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And Will, her son, turned two. So that's pretty remarkable. So I've been looking at lots of videos from them. But yeah, it's just me and Sarah today. And we have way too many things to talk about. We started sort of chatting back and forth last night and this morning, sending each other stuff. And I'm like, wow, we got a lot of shit. Where do you want to start? Well, I want to start with my Jennifer Garner story.
smoothie. Okay. She is going to be on the new Deadpool 3. I think it's out now, Deadpool 3. Isn't it? It is out. Anyway, it looks fantastic. I just watched Deadpool 1 a couple of days ago to remind myself of the franchise origins and where the story is heading with, of course, Ryan Reynolds, Hugh Jackman, and a whole bunch of amazing cameos. But Jennifer Garner is in the new one.
And Jennifer, if you follow her on Instagram, she's really super fit. So she's always in great fitness. You can see her doing kind of a squat and she leaps up like three and a half feet in the air onto a big foam block. And I trip on a curb. Do you know what I'm saying? Like her level of fitness is amazing. So she needed to amp it up. She said, I've always been fit, but I've never been Marvell fit.
So she takes us through the shit that she does, Sarah. It's just like, I don't know what it all means. Those are box jumps, by the way. Jumping on the box, it's called a box jump. A box jump. Yeah, and it's hard. It's hard on the knees. You got to be real fit and suave to do things like that. Anyway, she's very inspiring. And at the end of it, at the end of this reel...
She made herself a smoothie and it was oat milk and a scoop of protein powder, whatever your choice is, some berries, some chia seeds, a whole bunch of spinach, like a handful of spinach. And I think that, oh, and a bit of like nut seed paste. Like an almond butter or something? Yes, almond butter. Is that what you mean? Okay.
So here it is. Mine looks a little different than hers. Is it delicious? It's been sitting for a while, so the cheese seeds are taking on a life of their own. Yeah, it's thick now. And so I feel it is quite thick. But you know what? Thank you, Jennifer Garner. I needed a new smoothie to have, so...
Here it is. And it's very delicious. Do I look any better than I did 20 minutes ago? Glowing. Anyway, moving on. The dog. The dog. So last week we talked about Cherry. Cherry is a mixed breed rescue dog.
Sarah has been fostering and, you know, everyone hopes that they're not a foster fail as a foster parent because you want to take on a lot of dogs and you want to really help dogs get acclimated to being in a home environment. Right. So fill us in on what's happening with her. So she's in the crate right now. You know, day one, she hated the crate. Like if she was in the crate, she was crying and sad. She didn't feel it was a safe space, I don't think.
And now she's going to the crate and feeling very safe. And she just goes in there on her own. I leave the door open for her and she goes in there to rest after the walk. So Poppy's in his bag. Okay. So I feel like the crate training part is going really well. You have to remember these dogs were all rescued. I'm working with an organization called Backstreet Paws. They help these dogs from Texas. So they have to acclimate to like the weather, the climate, the water, everything.
So the first few days were a lot like when we recorded last week when I had her. It was like the beginning.
And, you know, runny poos. Barfy? Barfy, runny poos. But imagine the nerves. Right? It's a lot of stress. People have to take into account the shock on these little systems. They're so dear and they're scared shitless. Right? So you have to have this unimaginable patience, right, for what they're going through. So day one in the house, it was like wet poo, peeing, didn't, you know, she was figuring it out.
By day two, no accidents in the house. You know, as soon as I take her out, pees on the grass, poos on the grass, everything was great. So I'm so proud of that. And I've been rewarding her. So I think I have, I would say in the one week, I've got her trained to pee and poo outside. No problem. She's really smart. She's only four months old. And I'm so proud of her. Like every time she pees, I'm like, oh my God.
Trust me, you do that when they're six. You're like, way to go. You did it on the pad or you did it on the outside. You know, it's always challenging. She hasn't used pee pads since day one. Isn't that amazing for four months old? Yes. But I think, you know, the food and the stress. I brought her to the cottage over the weekend. There were two other dogs there. She loved playing with them. She's so friendly. She loves the other dogs.
It just might have been a lot for her. There were other foods and smells around. And yes, she's done a lot of vomiting because she's been on this medicine to settle her tummy, which is supposed to be seven days. And I've had to stop the medicine because she kept throwing up. What? Just break it in half. I tried that. She was still throwing up.
Okay. I tried that. Yeah. And I added rice. Throwing up, not good. I would just, yeah, I would stop it completely until you talk to your vet. I'm not a veterinarian, but I did sleep with one several years ago. Good to know if we need to make an emergency call at any point. I'm kidding. Jan, I need you to call your ex. No, I've never slept with a veterinarian. Oh, I got excited. So yeah, I did add rice into her food for a little bit. That definitely fixed the poos. Poos were great after that. So the looming question is, we're just fostering, right? Yeah.
We're just fostering. I'm allergic to her. I am allergic to her. But you'll foster other dogs, right? Yes. So that's the whole silver lining of it, even though it's going to be so hard to say goodbye to her. So when does that happen? They're trying this other family before the end of the week. And if they don't respond, then it goes to Barb, who you've heard me talk about at the cottage. Met her, fell in love with her, trains dogs, has so much dog experience, put an application in. Barb put an application in?
