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Welcome back to Advice Session, where I give you advice about various dilemmas that you all have sent me on Instagram at Anything Goes. And you can choose to take or leave this advice. And today I gathered various dilemmas that you all are experiencing in regards to whether or not you should leave your partner. That was a reoccurring theme. And so that is the theme today.

And I empathize with this because it's one of the hardest decisions to make in life, whether or not you should leave someone. And this applies to any type of relationship in life.

There are times when there are family members that you need to distance yourself from. There are times when there are friends that you need to distance yourself from. There are times when you need to break up with your significant other. These are some of the hardest decisions to make because there's love involved. We love these people. We don't want to leave them, even if we know that they're holding us back or they have a negative impact on our daily lives. Someone can treat you like shit and it can still be really hard to leave them. So without further ado...

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The decision has been made. And now what needs to be done is you need to actually take the action, which is the hardest part. Getting out of it is honestly pretty easy on paper. Getting out of it consists of having a conversation. I can't do this anymore. This is tearing me apart emotionally.

and I'm done. I think that we're done. And then it's a matter of no longer speaking to this person and no longer being with them anymore. That's on paper pretty simple, right? No, it's not. Because getting to a point where you're ready to do that is so challenging and it takes so much mental work because it's

It sounds like you still care for this person. You still kind of want to be with them in a way. You know that you're done because you said, how do I get out of it? But there's something emotionally holding you back because...

Because again, as I said, on paper, it's easy to get out of it. You have a conversation, you say, I need to be out of this and then you're out of it. It's easy on paper. It's that emotional battle that's so challenging. How do you get out of that headspace? The headspace of feeling stuck. You're stuck getting to the place where you can have that conversation and actually end it.

My advice is to gather your thoughts to start. Now, for me, I tend to do that through conversation with people who are very close to me, my two best friends or my parents. I go to those people and I just talk through it.

I talk about what I'm going to say to the person. I talk about why I know it needs to end. I just say it out loud. And when I say it all out loud and I get it all off my chest, it just feels clearer to me. And I end up by the end of the conversation feeling more certain about what I'm going to do.

So that's one option. Another option, if you don't really want to bring anyone else into it, is you could literally write everything down. You could almost write down like a game plan. Okay, you write down all the reasons why you know that you need to be done. You could write down all the ways that you want your life to be different when you're out of this relationship. You could write down all of the things that you're going to focus your energy on instead of this relationship.

You could write down what you're going to say during the conversation when you end things. And you could even write down what you're going to miss about the person. But then you should also compliment that or not really compliment that, but oppose that with a list of things that you're not going to miss about the person, things that are deeply wrong with the person that make them really challenging to be with. There's something very helpful about feeling like your feelings and thoughts about the situation are tangible, right?

And that's an incredible first step to getting clearer on what your next step is. You can't let it fester in your mind.

You can actually, but it'll just take a bit longer, I think, to take action. There are some people who are good at doing the mental gymnastics in their head. They don't need to say it out loud or write it in a journal or do any of that to take action and just do it. Like there are some people who just do it and they don't find themselves feeling stuck or maybe they are stuck, but like that's their mode of fixing it. But I think the most impactful way is to make it feel somehow tangible and then take action.

I also think another really important piece of this is no contact, the no contact rule. When you're in a cycle with someone, it's one thing to have that really challenging conversation and be like, we're done, but it's a whole other challenge to stick to it.

And I think for certain couples, it's fine to have a little bit of contact, you know, to check in every once in a while. If both people have an insane amount of self-control, I guess, like almost a superhuman level of self-control.

two exes can do that and not get back together. You know, like they can remain separated and friendly and all's good. I think the no contact rule is absolutely crucial for breaking the cycle because you guys are in the routine of, you know, having sort of an inconclusive, it sounds like having sort of an inconclusive breakup conversation and then getting back together and then breaking up again. And like you're,

clearly still in contact a lot, which is why you keep falling back into it. If you cut contact for six months, you can break the cycle. The longer you go, the better. And I think that that needs to be a part of that challenging conversation that ends it for once and for all. When you end it for once and for all, you have to say that in the conversation. You have to say, listen, this is it forever. Like I cannot do this ever again. Like maybe 20 years down the line, talk to you then. But like,

