Our Biggest Dating Red Flags | Trash Taste #178
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- What's up gamers and TikTok friends. Welcome back to another episode of Trash Taste. I'm your host Joey. - TikTok friends. - TikTok friends. I'm your host Joey. - I remember Joey used to do good intros. - Yeah. - That's not even alliteration, Joey. - Okay, give me a letter and I'll do an alliteration right now off the dome. - B. - B?

- What's up you bootylicious bitches. Welcome back to another episode of Trash Chase Podcast. I'm Joey and I'm with Connor and Garnt as always. And we're gonna be doing something a little bit different. We're gonna be following a TikTok trend. - Oh, that's where you kind of came up with that. - Yes, that's why I said the TikTok friends. If you guys have been on TikTok or I guess YouTube Shorts, any short form content, then you might've known about these little things called red flags versus green flags.

Today we're gonna get a bunch of potential red flags or green. Are we including beige flags in this? - What's a beige flag? - This is totally new to me. - From my understanding, a beige flag is, so if a red flag is a very bad trait that someone has, a green is a good trait that someone has. A beige flag is more of an oddity or a quirk.

- Like boring? - Well, let's say if Garnt wakes up every morning and just stares out the window for 10 minutes, I think that that'd be a beige flag. - That's a red flag for me. - Or you mean waking up and just shouting at yourself in the mirror. - That would be a beige flag. If you lived with me and you heard that every, that would be either a beige to red flag. - Right, right. - 'Cause that is just a weird thing. - So beige is kind of in the middle.

between red flags. - We all have weird things that we do. - Sure, yeah. - And so it's one of those. Don't think of it as like in the middle, it's not good or bad. Think of it beige being reserved for like a quirky. - Like an oddity. - Yeah, because it can also be no flag. It doesn't have to be a green or a red flag. - Surely a beige flag is just a no flag then. - No, no, it's reserved exclusively for weird quirks.

It is not indicative of a normal behavior. - Why did they decide to pick the most boring color for something? - Because it's meant to be like a flag is obviously when something goes wrong. So the flag was like, oh, it's weird. It's like, there's something weird here.

Whereas if it's, we just don't, if it's like, hey, he replies to your messages. That's just not a flag because that's normal behavior. - Right, right. - But a green flag is going like the behavior is good and, but we can see how it goes. - Okay, okay. So basically we're gonna be, we have a bunch of- - We can say normal, beige, green or red. - Okay, sure. So no flag, beige, green or red. We have a bunch of topics in here that can be one

- Potential flags. - Potential flags. - Because as you can tell, we are three dating experts out there. - Probably the most experienced man of all time. - Come on, come on guys, come on. We decided to make our own alpha podcast actually. - Oh, our flags. - Our flags. - It's our flags.

- Finally some representation. - It helps to contextualize how we view something. - Sure. - Yeah, yeah. - So how are we gonna do this? We're gonna read out- - Let's all pull one out each. - Yeah, we're gonna pull out a topic out of Trashbox Coon. - Pulling out is a red flag.

- I'll keep my hand in, trash box again. And then we'll pull out a topic, we'll read it out. We will individually say whether it's a red flag or a green flag. And then after discussion, I guess we can collectively

what Trash Taste deems a certain color. Should we do it like that? - No, okay, I got a better idea. Can we get the whiteboards out? - Oh my God, what are we doing? - 'Cause I feel like it's better if we review what we think at the same time. - Oh, I see. - Yeah, yeah. - We're kinda doing a little After Dark inspired. - Yeah, we're doing a little After Dark inspired. - We'll do a little After Dark. - Okay, okay, okay. - This is a film later in the day. - Yeah. - See, 'cause like, I feel everybody has their like red flags and green flags with their partners. And by the way, we're specifically talking about like

'Cause obviously there are like different flags for like friends or like parents or like bosses or whatever. - Parents? - Yeah. You know, fucking over. - They get the belt out. - Yeah. - Beige flag. - Beige, that's a big beige. - So you audio only listeners are not gonna be able to see what we do. - Well, we will say what we're right now. - Yes, but we will say what we're right now. - This is still from the last after dark. - Slightly agree. - Slightly agree, all right, let's see.

- Okay, so feel free to play along at home. Let us know down in the comments below what you think about all of these, what do you call them? - Traits. - Traits, quotes? - Traits. - How do you want to call them? - Traits. - Traits. - You know, if you were to play an RPG and they had these, you would see them as good or bad. - Okay, sure, sure. So let's- - Is that your character?

frequently get drunk. That's a bad trait to have in a character. - See, this is gonna be interesting 'cause I don't think I've ever actually like sat down and thought about whether something is green or red flag. - Yeah, and there's a lot of things that, you know, I think when you're, if you ever,

- If you're fortunate enough to ever get in a relationship, you learn that- - Did you say I'm- - 'Cause God knows our audience will never. - Listen, listen, hey, come on, all right? I'm right here. - Are there fans having girlfriends and boyfriends? - Connor represents the everyman here. He's the everyman. - Listen, listen. - And the red flag. - You know, it's easy to be like, I would never date someone who has this. - Sure. - You know, a lot of the time life is a lot different than that.

Sometimes you date someone, you find out afterwards that they like to think the world is flat and then you know, that's a kind of conversation you gotta figure out afterwards. - And I feel as well, like flags change all the time depending on what stage of your life you are. - Oh yeah. - Like some things you can be way more tolerable about, other things you're just like, what is this shit? - I just wanna look at how bouncy this thing is.

- Oh my Lord. - What the fuck? - You're like a little kid now. - What the hell? - What the hell? It's so bouncy. - Ladies, is that a red flag or a green flag? - That's a beige flag right there. Pull it out of the dam. - All right, all right. - Let's see. All right, here we go. Our first one is- - Are we writing it down then? - Yeah, we'll write it down. - I'm gonna read it out and then we write it down and then we'll reveal. Okay, here we go. Here's our first flag.

Our first flag is, has the food palette of a 12 year old. - Isn't that just all of us? - Whoa, whoa, whoa. - Do not put words in my mouth, sir. - Okay, okay, okay. - Holy fuck. - What does food palette of 12 year old mean? - See, that's open for interpretation. You can interpret that however way you want. - How do I spell beige? - Well, thanks for telling us. - Well, I just realized- - B-E-I-G-E.

I wish I got that one in the spelling. I want to get that one right. Illiterate. Okay, we get it. Okay, we get it. All right, we get it. Yours is beige. All right, ready? Let's reveal in three, two, one. It's a red flag.

- Red flag. - Why is it a red flag? - Okay, I mean, okay. - I'm surprised not all of us wrote down, actually, I'm not surprised. - Okay, first of all, it's not a quirk to not wanna fucking eat anything. - Everyone has a fucking quirk about something that's weird with their taste buds. That is not a weird thing. - You interpreted that in the sense that- - I get it Garnt, we're on trash days. - You interpreted that sentence as you have the power, okay, you have one thing you dislike.

how I interpret that. - What is your definition of taste?

- I interpreted that as they have the power of a 12 year old. - Yeah, they have the power of a 12 year old. - They won't eat most things. You go to a restaurant, they're not willing to try stuff. That's like a big part of for me is that I like being able to sit down and share meals with people. And if they're not willing to at least try certain things, hey, I get it. If you don't, you straight up don't like uni, you know you don't like uni and it comes out, okay, that's fine, we get that. - This is linked to one of my biggest pet peeves, not just with partners, just with people in general, people who,

don't like put all of this judgment on something that they have little to no information or knowledge about and don't even bother trying to explain. - Okay, but okay.

- I guess there's like a way to interpret it, but how picky are we like saying right now? How picky are we talking about? - Well, I will picture your average 12 year old at a restaurant or something, right? They're gonna probably pick the most, like when I was 12 year old, I wasn't fucking exploring food or anything like that. - They probably always eat the same thing. They tend to be like, you know, ordering with them

is never fun. Like I think a fun part of ordering, especially when we all go out, we're like, what are you feeling? And we all just kind of try a bunch of things. - Yeah, it's like, oh, I've never tried that thing before. I'll give it a go. - Sometimes you go out, people know like, I will only eat this one thing. And you're like, oh, okay. - Or they're like super specific about what they can eat because they're comfortable with it. - And that's fine. Like, as it makes it sound like we hate these people. I don't, there's nothing wrong with it. But it's like, for me, if I was to be with someone, that's something that I would care about is being able to share those foods. - As someone who,

you know, famously fucks with everything in terms of food. - You do fuck with too much though. - Yeah. - I love that. - There are some things you shouldn't fuck with Joey. - No, but like, you know, for me, it's like, if you tell me that if I go to a new country or something and you, and I see this like particular cuisine that I've never heard of, don't even know what

what the hell it is, right? 'Cause it might be in a completely different language, I don't know, right? Never seen anything like it before. If the locals tell me that it's good shit, it's edible, you know, it might differ, you know, some people like it, some people don't. That just peaks my curiosity of being like, well, I wanna try this thing out. I want to explore. - You're so willing to try something. - Yeah, I'm always willing to try something out before I judge something.

- Okay, yeah, I agree with that then. I would not be with someone if they weren't willing to like try other things. - What if Sydney only ate chicken nuggets? 'Cause she's from Wisconsin, which is a possible time. - Cheese curds, what if she only ate cheese curds? - Yeah, she only ate like cheese curds and fries. - I've not met a single person that is as bad as what you guys are talking about though. - You've never met someone who's only- - Oh, I've met so many people who are like that. - I have not.

Even I'm going to like, you know, deep into like Wisconsin, people are willing to try out new things. You know, they might not always like it, but people are normally willing to at least try something to be like, nah, just give me a burger and cheese and cheese curds. - I've met people who only like fast food. They will not, out of preference, they just don't like anything else. And they're not willing to- - Well, I understand if like- - I think you're American. - Okay.

- Most of the people, I'm not trying to be like, 'cause we hate Americans so much. I'm not trying to be a dick, but it's most of the time people I meet who are super picky are normally American. However, I have met a bunch of British people who also are fucked in this. - I've met some Australians who are like this. The way they're just like, they're just not willing to try anything. - Preference to this, I'm also around Americans the most.

- I'm around more Americans than not. So I feel like this is also why my judgment is- - It's a bit skewed, yeah. But like, you know, I get if like allergies are involved, right? Like obviously you can't- - Yeah, if you have a disease or you can't eat certain foods- - Or if there's like something that is physically stopping you from eating.

Or if there's something physically stopping you, like at a chemical level of you not being able to eat a certain thing. Okay. Yeah, you know. - Your immune system just hates you. It's just an immune diff. - Then I get it. But like, if you look at this thing and you're just like, the one thing I, okay, this is one thing that pet peeve I hate the most is when something comes out and before they've even tried it, they go, what is that?

And then they try and know every single little detail. And then after hearing all the details, they're like, "No, I'm not gonna try." - Okay, but sometimes there are things that you don't really have any interest in wanting to fuck with. Like, would you feel that way if someone's like, "Now I'm good never trying natto." - No.

- I think you should give anything a go. And if you don't like it, then now you know. It's like you try it once, you don't like it. Okay, that's completely fine that you don't like. I'm not gonna hate everyone who doesn't like Nato obviously, but like I'm gonna hate you even more if you say you don't like Nato without even trying it out. Because as we've found out, you used to not like Nato and then you tried it on after dark and you fucked with it. - There is some kind of like psychological thing there where you do, you like almost,

fearing this food so much that there's no possible part of your brain that will allow you to think it tastes good or the texture is good or whatever. And I don't think that's the thing, but yeah, I mean, if I go to a restaurant and like 50% plus of the things you don't want to eat or you're not willing to try, I'm like, okay, well then what, like, you know. 'Cause for me, that's a lot of my downtime is being able to share those. - No, totally. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

We're very fortunate we get to go out. - Yeah, I mean, I say this because, okay, so as long as they're willing to try things, that's why I didn't put like red flag because- - You just put nothing, you put no flag. - I guess- - You could have just put no flag. - Okay, no flag. - You made it be like, oh, that's a weird thing. - No, no, no, like, okay, the way I interpreted that is like taste buds of a 12 year old, right? That means they just haven't

gone out of their comfort zone for like a lot of things. 'Cause I remember when I first started dating Sydney, she had not really had anything but like American foods and she could not handle spicy food like at all, right? - Yeah. - So, you know, you could argue that she had not had a lot of different cultures food and now like she eats spicier food than my mom because she started dating me. - Okay, but spicy food I think is a bit different 'cause that's not a taste, that's a sensation.

