Addressing Assumptions About Us
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You've done it in a public space. Wow. I think it's a crime. In your car? Even with the... I don't think you're allowed to do that. You came close to having intimacy before marriage. Ooh.

This one says Matt is bisexual because he likes dancing. Is it true, Matt? You tell me, Abby. Matt is really interested in kissing other women. Honestly, this is something I've been thinking too. I'm going to say no. Abby's had a boob job. I personally love the size. Oh my gosh.

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What do you want me to do? I don't know. I don't know, man. We're doing assumptions today. You guys sent in assumptions that you had for us on Instagram. So I'm pretty excited about this. We haven't done one of these in like eight months. So there could be some juicy ones in there. I think this is going to be a lot of fun. We're going to be surprised we had someone else go through them. We had you guys submit them on the Unplanned Podcast Instagram. So thank you so much to those of us, those of you that follow us there and submitted ones.

Yeah. Also, thank you to everyone leaving us reviews for our podcast. We're actually going to read a review right now that we got on Apple Podcasts from one of you lovely people. This is from Tatum SS. She gave us five stars and said, amazing. They are so relatable and so much fun to listen to. I just love listening to you guys and you make me so happy. Normally, I get

very bored listening to podcasts and turn them off halfway through but i love listening to yours you guys are so refreshing and i love how genuine you are you guys make me very optimistic about the future love you so much keep doing what you love that's so sweet that's so nice did taylor leave her instagram at which is tatum tatum we don't have an instagram we don't okay we're very thankful to her if you leave us a review we'll be shouting you guys out your instagram in the podcast so yeah you guys should do that thank you tatum that was so so nice do you got the uh you got the assumptions pulled up

I do. Did you just read the first one? I've peeked at a couple. Oh my gosh.

Should I start off with the funny ones? Let's start off with the vague. They're honestly all pretty good. Okay. Okay. So we'll see how well you guys really know us. Yeah. So this one says Matt is bisexual because he likes dancing. No, it's funny. I read that one actually. I actually, I peeked at him. I peeked at him on accident. That, I think that's freaking hilarious. It's true. I don't know how they figured me out. Is it true, Matt? Yeah.

You tell me, Abby. I don't think you are. You don't think I am? You don't think I am? What the heck does that mean? Hey, I just know that you're married to me, so I know that you're attracted to women. That's true. Hey, no, I, uh, no, it's funny. I used to get really, uh,

I think hurt by comments like that, especially because I was like a kid that did theater and I was straight, but I also liked to skateboard. And like, I just, you couldn't really fit me in the box. And I think because of that, people would, you know, say, oh, that guy's gay because he likes to do ballet. And it's like, okay, first of all, nothing's wrong with being gay, but I'm a straight guy. It's for you to assume like something about me just because I like to dance and dance.

Be in musicals. Like, that's silly. I feel like nobody wants their sexuality to be assumed about them, you know? I think for most people, people just, like, think they can put you in a box because of some characteristic of you. It's just so frustrating. But now I laugh about it more. Yeah. You know who you are. I know who I am, so, yeah. And that is a straight male who likes to dance. I like to dance. I really do like to dance. And so it's like, we're literally in 2023, and we are still at the point where if you dance as a guy, you're gay. That's pretty...

archaic, but... I really do like to dance. I actually, part of me wants to be a DJ because we went to Vegas with some friends and I just had such a good time at the club. And I'm like, it would be a freaking blast to just DJ and dance. And I just love that vibe. I just love just party music. I literally, when I was in high school, I would literally do homework to club music. That would just...

You really thrive in that type of atmosphere. I don't know if it's my ADHD. Yeah, I think it's because your brain moves so fast. It's good because then the music matches the...

I don't know anything about science. I think that's what it is because like I'll be listening to like house music and you'll say like, Matt, can you please turn that off? It's like it's a lot. No, it's like when you're focusing, you want to listen to some fast paced music like EDM. And I'm like, if I'm focusing, if I'm going to listen to anything, it's going to be hard first of all for me to listen to something. But then I also need it to be like really slow and calming. Or if I'm snowboarding, like there's nothing better than listening to a really upbeat EDM song. That's fun. And I'm just bombing the mountain and like hitting jumps and oh, it's just like.

I feel like you just always operate at a high level of stimulation. Yeah. You know what I mean? I love to party too. We kind of skipped the partying stage in college when we got married young and we, you know, we're just trying to be- Well, we were working a lot. We were working a lot, yeah, to pay- We couldn't afford to party. Yeah, we couldn't. We didn't buy alcohol at all because alcohol is expensive and we thought, hey, we could just save that money and save up so that we can move somewhere after college and ended up moving to Hawaii. That's what I realized. I was like, partying is actually extremely expensive. It is expensive. But now, I kind of want to- We watched both of them.

Can we start partying now? Can we start doing that? That'd be kind of fun. I'm in. Okay. Okay. You want to go partying with me? I don't think it's going to be that fun when we're pregnant. Maybe right now would not be a good idea, but...

I don't know. Maybe with a newborn and a 13-month-old, that would be like the perfect time to enter the club scene. I want to find our group of like parents that also like to party. You know what I'm saying? Like I love to dance. Oh, they definitely exist. It's like just like once you put the kids to bed. Yeah. Then you go out and hit the town. You ready for the next one? What is it? This is hilarious. I assume Matt laughs when someone cries or when something is really serious.

How did they hit the nail on the head? Spot on. And it drives me crazy. I'm so sorry. Why do you laugh?

laugh when I cry. I'm so sorry. But you also laugh when I'm angry too. I think it's like, okay. And I feel bad. I apologize for this. But sometimes because especially with sometimes the hormones being really high, you can go, it's like Griffin, like Griffin will be like so happy and then he'll start crying in like two seconds. And you're just like, holy crap. Like how did that kid go from like so happy to so sad in the matter of a second? You do the same thing sometimes. And I think it's like the hormones. And so I just- Which also can

we say, you're not allowed to say that I'm affected by hormones. Yeah, I really gotta be careful there. That is a tricky...

be actually being hormonal and then you say it's your hormones oh yeah want to see me go crazy that's no you're right how you do it right and so i just need to keep my mouth shut but i think i think in those moments though like there are times where you have such a like drastic mood shift that i'm like i i like i have to i literally like bite my tongue to try to enter like you don't hide it at all some i don't know you look at me you'll be like

And you're like, your eyes are telling it all. And it makes you so much more angrier if I start to laugh. And I can't help it. I'm sorry. Why do you feel like you think it's funny? I don't know. I guess what's funny. Or do you feel awkward? Like, you know how it's funny to us when Griffin's mood changes in a second? I think that's what it is. He's a baby. Yeah. I'm an adult. I know, but you're an adult. And as an adult, when your mood changes that quickly, it's kind of hilarious.

