105: Holy Spirit Activate.. Ft. Deison Afualo
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I'm your host, Morgan. I'm going to figure this new thing out. Hello. Hello. I think I just broke it. Oh my God. You sound normal. I know. It's just on yours. I don't know why. Hello. We're shutting it down. Start over. I'm not going to mess with it anymore.

With my luck, I won't be able to figure out how to get it back again. So no more sound effects. Welcome back to another episode of Two Hot Takes, you guys. Today I'm joined by the one, the only, Dason Afuolo.

There's my sound effect I was looking for. It's not as good as the other one, but I appreciate it for sure. It would have been unreal, but you're just going to have to take my word for it. I'll show you at the end when we're done. Okay. There's no more work to be done. But Dason has a show with her sister Drew called Two Idiot Girls. You've seen Dason before. You should remember her. It's under the Two Hot Takes Network. That's what I'm calling it. Okay.

network um but dayson yeah i feel like last time you were on with drew i just i didn't give you enough air time it was i was in the middle like you said like a ball like a dog watching the ball yeah that's how i felt in the middle i know i i should have been in the middle no it's okay i'm gonna be in the middle later okay i forgive you for my dad's show so it'll be good

But today, life has just been crazy. I don't know if you have been on TikTok watching the Selena Haley drama. Oh my gosh. The way people make things up is wild. It's honestly insane. It's been blowing my mind all week and like I'm not...

on a side I'm just like it's life they'll figure it out but Hailey Bieber can stop parking in the handicap spots at hot Pilates if you wanted to stop doing that that'd be great that'd be great Hailey and Kendall they park in the handicap spots because it's too far for them to walk that's so weird it's really pisses me off yeah

But I found out that Hailey Bieber's aunt was the lady who was on Family Feud and created that, Holy Spirit, activate. I did see that. Activate. And as I was going through some of these stories today...

It just gave me that vibe. That we're going to activate the Holy Spirit. I hope somebody does. Because these people... They need it. They need some divine interventions. I feel that. That was on Family Feud? Family Feud. And poor Steve Little Harvey. He's just like looking around. He's like, that's the first time that's ever happened. What?

What the heck? He was just distraught. It was the weirdest thing. That is really weird. It was before like the fast money at the end and like, it was just freaky. Every time I've heard that audio, I thought it was like a live, like those churches that are on like regular TV. Yeah. That would make sense. That's their vibe, honestly. That's like, I guess they're kind of culty. Yeah. That side of the fam.

Oh, okay. Yeah. Yeah, people are like, did you know that's her aunt? Well, isn't her dad a Baldwin? That's kind of a big deal too. Yeah, he's... And it's like one of the ones that is like super conservative, right? Yeah, he's... There's that Hillsong Church or whatever it is out here that Justin was kind of a part of. Yeah, yeah, yeah. And that stuff came out with the pastor. Yeah. I think he was really involved in that. That's why like... Oh.

Of course, I'm very on this side of TikTok, you guys. But Justin went on the Ellen show and Demi Lovato was the guest co-host. And Demi was like, how was your marriage? Blah, blah, blah. And he's like, well, it was an arranged marriage. Yeah, now that I think about it, I think it was arranged. And it's like, you can't tell if he's joking or if he's kind of serious, but...

What's the vibe for this week? Wow, I can't wait. I'm just going to mess us up. Like, honestly, some of these stories just, it's scary. It's dangerous. It's dangerous out here. So let's dive in. Let's do it. Let's do it.

Okay. So when I first had your sister on, I gave her a necklace story. Okay. And I feel like it's only fair to give you one too. I guess. I guess. This one is coming from Am I the Asshole? It is titled, Am I the Asshole? For asking my fiance to not wear his brother's necklace on our wedding day.

Note, me and my fiance get along really well with everything else, but we've just had a disagreement with this. He wears his late brother's ring on his right hand and his brother's necklace. I can get behind the ring because you don't really notice it as much, but the necklace is more noticeable. It has his brother's, brother's wife, and their daughter's initials engraved on it.

Yeah. Yeah.

The brother passed away. He's not going to be there. Maybe that's his way of honoring his brother every day by wearing it. And then why would he not want to honor him at the wedding? It's literally a fucking necklace. He can wear it under. I'm like, you can tuck it in. Unless he demands it's on top of everything, I guess. But even then, I don't think it's that big of a deal that he wants to wear it. I think it's crazy.

OP has like since deleted basically all of their posts. Like they really condensed it down. It's kind of interesting. There's a bunch of comments too. And like it doesn't get better.

There's more to the story? Yeah. What? It absolutely does not get better. So someone comments and they go, you're the asshole. This obviously means a great deal to him and they can't be there in person. It was okay to ask him, but he said, no, leave it alone. You're focusing more on image and aesthetics than the true meaning of it and why he wears it. Why does it bother you so much that his sister-in-law and daughter's initials are engraved on it for your wedding?

and so opie goes if it was just his brother i'd kind of get it but it's also the brother's wife and their kids initials on it so essentially he'd be wearing a whole other's family's name on our wedding day it's not like an ex-girlfriend's name or you know what i mean like so that would piss me off i'd be like yeah like we're not even getting married take off the necklace that's a little weird yeah but if it like his brother wore it i don't think that's weird i think she's weird

So someone asks and goes, info, why didn't this necklace go to his brother's wife or kid? OP goes, they've also passed.

Wait, what? Wait. And she doesn't want him wearing it? All of the kids passed too? Did they like all die together? I'm going to see if there's any comments elaborating like so far. Yeah. But one would assume they all died in a tragic accident together. Like three people taken out like that. What? Maybe he wants to honor all of them. I just got full body chills. That makes me so annoyed. Why would you get mad about that? Honestly, because...

I hope he calls off the wedding. Yeah. I hope he calls off the wedding. This person is evil. Why would you respond? Honestly, they're all dead. What?

Why? I wouldn't even admit that. I'd be like, I don't know. He's weird. Like I would lie. I'm not going to be that honest. That's crazy. To write that out and be like, send. That's the thing. Like you wrote this bitch. You, you didn't realize like that. Maybe it's a way of saying is awful honoring them. Yeah. Oh my God. A bunch of people edited their votes. Um,

So someone goes like, no assholes here, but I'm leaning more on his side. And then edited to change or the asshole following reply from OP. Just kidding. You are. Yeah. So people are kind of realizing like, yeah. And I know I mentioned like the tucking the shirt thing.

And so I'm reading this one right now, and it says, Yeah. And Opie goes, Oh, you're right. Yeah.

he's the asshole. Sucks. I'm glad you clarified. That's going to be the most disgusting thing in all of your wedding pictures. All I'm going to be thinking about is that necklace. Why is he wearing that? Every wedding picture, I'm going to see that necklace. It's not like a photographer could Photoshop it out for one. Or tell him, put it away for one and then take it out for the rest of them. I don't know. The one picture she wants is done. Mm-mm.

