how to be hot and unbothered PART 2: the art of receiving, surrender & divine feminine energy
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Hello guys and welcome back to another episode of the podcast. I hope that you are doing amazing wherever you are in the world right now, whether it's the morning, the evening, maybe it's a late night podcast binge session. We love those. I do those all the time. It's so fun and a great way to

I just love listening to podcasts at night. I don't know what it is with me because I know typically people love to listen to podcasts in the morning or on a hot girl walk, but there's just something so comforting about just listening to a podcast you love right before you go to sleep and just like really soak up all the wisdom and all the tools and everything that you learned from that episode. I don't know if that's just me. Let me know in the comments of this podcast episode if I'm not the only one.

But I am excited to dive into today's episode because this has been very, very, very, very requested and I am here to deliver.

Part two, how to be hot and unbothered. Today, we are diving deep into the art of receiving, surrender, and the divine feminine energy. I do want to say that if you haven't listened to part one of this episode, I really, really recommend that you do. You don't even have to listen to it before you listen to this one because the things I'm going to talk about today are

aren't like super interconnected to what I talked about in episode one. This is like completely other concepts that I wanted to touch base on. But

if you really want to learn all about how to be hot, how to be unbothered, and when I say hot, it's not physically. It's how to have that hot, magnetic, self-loving energy. If you want to really soak that up, be that best version of yourself, I also really recommend you listen to part one because it honestly just has so much wisdom in that episode and I know you guys are going to love it.

And I know many of you listened to part one and you wanted a part two because it was such a great episode. And here I am. So let's get into it, baby. I think one of the main attributes that I've noticed, I don't know if you've ever met a girl that has had the most radiating energy and just something about their energy is just so magnetic.

And it seems like they're just in this really playful energy. They don't have a care in the world. Everything just aligns for them. I don't know if you've ever met that type of person. I definitely have. And those type of people when I was younger always inspired me because I felt like I

I would just look at them and I would think, oh my God, I want to be like them. Like, what is it? And I think so many women think it's just about looks. Like we look at a woman who has this magnetic energy and we just think, oh, she's pretty. So this is why she's magnetic. But guys, the beauty, I think in my opinion, someone's beauty radiates when they truly have magnetic energy. Like that magnetic, amazing energy just magnifies their beauty, right?

And so honestly, you could take two people that look the exact same and one of them knows how to embrace their divine feminine, knows how to love themselves, how to be in a place of self-worth, how to radiate positive energy. And another one is in a victim mentality. They're just shaming.

constantly shitting on themselves. They're their own biggest critic. They have no good relationship with themselves. And those two people could look the exact same physically. And I can tell you that you will be way more gravitated to the first example that I describe of the woman that's aligned with her power versus the other, even if they look the exact same, because energy doesn't lie. And our bodies change physically, but our energy doesn't.

That's something that always is carried with us. Even after we're no longer part of this earth, our energy is our soul. It's our spirit. And so when you learn to connect with that part of you, your energy, your aura, your spirit, when you learn how to master that, which is what we're going to get into today, that is truly how you become a hot and unbothered magnetic body. One thing, this is how I want to start off the episode, honestly, is I want to touch base with

on one of the biggest attributes that I think an aligned divine feminine energy person has.

And that is that that person is multi-dimensional. Now this episode, I'm not going to teach you really surface level sugar-coated stuff, okay? Like we're getting deep into energy, into frequencies, into self-love. We're going to do the inner work in this episode because that's truly how you embody the best version of yourself. I'm not going to sugarcoat stuff for you. I'm not going to give you surface level tips because

those things are not true and they're not empowering. And at the end of the day, they're also not sustainable. Like I could tell you, okay, listen to these affirmations about how a man or like do the whisper method. I don't know if you guys have seen it on TikTok where like you imagine a certain guy that you like coming into you going and whispering in his ears, you want me, you want me. And I can tell you that surface level stuff, but that's not gonna incite any inner work. That's not gonna help empower you.

And at the end of the day, that's wounded feminine energy. And that's just like one example that just came at the top of my head. But I really want to emphasize that in today's episode, we're going to do inner work. And this episode is not for the weak, okay? Like we are going to dive deep, ladies, how to be hot and unbothered.

Being hot and unbothered is all about embracing all the aspects of you, embracing the fact that you are a multidimensional human and a multidimensional soul and that you are ever evolving. And this is how you do it. And this is like the key and the mastery. People change.

