Joining the Mile High Club, Breaking the Law & Marital Advice
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- Are you a part of the Mile High Club? - Oh my gosh. - We're an honorable mention. - Are we? - That is the ultimate walk of shame. - Abby was like, "You need to go first." I peeked out of the door. I could see that the flight attendants were like waiting for us to walk out. Apparently it might be illegal. - I looked it up. It is illegal. - How would you describe your first time between the sheets? - I think that was shocking to me how quick it happens. I'm a guy who likes to take it slow and steady. You're a fast and furious woman.

Hey, before we get started, please leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or whichever platform you're listening on. It'd mean the world to us and to our YouTube listeners. Make sure you hit the subscribe button. Thanks, guys. What's up, dudes? And welcome back to the Unplanned Podcast. We both have diarrhea today. Oh my gosh, Abby. Why are you bringing that up? I just want to get that out there because my tummy really feels weird. And if I act off, it's just because...

We had some funky stuff for dinner last night. Sorry, guys. That's probably TMI. We're going to get TMI, though, in today's episode because we're doing the newlywed game show. Yes. We haven't done this since our honeymoon, right? No, we have to give some backstory to this. So, you guys.

We have talked about this probably many times, but if you don't know, we waited till marriage. And so the honeymoon was a very exciting time. And we went on a cruise in the Western Caribbean and on the second night of the cruise. So we board the ship, had dinner that night and went to bed basically because you get there in the early evening.

And then the next evening, we see on the little itinerary, and we are people that just love to do everything, try everything. We love to send it. Yeah, and we're not scared to be in front of a crowd. So we're like, let's play this game show in front of a crowd of people. This would be fun. Well, no, we're sitting at dinner, and it said they're doing the newlywed game show. We're like, we're newlyweds. Let's do it. And so they picked the old...

The couple that had been married the oldest in the crowd, there's like 500 people. They picked the couple that had been married the shortest amount of time, which surprisingly wasn't us because I think some people literally just got married and got on the cruise. We waited like a week. Yeah, we were married a week, I guess. And so then they're like, for the third couple, you have to do an audition. And so we like did this ridiculous audition where we pretend to be Tarzan and Jane. I don't know why they had us do that. Anyway, it was hilarious. Oh, I sang. I sang in front of the whole entire cruise ship. I sang You'll Be In My Heart.

which is now griffin's song wait that's actually really sweet i never even thought about that sweet okay so anyway we're in front of this crowd we got chosen because we really committed to that they liked my performance and so this is before we even did social media by the way we've always been just like goofy people and um we did all the dance parties and just like always matt did karaoke like every single day on the cruise ship which struck

stressed me out because karaoke is my biggest fear. We'll have to share a video from our cruise, our honeymoon cruise on the Unplanned Podcast Instagram. But we get in this game and you guys, we had no idea how raunchy these questions were going to be. They were pretty crazy and there were some, can we just say one of the questions? Go for it. It was like,

What was lovemaking like on the first night of the cruise? And then we were like, literally, what are they going to do? Like, what are they going to ask us? Like, how are we going to phrase this? And so they're like, relate it to a holiday, either 4th of July, like fireworks and excitement, Halloween freaky thing.

Thanksgiving like sleeping with a turkey yeah I'll never forget this it's burning my brain oh my gosh that that show it just took us by surprise well we we are just so embarrassed answering these questions and then a couple days later people on the cruise ship no like the very next morning okay the very next morning everyone starts recognizing us on the cruise ship like everyone's like oh my gosh are they got from the newlywed game show it's like how many people went to the

to this show? I mean, there's like thousands of people on this cruise. Like, how does everyone know that we were on the show? And we come to find out that they recorded the whole entire thing and we're playing the show in everyone's stateroom. Every single cabin on the cruise was watching that basically on repeat because there's no shows on those cabin TVs. And so we'd be out like off on the island on an excursion. They'd be like, hey,

And we're like, oh my gosh, nobody needs to know this. We literally just got married. We had literally like, we waited till marriage. We'd only been married for a week and everybody knew about our sex life. Everyone on this cruise ship knew about our sex life. It was so embarrassing. And to this day, you guys, we will see comments on TikTok and other social media platforms where people are like, oh my gosh, you guys are on a cruise ship.

I saw you guys on a cruise. So this is our second time playing the newlywed game show. We're doing it a little different. We're just going to go over these questions. But I felt like we needed something a little lighter because if you didn't see episode seven, it was pretty heavy. And we just need to get the...

the energy back up and we're not always going to be like that and this will be fun. We try to have a happy balance, right? Because we want to keep things positive. We don't want to be like so overly positive that you start to think like, oh, Matt and Abby are fake. And it's like, no, we want to show the real crap that we go through, but then also not be too negative. So we're trying to keep the balance here, right? Yeah. Just like real life. Yeah. That's real life for you. So this will be fun. You want to just get right into the questions? Let's go for it. We had someone else come up with these questions. So we are reading them for the first time with you, but I read the first

read the first one. Oh my gosh. What is it, Abby? Read it out loud. How would you describe your first time between the sheets? Fast and Furious.

Broken down or slow and steady wins the race. Fast and furious. What does broken down mean? I have no idea. Oh, like it didn't work? Oh, that must be it. Yeah. Like it didn't work. That happens. I've heard it from some people if it's new. I mean, I think that was shocking to me how quick it happens. Like you wait your whole entire life for this moment and then it's like five minutes is up. No, no, no. It was really, really sweet. We're still pretty fast and furious, honestly. Wait, we've never...

