead of doing that,
and choosing instead to rest on those days, to spend more time being introspective with yourself, to eat womb-warming foods, to really support yourself. And instead of doing these high-intensity workouts, you're just letting your body rest because that's what it needs during that time of the month, you will be tapping into your feminine side because you're honoring what your body needs.
It's all about the mind-body connection. It's about listening to your feelings, to your body, to your heart, and then taking aligned action. But for instance, if you're ovulating, you're the most social, you're the most creative, your skin is glowing. That's like the best time of your month. So scheduling your life around your cycle will change your entire life and your entire reality. And I won't go too much in depth into this episode about like
how to do that because I have an entire other podcast episode all about cycle syncing that you guys can listen to that really takes you in depth about all the phases of the cycle and how you can sync your workouts and the meals you eat and the introspective things that you do and the activities that you take on in life with your cycle. It's very, very powerful so I suggest you listen to that if you want to learn more. The second thing that I want to talk about is wounded feminine energy and secure feminine energy because I think they're...
When I think of a wounded feminine energy, I think of somebody who is doing everything for the approval of others. And as a woman, that could be like to dress a certain way, to act a certain way, to do certain things just because we want somebody else's approval. And when you are truly secure in your feminine energy, you do not need other people to choose you because you have already chosen yourself.
You do not need to prove your value to other people because you know that your value is inherent. It's something that you embrace within yourself.
So truly being in your secure feminine energy is being able to walk around, raise your head and not look around to see how other people are perceiving you, how other people are viewing you, what other people think of you and instead put all the focus and put yourself on the pedestal. How do you view yourself? Do you accept yourself? Do you love yourself? Do you honor yourself? Because if you don't do all those things for you, nobody else in your life is going to do those things.
But if you start respecting yourself and you treat yourself like a motherfucking princess
Like you have to treat yourself like the queen that you are and you have to show up for yourself with the utmost grace and the utmost love more than anybody else in your life will show up for you because that's how you teach others to treat you. The way you love yourself is the way you teach others to love you. Get that in your head. The way you love yourself is the way you teach others to love you. And being in your feminine energy is truly being embodied in your self-love.
And being embodied in your self-love doesn't mean that you are perfect. It doesn't mean that you don't have any insecurities. It doesn't mean that you are completely confident in every single aspect of your being. It just means that you are choosing to love yourself despite your insecurities, despite your imperfections, that you are choosing to love yourself as you are now because you cannot change your life and you cannot feel better in your life by hating the version of yourself that you are right now.
Like you can't change your life by hating into your life. You can only change something in your life by loving your life as much as you can. That reminds me of like a really famous quote
If you want to let somebody go, you have to love them as much as you can. So if you want to let parts of yourself go that no longer serve you, that you no longer want to be that type of person or that version of yourself, you have to love those versions of yourself that past as much as you can in order to create a new reality for yourself where you're embodied in your feminine energy. Being in your feminine energy is really all about being intuitive and
and connecting to your feelings and your heart again. Think about how so many times we have operated from a very stagnant sense of logic where it could feel like our heart tightens up because every decision and every action that we take is not attuned to our feelings. It's attuned to our logic and our mind. But being in your feminine energy is about stepping away from the mind from just a moment and stepping into the heart and into your feelings, which is why my biggest tip for you
If you want to start tapping into that feminine side is a meditation sitting with yourself and meditating whether it be five minutes or 20 minutes every single morning and connecting to that feminine side of Nurture nests and of slowing down and of receiving the feminine energy is all about receiving and I'll kind of go into that and how that plays out in like relationships but being able to sit with yourself and
in your divine feminine side and not worrying about what's happening all around you and just slowing down for just a few moments, taking some deep breaths and being here in the now will change your entire life and you will also see that you will be tapping into your nervous system and you will be calming it down.
You will not be in this fight or flight state anymore because you will stop resisting your life and you will start living your most embodied life that is slow and embodied in your feelings and less in the mind. I also want to touch a bit about what it means to be in your feminine receiving energy.
