149. Is It Harder to Make Friends as an Adult? (Replay)
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How do friendships change as we get older? Should you join a bowling league? And also: how does a cook become a chef?

RESOURCES:

• “Social Support From Weak Ties: Insight From the Literature on Minimal Social Interactions),” by Joshua Moreton, Caitlin S. Kelly, and Gillian Sandstrom (Social and Personality Psychology Compass, 2023).
• Join or Die)*, *documentary (2023).
• “I Tried Bumble BFF for 30 Days — Here’s What Happened),” by Beth Gillette (*The Everygirl, *2022).
• Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make — and Keep — Friends)*, *by Marisa Franco (2022).
• “Grocery Store Opens ‘Chat Registers’ for Lonely Customers),” by Gabriel Geiger (*Vice, *2021).
• “The State of American Friendship: Change, Challenges, and Loss),” by Daniel A. Cox (Survey Center on American Life, 2021).
• “Number of Close Friends Had by Adults in the United States in 1990 and 2021),” by Michele Majidi (Survey Center on American Life, 2021).
• “You’re Not Uncool. Making Friends as an Adult Is Just Hard),” by Peter O’Dowd and Kalyani Saxena (*WBUR, *2021).
• "My Restaurant Was My Life for 20 Years. Does the World Need It Anymore?)" by Gabrielle Hamilton (*The New York Times Magazine, *2020).
• “Why You Miss Those Casual Friends So Much),” by Gillian Sandstrom and Ashley Whillans (*Harvard Business Review, *2020).
• “The Bros Who Met Their BFFs on Bumble),” by Rebecca Nelson (*GQ, *2016).
• “Sex Differences in Social Focus Across the Life Cycle in Humans),” by Kunal Bhattacharya, Asim Ghosh, Daniel Monsivais, Robin I. M. Dunbar, and Kimmo Kaski (*Royal Society Open Science, *2016).
• Blood, Bones & Butter: The Inadvertent Education of a Reluctant Chef)*, *by Gabrielle Hamilton (2011).
• “Social Relationships and Mortality Risk: A Meta-analytic Review),” by Julianne Holt-Lunstad, Timothy B. Smith, and J. Bradley Layton (*PLoS Medicine, *2010).
• Bowling Alone: The Collapse and Revival of American Community)*, *by Robert Putnam (2000).
• The Great Good Place: Cafes, Coffee Shops, Bookstores, Bars, Hair Salons, and Other Hangouts at the Heart of a Community)*, *by Ray Oldenburg (1999).
• Character Lab).

EXTRAS:

• “How Much Are the Right Friends Worth?)” by *People I (Mostly) Admire *(2022).
• “Is It Weird for Adults to Have Imaginary Friends?)” by *No Stupid Questions *(2022).
• “How Much Do Your Friends Affect Your Future?)” by *No Stupid Questions *(2020).
• “Is There Really a ‘Loneliness Epidemic’?)” by *Freakonomics Radio *(2020).
• Tell Me Something I Don’t Know) (2017).

SOURCES:

• Daniel Boulud), chef and restaurateur.
• Pete Davis), co-founder of the Democracy Policy Network.
• Wylie Dufresne), chef and restaurateur.
• Marisa Franco), assistant clinical professor at The University of Maryland.
• Beth Gillette), beauty editor at Cosmopolitan.
• Gabrielle Hamilton), chef, restauranteur, and writer.
• Daniel Humm), chef and restaurateur.
• Ray Oldenburg), professor emeritus of sociology at the University of West Florida.
• Robert Putnam), author and professor of public policy at Harvard University.
• René Redzepi), chef and restaurateur.
• Gillian Sandstrom), senior lecturer in psychology at the University of Sussex.
• Dieter Uchtdorf), Apostle of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and former Senior Vice President Flight Operations at Lufthansa Airlines.
• Lyle Ungar), professor of computer and information science at the University of Pennsylvania.