- Maybe to a Japanese person, Joey. - No, no, no, no. - Joey, Joey. - No, no, no. - Joey, Joey. - I think that is very different. I think in terms of the palette of a 12 year old is like,

- We are really going into the definition. - No, no, no, I'm not gonna go this one. - Yes, okay, Joey, scientifically whatever, spiciness isn't a taste, all right, Joey, but you know, if you can't have spicy food, like even to like just a little bit of a spicy food, me as a Thai, I'm gonna think that you're a little baby that can't eat anything with a little bit of spice. - Look, I'm someone who got out of that comfort zone. I used to not be able to eat any spice growing up. - Well, spice is a gradual thing.

- It is unfortunately something you can jump into. - And now I would say I'm pretty all right. Coco level, I can go up to a level four now. I'm proud of that. - Because here's the thing. I think we met someone about that thought this earlier, but it's not just the spice, but it's like how sensitive is your palate as well, right? So some people can't handle Southeast Asian food, for example, because it has like a very, very strong taste. - I fucking love it. - And I love it, right? - Sure.

some Japanese people that I've met and some Westerners that I've met as well, that taste is just like, this is gonna sound so weird. There's just too much seasoning. There is just too much seasoning. And to me, I'm like, okay, that's the pattern for 12 year old, to me as a Southeast Asian. - Are you referring to one of our staff going to Nando's for the first time the other day?

- Maybe, but he is not the first person I've met that has said that. - For context, one of our Japanese staff here at Trash Taste went to a Nando's the other day in the UK and his review of Nando's was, "There's too much flavor."

- That's fucked up. - That's fucked up. - That's fucked up to say. - So that's a skill issue. - Let's go on to the next one. - All right, next one. - I feel like we can't stand too long on the fucking 12 year old topic. - It doesn't matter. We can do this for as long as we want to. Is it a red or green flag when they don't use social media? - Hmm, okay. - I'm gonna need context. I'm thinking about these and I'm like, I need some context.

- Okay. - That is the context. - That is the context. - What do you mean? - They don't use social media. - Okay, is there like- - No Twitter, no Instagram, no Facebook. - Nothing. - Nothing.

- What you can call social media, they do not use- - The only thing that I think I will, when I think of social media, I don't count stuff like messaging or like line, whereas it's strictly peer-to-peer communication. - People, they can text you, but you can't find them on a website. - I know that is technically the definition of like social media or like social is taught peer-to-peer, but I consider that as a completely different app. - Yeah, but if you include that, then like snail mail is social media. - Yeah, right, like I think,

- No one in their right mind, even though the definition includes all of these, would compare texting to being on Twitter. - It's specifically talking about social media websites. Okay, ready? Three, two, one, page. - Green. - I decided to put green. - Really? - Listen, I'm terminally online.

I don't want someone who's also totally online. - Okay, so for me, this is, I thought about green at first because obviously we're in a position where like social, being on social media is part of our jobs, right? Like we kind of have to be on social media as public figures on the internet. But I think,

I thought at first it might've been green because there might've been like a nice, like if your partner doesn't use social media, then that's a good excuse to like kind of lay low on the social media and kind of cool off on being terminally online all the time. But at the same time, a lot of like my cultural references that I know, a lot of like memes and stuff like that also comes from social media. Would I be able to like,

- Human existed before social media. - Yes, but admittedly, a lot of that human now is rooted in social media. - I don't know. - That's like saying, "Hey, I can't get on with my parents 'cause if I say among us, they're not gonna understand what I'm talking about."

- And I would argue actually, that's a good thing. - Yeah, that's a good thing. That's a good thing to be around. - I want my parents to know that you're more than me. - I pulled away of three people's social media usage. I don't need another person doing it. - See, I don't even think you do. There are more people nowadays that are more terminally online than there are that are not. - I think it's just like how you spend it online. Like I don't stream all the time. It's just different hours. Like I don't actually have that much time to scroll all the time,

I'm just always online in some capacity. So I feel like I would like to get away from that when possible. - I think I put down beige because in the sense of like, I don't, yeah, it is weird in this day and age to not have it. It is very quirky. - They've had to make the choice to do it. - Yeah, a little try hardy if you ask me, right? - Well, it depends how they're framing it. Like if someone's like, I'm not on social media and it's like- - Okay, but do you know anyone around you who's not on social media? - I know some people, yeah. - Yeah, how do they like look at social media?

- They just kind of look at it as a negative and they just want to live.

- In the moment, I guess that's what they said. They wanna be more focused on the things that's immediately surround them as opposed to what everyone else is doing. Unfortunately makes it harder to get in contact with them sometimes. That's like, I guess the biggest downside. But the reason I put green flag is because I was thinking about it and I was like, if someone told me they didn't use social media, can I think of any negative effects?

- Yeah, I think there's no downside to not being on it. - Yeah, I don't really see any downside to someone not being on social media. - Well, it's just a lot of self-confidence generally, 'cause you're not on it. You're like, I feel confident in who I am. I don't need to be in this game of clout. - See, because that is definitely a good thing as well. But at the same time, it's like, I think the benefit of,

you know, a partner and you being on social media is that you can like say for example, like, you know, something that everybody does nowadays, which is just like sharing memes or just like bringing up something fun that you saw on social media or like something funny, like a funny video or like a funny Instagram. - You also just show them on your phone. - Yeah. - Yeah, it's not like you're gonna show them memes like, no, no, I'm allergic to memes, I can't look at Instagram. But like, you know, at the same time- - Say like Indiana Jones when his skin fades away. - Rah, rah!

- But I think the benefit of being on social media is, again, it's totally depends on how you use it. But I think just having that same even just like baseline knowledge of how social media like memory works and how the internet works and stuff like that, internet culture works is just a very nice way to be able to connect to your partner. Whereas like,

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- I think valid arguments all around. - Valid arguments. - I don't agree. - It's a personal thing, you know, it's whatever. - I mean, I don't need memes to, you know, I don't, there's more ways to connect to. - If I don't show a meme a day, I will die.

- That's all I'm saying. - Joey's like- - You do have the most extensive meme collection, I would say, out of the three of us. - Me? - Yeah, I think so. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - I gave up on memes. - I thought it was you for sure. - I gave up on memes a while back actually. - Really? - Well, I keep up with them, but I don't collect or make note of them. - Why is it assumed that I collect memes? - You do keep track of memes more. - I do not save memes for like- - You save memes. You share memes. - You're a meme saver. - Yes, you are. - I share memes. - You share memes. - I don't share memes anymore. I gave up. - Right. - That's just because I'm on Instagram. - Yeah, I guess.

- All right, what's the next one? - Has watched only basic anime, but says they are a weeb. - Has watched basic anime and says they're a weeb? - Has only watched basic anime and says they're a weeb. - Okay. - Okay. Sure. - I didn't know, I have to think about it. I mean, there's only one answer, right?

- Okay. - Ready? Three, two, one. - I feel green. - We all disagree. - Yes. - Bro, I don't give a fuck. - This just shows our personalities. Joey's like, "Anime mentioned, red flag." - I think there are a lot of very popular, quote unquote, "Basic anime" out there where you could actually be a weeb now and have only watched like,

the well-known shows. - Right. - I think you can be into the anime aesthetic and everything that like about anime without needing to watch Serial Experiments Lane. - Okay, but here's the thing. This is the insinuation that you use the word meme, weeb in a positive way.

- Well, okay, I guess that's also a tough argument. - I mean, referring to yourself as a weeb, I guess. I mean, I'm more like focusing on the kind of anime side of things. - That paper could have just said, calls themselves a weeb. It still would have been fine. - It's not a great argument, but I think that it's whatever. - Okay, the reason I put green is because I literally have met somebody that's went through this exact

- Ludwig and Hassan? - No, no, it's a friend who's not part of the community. - Oh, yeah, yeah, yeah. - He's not on social media. - Yeah, he's not on social media. - Which is a green flag, by the way. - Basically, they met a person, and this person was one of my close friends, and they're a massive weeb, right? They went through the phase where they kind of,

- Did the anime man thing where they watched every anime that came out in a season for like years on end. - That's fucked. - And then they kind of burnt out of anime. - Sure. - And- - It's just like me for real. - Yeah, yeah. They're just like you for real. And they burnt out anime and they just stopped watching anime for a long time. Kind of went on with life, got a job. And then they met their current partner who was like,

"Actually, I'm a weeb. "I've watched My Hero Academia and One Piece." Not knowing that there's like a secret level 99 weeb spanning right next to them. And you know, part of the bonding session that they had and part of the reason why, you know, they kind of really got close together was because she got to introduce them to a bunch of anime, not realizing, not like, and not realizing that, you know,

they were really, really big weeb. - Is One Piece considered normie now? - Yes. - Oh, 100%. - It is 100% normie. - It is very, very normie. - So you're a normie if you, that's such a horrible word. If you watch One Piece, you make sure, okay. - Why do you have to put so much emphasis on normie? - Normie.

- Yeah, so like the way I interpret this is that, okay. - Enthusiastic. - Yeah, they're enthusiastic about anime and they've only seen the basic anime. So you have the opportunity to be like- - The dichotomy of men. - You have the opportunity to be like,

Babe, I can show you the world. I can show you the world, babe. Let me introduce you to a whole ton of shows. - You're jolly to defend gatekeeping right now. - Okay, I will say that is a lovely story, but that is one very rare occurrence in my opinion of it just happening to work out, right? - Okay. - Most of the time, right, quote unquote weebs who have only ever watched "My Hero" and "One Piece" are not that open to watching the weird shit.

- You don't need to watch the weird shit, Joey. - Well, not even just the- - Should every weeb have watched Evangelion? - Why Evangelion specifically? - It's a great barometer for this kind of question. - I think, well,

- I noticed that anime fans answer very differently to this question. - I think every anime fan should watch Ava, not just to like- - Can they call themselves anime fans? - I don't think they need to enjoy Ava. - Of course they can. - This is going back to the 12 year old pal thing. I don't think you need to- - Yeah, I didn't enjoy it that much. - You don't need to watch, you don't need to enjoy Ava, but you should watch it if you- - Maybe I'm a 12 year old. - Yeah, like personally as an anime fan, I think every weeb should watch Evangelion just to like,

have an opinion on it. It's one of those anime where I'm like, it's such a different experience to everyone who watches it. - It's like Breaking Bad of TV fans. - I wouldn't call it that. Like Breaking Bad is like way too critically acclaimed. - Is Evangelion not? - It's very polarized. - I thought it was very critically acclaimed though.

- No, I think it's critically acclaimed for the people who love the show, but a lot of people do not like the show. And that's fine. But like, okay, I think for me, the reason why it's red is because I think the way that I see and act around weebs or like talk to weebs is very different considering my background.

Because whenever I think of a stereotypical weeb, they don't even have to have watched only the basic shit. They could be the most knowledgeable in anime. But when they think that they know a lot about Japan or they know a lot about Japanese just because they've watched a couple hundred shows of anime. - Couple hundred? - Yeah, even a couple hundred. That to me is just racist.

- People who only watch anime, consume anime, even the most basic shit and just think to themselves like, yeah, I know so much about Japan. I know so much about Japanese culture. - You're like interpolating the definition of weeb as being like, probably like, well I guess a weeb is technically like a Japanese.

