207: That's Unfair?! Ft. Angela Giarratana
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Well, aim for like an hour and 40. Perfect. Hopefully not. Yeah. Yeah. That's perfect. I hold people hostage too long. You're going to feel held hostage by me too. Because now I'm feeling comfy. Okay. Finally. Someone is meeting me on my level. We're not leaving until seven. I'm kidding. Don't. Do not tell me with a good time. The people are hearing that and they're like, oh my God, is this going to be another three hour long episode?

No, because it was terrible to edit. So no, that probably won't ever happen again. But I love you guys. And I know you're going to love today's guest. Hi, I'm Morgan. Welcome back to another episode of Two Hot Takes. Today, I am joined by the one and only Angela Guiratano. Perfect.

No, I'm not Italian and I will never try that again. And I'm actually cringing at myself that I did it the first time. Sorry I forced you to. Oh my God. What the hell was that? I'm so scared. I'm so excited to have you today. Best podcast setup I've ever experienced. That says a lot coming from the Smosh room over there. Truly. Never have a comfy chair over there. Why was the couch so hard?

Yeah. You know, that's just gets you on your toes. I think it's actually made of books. There's just a sheet over it. It's books with a sheet. It's books with a sheet. But you do some amazing work over there. I was watching some of your most iconic moments today. You have like people on YouTube that put together. Yes, I love those. Compilations for you.

You're hilarious. Those make me look a lot funnier than I actually am. No, no, no. I watched a lot of clips. Oh, wow. Like a lot of clips. And I feel like, no, I think you're genuinely one of the funniest people. Whoa. We're five minutes in and you said that. We'll check in in an hour. No, no, no. I know you're going to be so, you're going to be good. I mean, Reddit, I'm like a year and a half into having Reddit be a part of my life a little bit. Isn't it scary? My?

It's terrifying. My God. I watched the episode with you, Shane and Courtney, and you had the pasta PowerPoint and you were just like, it was the guy who made like a how to cook PowerPoint presentation for his girlfriend. Oh my God. See, I have to be careful because I'm realizing every Reddit story that deeply affects me is just an ignorant boy.

And I have to be careful because there are ignorant people all over. All over. But sometimes I'm like, oh my God. Yeah, not gender specific. It's just... Brings a cutting board to the bedroom. There was a story where someone brought... What? Like their wife was sick and he brought the cutting board to the bedroom. I have not read that one. And now I'm instantly like, why do I feel hot inside? That's why I'm like, I have to drop it. Reddit makes me do that. I know. Well, today...

I don't know if it's going to be any better. It's okay. I don't know if it's going to be any better. You went viral recently and it was like the most, oh, it's just like, it's everything. Like I've never resonated with someone more. You're like, that's not fair.

It's okay. I'm an adult. I died. Oh my God. Thank you so much. So when I was teeing up a theme for you, I was like, of course we have to like talk about like, is that fair? Is that not fair? I love you. Yes. So we're going to get into all these crazy stories. There's some wedding ones, partnerships, relationships, everything. It's nothing's off limits and they're all going to have, we're going to have to decide like, is that fair or are they being a little cuckoo? I'm obsessed. I'm ready. Okay. Let's dive in.

Okay, getting into it. This is coming from AITAH 28 Days Old.

Fresh. It's titled, Am I the Asshole for Not Letting My Friends Use My Backyard for Their Wedding Because They Do Not Want Me to Bring a Plus One. Oh, damn. Here's the situation. Last summer, I bought my grandparents' house. This house was the hangout spot for my friends and I throughout our childhood. This includes my friend Dave.

The house has a sizable amount of land, which includes a lake and a gazebo. I was supposed to buy the house with my now ex-girlfriend, Leslie. But going through the process of getting approved to buy, I found out that she had massive amounts of credit card debt and personal debt that she hid from me throughout our four years together.

I decided to break up as a result. That was about six months ago. I met Leslie because Dave's long-term girlfriend, Kim, is Leslie's cousin.

Dave and Kim are engaged and set to get married in April. When I was buying the house, they asked if they could have the ceremony at the gazebo, which I agreed to do. In December, I started dating again. Leslie has not taken this well at all. She thinks we are going to get back together and has tried multiple times to make that happen. I've told her in no uncertain terms that isn't happening.

Dave and Kim have asked me to not bring a plus one to the wedding for Leslie's sake. I have told them that this request is ridiculous. This wedding is happening at my house using my land and I'm not allowed to bring a date because of a crazy ex. If that is the case, then they need to find a new venue for the wedding. They are pissed about this given the short time frame of when the wedding is supposed to happen. So we are at an impasse.

Am I the asshole? Wait, I actually am a little split down the middle. Only because it would be chaotic to have the new relationship there with Leslie. Yeah. But is Leslie going to bring someone? Because if Leslie gets to bring someone... Then it should be fine. Then OP should be able to have someone there too. But if Leslie is still a mess over the breakup, which it kind of sounds like Leslie is, it would be a little messy. But it's this person's land.

It's their house. Their gazebo. It's this person's grandma's land. Their lake.

How bougie? I'm like, to have a private lake in your backyard? Recently, I had a friend text me a day before her wedding that I wasn't invited to. And we're like friends, but not like really close or close. We're just friends. She was like, hey, someone dropped out and you were on my list that I couldn't make work because it was like a smaller wedding. Do you want to come? And I was like, I only want to go if I get a plus one. Yeah.

I was like, am I allowed to ask for a plus one that last minute? Yeah. But that makes me think of this because plus one stuff, talk about fairness, that always gets tricky with weddings. Oh, I'm going through it right now. Because you're engaged. Yeah. Getting married this September and there's some people in our life. Do I not have a plus one? Well, I think you're safe. You're reasonable. We just met. There's some people though that like,

They're not seeing anyone and they want to bring a plus one just to stir drama. See, that's what freaks me out about this story. And that's kind of similar to this where it's like, I don't want to give them a plus one because like, I don't want to deal with that. That's just, it's my day. Yes. And so I go back and forth. I think I'm kind of toting the line a little bit like where ultimately I'm like, okay, their house, their rules, whatever. Yeah.

But at the same time, like you might burn a friendship because this is also their wedding day. You've said, yeah, you've signed on board. And now it's just coming down to like you not getting a plus one. Like, I don't know, like you're causing your friends some stress. Yeah. But again, ultimately, it is your house. I get it. Like, I really am right in the middle because I totally get it. But it's also like, does OP really want

to like host this that's already stressful to like host something. And a wedding. Right? And your ex is there and your new boo's there. That sounds like a lot. Honestly,

I'd have to... I'd be... I get so panicked and awkward and then I get too drunk. Me too. Because I just don't know what to do with myself so I have something in my hand. I would just drink more. And you're like, oh, let me clean the gazebo. Oh, my ex. Oh, my boo. Like, this is too much. No, and like, I feel like Leslie...

Lil loose cannon like still actively trying to get back together like what's Leslie gonna do? Yeah, Leslie might add on to her debt and like buy more clothes buy like a big outfit for this You know what I mean? Like these are like like we're coming in hot and then we're adding alcohol and a lake to the situation I'd say go peaceful like why can't OP just like support their friends and then like invite your boo over to the house Yeah, no, that's messed up. I get it. It's their house. I know I know Hmm

Hmm. Hmm. What do you, where do you think the top comment went on this one? I think everyone's like, it's your house. You can do what you want. Top comment, pull an Uno reverse. Tell them Leslie isn't allowed on your property and watch their heads explode. That actually makes sense though. I mean, I'll host your wedding. I'll save you a lot of money. I don't want my ex here, but meet me in the middle of my house. Let this be easy for me and you. It's awkward having my ex come over.

We were supposed to buy this house together until she lied about her massive credit card debt. She lied and charged it. 26% APY. That's a great comment. Yeah. The next one down is from OP responding. The petty part of me did absolutely consider saying, well, Leslie cannot come to my house or on my land, so it shouldn't be a problem.

So OP, you know, the wheels were turning on that one. Yeah. And that takes, oof, that's hard. That's really hard. I don't envy them. That's a hard situation to be like, I'll do you this massive favor, but some of your family isn't invited to the wedding. Yeah, your cousin. Kim, your cousin can't come. Because then that puts, honestly, the couple in the hot seat. Who should be in the hot seat for this? You know what I mean? Like you're asking your friends to do, and your cousin, to be in a weird situation. Yeah. Next comment down.

This is the way. Agree not to bring a date. It's a small concession that actually protects your best interests. Whoever you brought would have the worst time navigating this ex-girlfriend drama. Instead, tell them that you are not comfortable having Leslie on your property and thank them for bringing this to your attention before the wedding. You had thought you could peacefully coexist with the wedding, but if you bring a date and it would cause problems, then they've opened your eyes to that not being the case. It's

It's just better for everyone's mental health if she sits this one out. Feed them some bullshit on not wanting the ex-girlfriend drama to take the spotlight away from them on their special day. This commenter sounds like she's from my family. A little Jedi mind trick manipulation. This sounds a little Italian being like, why don't we just detente? No one do, no one, it's not a word like, like, like surrender. Like put it, it might be the wrong definition of the word. You're a fan?

But like being like, okay, hands up. No one does this. Okay. And we all just show up and no one brings a boo. That's a good way to do it. Yeah. I like that. You know what? We do have some edits from OP. We have some edits. You're like, I'm here at the gazebo right now. It's a mess. Live from the gazebo.

I've seen a few things brought up a number of times in the comments, so I will quickly address them here. Okay. One, I am fully aware of the liability issues, which is why I purchased and they reimbursed me for a special event insurance policy, which will provide 100% coverage for any damages, claims, injuries, etc. to any of the property or persons up to $2 million. What? It is one of the first things we did after I agreed to have the event in my home.

I want to do that for a wine night at my apartment. I think, honestly, if you are hosting a housewarming, a baby shower, any event. A dinner. You should do this. A kickback. I had to do this for one of our comedy shows. Yeah. It was only 50 bucks. Yeah. And then if someone spills like a big bottle of chilled red on your nice rug, insurance will cover it. Yeah.

That can't be real. This is... It's got to. This has got to be genius property damages. Yeah. Red wine on a couch would totally be covered. Like, oops, we ordered pizza. I literally only let people drink water and white wine on my couch because of this reason exactly. Anytime I host a kickback, it's probably only $5 for like a house. It's good to know that white wine will just...

