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Happily Friended with author Rhaina Cohen

2024/4/30
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主持人：社会普遍将婚姻视为人生目标，忽视了深厚友谊的重要性。许多人因为未婚而受到指责，但实际上，一些友谊的亲密程度甚至超过婚姻。Raina Cohen的著作《The Other Significant Others》探讨了将友谊作为人生目标的可能性，以及重新定义友谊以建立更深层次联系，减轻伴侣压力的方法。 Raina Cohen：人们难以理解并接受与非浪漫伴侣建立如此亲密和长久的友谊。"关系"一词被浪漫关系垄断，其他类型的亲密关系不被重视。将浪漫伴侣视为唯一深厚情感依托的观念是近几十年才出现的，历史上人们更重视友谊。作者写作的动机源于一段让她重新思考友谊定义的经历。与其在法律上为友谊设立新类别，不如重新审视我们评判关系重要性的标准。作者关注的是人们如何建立关系的等级制度，以及如何更开放地看待人们建立生活的方式和寻求帮助的对象。需要更多细化的友谊分类，例如"熟人"等，以更准确地表达亲密程度。现有的"挚友"等词汇不足以描述某些极其亲密的友谊。更精确的语言可以帮助人们理解不同类型的友谊。"只是朋友"这样的说法往往带有负面含义。即使在柏拉图式的关系中，也可能存在类似于浪漫关系中的迷恋和兴奋感。浪漫关系和亲密友谊的情感体验可能存在差异。 Raina Cohen: 人们对友谊的新定义的探索，既源于对传统模式的质疑，也源于对新关系的偶然发现。对友谊新定义的探索，既源于对传统家庭模式的失望，也源于对新关系的偶然发现。人们可能会偶然发现重要的人际关系，并由此开始质疑社会对关系的既定定义。作者最喜欢的职业经历是创作她的著作《The Other Significant Others》，因为她从中了解到人们内心深处的故事。Barb和Inez的故事展现了友谊的持久性和非计划性，挑战了人们对伴侣关系和友谊的传统观念。

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The episode introduces the concept of redefining friendship as a central life goal, exploring how this shift can lead to deeper connections and reduce pressure on romantic relationships.

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Society treats marriage like the end goal of human intimacy. Platonic friends can never be as important as romantic partners. What would life look like if we made friendship the goal? Journalist and producer Rhaina Cohen tackles this question in her book *The Other Significant Others. *She tells the stories of people who made platonic friends the closest people in their lives, doing things together like buying houses, executing a will, and raising children. I wanted to talk with Rhaina because redefining what friendship means in our lives lets us connect in new and deeper ways outside the rigid boundaries of a marriage or relationship. And it might take the pressure off our romantic partners to fulfill every one of our social needs.This...is A Bit of Optimism.To learn more about Rhaina and her work, check out:

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