When they are around you, they feel inspired and they feel like they can grow with you. So no matter what, you're in a friendship, you're in a serious relationship, whatever it is, you never stop pouring into yourself. In fact, when you're in a relationship or let's say you're a mom or you have a really big career, those are moments in your life

that you have to pour more into yourself. You have to dedicate more time for you, for your self-growth because that's what being hot and unbothered is truly about. It's about never, ever, ever allowing anything outside of you to stand in the way of your relationship with yourself and your own growth. The people that I know in my life, the women that I'm super inspired by,

And women that, you know, they tell me their dating stories and they tell me how men are always chasing them and they just are in this really radiant, secure, divine feminine energy are women that are ever evolving. They never stop growing. And that can be applied to so many different sectors in your life, but you just never stop working on yourself. And that's not like in a toxic sense where I'm saying like, oh, you need to go to the gym every day and like always, always do that. No, I'm saying...

Work on yourself in the sense that your energy is your priority and pouring into yourself and your growth is always going to be up on the pedestal. I used to approach my relationships with men in such a wounded way and whenever I would get like feelings for a guy, I would basically just abandon myself, abandon my needs and

And I would just abandon everything that's part of my life and who I am to just accommodate this dusty guy. And like the way that I see that playing out for a lot of women, for example, is let's say you made plans with a friend or you made plans to have a self-care night or to go on a hot girl walk or to go to the mall with your mother or your cousin or whatever it is. And then you get a text from that dusty man and he's like, yo, I'm

want to come over tonight but you already have plans so what do you do you abandon those plans and you settle for the bare minimum and you settle for something that you don't really want not just like an example that i'm thinking of right now but this idea that your life people come into your life

and they are auditioning to be part of your life, not in a toxic sense, but you build a beautiful life for yourself so that when somebody comes into your life, they can't just come up and screw it all up. You don't abandon the life that you love. And truly being hot and unbothered is all about creating a life that you love, that you're genuinely happy with, that you're genuinely proud of, and that life is the relationship between you and you. One of my favorite quotes ever is,

is don't chase butterflies create a beautiful garden for yourself and let the butterflies come to you and if no butterflies come to you you're still left with a beautiful garden what does this mean is don't go out chasing satisfaction chasing instant gratification chasing love chasing attention give all of that energy to yourself

and allow the right people to naturally flow into your life. And that's, we're going to get into this idea of surrender later on in the episode, but that's something that I really want to emphasize and integrate as we start off is this idea that you are ever evolving and you want to always continue to pour into your life and into your soul. So, so many ways that you can do that. I mean, maybe it's your health.

and maybe it's movement and physical activity or maybe it's your education or maybe it's going after that dream or that goal or that career or maybe it's a passion that you're interested in that you want to pursue or a hobby or volunteering

with something or a cause that you're interested in and that you're passionate about. Or maybe it's just doing self-care or maybe it's starting therapy and meditating or trying something new or going to travel, like whatever it is.

know deeply in your heart what it is that you want and always keep evolving in life you have a choice evolve or remain and i can tell you that the hottest most unbothered most amazing women that i know in my life are women that never stop evolving for no one a guy comes into your life great you keep evolving and now you evolve together if he leaves your life if he's no longer part of your life

Okay, you never stop evolving. You grow, you integrate the lessons, you feel the grief and you feel the pain, but you move forward. And that is truly what the most embodied women that I know in my life. And that's something that I've had to work on so long on myself.

is this idea that I will no longer abandon myself, abandon my truth, abandon my needs for anyone. And in fact, I will continue to prioritize myself, not on the expense of other people in my life. I will continue to reciprocate love and loyalty and consistency to the people who give that to me in my life. But you never abandon yourself. And that is the number one rule to being hot and unbothered is you always, always,

always keep growing and keep evolving people have to keep up with you and I think that's also just from a psychological perspective that is so attractive and gravitating to other people because

it means that they're constantly being put up to some challenge in a way. And people love a challenge. People love the chase. Like that's just psychology. It's how our human minds work and especially how men work. They love the chase. And this gives people the most healthy type of chase. You know, there's a toxic chase of being inconsistent, of ghosting, of playing Han Cold. We're not about that. That's Wounded Feminine.

