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My Tween is Pulling Away. Is That Normal?

2024/3/19
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Dr. Becky: 本期节目讨论了青春期孩子与父母疏离的问题,指出这可能是正常现象,也可能是其他问题的表现。建议父母关注孩子整体情况,寻找与孩子沟通的有效方法,例如了解孩子感兴趣的话题(如电子游戏),并尝试以此为切入点与孩子建立联系。同时,父母也需要管理自身的焦虑情绪,避免过度担忧。 Dr. Becky 强调,青春期孩子为了建立自我认同感,可能会与父母保持距离,这是一种正常的过渡阶段。父母应该允许自己为此感到悲伤、担忧等情绪,但不能让这些情绪主导自己的行为。建议父母设定时间线,来处理担忧的情绪,避免因为担忧而过度焦虑。 Dr. Becky 还建议父母关注孩子在各个方面(学习、社交、兴趣爱好等)的表现是否发生了大的变化。如果孩子对很多事情都失去了兴趣,那才是值得关注的。 Dr. Becky 建议母亲了解《堡垒之夜》游戏,并尝试与儿子一起玩游戏或学习游戏,以此建立联系。通过了解并参与孩子感兴趣的事情,可以增强与孩子的联系,让孩子感受到父母的理解和关心。通过与孩子分享共同的兴趣爱好,可以收集到更多积极的信息,从而减轻父母的担忧。 母亲: 我的11岁半的儿子最近变得越来越安静,很少主动与我分享事情,这让我很担心。他晚上会和朋友一起玩游戏,并且很活跃,这让我更加困惑,不知道这是否正常,以及是否需要干预。我试图避免用问题轰炸他,但他的沉默让我感到焦虑。我担心他是否抑郁,或者是否有其他问题。

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As our kids grow up and pull away, it can feel like they're breaking up with us. This week, Dr. Becky talks to a mom wondering why her son feels so distant as he begins middle school. He seems to have plenty of time to play video games and talk to his friends but she feels like she doesn't know anything about his life anymore.Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/49Hc9Bq

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