Yeah. And wouldn't that be great that I can visit Cherry if Barb takes her? I like that there is an application process with animals. Oh, yeah, yeah. I like that it's just not willy-nilly. We've got six boxes in a box. Come by the house and pick one out. Like all that, those fucking days are over, I hope.
And folks, if you run into that, don't do it because it's some asshole breeder or some asshole in general that doesn't know what they're doing. I think everyone can agree that animal cruelty is just abhorrent and we really need to gather ourselves together, good people, and just say no to this stuff. And use your voice. Apathy is so terrible. And I'm not talking about even...
Food that we're eating. I'm just talking about pets kittens birds people having fucking turtles and snakes and shit like stop it
Yeah. Stop fucking getting snakes and ferrets and things like that for pets, for God's sakes. Like just these animals should be outside doing what they do. Yeah. Don't be going into a pet store and it just makes you an asshole. Sorry. I wouldn't want to do this any other way other than a rescue. Good for you. Every experience though will help her
to get used to people and being in a loving environment. And it'll be great when she does have that forever home. So yeah, I'm allergic to her. Definitely the Jack Russell part, her brothers, who I've now seen pictures of Carlos and Calvin, the cutest, they, they got more schnauzer. And I feel like those two dogs are probably more hypo than she is. She got the Jack Russell side, I think. Well, don't give up your search, Sarah. Oh, I told the organization, let's keep an eye out for another hypo.
So did you do Claritin when you were at my house around Poppy? No, because Poppy I'm not really that allergic to. So Poppy is a Morkie. He's Maltese and Yorkshire Terrier. Yeah. So maybe that's a road you need to kind of go down to look for a rescue that's kind of in that realm of... Yeah. You know, I mean, he's a shit mix for sure. I'm not sure what is going on. I didn't feel allergic to him once while I was at your house. Whereas, I mean, I know we had mosquitoes on our topic list for today, but...
I'm so allergic to the mosquitoes at your place. I don't know why they're different than the mosquitoes in Ontario, but oh my God, I'm covered still. Well, let's just take a little weekander at the mosquito thing. Here's why mosquitoes... Okay, ready for this? I got it in front of me. Yeah. Why mosquitoes bite some people more than others explained, and this is in Glamour magazine. Of all places. Hi, Glamour. Hi, Glamour.
from July, this article's from July. She says, "If you've ever come back from a festival or a holiday and wondered why you've been eaten alive by mosquitoes while your friends have been left alone, there's a few reasons why you might be a mosquito's type."
So she goes on to say that mosquitoes really like type O blood. So do you know what your blood type is? I asked my mom this morning after you sent the article, and I am type A. So I'm the 46.5%. So type O blood, they garner 83.3% of mosquitoes. And then the type A's only have half of the mosquitoes biting them, less than half, 46.5%. But think about how much more than all the other blood types, even the type A is, right? Yeah.
Well, I don't even know how many type A's and type O's. I know nothing about this stuff. I know AB is really rare. And then there's A positive and negative, isn't there? Isn't there O positive and negative? Like what's all that stuff? I'm no expert on that, but I can tell you that it seems like type O and type A are at the top of what we're talking about. Okay, well get this.
mosquitoes find us through carbon dioxide. So the bigger you are, the more carbon dioxide you're releasing, putting you at risk. You also, you know, exhale more carbon dioxide after a workout. Or when you're pregnant, you may be susceptible to more bug bites. While humans can't smell carbon dioxide, mosquitoes can, and from a great distance. It's the main signal that helps them acquire human targets. So note to self,
Hold breath for as long as possible while running across the yard to water the garden. Here's what checks out though. When I was at your place, I went down to show Erin the river, right? After you worked out. See? It checks out. You got freaking attacked, right? If I could show you my back right now, they didn't show up until I got back. I didn't even know I had them. It could have been the bird feeder morning too, but I don't know. God, we were out there for a long time. Those freaking ants.
Anyways, I've enjoyed my bird feeder with the camera in it is bringing me so much joy that I may never ever be in a relationship now because now I have the dog and I have my bird feeder camera.
It's given me all the thrills. I'm telling you. Patreon subscribers, you're getting the behind the scenes of the bird feeder. Jan's been posting in there. And you put some on Instagram too. But these little birds, basically, there's a camera catching their every move when they come. I'm doing Patreon little things every day, folks. I'm going in there and I'm showing people stuff that Instagram and TikTok, they ain't never going to see. And no, it's not my nipples. But it's almost as good or bad as that. Okay, I take that back.
Anyway, that's the whole mosquito story. One final thing on mosquitoes because this is an important part of the end of the article, which I found interesting. People who consume beer or bananas were both found to attract more mosquitoes as well. Oh, shit. Well, I do a lot of bananas. My cousin brought me over a new high-tech mosquito repellent little machine thing. I saw that. Tracy, it doesn't work.
It doesn't work. I feel like the mosquitoes landed on me more. So don't be duped into buying these blue light. I bought one for my parents at the cottage too, and I would agree. Nothing. It doesn't work. Okay. Our next topic, limerence. Limerence. Why do we obsess over people that we don't know or that we just met? So this is an article from Stylecaster magazine.