Because I think what a lot of women struggle with, especially in romantic scenarios, is if you have been someone who's always been operating from a masculine sense, maybe that's just like how you grew up, that's the conditioning that you experienced most of your life, that you were like, you know, you're meant to be this independent,
woman, like you have to work hard for everything, da da da, like that's like the mindset that a lot of us grew up in, this flawed mindset that puts us in this fight or flight state and disconnects us from our heart and our nurturedness. If you grew up like that and that's like the conditioning that you got from your parents or your schooling or whatever it is, you're going to have a really hard time tapping into your feminine energy at first because it's going to feel so fucking uncomfortable because you're not going to have any sense of control.
being in your feminine energy is being able to let go of the outcome. And I know it's hard because I've been there. I know it's one of the hardest things, especially if you've been operating from your masculine side for so long and you're so used to taking the initiative and planning everything and doing all the work for everybody else in your life. And maybe in your past relationships, you were that one that's embodying that masculine side, which is fine if that's a dynamic that you want to have. But if you're a woman and you want to be in your feminine energy, you have to be able to let go of
and trust other people in your life to show up and take the action for you while you're in your feminine side. When I say that, I also don't mean that you don't sit and just like do nothing with your life. I'm meaning more like you have to be in this receiving mode. You have to try and stop controlling every single other person in your life and what they're doing, what they're trying to do in your life. You just have to receive a little, especially in dating and romantic scenarios.
I found that that is when I am happiest when I'm trying to stop control every single thing that a man is trying to do Is he texting me? Is he not texting me? Are we gonna go on this day? Are we gonna do this and I just stop planning and I stop doing things for other people and I just receive and I let people show up for me in the way that they want to show up for me and then I decide if that's right for me if that works for me, but
you will see that if you start entering your feminine energy and your romantic scenarios, you will be so much happier because you will stop being exhausted. And you will also let the men in your life show up for you in the sense that they're meant to.
If you do all the work for a man and you just like are always in your masculine, you make it so easy. You're not letting him step into his masculinity and you're not letting him be the man that he wants to be for you because you're doing all the work for him. And for example, like how that plays out tangibly for a lot of people is like,
Women, you planning out the dates, you doing all these nice things and all these actions for men that you just met three days ago. Like you have to realize that you are a high value person and you are the prize. You are not supposed to go out and impress men and impress other people in your life. You have to be in this energy of I know who I am.
I don't need to prove my value to anybody and anyone who walks into my life is auditioning to be part of my movie, of my story. I'm not auditioning to be in theirs. I don't need to prove myself to anybody in my life. They have to see, I have to see, like not in the sense of they're proving themselves to me. I have to see
if we're aligned. I have to see if I feel good around this person, if I feel happy and empowered. And that's how you have to approach your relationships in that sense. You're not auditioning to be part of other people's lives and to enter other people's lives. They're auditioning to be part of yours. And when you enter this mentality, you will become so much happier and less exhausted. The only reason that you're exhausted and anxious is because you're fighting your feminine energy. You're trying to control everything in your life when you're meant to just let go. I don't remember who told me this piece of advice.
But somebody told me that the way that men show up for us in relationships is very different than the way that we show up for them. So let's say that you have decided, like you just started dating this guy. You've been on like four dates. You barely know him. And you have decided that, you know, you're going to start cooking him these nice dinners. And you're going to start writing him handwritten letters and
confessing how much you like him and just like doing all these nice actionable things to him.
The way that you see it is, oh my God, I like him. So I'm going to do all these nice things to him. And you're kind of in this chasing energy. But then the way that a man will perceive it is I have earned it. Like I have deserved it. I deserve this king treatment because I took this girl on two dates to McDonald's. Do you see what I'm saying? You have given so much to somebody else, but you have to ask yourself, am I giving it to the right person that deserves it?
To the right person in your life that has chosen you, that has shown you that they are loyal to you, that have empowered you, that see you, give your love to them. But you have to be very, very selective with who you give your love and your energy to because not everybody deserves it. And if you're out here giving it to every single person and putting out to every single person in your life and just being so overgiving and over generous to people that don't necessarily deserve it, they're going to walk around thinking that they deserve it.