No, unacceptable. Oh my God, that's crazy. I don't understand people like this. Like you are so heartless. And like unselfaware too. You know what I mean? Oh my God, absolutely. That's weird. This whole family was wiped off the map. How dare you honor them at my wedding?

Yeah. What? I think that's a problem for a lot of brides. And I know I've been like, I'm not engaged even. But when you think about a wedding, you're like, I want this. I want that. I want to do it here. And I'm like, wait, it's not just my wedding. And I think a lot of these brides, Zillas, that go fucking ape shit on Reddit with these dumb problems. This is dumb. Yeah, this is dumb.

But I think they forget, like, this is more than just a day. Yeah. This signifies the rest of your life with this person. And you're showing him that you're a heartless fucking brat. Especially because this is like the start of their new life together and stuff like that. Yeah. Yeah. That's a lot. I would be calling it off. Yeah. I would absolutely be calling it off. Okay. Moving along.

I don't think it gets better, though. What? So this next one. Am I the asshole for telling someone they're selfish for asking a 22-year-old to become a child's guardian? My 22-female boyfriend, Malcolm, 22 male, has a half-sister, Elena, 12 female. They have the same dad, and he's not involved in their lives.

Their moms became close friends, and they were raised seeing one another. Malcolm's mom moved abroad a couple of years ago. Elena's mom, Sandra, was diagnosed with cancer last year. She went through treatment, but it's been determined that there's nothing they can do but make her comfortable. Sandra will pass sometime this year. She has no other family. Malcolm has spent a lot of time helping care for Elena, driving her to school, making them meals, etc.,

Recently, Malcolm sat me down. He said that Sandra asked to speak to him. She said she understood if the answer was no, but asked for him to take on custody of Elena sooner rather than later. That way she could adjust to him being her guardian before she passes.

Malcolm would move in with them, and Sandra had a sizable life insurance policy and an accountant to help him care for Elena. To my surprise, he agreed to all of this without consulting me. I pointed this out, and he said we've only been together for six months. I asked, didn't he feel too young for all of this? He said sort of, but he'd do it for Elena. Without further discussion, he subleased his apartment and moved in with Sandra and Elena.

Saturday, I stopped by to pick up Malcolm for lunch. He hadn't returned from work yet, so I was waiting with Sandra. We were making small talk. She mentioned how grateful she was for Malcolm and that he was a sweet boy. I asked if he was really her only option. I mentioned his mom. Sandra said Elena is losing enough. She doesn't want to force her to move abroad on top of everything.

She also doesn't feel right asking Malcolm's mom to move back. I said I found the whole thing a little selfish. Malcolm is only 22. He shouldn't be tied down raising a child. Sandra got defensive and said she wished she didn't have to ask him. Plus, he said yes. I asked what else was he supposed to say. Sandra told me I was upsetting her and asked me to leave.

Malcolm called me later, screaming at me. He said that I upset Sandra. I said I was trying to defend him and point out options she may not have thought of. Malcolm told me to butt out and to get on board with this or walk away. He hasn't spoken to me since. I saw Elena at the mall on Sunday, and she ignored me. My mom told me I screwed up big time. Am I the asshole? Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, yeah, like I liked that the mom was like, I didn't like I don't want him to have to do that. Honestly, if it were my choice, I would be her mom. I don't really want to die. If it were my choice, I wouldn't. But it's not. So I don't want to have terminal cancer. Like,

She's like, maybe try not having cancer. She might as well just say that to her. That's crazy. You're selfish. Yeah. You're telling a dying woman she's selfish for trying to ensure that her daughter, who is a 12-year-old, is taken care of when she's gone. And then the way he went, we've only been together six months. Relax. It's not that serious. I love that he said that. We haven't even, we don't live together. Why would I tell you? Six months is nothing. Mm-mm. I don't, like, do you know their middle name at six months? Mm-mm.

I mean, the fact that she even knows all of this at six months, that's a lot of information to know about someone for sure. Yeah. I mean, at six months, I didn't even know if Justin wiped standing or sitting. And that's important to know. And these are important questions to ask your significant other. I'd be more worried about that than whatever she's worried about. I think she probably sees it as like this is going to impact her life with her boyfriend. His attention is not going to be just on her.

It's someone's coming between them. Poor thing. It's just, it's baffling. It's like versus like seeing the flip side where it's like, my boyfriend's amazing. He is such a caring, kind, empathetic. It's giving up all this to, you know. Yeah. Because he's only 22. Yeah. That is really young. You're right. It's not ideal. Yeah. But it's his sister. It's also his sister. It's not like a family friend. A cousin. Yeah. Even a cousin I could kind of see, but if it's like,

My mom's best friend's daughter. So like she's just my friend. Yeah. Like that's kind of a lot. But he would probably still do it. Yeah. But it's his literal sister. A little sister that he sounds like he's pretty close with. Yeah. Well, and then the fact that she didn't grow up with a dad and neither did he. Maybe he could be that parental like father figure to her as well. Mm hmm.

That's like weirdo shit to be like, what are you doing? It sounds like it's just jealousy and literally like a 12 year old sister. Okay. Yeah. Well, and it's not like, I mean, by the sounds of it too, there's a life insurance policy and an accountant. It doesn't sound like he's even going to have to contribute financially. No. Or take on like a bunch of debt or, you know what I mean? Like, like a house. That would be a lot to have to navigate. Yeah. Oh my God. But it's just being her guardian. Yeah.

What? It's baffling. There's a lot of these stories, though, that come up where like siblings will take on younger siblings when their parents die. And I saw one where this woman adopted her two younger siblings and the sibling grew up and was like after their their older sister had kids. They were like, you didn't treat me like that.

And it's like, she was 18 when she adopted you. I didn't have a job. Like, yeah, I was a completely different person. It's just insane, people. So the top comment on this one is,

red box a bunch of awards and it's only from 12 hours ago like this whole post is 12 hours ago it's really fresh and it's you're the asshole I swear to God if I see one more not the asshole on this thread I'll lose my faith in humanity you should listen to your mother sounds like she's a smart woman Malcolm got lucky he just got a glimpse into your soul when you let your mask slip it is twisted under there and cruel for God's sake hurrah

You're right, just six months, so... Oh!

Wow. Someone goes, there was only one not the asshole I could see, but they're about to be downvoted into oblivion. Yeah, this is totally fair to break up. I can't imagine. I would never, ever feel brazen enough to confront a mom. A sick woman. I know. I just, when I, when I read that, I was like, I forgot about that part.