We've never told... You're a fast and furious woman. I'm a guy who likes to take it slow and steady, but... I'm tired. Oh, my gosh. I'm a baby. We've learned now that we've been married for nearly four years, we've learned that, like, you can't wait till nighttime because you're just too freaking tired, especially with a kid. Like, everyone's exhausted at night. So, yeah. All two of us. I don't know why I just said everyone. I actually want to tell... I want to say a funny story from our wedding night that we have never, ever shared. Oh, gosh. But we talk about it between us sometimes. So...

oh i know what you're about to say so matt i don't know if i should share this i know you're gonna say it's hilarious you can share okay the top comes off oh my god i'm very distracted a lot going on can you scoot over it i'm like i'm staring at her and i know what i'm seeing and i don't know how the words got fumbled up but i wanted to say move over a bit and somehow tit came out instead i mean bit i mean bit i mean this and then i started laughing but i think

kind of nervous but you didn't really think it was that funny at the time but like the next day we're like that was hilarious great memory honestly love that about our wedding night yeah um so yeah i guess i would agree with that one okay how many times did we do it on our wedding night wow uh was it just once on our wedding night did we do it twice on the wedding night we

We might have done it. Twice, I think. We did it twice. We did it once. Went to Taco Bell. We got to Taco Bell. Came back, saw all of my family pulling up at the hotel. Yeah, my family. Yeah, we literally like saw everybody. It was weird. Like, let's get out of here. We all stayed in the same hotel. Why did we do that? And we like casually had some conversations with family members. Like, hey, hi, how's it going? And then rushed back to our hotel room and then we did it again. We had plenty of time because we got back from our wedding at 9 p.m. Honestly, can we like run that back?

That was a great night. That was so sweet. We went to Taco Bell. The wedding day was like one of my favorite days ever. Oh my gosh. Yeah. It was the best. It was magical. So much fun. Yeah. Couldn't have been better. Who would you say or who would your spouse say is the better catch? What type of question is that? What is that? That's so... Like who got lucky? That's... It's me 1000%. No, no, no, no. Like you are the better catch. No, that's... Well, first of all, that's such a subjective question. I'm thinking about this way too logically, first of all. No, but like you're...

No, I definitely, no, I got lucky. No, you know that I got the butter catch. You're a very, very fun person to be around and you have an amazing personality and you're very smart. You're very hot, smart, kind, and fun. You got everything. So are you. Wow, we're just going to keep complimenting each other for the rest of the episode. Yeah.

Abby got dressed up for date night the other night and she looked so hot. We like almost got into an argument and I was like, I don't even care if you win. I'm like, you win. You are so beautiful. Like, I don't even care right now. And it was like funny how like the argument just stopped right there because I was like, you were smoking hot. What were we going to argue about? I was like, you were, yes, you were correct. I am wrong. I was like, I am wrong. You were right. Let's go on this date. You're beautiful. So I'm easier to fight with when I'm ugly.

Yes, honestly. No, no, no, no. But we're like, when you get done, no, no, no. But like when you like get dressed up for a date and I'm just like, I'm just like,

You know what I'm saying? Like that just, I don't know. I just love that. I love taking you out on dates. Matt, you're the better catch. And we made this new rule, you guys. On dates now, we don't talk about kids or work. And it's like so good because I think when you talk about kids and work on a date, it's just kind of, it's not freaking fun, you know? It's not. Well, no, it's just not the time or place. Not the time or place. I don't know why we ever did that. Like, why did we think it was okay to talk about kids or work on date nights? It's not okay. Yeah. And we did talk about baby names though last week's date night. Yeah. Yeah.

I think we actually came up with our boy name and our girl name. Dude, yeah, we did. We came up with two really good names. I'm very excited. I almost teared up when Abby said this name that I've like never even thought of for a girl. Every time I've said this name, he started to tear up. It's starting to make me think that we're having a girl. It's so precious. Anyway, okay. I've never seen you do that. Okay, your spouse takes your hand and pulls you to the dance floor. They say that the DJ is playing your song. What song is it?

I think the first one that popped in my brain is Forever Like That by Ben Rector. That was our first dance song and that was like our special song. That's our song. That's our song. That is our song. What's your song and what's my song?

What is my song? I don't know. Oh, I know any of your like DJ songs. I mean, I love a good EDM song, but I don't know if they like hit the same as like forever like that. Like they're just like those songs. I have like a new favorite EDM song like every month. Like there's a new song that hits really hard. Like today there's a song. I think it's called Heaven by Niall Horan that started playing and I was like, that is a good song. That's a freaking good song. But those come and go real fast.

Yeah, that's sweet. Forever Like That by Ben Rector would definitely be the one. Yeah, that might be mine too. Because I'll be honest, the other songs we could just dance by ourselves on the dance floor. Yeah, I also thought about the song I danced to with my mom at the wedding. I Feel Like a Woman by Shania Twain. I was a big Shania Twain fan as a kid. And so it just made sense to dance to Shania Twain with my mom when I was

getting married. But yeah, that's a funny one. Put a clip of you and your mom dancing to Shania Twain on the Unplanned Podcast Instagram. It's literally at the Unplanned Podcast on Instagram. That was, honestly, you guys brought the house down. Yeah. Do we have a video of that? I hope we do. We do. And then we also have a video that you should post on the Instagram of...

Us playing the newlywed game show. Oh my gosh. After we've been married for like three days. I have a hard drive with that whole entire video recorded. They wouldn't give us the video for some reason. So I had it record on our camera, the stateroom TV, and it's on a hard drive. Good thing it was airing 24 seven. So it's on a hard drive somewhere. I need to find that video. Okay. What is one thing that your spouse has that you'd love to get rid of? Oh no. The pregnancy pillow. Why did the first word that popped in my brain was attitude? Okay.

