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Welcome to date yourself instead. Date yourself instead? What does it mean to date yourself instead? I'm just gonna learn how to love myself and that's it.
A few days ago, I DMed an astrologer on Instagram. This is a guy I've been going to for years. He's great. And he knows a lot about astrology. I don't really know that much about astrology. I just know that I'm a Capricorn, Gemini, Sagittarius. And those are my three big rising signs or rising signs. What am I saying? Those are my three big signs. My rising sign is Gemini. My moon is Sagittarius. My sun is Capricorn. For me, that's a big sign.
For those of you who are super into astrology, that probably makes sense. And for those of you who have no idea what the fuck I'm talking about, that's okay too. But anyways, so I asked this astrologer about my love life and my dating life and if I was going to meet anyone special this year. And he said something that was really interesting. He said that this year was going to be a lot of hard work and I was going to be focused on my career for the most part. Then he also told me that I wasn't going to have anyone special come into my life this year because
but next year I would be getting married. So then I was a little bit confused because if I have no one special coming into my life this year, but I'm getting married next year, does that mean that I'm only going to be dating this person for like six months, for two months? Like what is going on? So I asked him to clarify and I brought up my ex-boyfriend because my ex-boyfriend and I are on friendly terms. We've been on good terms for a while now and he's
such a big part of my life. He always will be just based off of the fact that we have a lot of mutual respect for each other, but we're different religions. And I promised you guys I was going to make an episode about that relationship soon on the podcast, and I definitely will. But it's a little bit of a touchy subject because religion can be an interesting and controversial subject, I feel like. But we...
broke up because of religious differences. And otherwise, the relationship was pretty solid. So it was just interesting. I don't know why I had this idea to bring him up into the conversation, but I did. And...
I said, you know, I have thought about dating other people for a while and I have thought about exploring other options for a while and opening my brain up to the idea of someone new has been challenging for me because I was very deeply in love with my ex-boyfriend. And when you come out of a breakup with a lot of love and respect for one another still, it can be
twice as hard to move on because no one did anything super fucked up to hurt the other person. And it's something that I've had to come to terms with. And it's something that I've wrestled with in my brain for a while that maybe he's just not my person. And I have to go somewhere else to find my soulmate because this wasn't it. And it wouldn't be this difficult if there were all these problems. But anyways,
Not to get too off topic. I asked this astrologer about him and he said, there is a possibility this man will be your husband. And my mouth dropped to the floor because I was like, that can't be right. This isn't accurate. This is no way, shape or form true because it's not possible.
And then he proceeds to say that I'm going to consider converting to this man's religion, but advised against it because it might be too big of a change in my life. X, Y, and Z was giving me a little bit of a lecture on why I probably should not go in the direction of doing that. But it's interesting because I was thinking about it at a point and I
I was going to do it in the name of love because I wanted to be with my ex so badly and I was going to do anything for him. But I did choose to take a step back for a while because it just wasn't feeling right. It wasn't feeling aligned. It didn't make sense for me at the time, but yeah,
I just thanked him. I said, thank you so much. I don't think that's going to happen. I don't see that in the cards for me, but I appreciate the input. I was hoping for him to say, you're going to meet your husband on a trip to Bali and you're going to ride off into the sunset together and live on the beach and drink coconuts and be in love. Like I thought he was going to tell me something very different that I wanted to hear. And instead he was laying it on me that I might marry my ex-boyfriend.
And I'm like, no, no, this is not happening right now. Honestly, I've always envisioned my future husband as someone who is just like me, like super adventurous, loves to travel, loves spirituality. And we can just grow and vibe together and live on the beach somewhere. I've always pictured this very dreamy picture perfect marriage with someone that just gets me on that level. And
You know, you can't really predict the future. That's the funny thing about life. You can't really predict what the fuck is going to happen. You could meet someone and just be friendly with them and have a conversation with them. And five years later, you're married to them with three kids. Like you really don't ever really know what's going to happen. So I think that's also what makes life fun and adventurous because you can't always predict the future. You can with some things, but...
I guess this really threw me for a loop. And I was like, no, there's no way. There's no way this isn't happening. But we'll see. You know, life is wild. Can throw you some curveballs. But for now, I've just been really focusing on myself and my work and my brand and the podcast and just really growing and healing as a person without any distractions. I think
My career is at the forefront of my mind recently and it's taken away from being able to date. And...