Be fine on your couch. Oh, I spilled a whole red solo cup of white wine on the couch. Oh my God. Totally fine. Totally fine. That's amazing. I also found this amazing cleaner from Amazon. Well, my mother-in-law found it first and then I got it. It is the best cleaner hands down. For couches or anything? Anything. I had a black mark from a roller blade on my white couch. Are we rollerblading on our couch? I was putting them on and I just went with my leg and I got it.

And came right out. I just bought a white couch. Okay, we're going to get you the cleaner. And I feel, I already bought one of those small little vacuum cleaners because I want it like in the crevices because I'm so paranoid. Yeah. I got a Dyson with all the attachments. I see. A Dyson's on my list. Just go to the Co. Go to the Costco. Go to the Co. Go to the Co. You get an extra warranty. It's so good. See, my ex-boyfriend had the Co. And I don't have the Co. I'll take you to the Co. I'll take you to the Co. We got you. No need for a boy. Number two.

The wedding will have a maximum, if everyone comes, of 75 guests, five catering staff, and five security staff. The security is because this is an open area that anyone walking past could access. The house has hosted events twice the size, and logistically, it'll all be fine. On the property are two cottages, one with one bathroom and the other with two bathrooms. The only portion of my house that will not be locked during the wedding is the finished basement.

The basement has two bathrooms. Got it. So reasonable toilets. And security. Security. That's less than the liability. Hopefully no one will go in the lake.

Three, every person who is single, i.e. not in an established relationship, received an invitation with a plus one, including me and Leslie. This talk came after I sent in my return card and indicated I was bringing a plus one. Now they are saying they do not want me to have a plus one because Leslie blew up about it and they are afraid of a blow up at the wedding. So that might be a failure like...

In the like bill of rights of this or whatever is like, don't offer it unless you mean it. You can't rescind. Because I think if the couple thought of this in before it happened, they could have probably avoided this and just not given Leslie or OP a plus one. It's an intimate wedding. 75 people like that's on the smarge, like smaller. It's smaller. So I'm like, they should have just said no plus ones.

If I was asking my friend whose land it was and my cousin's was their ex, I think I would have saw this coming. I'm sorry. And I wouldn't have been like, I'm not giving you the power. Yeah. Number four. Last one. Leslie indicated she intends to bring someone on her card. I do not know if she will actually bring someone. Hey, what's good for the goose is good for the gander. Leslie's bringing someone, you're bringing someone. It's going to be a good time. Yeah. Leslie should...

Do a little like my best friend's wedding moment and get like a friend to like be their fake partner. I love that movie. They get a movie. Iconic. Julia Roberts shows up. Yes. Cameron Diaz. The security for the event. They're really hot too. Oh, yeah. Oops, I fell into the lake. Help me. Help. See, here's what really bugs me though. Point number three. Leslie was the one that blew up and they're worried about Leslie making this blow up at the wedding happen.

why are we making Leslie's blow up and immaturity and emotional irregulation OP's problem? Yes. That's why I said this reminded me of my family a little bit because it's like, oh, the person who's having the outburst and who we're expecting to have the outburst, that's not their responsibility. It's the people whose outburst it's going to affect there. You know what I mean? It's going to, yeah. Yeah. So that sucks. Goofy. And you know what I just found?

I went to go look at the post to see if there's any other comments from Opie. Oh my god, please, please. We have an official update. Thank god! Post-wedding? Because this was 28 days ago. Is it post-wedding? Oh my god. I don't know. Okay. I don't know if it's post-wedding. It's okay, but it's an update nonetheless. It's an update. Let's get into it.

So I met with Dave this morning. We talked for almost two hours about everything. I laid it out that I thought he was, at best, a shitty friend. I went through our long history of various things over the years that has me questioning our friendship. And they grew up in this house! Holy smokes.

That was the bulk of our conversation. We then turned to the breakup with Leslie and the shit show of the last six months. Throughout the last six months, despite Leslie's craziness, I have bent over backwards to try and accommodate her feelings. She has shown up to my house in the middle of the night. I did not go for a restraining order. When I go out, I do not go to places that I know her and her family like to go. I do not go to places that I know her and her family like to go.

She has implied to her family and mutual friends at various times that I cheated and or that I took advantage of her financially, neither of which is true at all. I've held my tongue to not embarrass her about these things in front of her friends and family. Dave knows all of that and yet is demanding once again that I put Leslie's feelings before my own. I said, quote, you and everyone need to stop coddling her like she is a fucking child. Mm-hmm.

Dave concedes that Leslie has been crazy and ridiculous since the breakup, but he says, quote, she feels she did not get closure after the relationship. She wants to have an evening where she can talk to you to get that closure. Not at the wedding! Not a closure talk at the wedding that you're hosting at your house! Huh?

Why does Dave want that at his wedding? Why is he entertaining this? Like, actually, though, Leslie deserves this final talk. What closure? You broke up. You lied to me about your extensive debt for four years. What are we going to do? In between the cha-cha slide? Doesn't have to be the first date, but maybe year two.

Oh my goodness. This guy's asking a lot of OP. Insane. Now to make this a closure thing is a wild turn. Get coffee in a public place. Yes. Not at a wedding. Dave's like, well, I'm already paying for security, so you guys might as well have closure there. He also told me that Leslie has been very vigilant about paying off her debt and paid off almost $10,000 of the credit card debt.

She wants to talk to me about her progress. Okay, not our problem. To see if that might cause me to change my mind. It will not. I asked him, quote, so do you expect me to go to the wedding and talk to her? Because I have her blocked everywhere. And date or not, I do not plan to say a single mumbling word to her.

He said, quote, I fully expect she would lose it if y'all do not talk at the wedding. I told him if that is the case, then for the good of my property, I can't have Leslie come. Boom, that's it. And OP needed to hear that. Yep, I love this.

If she is so unstable that I need to be coerced into a conversation with her, she is too unsafe to be a guest in any capacity in my home. So I've told him, based on what he has told me, Leslie cannot come to my house or on my land. I'm willing to still have the wedding at my place, but I cannot trust Leslie won't do something given all that you're telling me.

Dave lost it at this point. Did he now? He said, quote, fuck you and your shit. I don't need it. So I said, then the wedding is off. He left. So that is the state of things. It's Leslie 2.0. Dave. Holy. He just threw away a lifelong friendship. For his cousin. For someone who can't.

a decent set of, like, composure. Why? That's wild. Why? Why? What has Leslie done for you that's so great? Like... I know this feels less... Honestly, this second update, I'm like, it's starting to feel less like a thing about Leslie and more a thing about power. This guy wants to control it and she's like... And OP's like, this is my land. This is crazy. Wow. I mean, you blew it. And honestly...

Someone that's looking at venues and putting up a tent at my family's farm. And like, this was such a gift. Like, this was truly a gift. He saved you at minimum $10,000 by offering up his home. And now you have to find a location last minute. That sucks so bad. And the location's like the whole thing. The whole thing. And all you had to say is like, Leslie, our wedding is not the time or place. Like, if you want closure, get it after. Yeah. Or you just had to say like,

I think it was weird he walked into this conversation, like, reframing the wedding to be a closure moment for OP and Leslie. Did he think, like, pulling out that heartstring would work? Like, did he find that was, like, did he think that was his best tactic? He's like, actually, this would be good for you as well. Like, that's kind of manipulative a little bit. Yeah, she's paid off 10K. Like, maybe you should actually hear her out. No. Well, I guess OP's got to throw a rager because they got the insurance. They just got to have a party now.

What are you going to do? Oh, my gosh. That sucks. And that's like a that's a big friendship. Yeah. A lot of people were speculating like, hey, maybe Dave is sleeping with Leslie and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like people went off the rails. And Opie does have a comment here. Can all but guarantee you that Dave is simply doing what Kim wants him to do. Yeah. Doubt he is sleeping with her. I have no reason to suspect that based on his behavior and her behavior. I have no idea why he would want me to get back with her if that was what is going on.

Mm-hmm. Yeah. Insane. That would be a weird movie if Dave was sleeping with Leslie. I know. And OP does want to make this clear, too, because a lot of people are like, well, everyone has debt. Like, just because she has debt doesn't mean you shouldn't be with her. And OP says, the debt isn't the issue for me. It is that she lied about it. The line is the issue. The debt is what she just lied about. Yeah. So...

Whew. That's tough. I think at this point, I feel like OP's being pretty fair. I actually, I'd say I am standing with OP. Yeah, pretty fair on this one. Pretty fair because it wasn't until the last update I was like, okay, now we're getting a little wild. We're getting all the tea. Whew.

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So the dad's not allowed to go to the pregnancy appointments. What is he doing? Bringing you a whoopee cushion? What's happening? So I'm currently pregnant. About six months along, and my husband has been doing this thing every time we go to a doctor appointment. He'll drive me to the appointment. Then when I'm about to get in the car, he drives forward a little, then reverses, then drives forward again.

He does this a few times and it always frustrates me. He thinks it's hilarious and says he's just messing with me. I started to get really frustrated. I'm already dealing with the physical and emotional toll of pregnancy. And this just feels like him poking fun at me when I'm already tired and stressed. I told him it bothers me, but he just brushed it off and said I'm overreacting and that he's just having fun.

We had a big fight about it the other day. I tried to explain how it's making me feel, and he got defensive, saying I need to lighten up and that it's just a joke. I told him it wasn't funny anymore, and it wasn't something I wanted to deal with during my pregnancy. The final straw was when he did it again before a doctor appointment yesterday, and I was just done. I ended up calling my mom to take me instead and told my husband he was banned from all future appointments.

Well, now he's furious. He's demanding to be there for the next appointment because it's the one where we'll find out the baby's gender. He says this is a huge moment and I'm being unfair by not letting him come.

I told him I need him to respect my boundaries, and this is one of the ways I'm doing that. But he keeps insisting it's just a silly little thing, and now he's calling me unreasonable for making a big deal about it. Am I the asshole? Unfair. You're being unfair by not letting him come. Oh, my gosh. This isn't a trip to the grocery store or the arcade, my guy. I can't imagine when you're pregnant, like,

Just what is going through your mind when you go for a regular checkup with the doctor. Just because your body is not yours. Like you have a lot going on. Yeah. And to just be like, not even a funny bit. So he parks and he pulls back and he goes front. It's like she's like, she'll open the door. And then he'll drive? And then he'll drive. So it's like she's opening the door and like trying to get in the car. And he like lets his foot off the gas to like roll away.