That actually gets under my skin. I need to keep it to myself. I need to keep it to myself. You do need to rein that in. Also, I feel like you do laugh when something is really serious too.

Like what do you mean? That was what they said and I feel like I'm trying to think of a time. Okay, if ever we're in like a very, one time this happened in high school. I was in like this serious meeting and like this, the principal was talking and I was like with this group of leaders, like the freshman leaders and I just started busting out laughing because it was just like, I had that thought in my head like what if I started laughing right now? Oh, I hate that. And then it just like, it just built and built and built and I just couldn't help it. I almost had to excuse myself from the room because I couldn't stop laughing. It's happened to me actually like,

During the first time. Remember at that restaurant that one time when we both started busting out laughing? It was so awkward. I don't want to say the restaurant out loud. We were at a, we were at, it was called, it was at the farm. Remember that restaurant, the fancy one that like, it was really, really expensive. Oh yeah. Yeah. And I just busted out laughing.

And the waiter was just like, the waiter was just like, do your thing. And I'm just, I just could not stop. We were both cracking up because they were like describing this gourmet meal in so much detail. We just were like, we're so out of our element. We're like, uh,

That was too gourmet for me. I love a gourmet meal, but that was way too gourmet. We were having freaking liver. I don't want to ever eat liver ever again in my life. I was like, can you please just bring a cheeseburger out here and then we'll just call it a night? Dude, not even a cheeseburger. I just want like, I don't know, maybe some Mediterranean food or something, like something with some flavor. I mean, they were giving us some weird crap, dude. They brought out a bone. They literally had a bone. They're like, eat the marrow out of it. I'm like, what? It's a

- It's a fine dining thing. - I don't want to eat bone marrow for dinner. That's disgusting. - You don't like it? - No. - A lot of these are related to Matt, but I guess that's gonna work out. - Is this just like a roast Matt? Hashtag roast Matt? Is that what this new video title is? - No, this isn't roasting you. This one, well, I guess it's about me. - Oh, okay. - Okay, that your mom and Matt's relationship low key stresses you out.

I feel like it does. It does low-key, trust me. I feel like it does. I think, yeah, we probably started off on the wrong foot when I told Abby's mom that I wanted to marry her daughter. Wait, you have to give the background. Okay, I was at Abby's dance recital. No, no, no. Abby had danced. No, no, no. Even before that. She was like...

You need to date Matt Howard. Like she was pushing it so far, so much. Abby's mom was the biggest fan of me. She was my biggest fan. She wanted Abby to date me so bad. She even told me, she was like, we can go pick up Matt in St. Louis, which is two hours away from where I live.

and bring him back for your homecoming when you didn't even know me didn't your mom compare me to other guys like if you wanted to date a guy she'd be like well he's not a matt like he's not matt howard so i'm probably in it like that's how badly your mom wanted you to date me yes and i literally had no idea about this because we were we didn't live you probably didn't really know who i was i didn't know who you were okay like i barely knew who you were but that's okay and so she adored you so much and then we started dating still adored you adored you adored you but then

It was all fun and games until you can take it away from here. Until I decided I wanted to marry her daughter. And I think for Lori, what? Can we just say it? It was the worst timing. You and your mom are very close. We're extremely close. And I think your mom considers you like...

Pretty much her best friend. I consider her one of my, like, my best friend. And so I think by me marrying you, in your mom's eyes, it was like, this freaking dude is trying to take away my best friend. Yeah, and we were extremely young, too. Yeah. Like, she thought she would have more time where I was, like, not...

Yeah, that's very young. But what was weird, though, is you knew that your parents got married like right out of college. Like your parents were like 22. Yeah, 22 and 21 when they got married. Like they had both. It's right after your mom graduated. 22 and 23. But yeah, 22 and 23. So we thought for sure they'd be like all for us getting married young. But I think we were we were shocked when your mom was not.

At that time, I was not happy about the whole marriage thing. But it was at your dance recital. I told your mom at your dance recital. Senior year, you'd dance ever since you were three years old. Your mom was an emotional wreck. Such a bad time. I didn't know that, though. I just like blindly went in. I was like, maybe I should tell Javi's mom that I want to marry her daughter. And you're never good with the timing of things. Sorry. Yeah.

It's okay. You have a lot of good qualities. I just thought I owed her that. I thought I owed her an explanation of like what was to come and I wanted her to know that I was serious about you. But at my final dance recital, I've been doing dance recitals since I was three years old. She has gone to these every year and watched me grow up and now this was the last one and she's about to send me away. I think part of the reason was I bought you a promise ring and I wanted her to know about the promise ring before I gave it to you. Oh, okay. Yeah.

Maybe you should have told her when you bought it before you like went to the dance recital. Maybe I did. I can't remember. But that's respectful that you bought the, first of all, got a promise ring, but then also wanted her to know before you gave it to me. I think you're pretty awesome. Thank you. I think you're really special. Love you. You are beautiful. Thank you.

So no, it doesn't – I mean obviously it doesn't high key stress me out because they're moving in. Like my parents are moving into our house come June to help us with the babies and they're moving to Arizona. They're just going to get their footing here and live with us for a period of time before they have their own house. So I wouldn't let that happen if it was like actually extremely stressful. I think a lot of it is playful.

But some of it I feel like is actually passive. Aggressive. I think for a while your mom is very sarcastic. I did not understand sarcasm at all. Yeah. And so...

It took me some time to figure out. But now you can play the same game. But I love sarcasm, man. I love being sarcastic these days. Like used to, if I was like making a joke over text, I'd put like a bazillion emojis to try to emphasize the fact that I was joking. And now I'm just like, I'm not going to say anything. And I just like send the message and it could be super sarcastic. And it's kind of fun to watch and see if someone figures it out. We grew up in completely different households when it comes to humor. Like my family's humor is like dry and sarcastic. And your family's humor is very like...

What was the, what would be the word for it? We're not goofy outward, but lighthearted. Yeah, not, not dry. And I love making fun of anybody. My family makes fun of each other, but I love dry humor. And I actually used a lot of dry humor in the editing of our YouTube videos. Like I try to emphasize that and have all these funny moments where I emphasize just the hilarious things happening in our lives. So that I feel like it stresses me out less now that you like have picked up.

on it like and you can fire back yeah but before i was like she's being sarcastic and matt doesn't even know that that stressed me out but now i feel like you can hold your own and it'll be good yeah it'll be good um this one just says baby number three question mark question mark i guess their assumption is that we're going to have baby number three we'll be we'll have more kids uh yay more babies yeah we're gonna revisit that conversation a

Well down the line. You look so cute right now in this stage of pregnancy. Your bump looks so, so cute. Yeah. And we just celebrated Mother's Day. First Mother's Day with a physical child in our presence. I will say Mother's Day feels a lot different having a baby versus being pregnant. Yeah. Like I feel like this year I really, really earned it. You're a full-on mom. Oh, yeah. I wanted it to be – I wanted to treat you right. It was a very special Mother's Day yesterday. Yeah. Okay. This is a random assumption. Okay.