High Divine Feminine is about the chase of getting access to your amazing energy. And when you are constantly evolving and constantly growing, that's captivating to other people because they want to grow with you. They're inspired and they want to catch up. They want to keep evolving with you. And people will either keep evolving and rising with you or they will fall off. Regardless, you never abandon yourself. That's my first insight is keep growing and

I really encourage anyone of you guys listening, take out a journal after you listen to this episode and ask yourself,

and write down what are your goals? What are some hobbies you've really wanted to try and you've been maybe putting on the back burner? What are some countries you wanna visit? What are some new things or new restaurants or new hobbies do you wanna try? What are you passionate about that maybe you haven't made time for? What are some things or activities that you wanna do more in your life? What is maybe a degree or a certification or...

or a new action in your career that you wanna take. Make that list, ask yourself, and keep sticking to that list and allow that list to evolve. Maybe you add things, maybe you take things out, but that's the beauty of life and that's the beauty of being a divine feminine woman and being hot and unbothered is you always evolve. I wanna now dive into the art of receiving. What does it mean to be in receiving energy instead of chasing energy?

And I really want to emphasize that when I'm going to be referencing masculine and feminine energy in this episode, it has nothing to do with gender because every single person has masculine and feminine energy in them.

But as women, sometimes we're either in our wounded feminine energy or we're overly in our masculine. And it's this constant dance that we're all navigating between the masculine and the feminine. So no one has it perfect. I definitely have moments in my life where I'm in my masculine and it's this autopilot response that I'm still working through. So I think the first step is realizing...

when you want to tap into that divine feminine essence, and maybe you feel like you've been in your masculine for so long, or you've just been in this wounded energy for a long time, is have compassion for yourself. And know that maybe you needed to be that version of yourself to awaken and choose a newer, higher path for yourself. And so don't beat up that version of yourself that didn't know any better, that made a mistake, that...

you know, just wasn't that highest version of yourself, that's okay. That's life. Life is duality. Life is polarity. And that's how we learn and that's how we grow. But what does it mean to receive? So the feminine energy, the divine feminine is all about receiving. It's about nurturing. It's about being, feeling. The masculine is about action, doing, initiative, chasing,

but the feminine is about receiving and something that I struggled with for a long time that maybe one of you guys can relate to is this idea that I struggled with receiving on like the most basic levels ever I mean I struggled with receiving compliments when somebody gave me a compliment I

I either kind of just push it off and I said, no, really? Like, oh my God. Or I would feel like this incessant need, like when somebody complimented me, I would feel like I would need to reciprocate that same energy to them right away. Like I'd feel like I need to give that energy back to them. So someone would say something nice to me

And immediately I'd be like, oh my God, no, that's you. And there's nothing wrong with that, by the way, of returning good energy and giving. But I was doing it from this toxic place where I felt...

like I didn't, like I wasn't worthy of receiving the compliment. I also felt at the time that I wasn't worthy of receiving love or gifts and that's why in the past I would accept the bare minimum in relationships and in friendships because I didn't feel worthy and the art of receiving is directly interconnected with self-worth. When you feel worthy of

all the good that's around you when you know that every good thing in your life you are worthy of you're worthy of the positive people in your life and the positive relationships you are worthy of your dreams you are worthy of abundance of health of love when you know that you are worthy you will have no problem receiving it and that's the thing in order to be this amazing version of yourself

you have to be able to receive. And this is something that I'm saying to any woman who wants to be in her divine feminine. If that's not the relationship dynamic that you want, then you're not going to find much wisdom in this episode that's going to serve you. But if you're that woman who's craving consistency, who doesn't want to chase, who doesn't want to force, who just wants to be in her feminine, who wants to learn to receive, then

then the way that you do that is you realize that you are worthy of everything that you are granted. And in dating, you are worthy of receiving love, you are worthy of receiving consistency, assistance, gifts,

um loyalty abundance whatever it is that you desire you are worthy of all of it and when you are able to acknowledge and embrace your own worthiness this ability to receive will be innate for you because it's so closely tied to a sense of self-love and really everything almost everything in life comes back to the basic i think as humans we try to over complicate so many things

But the truth is everything comes back to the basics. So if you're trying to learn how to be more in this receiving energy, go back to the most basic foundational aspects of your life. When somebody gives you a compliment, do you deflect that compliment?