Excuse me? I don't know. Like, I don't, it was like, I'm not, I'm just like teasing you. I'm just like. That was so sassy. I'll say it. You're a savage sometimes. You're a straight savage. You are. But I love you. I have an expectation. And if it's not met, I'm going to voice it, honestly. You are a woman with class. I will say that. Class? Yeah. You are. Yeah. And you know, you really do know your worth. You really do. Yeah.

But sometimes it's a bit much. I'm like, okay, Abby, I'm bowing down to you right now. Okay. I don't know. That's not entirely fair. Okay. Sorry. That might have been too far. This was supposed to be a lighthearted newlywed challenge and now we're going to have to go fight off camera. Okay. Okay. I'm sorry. What is it? What do you want me to get rid of?

Is it like a trait? I have something. Your mangtops. Is it me? I don't wear tank tops anymore, dude. You have one that I just folded and put in the closet. I thought you were going to say like... Oh, another thing. Empty bottles in the shower. I'm not a very good listener. I thought you were going to say something about my listening. One thing. Why did I read that as something not like a physical item but more of like a... I got way too deep with that. I'm sorry.

Another thing I want you to get rid of is when there's an empty bottle in the shower, I want you to just throw it away instead of just like collecting empty shampoo bottles. Yeah, I let things build up. I have two like basically empty toothpaste tubes on my sink. Oh yeah, empty toothpaste tubes. We have our own sinks now. That's crazy. I feel like we leveled up in marriage by having our own sinks. We used to share one. It was kind of sweet when we brushed our teeth together. It was really sweet. We used to share the same toothbrush. It was so cute.

Okay, so the only thing Matt wants me to get rid of is my attitude. No, no, no. Next question. Your spouse asks you to grab them a treat from the store on your way home. What do you buy? Oh, for you? It's most likely going to be a coffee. I pick you up coffee more often than not. But if you want a special treat. More often than not? Like if you're like, get me something, it's usually going to be a coffee. Oh, I know you. A Slurpee from 7-Eleven. Dude, I love a good 7-Eleven Slurpee. Those are so good and they're only a dollar. And? Yeah.

i'd get you sun chips the original if you're gonna go for a candy bar you're gonna go for a take five bar those are always the move and if you're gonna get something at cold stone you're gonna want something with like redstone yeah if you want if you get like brownie with chocolate and raspberry we rarely go to cold stone that's true but then it's too pressy i'm trying to think of other things i think i nailed yours honestly yeah you got you got mine good

Yeah, I mean coffee. It's just coffee all the time. Like there's really not another. Yeah. Oh, dude. And crumble cookies. We used to eat crumble cookies like every week. Yeah, we haven't been on our crumble game. Yeah, for like weeks and weeks we got crumble every single week. There's a flavor this week you'd really like. It's butterscotch. Oh, yes. Okay, we got to try it this week. Okay. What one word would I use to describe our first time? Dang, lots of first time questions. Well, it's newlywed. Yeah, it's just really sweet. It was really sweet.

I thought it was great, honestly. Some people that wait sometimes have awkward experiences. Yeah, it was pretty great. I think it was great. What adjective best describes your spouse on your wedding day?

Sorry, I'm just like still my feels right now. We've made this video. It's actually on our YouTube channel. It was super vulnerable of us to share this. I'm shocked we actually did this back like three years ago. But we like reacted to that wedding night message to ourselves because we were like so in love and so hyped on life and just our marriage that we like made a video to our future selves. Wait, I do want to give that piece of advice to anyone that is like engaged. Oh, yeah.

Think about making a video when you get back to your hotel room after your wedding. When your emotions are just so high and you're so in love. And you like have just dedicated and committed your life to this person. Make a video. And that you can watch if you guys are agitated or hitting a low point in your marriage. Because it really like...

lifts you up and reminds you of your love for each other. Totally. And then when you hit those rough parts in marriage, which you will, everybody does, there's nobody that's above it. When you hit rough points where it's just like really hard to keep going on and you think about what would my life look like if I wasn't with this person? Like, would I be happier? And I mean, like literally everybody has those same thoughts. And when you first have those thoughts, you think like, oh my gosh, what's going on? This is crazy. Like I'm

Something's wrong. Something's wrong with me or maybe my marriage. Maybe I married the wrong person. Everyone has those thoughts, dude. And I'm sure there might be like 0.1% people that don't, but like everybody has those thoughts. And when you have those thoughts, that's when you can go back and watch that video. And it like reminds you of like why you want to work for your marriage. Yeah, it's really sweet. Yeah, that was a cool video. So I have an adjective that I would best describe you on our wedding day. And it was giddy. I feel like you were very giddy.

One last thing when you when you date your spouse when you go on dates Then you remember to like what it felt like to be like yelling in love again because like going on dates and not talking about work and not talking about kids you just like feel that like strong connection and it's just so much fun and you feel like you're with your best friend and

Yeah, so make that video. And if you have been married for, hey, even 20 years, make a video right now. Like if you're in a good spot of your marriage, make a video to remind yourself like, hey, this is worth fighting for even when times are hard. That was very sweet. Good advice. Thank you. Okay, sorry. Your question, I totally got distracted. I was like so focused on that question. No, that was all good stuff. We're spitting facts. Yeah, okay. So you just asked me what? What adjective would you use to describe me on our wedding day?