You're going to be boosting their ego and boosting their masculinity when maybe they haven't done what they deserve. And so what I was, where I wanted to go with this is like the piece of advice a lot of, I've heard a lot around for many years is the way that you want to tap into your feminine energy is you want to flip the switch. You want the man in your life, the masculine side of the relationship to show up for you, to take those actions for you, to prove yourself to you because that's how they are. That's how men are. That's their instinct.
They're action-driven, they're logical, they're solution-based, they're problem solvers. They want to prove themselves to you. They want to take those actions. But if you're doing all the hard work for them and you're making it so easy for them, they're going to start believing that you're easy and that they don't need to do much to get access into your life and to be part of your life. And you need to flip that switch right now, babe. You need to flip it.
Not every single person in your life deserves that much access to you. And when you let people waltz into your life that easily, you're disrespecting yourself. You have to flip the switch. You have to remember that those people are auditioning to be part of your story, not the other way around. And you have to step into your feminine receiving energy where you're open to receive that queen treatment that you deserve. Stop resisting it. Another good example that just came up to my mind is like, let's say somebody wants to buy you something or give you a gift.
or compliment you. Stop resisting it. Stop being like, oh my god, no, you don't mean it. Or like, oh my god, no, you didn't have to get that for me, da da da. Like, if somebody's going out there and they're giving to you, especially a man, and they're taking that action to gift to you, receive it. Be open to receive it. Because also, imagine how bad you make the other person feel when you're like, neglecting their gifts or neglecting their comments or their love.
Like, they're going out there and they're giving that to you. They're taking that action. And you have to step out of that insecure place where you're scared to receive. You have to let go of the control and you have to be willing to receive that love or receive that gift or receive that compliment. Because when you receive it, you're also able to embody your feminine side.
When you are neglecting it, when you are resisting it, you're back into your masculine energy because you are not embodied in your self-worth. You're doubting yourself. And when you start doubting yourself, you also naturally...
imprint other people to doubt you. You have to be so sure of your worth. You have to be so sure of your self-love. You have to accept yourself. And no matter what, even if you have the most off of days, even when you're feeling insecure in the moment, you never lack your self-worth. You never forget who you are at your core because when you forget who you are, you tell others to forget who you are too. You always have to walk around with this inner knowing that you are worthy, that you are loved, and nobody can take that away from you.
Another thing that I did when I was trying to tap more into my feminine energy is I started dressing like the highest version of myself. And something that I did is I had done this meditation that guided me to see the highest version of myself. And what I saw is I saw myself with my natural brown hair because if you guys have been following me for a while, you guys know that I had been bleaching my hair super blonde for a couple of years.
And in that meditation, I saw myself with my natural brown hair, how it is now. And it was natural and I was wearing a flower crown and I was wearing this white flowy dress. And at the time when I was doing that meditation, like I was dressing a little bit like a, I don't want to say like,
I don't even know how to explain it. I was dressing a little bit like very revealing and not in the sense that I'm like shaming myself to the way I was dressing. It just wasn't really aligned with who I want to be. And I was wearing like, you know, really skinny jeans and like really skinny crop tops. And it wasn't actually my style. It was just what I had in my closet and just what everyone was wearing around me. And so that's what I was wearing.
But I didn't realize like how much clothes have a frequency and that they can affect the way you feel about yourself. And so when I started tapping into my feminine energy, I
I got my hair back to brown to my brunette color and I started dressing like the highest version of myself. And even if you're in a place where you don't have a lot of ability to go and invest in a lot of clothes right now that are expensive or like what you truly want to wear, I really suggest maybe going thrift shopping. Like I found a bunch of really cool items while I was thrift shopping.