That's ballsy right there. That is so ballsy. What is she supposed to do? Okay, you're right. Stop. Yeah, let me just not die. Okay, sorry for inconveniencing you. Yeah, your six-month relationship. Sorry. You're not engaged. No. You're not married. If you were married, yeah, it might be a little bit more of a group decision. Yeah. But he has no reason to ask you, like, why?

consult you. For permission or any sort of like, yeah, this isn't a group decision. It's I'm making it right now. Absolutely. For my sister. Yeah. Yeah. My parents, they asked me if I would be my brother's guardian. He's 18 now, so I don't have to worry about all that, but I would still be there if they need me to. You're so nice. Yeah. The best big sister. I know. Oh, man. Yeah. I don't, I don't think there's any winning with this one. I think, uh,

This is a breakup. Yeah. Breakup. Divine intervention right there. Saved him. There you go. Saved his ass. Holy Spirit, activate those. Holy Spirit, activate, activate, act. I should have put it on one of the sound pads that I can't figure out how to use. Well, next time, next time. Next time. Okay, moving along, moving along.

I have so many tabs open. I just wanted to like fuck us up today. Oh, I love that. So this one is from Off My Chest. It's an older one, you know, but still kind of a goodie. It's titled, My Boyfriend of One Year Left Me Because I Have Periods. Okay. When your girlfriend has periods. Gross. My sister told me she saw a TikTok one time that was like, it was a man saying that

you know, like that women shouldn't have periods, that it's unnatural or something like that. I saw that. Yeah. I'm telling you right now, if I didn't have to have one, I wouldn't.

They're miserable. I wouldn't. I'm literally dying. Mine's not going to be here for another week and a half. And I feel like I have it already. Same. Our cycles must be synced. Yeah. Cycle sisters. Oh, it's just so brutal. And I'm dealing with like some. Oh, my God. No, no free feet pics. I'm dealing with like some potential PCOS stuff. It's just like it's just an added layer. And Justin, like he's so, so brutal.

Like he brings me a little heat pad to help me out, whatever. But I just want to get one of those period simulators. It's basically a TENS unit. You can buy them on Amazon. And I want to like simulate what it feels like on him. So he just understands me a little more. I just think it'd be so fun. Yeah, I agree. I've seen, yeah, when men do that, I'm like, I mean, it feels like that, but see how I don't act like that? I still go to work even though I have periods. Oh.

Oh my God, yeah. It's just a rough world we live in. I know. Okay, so exactly what the title says. It's been a few weeks and I'm still so baffled and hurt. I don't know what to think. We had a future plan together. We were in the process of renting a place together too. He always seemed to be grossed out by women hygiene commercials, tampons, anything that had to do with periods and women's health. I didn't think much of it since he had been nothing but caring and loving and found it funny sometimes. I don't know what to think.

I called him childish, and I'd laugh about it. He would either change the topic or just said that it wasn't that funny. We've been staying in each other's houses a lot and never had sex since this one time we got all touchy. Then I stopped him when we were getting to it. He backed off and asked if everything was okay and if I'm uncomfortable. I said, no, it's just I'm on my period. Dead silence. He asked me, quote, for how long?

And I was like, what do you mean? He then backed away further from me and sat silent, sometimes looking at his phone. I got sad and confused, so I laid down next to him, hoping for some cuddles. Try not to make it more awkward by saying something. So I was keeping silent. Nothing. Then he spoke.

He said I should do something about it, and it completely ruined the mood for him. He told me he heard there's pills that make periods go away, and everyone uses them, so why can't you? I told him that's not true, and that the pills have major side effects, which I don't want to take because my periods aren't at all heavy, and I rarely get cramps. After hearing about them being heavy, he became completely disgusted.

He told me he didn't want anything to do with it and to fix my problems. I wasn't even angry. I was just hurt and shocked. It was my boyfriend, my beloved, saying stuff like that to me. I fell asleep crying and hurt that night. It sounded so stupid, yet so embarrassing and hurtful. After three days of absolutely no feelings, just a hug saying goodbye to him in the morning, he was supposed to leave.

He sent a text saying he has been thinking about me. He told me he does so much for us. Why can't I just fix my periods so it doesn't have to be such a problem? I told him he was making it a problem and that he should be real and not childish. He completely disagreed and called me selfish. The next morning, he dumped me over a text. It's almost as if the love wasn't there. Hmm.

I've been crying a lot, having panic attacks. I was so sure he was the one. This sounds so stupid, I can't believe it. So yeah, I don't want advice. I'm over him. I just wanted to rant on how some people are completely ignorant. Selfish for having a period. Oh my God, the delusion. It's crazy. Especially when you think about how

My vagina bleeds out of the same hole that they would like to put their pee pee in. Literally. It's not gross when that's there. But when I have a bodily function I can't control, it's gross. Same canal, buddy. It's the same hole. It's a big deal. No, like, it's just a normal thing. It's like, it's not like...

I don't like the cum that comes out of you. It's all gloopy and gluey. I don't get to pick what comes out. I don't. That's not my business. But you don't see me calling you selfish. You know, that's crazy. It's so strange. This this post and people like this. It really has me convinced that there's a lot of men that like really don't like women. Yeah. Just say that or just say you don't want to be with her anymore. Like I would rather someone. Do you think it's really the period thing?

The fact that he gets grossed out by... That's true, that's true. And she's seen a history of it too. Yeah, and just like commercials, like they're not showing full tampons full of blood on TV. It's like blue detergent or something. It's not for him to be so mature and get grossed out by that. Like I have a boyfriend that doesn't care if I'm on my period or not. He's just like, oh, whatever. It's just, it's natural. Are you okay? No big deal. Yeah, who cares? He's like, if he like, this is TMI for everyone here.

He'll like we have sex when I'm on my period. He does not give a flying fuck. No, because he gets to have sex. That's why. And because you're comfortable. We're having sex. Exactly. Exactly. Oh, my God. I just had a flashback from high school.

There was this girl that she liked to have sex in high school. Okay. Had sex with my boyfriend. Yeah. Boo. And I remember some story about a guy who was like, yeah, I ate her out and she didn't tell me she was on her period and I kept getting globs in my mouth. Everyone at home is puking right now. What the heck? Straight people are wild, bro. Why would you ever

I don't know. Maybe, you know, and sometimes you don't know what's coming, like your period. Yeah. So maybe she was just like, thought she was just like fired up down there, like to get going. I'm excited. Yeah. But it was, she was starting her period. Oh my God. It's getting you all worked up.