And you've all heard, you know, your friends talk about, oh my God, I met him last week. He's absolutely amazing. He's so perfect. I'm going to marry him. Or she's so, oh, this is the woman for me. This is my soulmate. We've been out twice. And then you're sending a million texts every day and you're just going overboard and you're buying gifts for this person. Like it is a real thing. You don't know them yet and they don't know you. So why are you suddenly convinced you're the one true love?
If you can't stop daydreaming about every new potential match you come across, it means your subconscious is
is calling for disengagement. Let's unpack the meaning of limerence before you start naming your children. So have you got any experience with that? We certainly aren't going to read the whole article, but have you ever felt this? No, but I feel like I can think of a girlfriend who just told me she had a boyfriend last week who I'm like, you just met. What? So she's calling him boyfriend now? Already. The last time I talked to her, maybe two weeks ago, she was talking about a different guy.
Does she know she has limerence? I feel like I'm going to diagnose it right here, right now. Limerence. Well, they say your brain, when you like somebody, you know, you just start firing chemicals like oxytocin, serotonin, dopamine, norepinephrine. They're positive neurotransmitters. So when people, this is very interesting to me because when you fall in love with someone and you can't,
You're not sleeping probably. You really are obsessing. Like it's hard to read a book. It's hard to sit on a date and eat a meal in front of this person because you're just all discombobulated. I fucking hate the feeling of being in love. Don't like it. I hate it. At 62 years old, I can look back. I've been in love several times in my life for sure. And I just don't like who I am. I don't like who I become. I don't like...
oh, my sensibility goes out the goddamn door. That I identify with. It's really something that
I don't think I want to do again. Wow. Well, you don't have to say it like with such sadness in the tone of your voice. Well, it does make me sad because, you know, you deserve to be loved and love someone else. No, but this whole thing, deserve is a weird little word to incorporate into that. You deserve to be loved. Yes, we all deserve to have great friendships and people that have our backs. But I'll tell you what, being in love is a whole different ballgame. And I think it changes. I hope to God it changes for people that get older.
Maybe that's why they have sites for people over 55 or something, dating sites. And why anyone would want to be, you know, 70 and have a 32-year-old girlfriend, David Foster, is beyond me. I think he's 75. Alexa, how old is David Foster? David Foster is 75.
Alexa, how old is David Foster's wife? 40. 34 years. What about plutonic? Does that come up anywhere in here or it's just like objects of affection? A plutonic being what? Explain that to us. Like the...
the obsession you might have, like someone really cool that you want to be maybe friends with versus falling in love with. Was there anything in the article you read about that? Oh, I see what you mean as far as limerence goes. Yeah. I have absolutely fallen in like with people that I've met over the years. And I mean that, and that's the greatest falling in like because you don't have unrequited feelings.
feelings. You know, you love this person, but they don't love you. I haven't experienced that a lot in my life. Usually when I made a move or wanted to go and pursue someone, I was 95% successful. I know that sounds terrible, but I think I chose well for myself. Well, I thought so at the time. But yeah, I've fallen in like with people, you know, Cynthia Loyst,
I fell in like with Cynthia Loyst and pretty much from the moment I met her, Tiffany Pratt. Are you out there, Tiffany Pratt? Tiffany Pratt is a new friend that I've met in the last couple of years. I met her on our podcast. We interviewed her. Tiffany has a dog also named Poppy, a wiener dog named Poppy. And Tiffany and I...
Much like Cynthia, and like I said, meeting new friends is very exciting as you get older because it's hard to do. Tiffany and I are like sisters because I never had sisters. And I just absolutely adore her and I would do anything for her. Cynthia's married. Tiffany's quite happily married. I mean, these are people that I don't feel that way about them. It's not there, but it doesn't take away my absolute desire to be with them.
and my affection and my profound adoration for these people. Got it. That I have had for sure. Isn't that cool? It is. But you have to be open to it. To have a friend, you must be a friend. So, you know, there's time involved. But then you have friends that you literally only see once every five years. And it's still that solid bond, that relationship. Listen, if you have people admonishing for you, I haven't heard from you for three months.
You know, they can go fuck themselves. That's a dramatic friendship. Totally drama. And it's not, that's not what a friend is. So if you guys are dealing with people like that in your life, you should never be admonished for time not spent. You know, it's one thing to stand somebody up four times in a row. Different. You're an asshole. Then you're an asshole. Period. Yeah.
Because everybody's time is important. But if you're literally unable to, like, I'm sorry, I just, I can't make it. You know, people are busy. And then they come back with, well, you know what? I'm just going to stop asking because this is the fifth time that I've asked you to do something. And you know what? Fuck off. And I mean that. Read the room. Great. Get away from those people. They're just vacuous holes of nothingness.
She goes on to say, from the Skycaster magazine, attraction towards someone you're interested in is normal. When you meet someone new and you actually like them, your brain scintillates with feeling good chemicals, right? So we talked about that. But then when you get into the obsessive part of things, I think that's when it can go sideways. So you've never been obsessive about anyone? Honestly? Like for reals? No. I don't think I've been obsessed with like, you know, maybe...
