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Esther Calling - My Husband, His Other Wife, and Me

2024/3/25
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Where Should We Begin? with Esther Perel
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来电者：讲述了与伴侣六年异国恋情，以及伴侣回国迎娶兄弟遗孀的事件。她描述了文化差异对关系的影响，以及伴侣行为带给她的困惑和痛苦。她反思了自己在关系中过度顺从和牺牲自我的行为模式，并寻求Esther的建议，以帮助她理清思绪，做出正确的选择。她坦诚地分享了在性方面遇到的挑战，以及伴侣过去开放式关系经历与她传统观念的冲突。她还表达了对伴侣缺乏透明度和沟通的不满，以及对未来关系的担忧。她提到自己搬离的行为，以及家人朋友对她的支持和担忧。她最后反思了自己在关系中失去自我，过度依赖伴侣认可的现象。 Esther：从文化和人性的角度分析了来电者的故事，指出伴侣的行为在某些文化中可能被接受，但同时也强调了保持自我认同感的重要性。她引导来电者反思她在关系中牺牲自我，过度关注伴侣需求的行为模式，并鼓励她寻求专业的心理咨询帮助。她指出，来电者面临的困境并非完全由文化差异造成，而是与她自身在关系中处理自我和伴侣需求的方式有关。她鼓励来电者在伴侣和自我之间取得平衡，并找到属于自己的生活方向。

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The speaker discusses her relationship with her partner, who married his brother's widow due to cultural obligations, leading her to question the future of their relationship and her own actions.

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They were aid workers who met abroad, fell in love, and came to the States to get married. After two years, her partner returned to his home country to fulfill his familial duty and marry his brother's widow. Esther talks her through what comes next.

Esther Callings are a one time, 45-60 minute interventional phone call with Esther. They are edited for time, clarity, and anonymity. If you have a question you would like to talk through with Esther, send a voice memo to [email protected].

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