Becoming A Love Magnet | Rewind
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Hi everyone, it's Jessica. This is an episode I made a couple of years ago when I was part of our sister show, Sleepwave. So as a special holiday treat to you all, we are pulling it out from the archives, which are only usually available to subscribers. I think it's a perfect rewind for the holiday season because it will help us all love and accept ourselves and everyone around us. So let's give ourselves that gift of love tonight. Enjoy.

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And the fact that we can create something where you can relax and let go makes me, I don't know, I mean, happy just doesn't even do it justice. So thank you for your feedback. And please, everybody, feel free to let us know how you're doing. Okay, tonight, becoming a love magnet. We recently received a request from someone wanting to become a love magnet. In fact, they asked for it twice.

And I think that's great. Now, believe me, I'm no expert in the romance department, and you may mean that kind of love, but I do have some opinions on love in general and how it works in daily life. But first, a little background. I teach a class called Hypnosis for Actors. And in it, students make self-hypnosis recordings in order to feel good and train their own minds. And one day a student came up to me and she said,

I want to put on my recording, people like me. And I smiled because I totally understood where she was coming from. But the suggestion just wasn't going to cut it. One of the rules of self-hypnosis is that the suggestions must be personal. In other words, they have to be about the person receiving them and not the other people in your life.

No matter how good you get at self-hypnosis, you can't actually control other people. So I said to her, I think that suggestion is backwards. Instead of people like me, it needs to be, I like people. She didn't like that. I mean, who would? People can be annoying. People have hurt us. People don't do what we want them to do.

But if we wait around for people to please us, we may never love that much. So how do we love people? How do we actively practice love? Well, there are many forms of love, but I think that all love springs from acceptance. That is the soil of love. When we accept another person,

their strengths, their weaknesses, their quirks. We open to allow our energy to flow to that other person. Energy that is unfettered by the ego, unfettered by judgment. That energy, I believe, is love. And people can feel it. It's like an invisible fertilizer that we offer others. Here, be yourself.

I support you fully in being yourself. Acceptance allows people to grow into themselves, and that feels good, and that gives them a good feeling about you. It's by loving that we attract more love. So if you want to become a love magnet, I think you need to offer love first.

Now, there's no guarantee that you're going to make a specific individual love you. I'm sorry about that. I've tried. It doesn't always work. But the bonus here is that by simply loving, we feel good. And so tonight we're going to practice loving. By being someone who loves easily and generously, you should attract love right back at you from the world. So get yourself into a safe and comfortable position.

And let's begin. Allow your eyes to close easily and gently. And now bring your awareness to your breathing, but allow your breath to be normal and natural. But your awareness, your consciousness, your conscious mind is coming back to your breath. Just imagine that your awareness is like a little surfer surfing the wave of your breath.

And your awareness may move around, flit about, but you bring it back as that little surfer surfing the wave. And you notice that your mind is beginning to settle just a little. Your mind slowing down just a little. Good. So let's bring your attention now into your eyelids and just allow your eyelids to

to be heavy, so heavy. Imagine that your eyelids are like those heavy red velvet curtains on a Broadway stage. Just allow your eyelids to feel so relaxed, so sleepy, so heavy. It feels good to finally allow the sleepiness

to take over your eyes. And now I'd like you to accept the suggestion that your eyelids are so relaxed that they simply will not open. And as you know, if you really want to open your eyes, you can, but you don't have to. There's no need to. Let's just pretend that you can't. So now I'd like you to test your eyes by wiggling your eyebrows

Just give them a little tug. Good. As you take yourself deeper and even deeper into relaxation. Now this relaxation around your eyes, this delicious heaviness around your eyes, is the same quality of relaxation that you will soon have throughout your entire body. So I'd like you to imagine yourself

this relaxation around your eyes moving back into your head and then coursing like a waterfall down your entire body all the way to your toes. Just accept this warm, delicious relaxation from the top of your head all the way down to your toes.