We talked about this on the Ask Us Anything episode, but like there was a point where I was like pretty obsessed with Rivers Cuomo of Weezer, but I was really young then and I wouldn't call it anything real. But as a radio host, I've sure been on the receiving end, as I'm sure you have as an artist, where there's just someone in your DMs that's a little too persistent and, you know, maybe seeing you at events and constantly sending you things. And it's like, I've already disengaged. I need you to leave me alone. Yeah. Yeah.
I mean, I think when you're a public person, there's a whole other lid that gets lifted off the box. Yeah. I think I'm very fortunate that, A, Chris says that they don't tell me about half the shit. He says, we don't tell you about 99% of the stuff. That's good. It's just not worth telling you. I think you guys remember us talking about a woman last summer that I had in my cul-de-sac.
holding up a sign. Yes. Now, I think as we discovered a little further down the line, because I sent the videotape to the RCMP, because I just think they need to keep file of this stuff. Yeah. And you were scared a little bit too. She was holding a horseshit sign. So I think it was something to do with the horses. Right. But still, this woman was from eight hours away.
Yeah. And how she figured out where I lived. I guess it's not that hard to find out where people live. Maybe I'm really naive. I don't know. I think if you're using that much energy to find out where someone lives, that's one of the red flags. Yes.
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Putting yourself out there and being really open-minded about, you know, maybe meeting someone that isn't your type or, you know, all those things, right? Whether it's body, appearance, no hair, some hair, job description. I don't even care. No, but you don't even, it doesn't matter, right? But some people definitely have a type that they adhere to. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
But I think feeling in love for you now at 37 is going to be a lot different than when you were even 27. Do you not agree?
Yeah. Okay. There was a pause. Yeah. It was a big pause. No, no. I do agree. But I think the biggest thing is staying open-minded. Because even though I might have some fun over here with someone comfortable, it doesn't mean I want to end up in a companionship with them, if that makes sense. Right. No, that's good. Playing the field, as they say. And you know what? Men have done it for centuries. Yeah. And it's all good with them. But women...
We have needs too. It's always been a very taboo thing. Well, exactly. Yeah. And probably more so than men. Maybe we're not as driven because we're not. I'm in my prime. Come on. Well, it's interesting that you say that because men are in their prime at 18, 17 or 18. That's their sexual prime. Yeah.
And women are like much older than that. Around 40, I would say. Yeah, like or whatever. So yeah, you're there. I joined a new dating app over the weekend. What is it called and why? Actually, I shouldn't say joined is loose because it's like I'm on a wait list. That's how elite this fucking app is. You've gone through something like this. Is it Raya? No, it's not Raya. I was attracted to it. I got an ad for it on Instagram. I was attracted to it because the whole thing
Foundation of the app is bringing like ambitious people together for, you know, someone to support your goals and keep you independent while having a companion. And that's maybe one of the like things that haven't worked out for me in the past, like people being like really dependent and me feeling like I'm babysitting someone.
So I was like, oh, I'll try that. And then it's like, you are on the wait list. 39,000 people to go. I'm like, oh. Ahead of you? 39,000 people ahead of you? Unless you pay. Unless you pay. And I haven't paid. And what is the cost of this thing? I think it was like 300 bucks. No, 440.
400 bucks for three months and 99 for a week. And I was just like, that is astronomical. 99 for one week. And that's where I'm like, probably not going to do it, but I'm checking it out. They still send you things like they send you prospects and stuff. And that's where it's like, I just want to see what it was about. I was curious. And yeah,
It has this like concierge service. But from everything I've read now that I've looked up this app after just being on the wait list, it's pretty elitist and it probably won't go anywhere. Well, keep us posted. Of course. I always will. Well, here's an example of a dating app in the early 80s. Okay. Okay. This is really what it was. So there was a strip in Calgary.
I don't know if it still exists. Maybe it kind of does. It was called Electric Avenue. It was all clubs. Welcome to Electric Avenue. Is that a song based off it or no? No. Okay. I don't know. Coconut Joe's was one of them. There was like restaurants. There was the keg was along there. There was all these clubs. And what they did, let's say on a Wednesday night, from 8 till 11, it was ladies only. And the drinks were three for one.
three for one. So if you wanted one gin and tonic, you got three fucking gin and tonics for probably a buck 25. Then, so this went on, women would show up with their girlfriends. I went with my girlfriends a few times. It's three for one drinks. But we were smart enough to get the F out of there before 11 o'clock. So at 11 o'clock, they let the men in. Now you tell me in what fucking world is that
Like, that is so... I'm in disbelief right now. No, I know. But this was a real thing. You guys, send me voice notes. Send me your messages on Patreon or send them on the socials and tell me what you remember. And it happened in every city. It was a real... It was a thing. It was a North American thing. And it was in the 70s and the 80s. And you'd go in and it was a ladies' night for a few hours. Let's get the ladies liquored up before the guys come in. Exactly. Exactly.
And nobody thought anything of it. Can you imagine a club even daring to offer something like that in the climate that we have now, in the hashtag MeToo climate, in even...
