cover of episode 119. “He’s not ready for marriage. So why did we buy a house together?”

119. “He’s not ready for marriage. So why did we buy a house together?”

2023/8/29
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Candace: 与Brad约会五年，买房四年，但仍未结婚，对未来规划感到焦虑和沮丧。她认为Brad对婚姻和家庭的承诺含糊其辞，缺乏清晰的计划，导致她感到生活停滞不前。她希望与Brad共同承担财务责任，并对未来有清晰的规划。她认为他们目前的财务状况糟糕，房贷压力巨大，生活质量下降，建议卖房以改善财务状况，并为未来的婚姻和家庭做准备。 Brad: 他承认买房时并未完全准备好，认为结婚买房的顺序并不重要。他希望在经济稳定后结婚生子，但对财务稳定的定义模糊，缺乏具体的数字目标。他承认自己不善于表达情感，与Candace的沟通存在问题，导致Candace感到缺乏安全感和清晰的未来规划。他承认自己需要承担更多财务责任，并与Candace进行更有效的沟通。 Ramit Sethi: Ramit Sethi 指出未婚情侣一起买房的风险，建议未婚情侣不要一起买房，除非双方都请律师审查协议。他分析了Candace和Brad的财务状况，指出他们的固定成本过高，储蓄率过低，缺乏应急资金，建议他们卖房以改善财务状况。他指出Candace和Brad的关系模式与他们的父母相似，建议他们进行更深入的沟通，了解彼此的内心需求。他帮助Candace和Brad理清了他们的财务状况和关系问题，并建议他们将大问题分解成小问题来解决。 Candace: 她对目前的生活状态感到不满，认为他们落后于同龄人，缺乏生活质量。她希望与Brad共同承担财务责任，并对未来有清晰的规划。她认为卖房是解决他们财务问题的最佳方案，可以让他们有更多的资金用于投资、还债、婚礼和应急基金。她希望Brad能够更加主动地承担责任，并与她进行更深入的沟通。 Brad: 他承认自己对财务稳定的定义模糊，缺乏具体的数字目标，并对未来感到焦虑和迷茫。他希望能够在经济上更好地支持Candace和未来的家庭，但缺乏清晰的计划和行动。他承认自己不善于表达情感，与Candace的沟通存在问题，导致Candace感到缺乏安全感和清晰的未来规划。他愿意承担更多财务责任，并与Candace进行更有效的沟通。 Ramit Sethi: Ramit Sethi 指出Candace和Brad的关系模式与他们的父母相似，建议他们进行更深入的沟通，了解彼此的内心需求。他帮助Candace和Brad理清了他们的财务状况和关系问题，并建议他们将大问题分解成小问题来解决。他指出Candace需要的是清晰度，而不是安慰，并鼓励Brad主动表达自己的情感和想法。

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Candace and Brad discuss their decision to buy a house together after just one year of dating, despite Candace being ready for marriage and family life, and Brad not feeling ready for marriage.

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Candace and Brad are 31 and 33. They’ve been together for five years—buying a home together after just one year of dating. Candace is ready for a wedding, kids, and family life; she’s getting impatient. Make sure you stick around for the absolutely shocking ending to their story.

 

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