I'm kind of scared because I'm like, okay. And then he backs up and it's like, what have you accidentally plowed her over with the door being open? And she got ran over by the car. Like, this is so dangerous. And she's six months pregnant. Like, she's not little. Like, she's maybe showing. She's like second trimester at least, right? No. I think so. I'm like, this is so risky and like rude and like.

Maybe she's got edema on her ankles and she just wants to get in and relax and go to her appointment safely without added stress.

And it's the fact that, okay, maybe one time is funny, but hey, I don't like this. Don't do it again. Now you're going to still do it. And he keeps doing it. That's what's weird. Also, it's red flagging to me when someone loves a joke that they can tell other people don't love because I think jokes are like a giving thing where it's like giving, it's like us, it's something for us to share and laugh together. And if the other person isn't laughing, you just find pleasure in someone being like bamboozled a little bit or

Or like you like it. You like to like kind of stop someone in their tracks. And I don't know. I don't really like that kind of humor where it's like, fuck you. The car is not moving anymore. Like she's not laughing. No, it's almost like someone it's just like it's teasing. It's belittling, degrading. Like, I don't know if you've ever had someone do this to you. It's like you ask for a dollar and then they're like, oh, yeah, here.

Oh, no, here, I mean at this time. Oh, yeah, and they pull it away. And it's like at a certain point, you just stop even wanting the dollar because you just feel so bad. Sick, dude. Like jokes that alienate someone. I think that's what it is. It's just not fun. And he's like, no. Of all the times to do it, when she's going to see the doctor for her baby. Yeah, a little baby. That she's carrying.

A miracle. He's going to miss the gender. What if the doctor was like, boy, no, it's a girl. No, it's a boy. No, it's a girl. And he's like, oh, be serious. Oh, my God.

Honestly, she should get him back that way somehow. Or she should be like, I'm at the front door. No, I'm at the back door. I'm at the front entrance. I hate a gender reveal. Oh, me too. They're so stupid. I hate it. They're so stupid. It's also like, I think we kind of have to change the name. It is like, okay, it's a sex reveal because, you know. 100%. But I just think it's so frustrating to me when you watch a couple that they want, you can tell what they want. Yes. And they don't get it. And they get disappointed. And then they just like pout and it's like,

Why did you do this publicly? Also, could you imagine being a baby growing up with that footage being out there of like parents being like, we want a girl.

And then you see a video of being like, oh, sorry, I was a boy. Yeah, no, I just saw one probably a couple weeks ago now, but it's replaying in my head like it's fresh. This couple was doing it and they had like three little girls. They had like three daughters already. And you can tell he wanted a boy and they got another girl and he's just pissed, stomping off. And it's like,

Your three daughters are there with you. Oh, that's sad. It's really sad. Really sad. It's just old-fashioned. It's giving, like, newspaper. You know what I mean? It's just, like, old. We don't do that stuff anymore. No. No. So, I don't know. I'm kind of for this. Yeah. I feel like he's got to earn back his ability to go. Like, hey, I haven't cut you off from being in the birthing room yet, buddy, so...

You're on thin ice. Yeah, I think it's just like show respect until you make your partner feel safe again. I know. That's the bare minimum. But can't you can you hear the devil's advocates coming in and being like, but this is too far, like blocking him from experiencing this. This is his child to like, can you hear the devil's advocates? And I honestly, if I put myself in his position, I yeah, I'm like, oh, that sucks.

But I also then go back to the fact that before taking this ability away of him coming, she just said, please stop. And he still kept going. And that's just like a respect thing. Yeah, I think so. I'm so curious to see what the comments think on this one. Yeah. Top comment, though. Not the asshole. And honest question. Has he always been this much of an immature, disrespectful jerk? Woo. Because it's only going to get worse once your baby arrives. Good luck. Oh, yeah.

That's a top comment. Yeah. And maybe they just said like, good luck. Like maybe it was a nicer than I read it. But the way you did it was like, good luck. Good luck. That's how I'm envisioning it. Good luck. Next comment down. Yes. Especially when he starts having to share you with somebody else, the baby, and isn't getting all your attention anymore, which is probably what this is actually about. Already jealous of the baby. Or the attention she's getting.

And he wants to make it about him. Oh, I think you're spot on with that. Because this is how he gets some attention back. This is how he gets a little control back. Like she's the star of the show when they walk in there, right? Yeah. And right before he's like, let me...

Oh, my God. Seems like he's going to take like a little stand up class or something. Just get that energy out somewhere else. He should. There's another comment here. So many with gold boxes. People really were lighting them up. Not the asshole. He doesn't respect your very reasonable boundary. His emotional intelligence needs some work. Also, jokes involving a vehicle and a pregnancy are not funny. That's just scary.

That's what I was saying. Jokes involving a motor? There's been so many people that have like accidentally gotten ran over by their cars lately. And like... Cars freak me out. I feel as if like people's partners, when someone gets pregnant, they get ultra like sensitive. They're like, oh, don't go down the stairs, babe. Or don't hold that magazine, babe. Yeah. And this is going the opposite way. Like...

Let's play with motor vehicles? I don't think my partner's going to let me use a can opener when I'm pregnant. If I ever go down that road. Like, there's no way. No. Be careful with those mics, babe. It's your show. Make sure they don't hit the baby. You need to adjust your mic? Okay, I'll come in. Just let me know. Let me know I'll be there. Yeah. I literally... I'm so proud of her because if this would have been me, I would have... I would have kicked the car. I would have put a dent in it. I would have like... Oh my God, this is such...

A bad thing to admit. So when I was a kid... Did you kick a car? It was really bad. So my dad had this like old Toyota something. It was like a really cute little two-door car in gold. And I was having a meltdown. I think I was like seven, eight. And...

He was going somewhere and I don't think I think I didn't want him to go. So I tried to get in the car so he couldn't go because I think he was going back to California from Minnesota. So I was like, I was trying to I was trying to throw a fit. And so I sat in the front seat of the car and I put my feet on the door and like kicked it out super hard to the point I actually bent the door a

upon itself like in the frame and he needed to like get a whole new door oh it like wouldn't shut right anymore you like mess with the like frame of the car yeah yeah no like okay strong little girl i was like a little hulk i don't know adrenaline took over it's really sweet though because you didn't want dad to go i didn't want him to go or like something like that and i'm just like so proud of her because like if this were me i would have put dents in that car like or i would have done the opposite and been like oh he's he's not getting enough attention

And like suppressed my needs to like help my partner because he's mad. Why do we do that? I know. Oh my gosh. Curious if there's any comments from OP. I mean, it's 13 days old. We should have a few. Yeah. She's just busy. You know, she's just busy.

Buying things for the nursery, I guess. I know. Opie does respond to that one about saying it's not even funny. You're right. It's not even funny. And I don't know why he kept doing it as if we've never talked about it before. But he said that my decision was way out of line and claimed I'm trying to rob him from being a father. Whoa. And even said that he's worried what I might do when the birth of our baby comes.

And now his mom is trying to talk some sense into me. But I already told her to talk to her son, not me. Whoa. He's involving his mom? That's when you know.

That's when you know his mom's on the other line. Goodness gracious. Thing is, he does this in other occasions. He's always been the jokester of the family. Usually I don't get so upset about his pranks, but this is just frustrating. Also, I forgot that his mom told me that I'm being hormonal and that I'm taking it out on her son because she thought my decision was over the top. But I don't know. That's why I'm asking here. I hate this comment, though. People are like, why don't you just drive yourself?

Okay. And Opie goes, I can't drive from pre-existing medical issues and my mom has agreed to help. Why don't you just deliver the baby yourself and just call it a day? Which her husband obviously knows that she can't drive. So again, for him to be so despicable, like she's relying on him. That's her only way to get to the doctor. Like it's so nice she has her mom and her mom will support her and help her. But like she shouldn't have to do that when she has

Yeah. And I feel as if like this opportunity, what's happening is OP's partner's chance to show that he does have what it takes to be a father and be patient and respectful. So if he wasn't throwing a fit, it'd be like, oh, okay, it's okay. Like-

He feels bad. He said sorry. So now you can go to the appointments, you know, like, but you're like really shit in the bed right now and making it a bigger deal. Yeah. Calling her hormonal. Woof. Get over it. Calling a pregnant woman hormonal.

wild instantly i think we should be able to put adults in time out and i think if you call a pregnant woman hormonal and try to like you're overreacting your your hormones it's okay it's okay instant time out like i don't know where we need to put people but like they need to go in a closet immediately like five minutes at least i honestly i was thinking about as you said that i'm like

I feel like I put myself in time out when I'm, when I'm like not well. Yeah. I'm like, I need five. I need a good five. I, during shark week, I've realized like I go, I go crazy. I'm like, well, one, I'm a hypochondriac, but then I'm like, okay, it's like PMDD starting to fit. Like, I don't know. I literally, I almost bit my fiance's head off the other day because he didn't drop my package off at FedEx. And I'm, and I'm thinking about it now. And I'm like,

He ran out of time. It happens. But in the moment, I was like, the world is ending. Like, I can't trust you. I think I had PMDD. I'm like, what the fuck, Morgan? Like, that was crazy. Could you imagine if like, while you were throwing that fit, he was like, you're hormonal. That just like,

It would make it worse. Makes it so much worse. It would make it worse. But I know, I know. I was like, I was on one because I went from like being mad about that. And then I got on a plane and I put on, have you seen the new Mufasa movie? I have not. Cried my eyes out the whole flight. Cried my eyes out.

Whole flight, just crying. I've got a picture. I don't know what it is about planes. Planes like really make me cry. Okay, hold on. I read this somewhere. What is it? I think it's in Amy Poehler's book. She goes, I always cry on a plane. Okay, I cannot watch a movie on the plane. It could be the happiest fucking movie. I'm bawling. I cry all the time on a plane. What is that? And I don't know what it is. And if someone can figure it out. What is that? Because I've heard of this phenomenon. Because like, I cry all the time. What's like the plane movie that's gotten you the most?

I'm trying to think. Like, I'll even just journal on a plane and I'm in tears. Thoughts? And I'm like, what a trip. My grandma's getting old and it's beautiful to still see her. Oh, fuck. And I'm like, going.

Planes are emotional. I don't know why. Maybe it's because you could see the world. You could see where you live and it's really small and you're like, wow, we're so much bigger than this. Oh, I think so. AI overview here coming from Google. People cry on planes for a combination of psychological and physiological reasons. Emotional factors. Travel can be stressful and emotional. Physiological.

physical effects of altitude. The lower air pressure in the cabin can cause mild hypoxia, which can lead to mood imbalances and feeling more emotional. Okay, so I'm having hypoxia. Hypoxia.