- Yeah, it's a Japanophile. That's what a weeb is in the traditional sense. And that's how I view this question. - I didn't think about that angle. - Oh my God. If Aki fucking came up to me every day and started going, "Yeah, ooh, ooh." And then just started doing some like maiden noises shit, I would fucking kick her out. Like that shit would be so goddamn annoying. And there wouldn't be any room for talking about, "Hey babe, have you watched the Evangelion?" 'Cause I wouldn't fucking even ask that question.

- I guess if you're Japanese it's a bit different. - I did not take that interpretation. - The plot twist of us talking about anime and Joey just goes, "Racism." I was just like, "Oh my God." - It is. - Yeah, I'm not Japanese so I can't take that argument. - Yeah, I mean like as a counter argument, right? I think that like you're taking like, I guess the,

mid 2000s definition of like weeb. - I love that nuclear response to it. That was great. This is the kind of content we need to keep this podcast alive. - I'm like, somehow I have to argue against racism here. - But hang on, but hang on Joey. Okay, what is the, okay. Okay, admittedly yes. My definition of weeb is like the fucking Yahweh paddle era of weebs, right? What would you say is the 2023 definition of weeb? - Weeb is-

like the English language words always change. I think weep has changed. Weep doesn't mean somebody who's a fan of Japan. - For me, someone who has watched a lot of anime, this says someone who's only watched basic anime. If someone's watched a lot of anime, they would never call themselves a weeaboo unironically.

- Okay. - Right? Because they know about the anime culture. - Yeah. They know what that word means. - When I hear the statements, "Has watched only basic anime, but says they are a weeb." - Yeah. - That means they are kind of just in the entry level anime community kind of thing. - Yeah, that people should say,

and says they're a weeb, not but says they're a weeb. - Yeah, I mean- - 'Cause those kind of go hand in hand. - I mean, I would say if you call yourself a weeb and you've watched any basic anime, you'll just probably heard that as a buzzword somewhere on the internet. - Sure. - You're like, oh, okay. - Probably. - Yeah, probably, probably. - All right, let's do another take then. - All right. - All right.

- Where do we go from racism? - Dude, I can't wait for the next take. - He's just waiting for my bombastic- - I love it, I love it, dude. I'm so glad someone else is doing it for once. I know we come out swinging. - We need to keep this podcast interesting. All right, next take. Red flag, green flag, or beige flag? Hasn't watched any classic movies.

- I don't know how I feel about this. I'm a really big film guy. You guys know I love watching- - I think all three of us love film. - I'm a big film guy as well. - We've all seen a lot of movies. So I think mine is pretty straightforward. - Yeah, mine's straightforward as well. - I just saw your answer going, what the fuck? - It also depends on how you define classic movies.

- Classic movies, Godfather. Okay, classic movies. - IMDB top 50. - IMDB top 50. - Okay. - All right. - Three, two, one. - I said none. - Yeah, none. I don't think it's anything. I think it's whatever. - Green? - Yeah.

- What the fuck is with you? - Hold on, you're gonna have to- - You think it's good that they haven't watched the- - Yes. - It's a great trait to have? - I think it's a fucking great trait just because you get to, like, it's very similar to the anime thing where you get to show them something and part of- - You're assuming that they're already

- What if they're not down to watch them? - Yeah, what if they're not down to watch it? - Yeah, what if they don't want to watch it? - I mean, that movie looks old, Garnt. - Yeah, what if the reason why they haven't watched these classic movies is because years ago they looked at the IMDB top 15 and they're like, "Oh, they look old and boring." - I mean, that was not said on the piece of paper. To me, if someone- - You're assuming that they'll want to watch them.

and they'll watch them with you. - Yeah, Garnt is very optimistic about it. - Yeah, you're super optimistic about all these problems. - Okay, I'm super optimistic. - Like, I can change them. I can fix them. - I'm super optimistic because I just love, like not even like with your partner, but like with any friends or family that I have plenty of family members who have not watched

or have not experienced X thing. And part of that, especially if it's a partner, to me it's a green flag because I assume if we're partners, right?

part of part of being a partner is that even if you're not necessarily interested in a topic that you're you know that before you met your partner that you want to explore it with them like for me i do not give a shit about horror movies for example but i still will sit down with sydney and watch some horror movies and i'm happy just seeing the stuff that she's

passionate about, even though I'm not, I'm never gonna be as passionate about it. - Right, but again, you're looking at this like, you know, fictional relationship that you have with this partner as a very optimistic thing of like, they're just kind of down for everything. And the only reason they haven't watched these classic movies is because they've just never given the opportunity. - Well, why are you being pessimistic, Joey?

- What's wrong with being a little bit optimistic about assuming the best of intentions Joey? - Because life's a bitch. It doesn't work out that way. It's not all candy and rainbow. Sometimes there are people who are just so up in their own head where they look at these like movies like Godfather, like Apocalypse Now, like Goodfellas and they're just like, oh, it's old and it was made before my time. Not interested. I don't care. I'd rather watch the next fucking Avengers movie. - I'd rather watch the FNAF film. - I'd rather watch the FNAF film. - To me, if,

- If the paper said that they've watched a bunch of classic films and they do not care for them, that would be like a different answer for me. - What would that be for you? - For me, no. For me, that would be more like more beige none.

Like to me that doesn't signify a relationship, but to me, if I know someone has not seen the same things that I'm interested in, I see that as an opportunity to be like, oh, okay, we can possibly bond together or I can show you stuff that I'm passionate about and I'm interested in and we don't necessarily need to enjoy the same things to have a good working relationship. - 'Cause you could reframe this with anything. Like they haven't read the classic books. They haven't read, watched the,

K-drama series, the classics. - Well, that's why I said none though in this case, because it's like, it can really go both ways. And if you kind of average that all out, it does become a non-fly. - Yeah, I think it's whatever. Like I think there's a reason why you haven't consumed that media. - There's lots of people out there. - It's fine. - I just like to see the good in people. I like to assume the best guys. - You're like, it's great, 'cause then I can share it with them again. - That is great.

- All right, pick one. - All right, sorry ladies, Garnt's taken. - All right. - Is Garnt just gonna write green for everything? - What's the next one Garnt? - Doesn't watch a show if it's popular. - Okay. - All right. - Why are you guys laughing? - No reason. - No reason, Joe. - All right, I got mine.

- All right, three, two, one. - Three, two, one, beige. - I think it's a bad trait to have, some might say. - I mean, if you're just judging things based on its popularity, then you're not coming into this with an open mind. You're coming into this with preconceived- - You're just a hater. You're a hater. - Yeah, you're just a hater. And you think you have better taste and more superior taste. - Explain, Mr. Babe. - I'm not speaking on behalf of anyone, but if I was someone like that-

- You think it's an oddity? - I think it's just a bit weird. And there's, yeah, yeah. - I think it's a red flag. - It's just a bit weird. - What if, you know, we were dating Joey and I was super happy to watch this new show called "Arcane" with you. - Yeah. - And I was telling you about how I was super excited for it. - Yeah. - And you're like, "No, we're not watching it." - No. I'll watch it like five years later. - No.

- Well, we're getting there. - Do you promise to watch Arcane in three years? - No. - Wait, you said you'll watch it five years later? - No, just some amount of years later. - That's my red flag. - Dude, I'm currently watching fucking Stranger Things 'cause I'm finally getting around to finishing it and it's great. - All right, all right, all right. - Well, I know Felix has my back. I'm not the only one. - I'll say that to Felix as well, Joey. It's okay. - All right, what do you got? - What do we got? - Big piece of paper.

- We should probably audibly say what we have out so the audio listeners can keep up. - That's what I've been saying. - Uses astrology unironically. - Uses astrology unironically. Okay. God, I'm so glad I'm taken. I would, I probably seem like the most unattractive person right now. - You know what you want, Jerry. There's nothing wrong with that. There's nothing wrong with that. - I know what I want. - All right, say what your answer is on three, two, one. - Red. - Red. - Red. - Yeah, we can all- - Okay. - Look, this is,

- This is just a dude answer. I think every single dude watching this episode right now can agree. Sorry, ladies. - It's just like when something goes wrong and then someone tells me, "Yeah, it's just not a good month for Leos." And I'm like, "I will kill you." And then they'll be like, "That is what Leo would say." I'm like, "I will."

I cannot express how much I hate that you think that one in 12 people are exactly the same and can be interpreted by the movements of fucking science. - I just stopped belly laughing like that. It's some of the funniest pseudo science out there. And I really hope it doesn't stop 'cause it never gets old. - It's also just frustrating for me when I feel like

- It is okay to admit that we just don't know things as a population that we just don't have it figured out. And I hate that it is trying to give some agency to give people a feeling that they know it. But I feel like knowing nothing is better than knowing something completely incorrect. - People are weird and there's no rhyme or reason to it sometimes. And you can't pigeonhole them into like a specific trait or month or whatever.

- Yeah, it is annoying. - That's just not how it works. - Yeah, I mean, there's like different levels of this 'cause there are some people that base their entire lives around astrology. - I think if you wanna do it for yourself for fun, but if you start bringing it to every conversation. - Don't bring other people into that shit. - You're shoving my life into it, I'm done. - I think the important word here is uses astrology unironically 'cause I know plenty of people that just like to have fun with it and that's fucking fine. - Oh, I love using it ironically 'cause it pisses people off.

And it's so funny seeing their reactions. 'Cause it's like, that's how I react when someone says it unironically. And it's really funny. - Yeah, I think if you use it and you're not like pushing that shit on me, it's fine. But I also don't want you to, I also get concerned if like your life is going to shit and you're like, well, I guess it's just 'cause Mercury's in retrograde. No, what are you talking about?

- Yeah, it's like, I think like- - The planet doesn't give a shit about your feelings. - Yeah, for me, like the male equivalent to like astrology is just the fucking like stock bros and crypto bros who are just like, yeah. - Sure.

- Listen, listen dudes, we've been very harsh. This is a very generally female, female's such a horrible word, leaning towards more feministic kind of leanings. - At least in our experience, yeah. - Yeah, we could have been like, oh, they trade stocks. You've been like fucking green, bro. It's so sick. - Yeah, I've had a bad day. Bitcoin went down two points, you know? - Yeah, yeah. - We've been- - We have our own vices as well that are equally as, I think, red flaggy.

- Shout out to the dudes who use astrology by the way. - No, no. - You are the minority and it's hilarious. Please keep doing it. - Let's not use it unironically. Let's just keep it for fun. Like any kind of like personality test or anything like that. - Rupert J. - That's what like kids who are getting bullied at school, she used to retort. - Okay, well I don't.

- Why am I being bullied, daddy? - You're only beating me up because I'm a small hero. - Well, it's 'cause you're a Leo. - That's the real Leo energy you're giving me right now. You need to stop. All right, next one. Having an obsession, example, Disney adult. - Any obsession? - Okay, yeah, the Disney adult, so an adult obsessed with Disney is an example, but just having an obsession.

- Well, okay. - How do we wanna do this? - Can we stick to just Disney, please? - Okay, being a Disney adult. - 'Cause obsession, everyone has an obsession. - Yes, of course. - But we're talking about specific obsessions here. - Let me rephrase that. Green flag, red flag, Disney adult. - I don't know why I did this. Okay, I'll tell you what I just did by accident. - Oh, gosh. - So the question now is, is a Disney adult?

- A red flag. - Is a Disney adult a red flag or a green flag for you as a lot? - Or a beige flag. - Bro gonna be in the gallows if he answers this wrong. - Three, two, one. - Red. - What? - What the fuck? - What the fuck? - Isn't Aki a fucking Disney adult? - Aki is not a Disney adult. - Oh. - No, she is. - Oh, Joey. - She's in Disneyland every goddamn week. - Joey, how many times have you been in Disneyland? - Your Honor, objection. I'll pull up her Instagram right now. - Was she within Disney in the past week?

