235. The psychology of 'right person, wrong time'

2024/9/30

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节目主持人认为，所谓的“对的人，错的时间”可能只是一种安慰自己的说法。如果两个人 truly 是对的，那么时间永远不会是问题，他们会设法克服各种障碍在一起。她认为，很多时候，我们把关系的失败归咎于时机，实际上是因为双方在更深层次上存在不匹配，或者一方在情感上没有准备好承诺。节目主持人还探讨了光环效应、可用性启发法和显著性偏差等认知偏差，这些偏差会让我们对一段关系中的问题视而不见，并执着于错误的希望。她建议，当一段关系结束时，应该专注于自身成长，而不是沉溺于“如果”的假设中。应该接受无法改变的事实，并积极寻找新的机会。

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The episode explores the concept of "right person, wrong time," discussing the various obstacles that can keep people apart, such as distance, life changes, and emotional unreadiness. It questions whether the idea of "right person, wrong time" is a valid explanation or simply a comforting myth.

'Right person, wrong time' might be a myth.
Obstacles like distance, life changes, and emotional unreadiness can hinder relationships.
It's important to move on rather than clinging to the hope of a future reconciliation.

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The right person at the wrong time might be one of the saddest kinds of love stories we come across. This person may be perfect for us, our dream partner, but factors like distance, life, obligations, emotional readiness get in the way and mean that we can't be together. Despite knowing we can't be together, we can't let go and pine after this person, wondering what we could have done differently. Or is right person, wrong time, actually just a myth? Is there ever such a thing as the 'wrong time' for our soulmate? In this episode we discuss:

The obstacles that keep people apart
The psychology of 'right person, wrong time'
The cognitive biases that keep us attached to someone
Why we feel more bonded with some people over others
Why 'right person, wrong time' may be a myth
How to get over this person you can't stop thinking about

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235. The psychology of 'right person, wrong time'