Okay, I would never tell someone they're too hormonal or they're being hormonal. But if I saw you sobbing during Mufasa, I'd say you're being hormonal. It was ridiculous. I'm literally, I'm crying and it was like a happy song. It's like, I always wanted a brother and I'm bawling. I'm like, what the fuck? These CGI lions, it's so beautiful. What is wrong with me?

You get nothing. It's just the hypoxia or whatever. Hypoxia. I actually have a picture of like recent flights and movies just to keep track of which ones I've cried on. Mufasa is the most recent. I've had like a lot of flights lately. Yeah, what else? I'm trying to think of the last. Oh, I watched a couple episodes of RuPaul's Drag Race and I cried on a plane. Oh, but that is emotional. They always put like three episodes of one season of something. That is quite emotional. Goodrich. Goodrich.

Good Rich. The new one with Michael Keaton and Mila Kunis. Ooh. Cried. Juror number two. No. Directed by Clint Eastwood. It's got Nicholas Holt, Toni Collette. Cried. A Real Pain. Okay, I fell asleep in the middle of that. Jesse Eisenberg, Kieran McCulkin. Cried. Cried.

Yeah, I've got quite the list here. Wait, you're on lots of planes. I've unfortunately had too many flights. No, that's a cool thing, I feel. My old ass. Okay, I watched that on a plane. Aubrey Plaza. And Bill Hader. Nope, not Bill Hader. Maddie Ziegler.

No, who's the old guy? Oh, I'm thinking of a different Aubrey Plaza movie. An A24 Aubrey Plaza. Well, I should watch that one too because I'll probably cry. But I just like there's something about it. So I don't know. Emotions get the best of us. Oh, yeah. But I think she's being quite reasonable in this actually. I think she's just fed up. Fed. It's not funny. Up. No official update on this one yet. That's the last comment we got from OP 13 days ago.

I'm hoping for an update. Yeah. I'm hoping he starts making amends and groveling a little more. I hope he just says one simple apology before this baby's about to pop. She'll be in there by herself otherwise. Yeah, come on. Driving herself home? Come on. Ridiculous. Up next, this one has a lot of gray area. I think we're going to really put your fairness to the test. Ooh, talking about things with gray areas on the internet. Yay. Scary. Scary.

Everyone in the comments already, you're wrong. So this one is titled, would I be the asshole if I keep my ex's life insurance payout instead of giving it to his pregnant girlfriend? Whoa, whoa, whoa. Instead of getting, whoa. Yeah.

My ex and I were together for seven years, and we got engaged two years ago. Around that time, we both took out life insurance policies, listing each other as beneficiaries. It made sense at the time because we were planning a future together. Then, six months before the wedding, he cheated on me. I was devastated, but I forgave him because I didn't want to throw away seven years of my life. I thought we could move past it.

But two months before the wedding, he blindsided me. He left me for the same woman he had cheated with. I was completely heartbroken. I begged him to reconsider, but he told me he had moved on and that I should too. It took me a long time to heal, but I eventually accepted that he had made his choice. Over time, I worked on rebuilding my life.

That was a year ago. I updated my own life insurance policy, assuming he would do the same. Then last week, I got the unexpected news that he had passed away suddenly. Oh my God. It was shocking, but what surprised me even more was getting a call from his sister. Apparently, he never changed his beneficiary, which means I'm set to receive a $100,000 payout.

Now his girlfriend, the woman he left me for, has reached out, asking me to give her the money. She's pregnant with his child and currently unemployed. She says the money should go to her and the baby because I am just his ex. Okay.

I understand that this is a difficult situation and I have sympathy for her child, but at the end of the day, this was his responsibility. He had an entire year to update his policy and he didn't. I wasn't expecting this money, but legally it is mine. I didn't take anything from anyone. It was his choice to leave things as they were.

I don't think I should be obligated to give it up, especially considering how he treated me. This isn't about revenge or pettiness. It's simply about the fact that I was the named beneficiary, and I see no reason why I should be the one to fix a mistake that he made. That being said, I don't want to be heartless. I'm considering setting aside a small amount for the baby because none of this is the child's fault. But at the same time, I don't think I should feel guilty for keeping what was legally left to me.

Am I the asshole? This one's intense. This is pretty intense. And like, I don't know. I don't know why. It's it is only a day old. Okay. But OP has deleted this post. I have not read any of the comments. I don't know where they fall. But to like delete your post after a day. Do you think it's because the comments got crazy? I don't know. I'm like,

I'm trying not to peak, which is so unlike me. Oh my gosh. It's so unlike you. Okay. This is what I love about Reddit and this show and just talking about things because I always have an opinion right off the bat. Okay. And I never am like, first opinion is the right opinion, right? Like I always need to like talk it out. My knee jerk was like, that's not your money. Yeah. But I also need to talk these things out. And that's why, cause I, I know that there are things I'm never always seeing like right off the bat.

I just feel her saying, first of all, it was very defensive wording. Very. So, you know, she's getting bombarded. Yeah. And she was like, listen, I don't know. She kept blaming it on his mistake to not changing it. But that doesn't make it her money, in my opinion. I mean, he was the one still paying the policy. I just wonder and like maybe this is wishful thinking. I'm wondering if he left it.

And it wasn't like an oversight. It was genuinely like, I feel so bad for what I did. Like, this is what she deserves. If anything happens to me. Not expecting like... Okay, that... That's where I'm like... But that is like... That's probably fairytale, like, cuckoo, Morgan, wishful thinking. No, no. That low-key took my breath away. Maybe. That's a sweet thing. But I'm like...

I don't know. And then, you know, he could just be like, it was out of sight, out of mind. Like that, I could see myself like not updating it because it's like, I don't know, like last, like last thing. I don't know. Like the only issue I have with it is being like, no matter what, she didn't earn that money.

If that makes sense. Yeah. Like I understand like, like, you know, when people have divorces and then like some of whatever that person was making at that time, some of it goes to their spouse. Like if like my friend was married to a guy whose album who like wrote a very successful album and she was there supporting him during it. And like, like that kind of stuff I get where I'm like, you were there or you were a part of, I don't know. This is like,

You were so removed. And she doesn't have, I don't know, there's nobody to take care of except the kid. Yeah. And okay, well, and here's where I go on that. Like, I'm like, when people do life insurance, typically it's like, it's to pay for anything. For their funeral, right? For their funeral, ensure their family, offspring, whatever is taken care of. If the baby's his, right? Like, because that...

Whatever. You could like specify like you do DNA tests. Let's make sure the baby's his. And then I'm going to put some aside for the child. I think that would be the bare minimum she has to do, to be honest. Yeah. Because I also wonder where his will sits in all of this. If he had one. Because if that's talking about like, oh my God, I feel so financial talking about this. But I'm like, if there is money being left behind.

To his kid. Yeah. And that's just like some money he forgot about? I mean, he's got to have other assets, you would think. I'm like, if I died tomorrow, who would my Venmo balance go to? I don't know. Next of kin. My Venmo? Mm-hmm. Like, I'm thinking like little other pockets of money you don't know you have. Yeah.

I know. I just made a will. Whoa. It was really intense. Did you put stickers on it? Not yet. Why do I think wills are like pieces of paper? I have a little binder. It came in like a big ass binder. Like my lawyer meant business. Whoa. But it was really, it was like, it was a really hard thing to do. And I'm not like, I'm not married yet. We're engaged and we are going to do a prenup and stuff. But like if something happened to me today, I would want to make sure that

he has something and if I wouldn't have made my will it wouldn't have gone it would have immediately just gone to my parents as my next of kin he would have gotten nothing so I made sure like if we are together at my time of death he's taken care of wow but like this guy didn't do anything and like don't you think like you have a baby on the way like I guess like

I get where she's coming from, where it's like, it shouldn't be my problem to fix a mistake he made. But that wasn't a mistake. That was just, he just didn't do something. Does that make sense? Like it was an oversight. Yeah, I know. I wish we had like more comments from OP because like, I think context for me would really matter too. Because like she says like, oh, he blindsided me two months before the wedding. Okay. Two months before the wedding, you're probably losing all your deposits. I'm like, did you lose all that money? How did that split happen?

I keep forgetting about the breakup part of this. I know. Because then that kind of makes me understand when there's like emotion, like strong emotion behind a decision. Sometimes you're like, that might not be like completely grounded in logic. Yeah. And it might be something that she needs. I think for me, I know like she said it, like this isn't about pettiness. This isn't about revenge. And I understand like where it's just like,

such a mistake, like, but you get a hundred thousand dollars, like walking away from a hundred thousand dollars, like that is life changing money. So I, I get it. Like I get just like, in a way you could almost, even if you are wrong, convince yourself that it's right and justified because it is such a huge amount of money and life changing. And that heartbreak sounds also like

life-changing and and like a a thing that could blind you in other areas like give you a blind spot because I can't imagine how like hurtful that was how how hard that is to get over yeah so then on accident you run into all of his money it's kind of insane I did a commercial and they didn't give me a good lunch and I kept my tank top that they gave me and I was like I deserve it you do but it's like little things like that where you're like I don't know I

Does that make sense? Like when sometimes we're like broken hearted, we think things belong to us that maybe sometimes they don't just because we're hurt. Completely agree. And I think that's what she's kind of rationalizing here. And maybe she was eaten up in the comments and that's why she deleted it. Let's see. Top comment, quote, you are just the homewrecker. Like basically implying that's what OP should have said to the girlfriend. And someone goes, this is what OP should counter with.

If OP is just the ex and a fair partner is so important to him, why did he not change it? I don't know. I don't know.

I wish we knew if this person who passed, like, was a forgetful person or was, like, a very intentional person. Because your whole theory is juicy. I want contacts. An OP deleted account, deleted the post. The account's gone. Account, everything. Everything. So I'm like, where are you? So it sounds like people were siding with OP in the comments. I think so. I'm going to try to find, see if, like, anyone actually gave a vote here. Because most people are just like...

Most people are there. I'm going to be honest. They're maybe being a little insensitive. They're like, take your money, hon. Well, someone goes, technically, she's also an ex-girlfriend now. Whoa, dude, read the room. I'm like, I don't know about that. I'm like, he died. Let's someone responds to it goes, ouch, ouch, ouch, ouch. I'm like, yeah, I felt uncomfortable reading it.