You know, assaults and blaming women. Well, how much, what were you wearing? What did you have to drink? That whole kind of line of questioning. But yeah, I remember that going on. Yeah. Some woman was talking about it in an op-ed, which prompted me to bring it up today, but
Oh, my God. Is there anything like that now out there? I mean, I'm not a clubber. I'm really not a clubber. You can probably tell other than going out, you know, for dinners with friends or to concerts or to sporting events. You know, I'm kind of not the club scene girl. I did at one point go to the clubs, you know, when I was younger and
I was so uncomfortable that I remember being like, I need to be this drunk to even go in the club setting because I hated it. Well, there's some people that still love going to a club. It ain't me. But you know what? If that's what you're into, God love her. Lisa and Lisa and Bev and I are going to Toronto tomorrow for a few days. We're going to go see a ball game. And I know the weather's shitty there now. I know it's all going to be raining. It's beautiful. Is it? It's beautiful. The sun is shiny today. No humidity. Beautiful. 23 degrees. Okay. Okay. Good. Good.
Well, anyway, Lisa, who's 54, maybe 55. Lisa, I think you might be 56 now. I'll stop there. I won't keep going higher. She loves a club. She wants to go in Toronto? She said the only problem is she loves EDM music more than life itself. Like EDM music. Loves it. Loves it. Loves it. That's her jam. She listens to it 24 hours a day. She listens to it when she gets up in the morning to put her makeup on. It's EDM at 6.30 in the morning.
But she said, the problem being is that all the clubs, they don't start until like 11 p.m. Exactly. Like going to see some of her favorite DJs that do this stuff, they don't start till one o'clock in the morning sometimes. Like try going to Vegas to do one of those shows. It's 1 a.m. in the morning. Okay. So a year ago when I went to Greece, the girls that I was with, they were big clubbers. We were going out at like midnight, 1 a.m. And it was so hard for me. That's why I'd be like, I need drinks. I don't know. Yeah.
Then once we're in this environment, they don't want to leave until 5 a.m., 6 a.m. I remember us sleeping in the rental car on the side of the road. That is hell. That is my hell. We slept in the rental car beside a castle. On this holiday, all of you were sleeping in the car? The one girl who was our DD had a few drinks and then it was like, okay, well now we have to wait till the morning. And it was just like, we're... Could you still be arrested for being in a car with keys sleeping in it? I have not.
no idea. Yeah, in this country you could. In this country you'd be arrested for a DUI. That's it, baby. I would give a gold star for not driving home in that sense. It's like responsible. Yeah, but you still got into your car and got to wherever you were. Oh, no, no, no. The car stayed where it was. We just got in and slept there. That's where we were parked, beside a castle.
And I remember we woke up in the morning and I was like, guys, we're still here. That was the line that made us all erupt in laughter. We're still here. Were you hungover? Yeah. I made the driver, Samantha, pull over for coffee as soon as we saw. That's what a holiday is all about. Listen, you're always going to have those great memories.
And Samantha is over 50 years old. So I'm sitting here as the 37-year-old being like, what? We're going out at 1 a.m.? Back in the day, this is once again the early 80s, a couple of my friends and I, I'm not going to name names, but we would get into my friend's mother's Cordova, this big land barge of a car. We would drive across the Montana border. It would take us three and a half hours to get there. We'd go to Whitefish.
And we would drink like crazy and go to all these little bars. And I remember like beer being 99 cents. Like this is 40 some odd years ago, right? Right. I remember you talk about waking up in a car beside a castle. I remember my friend Teresa brought this up not so long ago.
We had all gotten in the car. Elise was such a good driver. She always would have like a couple of drinks. If she was tipsy, we never knew. And she was a really good driver. She always drove us. But I remember rolling this electric window down in this giant white car with a red leather interior and necking with this guy who had one leg and was hopping beside the car trying to kiss me, hanging onto the door. He had one leg. He had one leg. I don't understand. And...
Those are my kinds of memories from clubs and stuff. I mean, I was obviously 20 something years old, but maybe even younger, 19. But Teresa's like, remember when you were necking with that guy? Necking is such a Canadian thing. If you're in America listening to necking, it's basically hockey tonsil, right? Making out. Tonsil hockey. I don't use the word necking either. But yeah, just necking with this guy with him hopping beside the car. And we literally, my friend just kept driving.
He had to finally stop hopping. He couldn't keep up with the Cordova, obviously. We just left him there at the side of the road. He probably thinks about me every day. I'm sure he does. I just heard about Whitefish for the first time. Wait, wait, is that what it's called? Whitefish, yeah. It's a great, great town. You might remember like a month ago, I told you I made out with a fellow at a music festival. Did he have one leg? Because I think I know him. No, he didn't have one leg. But this guy has a home in Calgary.
A home in Montana. And Whitefish. And a home in London, Ontario. And he just said he got back from Whitefish. So I can assume he was just making out at the bars in Whitefish, basically. Yeah. And you used to be able to play blackjack in these bars. And they used to accept checks. I was writing checks all the time to keep playing blackjack. Oh, wow. I think back, was that even real? Like, how did, were these people just all so stupid? I mean, these checks, I don't know if they ever went through. I'm surprised I'm not in jail.