Yeah, there's a girl at my high school. I think she was like hooking up in the car, like of the parking lot of the high school I went to. Why? Oh my God. Like go home and do it. But I think he was fingering her. And then he told my sister, he was like, it felt like more wet than usual. Like than other. I'm also like, we're all like 17. So like, what do you, how many girls have you done that to? And he said, he looked and it was all blood. And she, you know, she started crying. He's like, oh, okay. Yeah, I got to go. And he was so embarrassed. And then, but he was also like, obviously,

obviously disgusted because he's a 17 year old that's why like if they're like 17 yeah maybe I could see him being like I mean it's not okay just like my brother poor thing he's grown up even my dad they're it's like mainly women it's me my sister and my mom and then the two of them yeah both water sign men right and me and my mom are fire signs and then jerseys and earth or air sign I can't remember okay so I talk my period all the time my brother knows everything about my period

And then, like, the other day I was telling him, like, do you know there's three holes down there? He goes, I don't need to know all that. I'm like, but you do. You should know. You should. And one of them, every once a month, it bleeds. And I don't like it, but it's part of my body. Yeah.

it's so educational yeah and then my mom's like you need to know this because it's true yeah because when they grow up to be stupid like that and say mean shit like that just take a pill to stop it no oh my god there's another story on here that i um i don't know if i've read it yet but it was like my boyfriend doesn't believe the clit is real all right and it's like this is

This is why women have such hard times orgasming with men. Like, where's the proper sex education? Yeah, or even having like a healthy relationship with a man. Like, I mean, I don't know what that's like and I don't want to know what that's like. But I mean, why would I lie about that? It's so weird. I think there's so many weird shit out there. Like, especially with dudes. I had a conversation with people once and I was like...

having foreplay for 20 minutes increases the likelihood of an orgasm for a woman by like 60% or something like that it's really high I don't remember the exact stat right now it's not like in the movies where they just start going at it no no and like the reality is a lot of women don't get off from penetration yeah like that's just the reality so I said this to like a group of guys or around some guys and they were like 20 minutes like they were flabbergasted I'm like

I'm like, Jesus Christ. It's like when you play a sport, you got to warm up. That's the warm up. Yeah. You got to do the warm up. It's the stretching. It's the stretching. You run a lap, right? Stretch. You get ready to go. Then you play the game. You don't just play. You get hurt. Then you'll get hurt or not have fun. Yeah. Oh, my God. I'm just, I can't believe people like this exist, but they do. And fucking TikTok. Have you seen the Matt Rife stuff on TikTok? Girl. Girl.

I have never liked him. He said some weird... He's always giving me misogynist vibes. Really? But he said something weird in a stand-up set. I saw a couple of his sets where I'm like, oh, that's funny. Just clips on TikTok. Then I saw one. I wish for the life of me I could remember what it was. Yeah. Then he was on that podcast and he said, if I'm going to date a girl, I want her to have boobs. Then he's talking about...

how vaginas look. He was like, vaginas are ugly. I think they're gross. And she has a big clit. It looks like a, like I'm, he said, I mean, it was kind of funny, but it's not. He said, I'm going to do like a thumb war with it. Yeah. Like, okay, that's a little funny. Like, I'll give you that, but it's mean. And like, what does your pee pee look like? I want to see it. Mm hmm.

I didn't realize he was like that. And I had only seen his stand-up stuff on TikTok. So Matt Rife, he's a comedian, for those of you that don't know. And so I thought, I was like, oh, he's cute. He's kind of funny. Great. Okay. And then I saw him on Stiff Socks podcast. And I was like, this man is...

is disgusting well and then the way that all three of them are like that's the worst part the locker room my sister always says that like the worst men aren't the ones that are like you already know they're misogynist you already know that they're like awful like that guy doesn't believe periods are real he's gross like that it's the people who don't say anything or who are secretive about it those are the ones you should worry about the most

So like if I was like, I would, I wish that one of them, especially one of them, I think it's like Trevor or something. One of the hosts. Yeah. I've had them on the podcast. It was Trevor Wallace and Michael something. Michael Sox. That's a stiff socks. That's his last name is Sox. Is it? I don't know. I'm just like...

I don't know. It doesn't matter because that was so awful. Well, and then Matt Rife is like doubling down on it, like commenting. Ha ha. Because some people are like girls are standing up for like saying like this is fucked up. Yeah. And then someone writes, you're just mad because he wouldn't even want you. And then he comments. Ha ha ha. Just maybe take the L, dude. Like my sister said, you're a knockoff Pete Davidson. What do you want me to say to you?

I think that's so true, though, where it's like it's not the ones that are saying the stuff you have to worry about. Yeah. Because you know where they stand. Yeah. It's the ones that laugh or go along with it. Or don't say anything when something scary is happening. You know what I mean? That is so true. I've never thought about it that way, but it just proves that you don't have a safe space. No. Unless you know who these people are. I couldn't believe they clipped that as a promo. Like, isn't this hilarious? Yeah.

Oh my god, you guys are crazy. I'm surprised that the PR team didn't like put a kibosh on that. Maybe we don't. Yeah. Nope. That's funny. Post that one. That's the one. Hey, it's kind of like the Tara girl that's on TikTok too. It's so many people right now are just like saying the most outrageous stuff because any clickbait, any viral clip is better than like nothing.

Her as a person in general, like she's going to say stuff that she wants attention for. Yeah. She's a pick me. Like there's no other way to describe it. No way to put it. I've seen so many lesbians like being like, what do you mean by this? Like all the shit she's saying. Think of like the I finna be in the pit. That was enough for me to be like, I don't like you. I didn't even like her before that. Did you see that? The Harry Styles thing? Yeah. Then she talked about how she spent 30 grand on Harry Styles concerts. Got scammed, didn't she? No. That's where that that's where I finna be in the pit is from when she got scammed. Oh, yeah.

No, she went through her accounts or whatever for last year to total this year to show everyone how much she spent on concerts. And she spent over $30,000 in a year. Jesus. And I'm like, what do you want people to say to that? Oh, man, you're so funny. Of course, people are going to be like, I wish I could have that money to pay rent. $30,000 is life-changing for just about everyone. Everyone. Everyone. And she's like, now I'm going to go make out with a girl in front of my boyfriend so he likes me. Yeah.

Okay. Jesus Christ. And what's that series that she's an OnlyFans creator, which I support sex workers. And I think that's super cool that they do that. And I think it's super feminist or whatever. But the way she does it isn't. And it's disappointing and not fair to the people that actually do it in a way that isn't like that. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah.

moving along from this one next one next one uh this one has two parts it's a little wild do you have both the parts i got both those are my favorite posts you're like here's an update it's i think i need the tea yeah i'm not gonna give too much away it's the worst part about me i just love spoiling stuff for everyone okay

So it's 13 days old and is titled, Am I the Asshole If I Tell My Friend Her Boyfriend Is Planning to Propose? Yeah. Yeah, that's the top vote on the post. My 27 female best friend has been dating her boyfriend, 26 male, for over five years. A while back, he reached out to me to help figure out ring size and the setup so he could make this the most magical day for her.