Matt doesn't wash the backs of his knees. Of course I wash the backs of my knees. What type of person do you think I am? You know what? I actually saw this on Instagram. It was like someone was like – they found out that some people don't wash their feet in the shower because they assume that it's getting water and the soap is running down. Do you scrub your feet? I will say it's a 50-50 chance for me about washing my feet.

What? Sometimes. It just depends. It just really depends on how I'm feeling. Sometimes I'll full out scrub my feet. Sometimes I don't do it at all. Sometimes I'll throw some soap on the floor and shuffle my feet around. You're joking. No, I've literally done that before. That is the weirdest thing I've ever heard. You've never done that before? And I'm pregnant. It's so much easier. You don't have to bend over. You can just throw some soap on the floor and it's shh, shh, shh.

No, I always scrub my feet, like lather and scrub them. Really? They get stinky. They're what's on the ground. But what's disgusting is you use a loofah and loofahs carry so much dead skin and bacteria. Those things are disgusting. You use the same loofah for like years. You need a new loofah like at least every month, if not more. Can I tell you something? What? You've been using... Shut up. You've been using my loofah? Are you freaking kidding me?

You monster. Are you kidding me? You didn't know that? Getting all that dead skin in there? You didn't know I was using your loofah? No. I thought you'd see it hanging by the bathtub sometimes. I mean, I saw that you've been using it. I've seen you misplace it or use it sometimes before, but I thought you were still using your loofah. Why did you start using my loofah? I exclusively use your loofah.

You're a whack job. Sorry, I just need to get some new ones. I'm going to order that right after this. Can we just order those? Okay, but wash the backs of your knees, do you? I don't. Because why would you need to? What's sad about my knees is I have very ashy knees. If you can look right here. Oh, gosh, yeah. I get it from my dad. My dad has ashy knees. My brothers have ashy knees. They just get so dry, especially in Arizona. Yeah. So apparently Matt washes the backs of his knees, but not his feet. Interesting. Yep. This is something...

This assumption is that Abby wishes she became a teacher. I'm going to say no, actually. Do you? I feel like you probably. I think no. Yeah. I that's tough because it's like I wouldn't I'll never know. You want to homeschool our kids, though. Yeah. I think there's a part of me that like really loves education. I always love children. And so I just feel really excited that this job has opened up opportunities for me to do that in my own home with my own kids. You know what's funny about us? What?

So I feel like you're more of a pro education person than I am as far as like the traditional method. Because for you, like you graduated, you come from a family of teachers. Both your grandmas were teachers. Your mom was a teacher. You got your teaching degree. I dropped out of college. But what I think is funny is

is when you look at like our social media, what we consume on social media, I think what you consume on social media is more like entertainment based. And I love to learn on social media. Like all the accounts I follow are all education related. I like to learn about finance and real estate and building businesses. It's just like, isn't that interesting? I guess yours fits more in the exclusively educational opportunity or...

exclusive educational realm. Yeah. But like a lot of my stuff is like babies, pregnancy. That's true. Cooking. Yeah. Like things like that. Yeah. That I'm like it's also educational. Yeah. That's true. But sometimes I do just turn on something that's just like people talking and it's like...

Sometimes it's just an escape. Yeah, I think... It's just like, oh, I just want to tune out, relax. Yeah. I think, yeah, there's obviously different forms of education and different ways of getting that material. So... Yeah, I honestly... I mean, I have so much respect for teachers, like having grown up with a family of teachers. Oh, yeah. And they work so hard and they're so underpaid that it's like...

I don't take it lightly what they do. And I'm like, I don't know that I could do that for like my mom has done it for 27 years. I don't know that I could have done that for 27 years. And I think it's I really like that you have your degree in teaching because then I think it'd be really cool if you homeschool our children. And I think it's really cool now with the Internet and TikTok and YouTube and all these platforms like our kids can learn. You can teach yourself anything. I taught myself how to edit.

By using YouTube videos when I was a kid. That's why I learned how to do all this. Like everything I've learned to do with like our job, I learned on like YouTube and social media. Something else I do want to say though is that like being able to homeschool our children in the future is like such a privilege because I feel like a lot of these parents wish that they could be able to do that. Yeah. But then it's like they have to, like my own mom. That's so true. I'm sure she would have loved to be able to homeschool us, but they couldn't.

make that happen financially. And so then she had to drop me off when I was six weeks old. So then she could go teach other people's children. And I mean, that's why I will never like, that's why I couldn't say that I wish I became a teacher. It's because of the way that this job has allowed me flexibility to do things with my own family that I wouldn't have been able to do with that like standard career option. You know, that's a really good observation. This one is Abby always wins the arguments. Yes. No. Yes.

Abby is so much better with her words than I am. Like it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter who did what. Abby wins, period. No, no, no. Here's the thing. I'm better at talking. So much better at talking. But I don't think I necessarily win the arguments.

And also you like you are you're a fighter like you will not give up. And what's funny is I think if I were married to someone else, I feel like I would be the fighter and the disagreements. And, you know, my in another life, my other spouse would have been the fighter because I'm pretty like I like to stick up for my thoughts and my beliefs. I'm stubborn. But like you are such a fighter that I have to be the fighter or like I'm

There's going to be an explosion. Sometimes I feel like you flighting makes you win the argument because it's just like you chose to leave and so then it's like it's over. Not really though because I feel like it just keeps lingering. I wouldn't say that I always win though.

I just think you're so much better with your words. No, I can agree with that. And you know how to express how you feel. I don't know how to express how I feel like you do. I don't know why I feel the ways that I do, but you know exactly why. And I don't know how you know. I know. I actually, that's something early in our relationship. I like learned, I was like, I have this,

secret power. Yeah. Maybe it's because I'm a woman or I don't know, but like I have this, like, I feel like I have more advanced emotional intelligence than you. What sucks though is something that doesn't work with your spouse that I think can work with guys. Like if I have some disagreement or some, some crap happens with a guy friend of mine, we just forget about it the next day.

Like it's over. But if something happens with your spouse, like you remember that thing for the next week. Okay. Like it's not, it's not going away. And I feel like it takes a while to like move past, you know? I just feel like it could be quick if you're just like, I'm sorry. No, but I do. I think, and I feel like I have to, usually you want me to apologize at least 10 times. Like the first apology is never enough. No, I don't want you to just say, I'm sorry. I want you to say, I'm sorry. And then what you did and then why it was wrong and what you're going to do differently next time.