- Yeah. - Okay. - I rest my case. - But I will come here to defend my girlfriend. First of all, she only goes to Disney a couple of times a year. - Objection, copium, your honor. - Which I think is fine. I know because that's the days I avoid.

Second of all, she's not a Disney fan. She's a Kingdom Hearts fan, which automatically- - Objection, it's worse. Objection, it's worse, Your Honor. - I agree. I will agree on that. But I think like my definition of a Disney adult, right? And I've met some actual Disney adults, are people who like, say for example, you live outside of the States, you go to California, right? There's a Disneyland there.

- Perfect. If you're in Disneyland every single fucking day or multiple days in a row, that's a Disney adult, I think. Where like everything around your house is Disney themed, you only watch Disney movies, you like deep dive into like the Disney lore. And there are lots of people like that. To me, that's a red flag. I think there's nothing wrong with liking Disney. - There is. - Or like liking Disney movies. I like a lot of Disney movies.

And you know, I don't like Disneyland in general just 'cause I don't like amusement parks, right? But I think liking Disney, there is nothing wrong with. A Disney adult is something on another level. - Okay, what if, okay, okay. But Aki is like- - It is not copium, I swear. - This is the Charlie Day image of Joey. Like, let me explain to you why Aki is not a Disney adult. - Aki's not a Disney adult. - Listen- - She would be offended if you called her a Disney adult.

- She could become one very easily. - Yes. - Which is why I'm here to stop her. - Okay, okay. - I'm showing her classic movies. - You would be unhappy with Aki if she went further down the Disney path. - Yeah, and she knows that. - What's the breaking point? - You've had this going, honey, you have to stop. - No, I straight up said to her, I'm like, you can go to Disneyland with your friends, that's fine. Just chill out a little bit.

- Watch a couple of other movies. - Warnings, boundaries have been set. - I've said, look, I'm a very straightforward person. If I think you're going to become a Disney adult, I will tell you. - Yeah, I mean, my reasoning is that like, I don't like Disney. I don't like what they do. - That's fair. - I think that basing your whole personality around that movies is,

a vapid way to spend your life on this planet. - Which Aki does not. She has a lot of other likes and wants and a lot of other obsessions. Disney is just one of them. - Am I one to talk? I played League of Legends for seven years. So I shouldn't, that would definitely be a red flag. I just don't like how Disney does what Disney does. And I think that people,

I hate how they do business. I hate it. - They're evil, bro. They're so evil. And they dominate, they fuck people over.

- Also the new movies suck. I'm just gonna say it right now. All the movies suck. Live action remakes that they keep pushing. I'm not a fan. Can we stop doing this? Not a single one of their remakes have been good. I think they're terrible. All they've been doing, I hate Disney Plus. I hate everything it stands for. I think we have too many subscriptions.

And I'm glad that they lost the rights to the cricket in India. So they lost that market. - Did they actually? - Yeah, they did. Could you imagine you wanted to watch cricket in India, you gotta fucking sign up to Disney Plus. - You're watching the Disney Channel. - I just hate Disney. I think that, I don't know, man. They just feel like a bully as well as a company. - Oh yeah. - The fact that they wouldn't let a guy

famously have a Spider-Man tombstone for his young kid who died of a disease and they gave him a cease and desist to remove the Spider-Man. - Wait, did they actually? - Yeah. - Okay, that's fucked up. - I feel like they're just cruel and I don't like Disney as a company. And then I feel like basing your whole personality off of just a company is bizarre. - Yeah, that is true. - Would you say the same thing about Nintendo though? - 100%, yeah, Nintendo adults are like a different breed. They're like the same kind of thing.

Like if you like, like if you unironically like Kirby, you should end your life. You should not be allowed to vote. - I'm kidding, I'm kidding. - Nintendo Bros and Disney Princesses have a lot in common. - Let me say one word. - Maybe they should end up with each other. - There is one thing that you can- - So bullies, red flag or green flag? - Nintendo with their,

happy-go-lucky suing is encroaching on like Disney levels. - Oh, look, dude, as a Nintendo fan, there, I said it. As a Nintendo fan, I think that's also fucked up. And I absolutely do not stand by that. I think the fact that they are incredibly hypocritical with that shit as well. Like the fact that like the Wii Virtual Console, like retro games later found out to all be emulated.

- Well, yeah, they- - And they just straight up used people's emulations. - They re-uploaded somebody's emulation of the original Super Mario Brothers. - Yeah, onto the Wii Virtual Console, which I think was just absolutely hilarious. So I think, yes, as a company, I think Nintendo has done some really shitty things, continues to do some really shitty things.

I just fucking love their games. - Their games are great. And that's the same Disney thing. - I don't think a lot of Disney adults think that deeply about it. I'm sure even some of them are aware of the business practices. - But I think if you're gonna sign your life away and your whole personality to a brand, you should at least be aware of the brand. - Oh, for sure. - And I think Nintendo, it's that constant like, you're like, "God damn it, he's a dick, but man, he's so fun to have around."

That's the vibe Nintendo gives off. - Yeah. - And that's the reason why everyone, their games are great. - My answer's not that deep. I was just like, I've just never liked Disney stuff, so I'm probably not gonna vibe with this person if they're gonna be a life partner. - Yeah, a lot of people who also base the whole personality on Disney are a little bit obnoxious sometimes too. But I also know some Disney adults who are absolutely chill and very nice people. - Oh yeah. - I just, personally.

- No, absolutely. And I think like, again, there's nothing wrong with being a Disney adult as long as you actually have some like other things to fucking talk about. Obsession should be in moderation, whether it be Disney, whether it be Nintendo, whatever it might be. And if you really, really like Disney, but you also like a lot of other things, which Aki does, I don't think there's anything wrong with it.

- Yeah, I mean, I think it's hard to draw the line of where obsession- - But that's not a Disney adult. - Listen, there's a reason why we have the word Disney adult. Everyone knows what that means because that is- - Someone who only likes Disney. - There's no anime adult. There's no JoJo adult. - It's called a weeb. - Yeah, but a weeb's too- - Are we not anime adults? - No, because it's a different vibe. The word Disney adult gives us a very different feeling to the word weeb.

- Yes, Disney adult is, I would always consider it very negative. - Is it because when you say the word weeb, you imagine like a 12 year old? - A weeb, you just imagine like someone who's a casual anime fan. Like when I hit Disney adult, I picture the Karen cutting in line, just being like, this is the perfect route to the Disney theme park.

"We have to do this." - No, that's just a Karen who's in Disney. - Yeah. I mean, I guess we kind of like narrowed down the wording of this, but I guess a lot of what we said could be applied to anyone with like a massive obsession in general. - Yeah, but I guess the-

- The general thing is that this more is well known with Disney adults. - Yeah, they are the loud minority for sure. - Well, I don't know about minority. There's a lot of them. - Well, in the grandest scale of the human race, they are the minorities. - All right, well, let's see the next one. - All right. - Never been in a long-term relationship.

- Wait, this, this, this, like, if they're like 18, you're like, well, good. If they're like 50, you're like, okay. - Never been in a long-term relationship. - The age matters so much. - Let's assume from now on that- - What's our median age? - This is something that we are finding out on a first date that we're on right now. - I think I'm median age, right? So it'd be like 29, 30. - Let's say 30, right? - Let's say 30.

- Okay, 30 years old, never been in a long term relationship. - What is long? What is the definition of a long relationship? - I'd say like a year. - A year plus? - Yeah. - A year plus, at least a year. - Okay. Ooh, that's an interesting one. - Never been in a long term, and we're not counting someone who's just never been in a relationship in general, right? Are we counting that? 'Cause I feel like it's different.

- Like you can have a 30 year old who's never been in a relationship. - I think actually that's very different though. Being in many relationships as opposed to being in a lot. - That's what I'm saying. So like, are we including that? - No, I wouldn't include that. - Okay, so they've been in relationships before but none of them have lasted longer than a year. - Yeah, I'm going into this because they've never had a long-term which implies they've had relationships. - Okay, sure. - Okay. - Oh, this is tough. - Okay, I'm gonna go.

- Never been in a long-term relationship. What's the body count? - What's the body count? - I'm kidding, I'm kidding. - This is tough. - Yeah, this is hard. - This is a very, very nuanced argument. - Okay, I think I got my answer. All right, Connie, you got yours?

- Okay, ready? Three, two, one. I said none. - I said none. - I said red. - You said red. Okay, well, let's start off with you. - You're 30 years old. - Yeah. - Presumably you've been in most, this is all things I'm presuming. - Okay. - I'm assuming before we start. - Yeah. - You're 30 years old. You've been in multiple relationships. None have made it to a year. - Yeah. - Who's the common denominator here? - What if that person, say example, your partner, right? What if she was just with seven really shit boyfriends?

- I think the odds of that happening are so much lower than you would, I think, listen, I hate to be this person. If you've been with seven shit people, I think you're the shit person in the- - Yeah, that is true. - You know, like think about it. Like whenever you hear about someone,

we all have that one friend who has been in so many relationships but never had something solid. And you're like, after a while, you're like, man, there must be something that you're kind of like not giving here or not understanding about a relationship that I think is give and take. And I think a lot of people, you just sometimes, people in life who just aren't very good at like compromising and then doing that kind of stuff. - I can change them.

- That's why I wrote none. - Listen, I think- - After me baby, you won't need another one. - I wasn't the commentator actually. - I think none is a safe answer, but I'm trying to be like, I'm trying to stir a conversation. - I'm the equal side. - I'm thinking like from my perspective, if they've never been in one, I would be like, okay, I want to know what's going on here. 'Cause I think,

it's a red flag as in like, not like this is bad, I'm not gonna talk to them more like, this is something that I wanna kind of pick their brain about more and figure out what's happening here. - Okay, that makes sense. - Like it would definitely be something that I would,

wanna know about their past relationships and like what happened so that I can figure out like, oh, okay, this could be an issue going forward or like I can understand that they weren't willing to compromise on this or they could tell you the other person 'cause some people generally have just been with awful people. And they've been in all, I've been in a bad relationship for a long time. You just get stuck in these things

But I think I'd love to talk about it more. - Yeah, and I think that's- - I say red, but it's not really there. - Yeah, and I think that's why I said none, 'cause like it really is- - It's like a pink flag. It's not red as in like, I'm not doing it, but I'm like, I definitely wanna know what's up. - Yeah, it's like, it's such a case by case scenario with like every single person. - This doesn't count people who have not dating at all by the way. - Yeah. - Like if I hear that, it's kind of like, it does raise a flag. It raises the flag of like context. What's the context? - Yeah, what's going on here?

because it could be none and it could be green, it could be red. We don't know what the context of- - It can really slant on the entire spectrum. It can really slant on the entire spectrum depending on like, you know, it's something you show, you know, in a very low case scenario, it might just be the fact that they just got really unlucky with their partners who were all shit or the more common scenario is that their shit.

- I mean, yeah, relationships are tough. A lot of the time you're probably just doing something small that adds up over time. That's how it all goes. - It's all about just making compromise. - Yeah, communication, right? - Yeah, I mean, it's all about communication. I think another reason why it might not mean anything at all is just maybe that previous relationship

they just weren't at the right stage of life to really fully commit. Some people are just like, actually I wanna commit to my career right now. And I don't have time for relationships. - Go out there, find yourself. - Yeah, yeah. And then they've reached a new, maybe it's 'cause I'm like the 30 year old. So if I hear that, I'm like, okay, this is about the age that I've met around my friends where people are like, something like switches in their brain to be like,

- All right, maybe I should start thinking about- - Well you realize, you know, you gotta start figuring this shit out soon if you want to have children. 'Cause you know, once you get past 40, it becomes kind of tough. So you gotta start figuring that stuff out pretty soon.