Is she seriously pregnant, like you know for a fact, or is she just saying it? Also, it is legally yours. I don't know if there's repercussions to giving it away. I'm sure it's considered a gift and she'd owe a hefty chunk to the IRS. Like, how would you transfer it without them finding out? I'd keep it, and if the kid is real, fork over maybe $10,000, $20,000.

Because ultimately, I mean, we both agree, like, legally, yes, this is hers. We're talking about morally, right? We're, like, just trying to figure out, like, was this an oversight that she should worry about or... I know. Someone goes, keep it, but be prepared for the baby mom going to try to sue you for it. It's a fight you can afford. Yeah. Like, it might not be fun, but... Yeah. I don't know. I would... Personally, what would you do? It's so hard to imagine yourself in their shoes, but...

Is it weird that I would like... Would you go off grid? Just block them all and go off grid? Just like move? Go into hiding? That's not enough money to like pick up and go. Actually, it is. I don't fucking know. In the right country, maybe. Yeah. Okay. Maybe. And this is... I'm a confrontational girly. Ooh. I think I'd ask to get coffee with her. And if I'm getting good vibes... Okay. I don't know. I don't... Because I want... Honestly, the comments made me realize like you need to know if this baby was his. I'm...

Is she even pregnant? Maybe I'm hiring a private detective. I think I would be okay with some of the money going towards that. Yeah. Because what if their relationship wasn't doing well? No. And you never know. You never know. But what if he was completely in love with her and this is his baby and he cares about his baby and blah, blah, blah. You never know.

I would absolutely need a DNA test because he could have died and she could have been like, oh my God, he has money. Now I'll get nothing. So she could have gone out and purposefully tried to get pregnant and then just say it's his, you know, also depends on math when the baby comes. Okay. Is this crazy? You take some of the money for you because he made a mistake, I guess. Yeah. Which still feels weird. And then you give some of the money to his parents and then they have to decide. I like that.

I like that. Or you give all the money to charity and you buy a nice pair of jeans. Okay, Phoebe Buffay. Take it easy over there. I don't know. People got to eat. Yeah. I don't know, man. This is a tough situation. I guess you could give it to a charity that would feed thousands. 100%. Fuck. Like, did he have any causes he loved? I don't know. That's a tough one. You guys, we might have to put this to a poll. Yes. We might have to put this one to a poll.

Go to Spotify for the poll because I don't know. I still don't know where I fall. I'm like, maybe they split it three ways. I don't know. Oh, yeah. I think she should definitely ask if they need help covering the funeral. I feel as if she should cover the funeral and then walk. I don't know. My opinion is changing every second. I don't know. Oh, my God. I don't know. We're not going to tie us down to one thing. We're going to see what the people think. Maybe that'll... Yeah, do the poll. Do the poll, everyone. I'm scared. Do the poll. Do the poll and be nice. Yes.

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Can you do multiple of these a day or you can't? Sometimes I do three. That's crazy. It hurts my brain. Yeah. A lot. You're like, I don't know. You're an asshole by the end. I like run out of things to say. This next one, I will not run out of things to say. Oh my God. Seven days old, coming from AITH, titled, My husband needs to touch my breasts to fall asleep. Oh.

I'm exhausted and need a divorce. Am I the asshole? Oh my God. Throw away because my main has some personal info and pretty much what the title says. My 26 female husband, 30 male, and I've been together for five years and he needs my breasts, boob, whatever to fall asleep.

Every single day he goes to bed at around 10.30, 11 something and calls me over when I'm not even feeling sleepy just so he can touch my boobs for his own sleep.

From the very beginning of our relationship, he's had this habit. At first, I thought it was cute and kind of endearing sometimes, and I didn't mind it. But ever since we're married, it's become suffocating. It gets worse with how no matter what position I try to sleep in, he always reaches for me.

If I turn away, he'll spoon me and still find a way. If I push his hand away or say I'm not in the mood to be touched, he either whines like I'm depriving him of something essential or gets genuinely upset. Sorry, I'm gagged over here. He claims it helps him relax and fall asleep, but I feel like I'm just an emotional support object at this point.

I've tried compromising and suggesting that he hold my hand, cuddle a pillow, or even just rest his hand on my stomach instead. Nope. It has to be my breasts. Or he just can't sleep. And if I try to set boundaries, he makes me feel guilty, saying things like, so now you don't love me anymore? Or, this is a normal thing between partners.

This has been wearing on me for years, but lately I just dread going to bed. I feel like my body isn't even mine in my own home. The main reason this makes me so mad is because this is the only form of affection I get from him. Forget cuddles or random kisses. He doesn't even give me a hug. A hug. No. The last time I got one was on my birthday, and that was a year ago.

He only needs my boobs. I finally snapped last week after a long day when he reached for me again and I told him I can't live like this anymore. He got angry and accused me of being dramatic and said I was threatening our marriage over something so small. But to me, it's not small. It's a constant daily violation of my comfort.

What makes this even worse for me is the fact that my husband does nothing to help me at home. He goes to work at 8 and I go at 5. He comes back by 5 p.m. and I come back by 7. From 7 p.m. to 12, I have to make up for all the chores at home, cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc., while he plays some games in his room.

No.

I called my sister, who I'm closest to, and told her everything. She said that I'm weird for divorcing over something like this. I called my best friend of a decade, and she said that she understands me, but divorce is just overblown. I'm going crazy. I don't even know if I'm being so ridiculous at this point. I don't even know how to bring this up to my mom, mother-in-law, or anyone else at all. I feel like an asshole for considering divorce over something like this.

Am I the asshole? Will people even take me seriously? Dude. I want to get her a taser. Me too. Okay. Get away. Stop touching me. Stop. Okay. Also, her friends and family need to know she's not getting a divorce because he wants to touch her boob. She's getting a divorce because she's being deprived of like a partner. Like he won't. The last time he hugged her was on her fucking birthday. Okay.

That's the saddest shit I've ever heard. If you haven't gotten a hug in a year, like I would, I would combust. Like it's less about the boob. It's more about like he's absent. No, I totally, and I totally get where it's like, it's not even like intimacy anymore. It's literally, you just feel like a squeaky stress toy because it's like, if you're not getting a hug, if you're not getting kisses, if you're not getting any other formulations,

form of physical affection, which is people's love language. It's like that is so important. Like our bodies, like literally our nervous systems and our brains and like chemicals like we need that. A lot of us need that. Like

I need to be crushed like an elephant sometimes. Like, see, that's so funny. I, physical touch is not one of my love languages. See, I like, I need, like, if I don't get a hug, I just like, yeah, my best friends like that. And I've dated people where they're like, if, if you don't touch me or hug me or hold my hand, I think you're mad at me. And it's like,

It's, I think, acknowledging when you have a different love language, especially with touch with somebody. Yeah. And not making that change is not good. No. Like, it's like, it's him not knowing how to, like, meet his partner halfway and show physical anything at all. It's just confusing because it's like, how do you expect her to enjoy being a stress ball if there's no other form of, like, intimacy and touch? Mm-hmm.

I can't get over the, I wonder if he sucked his thumb till later in life. What has he been doing the whole time? No, but like, I've heard a whole thing like,

Like, what if he was a baby who sucked his thumb until he was really old? Or he sucked his mommy's titty until he was really old. Honestly? And he has, like, it's giving, like, man boy a little bit. I heard this a while ago, but if, like, there's a guy or someone that has, like, an oral fixation with boobs, it's like they weren't breastfed long enough, maybe that could be him. Maybe he wasn't breastfed long enough.

Or there's just something under the hood that has nothing to do with her, but just his comfort. But your partner is, your partner's identity is not solely your comfort. That's a, that's a dangerous position to be in. And I, I understand why she's like feeling trapped. I'm overwhelmed for her. Yeah. And I'm a boob girl.

I love my boobs. I'll hold my boobs when I'm stressed. Yeah. I love them. It's like two little hot pockets when you're cold. Yeah. Oh, get your hands under there. Oh my gosh. It's so nice. I know. I could, I could actually tuck stuff away under mine. It could be a hiding spot too. Oh, a hundred percent. You know, like, Oh, I put my debit card way under there. Yeah. They're fun. Like I get it. But like, again,

You got to give a little more. And I think it's not it's really not about the boobs. That's just the tip of the tit. It really is like it's more so about the fact he doesn't help around the house. He's not a partner. Yeah, it's not about the boobs. She's yeah, it's not about the boobs. She's not being met.

And I can't imagine what it's like for someone to not like show you love and then to be like, get over here. I need to hold your tit. Goodness gracious. I know he's not saying it like that, but that's what it's coming off like that. No, no, no. He's literally like, come here. He's like, where's my toy? Yeah. Come on, come on, come on. Get over here. I don't care if you're tired or not. Come on, stress toy. Literally. I would try to ruin it for him in any way I could. And that

People would call me petty. People would say have a better communication style. But I would literally like I would get, you know, like a sound pad. And like anytime he goes to like squeeze, I'd be like, Aruga. I would. I would. Yeah, I would start ruining it for him. There's no way. I mean, if I can't have peace, neither can you. I'd like watch YouTube videos really loud on my phone.

Be like, oh, if this is you finding peace, this is me finding peace. If I got to sit here, I'm going to put on Smosh. That's what we're doing. Best of Angela moments. Okay. Oh, yeah. He won't be able to sleep. It's so messy. I'm trying to think of what else you could do to your boob to make him be like, get off. I'd like put like spikes on it or something. I don't know. Oh, I like that. Just do something that's like, this doesn't feel good. What a fucking loser. I hate him. Go buy a doll, dude. Go get a doll. Why did that come into my mind? Yeah.

this because obviously he doesn't want to talk to her i mean maybe he does but he like there are things that he doesn't want no to deal with he doesn't care to talk to her at all he's trying to fall asleep you can get a boob he should buy that thing that was on um meet the parents or meet the fockers or whatever that the guy had like yes fake yes fake chest when the grandpa's like yeah he's trying to like jack the character robert de niro trying to breastfeed the baby he should just buy himself a

A top. Yeah. The next time he's like, come over here. She just throws him this like little tip ball or something. And she goes, here you go, babe. Bought this for you. Oh, you know what she does? And she goes like this. Here's your own boob to hold so I can go wash your dishes and I can be in two places at once.

That's what she should do. Okay. Okay. So I found something he can get. Silicone breastplate. Boom. Fake breasts for cosplay. $38.99. But Morgan, those breastplates won't also clean the floors and do the sheets. You're right. Like, come on. It's not a good sign. It could be easy to fall into, right? Like, you're with someone and at first it starts out 50-50.

