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Today I want to talk to you guys about one of the most pivotal mindset shifts I've had the past year and this notion and everything we're going to be talking about today is going to be one of those mindset shifts that are super pivotal to your life because it's going to be something that sets you free.

Today we're going to be talking about how every single person that's significant to your life, whether that be for a positive or negative reason, you meet for a reason because they have some gift to give you. I'm really going to break this down for you and we're going to dive deep into it, but I know that some of you guys, as you're listening to this or when you clicked on this episode, you're

what is she talking about? I mean, what does my narcissistic ex or this abusive person or this friend that really hurt me, what do you mean they have a gift to give me? That doesn't make any sense.

But I will tell you that once we get into it, I really encourage you to be open-minded to this concept. I actually had a lot of resistance with this concept as well because obviously when somebody deeply hurts you in your life, it's really hard to make that mindset shift into thinking that this person came into your life for a reason and had a gift to give you because there's a lot of emotional charge around the person or the situation and there's a lot of resistance.

So I'm here to first of all validate that and tell you that if you're feeling triggered by a certain person in your life and then when you hear me talk about what we're going to be talking about today, you don't really feel a resonance at the beginning. It's completely normal. I also had a lot of resistance to this concept before.

But I cannot even begin to tell you how much truth there is to it and how freeing it is. Because as much as this concept is sometimes very difficult to grasp, it demands us to really disconnect from our ego for a second and reconnect to our soul and our spirit. And that's sometimes difficult, especially again, when there's a lot of emotional charge around a certain relationship or situation. But I will tell you that if you start applying this mindset to your life, it's going to be the one mindset that sets you free.

It's going to be the mindset that shifts everything for you from being a victim of your circumstance, of your past, of your relationships, to truly being a powerful person and a person that knows how to take their experiences and their setbacks and use them as stepping stones. So let's get into it. Why is it that

every single person in your life that is significant to you has a gift to give you. So I think the best way to really describe this concept is to apply it to my own life because it's one thing to like say these theoretical concept every person has a gift to give you but it's another thing to relate it to your own life and I will say that after a lot of self-reflection and I look back

Every single person in my life that has hurt me the most, whether that was a romantic person or a friend, I can tell you with a full hand on the heart that...

Every single one of those people came into my life into divine reasons and their pain that they caused me and the hurt that I received from those relationships was actually such a huge catalyst for my growth. What I believe is that our souls came into this world, came to earth to grow and evolve and to learn.

And the way that we often learn some of our highest soul lessons, some of the things we came in to heal in this lifetime is through pain. It's through setbacks. It's through heartache. Those are the things that teach us the most about ourselves because pain is truly the catalyst and the biggest motivator for growth.

And so when I got hurt from certain people in my life, a lot of the time I played the victim card and I saw it from a very physical, egotistical perspective of like, they did this to me and they hurt me and la la la la la. And of course that's totally valid and you should see things that way because not everybody lives up to their soul potential, right? But at the same time,

The wise person and the powerful person, what they do is they're able to also look at each situation and each relationship from a different perspective of why did this happen to me?

What is the lesson in this? What did I learn from this? Maybe this person came into my life to hurt me so that I finally learn how to love myself. Maybe this friend came into my life to not appreciate me so that I finally learn how to let go of my people pleasing tendencies.

Maybe this family member came into my life to disrespect me, to neglect me so that I finally learn how to feel whole and complete on my own and take care of myself. Do you see what I'm doing here? Every single person in your life, I want you to think about it for a sec. There's one person in your life that really, really, really hurt you. What is the trigger? What is the pain point? What did they hurt most in you? And I want you to now ask yourself, what did that teach you so much about yourself?

Because I can tell you that the times in my life where a relationship ended because of a really deep pain point for me, I also had the biggest glow up and the biggest revelation about my life. Even this podcast was birthed from the fact of a relationship ending in my life. And so I want you to really start to think and reflect with yourself, who are the people that hurt me most in my life?

And why are they my biggest teachers? Some people come into your life to give you the gift of love and abundance and joy. And others come into your life to give you the gift of truth, of self-respect, of strength, of courage. And each person that comes into your life has a unique gift to give you.