maybe 10 years down the line, but like for the next long time, we need to break the cycle. This needs to be done. And I love you. I wish we could be together, but this is just too much for me. And I think that it's best if we do not speak for the indefinite future. And it's so hard. And there are going to be days when you're like,

oh my God, I would do anything to text them. Like I just miss them. I just want to talk to them. I just want them back one last time. Maybe this time it'll be different. Chances are it will not be different, especially if it's really recent. Like if it's been only like two months, which is when it's the hardest, by the way, things will not be different. They just won't. Refrain from breaking the no contact rule. And I promise you, you can break the cycle. Next, somebody said, I love my boyfriend so much, but I can't see us getting married, but I'm not ready to break up with him.

Am I doing the wrong thing by staying with him? In my opinion, no. Like, I think it's very normal and maybe even healthy to have doubts in a relationship. I almost feel like it's more dangerous if you're delusionally in love with somebody. Like, this person's my soulmate. This person is perfect. This person is flawless. There is absolutely nothing wrong with them. I must marry them or else I will not live to see another day. I will die if they are not my soulmate. Like, I cannot...

Like, I think that is honestly more of a reason to weirdly break up in a way than having slight doubts. Because I think that in life, our goal should always be to be living as rationally and as realistically as possible.

and to question everything and to be curious and to never fully settle. You know, I think that that is a positive mindset to have because there's kind of like a level of agility that comes with that. And you're able to take action in your life and make changes that impact your life in a positive way when you're asking questions, when you're curious, when you're questioning things.

And I understand the fear. Like, is it a bad sign that I'm questioning things? Like, does this mean that he's not the one for me? Maybe he's not. And you might be onto something. But right now, you don't know for sure yet. You're still, you still love this person and your gut's telling you that it's not time to break up yet. So I think it's nothing to be too concerned about. I think it's normal. I think it's healthy.

Because here's the thing. It's like when I was younger, I didn't take it seriously enough. I didn't take romantic relationships seriously enough.

And I think that me specifically as a person should, because I'm someone who wants to get married, wants to have a kid and getting married and having children. Those are huge commitments. Okay. Because that shit gets messy. And if you don't make the right choice, shit could get messy. You know what I'm saying? Like if you're somebody who never wants to get married, you never want to have kids and you don't really want to have a lifelong partner, you're more interested in just

dating around kind of forever, then it's less important for someone who has goals like that to be hyper aware of their relationship at a given moment because it's like they're never going to settle. Like the stakes are lower. But when you're someone who wants to get married, maybe wants to have a family, you're

The stakes are far higher and it's fucking serious. It's a serious choice. And I feel like societally in a weird way, we kind of have stripped away the weight and the severity of the decision. I don't know why. Maybe it's because dating is so casual now.

Or maybe it's just because it's so normal to see people getting married every day that it's like, well, this isn't a rare thing. Like everybody, so many people get married. So many people have families with their significant other. It's not that big of a deal. I don't know why the weight has been lifted from it, but it is a fucking serious decision. And questioning it is the rational response to be like, I don't know if this is my person. That's rational. Because honestly, I don't know

I don't know if you ever really know for sure. To be rational is to always have a little bit of doubt in the back of your head and say, you know what? This person might not be the one. However, they're pretty damn close and I'm really happy with them and I love them. Is there someone out there who's better? Maybe, but this feels right. And so I'm gonna do it, you know? But I don't know. I just don't think it's inherently a red flag to be questioning whether or not you're gonna get married. I think it's healthy.

I think when you're in a state where you're like, because I can think about, I'm thinking about myself. And in the past, like I've been in certain relationships where I've been like, I have to marry this person or else I will die. I will die. This person I must marry. That's happened to me twice. And there's also been times where I haven't had that.

And I think deep down it's because I was like, I can feel we'll be short. And it was, you know, and all those times it was like that was accurate. But with longer term relationships, I've been like, oh my God, I have to marry this person. And that was a state of like, I was in a delusional state there. And weirdly, I think I was in that state because I was so unsure about it in my gut. And something in my gut was like, fuck,

I don't think this is actually right, but I wanted it to be right so badly that I convinced myself that they were my soulmate when they weren't. Whereas when things are actually healthy, I've noticed, and things actually are balanced and things actually click, you find a sense of calm in like, you know what, actually, this might work, this might not work.

