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Mom, Where Is My Water Bottle? And Other Executive Functioning Mysteries

2024/8/6
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Dr. Becky: 本期节目讨论了儿童执行功能,这是一个父母经常遇到的问题,它与许多日常生活中孩子遇到的困难有关,例如:想要某样东西却得不到,无法计划和保持组织性,无法思考未来等。父母常常因孩子经历的困难阶段而自责,但当情况好转后,又会因没有及时寻求帮助而加倍自责。这可能是因为父母太忙,无法充分利用他们可能投资的任何资源。 Dr. Becky: 高管功能技能的发展依赖于持续的努力和练习,而不是年龄。父母不应该等待孩子达到某个年龄才开始培养这些技能。理解孩子的行为需要了解其背后的原因,就像网球教练需要了解球员击球失误的原因一样。诊断并非借口,而是解释。父母应该专注于适应和调整,而不是期望世界改变以适应孩子。父母应该接受孩子内心的冲动,而不是试图改变这些冲动。父母应该帮助孩子学习如何控制冲动,而不是试图消除冲动本身。父母应该验证孩子的冲动,并帮助孩子学习如何应对这些冲动。父母应该给自己一些宽容,因为建立日常作息安排是一个需要不断练习和调整的过程。韧性和挫折承受能力密切相关,韧性是指在面对挑战时能够保持冷静和积极的态度,而挫折承受能力是指能够承受学习过程中的挫折。父母应该帮助孩子学习如何承受挫折,而不是试图避免挫折。 Dr. Becky: 制定和遵守日常作息安排是高管功能的重要组成部分,有助于孩子更好地过渡到不同的活动。日常作息安排可以帮助人们减少生活中的不确定性,从而减少压力和焦虑。父母应该尝试使用视觉辅助工具来帮助孩子建立日常作息安排,即使一开始可能会感到困难。韧性与高管功能密切相关,韧性是指在面对挑战时能够保持冷静和积极的态度。父母应该鼓励孩子解决问题,并专注于过程而非结果。 Zac Grisham: 高管功能是指利用前额叶皮层组织世界和现实的能力,包括抑制本能、拥有短期记忆、随时解决问题和提前计划的能力。许多高管功能技能与当今文化格格不入,因为当今文化崇尚即时满足,人们受到大量不同刺激的轰炸。许多父母对孩子感到沮丧的事情都与高管功能有关,例如:孩子知道不应该打兄弟姐妹,但仍然会打;孩子知道应该带水壶去学校,但仍然忘记带。患有ADHD或执行功能障碍的孩子就像一辆快车,他们的刹车系统发育不良,但可以得到改善。ADHD 的诊断标准包含一些高管功能技能,例如:冲动抑制、处理速度、短期工作记忆和持续专注的能力。患有 ADHD 的孩子通常会存在某种程度的执行功能障碍。理解高管功能障碍有助于父母理解孩子,避免自责或责备孩子。对 ADHD 的诊断可以帮助父母更好地理解孩子,避免自责,并找到合适的干预方法。培养孩子的自我控制能力需要父母重新调整看待问题的方式,将自我控制视为抑制冲动,并关注孩子冲动行为背后的想法和感受。培养孩子的自我控制能力需要允许孩子犯错,并在事后与孩子沟通,了解其想法和感受,帮助孩子反思行为。在孩子犯错后,父母应该与孩子进行沟通,帮助孩子反思行为,并学习如何做出更好的选择。说谎可能是冲动控制和回避行为的结果,父母应该给孩子时间思考,并引导孩子反思行为。父母应该将自我控制视为一项技能,而不是性格特征,并以身作则,为孩子树立榜样。父母应该关注孩子学习的过程,而不是仅仅关注结果。父母应该帮助孩子将负面反馈与自身价值区分开来,并专注于解决问题。父母应该鼓励孩子解决问题,并专注于过程而非结果。父母应该避免比较、自责和将孩子的行为与自身价值联系起来,并专注于过程。

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There are certain topics that come up time and time again with parents. Executive functioning is one of them. If you're wondering how to help your child develop more self control, more emotion regulation, stick to routines, have more sustained focus, and build resilience, then this episode is for you. Certified ADHD professional and author, Zac Grisham, joins Dr. Becky to discuss strategies we can use to increase our kids' executive functioning skills that will serve them for life.Get the Good Inside App by Dr. Becky: https://bit.ly/4doK9nF)Join Good Inside Membership: https://bit.ly/465BjceGood Inside's Back to School Toolkit: https://bit.ly/46yGEsw)Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinsideSign up for our weekly email, Good Insider: https://www.goodinside.com/newsletterOrder Dr. Becky's book, Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be, at goodinside.com/book or wherever you order your books.For a full transcript of the episode, go to goodinside.com/podcastTo listen to Dr. Becky's TED Talk on repair visit https://www.ted.com/talks/becky_kennedy_the_single_most_important_parenting_strategyToday’s episode is brought to you by Mommy's Bliss: It seems like during the school year, kids are always coming home with something! And finding an over-the-counter medicine that Dr. Becky trusts can be a real challenge. That's why she loves Mommy's Bliss. Mommy's Bliss has been the highly trusted baby brand for 25 years, and if you’re a parent, you probably know about their Gripe Water or Vitamin D drops. Now, they’ve launched a new Pain & Fever medicine that is not only safe and effective for infants and children, but it's also the first-ever Clean Label Project Certified acetaminophen. Here’s what that means for parents: no high fructose corn syrup, no dyes, no artificial sweeteners, and it's free from the top 9 allergens. But don’t worry— they didn’t leave out the part kids actually care about. It has a delicious natural berry flavor with organic elderberry, which means kids don’t put up a fight when it’s time to take it. For minor aches and pains caused by colds, flu, sore throats, and toothaches, there's Mommy's Bliss Pain & Fever. Now that's medicine for peace of mind. Today’s episode is brought to you by Skylight: Let's talk about family schedules. You know those days when you're like, "Wait, who has soccer? What's for dinner? Did I forget a dentist appointment?" Yeah, Dr. Becky too. All. The. Time. Skylight Calendar has been a lifesaver in her house. It's a smart, touch-screen calendar that auto-syncs all of her existing digital calendars. That way, they can see their schedules, chores, meals and to-dos, all in one place. No more confusion and honestly no more unnecessary arguments with her husband about not knowing what our plans are! The best part? It's kid-approved. Nothing gets a kid more excited about chores than an emoji celebration when they're completed. If you're drowning in sticky notes and forgotten appointments, check out skylightcal.com/goodinside) and use code GOODINSIDE for $50 off a 15" calendar.