Or do you acknowledge it knowing that you are worthy of the love that you are receiving in that moment? And are you allowing yourself to absorb that positive feedback or are you pushing it away? And when you feel that discomfort of receiving, for instance, when I had finally kind of started working on my feminine energy and I was

dating some guys, they would be consistent and they would show me love and they were, you know, opening the door and buying me flowers and organizing a first date and being in their healthy masculine. And what did that do to me? That gave me a massive ache because I felt so uncomfortable with being in my divine feminine energy at the time. I wasn't embodying it that when somebody was showing up for me in that way from the other side, I

made me uncomfortable and if that's something that's happening for you i really encourage you to allow that discomfort to be a guide and a compass and to not push it away so if you feel a discomfort around something similar instead of just you know pushing it away ask yourself okay where is this coming from why do i feel uncomfortable receiving love why

why do I feel like I'm not worthy of this? Where is this stemming from? And start asking yourself those questions and maybe you won't get the answer right away and that's completely okay, but the answers will come because once you start asking the questions, you will also be more open to the answers. The truth is women have been conditioned for such a long time and

and their masculine energy. And so when we're finally wanting to receive and step into our feminine, so many blocks and conditions come up. And one of the main ones that I struggled with is I had this limiting belief that if I didn't work really hard for something,

then I didn't truly deserve it. And so I shouldn't receive it. And so that actually started out for me, like, you know, academically, when I was young in school, when I would work really, really hard for something, and then let's say I would get a good grade or a good assignment. And that made me feel good about my self worth.

And so I felt like if I didn't work really, really hard for something in my life, then I didn't deserve it. And so when I was younger, that kind of projected onto the way that I saw men because if I didn't chase a man, if I didn't work so hard for their attention, if I didn't show them how much I wanted them, then if they ever liked me back, then I didn't deserve it because I didn't work hard for it. And that held me back for so long and

the truth is that's so wounded feminine because you deserve love out of your birthright you don't need to do things to earn love you don't need compensation you don't need remuneration what did i just say what was that word remunerate remuneration remuneration i don't know if i just messed that up wait guys is that even a word remuneration yeah okay anyways

You don't need to earn other people's love or other people's support or gifts or good treatment. You just need to know that you deserve it. And that's something that I see in so many fellow women and sisters that we don't think we deserve something unless we work really, really hard for it. And that's why that's the masculine. The masculine loves to work hard. We are as the feminine. We just have to receive. We just have to sit back.

And maybe that's the lulu, but guys, I swear to you, you start doing this, the right people will gravitate into your life. Another really wounded feminine that I see in a lot of women that I also had at the time is this idea that

We have this hyper-independence of wanting to prove that we can do it on our own. So we don't like to receive assistance. Like if a guy asks you to help carry your groceries or whatever it may be, like the small mundane things, we have to prove that we can do it completely on our own. It's this hyper-independence and we sometimes get offended when somebody offers help.

And we think that when somebody offers us help or support or love, they don't believe that we can do things on our own. They don't believe that we're worthy. You slept through your alarm, missed the train, and your breakfast sandwich, cold. Sounds like you could use some luck.

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open to receiving you're completely closed off and in this day and age you know our culture and our society rewards independence and self-sufficiency and we're completely at lost with what it is to receive as a woman but you have to realize that receiving is not about losing your independence

It's about finding pleasure in somebody else providing for you and supporting you. And that's a beautiful thing that I had to also realize as a woman is I can be emotionally independent in every aspect of my life, but still want to be supported and provided and held in matters or aspects of my life. And there's nothing wrong with that. The more that you can be open to receiving, the

the more amazing things that you will magnetize and radiate into your life. And that is truly the definition of being hot and unbothered, is knowing that you are worthy of all your desires,

of all the good things in your life and receiving it with open arms. Now I want to dive into the idea of surrendering and how that relates to the divine feminine and how that relates to being your hot, unbothered, magnetic version of yourself.

So when we surrender, we allow ourselves to go with the flow of life. And instead of constantly trying to control everything, we can be curious.

And I think that sometimes when we think of surrendering, which is letting others lead, for instance, in dating, letting the man that you are interested in take initiative instead of constantly chasing and laying out everything for him and making him, I mean, you doing everything for him instead of allowing him to step into his divine masculine, right?