But it feels really good right now and I'm actually okay with just enjoying what it is right now. It's so bizarre when you feel safe and when you feel comfortable and when you feel properly loved in a relationship, you don't end up in a delusional state. You end up in a more rational state where you're questioning things and you're not overcompensating for their lack of compatibility with you whatsoever.

by being dramatic about them being your soulmate and stuff like that. And you don't end up in that sort of extreme state. I don't know. That's just my experience. But I actually think that it's really healthy to be questioning. So I wouldn't worry about it. This episode is brought to you by Bumble. Dating can be exhausting. Even just getting to the dating stage is a little bit overwhelming. You know, I'm not somebody who loves casually dating. I like to be in a relationship.

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However, I think the first step is to have a conversation. Is that obvious? Of course, that's obvious. But I think the conversation and the way it's handled is crucial because I think a lot of us avoid conversations like this because we fear that we're going to seem crazy. We fear that we're going to seem desperate or needy or pathetic. But what I found is if you address that head on when going into the conversation, you're

It just disarms yourself and them. If you go into the conversation like this, sort of like an animal with its tail between its legs, and you say, listen, I don't want to have this conversation just as much as you don't want to have this conversation. And I hope that I'm wrong. I hope that I'm wrong. I hope that I'm crazy. But here's where I'm at. I have a bad feeling about you. I feel like something's off. I feel like you might be cheating on me. I feel like you don't love me anymore, blah, blah, blah, blah, whatever it may be.

and I want to respect your privacy, which is why I've decided not to go through your phone. I've decided not to go through your Instagram. I've decided not to do any of those things because I respect you as a person and I respect your privacy. However, I have a very deep feeling that something is off.

And I need you to prove to me that something is not off because my gut feeling is not nothing. Okay. Something is off. Now it might not be what I think it is, but something's definitely off. So we need to work together to figure out what that is. And I beg of you that if something is going on and it is the thing that I think that it is,

that you will tell me because I have used all of the restraint in my body to not play dirty with you, okay? I have not gone on your phone. I've not done all this shit. I've not gone behind your back and started asking around. No, I've come to you because I respect you as my partner. And I would hope if you're the partner that I think that you are to me, I would hope that you would be fucking honest with me and tell me the truth because I've handled this

in the best way I possibly could. And all I ask of you is that you do the same. And you know what? If you cheated on me, if you did this, if you did that, that'll be a separate conversation. But I beg of you to tell me because it's driving me nuts. It's driving me nuts. And I'm uncomfortable. I feel uncomfortable living in this state. Like we need to figure it out.

I honestly think it's that type of conversation. And I think that that is all you can do because listen, you could go behind their back and you could try to figure it out. That's not going to make you feel good. That will make you feel like shit. You're going to feel guilty. And you're also, I personally don't believe that that's, I don't know. I have a hard time with that. Like I get it. It's like if someone is cheating on you or something and you find something, then it's like, you feel justified. You're like, well, thank God I looked because otherwise I wouldn't have ever known.

And that's fair, but it's like, what if you don't find anything? And what if they're not cheating on you? And what if it's like they've been suffering with something else? And then now you've gone through their phone and you feel bad. I just think it's better to lead with a conversation. And listen, if this suspicious feeling doesn't go away for like months and months and months,

It might just be a sign that you're not compatible with this person and you don't trust them because of their personality, who they are. Maybe it's their communication style. Maybe it's how affectionate or not affectionate they are. Maybe it's, there's something about the way that they love you that doesn't feel right for you.

And you should feel comfortable and safe and secure and not suspicious in a healthy relationship. I didn't realize that for so many years. I thought it was fully normal to constantly be on edge. But what I realize now in retrospect is that I was responding to not getting my needs met emotionally. I was responding to not being communicated with enough, not receiving enough affection, not being reassured enough. Fuck, not being reassured at all.

not being adored at all. You know, like I was responding to these things and I gaslit myself into being like, fuck, I'm being crazy for like kind of feeling suspicious or feeling uncomfortable pretty frequently. And it's like, no, I was just responding to not receiving what I needed from this person. Did these people ever cheat on me?