Dating is a job in itself. I think dating is nice and it can be super fun. But if you're in the middle of building a huge brand for yourself or a company or you're working nonstop 24-7, it's really hard to also invest a lot of energy into other people and getting to know them and learning about them and going to dinner or coffee or lunch dates, whatever you're doing. It's hard because you have to find that healthy balance in order to maintain your sanity. And I think that's
Right now, I'm in a place where my life is 95% work and 5% social. I haven't socialized. I haven't even seen my friends. I haven't really spoken to anyone. I barely speak to anyone. I'm always working. And most of my attention in my day goes to creating podcast episodes, editing them, making sure everything is perfect. And I've invested so much time into building a
a brand for myself because I want to be able to support my family when I'm older and my children. And I know people say, oh, that's your husband's job. That's a man's job in the house. But honestly, I like making my own money and I like being independent and I like having my own shit and not having to rely on anyone else. And if my husband also is super successful and has his own shit, that's an amazing bonus. And I would prefer that. But I like having my own
brand, my own business. It makes me feel good and productive and happy. That's what makes me happy and drives me and makes me motivated. And I love making money just knowing that I made it myself and I built this myself. That's just who I am. And I'm very driven. So...
Yeah, I've just been really, really laser focused and trying to work as much as I can. But I thought this whole astrologer astrology conversation was really funny and I thought I would share it. But who the fuck knows? No one knows. So today I wanted to talk about some of the worst dates I've ever been on or some of the worst dating experiences I've had and what I can remember from them. I went on a lot of dates in 2019. I
I went on a dating spree. I was on every dating app, I think, just endlessly trying to find my husband for some reason. I was really in a good place in my life where I was making a lot of money. I was supporting myself and just...
live in life where I felt young and free and I was living in Manhattan. And I just felt like this was my sex in the city year where I just wanted to date as many people as I could until I found the one. So I went on dating apps and I started dating all different types of guys. I
This doesn't mean sleeping with them, even though, you know, there's no shame in whatever you want to do in life. But I just mean meeting people, going to dinner, going for drinks, whatever it is. Just really stepping my foot into the dating pool in Manhattan and seeing what was actually out there for me. Because I was genuinely curious. I was always in a relationship. So this was the one year of time where I really had where I was in my single girl era. Yeah.
There was one guy I went on a date with. He was very attractive in his pictures. I thought he was really, really good looking.
And to test the waters a little bit before I actually met up with him in person, I was nervous. So I sent him a voice note and I was like, hey, so where do you want to meet? I'm down to do whatever. I'm down to do drinks. I'm down to do dinner. And I sent it in a voice note to give him an idea of my personality. And I was kind of testing him in a way. I wanted to see if he sent me a voice note back.
Because then I would know he's really chill. I don't know. I think if you do something like send a voice note and the person doesn't reciprocate, it kind of indicates that maybe they don't get it. You know, they just don't get your vibe. That could be wrong. But I was just like, okay, if he's the one, he's going to send me a voice note back.
So I send him a voice note asking him what he wants to do. And he does not send me a voice note back. He just texts me. I want to go here or you can pick the place. I think he kind of left it up to me and left the plans up in the air. And I was just like, Oh, all right, here we go. So I ended up making the plans. I ended up picking the bar. I ended up picking the spot and we go. And I
I didn't know what he sounded like. I didn't know what his voice sounded like. I didn't know what impression I was going to get of him, but he knew what he was going to get from me because he saw my pictures. He heard my voice. He, I think he had an idea because how could you not? I like to keep things very open. And when I'm talking to someone or communicating with them through text, it's hard to get an idea of someone's personality just from a dating app. So what I like to do is I'll call them before the date. I'll FaceTime them or I'll send them a voice note because it's,
it cuts a lot of the bullshit out. Cause then if you hear their voice or you FaceTime them and you don't get a good vibe or you just feel like something's weird, you can cancel the date. You don't have to go and you don't have to waste two hours and time and money and energy spent on a date that you didn't want to go on. So I like to cut to the chase and,
Maybe that's my Capricorn in my chart, whatever. So I get to the bar. He looks like his pictures. He was actually really attractive, but his voice was super, super, super high pitched. It was really, really, really interesting. I don't want to make fun of anyone. I'm not here to say anything mean, but it was just so...
bizarre from the way he looked like this big guy, like very tall and muscular and attractive. And his voice was extremely squeaky and high pitched. And I'm so not the type of person to judge. I really am not. I'm so, I have a very soft heart and I'm not perfect. Some people might think I'm gross. Like, you know, I like, I have my flaws. Okay. And I know that I'm very self-aware, but I'm
It was just too much for me to handle. I couldn't contain myself. I was like, this is so... This is so weird. I don't know. I don't know what to do. He was like, hi, how are you? I'm like...