I said you were giddy. Oh my gosh. I have a word for myself. I can't really think. I cannot think of anything. I was going to say you were like a party, but that's not an adjective. Like you were...

you i'll keep thinking what were you gonna say i was i just remember feeling so at peace on our wedding day the whole day which wasn't true for the days leading up to the wedding yes i was like anxious i like had a breakdown i was like freaking out and then on our wedding day i just literally felt so calm and at peace like i just remember a lot of um the sweet women in my life were like so well-meaning like make sure you eat like i know you're not gonna want i like i was like i've eaten good today you ate good i had like five sandwiches joyful

Joyful. Yeah. You were not a bridezilla. In fact, you were the opposite of a bridezilla. And I'm so thankful for that. Like, I'm so thankful. Like, you're a pretty go with the flow type of person. You're pretty chill. And so...

Yeah, I would say you were joyful because it was just you're just so happy and you didn't really like worry too much about like every single thing falling into place. It was just, hey, we're here to celebrate a marriage. We're here with our friends. I honestly didn't know what was supposed to fall into place. Oh, true. Because I didn't plan my own wedding. So I just showed up and it was just...

It was the best. I was just so happy. Yeah, that was a good word. I did my own makeup and my mom's makeup and just hung out with my girls. Why has your makeup... I'm not trying to be offensive here. Why was your makeup... It's not been good when other people do it, but you are good at makeup. When Devin just did my makeup, it was so good. Wait, Ashley, you're right. So maybe you've just had... I don't want to offend people, but the people that have done your makeup in the past, other than Devin...

I think I have a very unique face. Yeah. And you know how to do your face well. I mean, you're good at makeup. You're really good. I'm familiar with my face. I can tell when other people do your makeup because it doesn't look as good. But Devin actually did a very good job on your makeup. I think what they do is they... You and Devin are great at makeup, actually. Yeah. You and Devin should collab on makeup. Oh, I would be so into that. What is the worst thing that happened on your wedding day? I really... I can't even answer that. Can't think of a single bad thing. Um...

Yeah, honestly, I can't even think of anything actually at all. What? I forgot my wedding dress. Oh, you did. But I mean, we just went and picked it up then. Yeah, there you go. It was easy fix. There you go.

That's awesome. It was a really great day. Yeah, I can't think of anything honestly. I can't think of like one bad thing. I don't want to make any memory. At all, yeah. I don't want to, or I'm saying I don't want to like try to force any. I mean, I'm sure there was things that happened that were not ideal, but like it doesn't have any space in my memory. Like I must have forgotten. It was the best day ever. Yeah. What song would best describe your spouse in the bedroom? Fast and Furious. What the hell? Crazy. Yeah, I don't want to. Yeah.

You're just like a really fast song, like a two-minute song, you know, that's just like from start to finish, just like really quick. It doesn't take much time. Wow, Matt. I don't think I have... I don't know if I can come up with a song title for you. Like we're talking about like a name of like an actual song. I guess. Yeah. Um...

Why did I just think of Pony from Magic Mike? We played Pony from Magic Mike on our honeymoon. On our honeymoon, dude. That was hilarious. I just thought it was hilarious. And yeah, it was fun. Never mind. I don't want to get too into it. But yeah, we just dance around, play the song. It was a good time. Great time. I'm sorry. I don't really have a good answer for that song. I don't know a lot of song titles. I also don't want to get...

Can you say one? You can't think of a single song for me? Pony doesn't describe... What about the song, like our song, you know? The song that we listen to when we... Yeah, we're going to expose that song. Are we going to say our song? You can say it. Why am I like... It's by Leon Bridges.

Yeah. Yeah, Mrs. by Leon Bridges. That's her song. I feel like that is... Is that my song? Well, that's not your song. Is that how you describe me? I think...

Well, the word Mrs. doesn't describe you. I feel like you're not understanding the question. Like, if I were to use a song title to describe you... No, I understand the question completely. I'm just like... I'm searching for you, dude, because I can't... Yeah, you're Fast and Furious for sure. But that's not a name of the song. That's the name of a movie. I'm such an idiot. Why did I say a name of a movie, not a song? I'm so confused also. Dude, we need to go to the next question. Is your spouse more like their mom or dad? Why? See, I don't want to piss you off. You are so much... I don't want to... Both my parents. Okay, sorry. You're more like your mom. What?

No, no, that's a good thing. Sometimes. Okay. Sometimes you get mad if I like relate something that you do to your parents. Well, I don't think anyone loves that. That's true. Cause usually it's like a negative thing when your spouse relates. So that's why it is. I would say you are exactly like both your parents, but probably more so like your dad as you've gotten older. I've noticed a lot of like your dad's traits in you. Like what? Like what? I think your humor for sure. My humor. Is that a good thing or a bad thing? It can be both. It can be both. Yeah.

Oh my gosh, it freaks me out when I'm like my parents, man. I love my parents so much. But like when people are like, you're just like your parents. I'm like, gosh, dang it. Like, it's like, seriously, you know? No, I think it's a good thing. I think it's because like when you're around people so much, you can see obviously, I mean, I love my parents. My parents are amazing. But when you're around people so much, you can see their flaws. And then like sometimes you fixate on the flaws and then people will be like, you're like that person. I'm like, what?

You know? No, I have amazing parents. I'm truly blessed to have the parents that I have. I do too. Your parents are amazing. Yeah, we're both very blessed to have parents and they're both still together. Neither one of our parents are divorced, which is insane. Both of my parents' parents got divorced. My mom's parents separated. My dad's parents separated. But then both of your grandparents never separated. Both sets and your parents never separated. That's crazy. That's very rare. That's a huge blessing. You never hear of that where...

Yeah. The whole entire family is still together. No one's ever divorced. Wild. Crazy. Congratulations, honestly, to you and your family. Well, I feel like it's a really big blessing because they've set such a great example for me. I mean, the divorce rate in America is like 50%, right? Is it even higher than that? It might be higher. Gosh, I don't know. It's really sad. And that's even in religious communities too when usually you'd think it'd be higher, but I want to say in religious communities, it's still like 50%. Crazy. Probably depends on the religion too.