Probably not. But did I always feel suspicious with them? Yes, because they were not giving me what I needed emotionally. Whereas I've been in relationships where I have received what I needed emotionally. And guess what? Ease of mind. Wow. Chilled out. So chill. So relaxed. Never worry about them because I just, I trust them and I can tell that they love me. You see what I mean? Somebody said, my boyfriend is always repeating the same mistakes and apologizing, but I never see him change. What do I do?

Well, I think the first step is to, again, here Emma goes saying to communicate, have a conversation pointing out respectfully and softly this problem. Say, listen, I've asked you to change in these different ways. You haven't. Why is that? And am I asking something of you that you cannot do? Like, are these things that you can do or no? Are my expectations unrealistic? Be honest with me.

Now, depending on what he says, it can go in various different ways. If he says, you know what? I cannot change. Like, this is just who I am. And I've tried to change, but it doesn't stick because it's just not me. This is who I am. And I don't know what to tell you. At that point, you have to make a decision. Are you willing to accept your significant other for who they are exactly as they are? Because you can't change people all the time. You just can't.

So are you willing to accept that or are you not? And is it time to move on? On the other hand, your significant other might say, these are things that I want to change, but I need more time. Like the reason why I have not changed yet is because I need more time. Like, and I might need a little bit of help. Okay, well now you need to ask yourself, are you willing to wait? And are you willing to help? And again, the same as the last, you just need to ask yourself those questions and everyone's different.

The truth is in relationships, there are always going to be some sort of compromise and it looks different in every relationship. Like in some relationships, it might be that your significant other is really bad at communicating. Okay. Like they just, it does not come naturally to them. And that's the cards that you were dealt. Okay. Some relationships, it might be like this person's sense of humor is just kind of like, like they're so perfect in every other way.

but like, we just don't have the same sense of humor. Or there might be somebody where it's like, you know what? The sex, it sucks. The sex sucks. It's different in every relationship, but you have to figure out what you're willing to sacrifice. Like I know for myself, like I'm such a communicator. I need to be with another communicator. It's just who I am. Right. So that's a deal breaker for me. And there's other things for me too, that are, that are deal breakers, but like

Yeah, it's just you have to understand that. And I have to understand even too, like we all have to understand that it's kind of unfair for us to expect people to change things that are inherently them. Like there are other people that aren't going to mind that they're that way. For example, if somebody is not a communicator, they might date somebody who also isn't a communicator and they can just go ahead and not communicate together.

you know, there are going to be two people who don't really care about sex. Maybe they're not sexual people. Maybe they have low libido and they just, they have mediocre sex and neither of them are necessarily, they don't care because they have a beautiful friendship. And like, maybe they work on improving their sex lives together because they're both starting from the same point. They're both not really that into sex and they don't really, they're not that interested in it. So they don't know how to make it interesting for themselves. Do you see what I'm saying? Like

Those issues might actually end up being fine in another setting. So you have to figure out what you're willing to compromise with. And it's okay to leave because you're not compatible with someone. I think a lot of times we feel bad about leaving when there's not something really, really wrong, like when someone didn't cheat on us. And I tend to be somebody personally who always wants to fix things. I'm like, oh, okay.

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Next, somebody said, I'm in a relationship where I carry most of the weight. I work two jobs and I don't see my boyfriend have the same motivation for a future as I do. I love him so much, but I don't know what to do. Help. I don't know. This is kind of similar to the last one in the sense that you need to ask yourself if you're willing to accept him for who he is. Not everyone is super ambitious, super motivated. You know, some people don't care about making a lot of money.

and care more about maybe doing creative stuff, making art, surfing, everyone has their right to dream up the life that they want to have. And I know it may sound kind of harsh because it's like, it is a bit uncomfortable to be the one carrying all the weight and not seeing your significant other match you there. But at the same time, it's like,

That is ultimately your choice. When you're the one carrying most of the weight, you're not relying on them at all, maybe emotionally in some way, but you could break up with them and be completely fine tomorrow. So it's up to you every day to choose if you're okay with carrying most of the weight, because that might just be what it means to be with this person.

