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Hi, I'm Katie Lowes. And I'm Guillermo Diaz. And we're the hosts of Unpacking the Toolbox, the Scandal Rewatch podcast where we're talking about all the best moments of the show. Mesmerizing. But also, we get to hang out with all of our old Scandal friends like Bellamy Young, Scott Foley, Tony Goldwyn, Debbie Allen, Kerry Washington. Well, suit up, gladiators. Grab your big old glass of wine and prepare yourselves for an even more behind-the-scenes Scandal.
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It's hard when a relationship ends, especially a relationship that has promise and potential. If nothing changed at all, can I stay here? Will this be healthy? Sometimes our experiences set the bar for our kids. And we also have to realize they are different people. Sometimes we have to dig deep and think about who we are in order to give them what they need.
What's up, what's up? It is your girl, Sarah Jakes Roberts. We are back for another episode of the Woman Evolve podcast. How are you doing? Let me tell you, I am hoping that you get this on time, but I'm going to be honest. I am late getting this to the team, but it is not because my heart is not in the right place, but your girl has been burning it on both ends, but I am so overwhelmed right
by the incredible response you have had to my new book, Power Move. So many of you have already received a copy and I am starting to get feedback, which is really blessing me. There comes a point when that idea is just between you and God and now it's living and breathing outside of you. And it's open for feedback and criticism and call my therapist, but I'm always prepared for the worst. And when I receive good news,
It really blows me away. So I am grateful. This time next week, I will be in full launch mode for the book. I've got some exciting opportunities coming up, but I am asking that you pray for me. We are going to be in Houston, Chicago,
New York, Brooklyn, Atlanta, the DMV two times. What's up, DMV girlies? And Los Angeles. So I am soliciting your prayers as I go on the road. I'm asking that you would...
Just say a special prayer over my family and my children. It's always challenging when I am away from them. And also just say a prayer for my strength that God would constantly restore and refuel me. In addition to us being in those cities, I've got some press. And so I've got early mornings, late nights, and a good God that's going to give me strength throughout it all. How are you doing? What is going on in your world?
I am praying that this podcast is finding you in a place of partnering with God's strength and not just out here doing things all on your own. Recognizing that oftentimes when you partner with God's strength, it requires that you admit that you have some weakness. Sometimes partnering with God's strength allows us to feel like we are on top of the world. And then there are other moments when partnering with God's strength requires us to say, God, I need your help. I need...
I need your presence. I need your power. And I just want to encourage you to not be afraid to invite his peace, his presence, his power into your life. Outside of basically I'm eating and breathing power moves right now. But outside of that, I'm doing okay. I am. I'm eating better than I was eating. I was starting to crash out burnout, which means that I was in that drive through crashing out, burning out, but I'm doing better.
I can't say that I am completely on the straight and narrow, but I'm doing better. I got some good rest this weekend. Let me tell you all something. Go and make sure you don't have sleep apnea. If you are waking up with headaches or you go to bed and you're congested at night and you're not doing anything about it, you need to go talk to your doctor.
because one thing the girl had was sleep apnea. And I have this chronic congestion at nighttime. There's something about when you're laying down, the congestion gets worse. And I did not do my nighttime routine one night this weekend. And I woke up with a terrible headache. But the next night I was able to do all of my things and I got some good quality sleep. And so check with your doctor, check on your health, take care of you, do all those things.
You've been minding my business. It's time for me to mind yours. I want you to send me your advice questions to podcast at a woman evolve.com. Don't take yourself too seriously. You could even mind my business. If you want to know something about me, what's going on in my world, how I handle something, I will be glad to share it with you. But if you want me to mind your business, let me tell you, you got to be honest. One of my favorite things to do. Let's get into this week's mind your business question.
I got this question in the inbox. It came to podcast at woman evolve.com. You can send me an email or you can write me. And it says, I am a 28 year old married woman with an almost, I can't say I wouldn't be honest. Cause there's a little typo. It's just that I'm a 28 year old married with an almost one year old baby. So I think she's married.
Or I don't know if she's saying unmarried. I don't know, but I'm a rock with it. Since seeing you at the Hope Revival Tour, I turned a new leaf and decided to fully dedicate myself to remaining hopeful and seeking God more. I asked God before I learned I was pregnant to give me a sign that would show me why I would
I think it was unmarried.