That's just appropriate. But then I do that and then you still say, I'm sorry. Yes, you do. No. Yes, you do. Yes. Yes. Who won this argument then?

You, you always win the arguments. You always win. What is winning an argument also? That's a good question. I don't really feel like I do, but sure. This is a weird one. What is it? Abby, you seriously have such a beautiful body. Matt drools all day, I bet. Who the freak? Was that a, who submitted that? It's a woman. A woman. Okay. That makes you feel a little less creepy then. Like that seems less creepy that it's from a woman. You're right. Because I feel like a woman admiring another woman's body is. Can I tell you? Yeah, anyway.

Something that I forgot that is starting to happen that happened last pregnancy though. What? Some men fetishize pregnant bellies and I get really like – not it doesn't happen a lot but I get really random fetish.

Just graphic DMs about things about my belly and like they want to do with my belly. Are you serious? It doesn't happen a lot. But now that the bump has grown quite a bit. Dude. It just started happening. I saw one this morning and I was like. That makes me feel kind of weird. Yeah. I don't really like that. Yeah. That's creepy. I'm like if you. It's one thing to be like attracted to your wife when she's pregnant. I think that's healthy and normal and good. Yeah.

Just a random pregnant woman? Yeah. Just because they're pregnant? And also, like, what do they think they're accomplishing by DMing you? I think it kind of makes them...

I feel like they're expressing their naughty side. I feel like there's no way they think that you're actually going to respond. I feel like it indulges their fetish in a way. Yeah. By sending that. They feel like they get some dopamine hit from actually sending. And it wasn't even a bare belly. It was just like you could see my. It was literally what I wore to the Suns game. That orange dress. You're kidding. Because it really emphasized the bump. Yeah. Anyway. Dudes are weird. Dudes are so weird. Dudes be crazy. Dudes are disgusting sometimes. But Matt, you drool all day because of my body. I drool all day.

And in the night.

No, you don't drool at night because you have your mouth taped shut. I have my mouth taped shut. We need to post a picture on the Unplanned Podcast Instagram of my mouth tape. It's so weird, you guys. I look so... And Griffin in the morning, he wants to rip it off. Griffin tries to rip off my mouth tape in the morning. No, that's the thing about the mouth tape is that like, I'll be like, good night, Matt. Love you. And he'll be like, silent. I'm like, are you going to say good night to me? And then he's like, look at my mouth tape. And I'm like, are you serious? And then he'll...

Most nights I get kissed with tape on your mouth. Yes. You're like, good night. And then it just feels like I'm kissing the back of your hand. But it's so much healthier. Like it keeps me from snoring. I'm actually breathing out my nose. I don't breathe out my nose naturally. But by the morning it's so saturated that it's just flapping. It's only stuck to one top of either the top or the bottom of your lip. No, I rip it off so that I can talk to Griffin because I like to be like, good morning, buddy.

And then it's just flopping there. And then why do you keep it on? Because then I like to sleep while you're feeding Griffin. And then I take it off after I'm done sleeping. And then you go back to bed and then I feed Griffin breakfast. Yep.

This one says you've done it in a public space, a car, parking lot, et cetera. Wow. I wish. Have we done? I don't think we've ever done it like that. No, I think it's a crime. I would love to do that though. Not the crime part, but the doing it part in a public space. No, for me, that's not romantic. I think privacy is very nice. I don't know. I feel like that'd be pretty crazy to just like... It would be crazy, but it's like...

Also illegal. I mean, depending on where the public space is. No, just it being public. In your car? In your car. I don't think you're allowed to do that. Really? Because I wouldn't want anybody to see. But I feel like there's some way of doing that and having some sort of privacy. You know what I'm saying? I don't know. I feel like that can't be allowed because there's windows everywhere and...

Yeah, who knows? Public indecency. That's true. So I guess no. Yeah, we have both gone to the bathroom on a hiking trail before, though. I was actually, I got to be there for Abby's first pee. For her first pee in the woods in Colorado. Now I'm a pro. I still feel like you're scared to pee in the woods. Actually, you're right. Yeah, I've done it a lot of times. I just never like it. I really like going to the bathroom in a toilet. I know somebody that unfortunately wipes with poison ivy.

Not a good move. Don't name any names. Okay, I'm not naming any names. Okay, keep going. This one says you came close to having intimacy before marriage. Intimacy.

Ooh. Came very close. Yes. It was the hardest thing we've probably ever done in our relationship, would you say? Yeah. Yes. Three years of not doing it is really hard. It was a long journey. Yeah. But yeah, we definitely were not perfect in that whole process. And we just got very close. I'm actually like, I am so curious about.

to know like everyone, like how far does everyone go before marriage? Because even the people that are like, like we didn't do it before marriage. I'm like, okay, but what did you do? You know what I'm saying? Like what? I don't know. I'm just like so curious because there's no shot that

The majority of the people that wait till marriage aren't doing something. You know what I'm saying? I mean, there are people that are like very, very strict and don't kiss. Yeah. There's people that do it. But like that's like 1% of people, dude. I admire them. I think that you're right. Like the majority of people are like towing the line as closely as possible. Yeah. Because freaking hard is freak. You're very attracted to them. No, you're going to spend the rest of your life with them. That's the weirdest thing too is...

It doesn't really... I mean, the wedding night happens and it doesn't feel like that different. Like we're...

I don't know. Yeah, sure. We had like a... Oh, it felt different. I mean, I don't know, dude. We just had like our friends and family there to celebrate. Like if we would have eloped, it would have been no... Oh, wait, what do you mean felt different? Like, it's not like I had some epiphany movement. Like, now you're my wife. Oh, now that's my wife. Yeah. Oh, no, I totally agree. If we would have eloped a year before and had been doing it for a year and then like had the wedding ceremony and it's like... Well, if we would have eloped, it would have been fine. Yeah. I don't know.

I just feel like it was really, really special the day of the wedding because of that. I mean, it definitely was. But I'm just saying, like, it's hard. It's a complicated situation. It's a sensitive matter. Yeah, totally. And it's so personal to every couple, you know? I will say this, though. I think, like, regardless of what everyone decides to do, I think waiting for a time, regardless of your choices, I think is important because...

You want to make sure – I don't know. Like that's just something – I think discipline is always a good practice. Yeah, and I think – And then beyond that, it's like your – the emotions are sky high at the beginning of a relationship. Yeah.