Like next time there's a knock on this door, it's probably going to be somebody from Montana coming to arrest me for bounce checks in 1981. And you're just going to be like, I'm a wholesome person. I have this bird feeder. I've really calmed down. I'm a wholesome. Yeah. I never want to be in love again. I don't drink anymore.
Love sober and alcohol sober. Got it. Love sober. I want a t-shirt that says love sober. We can arrange that. Maybe that's the Jan Arden podcast catchphrase. Is it? No, it's not. It's terrible. Okay. Moving on, complete change of topic. And this has been something I'm just going to throw to you. Okay. And that is the choice for vice president with Kamala Harris. Okay.
You know, I brought this story in honor of our Caitlin. I feel like, you know, she's got stakes in the race. She's super excited. Of course, we're following, but this was, I feel like, a very Caitlin story. Okay. There's two parts of this story. So, yes, she's announced, you know, her running mate. And do you have any thoughts on the running mate? Because I don't really. The one thing that sort of, like, stuck out is that
They're using the word weird a lot in their campaigns. It's like a low-key shade. Like instead of like attack. Yeah, you guys are really weird and I love it. I do too. I think it's kind of funny in that if someone said, yeah, like that's just weird behavior. It's hurtful. It's quite a negative connotation. But I feel like I'm a weirdo. I do too. Which is kind of optimistic. But if someone comes up to me in a drugstore and says, you're weird. You're a fucking weirdo. Yeah. I would be super hurt.
I agree. I like the shade. I'm going to call it low key shade.
that they're throwing that way. But the other really interesting thing, which I thought Caitlin would be super interested in is this whole Charlie XCX social media frenzy. Fill us all in. So Charlie XCX called Kamala Harris brat. And then I was like, what, what is the word brat have to do with this? And what does that even mean? So she's explained that this is the rejection of the clean girl aesthetic that we're seeing on Tik TOK. And she,
She says, who feels like herself, but maybe also has a breakdown, kind of likes to party through it, is very honest, very blunt, maybe a little volatile, does dumb things. It's brat. You're brat. That's brat. And while I don't know a lot about Kamala Harris and that exact definition,
The results are in the data. You know, there were 40,000 people when Biden stepped out. There were 40,000 people who signed up to vote in 24 hours. And 83% of them were young people, like these TikTok generation people, right? And Charlie XCX, the album cover for Brat, it's like this green album cover, Kamala Harris,
put up some graphics that reflect the album cover. So she was buying into what this generation was doing on social media. And altogether, there's a new humongous following for her. And it's kind of like brought this new energy to the race. It's kind of interesting just the way it's playing out. Yeah, well, they're talking about her command of social media and how the Democrats have
In a very short period of time, are we looking at a month now since Biden stepped back? I think it's been two weeks. Two weeks? I think so. Two weeks. Look at what has happened in two weeks.
As far as the energy, you know, people are very hyped up. They're very excited. July 21st is when he stepped out. Harris seems really confident. And I like the guy. I don't know anything really about any of these governors or stuff like that. But I've been reading up the last, you know, couple of days since it was announced. And, I mean, he does a lot of good things, but he seems really sensible. And I love the fact he's going, I cannot wait.
to have a debate with J.D. Vance. And the place just went crazy. And he's got association with like Bernie Sanders. So, you know, the circles that he's well known in and the sensibility that you're talking about there is going to be very attractive compared to the opposition. Well, he just seems like he's got that farm background of the everyday man. And, you know, obviously there's a lot that goes into choosing
a running mate for someone running for president. And they ran so many stats, Sarah. They ran so many possibilities. I mean, this thing is AI to the max of how the numbers come out, who did what, what their social media is like, who reacted. I mean, his whole legacy now is going to be picked apart, what he voted on, what he didn't vote on. The Republicans have been kind of like crickets. They don't know how to respond to this.
And J.D. Vance, every time he opens his mouth, it's just stupid. It's so dumb. Whoa. Landing an account this big will totally change my landscaping business. It's going to mean hiring more guys and more equipment and new trucks for the new guys to drive the new equipment in. I don't know if I'm ready.
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One final thought before we go, because we do have bonus content to record for the Patreon members. We have like 175, 176 Patreon members. If you would like to sign up for all kinds of first in line stuff, we're going to be doing our live event is going to be the first week of October. We're going to announce the exact date. We have a venue. It's going to be a small event. So there's not going to be a lot of tickets. There's going to be about 125 tickets. And we're going to be doing a live event.
And the Patreon members have the first dibs at those tickets. And we will let you know on Patreon when the event is going to be up and ready to go. So the Patreon members will have first stab at that. And then of course, we'll open it up.
If it doesn't sell out right away. Sign up for our newsletter. We'll tell you in the newsletter all the information about it, but Patreon members, when they click the link, will have first access. Yes. And we have a newsletter. I didn't know we had a newsletter. Yes, you did. No, I did know. Yeah.
And just, we're going to do some giveaways. I think we're going to do our first giveaway next week. It's going to be some kind of retro merch that I have here in the house. And I'm going to let Caitlin and Sarah know what that is. And so that's going to be available to Patreon. Anyway. A cool Cove giveaway that we're working on too. It's going to be a bunch of stuff, not just soda. So please wait on that. Anyway, before we go away, I just want to ask your opinion on...