Which, I mean, sometimes divorce is very necessary. Oh, yeah. There's definitely a time and a place for divorce. But anyway. What is our code word for... Our code word? Do we have one? We don't really have a code word at all. I think we just kind of say it. Yeah. Sometimes you use... What do I use? What do I say? You say weird things sometimes. I don't know. Like, honestly, right before we filmed this podcast. What did I say right before we filmed this podcast? Didn't you say Pound Town? I wanted to go to Pound Town and you said that. I want you to ask.

You literally just said it before I did. I know, but you said it before. So then I had the reason to bring it up. Here's the weirdest part about this podcast. I just want to get this out here. We talk like this with our friends and we're pretty open people, pretty vulnerable. The weirdest part about this podcast, though, is sometimes I forget that like literally anybody can watch this. And I don't care about complete strangers because there's people that watch this stuff and like we'll never we'll never see them. We'll never even know who they are. It doesn't bother me.

But then knowing that there's people in my personal life that could watch this. Well, you know, we kind of make jokes like that even with people in our personal life. That's true. But just like people that I would be, I don't know. It's weird. But this is just who we are as people. So I guess we just have to own it. Hopefully my grandma and grandpa have turned this off at this point. That's the fact. Like I feel like your grandparents watch our podcast, which is like, wow. We've made jokes like this in front of them too. We have though. Yeah, we're pretty open with your grandparents too. They're awesome people. Yeah, they're the best.

We should have them on the podcast. Oh my gosh, yes. Comment below if you'd like to see us have Abby's grandparents on the podcast or Abby's grandmas or my grandma, my parents especially. I know my parents would love- We get the grandmas together. Ooh, that could be great. The ultimate grandma collab. Yeah, honestly, just comment below who you want to see on the podcast in general. We love having guests on. It's really fun. Yeah, it is fun. So anyway. What would your spouse say are their best personality characteristics? Oh, so like what would you say yours? Okay, I think Matt for his-

would say that he's very creative and hardworking. Oh, you're saying that's what I say for myself? Yes. Oh, thank you. But yeah, I guess that I would... It's like flipped around. It's like a weird... Because it says, well... What would I say are... Yeah, what would your spouse say are their best personality characteristics? Best person... But personality though, that's not really... Oh, personality? That's like work ethic. That's more so like...

I'd say your personality, you're very friendly. Thank you. You would say that about yourself probably. I think I'm very friendly. I think you're very goofy. Goofy. I like that. I think you're hilarious. And I love how you're not afraid to be yourself in front of other people. Thank you. Which is odd because you were very quiet and shy in front of me initially when we first met. Because I liked you.

That's why. Because you liked me, you were quiet and shy. But you are the goofiest, silliest person. Also, the atmosphere we were in, it wasn't a place for me to be. I was like, focused. But you literally do not give a rip about what other people think about you. And I love that. That's very nice. Only time I don't like that, and I've said this before, is if we're having a disagreement.

And we're in public. And Abby will be ready to brawl, like, out in public. She'll just, like, she'll just be, you know, throwing words around. And I'm like, Abby, like, we are in a public setting. I don't know. Can we just talk? Can we talk this out in the car? Or in front of people? Sometimes I'm not the best about that. I'm trying to work on that. But...

Other than that, that's like my favorite thing about you. I know. If you love that about me, then you got to take it as it. That's true. I got to take it all. In all forms. But like for me, sometimes I get weird and I get insecure. And like even if we get recognized in public, like it doesn't – Abby never bats an eye. But for me, like I will get nervous if people like come up to us to say hi. I don't know why. It still happens. We've probably been recognized now over a thousand times. I don't know the number. But like it happens daily and I still get weird. I don't know why. I don't know why. I'm just like –

I just get nervous. This doesn't mean that if you see us in person, you shouldn't say hi. No, come up and say hi. We love saying hi to you guys. He loves it, but he just maybe has a little social anxiety. No, yeah. It's the social anxiety for sure. I think where I get weird with people seeing us in public is if they're like staring at us but won't say hi. Yeah, and don't say anything. That makes me uncomfortable. Or take pictures of us. I'm like, just come up and say hi and then let's talk. But like if people just stare at us, that makes me feel weird because I don't like being stared at. So...

My least favorite thing is when the phones come out and I'm like I'm being recorded but I yeah No, love taking pictures. Love meeting people love having conversations And but sometimes we're like on the go or busy and stuff like that. So yeah, anyway, okay off subject What's something that makes your spouse cry you guys? I've never seen that cry, you know, what makes me cry though. What makes me emotional? What makes me music? I love music. It's kind of weird. I haven't seen you cry though. You have no you have

I can't think of like a specific thing right now. Never actually cry. Like maybe one or two tears will fall from your eyes. I've cried. I've never like cried. We've had some hard times where I cried. Oh, yeah. Okay, maybe like once or twice, but like very little. But you could like definitely. Because in general, you just don't get teary. Yeah, we've been together for seven years. Seven years in June.

And it's probably like two, maybe three times you've seen me like cry. And you don't like when you get touched by something, it rarely brings tears to your eyes. But recently mentioning our potential name for a baby girl has brought tears to your eyes, which is so unique. Not tears though. It's just, it makes me more like. Each time you've said it though. My eyes get a little, my eyes get kind of glossy. Yeah. Yeah.

And that's what happens when I listen to like a really moving song and music. Yeah. Like music just... Oh, I just get chills listening to some...