Having known my friend for over 20 plus years, I know exactly how she wants her proposal to go and who she wants to be there. So I relayed all of this information to him months ago via text and over the phone. I even took the time to covertly find and confirm which ring she would love the most. A little background.

My friend is incredibly family and friend oriented, and in the past expressed to me on multiple occasions, especially during holiday season, that in the five years they've been together, he hasn't really made much of an effort to indoctrinate himself into her family or friendships the way she has for his.

While I do generally like him, I have always felt that he is incredibly self-serving and self-focused. Recently, through a mutual friend, I found out he started a group text between his, emphasis on his, friends and his family to set up a time and date of the proposal.

He has not only excluded myself, and according to the screenshots I've seen, he is doing everything verbatim, I suggested he do, but he has completely excluded her family and other close friends from the event. He is planning on only having his boys and family present for the occasion. And knowing my friend, this would ultimately break her heart, not being able to share this moment with her loved ones.

I got heated and called him. At first, he was dodging my questions. Then, just outright said, quote, This infuriated me. And to make matters worse, I ran into her mom and dad at the grocery store and subtly asked if they knew of any possibility she was getting engaged.

They were unaware, and I know for a fact my friend has told him that he needs to ask her parents for their blessing. She's somewhat traditional.

My friend wears her heart on her sleeve, and I can predict how this event will go down when she sees all of his close friends and family there and none of hers. Considering her previous sentiments about his lack of interest in her family-slash-life, she will 100% see this as being hurtful and selfish, and I know she'll cry. To make matters worse, the location of the proposal is a whopping 30 minutes from her parents' house.

I don't want to get involved in a fight or reveal the surprise, but on the other hand, I feel like I owe it to my lifelong friend to help her avoid being hurt and disappointed. Maybe even helping her rethink what her future would look like with someone who just doesn't really appreciate what she values in life. So, am I the asshole if I tell my friend her boyfriend is going to propose?

At first I said yes. That was before I knew the story. I also think people put a lot of pressure on proposals. So much. And it's kind of like the least important part of the whole thing. Literally. I think the wedding's more important than that. Absolutely. I mean, if she already knows that he doesn't try to make an effort to be close with her family and friends, even though he knows that's important to her.

then I don't know that they should get married. Nope. I don't think I would ruin it. I would just let him do it and then be like embarrassed that it didn't go the way that he wanted. That's what I would do. I love that. Let him shoot himself in the foot. Yeah. How inconsiderate, especially considering how much she's expressed over the years, how important family is. And I want you to ask my parents for their blessing. I also feel like

So proposals, some people, it depends on who you ask and what the dynamic of the couple is. But a lot of times people will say like the proposal is really for the person that's being proposed to. Yes. Yes. Yes. It's for both of you. You're both going to get married, but it's for that person. Yeah. It's their surprise. So you should really do things that they would like, not necessarily what you would like. Just because you're doing it. Yeah. Yeah. How do you think that'll play out for you? Do you want to be the one that proposes?

So I've actually been engaged before. Oh my god, that's right. Yeah, I was engaged for a year. Did you propose?

we like plant so like that's what I was saying like I wanted to get married as soon as we graduated and she was like no and I was like okay that hurt my feelings but that's fine and so then um I kept asking her like are we gonna do it are you doing it and I would make jokes like okay if you do it like because I did I wanted her not to ask my family for permission because we're not like that no but she was really close to my parents especially my mom so I want her to like tell my mom this is what she's doing and volunteer

Especially, I mean, Morgan, we've known each other for a year. You know how important my family is to me. It's everything. And she knew that too. So anyways, she was like, I'm not doing that. And I was like, okay, yeah, you're right. That was so stupid. And then, no, we ended up doing was in like, I feel like the pandemic like flipped everyone on their head a little bit. And so we just decided she was like, okay, I'm ready to get engaged.

So we would go on dates during the pandemic in our car. We would order food and just sit in my car. So we got engaged in my car. We proposed to each other. Okay, that's cute. And picked each other's rings. Every time I tell this story, my sister's like, I wish that she cared about you enough to do it for you because she knew. I love being surprised. Well, I love surprising other people and I want to be surprised, but I always want to know what everyone's doing. So I'm also like, yeah. We are the same level.

I'm like, plan a surprise party, but make sure it looks like this. And then I'm wearing this on the day you do it. And then also, what are we doing? You want to know, but you don't really want to know. But you want to know. Yeah, exactly. So we did it in the car. And then this is kind of tea. We called my mom. Because I was living with my parents at the time. So I called my parents. And we're all crying because we're excited. Then I called my sister. She's crying. And then we call her mom. And her mom is like...

I didn't get along with her family and her mom goes oh okay there's

That's what her mom did. And then we hung up and then she was crying because she was obviously upset. I said, you know, my mom's excited. Who cares? But that should have been also an indicator to me that we shouldn't be together anymore. But I have been engaged before. We didn't plan anything because it was only a year that we were engaged. Almost two. But yeah, it was a long time. So wild. It feels like a lifetime ago. It doesn't even feel like me anymore. Like that was a version of me I don't know. Well, and I met you after. But it's so funny because I remember...

your first couple episodes of Two Idiot Girls, which I fell in love with. And it was before I met Drew and like was doing research before she came on. And I mean, just hearing the way she talked about you two as a couple, it was like, I realized like what love is. And it was such a great role model to have Dason. And I'm just like,

It's crazy. Yeah, I know. Oh, and that's why people are like, I don't get it. Is she single? Because I wanted to take those episodes down. Yeah. And then I was like, no, because then it shows growth. It does. And you could see, like, sometimes it looks like that to you. My sister and I always talk about 500 Days of Summer. And in that movie, like...

Drew always talks about how Chloe Grace Moratz, she tells Joseph Gordon-Levitt, she tells him like, really look at it. Like, was it what you think it was? And then he looks and he can see she was always annoyed with him. She didn't really like him like that. She was honest with him. And so I look at my relationship the same way. So having been engaged and us getting engaged in a way that I didn't want to do, I just did because I wanted to be engaged. Yeah. Because I was in love and I thought that's what we were supposed to be doing. Yeah.