This is not something I would ever do. So Tesla is now going to be using humanoid robots in self-drive cars. They're starting this next year and they're just going to have like humanoid robots that are being used internally, I guess, at the company. I'm not exactly sure how this works, but people are asking the question, do we need humanoid robots at all?
I don't ever want to get into a vehicle or be in a plane. And I know planes are already on autopilot. Any fool knows that. The pilot takes off and lands. And in between, folks, they are sitting there on their iPads or reading a book while I'm just speculating what they're doing. But they're not flying the plane. The plane is flying the plane. That scares me.
I wish I didn't know that. They're not sitting there steering for fucking 13 hours going to Fiji. They get it into the air and then they land it like 45 minutes before. So when you think about a car, anyway, the Optimus robot, the Talos Optimus robot is just one of several emerging humanoid robots that
They're going to be coming out like next year. Like it's one thing to see R2-D2 rolling, but a thing that walks into your living room. Oh my Jesus. Well, it'll be in the car. Maybe it's like a, just a seated robot. But here's my big question and correct me if I'm wrong.
If you've just put this out that you're going to incorporate these humanoid robots, did you just tell us that your self-driving is done and not working? Thanks for admitting. Well, I don't know. I mean, that's part of the use. It's tailored for planning navigation, this thing. So I guess that's what the robot would be doing sitting there is navigating, like looking out at the road and navigating. Maybe that's it. It can identify some commonly used objects.
It can carry out repetitious, like dirty, dull and dangerous tasks. That's what they're hoping to replace. I would imagine it would be picking fruits and I don't know, like any menial tasks that people do repetitively, like an auto factory line, like a assembly line.
Anyway, they're coming. Like they're literally going to be out here. We're five and a half months away from 2025. That is frightening. So if you have thoughts about, would you have a robot in your home? They've already offered things. There's things on Amazon that you can buy that will sit in your home. I forget what they're called, but they're like $600 and they sit there. It's not Alexa. I'm not talking to you, Alexa. Yeah.
But it's something that's even more than that. I'm even freaked out about my robo vacuum. It's interesting, even in podcasting, there are several AI tools, right? And I've embraced some of them. But others like, you know, when you see those videos online and people are really, really choppy, like the video edit just doesn't look good. That's AI.
Okay.
something like summarizing all the fucking topics that we cover in one episode, I'll take AI for that, for the summary that I can make our own for our show notes. You know what I mean? And do you do that? I'll basically cut and paste it and then I'll rewrite. Great. But you need the human. No, you do need the human. Meta AI came up in my WhatsApp yesterday. Uh-huh.
So you can just go search Meta AI. It's one of your contacts in your WhatsApp. And I asked it, it said, you can ask me anything. And they gave me examples of what I could ask it. Are you planning a trip? And so I went, what are things to do in Toronto? What did it say? It was so fantastic that I don't even know what to tell you. Then I started asking all kinds of shit. I asked about plays that were going. So it's like,
And then it said, how many people are there? I said, there's three people. With three people, you can easily split costs and enjoy the island's activities. So I was talking about going to Toronto Island. Yeah, yeah. So it gave me a whole list of 50 things to do in Toronto. Then I said, oh, I would like to go to Toronto Island. And it's like, let me help you plan your trip.
Three people you can easily split the bill and enjoy the island's activities together. Here's a suggested itinerary for a day trip to Toronto Island. 9 a.m. Arrival and ferry. Arrive at Jack Layton Ferry Terminal and purchase your tickets approximately $22.50 total for three people. Take ferry to Centre Island, Main Hub, 9.30 bike rental.
Bikes, $20 to $30 a person. Explore the Ilex scenic trails and beaches. 12 o'clock lunch. They gave me a whole bunch of, they're literally giving me a breakdown. It is so helpful. 1 p.m. beach time. So eat your lunch. Spend the afternoon relaxing at Hanlon's Point Beach or Center Island Beach. Take a dip in Lake Ontario or simply enjoy the sun. Don't dip in Lake Ontario. We've already told you. Okay. 3.30 p.m. amusement park.
Visit Centerville Amusement Park for some classic rides and games, approximately $10 to $20 a person for a few rides. 5.30, take the ferry back. Return your bikes and catch the ferry back to the mainland. And it gives me a budget breakdown, and it says my total could be between $142.50 and $222.50. I sat on my couch, and I was just like, I don't even know what to say. Like, do I love this or do I hate it? Like, I didn't know. I know. It's alarming, but it's also...
So useful. Then I asked about theater shows. What are shows running in Toronto right now? The list saved me so much time and how much the tickets were and if they were available. Did you decide what you're going to? Well, I think we want to go to Mean Girls. We looked at that, the Mirvish, right?
When I was at your place, I think we looked at it. The Royal Alexandra Theater. Yeah. Coming until August 25th. And you think you can ask us anything? Yeah. Go to Meta AI and ask them anything. Anyway, stay tuned. We've got lots of content coming up. I'm going to be grilling Sarah about how she takes criticism.
