Woman Evolve: Recognizing the Need to Labor w/ Stephanie Ike Okafor
Woman Evolve with Sarah Jakes Roberts
Deep Dive
Why did Stephanie Ike Okafor choose to write a book about dreams?
Initially, she was writing about forgiveness, but God interrupted her process and directed her to write about dreams. She realized the power of visual imagery in dreams, which can deeply impact one's imagination and perception, much like in the book of Revelation. She believes dreams are significant for personal communication with God and for preparing people for the changes happening in the world.
How does Stephanie Ike Okafor differentiate between dreams from God and nightmares?
She teaches that the fruit of the dream reveals its source. If a dream causes anxiety, paranoia, or fear, it likely didn't come from God, whose messages carry His nature and fragrance. Nightmares, especially in children, can indicate a lack of spiritual covering, allowing the enemy to plant fearful images. She encourages writing down all dreams to discern their true nature and not ignore potential warning signs.
What challenges did Stephanie Ike Okafor face in balancing her many roles and responsibilities?
She had to adjust her ambition to her energy levels, recognizing that God wouldn't give her a vision she couldn't handle within her life's pace. She learned to maximize every minute, often working in her car during her children's extracurricular activities. She also had to close the Woman Evolved Book Club to focus on her schoolwork, prioritizing her roles and being honest about her limitations.
How did Stephanie Ike Okafor know her husband was 'the one'?
The day before they met, she was discussing with a friend how a guy she was talking to found her intimidating. The next day, her future husband approached her at a baby shower and asked if people told her they were intimidated by her. This immediate connection felt like she had known him for a long time, and she texted her mom saying she thought she had met her husband.
How does Stephanie Ike Okafor navigate the tension between serving in ministry and personal life challenges?
She recognizes that God can advocate for her in areas where she cannot be physically present. For example, during Woman Evolve, she received a call about her cousin's husband in ICU, but she trusted God's presence and control over the situation, allowing her to focus on her ministry assignment. She applies this trust to her role as a mother, knowing her husband and God are present even when she's away.
What insights does Stephanie Ike Okafor share about Nigerian Christianity versus Western Christianity?
She notes that Nigerian Christianity focuses more on life with God, teaching principles and ways of God that speak to one's soul and spirit. In contrast, Western Christianity often emphasizes self-improvement and can be more self-centered, focusing on being a better person rather than living the life God desires. She also points out the judgmental nature within some Western Christian communities, which can be divisive and overlook the diversity within the kingdom of God.
How has Stephanie Ike Okafor's view of ministry evolved over time?
Initially, she saw ministry as exciting and fulfilling, but over time, she recognized the weight of responsibility it carries. She learned to see people deeply, understanding their burdens and needs, and to always be aware of the burden of responsibility in her ministry. She emphasizes the importance of not minimizing this responsibility and to always consecrate herself before God to hear for His people.
What advice does Stephanie Ike Okafor give to women concerned about balancing their purpose with traditional gender roles in marriage?
She advises recognizing the order of leadership in a home, which can be healthy when submitted under God. She emphasizes that cultural stereotypes should not overshadow the fact that a spouse who loves the Lord and is surrendered to God's word is more important. She highlights the beauty of leadership that supports and ensures the fulfillment of God's call on their partner's life, rather than fearing suppression.
- Sarah Jakes Roberts shares her strategies for managing multiple roles, including prioritizing, maximizing time, and adjusting ambition to energy levels.
- She emphasizes the importance of self-care, even when busy, and being honest about limitations.
- She highlights the importance of filling oneself with God's love before attempting to serve others.