- Absolutely. - Yeah. - It's part of the bin. - All right. Well, that one was, there was no definite answer in that one, but good open. - I'd wanna talk about it. - We gotta talk about it. - It was a good discussion. - Call me Phil the Frank 'cause I wanna jump right into it. I'm like, let's figure out what's going on. - All right. - I just wanna talk. I just wanna talk. I just wanna talk. Let's talk about it. - All right, next up. - What do we got? - Believes in superstitions. - Ooh, believes in superstitions.

- I guess this is like what extent? I feel like everyone has like a one superstition they believe in. But if you're like, let's say we're gonna assume this is like they are very into superstitions. - Very into superstitions? - I would say more than normal. - Okay, then my answer's gonna change. - 'Cause I think everyone has like a lot of- - What's more than normal? Name me a scenario. - You are just never gonna feel good about someone opening an umbrella inside.

- Oh, right, right. - And that's superstition, right? - You try and open up an umbrella and say, "No, no, no, no, no, no, no." - Yeah, but like that's a normal, it's generally quite normal in Western countries. - Yes. - So that's more of like a conditioning thing than as opposed to like actually believing that something horrible is about to go wrong. - Okay, yeah. - So I think that, yeah. - So basically just- - I thought it was like ghosts and shit. - All Japanese people. - Superstitions? - Yeah. - Superstitions means-

- No, superstitions means like you believe in something that might happen when there is no physical evidence for it. - Yeah, like step on a crack, break your mother's back. - Break your mother's back. - Which is absolutely ridiculous. He could have chose something better. - Hey, I used to believe that shit when I was like four. - All right. - Okay. - I think we're all gonna say the same thing here. - Okay, ready? Three, two, one. - Beige. - Yeah, beige. - That's just a quirky thing. - I don't have a lot to say about this other than sure. - This is just all Japanese people.

- This is just culture and surrounding. - Japanese people believe in superstitions way too much to the point where like, you know, I could be at my aunt's house. I try and open up an umbrella and she'll be like, "Oh, I think that's a good idea." And I'm like, "Why?" - I mean, this is a lot of Asian households. There are a lot of...

- Weird Asian superstitions. I don't know how many Western superstitions there are. - There's a lot. - Step on a crack, break your mother's back. - I remember that one. - What is it? A ladder and doors? - Oh no, if a black cat crosses your path, then it's bad luck or something. - I thought it was Asian. - Walking underneath a ladder or something. - Walking underneath a ladder is just general smart safety. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - I wonder where the black cat came from.

- I think it just came from the idea of like, you know, at least in Japan, I think where it came from was like, you know, a black cat is the same color as a crow and crows are usually not a great symbol. - Yeah. - Like symbol of death and stuff like that. So I think it's just- - Also, you know, cats, I think were always like just a target for superstitions ever since like, you know, people used to call each other witches back in the day, be like, oh, you own a cat, you must be a witch. - 'Cause I feel like all superstitions come from somewhere.

- Usually from someone just smoking crack. - Here's the thing. - I don't think every superstition can smoke a lot of it. - Here's the thing. I don't know if there's been something that's conditioned into me, but most superstitions are kind of like, I don't believe in them, but I do agree that they're not good vibes. Like the energy. - Is there a positive superstition?

- No, no, no, exactly. Everything is based on something and that's something I'm pretty sure it just something about bad vibes. I don't believe anything that is going to happen when you open an umbrella inside, but I see an umbrella that's open inside. I'm like,

- I don't like this. - You got the heebie-jeebies. - I don't like this. I don't know why, I just don't like it. I don't like this. - It's just unnatural. - Yeah, and when you walk and maybe this is my ADHD, but when I notice that I'm stepping on cracks, I'm just like, what if I just...

- I should call my mom. - What if the smooth part of my brain is just like, ooh, but what if I step in between the cracks? You know what I mean? - That's the shit I used to do when I was like five. - No, exactly, exactly. It just feels- - When it's like a tiled flooring and you're just like stepping on a perfect like some step mania shit. - It just feels nicer to like, once you like,

- Consciously observe it. - Oh, totally, yeah. - Yeah, I get it, I get it. - Yeah, it's just a bit weird, but it's not a deal breaker. - Yeah. - All right, let's see. Let's check out the next one. All right, here we go. All right, what flag is a partner that can't handle losing? As in they're a sore loser. All right, sore loser. All right. - Three, two, one. - Red.

- Red. - Red. - Red. - Oh. - Okay. - We're all red. - Okay, okay. - I mean, yeah, it's a, sore loser is just never a positive thing. - That's not even a part, I think that's a red flag as a- - As a friend. - Losing is part of growing. You gotta lose. - Yeah. - Losing is how you get better at stuff. - The worst thing about a sore loser is just how much of a vibe killer they become. - Yeah, yeah, exactly. - That's the worst part. - The thing I hate more than people who,

hate losing are people who won't even try 'cause they don't wanna lose at something. That's the thing I hate the most. When you won't even play something 'cause you know you're not gonna win and thus you're not gonna play. - And then you'd be like, this is fucking stupid anyway. So it's whatever. - I hate that so much. - The thing I think that is even worse than that because no one likes losing or anything. But when I hear someone that hates losing, right?

- If you hate losing, I've been around enough people where they lose at something and they kind of just like shut down as a human being. They're just pissed and they wanna bring the vibe down because they are having an awful time for losing at some kind of game or something like that. - I just wanna go again.

I'm like, let me play again. I'll beat you this time. Double or nothing. It's fun getting better at stuff. Why would you not want to get better at something? - Well, just some people just want to be just perfect at everything. And they want to look like the perfect human and just life doesn't work that way. - To me maybe it's not someone who hates losing, someone who's a sore loser. That is such a big vibe killer. - I hate losing, but I'm not gonna throw a strop about it. I'm like, let's fucking play again. Let's go. - No. - For sure.

- All right. - All right. - Well, that one was pretty unanimous. - That was pretty easy though. - That was pretty easy. - All right. - Who thinks man, that's sexy. - Yeah, who- - Sexy when they whine. - I fucking love when someone's a support. - I love when they get pissed off and call me a little bitch. - Damn. - All right. Keeps relationship private. - Wow. - I'm guessing- - In what context?

- I'm guessing just they kind of like separate their relationship to kind of like other aspects of their lives. So they're, you know, someone who kind of like hangs out with their friends. - Oh, like when you're like, you're hanging around a friend and then he's like, oh, by the way, I've been in a relationship for like eight months. And you're like, what? - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - Like that? - Or like more like, you know, they hang out with their friends and they just don't like talk about their partner at all.

- Oh, as in like they keep their relationships out of matters that don't exactly- - Yeah, yeah. So you know that if you're dating a person- - So the opposite of that would be someone who's like, "Oh yeah, that was really cool. By the way, my boyfriend." - Yeah, I guess so. - Someone who's constantly just like pushing in their own shit. - So the way I interpret this is, okay, so you're dating someone. They will never talk to you. They would never talk about you to their friends outside of- - Is that the context you guys meant with this one?

- Yeah. - Yeah? Okay, okay, okay, okay. - Okay. - Yeah, sometimes I'm just certain, like I said, not a lot of work with. - Yeah. - Yeah. - I don't really have crazy, okay. - Oh man, this is hard. They don't go out of their way to talk about their relationship to other people. - Yeah. - And just post. - So, I guess. - Okay, but what if like someone comes up to that person and is like, "How's your boyfriend or girlfriend?"

and they talk about it. Is that still private? - I think a normal thing is just like someone who just doesn't really mention you kind of like- - It's a tough one. - Unnecessarily. - Such a vibe check kind of thing. It's so hard to know. - Yeah, I guess it's very much keeps relationship private. - 'Cause I could see multiple different people

who have this kind of thing. And it would be very, very different with each person. - Yeah. - How the vibe would be. - It really depends on the personality. - 'Cause there's like Jeffrey Dahmer kind of private, where you're like, "Ooh." And then you're like, you know. - That was the worst example. - Well, you know, some of you are like, "Why is he keeping it so private? "That's so concerning." - Yeah, you know, I'd understand if my boyfriend was a serial killer, but you know. - It'd be a little bit more understandable. They got to set a high, literally. - All right, I'm ready. - All right, ready? - Three, two, one. - None. - None.

- This is such a case by case thing. - It's a whatever, you know? Like if Aki wants to go around fucking talking about me to her girlfriends or doesn't at all, it doesn't really change my fucking thing. - I don't even think of this from like my perspective. I was thinking from like friend's perspective. Like if Don didn't talk about Sydney ever, I would be like, well, you know. - Think about it with your partner.

- I don't think I'd care that much. - I wouldn't care. - I don't care. - I feel like as long as you are- - They know I exist, right? They know I'm real, right? - I'm your real boyfriend. - Yeah, I mean, there's plenty of reasons to want to separate your love life from other aspects of your life. And there's some reason who really wants to shout to the world about their love life. And I respect both.

I don't really care. - It's just how you do it. - Yeah, yeah. - It's about person to person. - I think there's a right way to do it and there's definitely a wrong way to do it. - Yeah. What I think is a red flag is kind of like someone who unprompted says every little intimate part of their relationship to everyone. - It's like, yeah, this meal is great, but it kind of reminds me of the time my boyfriend fucked me in the ass. It's like, whoa, all right, I didn't even know that. - That's the next problem, Dak. - Believes in conspiracy theories.

- Okay, well this is... - I hope to God we all have the same answer for this. Three, two, one, it's red. - It's red. - It's a very, very concerning trait to not be able to discern

like bullshit online in general. - Yeah, I feel that's just someone who is incredibly gullible to a dangerous level and that can sneak into all other parts of the relationship that could be dangerous. - I don't even think it's gullible, man. I just think it's like, we're living a really tough time where I think a lot of people, you fall for a lot of things. I'm sure we all have fallen for something at some point, one or another, but it's about being able to like,

and know when you're wrong and learn when you've been fed misinformation or bullshit. - I wanna date a free thinking person, not a sheep. - Well, you know, a lot of people I- - Wake up sheep. - A lot of people I care about my life, I found out when they'd say something, I'm like, oh no, you believe something that is wrong. - Yeah. - And this is,

I don't know how to feel about this. - Like food poisoning is not an illness. - Well, that's not a theory, Joey. It's the truth. Wake up, Joey. Wake up, Joey. - It kind of depends on, like if I heard this instant, like my gut feeling is a red flag. - Yeah. Not even just as a partner, just as someone I want to be associated with. - Yeah, yeah, yeah.

like a big thing is that how big of a conspiracy are we talking here? Are we talking about- - 'Cause there's lots of like little conspiracies where it doesn't have like that much of an effect on the way that someone thinks about the world in general. - The last thing that I can think about that really kind of tested this was the COVID vaccine. Like a lot of people when it came out, right? Like, 'cause a lot of people- - That's true. - When it initially came out, they were like, "Oh, I just don't know if I feel good about a vaccine that was made so fast." - Yeah.

was a sentiment that was very, very popular. And it made this really weird thing with people who normally would never like be conspiratorial kind of got reading kind of pieces online that kind of more aligned with that theory and reasons why. And it was a really right kind of sad time really where a lot of people- - That was the day where everyone collectively cleaned out their like Facebook friends closet. - It was a really like- - I know immediately. - It was really like fucked up time. And I think that,

it was like the perfect storm to get people who would never think this kind of way, who would kind of go down some rabbit holes they wouldn't have gone down. It was just sad. It just made me sad. - Yeah. - Yeah, I mean, I think, like I said, it very much depends on the level of what kind of conspiracy are they believing in? Is it something like fucking flat earthers or something like that? - Fucking 5G chips in the- - 5G chips? Okay, obviously, red flag. Is it something...

a bit more fun like, oh, there are aliens in like area 51 or something like that, which is- - I believe that shit. - You should be at all. - All right, red flag. - Based on facts from the Navy, we've seen it. - You can talk about conspiracy theories in a fun way. But if seriously believing a lot of these things is, I think it's just bad and dangerous as well. Especially if you're gonna have kids and you're gonna tell them the shit. - Oh, yeah. - Absolutely. - You're gonna make other kids who are fucking dumb. - Totally.