And then all of a sudden you realize you're the one 75% cleaning. Like, I think you could slip into it easily without knowing. But I'm so curious if they slipped into it or if their relationship, that was always the dynamic.

Yeah. Because I couldn't deal with a dynamic like that. Because I understand like how she said the the boob holding thing wasn't bad in the beginning. And it was like, oh, I'm needed. This is cute. Yeah. But then if your cup is not being filled or whatever, like if you're not being loved on. Yeah. And it's just you giving your body. That's a hard place to be in. Let's get into the comments.

So, for the 25 years before he met you, did he just not sleep? Man-child has to go. So true! What was he doing when he was like in college or in high school? Next comment down. Nah, he must have used his mom's. That's what I was worried about. That's disgusting.

That's one of the things I just sometimes I wish I couldn't read. Good luck. Good luck. Good luck. Next comment down. We joke, but genuinely could they say something really? I just don't. Yeah. No, no, no. Yeah. No.

This person goes, it's not even a need because let's face it, your hand really doesn't have any more reaction to that particular skin than anywhere else on her body. If he's not touching her in a sexual way, my guess is that he needs the comfort of being able to control her in order to fall asleep.

He's unsettled without that control and it bothers him enough to keep him awake. He needs his favorite possession in his possession. This guy doesn't have a weird little quirk or even mommy issues. It's way more serious and dangerous than that. This comment just wrecked me to my fucking core. Because it's like a power thing to be like, drop everything you're doing and come over here. I want to take a shower after that comment. There could be some juice to that.

Yeah, and it's like a stop it. Come over here. I'm like, I need to go look at Opie's account. Like, do we have any comments? Like, you good? Like, where are we at here? Oh, my God. Okay, we do have some comments.

I tried suggesting so many things, but he just wants my boobs. He says I cannot sleep otherwise. He's not ready to compromise at all. He calls me over when he is ready to sleep, and I have to stay there, mummified, until he falls asleep. Half of the time, he wakes up if he notices me gone, which is when I try to finish the housework way earlier. Oh! Um...

You have to sit there mummified. He probably doesn't even let her go on a phone. Yeah. Or listen to anything. Okay, yeah. So then I think this is a control thing because that's freaky. Yeah. He doesn't do housework. If he had done it, then I wouldn't be complaining like this. He spends his free hours doing things he likes. If I stop doing the work, then I get yelled at and he becomes upset, which is the reason I do it. He expects me to cook, clean, and also be there when he calls me.

Yeah, no, this turned. This made a turn. Uh-uh. This is bad.

When he calls me during chores, I have to leave them midway and wait until he falls asleep. Then I pray to the gods he doesn't wake up noticing me gone while I return to cleaning, which is the last thing I do. And I actually had a night out once with my friends after marriage. It was kind of recent. I think I got over 50 plus missed calls and I was being spammed until I reached home. And I'm not allowed to go on work trips for this very reason. Because he needs her fucking nipple?

This guy's gotta go on a walk. This guy's gotta go to school. This guy's gotta go to therapy. There's not, there's, I'm like, I'm like really freaked out by him. So she can't go on work trips. Her career is being impacted. She had one night out with friends. One? One night out with friends. No, that's not fair. That's not fair. Unreal.

I want to, this is so bad, but like the first thing that came into my mind is like, I kind of want to hit his hands with a baseball bat. And like, I know violence isn't the answer. Okay. I get it. I do. I get it. I'm so sorry. I'm like, maybe we can like tape oven mitts, like, you know, like tape some oven mitts around his hands. Like, I don't, I don't know. I'm like,

Maybe we can hypnotize him. Like, what can we do that's not violent that will make this stop? I would. Yeah. If I had like all the money in the world, I would just send him a sex doll every day or something and be like, but then, you know, that would confront him being like, oh, this isn't about the boob in my hand because, oh, you can give me all the boobs I want. And it's actually not about that. This is because you want to control another person. And that makes you insecure and tiny and dumb.

Agreed. No, I think I think there's a lot worse things you could say that would also be applicable. Bottom line, she's got to go. This is not one. Do not let your family and friends convince you you're overreacting. Yeah, you genuinely need to go. And it's.

It's not about the boobs. I know like that's the headline here, but it's not. It's really. It's everything. That's why I'm bummed that her friends and her mom like didn't really pick up on it because it's so clear and not about the boob. It's no, but this is why like there's some people that like come on the show and they'll be like, it's so sad. People have to turn to Reddit. And I'm like,

no, like, thank God people can turn to Reddit. Thank God people can go to a place where they're going to get pretty neutral, unbiased advice because we don't have a dog in this game. Like, oh, I don't like that saying anymore even. Like, we don't have, we don't have, like, you know. Like, there's nothing for you to win or lose when you're helping someone that you don't know. Exactly. So I'm like, thank God Reddit came for the win on this one because her mom and, or her friends and whoever else, sister, not having her back, like, if I heard my,

my best friend was doing all the cooking, all the cleaning. And then she had to sit like a mummy while her partner massaged her breasts to fall asleep. Like come over, get out of that house. A hundred percent. I love what you just said because like, there are so many bad dynamics in relationships that can't get broken because sometimes the people around you aren't giving you like the most, I don't know, but like, like this is such a, it's, it is a great tool that Reddit has become is to be like,

You can have a group, like a masses of people being like, this is red flag. This is red flag. We're all from all different parts of the world. And we're saying this isn't good. Yeah. You have a red flag next to you if you want to wave it. Really just. That's bad. Oh my God. I love it. She's okay. I hate, I hate this for her.

I do too. But I mean, OP was commenting after, you know, commenting as recent as seven days ago. Yeah. No, she's fine. I just like, I just hate that her, her support system isn't helping her right now. Yeah. I hope you're out there, OP. I'm going to send you the link for this. I hope you watch it. I hope you feel good about leaving.

Do not feel bad. Get out. Yeah. Enjoy your life. It's not about the boob. It's not about the boob. And you are 26. Oh my God. The prime of your life. Like the movie's just beginning. It's just beginning. And there are hot men in the movie who hold your face. Yeah. Not just your boob. Yeah. And he's 30. Like not even a big age gap. Not even like a big. Poor guy's got a lot coming for him. Oh man. Yeah.

Your rom-com's about to start and his tragedy's about to begin. Truly. Truly. On that note, moving along.

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You might get both of them. But I'll let you choose which one comes first, maybe. Okay, option number one. Am I the asshole for ignoring my wife for throwing away my late wife's videotapes? Whoa.

Option number two. Option number two. Am I the asshole for telling the truth about why I ended my engagement to my ex's parents and grandparents? I like both. Okay. Sorry to make you read both. I love both. I love them all. Okay. Which one first though? Should we go with death first? Then the second one. Okay. Okay. And on a, yeah. Yeah.

So this is coming from AITAH6DaysOld, titled, Am I the Asshole for Ignoring My Wife for Throwing Away My Late Wife's Videotapes?

Also, I just want to say I really appreciate that on this show you say how old it is. Yeah. Shane doesn't do that. So I don't know if it was like in the early 2000s. I know. Or like – but now I like – I'm living in the same universe as his OP right now. Yeah. The context does matter. Like – because then we got to know like how crazy do we have to get with our advice? Like do we need to drop a pin? Like do we need to show up? Yeah.

Do we need like, yeah, like literally like, yeah, like hashtag it's not about the boob. No, hashtag not about the boob. But if you need help getting out, drop a pin and I will genuinely fly and I will get the U-Haul. I'm obsessed with you. I will get the U-Haul. I know how to drive those big rigs. You do? I'm ready. I don't know how to drive those, but have confidence enough to just like tell myself I can do it. There's a location pretty close. We could do some parking lot. Okay, yeah. Yeah, we'll get you ready. I think, you know, it's one of those things that you got to do to like doomsday prep. Yeah. Yeah.

You've seen that. Just like learn how to drive a big truck. Wasn't there a zombie movie with like Woody Harrelson and he's in a U-Haul or something or a camper? And you cried on a plane? I might have shed a tear or two. But you gotta know. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, it's good advice. I own a horse van. I'll let you drive that. Yeah, I forgot about that. And I'll just practice for the end of the world. Yeah, I won't let a horse go in there on our first trip around the block. No, no, no. You should get a big truck that says two hot takes and it goes out in front of Opie's house. And it's like...

They're like, move that bus. And it's you being like, get in here. It's not about the boob. You're safe here. Oh my God. And you show up to the wedding. Oh my God. I need to brand my bus. You need to brand your bus. Oh, my tax guy is going to love this. Okay, back to this one.

I'm writing this because I don't know what to do. I have a daughter with my late wife and her name is Eleanor. Her birthday is coming up in two weeks and she's turning 18. Background. Me and my late wife, Chloe, had been dating since college. We got older and ended up getting married. And after our wedding, she shared news to me that she was pregnant. I was excited that we were expecting our first child. Since it was our first child, we bought a video camera and made little tapes and snippets of her whole pregnancy.

Wholesome things such as us just joking around or having lunch or talking to our unborn child through the camera. We made a promise to only show Eleanor the tapes at her 18th birthday. Fast forward two years after her birth, Chloe passed away due to a drunk driver crashing into her car as she was coming home from her mother's house.

I was devastated of her passing and went into a deep depression and having to raise our two-year-old daughter by myself. My friends tried to get me to go out again and start back up dating, but every time I did, I felt like I was betraying her. Years later, when Eleanor was 13, I met Wendy. We met at a gathering for my sister's birthday and we instantly hit it off. She didn't mind that I had a daughter because she had two kids herself and just went through a divorce.

Two years after, we got married. Now, back to the present. Eleanor's 18th birthday is coming up, and I kept all of the tapes for me to show her. Mind you, her mother died when she was just two, so Eleanor doesn't remember her touch or her voice. I was excited to show her the tapes, and a week ago, I was talking to Wendy about it, and I noticed her expression going from happy to looking a bit uncomfortable. Wendy would always get uncomfortable when I talked about my late wife.