And why people are so, why we criticize each other, why it's such a phenomenal part of our modern society, whether it's canceling someone, criticizing how they hold their baby,
If they have the right dog fucking leash, why would you cut your hair like that? We're going to talk about that on the other side of this podcast today. Do you want to play some voice notes? You know what? I'd love to. I love ending the show with some voice notes. And thank you for reminding me. We have some great voice notes from people. We're going to play a couple and then we'll come back and we'll say goodbye. Okay, here we go. Hey there. My name is Jan Arden. And I just want to tell you guys how much I love your podcast, especially Jan. She is so funny and so cute.
And I just think she's one of the best podcast hosts. God, I so agree. I've ever heard in my life. Like, I watch or listen to a lot of podcasts. And Jan Arden is, like, one of the greatest hosts.
Like, she just is, like, light years ahead of Sarah and Caitlin. Like, she just seems so much prettier and, like, cuter and more shiny somehow. Like, she's shiny the way she handles herself, and she seems to know a lot about, like, everything. There's 20 seconds left of this. Like, I wouldn't say she's a know-it-all, but she just knows so many things. Cut her off. Like, so many useless things. Thanks for the voice note, Jan. Okay.
I was making sure it worked. It works. You see, I got to make sure. Okay. Do we have anybody else? Yes, we do. Hi, Jen, Caitlin and Sarah. It's Jen from Australia. I was so thrilled to hear Sarah mentioned the listener from Australia who has winter while you have summer that I signed up for Patreon. However, it's pronounced the real mind fuck for me, though.
It's Christmas with reindeer, sleigh, and artificial snow during a heat wave. Love your show. Listening for the next one.
Well, thank you for becoming a Patreon member. Sarah, that was all you. Like, do I owe you? Should I give you $25? No, I'm joking. That's amazing. Thanks for listening. And yes, we all dream of having hot Christmases, though. As much as we're like up here in the snow and Santa and reindeers and, you know, the frozen North Pole. I'll tell you what, Sarah and Caitlin and I would love to get on a damn plane and come down to Australia to spend Christmas. Maybe we'll do that sometime. Anyway, okay, we got a few more.
Hi ladies, that's Rhonda from Calgary. Sorry, my cat's purring away beside me here. But I just listened to your last episode of Ask Us Anything and you talked about reading an audio book. So I just wanted to recommend a book I just finished listening to on the Libby app called Emotional Labor.
The Invisible Work Shaping Our Lives and How to Claim Our Power by Rose Hackman. I don't know if you could get this author on as a guest, but I think most of us could relate to her message of how our emotional and empathetic work in our careers, our relationship and general society is largely unpaid, unrecognized, and yet makes others' lives very comfortable and makes companies a lot of money.
And also relatable how we have to perform this emotional labor often for our own safety in this world. I know I could certainly relate on a personal level. Me too. And as a healthcare worker in Alberta. And she also mentioned a hashtag that was trending at one point. It's hashtag paywomen. So I'm thankful to join your Patreon and give, I know it's just a token, but an appreciation of the emotional labor you ladies do.
to bring joy to our lives. There must be times you guys feel like utter garbage and you still come and bring it every week and make us so happy. So thank you so much. You're just so loved and valued. And Jen, I just wanted to send you a little thank you or a big thank you. I'm coming up on five years of my vegan anniversary because of you in August of 2019, I went and toured the Alice sanctuary that you had posted about and,
And I drove away that day a vegan and have never looked back. So you've changed my life. And I'm just so, so grateful. Love you so much. Okay. Bye. Love you. Thank you. Wow. That was an uplifting. Did that not make your day? Yeah.
I thank you so much. One more. Last one. Ready? Hello, Jan, Caitlin, Sarah, and previously Adam. I've been a long time fan of your podcast. Hi, Adam. And concerts. I've been to a few. I just tried to send one message. I'm not sure if it went through.
But I just really wanted to thank you, Jan, for the very special, awesome birthday cameo greeting I received from you almost five years ago now. It was a wonderful surprise for my family. And I just loved it and still think of it probably every time I have my birthday. Thank you so much. Well, the cameos are fantastic. Thank you very much for your voice note. You can find me on the Cameo app. I have the link on my Instagram page.
I think the link is in Facebook as well, but you just click on there and it's $99. And I will sing. I will, like I've mentioned this before, I've broken up for people on Cameo. I've asked people to marry, get married on Cameo. I've actually done the proposal. I've said like, amazing.
Well, it's cool. And it's usually lesbians that want me to propose for them. So I don't think I've done a straight couple, but that's okay. $99. You can join the League dating app or you can get a personalized message from Jan. I'm going with that cameo. Yeah. But I won't say how much I've raised. So imagine doing...
These videos, $99 at a time for the last four or five years, like our caller mentioned. And I've raised, with the help of all these amazing people, hundreds of thousands of dollars.
100% of it is donated to animals all over the world. And Alice Sanctuary is one of the people that have benefited from those cameo videos. So thank you. Yes. But it's all donated 100%. Anyways, we're going to stop there because I can't take any more positivity. Thank you for joining Patreon. Thank you for being vegan. Thank you for thinking about what you're going to eat. Sarah, as always, thank you for being awesome. Caitlin, we miss you. Hope you're having a wonderful time on the East Coast. I'm sure you are.
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