- Yeah, I think it's one thing to entertain the thought of conspiracy theories. There's nothing to like fully commit to it. - Oh, we only got a few left in here. Might have to stock up soon. We're going through these way too fast. - No, I think we have a good pace. - All right, next one. They like horror too much. - I put this one in.

- Yeah, I can see why. Garnt and I feel a target on our backs right now. - Wow, this is a personal attack. This is a goddamn personal attack. - Brother in arms, Garnt. - All right. - I hope we make the right answer. - Three, two, one, baby.

- I said red. - You said red. - Okay, for me again, this is another one of, it depends. This is exactly like the Disney adult. It just depends on how much, right?

You can like a lot of horror movies, which Sydney and Aki most certainly do. Love the horror genre, right? Love the true crime shit. I think that's fine. But once you start to get to the point of like, you know, you're actively trying to like pursue cases or like, you know, you love like the absolutely like,

abhorrent like gore porn type films that you can only find on the black market and shit. That's a red flag for me. - Right. - Right. But if you just like horror as a genre, I think it's fine. - This is like pure, no reason, just feeling. I'm like, I just don't like, I just get a bad vibe. - Why? - Personally. - Why? - Hey, I like Sydney. Sydney's great.

- But when I'm like, if I'm talking to someone and they're like- - Two of the most lovely people I know are big horror fans. - Yeah, absolutely. - I like the metal heads of the horror world. - The other one is John Super Eyepatch Wolf. He fucking loves horror. - This is not me as like a red flag as people. I'm like to date someone who likes horror too much. For me, I just don't fuck with the vibe. - Do you not like horror?

- I think it's like the worst genre overall. - Really? - Consistently it gets the worst shit. - I mean, there's a lot of shit horror films out there. 'Cause it's one of the easiest types of films. - Genre for genre, it generally has like the lowest quality of most things. Because I mean, there's a lot of reasons why. - You know what? I'm going to come here and defend horror. - You can. - Okay, as a genre. - I'm gonna hate it.

- Okay, as a genre, yes, I agree that there are a lot of shit horror films and they happen to be the ones that get the most marketing and most attention like the FNAF film that just came out, for example. But I'd say as a genre, horror has some of the most

conceptually interesting ideas you can find in anywhere, like most genres. Which is why I'm a fucking pussy, but I'm one of those kinds of guys who I love hearing about horror movies 'cause I like to experience horror without experiencing horror movies 'cause they have such interesting ideas. - I am also a pussy, but some of the really good horror films I've watched, I've just,

absolutely loved as a film. Just because it's like- - Listen, I'm not here out of saying there's no good horror films. I'm just saying film for film, dog. - I totally agree with that. And I think the problem there- - You're treating this like a fucking UFC fight. Yo, pound for pound. - Pound for pound. - Show me the genre. - Dog shit genre.

- What's the ratio? Someone tally it up. - Dog shit. - No, I totally agree. Like I think, you know, because of like the whole B grade horror thing and just the fact that horror as a story and as a type of film is probably one of the easier genres to film for like,

indie creators and indie directors and stuff like that. Yes, there is a lot of shit out there. A lot of really amateur shit that's boring and stereotypical, but whenever you get some really conceptually different and just thrilling and well-written stories in the horror genre, they're really good. - This is more of an extension of my hatred for the most popular, well, not hatred, but,

- Admittedly I consume this, but I hate that I consume this stuff. - What, true crime stuff? - Yeah, I hate that. True crime is the most popular horror genre right now. - Oh yeah, but you can't look away.

- No, yeah, but it's like, it feels like this really, and I always say this all the time. It feels, I don't, it makes me feel weird. I don't like that we've- - I mean, I said that right at the first fucking, remember this? - I know. - I said it before it was like super popular. Now people are like, oh, it's super popular. You hate it now. I'm kidding, I'm kidding. - How does it feel? - No, but like, yeah, yeah. - It's just personal experience. Every person that I've ever been with who was very into horror, bad vibes.

- Really? - Bad vibes, for me personally. I'm also the common denominator. - Yeah, for me, when I...

- When I see someone like that, I don't think bad vibes. I just think, man, they are very morbidly curious. And you know, it's that a lot of the times the morbid curiosity just takes over the logical brain because they know it's like a lot of people who I've met know it's just like, oh, and I, you know, I know I shouldn't look at this. - You should have been a plague doctor back in the day.

- Yeah, probably. And she would have loved it. - Yeah, like to me, I'm not someone who's that morbidly curious. I've seen enough things to be like, ah, I think my day would be happy if I didn't see this one thing. - That's good, that's good. - Yeah. - Beige. - Beige. - Again, it's just a little quirky. - Yeah, to me it's just like one weird thing that someone obsesses over. If they're not hurting anyone over it, then I think it's fine. - Yeah, like the difference between- - So Aki's a Disney adult.

- And a horror fanatic. - Yes, I know. - Oh my Lord. - Real beige. - To me the Disney thing is mostly, I think like the Disney thing is more in line with why you put red as horror, just not my vibes. - This is like, 'cause I think if you were to, we could have a genuine conversation about like why all of these are really not that bad yet. But I feel like we should be going off pure gut. Like how we're feeling about it.

- Yeah. - Okay. - 'Cause that's how it should be. 'Cause this is your, imagine you're dating this person. I would just, son of my God. - Oh, I don't have to imagine. - Yeah, well, yeah. - It might get. - Son of my balls would tell me don't date the Disney adult. I don't know why. I just wouldn't feel good about it. - I mean, I have no problem with Aki being a Disney adult. I have no problem Aki being a horror fanatic. She just likes Kingdom Hearts a little too much, in my opinion. That's a red flag. - All right, let's move on. - All right. - All right. - Here we go.

- Different strokes for different folks. - It's your personal preference. - Yeah, it's all good. - What do we got? - Users Twitch emotes in conversation. - Oh, okay. Oh God. - Well technically, Copium is a Twitch emote. - Yeah, I know. - Yeah. - Yeah. - There's a lot of Twitch emotes out there. - That's a great one. - Yeah. - All right, ready? Three, two, one. - Red. - Red. - Okay, if it's a friend, no problems with it. It's whatever. - I'm gonna first date with someone and they say poggies to me, or oo-oo.

- Anything like that, I'm like, I'm out. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - This restaurant, it's cake double you right now. - Yeah, yeah. - You know, if I'm in- - Rose didn't sleep for a minute, I guess. - If I'm in any kind of situation other than a fucking Twitch con or like an anime convention, if I'm- - Or talking to streamers or something. - Yeah, if I go on Tinder and we're getting the conversation and they unironically use a Twitch emote, I'm like, no.

- I didn't think I would get a reply back, MonkaS. Then I'm like, all right, swipe left. - What that shows me is this person is terminally online, which of course they are, like us. One, I kind of want to get away from that. And two, I don't even, I rarely even use Twitch emotes, even though it's like our job in like our conversation. - It's poggers.

- Yeah, the poggers is just- - Every time Connor says like a Twitch email, most of the time I tell him to shut the fuck up. - I value being able to be a social chameleon, right? I like being able to, if you throw me in a dinner with a bunch of stuffy bankers, I can probably have some conversations there. - I would love to see that. - They wouldn't know that I'm a Twitch streamer. I think I'd be completely fine- - Except for the purple shirt you'd be wearing. - Well, obviously I'd be wearing something different. If I didn't want to fit in, I could. And I value being able to,

be able to fit in whichever scenario. 'Cause if you come in, right, first day you go on Poggies, oh, this food is Poggers. And then I'm thinking like, man, when I introduce him to my parents, this is gonna be tough. You know what I mean? Like I have, I'm thinking about that. It's, I'm thinking long games, come on. Like I, you know.

I can't be like, don't fucking say Kappa once during this dinner. I don't wanna have to have that conversation. - It's like, so I could just imagine like the boyfriend's parents talking to the girlfriend saying like, so how is he treating you? It's like, here to go, no cap. - Yeah. - It's pretty pepe hands right now. - It's just like, if they think- - Big W. - Not like this, no way. - If they think- - Ain't no way. - Yeah, if they think that, you know, it's socially acceptable on like a first date to just start-

spamming the Twitch emotes IRL.

- To the streets. - I'm imagining- - To the chat with you. - I'm imagining what kind of like situations would they also be comfortable with spamming Twitch emotes? Like- - She belongs in the chat. - What if we're in- - You're not and she goes, "Poggies." - Yeah, yeah, yeah. What if we're in bed? - Yo, that was a gold split right there. - Ain't no way. - Ain't no way. - Ain't no way. - Ain't no way.

- That sounds fucking horrible. - Yeah, thank God. - When they see my three inch Among Us. - Ain't no way. - In general though, I have, it doesn't just like, I guess stop at Twitch emotes. If they start like pumping out the discord memes in like everyday conversation, you know, we gotta have a chat. We gotta have a chat as well. - Did you cum? Suss. - I would be like, get off of me. - The word cum has been ruined for me. I always get like in my head, there's that split second when someone says cum.

- My brain is broken. - Yeah. All right, bring on the next flag. - So fucking long one. Oh, I got two, that's why. - What do we got? - She talks about marriage on a first date. - Ooh. - Okay. - Ooh. Okay, so this is assuming you're not in the committed relationship yet. - Yeah. - You're just on a date. - First date. - First date. - First date. - First date. - It says she talks about marriage on the first date. - Okay. - All right.

- I'm ready, gentlemen. - All right, I think I'm ready as well. - All right. - Ready? Three, two, one, red. - None. - Green. - Really? - Yeah. - Oh, okay, this is interesting. - I was almost gonna put green because, yeah, like,

- I think that I've seen too many people where they hit these relationship crossroads, right? A lot of them come, like a lot of them start dating, get along really well, date for years, and then everyone hits this relationship crossroads. Do we wanna get married? Do you ever wanna get married? And do you ever wanna have kids? And

I've seen so many couples that have like had just their world destroyed because they don't want to break up with this person, but they also don't want to compromise on this very, very important thing, which you're allowed to make a life decision on, which is some people just don't want to get married and that's respectable. - I think you can be very happy together as a couple and have it all be perfect. And then it'd be a valid reason to not want to be with someone any longer because they don't want to marry. Like I think to some people. - Okay, I didn't think of it like that.

- That is such a, that is like, I think it's personal preference. Like maybe, like- - I just thought it's way too fast. - Right, right, right. And I think that's valid. - I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, slow down. - I think that's fair as well. - I don't even know you. - For me, it's like, I'd rather you tell me right now what you're hoping to get eventually. 'Cause that's what you saying to me, "Hey, we have to get married."

It kind of is, but it's also like, hey, this is my intention is to look someone to marry, which most people are looking for in a roundabout way. And I think-

- Expressing that that is something that you are interested in or not interested in initially is a considerate thing to do. - Yeah, and I think making sure that your intentions are out right at the beginning of the relationship, I think is respectable, because yeah. - If you'd asked me five years ago, it would have been a red flag 'cause I was young and I was like, "What the fuck?" But I think the older I get, the more I'm like, "Yeah, I think it's something that,

especially as you get older, there's something that has to be discussed and why not get it out of the way. - And too many people will like, too many people will like kind of like sweep this under the rug to be like, we'll figure it out eventually. And they put it off and then obviously

- Same thing with like kids, right? I think more so with kids. I think getting married is kind of like, oh, we'll just get married. But kids is always the, normally a pretty, can be a decisive thing. - And the thing is, I've seen people who have compromised on this like big life decision to be like, well, I don't wanna break up. So I'm gonna, one, I'm gonna get married. And then it always,

- Sounds like you're in green Garnt. I don't know if you're in non. Sounds like you're in green. - Yeah, that sounds very green. - You don't wanna commit to the green squad here. Like what's wrong Garnt? - He said green way too many times in the first half of this episode. So he's gotta make a compromise. - So what's the downside then? 'Cause you put non.