Now, this is a very, very wise mindset and it's not something that's so easily applied into your life. Again, especially when there's emotional charge or a lot of triggering around a person, you're thinking to yourself, okay, how does this person that treated me so badly, why are they giving me a gift? Why did they come into my life? I didn't deserve it.

Now, this mindset has nothing to do with whether or not you deserve something or not. Let me stay clear on that. You never deserve to be disrespected. You never deserve to be abused. You never deserve to be treated unkindly or wrongly. None of that.

But sometimes life sends us lessons our way through certain people in our lives that are going to trigger the opposite of what we have to learn for us to finally gather enough strength and courage to learn the lesson and to rise up and to heal and to grow and to expand.

And the truth is sometimes those lessons come through moments of pain in life. And that is why, for instance, I look back at every single man for my life and I know that even though none of these men were my husbands and some of these men deeply hurt me,

they all had a gift to give me some of these men gave me the gift of love and some of these men gave me the gift of finally learning my self-respect and self-worth and i look back at past friendships in my life and i think to myself some of them gave me the gift of joy

and feeling like I belong somewhere in community and some of these friends from my past also gave me the gift of letting go of trying to please everyone and letting go of this idea that I have to belong and that I have to fit in and finally learning who I am and embracing myself and releasing those external validations and so every single person in your life has a gift to give you

But that is only if you allow yourself to actually search for that gift, search for that treasure and ask yourself, what is the situation teaching you? And this will also take you from the victim to the creator mindset of instead of why did this happen to me? What was this trying to teach me?

Because I promise you, once you start looking at your situations that way, you will realize how every single person that has come into your life thus far was planted in your life onto your path at this exact moment, at the exact most aligned time for you to learn exactly what you needed to learn in that moment.

And this mindset will also help you let go of the people from your past because you will realize, okay, this person served their sole purpose in my life. This was the sole contract with them. They came in to hurt me in this so that I finally learned this. And this will allow you to let them go, to not hold on, to not control, to not resist, to not try to make something work when it's not meant to. So when you start looking at

lessons and that people as they're coming into your life to give you a gift to yourself this is about you because again the life's journey is about coming home to yourself at the end of the day everything will shift for you every single person that is significant to your life or sometimes very small and mundane situations every single person that comes into your life has something to teach you

And I think the reason that this mindset is also so pivotal is if you apply it into your romantic relationships, a lot of the time people see things very black and white. Like this is either my future husband, this is the love of my life, my soulmate, or this is just someone that it didn't work out with. And I think the biggest shift that will really help you is actually realizing that every single person that comes into your life has something to teach you.

every single person and every single person that you meet is actually an invisible string that is helping you grow into the person that you're meant to be and I'll actually share a story of one of my close friends this is like a crazy story of why I so so believe in this idea that everyone you meet has a gift for you

So I have this friend and she was going out with this guy a couple years ago that was from Spain and so that had led her to move to Spain for a couple of months and she was learning the Spanish language and that relationship really exposed her to Spanish.

And then that relationship ended. She was obviously sad and she started to continue to learn Spanish because it was something that she ended up really connecting to. And then she was exposed to a type of Dominican dancing.

and she was like really really drawn to this type of dance so she started driving like two hours each week to a dance studio to take these Dominican dance classes and she was just like learning Spanish on the side and like really growing that side of her and that connection to that culture and then her dance teacher became one of her really close friends and they started to really like get to know each other and hang out and

And one time her friend, the dance teacher, invited her over to like a house party that they were doing for like people from the Dominican Republic, this whole culture. And they were going to dance like the type of dances she loved and everyone was speaking Spanish.

And in this party is where she met her husband. And this summer, they're going to get married at the Dominican Republic. And I think this story is so crazy. Why? Because if she had never gone out with that guy before that exposed her,

to Spanish and the language. She would have never fallen in love with the Spanish language. She would have never felt the need to start expanding that, getting into that different culture. And she would have never aligned with the version of herself that needed to be to meet her future husband.