It's just always random songs at the most random times will just hit me. And yesterday, or two days ago on our date, was that yesterday though? No, yeah, yesterday on our date. We went on a date yesterday. Country music. We were listening to a country music song called, what was the song? We listened to a lot. But there was one that's like, you can buy dirt. What is it? Yeah, buy dirt. Buy dirt. That one got me. And then there's another one before buy dirt that got me too. Yeah. Oh, yeah.

What's that one? Talking about how fast time goes. Oh, next thing you know. Yeah, next thing you know. That's like a TikTok trend. That one got me too. Honestly, that's what makes me cry. Well, actually, everything makes me cry. Recognizing the passing of time. Yeah, like when I think about Griffin growing up, it makes me cry.

And I'm such an idiot. Like I always get so excited about the future. And then I look back and I'm like, man, I miss the past. Like, why do I, why do I do that? Why do I like get so focused on future things rather than just enjoying the moment? I, that's something that I've wanted to work on for like a year now. And I, you do a good job of that though. Yeah. It's just hard. I get so excited about like future ideas and big dreams. And I forget like, not like Griffin's now eight months old, like eight

Eight months has passed and I will never be a father to my firstborn when they're three months old again or when they're six months old again. Like all that time has passed. It's gone. It's crazy. And you know what? Remember that little stretch he did when he got out of the swaddle? The scrunch. The newborn scrunch. The newborn scrunch. That's done.

Oh my gosh. I saw a video about that. It was like me when I realized that my baby no longer does the newborn scrunch. Yeah. And it's basically like they have their legs crunched up like they're still in the womb for a long time after they come out. Yeah.

He doesn't do that anymore. He's like a big baby. Basically, everything makes me cry. So I don't know if you have anything particular you want to share. Yeah, really, everything does make you cry. I just wear my emotions on my sleeve. Yeah, but with this pregnancy, you've been way less emotional, which is very shocking. Really? Yeah, last pregnancy, you were very emotional. I want to see you cried every single day with the last pregnancy. That's weird. I feel like because we're parents now, we haven't had the time to recognize that, um...

all this time is passing. Like it's gone very fast. You're already 18 weeks pregnant and it just, it just caught like caught us by surprise. That's true. What's your spouse's favorite time of day for making love? You're speaking for me. For you? Yeah. What's your spouse's? It used to be at night for you. Not anymore though. I would say probably midday for you. Afternoon. Yeah. Is great. What about for me? I feel like you would do morning if you could.

Maybe the same time. Whenever you can get it. Oh, let's be real. No, like literally I'm a very flexible person. Like whenever, whenever you're down, I'm down. Okay. Yeah. Yeah. Literally any, any day you could literally wake me up in the middle of the night and I would, I would, yes, I would be down.

How does your partner tell you that they're in the mood? I'm sorry. Okay. How do I tell you I'm in the mood? I literally just tell you. It's honestly gotten less and less romantic the longer we've been together. But I feel like we've heard like marriage...

about how like you need to schedule out sex and you need to just like say, hey, can we do it this time? Because then it doesn't happen, right? Yeah, honestly. I feel like it's good to be on the same page. You're all over the place. I'm trying to get the microphone. What am I doing? You keep like moving your mouth all over the place. I think it's good to be on the same page because...

Especially with a baby. Otherwise, it just won't happen. Yeah. So you might as well let it happen and have a schedule. Look, I understand that intimacy starts in the kitchen and it starts in the living room. It starts all... Like, it doesn't start in the bedroom, right? Can you explain what you mean by that so people don't think we're just out here in our kitchen? Yeah, we only do it in the kitchen. No, but like...

Basically, what it means is you need to be showing your spouse your love throughout the day and making sure that you're thinking about them. It could be a handwritten note. It could be like flowers. We need to be better about that. We got to be better about that. Or it doesn't have to be anything like that. It doesn't have to be anything physical. It could literally just be your time or your attention. Putting on something special. Yeah, exactly. I love it when you put on something special. Yeah. I freaking – I love that. So anyway –

That's what that means. It's not like, okay, you're going crazy. You spend no time together. You don't even talk to each other. And then you get in the bedroom and it's like, okay, let's do this. Like that's not good. That's never good. That's never good. Yeah. Can I say something though? Yeah. What sucks is that if we go on a date night and it's so romantic and it's so amazing and then we come home and it's nighttime, we're both tired. We're trying to get to bed so that we can wake up so that I can honestly wake up with Griffin and you can feed him and then go back to bed after you feed him in the morning. Yeah.

Well, we don't always do that. Most of the time I wake up with Griffin. Are you serious? The past couple of days I haven't, but. Wait, I like, I always wake up with Griffin. In the morning. Yeah. But like in Hawaii, for instance, every day I would like, I brought Griffin to you to feed and then I'd go take him. But anyway, no, but what I was saying though is you're just tired at night. And so you really need to, you can't, you can't make lovemaking happen before date night, which sucks because then you don't have all the romance built up. Right? Right.

Maybe just do it before. Exactly. But that sucks though because if you do it before, there's no like romance that builds up from the date. That's true. But then it makes your date extra romantic. That's true. That's a good point. Don't know where to go from there. What did your spouse get you for their first, for your first Christmas together? We were in high school so budgets were tight. You got me.

Oh, you got me some nice JBL headphones. Yeah. Those cute. Hot pink headphones. Those are so cute. I want those back. Do you still have them? I don't think so. You got rid of them? Maybe they broke. That's really sad. They did not break. You definitely just donated those. I definitely did not donate them. You 100% donated those headphones. Why would I have donated them? Because you like to get rid of stuff. You don't like clutter. It's true. I don't like clutter either. I'm just going to get rid of everything I have. Yeah, we have like. Maybe I got new headphones, so then I got rid of the old ones. Yeah. Um.