Uh, what? Hi, how are you? Okay. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I feel bad. I feel so bad even making this episode, but I have to tell you what happened because this is what happened. I'm being honest from my perception, his voice was very high. So we go upstairs to this little bar area where everyone's drinking and, um,
We order two drinks and I've already been to this bar. So I have the advantage of knowing what I want already. He doesn't. So he just picks something random and he's like, oh, I don't know. You pick for me. And he's like making me order his drink for him, which I just think is also... Listen...
I'm all for helping people. I'm all for taking over. I like being in control sometimes, but not on the first date. I just think it's really nice when a man makes decisions on the first date. Now, does this apply to every situation? Maybe not. Maybe you prefer to take charge. But for me, I just think it's...
It's nice. It's just nice to know that he could take charge and make decisions for himself. And, you know, date three, four or five. I'm happy to pick the place. I'm happy to give him suggestions on the menu. But it just felt like I was the man in the situation, given the whole circumstance between his voice. And then I was picking his ordering his drink for him. And I
I was like, all right, this is very interesting dynamic, but whatever. I'm down to just stick it out and have a conversation with him still because we're here. And he was telling me something about how he was a doctor and how if anyone fucks with him, he will die.
prescribed them the wrong medication or something. I don't even know exactly what he said. This was, keep in mind, this was in 2019. So it was several years ago. He said something really off right away, right off the bat, kind of explaining what he did for work and then throwing in these like weird jokes that I think were his version of dark humor. But it was just too early on for me to laugh. I was like,
what like what is he saying right now I was just disoriented and I was like why is he saying this he was saying how he would prescribe people the wrong meds if they fucked with him in the office I'm like what like what is going on I'm I'm lost I don't know what he's saying I don't know if he's kidding whatever I'm trying to just like
nod my head and smile and the drinks come over and he takes a sip of his drink and he's like, I don't like this. And then he takes my drink and starts drinking my drink and asks me if I can order a new one for myself. Now that's where I realize I'm like, this is done. This is, we're done. The date ended before it even began and he drank my drink. I let him have my drink. I ordered a new one and I'm
We sat there for maybe an hour. I don't know how I lasted that long. I don't remember the rest of the conversation of what we talked about. I blacked out just purely by the fact that I did not want to be there. And I left as soon as I could. I remember, I think it was my birthday the next day. And he was like, oh, I'm so honored that you're celebrating your birthday with me. And I'm like, what? What are you saying? I don't even know. So...
Long story short, I left the date and that did not work out. I remember I went to my best friend's apartment after it was midnight. It was pretty late, but we were planning on going out after that. And she was like, how was the date? I'm like, no, this is just the start of me in my single girl era going on dating apps did not go as planned. Date one was not good. It just felt really fucking weird and uncomfortable. Yeah.
Then, I kind of forgot about that, brushed it off. I was like, all right, it wasn't that bad. It was an hour of my time. I can get over it. It really wasn't that big of a deal. It wasn't the worst date I've ever been on. So, I'll just let it slide and forget about it. I'll try again. Let's pick up the pieces and go back on the dating apps. So, I go on a dating app maybe a couple weeks later, match with this guy that's also very attractive. I'm
I love his vibe. He looks like he hikes, goes on adventures. He's all of his pictures are outside. This is going to play into the story. And this is an important piece of information. All of his photos are outdoors in nature. And I don't know, you get the point. Okay. He's just a nature guy. That's what it looked like. So I was like, all right, this is, this is cool. And, um,
He was super flaky with plans. Every time we would try to make a plan, he would ghost me. We would say, oh, do you want to hang out today? And then he would reply maybe six or seven hours later. Super bizarre. Then
A few weeks later, I remember he circled back to the conversation. He's like, I'm so sorry. I've been so busy. Do you want to meet in the park? And I'm like, meet in the park? Like, you don't want to go on a date. You don't want to go out to dinner. Do you want to go to dinner? He said, I cook all my meals myself and I don't go out to restaurants. And I'm like,
That was the weirdest thing I've ever heard from someone. You live in New York City. You live in Manhattan. You've never gone out to a restaurant in Manhattan before. It was hard for me to believe. I didn't really understand what that meant. So I was questioning him and grilling him a little bit. I was like, what do you mean you don't go out to eat ever? Obviously, it would just be nice to meet in a public space the first time I'm going on a date with you because...