I am at a point where my heart and my mind are both out the door. My feet are still in the doorway because of my current financial circumstances, not making it easy for me to leave. And of course, my daughter and being able to provide for her. I can say that my heart still has the urge to stay, but I feel like God is showing me little things that remind me of why I need to leave. But I am not sure. My question for you is when you began your journey, how did you know when God was trying to tell you to make a move?
This is such an incredible question. Thank you for trusting me with this season of your life, making a decision that is going to ultimately shape the story of your daughter's life and your life for the next few years is something that I do not take lightly. It's something I didn't take lightly when I was in your situation.
I think as much as I wanted to give my child this idea, my children, this idea of a two-parent household where they just had two people in the house, that I had to realize that there was more texture than just having two figures in the household. And part of that texture that I really wanted them to experience was having two parents who loved one another, respected one another, demonstrated love.
healthy communication, work ethic, not to mention having a foundational relationship with God. When I realized that I didn't just need a body to fill that role, I needed a really intentional person to fill that role, I recognized that I was in a bit of an uphill battle. Still, though, I wasn't convinced that it was time for me to necessarily leave
What ultimately put me in a decision where I knew I needed to make a move was I realized that I was going to deteriorate
within that relationship, that my staying didn't just mean that, well, one of us could be healthy and we could try the best that we could and the other one may have some challenges. I recognize that together we were going to create a dangerous, not just toxic, but a dangerous environment for us.
my children to be raised in. And so I made the difficult decision to protect their safety mentally, emotionally, and perhaps even physically by making that transition. I came to a place where I felt that one single parent who could control the environment, who could create stability and health and joy, and that foundation of faith was better than two people who were ultimately tearing one another apart.
That doesn't mean that I didn't have to grieve what I thought the relationship could be. That doesn't mean that I didn't have to grieve what I wanted it to be. That didn't mean that it didn't feel like I was giving up on potential and history. It's hard when a relationship ends, especially a relationship that has promise and potential. But being grounded in the reality of what it is allows us to kind of move with it.
this question that we must ask ourselves, which is if nothing changed at all, can I stay here? Will this be healthy? Can I stand by this choice? If it stayed exactly how it is, can I love this person exactly how they are? Can this be healthy exactly as they are with no changes? And can I stand by this being the environment that I raised my child in for me?
The answer was no. I don't know what the answer is for you, but that was part of what I came to. I will add that I didn't go from this isn't going to work to I'm completely fine and okay. There were levels to it. There was separation. I moved back home with my family. I was not in a position where I could financially support my children on my own. And so I had to humble myself, me with my grown self and two kids lived at home with my family and
I had to work extra hard as we went through the transition to try and save so that we could ultimately get a place of our own. And so it was hard work. It wasn't as smooth of a transition as I think most people would like where you can just walk away, go get your own place, have your own money. However, even with the difficult part of the transition, I'm still really grateful that I took a chance on wholeness, that I took a leap of faith.
And I will tell you that even as I am thoroughly grateful for the life that I live now, I am really grateful that when my children look back at our life and our transition, they hold fondly the time in which it was us. I lived on a street called Benissa. It was us on Benissa. And they look at that and talk about it as if it was some of the most enjoyable, healthy, um,
pivotal years of their lives and it was just me there. And so I just want you to know that you can be an incredible single mother who creates an environment for your child to flourish and for them to experience divine wisdom, safety, protection. God will give you all of the resources and wisdom you need to raise your child if that is the route that God makes evident for you. If God makes it clear that you're to stay,
I believe there's protection and provision in that as well, but it sounds like you already have an idea of what you need to do. And so I am praying that you get the courage to make that big, bold power move evolve.
Here's a little secret. Most smartphone deals aren't that exciting. To be honest, they're barely worth mentioning. But then there's AT&T and their best deals. Those are quite exciting. They're the kind of deals that are worth talking about. Like their deal on the Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6.
With this amazing deal, you can trade in your eligible smartphone any year, any condition for a new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6. It's so good, in fact, it'll have you shouting from the rooftops. So get yourself down to street level and learn how to snag the new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6 on AT&T and maybe grab a ladder on the way home.
