1. “My husband doesn’t trust me to run our business”
2021/8/4
I Will Teach You To Be Rich
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Alyssa
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Ilan
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Ramit Sethi
Alyssa: Alyssa在节目中表达了她对丈夫Ilan缺乏信任和沟通的担忧。她害怕Ilan在生意和财务方面做出错误的决定，并对Ilan将加密货币投资置于生意发展之上感到不满。她将生意比作婴儿，重视生意形象、信誉和承诺履行，而Ilan的冒险行为让她感到不安。她坦诚地分享了她成长于一个有酗酒父亲的家庭的经历，这影响了她的金钱观和对未来的期望，让她害怕冒险和追求更大的目标。她渴望在生意中拥有更多话语权和控制权，但害怕表达自己的想法，因为担心Ilan会不耐烦或反对。
Ilan: Ilan认为自己是一位经验丰富的企业家，而Alyssa缺乏企业家的远见卓识和冒险精神。他坚持认为自己的投资策略是为了创造更大的利润，最终目标与Alyssa是一致的。他认为Alyssa的思维模式过于保守，无法理解他的想法。他强调自己敢于冒险，勇于尝试，并认为只有敢于冒险才能有所收获。但他缺乏同理心，没有理解Alyssa的恐惧和不安，经常以说教的方式与Alyssa沟通，导致沟通不畅。
Ramit Sethi: Ramit Sethi在节目中充当调解人的角色，引导Alyssa和Ilan进行有效的沟通。他指出Ilan和Alyssa之间缺乏相互尊重，并且经常对彼此的思维进行错误的假设。他鼓励Alyssa追求更多，并指出改变思维模式需要时间。他引导Ilan和Alyssa进行更深入的沟通，帮助他们理解彼此的需求和担忧。他指出他们争论的核心问题远比生意经营更深层次，是沟通和信任的问题。
Alyssa: Throughout the episode, Alyssa expresses her fear and insecurity stemming from a lack of trust and communication with her husband, Ilan. She's afraid of Ilan making wrong decisions regarding their business and finances, and she's unhappy with Ilan prioritizing cryptocurrency investments over business growth. She likens their business to a baby, emphasizing the importance of image, reputation, and commitment fulfillment, while Ilan's risk-taking behavior makes her uneasy. She openly shares her upbringing in a family with an alcoholic father, which has influenced her financial outlook and expectations for the future, making her afraid to take risks and pursue bigger goals. She desires more say and control in the business but is afraid to express her thoughts, fearing Ilan's impatience or opposition.
Ilan: Ilan considers himself an experienced entrepreneur, while he believes Alyssa lacks entrepreneurial vision and a willingness to take risks. He insists that his investment strategies are aimed at generating greater profits, ultimately aligning with Alyssa's goals. He believes Alyssa's mindset is too conservative and that she can't understand his ideas. He emphasizes his willingness to take risks and try new things, believing that only by taking risks can one achieve success. However, he lacks empathy, failing to understand Alyssa's fears and anxieties, often communicating with Alyssa in a preachy manner, leading to poor communication.
Ramit Sethi: Ramit Sethi acts as a mediator in the show, guiding Alyssa and Ilan towards effective communication. He points out the lack of mutual respect between Ilan and Alyssa and how they often make wrong assumptions about each other's thinking. He encourages Alyssa to pursue more and points out that changing mindsets takes time. He guides Ilan and Alyssa towards deeper communication, helping them understand each other's needs and concerns. He points out that the core issue of their arguments is much deeper than business operations; it's a matter of communication and trust.
Deep Dive
Alyssa and Ilan discuss their baklava business, revealing communication issues and differing views on entrepreneurship.
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