What did you... Oh, I know exactly what you got me. Actually, the headphones were for my birthday. For our very first Christmas together, you got me... Remember this? Electric purple leggings that were skin tight from Lululemon. Nope, nope, nope. That was in college. That was after a year and a half together. Really? Because I'm pretty sure I remember you... I remember opening them in front of my grandma and her being like...

Those leggings are painted on like some made some. Yeah, no, I got you those leggings a year and a half into. Okay, so I was right with my first one. The first one might have. No, I got you a bunch of stuff. I don't. I got you like 10 different gifts.

I don't know what all they were, but I think either the headphones were your birthday gift or your Christmas gift. It's hard because your birthday and Christmas are right next to each other. They were my birthday gift. But for me, I know that a very personal gift that you did was you made this deck of cards with 52 things that I love about you. And it was like this whole list of all these things that you loved about me. Do you still have that? I still have it. I still have it. That was actually took me a really long time.

It's really sweet. And you stopped making those for me. So thanks a lot. No, I'm kidding. Oh, we have to do another one. Yeah, that was really sweet. I miss when you used to do that. I'm going to put a picture of that on the podcast Instagram because that's actually a really sweet idea if it's like your first year together because it's just a great memory to have. Yeah. I think I also got you a watch that year.

You didn't give me the watch the first year. That was like year number two or three. They're all blending together. Yeah. What was your first significant fight and what was it about? Oh, I remember. I want to say that you tell me that the first... I think you've said that the first fight was about colleges that we were going to. Yeah. Because we were dating in high school and we had to make a decision on college. Like if we were going to go to college together or not. We were pursuing...

theater in college. We wanted to get acting degrees. And so we had auditioned at all these different schools and it was crazy. You guys like, think about, okay, think about this. Think about like auditioning for,

Some program and like making sure that your significant other also makes it in that program. That's what we were trying to do So we both auditioned kids audition. Yes, and they only take they only take like 20 kids So we auditioned at a crap ton of schools in the hopes that a few of these schools would accept both of us And luckily they did so that's how we figured it out But that was our first fight and it was scary because we were wanting to stick to stick around But we knew that if we went to different schools most likely we'd break up

Yeah, I think that is...

an understandable reason to get in a fight. - Yeah. - It was just a lot of high stakes. 'Cause it's either like we're gonna break up or we're gonna stay together. - Well, I think also you were down because-- - I didn't wanna do long distance in college. - You didn't wanna do long distance. And for me, you were not having a fun time at the audition process. We went to Chicago and auditioned at all these different colleges. They had this thing called Unifieds where you auditioned for like 100 schools at once and with like one audition.

Well, it's like multiple auditions, but in this hotel. Anyway, long story short, I was getting a lot of success at the auditions because I was a guy. There's not a lot of guys in theater that have a big dance background. I took dance my whole entire life. I had like nine years of experience in dance. So I got a lot of great feedback. But then for you, because you were auditioning for these musical theater schools. I'm a terrible singer. Well, you're just not like... I'm going to give them a little snippet. Oh my God. Abby's a... Oh, say...

Abby's not, Abby's a very strong dancer and actor and so she was so let down because they were wanting to see you sing in these musical theater auditions. Which is very understandable. So yeah, we got into an argument about that. About what? Well, because I was so excited and then you were so let down. I was having a terrible time. So like we were on completely different wavelengths and working through that. Let me just say, a boy walking into one of those auditions is not quite like a girl walking into those auditions. I'm a dime a dozen. You, a tall strapping man, walking into these auditions. Thank you.

You are a diamond in the rough. Thank you. We need to whip through these final questions because there's a lot of good ones still. Oh, gosh. One thing my spouse would never do is. What would you say? I have one for myself. I was going to say cheat. Oh, yeah. I would never cheat. Yeah. What were you going to say for me? No, I was going to have one. I had one for myself. Oh. I was just thinking of singing karaoke. You weren't going to say cheat too? You weren't going to say that too? No.

For you? Yeah. What were you going to say for me? Between the two of us, I feel like you're more likely to cheat. Okay. Okay. Wow. Wow. All right. So you're saying I'm not loyal right now? No, you're loyal. Oh, you're very loyal. One thing you would never do. I thought of a boring one, but I feel like, why did I just think of this one? I was like, join a timeshare. You're never going to catch me joining a timeshare. I hate timeshares. I think they're a waste of time. They're a waste of money. We once sat through- You're such an old-

We went sat through a four hour long timeshare meeting just to get cheap luau tickets. And we still had to spend $150 to go to this luau. But oh my gosh, is that a waste of time? And they were mean too. Like they had good cop, bad cop going on. They had this girl who was so nice and brought us free drinks and gave us

free snacks and she was like so excited to talk to us and ask us about our travel plans and then they brought in this really mean guy who was like okay here's the deal you guys are gonna do that and like this guy was like so mean we're like okay like what's going on like we're literally just here just to get our free cheap tickets or our cheap tickets and leave and then once we finally got out of that situation they brought in a freaking third dude who then was like so why did you not sign the paperwork

And like, we're like, dude, we're just here to get our luau tickets. So anyway, I hate timeshares. I will never do one ever again in my life. My time is more valuable than that. It was just, it was a crap show. I hate timeshares. I'm glad you got that off your chest, Matt. Thank you. Was it worth the luau tickets though? Honestly, the luau was pretty fun. It was really fun. It was a pretty fun luau. Okay. We're going to both answer this at the same time. Okay. Who is a bigger baby when they're sick? One, two, three. You. You.