I don't know you. I'm not going to come to your house. I'm not going to come to where you are, where I don't know anyone else, maybe like in the woods or wherever you're asking me to meet. And I don't know what's going to happen for my own safety. I would prefer we met in a public spot at a restaurant or we grabbed coffee. He was not down for any of that. He was just very against this whole concept of
going anywhere, even to spend $5 on a coffee. So there were so many red flags. But keep in mind also, I was new to the dating scene. I had always had a boyfriend. So going into the dating app world, going into this world where...
I didn't really know a lot about the New York dating market or just dating in general off of apps. I didn't know the rules of the dating apps of what to do and what not to do. I didn't know what was normal and what wasn't normal. I had nothing to compare it to. I had no friends that could really guide me either because I just didn't. So...
When he was suggesting that we meet in a park, I thought that was completely normal. And maybe that is to an extent if he was talking about taking a walk through Central Park and getting a coffee and chatting. But I don't even know what park he was referring to. He just asked me the park. There's 300 parks in New York. So I'm just backstabbing.
baffled and confused. And we keep putting off the plans because it just kept going in circles where he wasn't being consistent. But then in his pictures, he's so hot. So I'm like, is he just playing me? Maybe he's going on 10 other dates this week and I'm just, you know, number 10 on the roster. So he just keeps getting back to me. Who the fuck knows?
So eventually we make a plan. Eventually it happens. Maybe a few weeks after that of going back and forth with the conversation, we decide to meet in a coffee shop. And when I'm sitting there, this guy walks in with a backpack filled with holes. Like the backpack was completely falling apart and he smelled like a dumpster and he had dirt on his face and his hair was like,
clearly not washed. It was just sad because suddenly I realized that this man was homeless and using a phone to text girls on a dating app. He was homeless. I...
Was shocked. I didn't know what to do because he looked nothing like his pictures, but he did. It almost looked like those pictures were from 10 years ago and he was still using them. And then something in his life happened and he was homeless and he was afraid to, you know, update his profile and be honest with who he was and,
He was completely homeless, hence why he wanted to meet in the park, hence why he didn't want to go to dinner or spend a dollar on anything because he couldn't. And that's okay. I empathize with everyone and their situations. And I've been in positions where I've had no money and I've had to rebuild my life from the ground up and I've lost everything.
crazy amounts of money where I've had to rebuild and recoup things. And I had to move home with my parents last year for financial reasons. Like I get the concept of being in a really, really bad financial place. So it's not about the money. It's not about the, you know, any of that. It's the fact that he was catfishing me. That was the problem. It was the fact that
I felt unsafe because he was nothing how he portrayed himself on a dating app. Like if you saw his pictures, he just looked like so different. It was insane, but I could still tell that it was him. It was similar enough to know that it was him, but it was like him if he had gone on a eight year safari track and hadn't eaten in a while and hadn't showered in months. So I
I'm sitting in the coffee shop like, what the fuck do I do? I feel bad.