AT&T. Connecting changes everything. Requires trading of Galaxy S, Note, or Z series smartphone. Limited time offer. 256 gigabytes for $0. Additional fees, terms, and restrictions apply. See att.com slash Samsung or visit an AT&T store for details.
Hi, I'm Katie Lowes. And I'm Guillermo Diaz. And now we're back with another season of our podcast, Unpacking the Toolbox, where Guillermo and I will be rewatching the show. To officially unpack season three of Scandal. Unpredictable. You don't see it coming. It's a wild, wild ride. The twists and turns in season three. Mesmerizing. But also,
Also, we get to hang out with all of our old scandal friends like Bellamy Young, Scott Foley, Tony Goldwyn, Debbie Allen, Kerry Washington. So many people. Even more shocking assassinations from Papa and Mama Pope. And yes, Katie and I's famous teeth pulling scene that kicks off a romance.
And it was Peak TV. This is new scandal content for your eyes, for your ears, for your hearts, for your minds. Well, suit up, gladiators. Grab your big old glass of wine and prepare yourselves for even more behind the scenes. Listen to Unpacking the Toolbox on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Meet the real woman behind the tabloid headlines in a personal podcast that delves into the life of the notorious Tori Spelling as she takes us through the ups and downs of her sometimes glamorous, sometimes chaotic life and marriage. I don't think he knew how big it would be, how big the life I was given and live is.
I think he was like, oh, yeah, things come and go. But with me, it never came and went. Is she Donna Martin or a down-and-out divorcee? Is she living in Beverly Hills or a trailer park? In a town where the lines are blurred, Tori is finally going to clear the air in the podcast Misspelling. When a woman has nothing to lose, she has everything to gain. I just filed for divorce. Whoa, I said the words. Yeah.
That I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Misspelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Welcome to Cheaters and Backstabbers. I'm Shadi Diaz. And I'm Kate Robards. And we are New York City stand-up comedians and best friends. And we love a good cheating and backstabbing story. Oops.
So this is a series where our guests reveal their most shocking cheating stories. Join us as we learn how to avoid getting our hearts broken or our backs slashed. Listen to Cheaters and Backstabbers on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.
I'm Angie Martinez. Check out my podcast where I talk to some of the biggest athletes, musicians, actors in the world. We go beyond the headlines and the soundbites to have real conversations about real life, death, love, and everything in between. This life right here, just finding myself, just relaxation, just not feeling stressed, just not feeling pressed. This is what I'm most proud of. I'm proud of Mary because I've been through hell and some horrible things.
That feeling that I had of inadequacy is gone. You're going to die being you. So you got to constantly work on who you are to make sure that the stars align correctly.
Life ain't easy and it's getting harder and harder. So if you have a story to tell, if you've come through some trials, you need to share it because you're going to inspire someone. You're going to give somebody the motivation to not give up, to not quit. Listen to Angie Martinez IRL on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
I recognize that so much of what we learn about everything really starts at home. That's why having that healthy foundation can be extremely pivotal for the success of our children, the success of our families, not just in teaching them what emotional wellness looks like, what spiritual development and discipleship looks like,
but also being courageous enough to really engage with them and in their world. Now, listen, honey, I don't know if you're like me. Some of you are probably out here checking all of the boxes, but if you are like me, there are so many things that I feel like I should be doing better, so many things that I wish that I could be doing to make sure that I was creating a consistent relationship
environment of attention and awareness for my children. And I got to be honest, there are many moments where I feel like I fall short, but I am grateful for resources and organizations that go out of their way to make sure that we have the tips, tools, and resources that we need. I want to put you on game right quick. If you
know anybody who has children, you are a parent yourself, you are an educator, this is a podcast that you are going to want to share. While it is not necessarily about financial literacy, there is an undeniable correlation between financial problems
privileges, financial knowledge and wisdom, and the environments in which we grow up in. When families are engaged in their children's lives, in their educations, in their overall well-being, their opportunities for success, educational success, which can ultimately lead to financial success, is exponentially higher. That's why when I learned about Learning Heroes, I knew that it was an organization that I wanted you to hear about. They are an
organization that is dedicated to really living in the gap between what parents think about their child's grade level progress versus how their child is actually doing. They are focused on helping you get the accurate picture you need and deserve so you can best support learning at home.