See, I... You're sick. I'm constantly sick every day, pretty much. So here's what happens when we're sick, okay? If I'm sick, I take rest. I recognize that I'm not feeling good. You literally sleep all day. And no, I just, I make sure that I'm getting sleep and so that I'm taking care of myself. What Abby does is she doesn't get rest. Pretends I'm not sick. She pretends that she's not sick. And it works. It tricks your brain and then you feel better. No, it doesn't trick your brain. It just makes you really pissed off and then you complain to me all day about it. No, that's just because

Because my love language is being taken care of. No, but like. So sometimes I do milk it a little bit. You milk it so much. But you're the bigger baby. Abby, I'm not a baby. I just get rest. Like, I just recognize that I need to take it easy. Okay, we need to move on. This question. Go for it. What is it? Are you a part of the Mile High Club? Are we? Oh my gosh. We're an honorable mention. Are we? Are we going to talk about this? Are we actually going to reveal this on the podcast? Briefly mention it.

Oh my gosh. Okay. Let's just say we tried. We tried. We wanted to join the Mile High Club so bad. I wanted to join the Mile High Club so bad. Matt, tell it fast because it's painful. It hurts. It's very painful. My hands are sweating. My heart is racing. Essentially, I did some research online. I figured out how we can make this happen. And so the game plan was Abby goes in the bathroom first. I wait a couple minutes and then go in the bathroom. So now nobody realizes there's two people in the bathroom. We do the deed and then leave. Nobody knows.

and that was the plan but things did not go according to plan it was a fail it was a massive fail so the flight attendant was outside the door literally like flight attendants you need to come

Okay, we're getting ahead of ourselves. So first of all, we should have done it on a night flight when people were asleep, when flight attendants were sleeping. We should have made sure that there was like coast was clear. Nobody was there. Nobody going to the bathroom. That was our first big mistake. Second big mistake. I followed Abby in immediately. That was so stupid. So Abby goes in the bathroom and then I walked in literally like 10... It's not like we were on a private jet. We were on a commercial... We're in economy. We're in economy. We're sitting in economy. I think this was like a flight back home from Hawaii back like two years ago. Anyway...

And so I follow Abby and almost immediately, right away, there's, like, knocking on the door. I swore we were never going to talk about this. And I'm like, crap, I hope that is not the flight attendants. And it was, like, so embarrassing. But, like, Abby was trying to take her clothes off. No, okay, we're done. We're almost done. This is the most hilarious story. I'm actually glad we're talking about this. And so we're, like, we're both practically naked at this point. Oh, gosh. And...

I'm like, okay, here we go. We're going to make it happen. But Abby got so nervous. Abby got so nervous about the fact that people would know that we joined the mile hike or like the flight attendant was right outside the door, less than a foot away being like, you guys need to get out out of there. We didn't know though. I heard.

You heard her knocking. You heard her knocking. That's why I was freaking out. But then I thought it might have just been some person that was trying to get in there. You know what I'm saying? It was clearly the flight attendant. It was hard to know what was going on. While we were in there, it was very confusing. It was clear that somebody was wanting to use the restroom. But I'm like, man, we've already come this far. No matter what, we both have to walk out of this bathroom at this point. I was like, we might as well just do it and say we did it. They weren't trying to use the restroom. They were trying to get us out of there. I know, but I wasn't aware of that. Oh.

I knew. I thought it could just be some random person trying to get in the bathroom. Okay. And I was like, look, we're going to go through embarrassment either way. So we might as well just make the most of it. So I'm still down to go for it. But Abby was way too nervous. She was very stressed out. She was panicking. The lady was out there drawing more attention. You're also claustrophobic. That was also a big mistake. Bad plan. Abby's very claustrophobic. So...

I don't even know why we thought this could work. So anyway, essentially, essentially all we did was go into the bathroom on the plane, get naked in the bathroom, look at each other and then leave. And so when we left, I went first. That is the ultimate walk of shame. Abby, Abby was like, you need to go first. I peeked out of the door. I could see that the flight attendants were like literally just a few feet away, like waiting for us to walk out. And I walk out

And the flight attendant is like, excuse me, sir. I want you to know this is like a crime. You cannot do this on the plane. It is illegal, Matt. She was so mad. Come to find out it actually is illegal. Apparently it might be illegal. I don't even know. We did break the law. I don't even know if that's technically a law that we broke. I don't know. I looked it up. It is illegal. It's technically a law? No, it is a law. Wow. Okay. Anyway, I knew that there was some shady business with Mile High Club stuff. So I actually had this... I had a speech... I had something prepared in case of anything. So I told...

I made up a white lie. I told the ladies, I was like, I'm so sorry. I was helping my wife with a medical need she had. It won't happen again. And so they, once I brought up like a medical thing, they just like, they couldn't really say anything and I just walked away. Not true. Because then when I walked out, they said to me, ma'am, you just like,

like broke the wall, like said something like that loudly for everybody. And they did this loudly. This was at the back of the plane. So luckily since planes are loud. They just really wanted to use us as an example. Yeah, only a couple people probably heard it, but it was definitely humiliating. No, a lot of people heard it. So humiliating. I just wanted to, that's the one time in my life I've like wanted to just disappear.

Like, I wanted to dissolve into my seat. I want to say we were wearing masks on the plane. That at least made it less embarrassing. Like, people couldn't figure out who we were as much. Well, that was the longest explanation of the most painful memory of my life. I can't believe we just talked about us going, like, literally. Honestly, we need to cut the podcast here.

Wait, what? We're done. We're done? I thought we had like 10 more questions. We've shared plenty today. I've been wanting... We might have to do a part two. Maybe we should do part two with your parents. Oh my gosh. They would be a riot. Oh my gosh. That would be hilarious. Yes. But before we go, I wanted to read a review from one of our kind...

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