We think that if we surrender, then things won't align for us because we've been in this controlling aspect and this controlling energy for most of our life. And that makes us feel vulnerable. But guys, guess what? Being vulnerable is a beautiful thing. You can be strong and tender at the same time. You can be vulnerable and independent at the same time. There is space for both.

And you have to be okay with not having everything under control. And trust me that this is something that I'm still working on as my Taurus self and my Aquarius moon, you guys, my fixed sign. Like, I know, I have this tenacity too. But trust me that when you surrender your desires or what you want,

into the universe, then everything will be delivered to you in divine timing. Because again, the divine feminine is more about receiving. And so that's our natural nature. That's how we're meant to be. We're meant to be in this sacred space of receiving. You are not meant to struggle. You're not meant to chase or force or deplete yourself. You are meant to thrive in

And being in that surrender energy, that is your birthright. And that I'm telling you, when you step into that surrender energy, you will feel like your best self. Because as a woman, it is amazing. It feels like instead of trying to control and chase everything, we can finally sit back and allow things to happen for us.

I think another really important aspect that not a lot of people talk about is the most unbothered magnetic hot people that I know are the people who have this sacred space that comes along with them. Those are the people that allow others to feel so heard, so validated. It's the type of women that can truly make somebody else happy

feel that they are heard, that they are seen, and that is beautiful. It's somebody who encourages a healthy and empowered expression. So what I mean by this is you want to be the type of person in the room that makes somebody else feel loved and seen and heard. You don't want to be the type of person that brings other people down, that judges them, that questions their abilities, that

You want to be the type of person who believes in other people before they believe in themselves, who see the light in others, who empower other people and empower the person in front of them, who give them words of encouragement and love instead of nitpicking other people. And that's something that is so important that I think is such a good quality about the hot and unbothered magnetic archetype of a woman is the type of woman who

that can truly be present in her energy and hold space for other people. So you don't need to bring other people down to feel good about yourself. You know that somebody else's success doesn't take away from your own. And another thing that's really important that just came up to me is you know that your worth is not measured by anything outside of you. So your worth is not measured by how much money you make. Your worth is not measured by how you look or

by your career, by everything that you do in your life. Your worth is measured by your energy. And when you start showing up to people in your life with this idea of knowing in your heart that your innate worth comes from your energy and does not come from anything outside of you, that is so magnetic to other people.

Because do you know how refreshing that is? I don't know if any of you guys have seen these TikToks and maybe this is wrong, but there's a lot of people that always say like, oh, if Beyonce got cheated on or Emma Rada got cheated on or whoever it is, like I don't even know which celeb I'm actually referencing and these are just the people that came to my mind. Like if those women get cheated on, no woman is safe.

And that's the divine feminine. Like this is my example of how this is wounded feminine. Because just because somebody's famous and, you know, this in quotation marks is the external aspect or just because somebody has money or just because somebody is beautiful or just because a woman does this independent, amazing career or whatever it may be outside of her, that has nothing to do with her self-worth, right?

Period. And when you realize this about yourself, you also won't let any dusty, busty, rusty man dictate who you are and dictate your self-worth.

And that's the type of energy. You guys, this is how I want you to be. I want you when you walk into a room to genuinely know your worth. To not walk into a room and have a need to compare yourself to other people or think you're above other people. It's walking into a room without the need to compare yourself to anyone at all because you know that you're fucking awesome. You're amazing, that you're great. And anyone who has the privilege of getting to know your energy, of getting to spend time in your presence,

consider them lucky and consider yourself lucky that you can share that space with them. So it's not about arrogance. It's not about ego. It's just about self-love. And it is so important for you to be able to express that part of yourself

And that is truly how you allow yourself to step into a higher version of yourself. And also another aspect I really think that I want to emphasize is allowing yourself to get to know your darkness. I mean, divine feminine energy isn't just about

you know, rainbows and nature and lighting a candle and journaling. Divine feminine energy is also about rage and sexuality and insecurities and the aspects of yourself that you push off. Those aspects of yourself are key to getting to know yourself. And I always say that darkness is not always perceived well.

as a terrible thing. Like people always say darkness is such a terrible thing, but I think every person on earth has light and darkness. And a really good example is how a baby grows in a dark room or how a butterfly has to go through a period of metamorphosis before it spreads its wings. Darkness allows us to grow. Darkness is how we discover our lights. And the darkness inside of us allows us to do the inner work.

