I Choose...Me
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Just to get to this very moment with you and you have no idea how grateful I am that you are here with me, that you chose to listen today. Look at that. You guys just made your very first choice on the I Choose Me podcast. Celebrate that. This is a crazy statistic I heard. We make like 35,000 choices a day. Think about that. That is a lot of choices.

I mean, we make so many choices before we even get out of bed. I've made a lot of choices, some good, some bad. But I'm going to go on record here and say that I don't really believe in bad choices anymore. Because if I didn't make choices that were bad or, you know, that had some negative consequence, I wouldn't have learned anything.

I wouldn't have gotten the messages that I'm supposed to get to move forward to like the next level, you know. I want this podcast to be a safe space for us to share with each other, to get vulnerable, to talk about our choices, our good ones, our bad ones. And that's what I'm going to do. I'm going to share my choices with you today.

the highs and the lows of my life, and we are going to take a look at them. Because if you think about it, it's pretty cool to sit back and sort of examine the choices that you've made in your life, right? To think, wait, was that a good choice? Was that a bad choice? What did I learn from that? Would I make that same choice again?

My answer to that is usually going to be yes, because like I said, I don't believe there are any bad choices. We're exactly where we're supposed to be. But I want us to start sharing because I feel like we're all walking around with these secrets, you know, secrets from our lives that we're afraid to share with other people. We're embarrassed to share with other people. But the fact is,

We are all going through the same things. We are all making very similar choices out there. We just have different circumstances.

So that in itself is going to connect us on this podcast because we're all in this together. And I want you to feel comfortable knowing that it's okay to share your choices. And I want you to be unapologetic about them, about who you are and who you are meant to be. And I want us to start loving ourselves just a little bit more every day. But first I want to explain where this podcast came from, the genesis of it all, because

The title is a little weird. I choose me. But in order to explain that, I'm going to ask you to rewind all the way back to 1995. That was almost 30 years ago, if you can wrap your brains around that. Anywho, for all of you Beverly Hills 90210 fans out there, and you know who you are, you are probably going to know where I'm going with this. My most memorable line is,

In all of the 10 years of the show was on season five, episode 30, when my character, Kelly Taylor, hello, she had to choose between two of the hottest, most popular guys on television at that time, Brandon Walsh and Dylan McKay. I mean, that is a tough choice. Jessica Klein, obviously.

was a friend of mine. She was our writer, our producer, and she wrote that line for me. And it was just three little words. And I'll be honest, I didn't really understand them when I was saying them. I didn't really get it. And I just was like, okay, if you think this is what I should say, then I will say it. I was just trying to do my job, you know, and I didn't understand the poignancy of that line.

I was 21, maybe 22 years old, and I was just sort of winging it and making it up. Fast forward to now, like now, while I'm growing up. We're all growing up still. It's happening. I'm growing up right now in front of you. I kind of think like if you're not growing, you're slowing. That's my motto. If you're not growing, you're slowing. But anyway, I'm about to get really vulnerable with you guys. A few years ago, it was like 2018, 2019 before the pandemic.

I was feeling really lost. I was, I don't know, life was just moving forward. You know, years were going by, going by. But I didn't know what I was moving toward. I didn't feel like I had that goal, you know, what I wanted to do next. Have you ever felt that way? I have three girls. I love them so, so much.

But they were getting older and they honestly just didn't need me as much. I was a Perry empty nester, if you know what I mean. I was bored. I was depressed. I was restless. I was frustrated with my career. I wasn't getting the roles that I wanted to get. I didn't feel like I was giving anything to the world. I was doing a lot of waiting and I didn't know which direction. I didn't know where.

where to go or what I wanted. And so many people talk so much about purpose. I wanted to find my purpose. I realized that I've spent my life just going with the flow. I never had a plan. I never wanted to be an actress. I never wanted to be a mom. I never thought about my wedding day and what that was going to look like. I just, I never planned for things. I never dreamt about what I wanted. I didn't go to college. I didn't go to college.

And I never had that sort of time to lay out my life and think about what I wanted to achieve. It was a whirlwind, you know, my life. And I just never had that opportunity to stop and think about what do I want? And I had so much, you know, at that point. I was successful and I had a home and, you know, I had this happy, seemingly happy life.

And I felt selfish for wanting more, honestly. Like I didn't think that I was allowed to want more. I was paralyzed basically with uncertainty and confusion and fear. Fear of making a deliberate choice and then not having whatever it took to make that choice happen. Like I didn't want to fail.

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I was afraid of failing. Growing up, my mom had every self-help book ever written, every fad diet book ever written. They lined the shelves in our house. And I got to be honest, I was a little embarrassed when people would come over and they would see all the self-help books. I would be like, yeah, those are my mom's. Don't worry about it. But I started to kind of look through those books from time to time.

And eventually I started to read some of them, like from cover to cover. Jonathan Livingston Siegel, I'm okay, you're okay, the road less traveled. My favorite was a book called How to Feed Your Family on $12 a Day. It was this little paperback green cover book. It had no pictures in it of any food. So you really had to make it up in your mind. But there was this banana bread recipe that I used to make all the time.