Your whole body feeling heavy on the bed. Your whole body going deeper and deeper. And as your body is relaxing, your mind is relaxing. And as your mind is relaxing, your body is relaxing. And as your body is relaxing, your mind is relaxing.

as the sounds going on around you are taking you deeper and deeper. And the only sound you need to pay any attention to is the sound of my voice. And the sound of my voice is also taking you deeper and deeper. And soon my voice will sound distant and you won't even hear it.

anymore and you will drift and float and dream. Imagine now that you are standing at the top of a staircase. This is the staircase of relaxation. There are 10 steps and with every step that you will take, you will go deeper and even deeper into relaxation. You're standing now

on step number 10. And now you're moving down to step number 9 as you go deeper and deeper. And now down to step number 8. Feeling so relaxed, so comfortable. 7. Taking yourself deeper and deeper. 6. 5. Going deeper and deeper.

3, 2, and 1. You are now standing in front of a door that says "safe room". This is where you practice love and acceptance. Open the door. Enter the room. It's a beautiful, warm, safe place. You feel very comfortable here. In the middle of the room,

is a large, cozy, reclining chair. Sit down in the chair and allow yourself to go deeper and deeper. First, you begin by connecting with yourself. Bring your hands to your heart and repeat after me: I accept myself completely. I accept my strengths

I accept my weaknesses. I accept my humanity. I accept myself completely. Any judgment or conflict I've ever felt about myself has evaporated. I accept that I am alive, a spirit in a human body. I allow myself

I allow myself to take up space. I allow my energy to expand as you go deeper and deeper and feel your energy expanding. It's not the physical energy that you expend during the day, but the quiet inner being

that's behind the scenes all the time. The quiet inner self that you carry within you all the time. You allow your inner self to expand. I accept my inner being. I allow myself to expand into the world. Notice that a warm,

is expanding out of your body into the room. It is lighting up your safe room. And the more relaxed you become, the stronger the light becomes. As you go deeper, the light becomes brighter. Your core is made of love. And as you let go,

accepting yourself fully. The love is unleashed. Love is the pure positive energy at the center of your being. This is the energy that we give as love to other people. We offer our inner being in its glory, its light,

and its warmth. When we offer this warm, expansive light to others, we love them, and their love is their inner being offered to us. Imagine someone now standing in front of you who's easy to love. Notice how you feel in the presence of this person.

Allow your body to relax. Allow your inner being to expand. It feels good to love. It feels good to expand. You can practice love anywhere, anytime. It doesn't matter whom you're with. It's a decision you make inside yourself.

So imagining this person in front of you, repeat after me, "I accept you fully. I accept your strengths. I accept your weaknesses. I am so grateful for you. My inner being expands in your presence." How does the person in front of you respond? What happens

When someone receives love, do they expand or contract? Great. You're doing great. Now I'd like you to imagine someone who's been harder for you to love. Someone you've had issues with. Notice how your body reacts when you see this person. Notice what changes. And that's okay.

You don't have to like this person, but you can accept them for simply being another human on the planet. As you relax, going deeper and deeper, allowing your body to be loose and limp like a rag doll. Every cell, every nerve, every muscle relaxed.

You are accepting this person. The deeper you go into relaxation, you're accepting this person. You don't need to do anything or conjure positive feelings. Just relax and let go. It's safe to let go in this room. As you say to this person, "I accept your weaknesses.

Have you judged this person for their weaknesses? What are their weaknesses? Have their weaknesses allowed you to feel superior? How have you stopped yourself from accepting this person exactly as they are? As you say, I accept your weaknesses just as I accept my own.

And now I'd like you to consider this person's strengths. What are their strengths? What is fundamentally good about this person? There's something good in every person. Notice what is good. Appreciate what is good. Love what is good. As you say, I accept

your strengths, just as I accept my own. And finally, imagine this person's inner being. They have an inner being, just like you do. Imagine their inner being expanding, relaxing, going beyond the limits of their body. See the glow of life.

in this person. As you say, I accept your humanity just as I accept my own. Now imagine your inner being connecting with their inner being. Allow your energy meet their energy. It feels good to let your spirit touch another spirit

This is love. Enjoy it. As you practice love in your safe room, as you practice allowing your inner being to expand, you will notice that you touch the spirits of other people, that you connect with them on a level they may not even know exists.

And your inner being, as it expands, invites other people's inner beings to expand. Are a spirit magnet. And you no longer wait to be loved by others. Love first. It feels so good to love. It feels so good to expand.

As you drift and float and dream.