and to step deeper, to dive deeper into a better version of ourselves, to grow, to evolve, to expand. And that's priceless. That's so, so valuable. So don't feel like if you have parts of yourself that aren't perfect, that aren't according to the divine feminine, let's say you get angry. You know, divine feminine is so complex. It's an energy. It's not about a state of rules. It's literally the opposite of that.

and I think there's so much misinformation on it at this point in life, and I'm still honestly learning about it as I go, because it's so deep, there's so much wisdom, but this idea that, oh, if you are on a stay-at-home mom, you're not a divine feminine energy, or if you don't talk in a really slow, quiet voice, that's not a divine feminine energy, like those tips are so surface level, because you can be whoever you want to be, you can be a bad

a badass weightlifter and be in your divine feminine energy. Because what does it mean to be in your divine feminine energy? It's to acknowledge your darkness, the parts of yourself that need more love and support and healing and truly embracing who you are. That is the most magnetic, hot, unbothered person is somebody who knows their truth, who knows who you are and has no desire to let other people tell them who they are because they know themselves deeply.

So, for instance, I'm in a phase in my life where you can't tell me who I am. I know who I am and people can pin me to labels, somebody can judge me, they can critique me, they can tell me that they think they know me or whatever it is.

They don't because I know myself and I know my heart and I know my soul and nobody can take that away from me. And that is power. I also want to say that this is not really...

spiritual concept but I think another really important aspect of being a hot and unbothered is the way that you carry yourself and that goes down to the basics of your posture and sitting up straight and you know walking into a room with your head high and not letting the crown fall and allowing your confidence to shine through those are really important aspects I think of a

this idea of being your magnetic self is how you present yourself out into the world because how you present yourself out into the world is a reflection of how you feel about yourself from within. Last concept that I want to touch on is this idea of playfulness.

Because I think that the best people that are in their hot, unbothered energy are people who have a sense of humor. Like, we all sometimes take life way too fucking seriously. We all need to just...

be in this playful energy again, like a child. That's the way that I see it. Because life's tough, get a helmet. But when we allow playfulness and humor to come back into our life, we become this really magnetic version of ourselves because we're like our inner child again. And our inner child is the version of ourself that is so aligned, that is so innocent and pure.

And so don't take yourself too seriously. And I know that's easier said than done, but...

Let go of all the weight you're carrying sometimes and develop a sense of humor about yourself and about life and be able to laugh and enjoy and be playful and try different things and be approachable and don't take things too seriously. When you don't take things personally or you don't take things too seriously, life becomes so fucking good. I swear to you. Because if you take everything so seriously and you try to control everything in your life, you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in a situation where you're going to end up in

You're in a state of resistance and we want to be in the exact opposite. Having a sense of humor and being playful and being able to flirt and go out and enjoy yourself and dance and sing and try new things and laugh or whatever it is. Those are the divine feminine attributes.

That is someone who is very aligned with themselves, who is truly embodying the purpose of life. And that is to be happy and to enjoy and to grow and to truly soak up the beauty that is life. So don't take yourself too seriously. Be in this playful energy, surrender and go with the flow because that is one of the most amazing qualities are people that are just...

Not high maintenance in the sense, like obviously I'm very high maintenance in a lot of different aspects of my life, but not high maintenance emotionally. They can take care of themselves emotionally and that's why we do the inner work and that's why we're on a spiritual journey because our emotional independence is our power. And so people who are able to just live their life in a relaxed sense and go along and invest in themselves and continuously learn and grow and

and feel confident with who they are, that's how you're hot and unbothered. As someone who's comfortable in their own skin, who projects confidence outwards, who uplifts other people, and who's genuinely able to be their best version of themselves by having fun. Have fun. When was the last time that you had fun? Seriously. Like I had to sit with myself a couple months ago and I was like, Kim, why are you so serious? Like go on a walk.

Go laugh. Go watch some memes. Like, why are you so serious? We live on a floating rock. And I genuinely had that dialogue with myself. And ever since then, I've just realized life is short. This is a human experience that doesn't last forever.

And we must enjoy it. And we must have fun. That's such an important thing that nobody talks about. Go have fun. And with that, I'll end my episode. Go do something fun. Enjoy yourself. Get out of your comfort zone and be in that playful energy. Because that energy is so magnetic. Beautiful souls, thank you so much for joining me in today's episode. As always, I will talk to you next week. Bye.