I would want someone to surprise me. And then she was always like so embarrassed. So she would be like, I would never do it in front of your family. I'm like, no, that makes sense because you're not like that. And then I was thinking, shouldn't I be with someone who would do something like that because it's for me, not for her? Yeah. You know? I think you said it so, so well where it's like, yeah, you want someone that wants to surprise you. And,

it's sad because it is cute to propose to each other like if but that if if that's what you want yeah which is not really what you wanted so it's like ah it's it's really tough Justin I'm really scared to be honest really scared he says he has a plan

Ask when. No idea. I fucking hate surprises. I like to know when they're going to be. Yeah. I mean, I Google the ends of movies. Yeah, that's true. She won't watch new shows because she wants to know what's going to happen. I Google it. Yeah. I Google the ending of every single show. I haven't done it without her bank season three yet.

Give me some credit. I have to watch season two and then I'll watch season three. It's pretty good. But angering. Everyone in my show is so hot. So that's why I'm going to watch it. Chase Stokes. And now he's dating Kelsey Ballerini. I know. T. But Madeline Klein. Madeline Klein.

Everyone, Madison, is her name Madison Bailey? That's her name, right? Oh, she's such a cutie too. The actor that plays Poe, everyone in the show is so hot. I'm going to watch it. You got it. But, oh my God, he says he has a plan and he's told other people this plan. And I'm just like, is it outside? Is it nature? Because like all I literally want, when I think about like my dream proposal, Justin, I know you hear this audio. Take notes, take notes.

I literally saw a picture where it was like on a cliff edge, like overlooking water, beautiful greenery, trees, tea light candles everywhere. That's it. I just nature with a photographer in the bush. Yeah. And like a party with friends and family after. Yeah. That's what I want. That's your engagement party right after. Yeah. Right after. Like...

In Iceland. Dude, I have been twice in like six months. I've never been. I know. I live vicariously through the both of you. I'm like, wow. I can't believe we went to Iceland twice. That's how I feel. I didn't go. We want to go in August. Do you want to come? Yes. We're going to go throw puffins off the cliffs. Throw them? Yeah. Why? They get lost. The little babies, they get lost in the town and you have to like scoop them out with nets so they don't drown and all this crazy stuff. And then in the morning you go to the cliffs and you throw them off. Throw them off.

Yeah. It helps them. Okay. It'll be good. Don't throw them like that. I'm like, ah, there we go. Okay, so top comment on this one. Do not tell her, all caps, as much as you know her and want this proposal to go as planned, it is ultimately up to her boyfriend how he wants to do it. If your friend is disappointed, then that can be her sign to discuss with her fiance about moving forward. It is not your place to tell her or intervene at this point. OP replies,

huge red box, lots of awards, and basically says,

Since this is the top comment so far, I'm hoping my response here will be seen by the masses. Fellow Redditors, let me make this super, super clear. You've convinced me tenfold not to say anything to her and to let things play out as they should. I have done the extent of what I can by trying to reach out to him, and he decided not to listen to me. That's on him. It's not my place to initiate a fight slash problem and possibly ruin things before they even happen. Trust me when I say I am not going through with it.

I see now that this is 1000% not my place, regardless of my loyalty and relationship with my friend. And I would be making things far worse by interjecting myself where I have no right to be. There's a bunch of other stuff that they write, but we're going to get to the update. It's fine. It's just talking about Reddit. I thought that was the update. I was so excited. Okay. No. Oh, no. There's more? We get the resolution. Okay. So, update. Update.

To everyone who told me to keep my mouth shut, thank you. So on Saturday, the day of the proposal, I got a call from her boyfriend. He was screaming at me, blaming me for not showing up.

uninvited still, to the proposal with her parents because she was upset they weren't there. What? I was fucking slack-jawed. I told him I knew this would happen and he says verbatim, quote, you just admitted you knew this would happen. So if you knew the whole time and you actually cared for her, you would have invited them.

I was gobsmacked and hung up on him. Not even an hour later, I get a call from her asking me to come to her parents. According to her, this is how the situation played out. He popped the question, she said yes, and the people he invited popped out from hiding. She was bombarded by four of his guy friends, his mom, dad, older brother, and his sister-in-law. His parents were holding a sign that said, quote,

quote, welcome to the family, Mrs. Insert his last name here. And this is where things go downhill. I did not know this before, and I thought I knew everything. But my friend doesn't want to change her last name. And she's told him that repeatedly since they'd gotten together.

She's an only child from a Ukrainian family. Oh, I love that. And with everything going on with Ukraine in the last year, she's doubled down. Yeah. I literally just got full body chills. Me too.

When she saw the sign, she joked, Mrs. His last name? I think you mean Mrs. Her last name. Everyone went silent until his mom said, quote, Well, the ring is already engraved. What? No changing it now. She takes the ring off and sees Mrs. His last name engraved on the band. Then she asked if her parents were coming. He gave every excuse. What?

He didn't have their number. There were too many people there. He wanted to keep it private and eventually said, quote, this was my proposal to you. And now my family is your family. We can just send your parents the pictures later. She took the ring off and left. Good.

That's when I'm assuming I got the call from him. She went straight to her parents. She asked them about the engagement. They were clueless. She then asked if I knew anything. I asked if she was in the right place. She said she was, so I told her I would answer any questions she had, rather than dumping everything on her. She was upset, but thanked me. She was furious when I told her about the call with him earlier and said, does he really think I'm that shallow?

She said it wasn't about having a perfect proposal for her or her parents there. It was about him making the whole thing about himself, as always, and she was done feeling ignored and belittled. So this was her breaking point. She's staying with her parents currently and has been receiving texts from him. The worst one so far is him telling her she has to pay him back for the ring and for ruining his life. No. No.

right now all i can do is be here for her and whatever decision she makes i will fully support because as you've all helped me realize this isn't about me it's about her not my monkey not my circus yeah edit she gave him the ring back when she took it off i didn't include that because i was at the 3 000 character limit already edit two up

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I love a happy ending. That was a good one. I liked that one. That's so manipulative to put the name on the band. Ew. You know what I mean? Tacky. Like he's like, well, I can't take it off. And she's going to be like, okay. You know she wanted to keep her last name. You absolutely know. It's manipulative. It's so manipulative. And the fact that the mom knew about it and was like, well, it's too late now. It's engraved in the band.

It's not too late. No. We haven't signed a marriage license. No. Didn't you say that Karavich just says Mrs. and there's a strike through? Yeah. The last name. I don't want that name on me. That's not my name. Hell no. And like...

even if you get married your last name doesn't automatically change no you don't have to I'm not gonna change my last name I've been thinking about it lately yeah because my brother he's the only one that'll carry on my dad's last name yeah and so I don't know I don't know about my sister but I'm for me I'm not gonna change my last name I love your last name it is so beautiful and unique and I I

I love it. I keep seeing a lot of videos too, especially there's this one lesbian creator and she's like, you straights, like you got to pick the coolest name. Yeah. Pick the cooler name or like create your own. I love that when people create their own legacy like together. I think that's super cute. I know. It's so cool. I was talking to Justin about it recently and I was like, what do you think about hyphenating ours? So it's Absher Thunstrom.

and, like, you take Absher too. And he's like, yeah, that's really cool. That's a powerful name right there. Yeah. I mean, Thunstrom alone, that's crazy. But Absher Thunstrom? 10 out of 10. It's so funny. Every time we chuck it into, like, a hotel under his name, they...