And so if this story doesn't tell you that every single person that you meet has a gift for you, and I'm sure a couple years ago when that relationship ended, obviously every single time a relationship ends, you're sad, you're devastated, you're heartbroken. But I promise you that every single person that you meet in your life has a gift to give you. You don't know the invisible string that the universe is pulling in the background to get you to where you're meant to be. Maybe that person you're going out with right now is actually going to be the person that leads you to your husband. Maybe that friend that

you are meeting right now is actually going to be the person that leads you to that new career opportunity or vice versa. Maybe that person that broke your heart is actually going to be the person that's going to teach you and push you to finally love yourself. Maybe that person or that family member that didn't believe in you, that ridiculed you, is actually going to be the person that unlocks that motivation inside of you to finally believe in yourself, to finally start your business or to go after your dream. You really never know.

And so every single person in your life that comes into your life has something to teach you. And this is one of the greatest key to growth and self-development because this is when you take your power back and you realize, okay, this person may have hurt me. The situation didn't work out the way that I envisioned for myself, but I know that there is still a gift here for me because everything

I am connected to the universe. I'm connected to God, to universal source. And I know that every single thing that comes along my path is from the universe. And I know that every single thing that comes along my path has a purpose to teach me for my highest good. One of my favorite quotes is, souls don't meet by accident. No one is sent down your path by accident.

And once you realize this, your life will shift because you'll realize that there is a deep purpose for every single person that you meet. And some of these people are meant to test you. Some of these people are meant to hurt you, to use you. Some of these people are meant to teach you. And some of these people are meant to bring something out of you, the best out of you, something out of you that you haven't even discovered in yourself yet. And another perspective that I think is so important is sometimes you meet people because you're supposed to change something in their life.

So sometimes you meet people for a reason because they're supposed to change something in your life and sometimes you're supposed to be the one that shifts something in theirs. So sometimes you'll be in a situation where you're like, I don't know how I found myself in this but you don't know how pivotal it is that you're making it for the other person. There's duality to everything and this really connects me to the idea of soul contracts and this is something that I really, really, really believe in and that's this idea that before your soul came onto this earth,

You signed certain signed in quotation marks, but you agreed to have certain experiences to learn certain lessons to meet certain people in order for you to become the version of yourself that you're meant to become in this lifetime. And so I really believe that the most significant people in your life, like some of your family members, your relationships, your friendships, your kids, like all of these people you have a soul contract with.

with. Some of these soul contracts are very painful, they're karmic, they're meant to teach you very, very deep soul lessons and some of these are meant to show you what love is and what unconditional support is and what joy is and what abundance is.

This is something that is a very powerful idea and a lot of different philosophies and spiritual teachers and religions talk about this idea just kind of in different fonts. But it's basically this idea that your soul came to this earth to create a shift and to create a healing in their life and to grow. In Judaism, I really believe in the Kabbalah because I grew up Jewish. We believe in something called the tikkun, that your soul came to this world to do a tikkun, which means they came to mend part of themselves,

and to grow as a spirit, to learn different lessons, and to really align with the highest version of themselves. And so every single person that you meet contributes to your soul purpose, contributes to your evolvement and to your own expansion. People come into your life either for a reason, a blessing, or a lesson. But they come into your life to

To serve some form of purpose one way or another. So I really invite you is after this episode, either think to yourself or either journal or meditate, who are the people that are the most significantly impacting your life, whether that be for a good or bad reason, who are the people that you're giving your power away to, who are the people that have positively shifted your life in an amazing way.

And why did they come into your life? What is the lesson that you learned? And maybe you don't realize it right away, but there's a part of you that knows, you know what, this person had to hurt me because this is who I became today when I went through that. Or this person came into your life to show me something about myself in this sector.

I want you to really start asking yourself these questions. It will give you a lot of clarity on different situations in your life, different relationships, because every single person, again, that comes into your life has some gift to give you. And when you realize this, that every person has a gift to give you, then you stop giving your power away to the people that have hurt you the most.

Because you take the gift, you take the lesson, and you extract and dissolve everything else. So I really hope that this episode was pivotal for you in one way or another and that you're going to be able to walk away from this episode with some form of clarity on your life, whether it be big or small. Make sure, again, that you are subscribed to my free email list if you want to receive amazing inspiration and motivation every single week. And I'll see you in the next one.

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