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The Definition of Success with author Neil Strauss

2024/5/7
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Neil Strauss: Neil Strauss认为，成功的定义不应仅仅局限于物质财富或有限的成就，而更应该关注个人意图的正确性。他以自身经历为例，讲述了《The Game》的意外成功并非他所追求的意义，真正的成功在于是否怀有正确的意图，而非最终结果的好坏。他认为，在人际交往中，理解社会动态，停止过度关注他人评价，给予他人肯定，是建立良好关系的关键。他还强调，解决自身问题的最佳方法是帮助他人解决相同的问题，真正的付出不应带有目的性，而应纯粹出于利他之心。他认为，戒除性瘾对他个人成长的影响比《The Game》更大，并分享了他童年时期与母亲之间情感纠葛的经历，以及在性瘾康复过程中对自身问题的认识。他认为，个人对自身行为负全部责任，无论其原生家庭如何，并强调了原谅自己和他人对个人自由的重要性。他认为，贡献不应以结果论英雄，而应关注过程中的意图和努力。他认为，即使不为社会做出贡献，也是可以被接受的，只要不故意伤害他人。 Simon Sinek: Simon Sinek则认为，成功不应只关注个人，还应关注对社会和群体的责任。他认为，个人有责任使周围环境变得更好，即使无法保证结果。他认为，贡献的定义应放宽，即使是简单的善意行为也属于贡献。他认为，他和Neil Strauss对责任的界定不同，前者认为只对自身行为负责，后者则认为对行为结果也应负责。他认为，个体行为会影响他人，因此不能忽视自身行为对外部世界的影响。他认为，每个人都有自己的故事，而我们应该努力创造一个积极的故事。他认为，接受不确定性是获得幸福的关键。

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Neil Strauss discusses the origins of 'The Game', his transformation since its publication, and the controversial reception of the book.

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In 2005, Neil Strauss published The Game, a book about his years living in the pickup artist community. *The Game *sold millions of copies, stirred up huge controversy, and made Neil a bestselling author. 

Neil has totally reinvented himself since writing *The Game, *and I wanted to talk with him about walking away from that identity of success. This led to a much deeper conversation about what success even is. Is meaning tied to outcomes, or is intention enough? 

Neil and I don't see eye-to-eye on everything in this conversation, but I love talking with him because he challenges my ideas. I hope this episode challenges you as well, to continue questioning what the definition of success should be. 

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The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists)

 

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