I had an incredible conversation with Tracy Potts. She is on the board of directors for Learning Heroes, and she is a mother, now a grandmother, an incredible communicator, motivational thought leader, and a community advocate that is going to give you all of the tools you need for us to experience equity in education, family engagement, and to eliminate health and educational disparities within our communities.
Okay, Tracy. So I am a blended family. We have six children total. I am in the
the trauma stages, as I like to call them, of raising a 14-year-old and an eight-year-old. The eight-year-old, she's doing well. School is still pretty straightforward. But with my 14-year-old, she's moving into the ninth grade. Grades are even more important. We're
and being responsible and organized and staying on top of her grades, even though I can't really help her with her homework or anything else. I feel like this is one of the most stressful parts of parenting. And honestly, because it's traumatic for me, I'm ready to just like log off and tell her I earned my stripes. You got to earn yours too. But you are encouraging parents to be more engaged. Can we talk about that a little bit?
Yeah, absolutely. So I love that you called it the trauma stage of life because been there, done that. And I think every parent at some point, Sarah, feels like, am I going back to school here? We're parents. We love our kids. We want to do the best for them and make sure they have the best opportunities. But it's tough. Like, I remember when my kids were in fifth grade, I was like, new math? Like, what is this new math? I do not get it. I cannot. But we also know that for our kids to be successful in life,
We need to make that happen for them. And so one of the things that I really connected with when I started working with Learning Heroes was, first of all, just that name. Like, I wanted to be my child's learning hero. I wanted to put on a cape and make it happen. And
Really what parents need to know is we are a very important part of that process. We're not the teachers. We're not in the classroom. But it's part of our role and part of our job to connect with the teachers. So we're in silos sometimes, all at home.
trying to figure out, you know, how do I help with this homework? What's going on with these grades? I don't necessarily understand the curriculum. And I think the key here is for us to make that connection with the teacher and ask those very transparent questions, starting with how is my child? A lot of times we'll say, how is my child doing? Very generically. But I think the better question to ask is, is my child on grade level?
Being a little bit more specific then prompts the teacher to say, well, your child may be doing well, right? They work really hard or I see they're turning in their homework, but they may still not be on grade level. And we see that with a lot of children. So that then opens a better conversation about where should my child be and how can I help?
Do you think that part of the reason why we don't do this, and I have to tell you that I believe that part of some of the stress that we experience as parents is just feeling inadequate and being able to properly take care of our children, whether it's educationally, financially, emotionally, and to have to take care of ourselves as well. Do you think that part of the reason why we see parents, myself included, listen, I'm not the pot calling the kettle black.
Often disengaging is that we're so overwhelmed and nervous that if our teachers tell us, hey, they're not on grade level or this is what it's going to take that we may not be able to serve them. Like what tools are available to us if we find out, hey, they are struggling. But oftentimes we feel like there's nothing I can really do about it.
Yeah, I think you're right, Sarah. We are working. We're trying to put food on the table, literally, right? Get the kids in bed. We're trying to manage bills. We're trying to manage our own careers. Sometimes, you know, I was the mom who was very involved in the community. So maybe we're trying to do... There's a lot happening. So...
A lot of times we feel like it's just me, right? It's on me and I don't want to fail my child. I think that's what's at the foundation of that. There is help out there though. Remember, teachers are professionals.
They are trained to help our children, but they know a lot of children really well. We know one child very well. And so it really takes both. I think opening that line of communication starts to relieve some of that stress. One thing I used to hear from teachers, I was the parent advocate in my school for many years. And one of the things that I often heard from teachers is when we know a parent cares, we will work with that parent.
So they want to know. They really just want us to open the door. Oftentimes, you know, teachers, especially in the last few years, have had such a challenging situation. Sometimes they have parents who are, as you said, stressed. Sometimes they get phones hung up on them. They really just want to know that we are opening the door. Absolutely.
I love it. So you are described as an advocate for equity and family engagement, training parents how to speak up for their child and support learning, which I know is so important, especially for parents who are marginalized.