Or even if you have like very basic clothes in your closet, you can always turn them and upscale them in a way. And it's like the little things. So I just started dressing a little bit more elegantly in a way because I noticed that that's how I felt my most feminine self when I was dressing more like a woman. When I stopped wearing like, I used to wear like in high school, for instance, like all I would wear is like baggy sweats, baggy sweatshirts, and I would like hide myself and
And honestly, there's nothing wrong with that because if that's how you feel good, if you feel good wearing a sweatshirt and sweats and that's what you feel confident in, please wear it because that means that you're tapping into your energy. But when I look back at my life, like I was just wearing that because I was hiding myself and I also, I noticed that whenever I would dress like that and I wouldn't like take care of myself in that way, I would feel way more down. And the days that I would dress up and I would take care of myself and I would take time to do my hair and
and dress nice the way that it embodied my confidence
I started to feel confident and I started to feel embodied in my feminine energy. So something that I would ask myself is what would my highest self dress like? What would she wear? How would she embody her style? And I started dressing like that person. So now I wear more like neutral colors. I dress more elegant. I love wearing dresses because that's what helps me tap into my feminine energy. And I swear when I started changing my style, I also, it felt like a shift in my energy in a way because I started being more embodied in who I truly am.
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And it's crazy because in a way, like it attracted so much more male attention into my life, but like a good sense of male attention. Like whenever I started changing my style and I started shifting my energy from within, I also noticed I started meeting a lot of really great quality guys that are in their masculine and not in this wounded like ego state. Like they're very amazing, awesome guys. And I noticed that when I started pouring into myself, life started pouring into me too.
So that's my other tip for you is ask yourself, what's your feminine sense of style? What helps you feel the most feminine and the most beautiful? And when I say the most feminine, it doesn't mean that you have to wear a dress and you have to wear lipstick and da-da-da. Like feminine for you could be wearing a track suit or...
wearing Nike Air Forces or maybe feminine for you could be wearing high heels and long flowy dresses. Like whatever it means, femininity is what feels good to you. Because at the end of the day, when you feel good from within, when you feel confident from within, that radiates outwards.
it's about the energy and the intention that you approach things not the actual action that you're taking one more thing that i wanted to mention about feminine energy and i honestly think i might make a part two to this podcast episode because there's so much more that i could talk about
But I want to say just and emphasize just how important self-care has become when it came to tapping into my feminine energy. I used to be someone that just like would not take care of themselves. I would fill up my schedule to the T. Like I would have zero time for me because in a way like I would guilt trip myself into thinking that resting was unproductive.
And what I realized in my life is that resting could be the most productive thing ever. Like the other day, I slept in till 11 a.m.
And I hate sleeping in because I always feel guilty about it. And I love to wake up early and I love to meditate and I love to get my content out in the mornings because that's when I feel the most alive and that's when I feel the most tapped into creativity. But at the same time, I just needed that sleep. I felt like my body was just aching for me to rest. And so instead of resisting it, I did that self-care and I allowed myself to sleep in.
And that day, you know, I did my face mask and I took care of myself and I went on a walk and I grounded outside because that's what I needed. And so if there's one thing that you can take away from this episode is feminine energy is all about tapping into your needs and your desires and what you actually, what your soul truly craves at that moment and giving it to yourself.
Stop pushing yourself away and stop being so in your mind and start tuning into your feelings again and into your heart. If you need rest, give yourself rest. Dedicate time for the self-care because when you take care of yourself, you're also able to take better care of others in your life. You have to be able to take care of yourself. You cannot abandon yourself for anyone or anything in your life again, okay? Listen to me.
You have to take care of yourself. Even if it's 20 minutes once a week that you dedicate, those 20 minutes, you're going to sit and you're going to do some journaling and you're going to put on some incense. You're going to listen to some nice music and those 20 minutes are those minutes for you. You cannot
allow anybody in your life to take that time away from you because that time is yours. It's your birthright and you have to do that self-care because when you take care of yourself, you stop resenting everybody else around you. The reason that you're so anxious and that you resent everyone is because you have given everything to everyone and have left nothing with yourself. So you've got to take your power back. You have to do that self-care, tap into that feminine side and give yourself everything that you've been craving because we're
When you stop neglecting those sides of you and you start receiving and giving it to yourself, you will become so much, so much happier. And being in your feminine energy is about truly being embodied in your self-love and in your joy. It's about the most radiant women in life are the people that are happy, that are not afraid to be alone, and that truly know how to fill up their own cup. That is the most radiant person. And if you can become that person by taking these tips that I've been telling you and assimilating them in your own life,
you will become the most radiant person that you will ever see.
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