And it worked very well when I wanted to bribe my sisters to do something for me. So that banana bread recipe was definitely worth it. But there was this other book, this other book about astrology. And, you know, it like broke down your birth date and what you were going to be like or what you should be like on your birthday. Mine, April 3rd, said I was strong-willed, creative, sometimes stubborn, impatient, fiercely loyal. All of these things, they were true.

but then at the end it said i was destined to be a leader a public figure and it said famous you guys and i was like this is me like at 12. what no i don't know what that's i have no idea what they're talking about i don't know anything i'm just a little girl who likes to ride her pink dirt bike through the cemetery and talk to the dead people i mean i spent a lot of time alone you guys but

I just didn't get it. I didn't think like I was going to lead anybody to anything. I couldn't even figure out what I wanted. And as time passed, life happened in a bizarre turn of events. I did become famous. I did become a public figure. And so here I was still not knowing what I wanted. I had this, you know,

life and I was supposedly fulfilling my fate. According to that book, I was a wife, a mother, an actress, a producer. I was doing all the things, but I still felt incomplete somehow. I felt unfulfilled in a way that's really hard to explain. I still didn't have my purpose. COVID came and it

Yeah, that was a wild time. But you know what? It allowed me to slow down. It allowed me to be alone a little, to think and to be introspective. I started to take stock of my life. Like where had I come from? What had I been through? My Midwestern roots, my parents who were both educators. I started to just really look at all of that. And then I remembered that damn astrology book and something happened.

just kept urging me to look back in order to move forward. And when I looked back, I kept seeing that line come up for me, Jessica Klein's line, I choose me. So weird. And then I started hearing it around me. I would meet women and they would tell me how Kelly Taylor had chosen herself. And in that moment, they realized that they could choose themselves and

And I started to see the significance of it and the impact that it had on so many people. The phrase started becoming part of my everyday vocabulary. I was reading it. I was writing it. I was saying it. And you know what? I started believing it. I started living it.

With little things like throughout my day, my choices about being healthy, about going to work out, about eating better, choosing better for myself. I started to choose myself more. And then you guys, like a light bulb in my head, I am telling you, I had that aha moment that Oprah talks about that I had always wanted. I found my purpose.

I got a clear message that I was supposed to use my voice to spread that message, to teach people. That is why I'm in your ears today. I am here to tell you that it is okay to choose yourself. It is okay to take time from doing everything for everybody and choose yourself. To mentally, physically, emotionally start turning some of that love that we give everybody else into

Start turning that inward just a little bit. I want you guys to know that taking care of yourself is an opportunity for you to rediscover who you are, who you want to be. It's an opportunity for you to regain your power. It is not selfish. And anybody that ever tells you it is selfish, just walk away.

Because taking care of yourself is not a selfish act at all. When you start taking time for yourself, just even a little bit more, you're going to see your life start to unfold in the most beautiful, mind-blowing ways. Ways that you were afraid to ever dream about. I promise you. And we're never alone. That's a message that I want you guys to know. Because I felt alone a lot. But we're never alone because we always have us together.

And I never really understood that. So this is what I started to do. It may sound a little weird, but I started to look in the mirror. At first, I would be like, oh, hi. Hello. Who are you? I don't know you. What do you want? This is weird. And then I started saying, hmm, you know what? I love you. How about that? I started saying nice things to myself in the mirror. I started to say, you are beautiful.

And at first I did not believe it. But the more I said it, the more I believed it. And I just kept doing it. And that led me to sort of start talking to myself, even when I wasn't looking in the mirror. Just like in everyday situations, I would start talking to myself, to that little girl, that little innocent, totally scared girl who used to ride her dirt bike and

I would say, it's okay. You're okay. We got this. I got you. I started to sort of like be my own mommy in a weird way. And I started to be my own best friend. I started to love myself. I don't know. I would suggest you start doing that. Look in the mirror. See that little girl and tell her that you love her. And I promise you, if you start doing that,

Like I said, that's going to blow your mind. Here's how this is going to work.

Every week, we are going to talk about choices. We're going to talk about your choices. We're going to talk about my choices. I'm going to let you in on a very intimate level. I'm going to bring some of my very favorite people onto the show, and we're going to talk about the choices that I've made and what I've learned from them. And you will probably be able to relate, even though our lives are totally different, because

But you'll see, you've probably made some of the same choices I've made, or maybe you want to make some of the choices I've made. And maybe that will help you, you know, to move forward. So we're going to bring in people. My inner circle is going to come here. My manager, my longtime best friend, my husband, everybody that I listen to is going to come here.

And we're going to talk it out. And you know what, we're probably going to end up having a lot of fun along the way because some of my choices have been pretty crazy, a little out there. But like I said, I learned a lot from them. And I want to hear from you. I want to hear directly from you what topic you want to talk about, what choices of mine you want to hear about.

and what I learned from them. So write me, let us know what you want to hear about on the I Choose Me podcast. And if this message isn't enough for you, next time you go on a plane and you hear that safety message,

You know, the one that nobody ever listens to where they tell you to fasten your seatbelt, you know, and they also tell you to put your oxygen mask on yourself first before you help others. And that's what I want us to do here together. I want us to put our oxygen masks on first. Let's do that together right here on the I Choose Me podcast. I love you. Now go to the mirror and tell yourself that you love yourself.

I'll see you next week, guys.

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