Right.
them in the way that they learn. And there are tools and plans. I'll never forget that one of our children was showing signs. We were at a public school and they were showing signs of just not being able to keep up. And I think my biggest fear was like, they're going to be held back. And if they're held back here, then that's going to follow them. And I was surprised to learn that there were so many interventions available for my child, but I had to be willing to have conversations with people who knew what they were talking about.
You're a part of an organization called Learning Heroes. Can you tell me a little bit about Learning Heroes and how it can help these parents to become more engaged about the resources that are available to them?
Yeah, absolutely. So we work directly with parents. We also work directly with school districts. A lot of times a really important buzzword right now is family engagement. Every educator, every school district is talking about it. But what we do is help them do it effectively. So we're helping the educators reach out to parents. We're also giving parents tools. Look, the first time I connected with Learning Heroes was because of my child. I wanted to have a conversation with the teacher and
And I didn't really know what that conversation should look like. And we have ready to go tools, ready made tools. So, for example, the parent teacher conference, it usually only happens once a year. It's about two months into the school year. And then after that, it's kind of something's wrong. They'll reach out. That's not really how we want that relationship to go. So we have tools that walk you through how to prepare for that conversation, what
types of questions to ask. It's important that we ask the right question as part of that conversation. What about the gaps during breaks and summer break? One of the things that we're really particularly concerned about now is summer learning, especially after the pandemic, as you said,
It really shone a light on inequities that were already there in many of our marginalized communities for many of our children. What can we as parents do to make sure that our kids don't lose steam, so to speak, between May and August or September? There are a lot of resources out there. Many of them are free.
Many of them are offered through schools or community organizations. And oftentimes it's the teacher who can sit me down as a parent and say, this is specifically where I'm seeing your child need some help and some support. And they know what those resources are in the community. So it's not always writing a big fat check to a tutor. Nothing against tutors. I've used them. They're great. But everybody does not have the capacity or the time.
Right. I was working overnights when my kids went to a tutor. So I was home in the afternoon. I could drive them to the tutor, but everybody doesn't have that opportunity. So teachers can really point you in the right direction. Number one of what your child needs and where to find that sometimes at no cost at all.
businesses, community groups, they now get it. They need to invest in education because we are educating their future workers. So there are a lot of businesses out there that are investing in these tools to help kids. And teachers, to me, I have found are really the start to find out where that information is. Look, I know that as a woman of faith, Sarah, and I am as well, I often think about
Being my child's first teacher, right? Teaching them by the way, teaching them in the morning, teaching them. We are called to be our children's first teacher. And so as a family advocate and a parent advocate, the way I really often look at this is we are
We have a place in education. And I think that is really the thing that I've enjoyed empowering parents to understand that it's not about just, you know, we don't just send our kids to church and expect them to come back holy. Right. There's work that has to be done at home.
to reinforce that, to reinforce what they learned in Sunday school or what they heard. It's the same thing with school. We can't just send them to school and expect them to come back smart. So there's work on our side as parents to support that. And while it may feel overwhelming with all the other things that we're doing, it's part of our calling and there are resources there to help us do it.
Here's a little secret. Most smartphone deals aren't that exciting. To be honest, they're barely worth mentioning. But then there's AT&T and their best deals. Those are quite exciting. They're the kind of deals that are worth talking about. Like their deal on the Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6.
With this amazing deal, you can trade in your eligible smartphone any year, any condition for a new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6. It's so good, in fact, it'll have you shouting from the rooftops. So get yourself down to street level and learn how to snag the new Samsung Galaxy Z Flip 6 on AT&T and maybe grab a ladder on the way home.
AT&T. Connecting changes everything. Requires trading of Galaxy S, Note, or Z series smartphone. Limited time offer. 256 gigabytes for $0. Additional fees, terms, and restrictions apply. See att.com slash Samsung or visit an AT&T store for details.
Hi, I'm Katie Lowes. And I'm Guillermo Diaz. And now we're back with another season of our podcast, Unpacking the Toolbox, where Guillermo and I will be rewatching the show. To officially unpack season three of Scandal. Unpredictable. You don't see it coming. It's a wild, wild ride. The twists and turns in season three. Mesmerizing. But also,
Also, we get to hang out with all of our old scandal friends like Bellamy Young, Scott Foley, Tony Goldwyn, Debbie Allen, Kerry Washington. So many people. Even more shocking assassinations from Papa and Mama Pope. And yes, Katie and I's famous teeth pulling scene that kicks off a romance.