And you could just do something without actually really thinking and just acting on emotion and then regret it later. I think especially for women, like guys can be manipulative. I'm not saying like just guys do this, but there are guys that can be manipulative with their words and all they want is a one night stand and they use words to get you in bed with them and then that's it. So you got to look out for those people. And if they're willing to stick it out, you know, six months, a year, say you just decide that I'm going to wait,

wait six months before I sleep with someone and you're dating them. Like that alone will weed out like a lot of people. That's true. You know what I'm saying? Or like something will come and be like, okay, thank goodness that I never like went there with that person because he turned out to be a total dirtbag. But you know what my grandpa, my great grandpa said this. I remember this quote. He says, uh,

you don't buy the cow if you can get the milk for free. I think that's what the saying goes. Hey. And it's so true, though. Like, there's guys that are just like, that's all they want. And then, I don't know. Yeah. Yeah. So, I don't know. I feel like, I mean, everyone...

has their own experience in their own relationship. And there's so many factors that are involved, but. - Yeah, it'd be so funny though, if people all had like a little thing above their head that said like how far they went before marriage. Like if it said like second base, third base, or if it's just like, we didn't even kiss. It's like, wow, congratulations. I don't know how the freak you did that, but that's pretty impressive.

We were making out before we were even dating. We were making out on the couch watching movies downstairs. We didn't even watch the movie. We would just make out the whole movie and not even look up. I think about that sometimes about how early in a relationship we would just kiss a whole movie. I want to do that again. Can we try to do that? What in the stamina? We need to do that in 2023. We need to make out a whole entire movie and not even watch the movie. We haven't done that since we were teenagers, dude. There was one time we were making out and I was like, I'm going to throw up right now. Because I did not feel good at all and you...

We're just like kissing me and I was like, I want to kiss him so bad that I will kiss him until I throw up because I just want to kiss you. It was after we went to Six Flags. The thing is though, in marriage, if you skip all the build up stuff and get right to the action, it's like watching the last 10 minutes of a movie. It's still cool to watch the last 10 minutes of a movie, but you skip the whole beginning part that makes the big finish so special. Let's just move on to something a little bit lighter. I assume that you always have a clean house.

No. Heck no. Okay. It's not trash though ever. I mean, okay. It depends on your level. It's pretty clean because there's not a lot of stuff in our house. That's true. Yeah. But I will say we'll leave dishes in the sink overnight. We'll leave. We've been known to leave a dirty diaper on the. Yeah. In the living room. Yeah. Like it'll get messy, but it never gets like dirty. You know what I mean? Totally. Where it's like gross. It's just things are left out all the time. Yeah. And we don't care. Yeah.

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Matt is really interested in kissing other women. Honestly, this is something I've been thinking too. I'm like, the more that Matt has gotten older and only kissed me, the more curious you've gotten about it. I'm curious what that would have been like if I would have kissed somebody before you. Have you not thought about that? Like how that would have been differently? But are you interested in it? I'm going to say no. Matthew James! What? No, I guess I have the curious thought of like back in the day,

What would have that been like? Oh, well, that's fine. You literally never have a thought ever about like, what would that be like? You know what I'm saying? You never ever have had that thought before. Of like kissing somebody else? Like someone specifically? Because if you're telling me, I don't know, just like some, I don't know. No, I think about it.

it okay i'm gonna say like come on we're not gonna be honest here like i guess i think about it but i don't know i don't really i would never stay interested yeah i don't know because if you're gonna pretend like if people pretend like they don't have those thoughts every now and again i feel like you're you're lying it's because matt and i have only kissed each other so then sometimes it's like no but i bet they got this episode with lauren ari when you were like ari what was it like yeah totally totally but the but the thing is though if somebody is like

I don't know. Like when you've told... I have a hard time believing you like this. Like when you're like, I literally don't think anybody's more attractive than you. No, I truly... There's no shot. You can't tell me... You think Michael B. Jordan, very attractive guy. You've told me that you think he's very attractive. But I've told you, I think he's handsome. I think he's like good looking. But for me, attractive is so much...

There's so much emotional involved in that. Like so many emotional factors. I get that. No, no, no. I could never call them attractive. I see what you're saying. But I guess when I say attractive, I just mean physically. I'm not talking about like anything else. Because like we... But even my physical attraction is so closely related to... Like if I'm super mad at you, I'm not even physically attracted to you even though you're the same person. Same. Same. I'm not physically attracted to you when I'm really mad at you. So that's why the word attractive to me, I hold that at a much like...

Different separate unless you're looking really freaking good. Like if you're looking really really good Oh, yeah, i'm just like like i'm so mad at you, but you look so good You know what i'm saying? Has it happened before has it happened before to you a couple times? But I feel like my appearance changes more than yours does because I have makeup hair Yeah, i've been pregnant not pregnant, you know things like that what i'm wearing whereas you're pretty much you stay Looking the same most time the biggest change is like having a hat or not

Yeah, that's true. Or like I'm now wearing a shower or not. I'm now wearing hats. Well, the showering thing is complicated because if you're going to work out that day, you don't want to work out. You don't want to shower before your workout. That's just silly. But then if you end up skipping your workout, then you skip your shower on accident. And then you go a day. Why? Also, can I ask you a question? What's up? Why do you ask me every time before you shower if you can if you should shower or not?

Maybe that's what you're in for. I just have follow-up questions like, when's the last time you showered? Yeah. Do you stink? Have you gone in the pool or sweat since then? I do want to ask you this question, though. Have you thought about what it'd be like to kiss another guy? Have you thought about that? I've thought about it. Okay. And have you ever been like, that might be interesting to try that out? I would never do it, but I thought about it. Same. That would be my answer. And I would say it's never been like I thought about a specific person even. Like I've just been like, what if I kiss another guy? Yeah, totally. It wasn't like, what if I kissed...

My brother, you know. Okay. I never have thought about that. I've used the voice of reason while Matt is more on the adventurous side. I'm very adventurous. Yeah. Yeah. That's actually spot on, I would say. Yeah, that's spot on. But I feel like you have made me have black cat energy, whereas I would have been a golden retriever in like any other relationship. Well, I think it's funny. We kind of have to take on the roles. Yes. We take on opposites.

And what's funny though is like when we lived in Hawaii and you was you decided you didn't like Hawaii But I've really liked Hawaii You convinced yourself in your head that you never wanted to move there and I'm like I have a video on my phone of us like both things so hype about moving to Hawaii And I like totally like debunked your whole idea You caught me in one moment where it was like we already signed the paperwork No, we had not signed. No, this was like the moment that we realized we're like, wait a second

social media is paying our bills. And we're like, we can literally live anywhere. We can upload to YouTube anywhere. Where should we live? And we're like, let's freaking go to Hawaii, baby. That's what it was. Okay, you caught me at a very rare moment and then you used that as evidence for like... You literally reached out to someone about like renting their house. You did all that. I didn't do any of that. You found us a place to stay on the island. Okay, well, once again, Matt is on the adventure side. I have to be the voice of reason. So it's like when you say something crazy, I have to be the executor sometimes. But you literally found our place to live at. So... Okay. Anyway...