I think they like read it or like see it and they're like, thunderstorm? He's like, yes. That's me. That's me. But, uh, top comment on this update is, I don't know what happened before, but I really hope this poor girl sees those glaring red flags and end things with him. Which, yeah,

She did. I know. When it sounds like she looked back and was like, he used to do this. Think of all the, that's what like with the period story. Think of all the shit she puts up with her boyfriend. He probably doesn't shower or wash his butt good. Nope. Anything. And she still is with him, but then she has a bodily function she can't control. And then she's disgusting. So it's the same here. Like I'm sure she put up with a bunch of shit and she goes, and you're not even going to respect the way that I want it.

to be proposed to slash my family to be involved. Like, we're done. It's so weird. I think that's a little bit of ring clarity too, where we stay in these relationships and we think...

this is amazing yeah every every relationship has some issues it's it's fine it'll get better especially you know if we move in together or if we get married and we get a dog or whatever yeah yeah and we see you know a lot of times with ring clarity especially thanks to tiktok you get engaged and all of a sudden you're like wait is this what i really want i had never heard of ring clarity so i started listening to hot takes yeah and i was like oh my god was i having ring clarity i think you

I think you were. Back then. I think you were. Only time told me that. Yes, I was. Shit comes out. Shit comes out. When that ring goes on the finger, shit comes out and it gets real. And I saw like a bunch of stuff on TikTok where this girl got proposed to. And then like three of his girlfriends saw it and came out of the woodwork. Oh, my God.

So it's like that ring goes on the finger and like shit goes down. If there's anything to be found out, it will come out. Same with like, I mean, all the Adam Levine shit that happened last year. Oh my God. Or do you watch Love is Blind? I have seen the first couple seasons and I saw like clips of the Raven. Yeah. Raven and like. Yeah, she was on Vile Files. Yeah. Just goofy. I just, especially like when you're such a public facing figure.

How do you feel like you're going to get away with cheating? I don't know. How dumb are you? You're going on one of the most famous shows on Netflix. How dumb are you? I don't know. It's a man. It's a man. They have the audacity. That's for sure.

Well, happy ending with this one. Yes. I love this for her. Sounds like she's got a good friend. I'm glad she didn't tell her. I know. That way, let her come to, I feel like if they come to the conclusion, they're more likely to stick with their decision than just listening to other people. Yeah. I also thought about the fact too, if she would have told her friend or like would have intervened and got the parents there, even though she wasn't invited, that

and the parents weren't invited if she would have like gone against that boyfriend how much could that have changed the outcome sure if the parents were there would she have taken that as a sign oh he cared even though it had nothing to do with him and would she have gotten married yeah well and then the last name she probably would have been like ah it's fine because at least he brought many parents yeah i mean i'll compromise on that because my family's here

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Okay, this next one is about food. And I saw this story and...

it reminded me of a two idiot girls episode where you and drew were talking about like your like weird food weird foods you like to eat and one was like ketchup on rice rice i don't like that but drew does what kind of rice like white rice like regular white rice regular ketchup or no sugar like what are we working with heinz yeah the the regular one what does it taste like it tastes nasty i think ketchup's gross

Like, I'll eat it in hamburgers, but I won't enjoy it. But, like, I'm not going to. When people dip stuff in it, I'm like, you're gross. But I like ranch. I love ranch. I think ketchup's gross. But yeah. Are you vegan? Yeah. You're vegan? Yeah. So what's a good dairy-free ranch for you? Ooh, Follow Your Heart. That's a good one. Because I've been, we're dairy-free these days. Ooh, okay. Borderline going towards vegetarian because meat grosses me out. Yeah, me too. That's why I stopped eating it. I just hate it.

If I don't have to cook it, I like it. But it's gross. Okay. I'll text you a picture of it. It's the best dairy-free ranch. Because some of them will be like, oh, yeah, it's made with coconut milk, but you can't taste it. Yes, you can. You can always taste coconut. I'm not drinking that or eating that. But the Follow Your Heart one tastes like regular ranch. And the Target has an off-brand one. I'll send it to you. It's really good. What's your weird food that you have? I don't think I had any when I was telling Drew. What? I mean, I like to eat pickles. That's not that weird.

That's very normal. Yeah. Olives out of the can.

Again, normal. Yeah. I don't have any. I couldn't think of any. No weird like food combos? No. I mean, we also talked about like Drew hates peanut butter and jelly, but I love peanut butter and jelly. You can't get enough of it. Toast the bread too. Oh, you have to toast the bread. But strawberry jelly is the best jelly. Okay. I like where this is headed. So this one is titled, Am I the Asshole for Refusing to Punish My Son for Calling His Classmates Food Weird? Weird.

I, female 32, got a private text this morning from the mother of my son's male 7 classmate. She told me that apparently my son has been calling her daughter's traditional lunch weird and things as such, and apparently that is making her daughter feel uncomfortable and insecure. She asked me to please talk to my son about being more sensitive and respectful so her daughter doesn't feel excluded.

Now, I feel for this woman as a fellow mother. No one wants to see their child feeling sad, but overcoming insecurities is a big part of growing up. Additionally, I thought it was ridiculous of her to criticize my son, a seven-year-old, for making relatively innocuous and curious comments about food that is not familiar to him.

He is at a curious age and is discovering the world, and I refuse to try and limit him and shut him down for not having the emotional sensitivity of an adult. Politely, I told that mother that I was sorry for her daughter struggling with insecurities, and I found some online parenting articles about building your child's confidence to send to her so she could use some tips to help her daughter out.

She replied and said I was acting completely shamelessly and disgracefully, and I am not able to text her anymore. Am I the asshole? Was it like cultural food? Her daughter's traditional lunch. Oh, okay. So it's like PB&J and stuff, right?

I think this is cultural food. Yeah. I'm going to take that as like it could be like if they're an Indian family, it's like a curry or something like that. I'm envisioning it's some sort of. I mean, that would make sense. He's not gonna make fun of PB&J. Yeah. Yeah. No, because that's this little white boy's probably seen that. He's eating that. Yeah.