And it was Peak TV. This is new scandal content for your eyes, for your ears, for your hearts, for your minds. Well, suit up, gladiators. Grab your big old glass of wine and prepare yourselves for even more behind the scenes. Listen to Unpacking the Toolbox on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Meet the real woman behind the tabloid headlines in a personal podcast that delves into the life of the notorious Tori Spelling as she takes us through the ups and downs of her sometimes glamorous, sometimes chaotic life and marriage. I don't think he knew how big it would be, how big the life I was given and live is.
I think he was like, oh, yeah, things come and go. But with me, it never came and went. Is she Donna Martin or a down-and-out divorcee? Is she living in Beverly Hills or a trailer park? In a town where the lines are blurred, Tori is finally going to clear the air in the podcast Misspelling. When a woman has nothing to lose, she has everything to gain. I just filed for divorce. Whoa, I said the words. Yeah.
That I've said like in my head for like 16 years. Wild. Listen to Miss Spelling on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. I'm Angie Martinez. Check out my podcast where I talk to some of the biggest athletes, musicians, actors in the world. We go beyond the headlines and the soundbites to have real conversations about real life, death, love, and everything in between.
This life right here, just finding myself, just this relaxation, this not feeling stressed, this not feeling pressed. This is what I'm most proud of. I'm proud of Mary because I've been through hell and some horrible things. That feeling that I had of inadequacy is gone. You're going to die being you. So you got to constantly work on who you are to make sure that the stars align correctly.
Life ain't easy and it's getting harder and harder. So if you have a story to tell, if you've come through some trials, you need to share it because you're going to inspire someone. You're going to give somebody the motivation to not give up, to not quit. Listen to Angie Martinez IRL on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.
Welcome to Cheaters and Backstabbers. I'm Shadi Diaz. And I'm Kate Robards. And we are New York City stand-up comedians and best friends. And we love a good cheating and backstabbing story. So this is a series where our guests reveal their most shocking cheating stories. Join us as we learn how to avoid getting our hearts broken or our backs slashed. Listen to Cheaters and Backstabbers on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to podcasts.
So my boys were seniors during the pandemic and my youngest was just beginning kindergarten. And we had a homeschool teacher who was supporting us throughout the pandemic. But when I look at the stats, when I look at what's happening globally with education and even with artificial intelligence, I
I think that it would be such a mistake for us to not look at the implications of what those two years of not having hands-on teaching could have done to the opportunities for our children and then how AI is going to significantly change the workforce
You know, education, making sure that they have a sure foundation as it relates to education may be, you know, some of the only weapons that we have easily available to us as we seek to really establish financial wholeness and wellness and emotional wholeness and wellness for our family as we recognize that opportunities are lack thereof.
create such a divide in our ability to experience peace, wholeness, hope, and joy, as opposed to the depression and anxiety and frustrations that can come from having lack of opportunities. Do you think that...
My parents were big advocates for education. Do you think that we are still seeing that level of passion as it relates to being advocates for education within our communities? And if not, how do we get to a place where we can restore that? Yeah, that's a really good question, because like you, I mean, I feel and I have always felt with my kids, education is a gift.
This is a gift. This is a lifelong gift that we give our children. It opens doors for them. It allows them to experience things now and later in life in terms of their career, in terms of how they can provide for their families. This is something that I want my children to have. I have three children and two grandchildren, and they have all had different journeys with education. Our oldest
Started college. It wasn't, you know, she struggled through high school. She started college. It wasn't for her. She's now in her 30s and she's going back and she has that self-motivation to go back and earn a degree. Our middle daughter just finished college.
a two-year degree in four years. She had some learning challenges and she had to just keep, and our job, you know, again, the parent's job is motivators. We had to just keep telling her, just keep putting one foot in front of the other. You will get there. We have a son now who's in college and I really want him to put one foot in front of the other. That's the lesson.
That's the last one. If we can get through this one, we're good. And now I'm thinking about my grandchildren. They're six and 11. They're just starting this journey. And so speaking to what you were talking about, it's a journey. It's a lifelong journey.