But yeah, I feel like I would definitely be adventurous in almost any relationship. But then just because you are so extreme that I've had to balance you out. That's true. Yeah. Is that fair? This one says Abby wears the pants in the relationship. Ooh.

You are a very powerful woman. I am powerful. You're powerful. Does that mean... What does wear the pants mean? Like make the decisions? See, that's the thing. I don't think... Should I Google it? I feel like in a relationship, we just make community decisions. Yeah. Like I'm not going to just be like, we're doing this and I'm the man. So this is what we're doing. What I say goes. I wear the pants. That's not how this works. No, and I wouldn't be... We make decisions together. Oh, it says... The definition here says to be the person in a relationship who makes...

The decisions. Exactly. We make the decisions together. We definitely make the decisions together. Yeah. I mean, I will say you probably, I was probably the person that pushed more of moving to Hawaii and you were the push. Why is that the decision that we keep bringing up? And you were the person that pushed more moving to Arizona. You were also the person that pushed more having kids. I probably wouldn't have had kids as young as we did if it wasn't for you. Now, did you make that decision fully on your own? No. But like I was a part of that decision making process, right? We both make decisions. Yeah.

And I think that if we're at like a standstill with a decision, who makes the decision? It really depends. If we're going head to head on something...

And I think that most of the time your way would go. Really? Because I don't want to make the decision ultimately. But, dude, I hate making decisions. Like, sometimes the bigger decisions I like to make, but the smaller ones, like… Yeah, I'm good at making, like, stupid decisions. Like, literally, if we're at a restaurant, like, can you freaking just pick something out for me, Abby? Yeah, I think that's what you eat at most restaurants. I don't think about what I want to order for 10 minutes. It's just like, can you just, like, point to something on the menu and just order it for me? But you're right because there's big life decisions that I've definitely…

I think about all the different, I think about every single detail. This house, I found this house. Yeah. But it's funny. You found this house, wanted to buy this house and we bought the house and now you want to move out of this house.

hey, it's just for a time. But then you said no. And so we did it. Exactly. But that's what we made the decision together. Yeah. So you made the decision to buy the house. I made the decision not to move out of the house because the market dropped and it wouldn't be a good financial decision to sell at a loss right now. That wouldn't be smart. I made the decision to not get on birth control after. That's true. You also put a lot of pressure on me. You were like,

I am oh that's funny I just like my brain just registered what you were saying right there and that's how we got pregnant with baby number two yes I uh though you put pressure on me with the first with Griffin because you were like I am taking my IUD out and there's nothing you can do to stop me no Matt you don't mean that no you yeah that is something we had talked about for years and then the time came and I was like hey I'm gonna do this and you're like wait wait wait but then you

Then you ultimately. I mean, I think it just. You can't say that. Time goes by so freaking fast. That is a serious accusation. Okay. No, no, no. Let me just say this. We were like, we got married and we're like, we're going to start trying in about two years. And we did. And then two years went by like, like that. It went by in a second. And we waited a few months beyond two years. Yeah. And I was like, holy frick. Like now's the time.

And then it's like, well, we didn't have the kid until three years into our relationship. But like the year leading up... But we didn't even start trying until... We started trying like October. It was like almost two and a half. October of 2020. But no, 2021. But what's crazy though is like the whole year...

before you have your kid is drastically affected too. Why? I'm just like holding back a burp right now. I'm trying not to burp. I'm not going to burp. You hate when I burp and it like makes, it smells. So I'm not going to do that. Okay. But like the whole year leading up to it,

That drastically changed too because you're pregnant and you can't do the same things that you want to do. Yeah. Like if we want to do some crazy hike. We used to do freaking wildest hikes in Hawaii that people could get seriously injured or die on. And when you're pregnant, you can't do those hikes. Right? It's not responsible. It's not a good idea. Would you say that drastically changed the year because we couldn't do outrageous hikes? Yeah.

Yeah, I mean like our summer our summer in arizona I probably would have liked to go somewhere a little bit colder because it's 120 degrees here. We couldn't travel. Yeah So, I mean it does affect a lot Yeah, but I mean it's all for good reason. I mean, I love being a dad and I love Love love seeing you be a mom. You're such a good mom. That was a long-winded answer to say that we both Yeah, you were very popular in high school. See I think people knew who I was

But I wouldn't necessarily say that I was popular. We didn't go to the same high school. So you could tell me you were the most popular guy in your high school. I'd be like, yeah. I think people definitely knew who I was. But I don't think I was necessarily cool. Like, oh, yeah, it's the theater kid that likes to snowboard and stuff. I think I was kind of neither, actually. Yeah. Well, I...

people knew who I was because I was very involved. Like I did a lot of school extracurricular activities. I wasn't shy at all. I was a weird kid like I did. The school dress up days I went all out. I made myself known but I definitely wasn't like a cool kid. So like I didn't try to be somebody that I wasn't but I

You wanted to be popular. I didn't care. You didn't give a crap. I wanted to be popular, but I wasn't willing to change who I was to be popular, if that makes sense. Like I cared and I shouldn't have. That's stupid for caring. But what matters is having like a good community and good friends. And I did have good friends in high school. No one was going to think you were lame. What I love about you, though. Yeah, that's true. But what I love about you is you really don't care at all.

at all what people think about about you and i think that's so so cool thank you yeah i feel like i don't know what about me i feel like my parents influenced that i had really good friends that influenced that um but i really did not care that i wasn't popular and i wasn't also shy like i wasn't trying to hide anywhere like i just went to the beat of my own drum yeah and i honestly really loved high school whereas i know you didn't really like high

I think, yeah. I mean, there was good times. Like sometimes- No, but you said you would feel anxious before going to school. That's true. I didn't really have, at my high school itself, I didn't have like my core community there. I had friends with different-

you know, groups outside of school that I was really close with. I had friends at other high schools that I would hang out with, like friend groups. A lot of my friend groups were at other schools, not my actual high school. So I didn't have my like my core people at my high school. Yeah. Yeah. I only had one high school in my town. So yeah, everyone was there.

So this one says that you – this is kind of like what we talked about before a little bit, that you regret not dating other people before meeting each other. No. I'm glad that I married you. I'm glad that it played out the way it did. No, but like that you didn't like date other girls before. I kind of dated other guys. Like I went on dates with other guys. Oh, yeah. But I didn't like –

call them my boyfriend and stuff. Yeah. But I mean, I feel like in a way you do kind of regret that. I mean, I'll be honest. There are times where I'm like, I wonder what that would have been like to experience that. I guess. I think that's totally fine. It's like normal. Yeah. And so there are times where I'm like, yeah, maybe I wish I would have like dated someone

before in just that like young stage of life right now i don't feel that way like right i'm i don't know i'm just i'm glad that you're just saying that because your wife's sitting right here no i just i know i just like it's weird yeah it's weird how like your your feelings change

and stuff but yeah you seem like a very guilty person like you might be lying to everyone on this podcast no no to the wife that is in front of you i 100 like i'm just so glad that things went out the way they did i promise i'm not holding a gun to matt's head it's really no no no it's like it's really really sweet the way everything played out yeah sometimes maybe the first person you date is just the right person and that's rare but sometimes it happens and i think it happened with us yeah

Well, I'm glad that we don't have that. We don't have all this heartbreak. We don't have all this like this trust issues, baggage from past relationships. The fact that we don't have that is so, so nice. And maybe it's just like naive to say something like that. Maybe it's not like for me to be like, I wonder what that was like, because if we would have had some sort of dating stuff go on before we were together, it could have affected us in a very big way and left us with a lot of hurt and brokenness and baggage. Yeah.