I don't say things like, why can't you be like Khloe? Or Khloe was only supposed to be my first love. But I talk about her in a way to give my daughter a mental picture of how her mother was. Wendy has always talked to me about Khloe and how it made her sad that she can never be like her. Khloe was a model, then started working on her fashion career. And don't get me wrong, she was a really beautiful woman. While Wendy had two kids in college and is not in the best shape.

due to her words. I love both women how they are, and I've never had a preference, but I feel like Wendy is gaining some jealousy towards Chloe. I told Wendy that I love her just the way she is, and she broke down crying. The next day after that incident, she came up to me and apologized for the way she acted last night. I told her it was okay, and it's good that she felt comfortable enough to share her feelings. I gave her a tight hug and a kiss on the forehead.

She asked to see where the tapes were at, and I showed her the box of videotapes of my late wife in the closet. Things were going fine until yesterday morning. I was looking for the tapes because I wanted to put them in a prettier box for my daughter, and when I went to go find them, the box wasn't in my closet. I looked everywhere to the point I walked downstairs to see my wife laying on the couch watching TV. I asked her about the box, and she told me she threw it away.

all with a neutral expression. My heart dropped and I asked her what did she mean and she told me that I talk about her too much and that I need to move on with my life so she threw them away as a head start. I was fuming with anger because not only she threw away what I had left of her, she threw away my daughter's big surprise.

We quickly got into an argument and she noticed how angry I was, so she started apologizing. It got to the point I started crying and locked myself in our bedroom.

It's the morning, and I'm writing this in my office, going through my computer, trying to find old files or any type of video of my late wife to give it to my daughter. Because sometimes my daughter still cries that she never got to meet her mother, and I really thought it would bring her closer to her. I've been ignoring my wife for the past day, and she's been texting me nonstop about how sorry she is, but I really just can't even look at her right now.

It's getting to the point our mutual friends are texting me to accept her apology and get over it since Chloe died over 10 years ago. But I'm trying to ignore them all because they never had someone so close to them die. I'm working on finding these files and I'm starting to think I was overreacting. I don't know what to do and I really need help. I'm nauseous. I'm like, I'm just nauseous. This is so devastating.

This isn't the first story like this I've read either. Like there's been multiple people that are threatened by someone's ghost. Yeah. And I can't begin to understand that.

If you didn't want to be with someone who had a past and is a widow, why the fuck did you go after a widow? Yeah. Why are you so fucking jealous and stupid? Yep. Of a ghost. Of a ghost or just grief. Like that's like, that's your partner's grief that you can't control and turn off and turn on and decide when it's been too long. Too long. No, it's been 10 years. 10 years isn't even that long. Do you remember that? There's a scene in-

10 years 10 years since I'm like wait I'm bad at math but 10 years of them dating is that what she's trying to say like 10 years of Eleanor dying I think 10 year uh Eleanor's 18th birthday is coming up oh and she was dead when her mom died so 16 years but still like I don't think you ever of them dating you never just like get over someone like like grief is like it's always kind of with you

Do you remember there's a scene in Princess Diaries that blew up on TikTok recently where she's like, she's walking with Lily, the like quirky girl. And she's like, he's still sad about your dad dying. Hasn't it been like two months already? And someone was like, how did this get past like the second draft? I missed that. It's a great, like fine. I have to send it to you. It's so funny. She's like, it's been like a month. Get over it already. You can't, you can't tell someone's grief what to do. I'm really sorry.

I really hate that for them. And I, what sucks about this is that it seems like it was between OP and his new partner. Yeah. But the only person that is the real like person getting affected by this is Chloe. Their daughter, right? Eleanor. Eleanor. No, I thought that was the wife. Chloe's the wife. Thank you.

Wow. So you're good at this. I just feel bad for the daughter. I mean, Chloe's ghost is probably affected as well. Like she's probably up there, you know, like a couple more days and she'll get to see my videos.

So sad. Like, if I was a ghost, you know, I'd be curious. I'm nosy. I got to stick around a little. Oh, my gosh. See how the videos are received. So, yeah, Khloe's affected, too. To throw away a VHS or whatever the hell it was is so drama. I don't understand why it couldn't just be like, I will never be able to put my brain in this headspace forever.

But like, it quite literally isn't about you. It's like, this is a gift for Eleanor. This has nothing to do with you. It doesn't even have to do with you and your relationship. I was going to say, if this has to do with your relationship, then that's between you and an OP. This is not about her. I'm just so confused.

Like, I liked that this post included that, like, she's never feeling like, oh, I wish you were like this. I wish you were like my ex-wife like this. Or my late wife. Yeah. He doesn't do that kind of stuff. And it's just for his daughter that this stuff comes up. It's literally for her 18th birthday. He's waited 16 years to be able to present this with her, to her. Like, I don't know.

I feel so bad. And he's asking, am I the asshole for ignoring her? I don't know. No. This is so unfair. Yeah. I also don't think he overreacted. He was asking after he's calmed down. I was like, did I overreact? No.

I think every reaction you had is so specific to you and your daughter. And like no one, no mutual friend can be like, well, I know about this. So I can tell you you're overreacting. It's his, it's his grief and his daughter's grief. I would like have a hard time even looking at those friends. Like stay out of it. It hasn't even been 24 hours. I'd be like, who called you? Stay in your lane. Wendy, man. Wendy's trying to get everybody on board. Emotionally manipulate him. Can everyone reach out to him? He's not being sensible. What?

Oh my God, Wendy. Top comment. Dear Lord, I'm honestly not one to advocate for divorce, but I do not think I could continue a relationship with someone who did something so wildly despicable. And selfish. Selfish, repugnant. I mean, I want people to chime in with some big fancy words so I can learn them. Let's get bigger than repugnant in here about this person. Ugh.

This isn't jealousy. That's a mental disorder. She stole the only vestiges of your wife that your daughter will have. That is not something you can come back from or she can apologize for. This is a line in the sand. Someone goes, I doubt she's even sorry. Just sorry for herself that OP is ignoring her. It was all premeditated. Wendy needs a doctor and divorce papers. Whoa. Both of those together.

I mean, definitely was premeditated. Where's that box? You know, can you just show me the box? You're so right. I forgot about that. She asked where the box was located. Where's the box? Why do you need to know where the box is? Yeah. Why do you want to look at it? Also, what was OP? Like, I'm curious. Like,

I wonder why Wendy wants to see the box. Like, did... It's like, oh, yeah. I put it right here. Here's the box, Wendy. Like, she's not asking to see the footage. She just, like, wants to know where it's located. That's so sus. Why? And premeditated. Wendy, you gonna help me digitalize them? Why? Yeah. What do you want, Wendy? Oh, there's no way I'm not putting that stuff in the cloud when she's, like, eight or nine. It's gotta get in the cloud now. Yeah. Gotta now. And this is not OP's fault in any way, shape, or form. No, it isn't. But, like...

But like that's why you back everything up. I'm paranoid with stuff. I feel so bad for them. We do. We have a small update. Small. Small but big. Small. Okay. We're just fuck the comments. Let's get into this. Yeah.

Go click. Click faster. What? Oh my God. Go. Okay. Small update coming from five days ago. I didn't expect this. I came here to look for general advice. Now I have a thousand people in my DMs. I'm going to be answering questions and I'm getting about them in the most.

I was thinking about asking Wendy about the tapes and where she threw them out, but I saw a comment that told me to not ask her because it might give her some time to hide it or lie. Instead, when I went back home, I checked in the outside trash cans and the kitchen one, and I still couldn't find them. Trash day isn't until Thursday, so I was confused.

I finally went up to ask her, and at first, she wasn't going to tell me. I threatened with divorce, like one of you guys said, and she gave in. It turns out she kept the videotapes in her car until trash day arrived because she knew I would look through the trash. Shut the fuck up. So now I have the tapes. Thank God. But she went the extra mile? This bitch is unhinged.

Unhinged! Wendy! Wendy! Wendy needs to go. Wendy did not want him to have the tapes. I want to, like, can someone, like, send Wendy some holy water and just, like, pour it on her head? Some rose water, some holy water, some electrolytes, some therapy. Wendy! Wendy! Thank God. Thank God. Okay.

Another question asked was, did Eleanor know about the tapes? No, I didn't want to ruin the surprise until if I'd known that I had a backup. She didn't know about them now, and I'm not planning on telling her until her birthday. The only problem is that I'm afraid that Wendy might tell her.

What a sick way to make this continue to go on if Wendy did that. One more question is people are asking if I'm considering divorce. Wendy never did anything like this before, and I don't want to ruin a six-year relationship. But at the same time, I really do think she needs some type of help. I'm considering asking her to go to therapy, and I'm really considering our relationship.

That was so innocent. Starting? Okay.

Yeah, it's like the space you want to hold in your new home. You want it to like somehow just like honor who you lost a little bit. And this is the opposite of that. Complete opposite. There's no way there's any pictures of Chloe around the house. Like there's no way there's any memories of her. And like I recognize like if I died tomorrow.

Fingers crossed. I'm good. But I would want Justin to move on. But I would hope, like, I mean, have a little picture of me and you somewhere. Like, don't archive all the posts. Maybe keep them up on IG. Yeah. Or, like, archive them and don't delete them. Or, no. I want them on the grid. They must stay. This is so dark. But I'm dead. I feel so bad. That was, those tapes were.

Like, okay, I'm trying to understand, like, maybe a world where she, like, Wendy doesn't want, like, their wedding tape or something around. I mean, yeah, I wouldn't want it on a loop playing on a TV in my kitchen. I get it. These aren't about you. These are about the daughter. They're all about the baby. They're about the baby. This has nothing to do with their relationship. My face, I'm like, my face is tingling. I'm so mad. Yeah, I almost cried when you were reading. I can't feel my lips. Look at that. I can't feel them. Dude.

I can't, I'm like, I'm so upset. That's, I can't get over a hit in the car because she knew he would go into the trash. And I think if we want to look at like, it wasn't just the trash. And like she said, she threw them away. So she lied about throwing them away. But like, it was that, it's that extra level of,

Of vindictiveness and preparedness to take that away from him to where she's planning to hold them in the car just for extra effort. Yeah. And she didn't actually throw them away. He's upset, crying in his room, ignoring you, and you don't go grab them out of your car. And they're sitting in your fucking car.

And he's crying. But you're going to text friends and tell them to text him that he's being overdramatic. But you won't go to your car and just get them? They were in the car. Can't you understand that you're in the wrong? She was still planning on actually throwing them away. She wasn't going to pull them out. She's tripling down. She was actually going to throw them away. That's like the nail in the coffin for me. This is done. Like if he doesn't get divorced...