To me, education is a lifelong journey. I had mine. I supported my kids. I'm now trying to support my grand. I just joined the PTA at my grandson's school because I want to be there for him. Right. But in the last couple of years, we have seen that motivation wane. Look, I was the same mom as you. My son was a senior. My daughter had just started college when the pandemic hit. And I saw that.
I saw the light fall from their eyes because it was so much harder to attain what we were telling them. You know, you need to do well in school. You need to focus. But.
You know, the mental health challenges. I mean, they were just alone. These are young people, right? You and I are more mature, like we can navigate that differently. But they were in these little silos all over the place. And I think there's a long term impact of that. I see it with my kids and many others as well.
I totally agree. I got so much inspiration when you talked about your middle daughter who just completed her two year program because my son is 21 now. He was a senior during the pandemic. When he got finished through the pandemic, he was like, I'll never pick up a textbook again.
And now he's finally just coming back around to the idea of, you know what, I think that I'm ready to come out of that state of trauma. He's seeking to go back to school. And so even encouraging him to shed some of his past experiences and past anxieties as it relates to school is,
so that he can move into the career field that he has found interest in has been a beautiful journey. But I've been telling him just like I'm sure you've been telling your children, it's going to take one class, one lesson at a time. We don't have to do what everyone else has done in order for you to achieve some of those goals. All that matters is that you're trying. And I feel like the goal of Learning Heroes for those of us who are in this parenting stage is
is for us to come to a place where we no longer feel victimized by our educational experience so that we can actively engage in supporting our children in a way that they get to benefit from the lessons that we learned and that we are currently learning.
Yeah. And that's why we call the campaign Go Beyond Grades. We focus so much sometimes on grades. But one of the key points of our campaign is that grades don't tell us the whole story. And our research over almost a decade now has shown us that
Grades, you know, your child brings home an A or B. We found that 90% of parents think that, okay, the kid brings home an A or B, A's and B's, they're doing great. But those A's and B's reflect things other than educational achievement. If your child is trying really hard, even if they're not meeting the mark, that's reflected. And that's a good thing, right? If they're diligent, if they're responsible, they're turning in their homework, they're raising their hand, they're participating in class, doesn't always mean they're getting it.
And so that's why we really have to go beyond grades and have those conversations. But I love what you said about your son. It does remind me a lot of my daughter. She at one point realized that she, because of her learning challenges, could not handle four classes at a time. That's pretty standard in college. So we just told her, slow down. Like, take two. Take three. Do what you need to do to keep going.
forward. I was a high achiever in school, and sometimes our experiences set the bar for our kids. And we also have to realize they are different people. My kids are very different than me. I love them dearly, but they're different learners than I am. And so this was really a faith journey for me. I had to
Pray to figure out how to learn who my kids are and how they learn.
And then how I can support them and meet them where they are without imposing my experiences on them. You know, for some, some people, I love that first word you use. Like some people were traumatized by school, literally. They don't want to walk. They don't want to be the parent advocate. They don't want to walk back into school ever. For real. Yeah. You're just like, that did not work for me. I don't want to be there. But they really,
that their kids need them as part of that journey. And so sometimes it's a journey for us too. You know, we talk a lot about breaking generational curses and I think we consider some of the issues that have plagued our families, but I don't think that there is
a generational curse more honorable than not just choosing what we want to break, but what we want to introduce. And as it relates to family engagement, I want us to consider what do we want to introduce to
to our children as it relates to being there, supporting them, understanding who they are, advocating for them and maybe the ways we weren't advocated for. And this is just a unique opportunity to say, you know what? I'm going to grab my cape
Even though I needed rescuing at one point and I'm going to get into my child's world and figure out what's the best way to help them navigate it. Some of the greatest gifts that we can give our children are not sitting on the shelves at stores. It's not something that we get as a result of our bank account. It's how we choose to show up for them and help them to see that you are not facing this on your own. I see you.