- What's the downside? Like to me, like it's neither a red flag or a green flag. It's just like, okay, I understand your intentions. We can decide late. Like I can have this in mind so I can decide it later on. But as long as the intentions are out, that doesn't mean shit to me. It means I know that

if I want to commit to this relationship, I know that that is the end goal. - 'Cause I said red because it's just a bit too much pressure on a first date. - You think like four, fifth date? - Yeah. - What do you think? - Get to know me on a first date, bro. Like, you know, I get it, you know, like, 'cause I totally get what you mean with like, you know, just get all of like that kind of- - There is like a- - Out of the way in the beginning, but- - A ton of context that could be missing here. Like, is this a first blind date? Is this a date where you've,

but you've already spoken for months. - I was thinking of like a blind date. - That's fair. - Yeah, if it's a blind date. - I still think it's valid. - But like for me, it's like, okay, you know what? I just wanna get to like you as a person before I even want to know about what you want for me. That just puts pressure on me.

- Well, I guess if it puts pressure on you, why would you be feeling pressure about it? 'Cause you feel like they're trying to marry you or like- - Well, yeah, because the way that they say it could be putting it in that way of being like, oh, I'm so desperate and like, you know, I need someone to, you know, do X, Y, Z and all that kind of stuff. And I am afraid that I won't be able to commit to that.

And like for me on a first date, I want to just get to know you as a person. - That's fair. - I don't care about like where you wanna be in 10 years or anything like that. I just wanna know you right now. Like what your present state is. Maybe third or fourth date. Sure. Then we can start talking about- - Wouldn't it stress you out then more? 'Cause now you're like, it's kind of working. And now you feel like you gotta say yes to the marriage 'cause she wants to get married. - I don't know. But for me, it's just like a bit,

- It's icky when it happens on the first date, but that's just me. - Okay, okay. - That's just me. - She didn't say it on the first date. - Thankfully she didn't say it on the first date. All right, let's see. Oh Jesus, okay. All right, okay. Takes more than 30 minutes to get dressed.

- 30 minutes is such an arbitrary number, you know? That's, can I say? - That's quick. - No. - Sydney takes longer than 30 minutes? That's so long. - Bro, 30 minutes is quick. - Are we including shower time? Does shower time count? - No, just getting ready. - Okay, okay, okay, okay. I was gonna say, 'cause shower time is like less long. - Like they're sitting on the couch and you go, "Honey, we're gonna go outside." - I'm not crazy. 30 minutes is quick, right?

- I think if you're- - It depends. - Wait, wait, wait, okay, wait, okay, hold up, hold up. What's the, okay, we need way more context in this situation. - Yeah, okay, when- - Are we waking up or are we going out for dinner? - I thought he meant going out for dinner, you know? - Okay, so presumably you're already like showered and everything, you're just putting on- - Makeup. - And dress, I guess? - Yeah, just like- - Makeup, dress, clothes. - Clothes, dress, jewelry, accessories, all that kind of stuff, shoes, bag. - I don't know, I'll be real with you, I'm playing video games, so I-

I just say when we, I'll just tell you whenever you're ready. I'm like this.

- This is when we're gonna leave. Just get ready for that. I don't care if it takes you 15 hours. Just be ready to go at this time. - How early are you letting them know? - Well, I mean, I'm just trying to be punctual. - What if it's just like a super last minute decision, you know, you're both just like hanging out at home, you wanna do something and you just happen to have the idea of, "Hey, you know what?" - So it's nothing crazy, right? It's not like a- - No, no, no. Just like being like, "Hey, honey, let's go out for dinner. Get ready."

and they take more than 30 minutes. Is that a red flag or a green flag? - If it was longer than an hour, it'd be red. But if it's 30, I'll say non. - I'm gonna say non. - Like I said, 30 is very quick. - How long does Sydney on average take?

- So like very much depends if it's like a fancy night, then she needs an hour. - I think anything over an hour. - That's still quick. For a fancy night, that's quick. - My Lord. - That's what I'm saying, bro. That's what I'm saying. - I have no frame of reference if this is like a good number. - We've been in long enough relationships enough to know a fancy night hour, it's like, whoa, are you compromising something? Like what? Are you not putting in the effort or what? - Did any of your previous relationships, they like...

- I don't think I've ever reached this point. - Yeah. - 'Cause this like, obviously like, you know, I've been in multiple relationships and in my frame of reference, 30 minutes has been a very, very quick turnaround. - I'll be real, if I leave with the person, I would be like, hey, we're leaving at this time, just be ready. And I don't really keep track of how long it takes.

I just know if it runs over, I'm like- - Oh, I guess like- - Come on. - Oh, I see. - I mean, if we're like 40 minutes late to a thing, I'm like, come on. - Yeah, oh yeah, then that'll be- - It's not like it's your first time doing this. - No, no, it's like if they're late, it's something different, but like, I know,

I know the lead time my partner needs in order to like do something. - Narn knows exactly when to start the split. - I value being punctual a lot. So I'm like, let's be punctual. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like if they're late, okay, that's something that is a red flag, you know? But like in terms of how, I don't really care how long it takes you to get ready.

as long as you know how long it takes you to get ready. And some people, they take over an hour and that's just how long they take. - I don't really care that much, I'll be real. - I'm gonna be real, I'm like, honey, I'ma watch some anime while you spend like, I'll do something, I'm not there with you. - As long as we're there on time and you look amazing, that's all I care about. - Next one. - All right, go on, next one then. - That was me.

- I know some people though who are just like super fucking like, you know, anal about that stuff, but it's whatever. - I saw that one. - What is it? - They are a fan of your content. - This is presuming before. - This is for us.

- Before you get in a relationship. - Yeah, I would imagine so. - Yeah, yeah, yeah. - 'Cause obviously like- - Well, after you, I'm sure- - I would hope my partner is a fan of my shit. - First date, first date kind of thing. You find out- - First date, yeah. - First date. - First date? - They're a fan of your content. - Oh, fuck.

- Are we all gonna have the same answer for this? - Yeah, I think so. - I think so. - All right. - Ready? Three, two, one. - Red. - I'm writing it right now. Yeah, I got red too. - It's red. - Were you gonna put beige at the beginning? - No, no, no. I was fucking right. I'm an idiot. - I think that,

- It's not always bad. - Fun fact, Mark Rober, his wife is a fan, was a fan. - Oh really? - Yeah, I think there's tons of examples where it's gone well and it's fine. And there are tons of examples where it's gone horribly wrong. I think it's just, it gives people a normally, there's normally a bad connotation around it, specifically with just YouTubers in general, because like,

or whatever, they don't, they fucking, it was never a bad thing. - I'm saying this more like a personal level. My gut reaction to like, if I'm on like a first date, they're like, oh, by the way, I really like your stuff. I'm like, oh, that means you know more about me than I do about you and that makes me uncomfortable and I don't know what the dynamic is. - Well, that also means that they have some kind of like weird parasocial look about you where they think they know a lot about you through the videos, which in a lot of cases,

There's a lot that doesn't get shown on camera. - Well, okay. And this is- - For better or worse. - This is such an, like my personal feeling, no. But the nuance of this question is so numerous. - Yeah. But that's every question. - Yeah. And like being a, I could have watched five of Garnt's videos and I could be like, yeah, I'm a fan of Garnt's videos. But I don't know anything about Garnt. I just know that he's made some videos that I enjoyed. There's so many different layers of this question. I think that,

'Cause you know, you hear about this all the time. I think YouTubers who date fans, it's generally not a good thing, but I think it's fine. It's just if they do some fucked up shit. - Yeah. - It can work as with anything, if you treat it like an adult and like, you know, like, you know, take advantage of like this dynamic that you have. But for me, it just like, it would make me uncomfortable.

because I want to come into a relationship in like equal standing. - There needs to be that joy of finding stuff out about each other. You're like, what the fuck? Why are you in the Rubies cube? That's crazy. - Really like probably like one in a million scenario, but hypothetically speaking, if there was a girl who was a fan of you, but they don't use social media, as in like they watch YouTube, but they don't do Twitch, Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, any of that kind of stuff,

Would that change? - No. - It'd be a little bit better. I'd feel a bit better about it, but I still would feel a bit like, how much have you seen? - Yeah. - You see that one where I look like shit all the time? - Which is all of my videos. - Yeah. That's just like a fifth date kind of thing. - Yeah, yeah. - Yeah. - I think most YouTubers can agree this is kind of a red flag on different levels.

- Well, yeah, I mean- - But not improbable. - A lot of our stuff is so personal and our content often we share so much of ourselves. So I think that they, yeah, like you said, they would know so much about you already. - Yeah. - So I think it'd be- - Weirdly parasocial. - But I mean, your stuff, not so much though. It's not so much. If they just watched your main channel, they wouldn't know.

- Sure. - They wouldn't know much about you. - Yeah, I mean, now I think like there's a whole different like dynamic ever since I saw Trash Taste. - Yeah, exactly right. Like if I just made music on YouTube and never showed my face, I think I'd be like, whatever. - Yeah, that'd be different. - 'Cause then like if I vibed with them and it was really chill, they wouldn't know anything about me. - It's like, oh, they like my music, that's cool. - Yeah. - Okay, okay.

- They are a fan of trash taste. Instant red flag, get them out of here. They know too much. - This is why you have to go with arched gut. No fucking reason logic here. We can logic the shit out of all of these. - Oh my gut is red and I'm sticking with it. - All right, cool. - All right, sweet. - Give me a fucking box. - Oh God. - Wow, of course I got this one. Wears the same outfit a lot.

- You're a CEO of a drip company. What do you think, Joey? What do you think? - Okay, I have my reasonings for this. - All right. - Wears the same outfit a lot. - Yeah. - Okay. - We don't know anyone who does that. - No, no one. No one I know. - All right. - Three, two, one, beige. - Green. - Green? - Why green? - Bro, I mean, if you've got a great outfit and you're confident in it, fucking rock it. - What if it's not a great outfit? - Yeah, I mean, I'll just tell them.

Okay, but what if it's like they think it's fucking awesome, but you are just like, that ain't it, chief.

and they don't change their mind about it. - That's a great concern. I would hope that I have fallen in love with every aspect of them, including their outfit choices. And then this is a win because I like it a lot and they're wearing it all the time. - Okay, here's the thing. You go on three dates. - They wear the same outfit. - And they wear the same outfit on three. Okay, like two- - That would literally be me.

- No, you don't leave Twitch shopping like, "I wore the Twitch shirt, yes, purple shirt, but next one I'm gonna wear the trash t-shirt." - If it's a banger outfit, it's a banger outfit.

- What if it's not a banger outfit? - Odds are it is if they're wearing it back to back. - Yeah, yeah. - You'd be surprised, man. - Really? - I've never heard of such a thing. - You only wear the outfit if it's great. - You'd be surprised. - I mean, I probably mentioned that, probably, you know, give a bit of banter about it. - This is way more common guys than women in general though. - Yeah. - Yeah.

I think guys tend to wear the same outfits a lot more. - Yeah, no, definitely. But like, I feel like even on dates, you know, I mean, that was- - On dates, you're just like very, obviously very conscious about- - Yeah, if you found something that's comfortable for you though and you really feel great in it, then why not? Like do it, rock it. Hey, one less thing to think about.

