Key Insights
Why is friendship considered complicated?
Friendship is constantly in flux due to evolving social circles, making new friends, and cutting off others. This dynamic nature creates a bottomless pit of conversation topics.
How should one approach making plans with friends?
Ideally, friendships should be intuitive, where making plans naturally happens without the need for a balance. In the beginning, matching the other person's level of effort can help establish a comfortable dynamic.
Can straight men and women be friends?
Yes, though it can be complicated due to potential sexual tension. However, the dynamic can be valuable and fun, even if it sometimes leads to romance.
What should you do if you feel better without your friends?
First, identify why you feel better without them. Then, decide if you value the friendship enough to address the issues or if you need to distance yourself for your own well-being.
How should you handle a friend who becomes distant after getting a boyfriend?
Be patient and understand that new relationships can be all-consuming. Build a life without them temporarily and wait for them to come out of the initial excitement phase.
What is the best way to deal with an ex-friend who is trying to sabotage you?
Confront them directly and inform your social circle about the situation. If necessary, cut off all contact and consider legal action if the sabotage is severe.
How should you approach telling friends about your depression if you fear they'll think you're seeking attention?
Assess whether you're putting your friends on a pedestal or if they genuinely judge you. If you decide to share, be prepared for any reaction, knowing that dismissive responses indicate they may not be true friends.
What should you do if your childhood best friend changes after college?
Accept the change and decide whether to let the friendship go, give it a chance, or push through discomfort to reconnect with the new version of your friend.
Chapters
- Ideal friendships are intuitive and don't require game-playing.
- In the beginning stages of friendship, there's often an element of game-playing to make a good impression.
- It's healthier to focus on what you can control rather than expecting others to ask you to hang out.
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