And I'm going to make sure the world sees you and make space for you. I just can't imagine what would be more liberating than that. Yeah. And I love how you put it, like grabbing that cape and being there and just showing up. And it doesn't mean we have to have all of the answers. It doesn't mean that I have to...
completely understand how to help. There were lots of times I didn't understand how to help my child. My poor daughter and I cried through homework so many times until I realized that she was a different kind of learner than I was. And it actually ended up being my husband who was very similar to her who could help her a lot more. But just being there, like, I don't know about you, but I remember many times that
school concerts. My son was in band when he was in high school. Award ceremonies. All kinds of events. Just seeing my child turn around. Are they there? Right? Everything's going to be okay. Just showing up
It matters so much. We don't have to have all the answers. You know, our kids, sometimes my kids, even now they're in their 20s and they'll come to me. Oh, mom, you know everything. Can you tell me this? I'm like, oh, please stop right there. I do not know everything. But they just want to know that we are going to be there for them. And.
educational support is part of that, right? We have to be there for them in so many different ways. You have kids, you have six kids, Sarah. We're a blended family, but there are six of them. We're a blended family as well. So I get that. But there are, you know, six souls of different ages that at some point need that wisdom that's there in our head or that faith that's there in our heart.
And sometimes we have to dig deep and think about who we are in order to give them what they need. So that's why to me, it's like we're on a journey along with them sometimes. But that's all good. That's all good.
Absolutely. Well, I want to thank you for the work that you're doing. I love a good challenge, but this doesn't even feel like a challenge. It just feels like someone's grabbing your hand and laying the path out for you. I'm grateful for the work that you're doing and for the ways that we get to glean from it. So thank you for your time and having this conversation.
Thank you so much. It's been great talking to you. I get encouragement seeing other parents like you who have a platform and a voice and are using it in a way to inspire other people. So I appreciate you having the conversation with me today. Beautiful. Thank you. Thank you. I really hope that that conversation was as helpful for you as it is for
for me at this stage in my life. I am almost to the finish line with the report cards and teachers and all of the things. And I'll be honest, it can be very overwhelming trying to keep up with all of the things that I am supposed to be doing as a
Thank you.
those healthy dynamics, then please share this with someone you know. In the spirit of motherhood and parenting, I found a Rescue Eve. I know y'all want Rescue Eve to die because y'all won't send it to me, but Rescue Eve yet lives, resurrecting power for Rescue Eve. I saw a story that I thought was absolutely hilarious. Um,
And I think that we should rescue her. This mom is defending her right to ask guests at her daughter's birthday party to bring $5 for backyard renovations in lieu of gifts. I guess people thought it was really tacky.
that she said, instead of bringing my daughter a gift, and I think, I can't remember her second baby's first birthday party was their first birthday party. She's like, don't buy a gift, just bring $5 because we want to get our backyard redone. Can I tell y'all something? Like when it is Christmas time,
It is birthday time. And all of the aunts and things go by Target. They go by Walmart. They order something from Amazon that is inevitably going to end up in the floor on pieces. It is the bane of my existence. I do not enjoy it. Like I tell my daughter all the time, like you not get no more toys. You not get no more toys. You have books and you have clothes, but you're not getting no more toys. Like some of these toys got to go. Like I do not need toys.
you to have all of these toys because you're not going to clean them up. You're not going to organize them and they're going to be in pieces. I am not mad at a queen saying that if you really want to help this young thug... No, she didn't say young thug. If you really want to help this young royal priesthood of...
of a person inside of my house to really have an enjoyable life, help me to get a swing set so that they can go outside. Help me to get a hula hoop so they can be out of my business. Help me to get a water hose so they can just be outside spraying one another. Help me to get them out of my house. You know what I mean? And so,
So I'm not mad at it. I feel like we should rescue her. If you're a mom, a parent, and you know exactly what it's like to have a bunch of random toys that you're stepping on going throughout your house, we ought to be able to rescue her. Is it tacky? What do you think? Send me your opinion to podcast at womanevolve.com. Are you out here being tacky? Are you out here in need of a rescue? Send it to me. You're safe here.
Podcasts at Womany Valve. I won't say your name unless you absolutely want me to. Alternatively, are you out here in your bag? Are you so deep in your bag like a grandma with peppermints? I want to know about that as well. What are you doing? Let's brag on you. Are you out here doing the things? Is your skin glowing? Are you eating salads? Did you go and get you a burger because you deserved it? Are you vegan? Like, tell me how we can celebrate you because from one queen to another, I love to see you shine. And if you don't tell your story, who
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