- Yeah, I put beige because that was me before I met Aki. I used to just wear the same clothes all the fucking time because I didn't care about what I wore. - Classic Disney adult. - Classic, no, just classic Australian wearing the same shirt. Then, you know, 'cause like Aki was super into fashion. I got into it because of her. So like, I'm thinking about that now in the opposite

- Yeah. - And then the opposite side of things being like, well, if I like clothes, which I do now, and if my partner say, for example, wore the same shit all the time, that would get me excited to be like, let's try on some new shit. Let's see what you like. And that would give me an excuse to bond with them as it did for us.

- Yeah, that's why we'll date. - You just took my like fucking anime and movie answer, Joey. - What? - Yeah, you did. - You're like, this is it, this is my bonding chance. - Yeah, I took a red flag for that and now suddenly a beige? - Suddenly with clothes, you're like, ooh, it's a little- - You can avoid anime, you can't avoid clothes. - I'm trying my best. - Speak for yourself, Joey. I know you've been trying your best.

- All right, let's- - Wait, wait, wait, that's, it's you, Joey. - Oh, me? - Yeah. - I was gonna tell you, but I thought, "Ah, he's too deep in the drawer." - That's whatever. All right, here we go. They text you every day. - Oh, that's a good one. - They text you every- - Is this like, what period of the, are we like first date territory? - Just from first date to like- - Does it make a difference? - Current- - I think it does. - You think? - 100%. - I'm thinking about it. - Actually, okay, doesn't text you every day.

- Don't text you every day. - Text you every day. - They text you every day. - They text you every day. For me, it depends. - Okay, I'm gonna say this and then I'm gonna say my reasoning. - I'm gonna go with my gut.

- All right, three, two, one. I said none. - I said green. - I said red. - Ooh. - Ooh. - Okay, I said none because it really depends on the frequency. Like when we say every day, like how often every day are we talking? Like every couple of hours, like every five minutes, it's very different, right? If it's only like a couple of times a day, then I think that's fine. I think there's nothing wrong with that. - I need time to marinate.

- I gotta, listen, if you- - That's an out of context clip. - I need time to like really know how I'm feeling it. And the only way I know that is if I have a moment where I don't talk to you and I still think about you. - Right. - You know what I mean? That really lets me know that I really, it's something special. - See, this might be different 'cause I was in a long-term relationship where texting was the only real way to stay in contact. - But to me, I feel like sometimes I was guilty of this in school where I would build

I would wanna talk to the person every day, not because I wanted to, but out of habit. And that it was a thing that we both did. And I almost felt like hostage by it. But I felt that if they didn't text me, I would get like anxious. And I felt like that was a bad trait that I developed. - But how often would you text?

- It'd be a fair amount. Yeah, it'd be like a few times a day. - Right. - And I didn't like that, that I felt reliant on that. - Right. - And then when I- - Like you feel like you needed to because- - Yeah, and then I realized I was so much happier when I felt that like there was no bullshit small talk and when we'd hang out, it'd be really good. And we'd occasionally text in between, but there was no expectation that I had to be there every day.

And I like that a lot. And that's to me when I really know that it's something really worth pursuing. - It's like those friends that you have where you could not talk to each other for like months on end, but when you meet them again, IRL, it's like nothing's changed. - I'm that person. - Me too, me too. I'm like that too. I don't wanna text. I'm like, "Hey, if you wanna call, let's have a call." But I don't really wanna text much. But now I'll be like, if I'm with someone for a very long time, just to text me and like, "Yeah, how's your day going? "It's going good? All right, well."

I'll see you on the weekend or something. That's where I'm kind of, that's where I get to. So I do like the daily texts after a while, but in the initial getting together period of that first few months, I don't want to text every day.

I need to know that we can operate outside of each other. - Yeah. - It's very important to me. - Right, right. For me, I just like get in my own head a lot. I don't know if like any other- - Weakness. - Huh? - Shed that weakness, Garnt. - I don't know if any- - We can get out of that. - I don't know if any guy gets this, but it's just like sometimes you overthink whether like the frequency of the text. And I've kind of realized that I would,

I would rather just fucking know that someone, like I'm in someone's mind, especially for like thinking no matter what, no matter what period of the relationship is, I would love to know that I'm in someone's thoughts, thoughts and prayers, I'm in someone's thoughts.

on like a day to day basis. Because if I like someone, they're gonna be in my thoughts. And sometimes I'm that kind of guy who you guys know, I'm fucking horrible at this shit. So I need someone to just message me so that I know- - You're both being held hostage by your anxieties.

- You're both being held hostage by the equal anxiety you share of wanting to be wanted by each other. - Yeah, so I need someone to balance me out. I need someone to balance me out. - The true Chad moment is when you realize that you both are happy together and you don't need to know, you don't need to have each other's attention constantly. - No, no, I totally agree with that. - You can be dependent and independent at the same time. - Yeah, being independent is such an important thing and that I learned to, sometimes also like, RV trip, I'm live,

And then I'm, I then have to, when the cameras go off, I gotta eat, sleep and then prepare the stuff for the next day. I'll be like a five day thing where I just can't, I just don't have the capacity to have a conversation. And so it's just like, I need to know that you're not gonna freak out if I'm just kind of like not really there for five days. - Right. - Yeah, yeah. No, I totally get that as well. I kinda just think that,

I think the, especially in like the initial periods, right? There's so much of this fucking dance about should I text, should I not text, blah, blah, blah, blah. Am I talking too much and am I talking too little? And I think if they wanna talk, they're gonna fucking talk. And if I don't wanna talk, like if I don't wanna talk back because I'm just not vibing or if it's too much, then that's just gonna be an indicator for me. So for me, I would rather someone texts me

every day when they actually mean it. - Yeah, absolutely. - So that I kind of know their intentions and I know what they want and I know if I want to pursue something as well or if I want to text back. 'Cause most of the time, if they text every day, I'm gonna be like, if I really liked them, I'm gonna text back.

And it's gonna be, you know, it's gonna have- - I think the key thing here is that I felt that it wasn't, the question wasn't phrased as like, it's nice to talk every day. It's more like they have to talk every day. - Right. - Yeah. - Which I think is a big difference. - Yeah, yeah. - Obviously it's nice to talk every day, but I never ever wanna have that feeling that like I need to talk to them every day. So I feel like that can breed some toxic thoughts

toxic kind of traits in the relationship. - Right. - Yeah. - That they kind of need to be around each other constantly. - Oh yeah, yeah. I totally agree. I think just that sometimes on busy days, just a single text is enough. - Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. - Just to know. - Absolutely. - Sometimes, you know, like I'm talking like personally, sometimes I have like similar days where I have no fucking time at all where I'm working all day, but just knowing it's like, "Hey Sydney, how's your day been?" And she's been like, "It's good. I'm making dinner." I'm like,

- That's all you need. - That's all I need. That's what I want. So yeah, green flag for me. - Yeah, very, very different depending on personality. - Yes, yes, all right. Oh, it's me. - You called it. - Oh, okay. - What's the next one Garnt? - Oh God, you're laughing. - What? - They asked for your phone passcode. - Is this normal?

- I guess, maybe not normal, but it happens. - Yeah, it does happen. - I mean, do we even have to do the reveal? I think we already know, right? - It's fucking red. - Privacy is very important and you need to have some semblance of it. - Absolutely.

You can have nothing to hide. And I think it's valid to just not want to give that out. - I think people who ask of their partners for their phone passwords because they're afraid that like their partner is hiding something is just,

projecting themselves onto their partner. Like people who do that clearly have been in a past where like they've had to hide something themselves. And so, you know, because they have stuff to hide, they think, well, I have stuff to hide. So maybe my partner also has stuff to hide too. Maybe I should get his phone code. So like, that's just a media red flag. - It's like, to me, I've actually experienced this with like previous relationships actually. - Oh shit.

It's almost like the catch 22, you know? It's like what came first, the chicken or the egg? Except it's like, oh, you trust them. So you should have no problem giving them your phone passcode. But-

if you have nothing to hide, you can give it. But like to me, in my experience, it builds a very something toxic kind of like trust system. It is the wrong kind of mentality where, you know, if you trust your partner, you should have no problem giving them your passcode. But if they trust you, they wouldn't ask for your passcode. It's like a toxic kind of like- - You've got nothing to hide is the scummiest defraud.

to overreach in the history of overreaching. Because you know, you've got nothing to hide, but also privacy is allowed. You are allowed to have things private. And that is a right that you get to have as a human being. - I don't want you snooping through my fucking files without my permission in any situation. - Do I have to explain every meme on my phone? No.

- Do I have to explain my Google socials to you? - This would be a relationship ender for me, I think, if someone asked me this. And if they were pushing it,

after I said no, I think that would, yeah, that'd be a relationship end of it. - Yeah, I think so too. I think people who do this don't, don't do it. It never goes well. - Yeah, I think, you know, there's a fallacy in like every relationship where you have to share every single part of yourselves with your partner. And I think a good, an important thing about,

- Your individual people. - Is that you just acknowledging that your individual people with your own like wants and privacy and whatever and you are comfortable with that. I feel like a lot of couples get insecure if they don't have like prove to themselves that like, oh, I know everything about my partner. We are like one soul and I'm like, to me that's not like, that's not what a balanced relationship is in my opinion. - I agree, I agree with that.

- All right. - That was an easy clean red flag sweep. - Clean sweep, baby. - I hope everyone at home also said red. All right, this is the last one. - Last one. - There is only one more. - Here we go. - And I was feeling like we had a natural conclusion as well. - Yeah. - What the fuck have they written this? She a low but- - I think it's a 10. - Oh wait. Oh, she a 10.

- She a low, she a low. - I was like, what? It was formatted really weird. Okay, yeah, it's really, she's a 10. Sorry, I was trying to read this and I was like, isn't my crazy? It looks formatted really bizarre. - She's a 10 but puts milk before cereal. - Wait, what? - She puts milk before her cereal. - She's a 10 but she puts milk before her cereal? - And you said point crow something. - She's a point crow tweet. - Oh, is it?

- Okay, so this is a tweet from a point crow fellow content creator who said she's a 10 but she pours milk before her cereal. - How do I answer this? - All right. - Okay. - Ready? Three, two, one green. - Clearly a red flag. - Green? - I don't give a fuck about how you pour your cereal. - To the streets. - Joey. - I do some things.

- You will not be in my household with milk before cereal. - Couldn't give two fat rats asses about how you pour your cereal, you're a 10. - Joey, we have rules for a reason. Civilization was built on reason and structure. And if people don't follow that structure, civilization crashes, Joey. - The cow who provided that milk give a shit about how it's poured, no. - I've never heard of a Japanese man who doesn't like to follow a rigid set of rules.

- Until today. - Well, guess I'm a fucking rebel then. - To the streets with you. - I don't give a fuck how you pour your cereal. - No, I don't really care. - I do think it's fucked up, but I wouldn't end a relationship. - It's a bit beige. - Yeah. - It's like a beige green. - Why would you insist on having a worse experience? - I'd call them out for it.

- I just don't really care. I'm like, if that's how you like it, that's fine. Just don't make me do the same shit. - It's like putting the milk in the tea before you've put the tea in. It's like, why are you doing this? You're doing this so much harder for yourself. - I just think to myself, oh, you're fucking lost.

I'm still eating cereal, they're delicious. - Not a big deal. - No. - I don't really give a fuck. But there you go. That was the red flag, green flags. - That was fun. - That was a lot of fun. Yeah. Hopefully you guys enjoyed that. Let us know your red flags and green flags down in the comments below. We'd love to check them out. And hopefully you, I wonder how many people have started to see us differently after this. Now you know what we're really like. - All my friends hate Disney adults. Fuck them.

- You know what? If you haven't seen any classic movies, I could show you the way. I could show you the way. - You're a fucking pleb. Watch some Godfather, God damn it. - Thank you so much for watching this episode of Trash Taste. Take it away, Joey. - Yo, check out these patrons though. I hope you guys don't pour milk before your cereal 'cause that is actually psychotic. - This guy does. - Yeah, don't, unless you're a 10, then I don't give a fuck.

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