225. Overcome your fear of being perceived
2024/8/26
The Psychology of your 20s
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Jemma: 害怕被他人评判是一种常见的心理问题，它会占据大量的脑力资源，并阻碍我们成为真实的自我。这种恐惧的根源在于早期经历的社会排斥、欺凌、甚至完美主义，以及我们大脑处理社会和情感信息的方式。它不仅仅是社交焦虑，也可能是特定恐惧症，只在特定环境中出现。这种恐惧可能分为害怕被物理感知和害怕被情感感知两种，但最终我们害怕的是随之而来的评判和未知。我们害怕的是他人的负面评价会损害我们的自尊，并导致我们失去宝贵的人际关系和机会。这种恐惧会导致我们自我封闭、逃避社交，最终适得其反。为了克服这种恐惧，我们可以尝试三种心理转变：第一，玩心理游戏，将负面想法转变为正面想法；第二，运用“yes and”方法，接受负面想法，并添加积极的补充，避免焦虑蔓延；第三，运用“掌握转变”方法，逐步接触令你害怕的情况，逐渐减少焦虑。此外，我们还可以运用“理想自我转变”方法，关注自身需求，而非他人的期望，专注于成为真实的自己。
Deep Dive
Scopophobia, the fear of being perceived, is a common struggle in our 20s, fueled by insecurities and the pressure to fit in. It's more than just social anxiety; it's a specific phobia that can limit our potential and authenticity. This chapter explores the origins and effects of this fear, setting the stage for understanding how to overcome it.
- Scopophobia is the fear of being observed and scrutinized by others.
- It's a combination of social and specific phobia.
- This fear is prevalent in our 20s due to the added pressures and insecurities of young adulthood.
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