Sir. Like something like this is so bold that if he moves on, something else is going to come up and he's going to feel like a fool if he ignores. It's not if it's when. Yeah, you're right. You're right. It's not if it's when. Mm hmm. Poor thing. OK, well, how about that engagement one? Here we go, I guess. Here we go. Here we go.

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A day old r slash relationship advice. The double standards in my 28 female and my husband's 36 male marriage are killing me. Curveball. I think we do the curveball. Oh, okay. Or we engagement. I like them both. This is where I sometimes let a coin flip decide. Do you have a coin? I will get one. I was going to say, how vintage. Okay. What do you want heads to be?

Let's do heads the relationship. Heads the relationship. Okay. Flip. It's flipping. It is flipping. Tails. Tails. Tails for the proof. Engagement story. Okay, okay, okay. Here we go.

Why they're not engaged. I'm just going to listen. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, I like the active questions. It shows. Yeah. You like to clarify. Because at some point you start picturing like the same person for all of these. I know. And they all own a gazebo. You know, and I'm like, no, no, no. This is a new person. Yeah. This is Dave and Kim. Yeah. Yeah. Am I the asshole for telling the truth about why I ended my engagement to my ex's parents and grandparents?

I, 26 female, was engaged for more than a year, but called it off in October. My family and friends knew, but not a lot in my ex's family and friends knew. His parents had grown frustrated by the chaos in their family that to them seemed to follow the end of our engagement. And they, and my ex's grandparents, approached me to ask why I had called everything off.

This is so messy, and I feel dumb for not worrying about it, but I'll explain what happened and what I told them. So my ex's brother and his wife were trying to have a baby for a while and failed. Not long after ex and I got engaged, his brother and sister-in-law asked if my ex would donate sperm. They wanted to turkey baster it and act like his brother was the biofather, but they'd be honest with the kid.

My ex and I talked about it, and I was fine with it. I helped him get the samples, and his brother would come and collect them and take them to his wife. It took quite a few, but it worked. Only when she got pregnant finally, she started acting weird towards me.

She was jealous. Like, clearly jealous. She made snarky comments towards me and glared at me when I'd see her. This was going on for a few weeks. When my ex and I were shown the scan photos, she looked pissed that he was hugging me while we looked. Then she came to the house when I was alone, and she accused me of coming between the brothers and wanting her child to grow up an only child.

Like this was seriously out of nowhere. It made me feel off about things, and I asked why she was acting like a jealous girlfriend or mistress. She lost her shit and told me I needed to back off. I confronted my ex, and he played dumb. He said he had no idea why she was behaving that way, but I didn't buy it. And then his brother asked me if I thought his wife was being weird with my ex. Oh, fuck. I said, yep.

We both confronted them, and she asked why it mattered how she had actually gotten pregnant, as long as they got the result they wanted. X's brother almost attacked my ex. X was saying it wasn't like that, and the turkey baster method wasn't working, and it was all about his brother, and how nothing else happened but in and out. So they fucked? He really thought we'd buy that. I'm so glad we picked this one.

I walked away from him that night and I gave him back my ring. X tried to fight for me to forgive him, but I just felt foolish for agreeing to begin with. I don't know what's going on with the brother and her. I didn't stay in touch. But I told X's parents and grandparents that X slept with his brother's wife and that I got messy because of the baby. They thanked me for my honesty and apologized for asking me.

And then, a few days later, my ex DM'd me on Instagram and asked why I had to mess up his family like that. And he said I fucked his brother over more than he already had. I blocked him. It was a second account I forgot about. But I feel bad if I highlighted what his brother's dealing with before he was ready to tell anyone. Am I the asshole? I mean, it's also your story to tell, too. Yeah. And they...

They decided to ask her instead of him, their son. So clearly they're not getting a straight answer from him and their sus. And they wanted to go to the horse's mouth. So all is fair in love and war. Yeah, I guess. I mean, it's giving like a girl who's like putting her cigarette out in like a like a big fire.

Maybe that's dark. But like, yeah, maybe no. But I mean, it's just... No, I can see it. It was coming for them anyway. Or like dropping the cigarette at a gas station. Like there's gas on the ground. It just takes your little spark. And she just was like, I mean, she's going through it too. She...

Her fiancé. I mean, this and the other one made me think, like, when you've been wronged by a partner, are you allowed to, like, do two wrongs equal a right, right? Like, it's like, she's so pissed, and I get it. Yeah. Because she's like, that's so fucked up. So then she wants to do something fucked up back. Yeah. But, I mean, she didn't have to, but I also don't blame her for doing that. I mean, she just told the truth. They could...

have done the turkey baster method. Maybe it would have taken a little longer, but it probably would have worked all the same. So they really swear it was just to transfer the sperm and that's it? Just in and out.

in and out it's disgusting that's it not that but just like them being like we didn't do anything it's just this and that it's like how mormons soak or whatever yeah it's like giving that no i just had a just it was a while ago now but we did a live show in utah and one of our listeners who was an ex-mormon and had actually soaked got on stage and told us all about it and like

yeah it's giving that same energy it feels like they said that but i don't know if they did that why would she start acting like a jealous girlfriend that's it that's it she's actually i'm sorry i'm sorry the thought of having anything else inside anyone else's member inside of me grosses me out because i'm like i love my fiance like the thought of someone else right now like

That, I just, I can't. Like, it just like. I know. It's just like, it's like a weird, like, stealing of bodily function. It's like, it's like a weird, like, like, I hope, like, I hope they were, I don't know. The movie version, I'm like, oh my God, they're in love with each other or whatever. But she's like being like, no, it was just, I don't know. I think she actually likes the brother. I think he views it as just sex.

And you think, yeah, yeah, that's what I think as well. Yeah. I agree. And then that's why she got jealous and he's over here happily hugging his partner. He's like, I did nothing wrong. I just helped. He's like, isn't this what you wanted, bro? Yeah, exactly. No, I didn't want you to fuck my wife. This is wild, dude. This is wild. I want to know. I want the brother to come forward and tell us his story. I need the other side of this one. Yeah, like...

What was the moment before? What are you going to do now? Are they texting secret things? No matter what, a lie is a lie, right? Yeah. You're lying from your partner. You're hiding something from your partner, and that's not good. And at the end of the day, she can be honest and tell who, if her, if their parents and grandparents or whoever want to know why they broke up, they were engaged, right? Yeah. Yeah. I think she's allowed to tell them the truth. Why does she have to protect them? I think so.

Nope. They need to know too, because this is a dynamic they have to work with going forward. And the brother might choose to not stay with her now because technically it's not kosher anymore. Like what was kosher was the turkey baster. No cheating. And to get your brother to agree and sign on like that was such a gift. But you had to...

ask him to actually fuck you it's also weird to put someone in the position to lie for somebody else right like oh yeah like were they ever gonna tell him yeah and so she's like did were they still having sex after she got pregnant oh that's honestly that's where it all lies that's where it lies was it once what are they texting who initiated this bang session were you guys hanging out before this in and out in and out

So you were just jerking it and then you really stuck it in right as... And then you're like, okay, we can all go back to our own partners now. Mission complete. Ew. No. Couple comments from OP. I agree. They really are perfect for each other after everything that's happened. I'm not sure they'll ever realize just how much they fucked up either.

I don't even know for sure he's angry at me. That could be something my ex said to just make me feel bad for doing it. I hope it didn't upset him and he's doing good. Talking about the brother who's actually like being hurt by this. Yeah, that sucks. He's in a much worse position than I am. Oh my God. I mean, I can understand a world in which the girl leaving can be like, and all the families are like, why did you guys break up? And she's like, you have to talk to them.

But she's allowed to tell him the truth. Yeah, absolutely. Family's got to know. I mean, it is one of, I mean, it's that brother's baby. So, like, if the one guy divorces her, she could go after him for child support. Whoa. Because there's no way these people were smart enough to have a contract. 100% no. So maybe they'll end up together in the end. And then the family will cut them off. And then. Yeah. That's, yeah. Yeah.

Yep.

It's like you can't get mad when you're a bad person in public and you get mad that somebody else told you, told somebody else that you're a bad person. No. Like, don't tell anybody, please. No. You messed up. Don't be bad. You messed up in every timeline, so now everybody knows. You can't hide it. Every timeline. I like that. Thanks. Yeah.

Thank you for coming on. Wow. This was magical. What a blast. If you ever need anyone to drive a bus, go pick somebody up. Oh, yeah. You're on it with me. We're going to give you some lessons first because it's a big rig. Yeah. I need my glasses. Oh. I'm like, without my contacts, I can see the mic in front of my face and that would be it. See, I need to get contacts.

And I've been dragging my feet and it's making my eyesight worse. This is for another time. Do you have glasses? Yeah. Okay. Well, there's that at least. And my car glasses, I'm always losing them. Anyway.

I should just stay in my car. Yeah, contacts are great. They're not as scary to put in as you would think. Okay, my mom was so drama growing up, so I think that's why I'm scared of them. Oh my God, I'll literally put them in for you and teach you. It's my favorite thing. If my hands were clean, I'd pull mine out and pop it back in. No, you don't have to. I ate a chicken nugget right before this, so can't do that. You don't want chicken nugget in your eye. No. Where can people find you? What are you working on? What's going on? Oh my God. Working on getting a bus license. Um...

You can just find me on Instagram. For some reason, someone has my handle. Well, someone has my handle without my middle name, so I added my middle name, but now it looks like I'm trying to be so cool. So my handle is Angela Giovanna Geritana. That's my full name. It's very intense. Giovanna? Yeah. It was supposed to be Angela Giovanna Geritana. My mom goes, that's a little too Italian if it has an A in the middle. So it's Angela Giovanna Geritana, as if that's less Italian. I love it. Let's go. Family name? Yeah. Yeah.

I love the heritage there. No...

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Oh my God. You were just like, you were just like, you were losing it. You were just like so serious and like, I'm a misogynist. And it was like, and then Amanda was like, well, yeah, you are. And then just Shane died. I'm like, it's such a good show. I watched that video of, I just watched Amanda and Tommy together with you was during Christmas is my favorite time. And I was like,

Look at them. Didn't you just go on Tommy's new show too? Yeah. I went on his show for his first season. Okay. Now it's in the second season. Oh my God. So fast. I know. Look at him go. He's a fucking machine. Look at him go. Yeah. If anything, I'm going to plug my podcast, which is artists on artists on artists, but also serving cut, which is Tommy Bo's show. It's so good. So good. Thank you so much for coming on. Thank you for having me. All of Angela's links will be in the description of the show. Go follow, go listen.

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