I feel obligated to stay here and talk to him and be kind because I want to be, but at the same time he catfished me and I feel terrible, but I also feel this isn't my responsibility to talk to someone that catfished me and is talking to me through Bumble, but he's homeless. That doesn't really make any sense to me and that doesn't feel safe and it doesn't feel right because I feel that's extremely bizarre. And I,
See, I care so much about people that I didn't want to leave and just be like, all right, peace out. This isn't what I thought it was, but I was super polite and I spoke to him for a while and I listened to his story and he was telling me how he did not have a place to live. And, um,
I felt just terrible, honestly. But at the same time, I was shaking because I was so nervous because I felt like I had been lied to. And I hadn't known all the details. He hadn't been clear about his intentions or he hadn't been honest about his situation at all whatsoever. And my mentality was like, why are you trying to date people right now if you aren't in a position to invest your time and energy and
a little bit of money to getting to know someone and going on dates with people. I just don't think it's fair to the women. And I think it's, it's really putting them in a weird position because I think it just wasn't right. I don't know. Something felt really fucking sketchy and weird about it, but yeah,
At the same time, I hope he's doing well. I hope he's gotten his life together since then. I hope he is doing much better than he was a few years ago because I felt awful and I wanted to help him. But at the same time, why are you on Bumble? What are you doing? I was at a loss for words. It was really fascinating and
Yeah. I, you know, I wish him the best. I hope he's doing well. There was a time also where I was dating a guy for about four months and I remember the last date I went on with him was a fucking disaster. We also met on a dating app and he invited me to this beer house where you play games and
in downtown New York City. And I went and I was nervous. So I chugged like two beers or something at the bar when I got there before he arrived. And he was late. And I just kept drinking. So I was so, so nervous that I got so fucked up. And I was like, I don't know. I
What I'm even thinking right now. Like I couldn't even walk straight. I couldn't think straight. The room was spinning. I hadn't eaten a lot that day. It was my fault. I got too messed up too quickly. And by the time he got there, I like forgot that I was meeting him for a date. And I was just like talking to the bartender about something. And I go over to this guy when he finally walks in and he's like, Oh, I'm
Were you flirting with the bartender? Do you like him? And I'm like, what the fuck? What are you saying? Like he was getting mad that I was talking to the bartender. I was like, no, I was just drinking and I was having a conversation with the person that was serving me alcohol. I'm not flirting with the bartender. What the fuck? So we are sitting in,
what is it called? Connect four, I think. And, you know, there was like people at different tables playing games and we were at this table with connect four. So we were playing connect four and I was so fucked up. I couldn't even play the game. Like he was putting these chips in the connect four thing. And I was like trying to put the chips in. I couldn't even put the chips in cause I couldn't see straight. And I,
I got so drunk that I spilled my drink everywhere, spilled my beer everywhere, knocked the connect four thing down. Everything fell all over the floor, like all the pieces, all the chips. I just was making a fucking mess at the table and I was all over him. I think I was like grabbing his hand and like we weren't that close. We weren't in a relationship by any means. We were just, we'd gone on a couple of dates and yeah,
This I do remember about that night. He looked at me like he never wanted to see me again. He looked at me like I was a fucking psychopath. And I told him that I just was really wasted. I was like, I'm so sorry. I am so drunk right now. And he's looking at me like I'm a fucking alien and that he never wanted to be seen out with me in public ever again. I feel like he didn't even want to...
be seen with me in public regardless, but he was like, I don't know. Maybe he thought he wouldn't see anyone at this weird beer game house thing. I don't even know where we were. I don't remember the name. I don't remember the name of it. I don't even remember exactly where it was, but yeah,
And he definitely did not like me. He definitely did not have a genuine interest in me. I think he was just trying to have sex with me because then he was like, all right, you want to go back to my place? And I was like, we just got here like an hour ago. And I know it's 6 p.m. I don't want to go back to your apartment right now.
And he was like, well, I just forgot. I have my friend's birthday party. And he got up and left me. He left me in the bar by myself, wasted with the room spinning around me. Keep in mind,
I was so drunk that I almost dismissed the fact that he just completely abandoned me because I was like too drunk to even notice that he abandoned me, but he abandoned me. He literally made a run for it, ran out the door. I was like, did I say something wrong? Like, I don't know what the fuck just happened. Everything happened so fast that I couldn't even say bye to, he didn't even say bye to me. I remember he did not even say goodbye. He just vanished off the face of the earth and
And then I was thinking, did he see someone he knew in there? Like another girl he was hooking up with his girlfriend. I don't know if he was cheating on someone. I don't know what the fuck happened. All I remember is he made a fucking run for the door, sprinted out the door and
did not want anything to do with me ever again and I was so insecure in that moment because then I realized that he left and I was looking around I'm like where did he go where did he go realizing that he fucking left me he went somewhere else either he went to find his girlfriend because she was probably texting saying where are you babe and he was on a date or he just never wanted anything to do with me again because I was too drunk I don't fucking know what happened I just know that he was not interested so
That's a story time about the time I got literally stranded at a bar because I was a fucking mess. And it could have been way worse. I don't think it's the craziest thing, but it was just... I felt embarrassed and humiliated only because he really...