Yeah, no, exactly. I feel like it's a blessing, but then also it's just kind of, we got lucky that it happened that way. It's not like anything that we did. Like I will say when we were dating, we were like, we both went into dating, like we date for the,

Because we're looking for someone to marry. It's not like we're just like having fun. Exactly. That's why I was dating is to find a partner, a lifetime partner. That was very mature of you as a high school boy. Thank you. This one says, Addy has a better morning attitude than Matt. I'm going to say no. I feel like you, I think you're grumpier in the mornings than I am, I think. Really? I'm grumpy in the middle of the night. You wake me up in the middle of the night, I can be pretty grumpy. Really? Really?

I feel like I wake you up a lot and you just kind of like go with it. Your eyes look so pretty right now, by the way. Thank you. Yeah. No, you're nice because sometimes I wake you up and I'm just like, Matt, I'm scared. And then you're like, it's okay. Like, it's not like you're like getting up and like doing something about it, but you like, you don't care if I wake you up. You have very beautiful eyes. I don't know. I just wanted to say that. Thank you. I feel like we both have like the same attitude in the morning, which is kind of just like, let me get my feet on the ground before we start.

Like we don't wake up and just like start kissing and like I think we just kind of like both ease into the day. We should. I would love to kiss you in the morning. I feel like you wouldn't do that because of my morning breath. I would love to give you a big smooch. Really? A big smooch? Yeah. You'd do that? I would like a hug in the mornings. Okay. I was thinking about that more and more. I was like if I just could get a good hug in then. You need a hug right now? Yeah. Okay. Hey, come here. I love you. This is nice. Oh, come here. This is good.

I don't know if we've hugged today yet. Have we hugged? I don't think so. My body's been squished, but this was nice. Hug and a kiss. Ma. That was so sweet. Maybe we should do morning hugs now. We should do morning hugs and kisses. But I feel like...

I feel like we both wake up in the same attitude in the morning. Yeah. I don't feel like I'm grumpy. I'm grumpy when I wake up from a nap for sure. But not necessarily in the mornings. Yeah. Abby's had a boob job. Abby is just very blessed in that area. Oh my gosh. Blessed by above. I'm not opposed to getting something done, I guess. I don't know. I kind of go back and forth with how I feel about it personally. Like I don't care what other people do. But for me, I'm like, sometimes I'm like, no, I want to embrace how I am now.

every single way abby will say stuff like i want to make them smaller i'm like why like why would you want to make those things smaller you don't try to work out and you don't they're so great so great thank you matt thank you thank you thank you for having greatness no i haven't but i'm not like opposed to i'm not like abs 100 no never in the future i wouldn't but i would not make them bigger for sure gotcha i would get a lift

And maybe a reduction. Oh, so when you say a boob job, you mean like a lift? You're not talking about like making them bigger? I would never make them bigger. Ever, ever, never. I think I really like the size. I'm 5'2". I personally love the size. Thanks. So a reduction would be sad, but...

Okay. It's your body. Yes. I don't, I think that like, yeah, I go back and forth with how I feel personally about what I would do as far as plastic surgery goes because, or not plastic surgery, like cosmetic work in general. Yeah. Because I really haven't had anything done. Whereas. Yeah. You almost got veneers. I know so many people that I've had things done and sometimes I'm like, I'm,

I'm either 100% like I need to lean into like embracing my 100% natural. Like there's no such thing as flaws because it's just how I am. Like that's what makes me unique. But then I also go to the other side where I'm like, but it would be nice if I could just like fix this little thing that I'm like slightly –

unhappy with I wouldn't even say insecure about because there's no part of me that I'm like insecure about I mean I will be honest like I know this doesn't really fall into like the plastic surgery category but like I was insecure about my teeth as a kid and once I had braces like I was a lot more confident I would say I just feel like dental work has such a different connotation than like oh then like implants okay you know especially probably because like a boob job that's like a sexual part

yeah you know what i mean yeah so it's like i don't think there's anything wrong with doing that though no i just think you can get down a tricky path if you're getting like a lot done you know yeah i think it's like maybe there's a deeper issue if you're always going back it's like yeah what's what's going on you know what's going on internally because it's like exactly you could make some tweaks to yourself and i think that's totally healthy and fine but then when it gets to the point where it's like constant it's like

Maybe you have some deep-rooted insecurities that need to be addressed. Yeah. You would both love to get back into theater one day. Honestly, that's tough. I mean, when I see a musical... I feel like you wouldn't. I don't know. When I see a musical, there's like this fire in my soul that's reignited. Oh, that's true. Oh, my gosh. Remember when we saw Wicked? When we watched Wicked, that happened. We saw West Side Story, and I just like... We saw Wicked after like...

being out of theater for about two or three years at that point and yeah we were both crying yeah it was making me feel like i feel like for every theater kid that grew up like when we grew up like wicked was it was hamilton like the new show later one well i mean hamilton i think for younger kids back in i guess hamilton came out like what like 2016

But we were already like – We were already older. Older. But like Hamilton was like so cool and pop culture and Wicked I think was the same way. That was our era. We were the Wicked era of theater kids. We were the Wicked era of theater kids and like that really inspired me to – that inspired me to do theater for sure. For sure. Did it inspire you? No.

That's not the song. No. What was the song that we were like crying? It was like, no thing. Yeah. Oh my gosh. It does awaken something. I would love to go back in the theater maybe at some point. Yeah. I want to do some sort of live performance. Like it'd be cool.

I would love to make music and go perform it. I have like something in my throat. But to just be in front of a live audience again and perform, oh, that's just like a thrill, a thrilling feeling. Yeah, I feel like I could see you doing live performance that's not necessarily theater, like you singing or DJing. Like I can see that. I would really like to do that. Whereas for me, like I would love to act in front of people again. I would love to do that again. That'd be really cool. But who knows? I feel like being a mom right now is so demanding that I'm like, I couldn't give my time to that. Yeah.

But in the future, I've got to act again at some point in my life because I have so much passion for it. You're very good at it. I would do it for free. You're very good. For sure.