And if you love them deeply enough, that might be okay with you. You might be like, you know what? This is a little different than what I imagined. I imagined having an equally as motivated partner, but at the same time, this person provides so much value in other areas of my life and they still have motivation in their life. It's just not the same as mine.

And I think that we can work through this together. You know, I think that we can find a way to both reach our goals individually together. And I think that that's possible through accepting that this person just doesn't have as much of a grind set, you know, as you do. But you also might come to the conclusion that that's not going to work for you. And you need somebody who's on the same wavelength and wants the same level of success as you do. And that's also completely fine.

In that case, you need to leave them. And it's going to be hard because you still love them. But that's an absolutely valid reason to leave someone. Because for a lot of people, having a similar level of motivation and having a similar vision for the future is non-negotiable. And that's absolutely fair. Whereas other people I think are like, you know, we can find a happy medium. We can compromise.

because we just work so well together in other ways. And we have such a great friendship and we have so much fun together. And maybe we have the same hobbies, you know, it's like maybe when it comes to our future financial status or our, where we live or all these things, you know, maybe all these things are, we kind of differ, but at the same time, we have so much fun together that we could make it work with any amount of money living anywhere. Do you know what I'm saying?

Somebody said, I feel like I'm too young to be in a committed relationship, even though I'm in a happy and healthy one. Is it too early to settle down? In my opinion, I feel like it's best to take it day by day. And I'm horrible at this. So this is me giving hypocritical advice. Okay, here I go again, giving advice that I'm bad at following. Because in the past, and I mean, even today, it's like,

very hard for me not to jump to conclusions like, ooh, this person's really good or really happy or really healthy, even though I'm only 22. Maybe I'll get married to them. You know, like I have a history of doing this because I like having answers. I like to plan things. But you don't need to commit to anything. If you feel like you're too young to be in a committed relationship, you're not

not really that committed. Like, you don't have to get married. You know what I'm saying? Like, dating in a serious way is commitment and is serious and is ultimately leading to potentially more, such as having a family or doing whatever.

But it's not that serious. You know, you can still leave at any time. The second that it doesn't feel happy and it doesn't feel healthy anymore, you can leave after one conversation. And the truth is, it isn't easy to find a happy and healthy relationship. So if you find yourself in one, I always say to stay in it until it doesn't feel happy and healthy anymore. Happy and healthy is rare, unfortunately. And I think if you're somebody who ultimately wants to get married one day, ultimately wants to have a family one day with someone, you

You should hold on to every happy and healthy relationship that you come across if that's your ultimate goal, because they are rare. They're rare and they're to be cherished. And I think there can be moments of doubt, you know, like, hey, should I be like exploring different options?

In a weird way, you're always exploring different options, even when you're with somebody, because you're making friends, you're socializing more, and you can be in a relationship and still be studying the world around you. You know what I'm saying? So I feel like even though you're young, it doesn't mean like you're blinded to the world around you. Like if you start to feel like, ah, you know what? There are things out here that I...

I really want to experience and they're more appealing to me and will make me more happy and will make my life more fulfilling if I experience than the relationship that I'm in now. Cross that bridge when you get to it, but don't just end a relationship because you feel like maybe societally you're too young to be in a committed relationship and you should be experimenting and stuff like that. If something's happy and healthy and feels good, you just got to run with it. And you'll know when it's time to leave if that time ever comes.

don't just leave because you feel like you're supposed to, because society's like, you're not supposed to get married until this age, or you're not supposed to find the love of your life until this age. Like, or, you know, your grandparents are like, you're too young to be dating. It's like, grandma, I'm 20. I think I can be in a relationship now. You know, it's, I'm 20. I'm an adult. So yeah, I think ride it out anyway.

That's all I have for today's advice session. I hope that you enjoyed it. And if you did, feel free to DM on Instagram at anything goes and send in various dilemmas that you're going through right now. And maybe you might be included in a future advice session.

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having fun and living life to the fullest and feeling various emotions and sinking into them and enjoying the experience of what it is to be human. Love you all. Okay. People are going to be like, hear me say shit like that and not think that I'm, they'll be like, oh, so she's not kidding. She means that. And she's slowly trying to become a cult leader. No, I'm not. Oh, I can't be silly. Okay. I see how it is now. Okay. Love you all. Bye. This episode is brought to you by Hydro Flask.

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