didn't want to be around me. And when someone makes it so clear that you do not want anything to do with you, it can really fuck up your self-esteem in that moment. But I was trying my best to keep it together. I was like, okay, maybe it's not as bad as you think it is. Maybe you're just really drunk. Maybe he told you where he was going and you forgot because you're wasted. I don't know. I ended up calling myself an Uber. I go home and I text him
asking him if he wants to come over after he's done with his friend's birthday party. I don't even know what the fuck I was thinking. I don't know why I texted him that. I don't know what desperate, weird loser energy I was giving that night.
I was so drunk. I just, I feel like when you drink too much, especially if you haven't eaten a lot before you drink, your brain goes into a different fucking dimension. It goes into a parallel reality where you have no fucks given. You don't care about anything. You will say or do anything that's on your mind or that's even a subconscious thought. You don't think it's a big deal. So you'll just say it or do it. And I'm like,
I rarely, rarely get that way. And I stopped drinking after 2019. I have barely touched alcohol since. I'm not a fan of getting drunk at all. For those of you who know me and have listened to my podcast, you know that I'm not a fan of alcohol, especially because of the lack of control and things like this that I vividly remember now just cringing at myself. But I...
was asking him to come over after all that. I don't know why. Don't ask me why. It's giving desperate as fuck. So he ends up texting me. I think it was like an hour later or two hours later saying, I'll let you know. But of course he never let me know because he was probably laughing with his friends at his phone. Like, look at this fucking desperate bitch that I ditched at the bar. She's still texting me.
Looking back, I just didn't know my value. I was so lost and swept up in this idea that guys can change if you say and do the right things. And I always thought that if I showed a guy that I was cool and funny and I got drunk with him and I played games with him in a beer hall, suddenly he would fall in love with me and love me and be obsessed with me. But that's never how it works. It's crazy looking back how many times I've
given men third, fourth, fifth chances on dates, spent time with them, trying to get to know them, trying to really open them up only to realize that they just wanted one thing. They wanted to have sex with me. And this isn't everyone. This isn't, you know, applicable to every situation, but
I always thought maybe there was a chance that we would date or there was a chance that things would develop into something only to realize that I was just so fucking delusional. And the right guy will never make you feel like an option or ditch you at a bar when you're wasted and you can barely stand. I mean, for a drunk person, I carry myself very well. I think I come off like I know how to control myself. But in that moment, in that night, I remember I was just...
I was not okay. I almost thought someone spiked my drink because it was excessive. I only had two beers. So I don't know. I was like, oh, maybe it's because I haven't eaten. But then also maybe someone, I don't know, someone put something in my drink because I was really not okay. I could not control myself. And I was saying and doing things I was not...
I usually wouldn't do. So I don't know. I really don't know what happened that night. But that being said, that was probably one of the most embarrassing, weird things that's ever happened to me on a date. And that never worked out. That situation just was a complete fail. I remember after that, I never saw that man again. And he added me on Snapchat a few months later. I was like, what are you doing? I just ignored it because I wasn't about to open that
situation up again, especially because I don't even use Snapchat and I don't even know why I got that notification, but I did. And I was like, all right, no, this is not happening, but it's just interesting. You know, like that expression, they always come back. Yeah. They always come back, but it doesn't mean they're right for you. It doesn't mean they're not a piece of shit. So do with that information, whatever you will, whatever you want to do with it.
But yeah, those are three dates that I've been on that were really interesting. Very, very interesting. And I have plenty more where that came from. I really do. But I think I'm going to wrap up today's episode and I'll make another episode dedicated to more crazy dating story times. If you guys enjoyed that, I have a lot more where that came from for sure. But it's been a long morning and it's time for breakfast and it's time to go to the gym. So I love you guys. Thank you as always for listening to Date Yourself Instead. I
I hope that got you through your day, your workout, your walk, your bedtime, whatever you're doing right now. I don't know what I'm saying. It's been a very long, long morning and I need more coffee and I need a nap already. So...
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