This one says you are outgoing and make friends everywhere you go. I don't know who they're referring to in that one. I would say, yeah. I would say we're both outgoing. We're both outgoing and make friends. We like to talk to people. I like to talk to random strangers. I like to know their stories and who they are and where they're from. I think we both make friends quickly, but sometimes when I go out in public, I'm not as quick to just make a best friend like you are.

Like there's like, like you could sit, I could sit next to a random stranger on a plane and not say anything. Like I'll say hi when I sit down and then like have a good trip, have a safe trip when we get off the plane, but not talk the entire flight.

Whereas you're never going to let that happen. I feel like you're always going to talk to who's next to you. Yeah, I do like talking to people on planes. Which I think is a really sweet quality. But sometimes I'm like, I just go about my day and I'm like, I get a personal relationship with these people. The more that we've flown, sometimes like I'll edit a video while we're on the flight or I might like listen to an audio book like while we're on a flight and I won't converse next to the person next to me. And I used to always do that. So but we do fly a lot more than we used to.

You know, I just thought about how you were so insecure all last week about saying the word like on the podcast. I was insecure about saying the word like because sometimes if I watch the podcast back, I realize if I'm trying to get my words together, I say the word like a lot. And...

That annoys me. It annoyed me. You guys, I came downstairs and Matt was in the kitchen feeding Griffin and listening to a YouTube video about how to say the word like less. They actually have a YouTube video about that. There's literally a YouTube video. So even if he does it a lot in this episode, just please don't comment it because it's going to get in his head. You can say it. I'll comment back to you on the like. No, don't say that because then people are going to say it, Matt. It's okay. I need to break the habit. I don't want to say the word like. I don't think you...

think you do what it is apparently when you have a pause and you're speaking that's when you fill in with um or like or something oh and it's fine to do it a little bit but if you do it a lot it gets it gets really annoying okay yeah matt wears makeup i do no you don't i don't i couldn't even picture you wearing makeup yeah

You have such a beautiful face already. Even in theater as a kid, when they tried to put makeup on me, I was like, get that freak away from me. I did not want to wear makeup. I don't think that... There's been times where we went to an event where they're going to take photos or something. This hasn't happened recently, but I want to say in the span of our seven years together, we're coming up on seven years together. Do you use concealer? I want to say there's been a couple times where... No, there's a couple times where we use powder because you get really greasy. I like a massive, massive like...

you know pimple on my face and I was like yo can you just throw some makeup on this yeah that hasn't even happened in the past like couple years but yeah I think my skin's cleared up a little bit yeah you kind of stopped going through puberty yeah I did my voice still cracks though every now and again maybe one day yeah um Abby wants a dog but Matt doesn't it's tough I think a dog is a big responsibility

Yeah, we have two babies. I feel like we both kind of want a dog eventually. But we both, I think we agree on the timing. It's just like not right now. We were going to get one. And then like literally at the time that we were going to get a dog, we found out we were pregnant. And then right after that, we got pregnant again. And we also travel a lot.

lot yeah so we want to be in a place where we can like actually be really good owners to the dog not that we need to be with the dog 24 7 i think it's okay to leave a dog with a loved one yeah or a trusted person in general like i think that's totally fine because they are a dog and not a person but i just want to i feel like we're not in the place right now with two teeny tiny babies

So no. Abby gets annoyed by Matt when he tries to be funny. Yes. Really? I would say yes. You think I get annoyed? But if you think I'm funny, I just milk it. If there's something that you think is hilarious, I just keep it going and going. And that's really fun. I don't think I get annoyed when you try to be funny. Have I gotten funnier? You have gotten funnier. Yes, you have. Good. Thank you. I make you laugh. You get annoyed when you try to be funny, Matt. I think you're hilarious, by the way. You're so funny.

think I get annoyed but sometimes I don't laugh unless I actually think it's funny and your comedy is so unique really and it's really stupid not in a bad way it's stupid funny and it cracks me up and you're such a goofball and

And you do some weird crap like we'll be out in public and you'll just break out into dance or something randomly, like literally not caring at all what people think if we're in a mall or something. I love that about you. I think it's so funny. I don't think I get annoyed by you. I'm just going to say it. Good. This one says you still sleep in separate beds. We sleep in the same bed now, people.

Except there wasn't one night where there was one night when we got in a disagreement. Oh, yeah, that's true. That did happen. Yeah, sad. It was a sad night. But no, we sleep together. We sleep in the same bed. Sometimes I'm just too tired now to just like keep arguing. I'm like, you know what? Just do your own thing. Yeah. But no, we are definitely sleeping in the same bed. It's very sweet. Yep. It's nice to have you back, buddy. Yeah. I love you. Love you, buddy. Love you, buddy.

Matt hates Abby's family or at least some of them. Wow. No, that is not true. Dislike even? No. No, you love my family. I don't hate your family. Love your family. Wait, that's like the second one that we've had that's kind of like of that nature. Yeah, why are we thinking what? I think it's because I made a joke about how you and my mom. But honestly, what husband and mother-in-law don't have a slightly...

yeah a slightly at odds it's so cool how our families get along so well yes we actually have such a yeah a good family unit like where it's like my family is close with your family which is not typical yeah it's very sweet even our grandmas when all of our grandmas get together it is so cute so so sweet this one says that you can't keep your hands off each other and you'll eventually have 10 kids wow

I would say, yeah, we're pretty, we do like to PDA. I do think we are pretty touchy people. I think physical touch is both, one of both of our main love languages. Yeah. Like I've been. 10 kids. 10 kids, no. Heck no. There's ways to prevent that folks. Yep. There are ways. And we just found out how to prevent it. So that's good.

I will say I think we do have like physical touches like one of our big ones. Like if I'm sitting on the couch and you're not touching me in some way, I get really – I'm like why are you mad at me? Cuddling on the couch last night was very fun. We hadn't done that in a little bit. We need to cuddle more. Yeah, because I feel like by the end of the night I've just been like ready for bed. Yeah, I know. I'm so tired all day today. That's the hardest thing. When you're a parent, you get so tired by the end of the day. But you got to remember to keep the physical touch alive. You do because otherwise I'm like –

I forget that you're not just like my, a parent with me or someone that works with me. I'm like, you're my lover too. I think it's easy as a parent to, for,

forget that your spouse is more than a roommate like it's easy to just go full-on parent mode and work mode and you have so much going on but you gotta remember managing the house alone like you could just be yeah you got to keep the love alive separate rooms yeah and keep the teamwork going well thank you guys for submitting your assumptions on the unplanned podcast instagram that was super fun um if you haven't already hit the like button and subscribe to the podcast or left uh uh-huh left us a five-star review leave us a five-star review that would really mean a lot um but

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