Yeah, you are the asshole. I mean, saying no is one thing. Like, no, that's your own problem. That's an issue in and of itself. But to send the articles, it's like over the top. That's fucked up. That's insane. Also, like, it's kind of ironic that she's saying things like he's curious. He's at a curious age and is discovering the world. Yeah.

Clearly not if he's being a bully. Being a bully about someone's food. So weird. And it's not even, I mean, her being insecure. It's because he's disrespecting her and her family's culture. Yeah. So like, yeah, you should tell your kid don't fucking do that at school. It's really weird. And honestly, I've seen a lot of stories from people coming out and they're like,

yeah i was indian and i had traditional food and my dad made me a lunch every day and i was so embarrassed i threw it away and got school lunch instead because i was made fun of and that scarred yeah them like stuff like that sticks with you when you're a kid yeah it really does and it makes you embarrassed of your culture which is super shitty because when you grow up in it like yeah you want to be proud of it but like no one else is so you feel embarrassed did you deal with that at all um

No, I mean, I've eaten my fair share of Samoan food, but we never would take it for lunch or anything like that. I wonder if my dad did, though, because my dad was born here but grew up in Samoa and ended up coming back. But, um...

No, I mean, well, I did in a sense, not about food. It would be like, oh, like, cause I grew up in a predominantly like Latino area. Um, like my godfather is Mexican. So I grew up around Spanish a lot. All my best friends were Mexican and stuff. Um, so people would ask me like, oh, are you Mexican? Or they would speak Spanish to me and I'd be like, I don't know what you're saying. Um,

And so that always kind of bothered me because there was no one that looked like me and Drew or my mom or my dad. And so it wasn't until... That's why we love The Rock so much. Yeah. He was, like, our one. Like, we had a couple... And what's funny is, like, that type of, like, wrestling, that's so...

important to our culture and i don't know why i think it's so silly but like all my cousins my dad like they all loved watching it i didn't but um i could see why i guess so we had other like samoan wrestlers that were like a big deal like rikishi he was one and his big move is he would put his butt in your face which is like very someone very silly like you're like of course you're doing that because it's funny but it wasn't until the rock like became the rock and then

you know got out of wrestling that I was like oh my gosh it's like so then I'd be like oh I'm someone and they'd be like what's that I'm like oh well it's like Hawaiian that's what I used to always say and one time my dad heard me say like don't ever say that again you're not Hawaiian like we're someone there's nothing wrong with being Hawaiian but don't lie like it's the pride it's not the same thing yeah it's like be prideful exactly so then when The Rock is out I was like oh like you guys you guys know The Rock they're like yeah I'm like he's my uncle he's not my uncle everyone says that people are telling me my sister we tell everyone you're my cousins

because there's no someone girls in media. You know what I mean? Well, I don't care. I'll tell people you're my cousin. Like, that's funny. Yeah. But same with like Moana, like stuff like that. It means a lot. So, but I never took food to school like that or anything like that. Like my mom was like PB and J. Yeah.

it's easy get out of here go to school yeah but um but yeah I don't know I think that's what's so cool about TikTok is I watch like thousands of videos of people making like traditional Korean dishes or Japanese dishes and then um

And seeing like white moms make their kids like Korean food to take to school. And then I see like Asian creators like stitching it and saying like, that's so cool because I wish that I could have eaten my lunch in peace and not been like, what's that smell or whatever. You know what I mean? Oh, yeah. I can't even imagine. But yeah. It's wild. I didn't really...

Minnesota. We're very bland there. There's, you know, great Mexican food. There's good Thai food, sushi. But like, I didn't really encounter like a lot of Filipino food. And coming to grad school, I just loved everyone brought these amazing dishes. And like, I honestly don't know if I had seen like tamales before and like empanadas, like really good empanadas. Oh, but

Like seeing that in grad school, I just like, I appreciate it so much. I'm like, this is amazing. Yeah. But I, it's just, it's so weird to me that like this mom wouldn't want to instill in her son and be like, there's a bunch of different cultures. There's so many different foods. And hey, no, that's not weird. Let's, let's go out to a restaurant so you can try some yourself. Sure.

Like, as a parent, you want to create such an inclusive, worldly experience for your kid. Or at least I would. Like, I want my kid to be able to go out in the world and survive and thrive anywhere and everywhere. Amongst all different types of people. Yeah. And be inclusive and open-minded and kind. Like...

hearing your son's being an asshole and you're like here let me send your daughter some self-help articles tell her to toughen up yeah what the heck that's weird it's crazy it's giving karen yeah it's giving karen

I would send that lady back articles on how to raise a kid that's not an asshole. Yes. Thank you for the tip. Here's some for you. Yeah. Raising a future bully. Yeah. Top comment on this one. You're the asshole. Teaching your kid to be respectful of others' choices is not shutting him down. It's literally part of your job as a parent to, you know, parent.

And it's like he's asking like, what's that? Like, what are you eating? Or like he's like curious about what she's eating. Yeah. He's just being a dick. He's being a bully. Yeah. He's just being a bully and like calling someone's lunch weird and saying things as such. That's not a curious comment. Like the mom is brushing it off.

Calling something weird, he's being a little bully. Yeah, he's being rude. I'm sure he would be meaner if he wasn't seven because he just doesn't know those big words yet. But when he does, because you're not teaching him not to be mean, he's going to use them. Exactly. Someone goes entitled child in the making, which most likely will lead to an entitled adult. A lot of comments, a lot of comments. People just pissed at OP. Yeah. Rightfully so. Vote on this one is asshole.

There's no comments from OP, though. She's like, that's enough. Yeah. People don't like to hear that they're wrong. Yeah. But it's posted four days ago, so maybe there will be a little update realizing, hey, yeah, I suck. Yeah, I realize I was wrong. Yeah. But over this one. Up next, am I the asshole for kicking a girl out of my party for calling her boyfriend daddy? Okay.

Was it Pedro? Ah, girl. I don't want to talk about him. He'll go on for way too long. It was Travis Kelsey. Yes, I'm gay. I know. It doesn't make any sense. But I stopped having a crush on Travis Kelsey and now it's strictly just Pedro Pascal. I can't get enough. You don't have to put yourself in a box.

No, I know. But I know because everyone's like, oh, read the lesbian master doc. Look it up. It's pretty good. But basically it talks about compulsory heteronormativity. Oh, which like my sister was like the biggest indicator that you were gay when we were little. And I should have noticed that is I had a hundred crushes. Every boy I met, I had a crush on.

but I would never want to talk to them or sit near them. Do you know what I mean? And my sister was repulsed by every man that's ever been around her. Whereas me, I'm like, okay, new crush, you're it. You know what I mean? But I would never talk to them or anything like that because we were on lots of date growing up, which made it way more confusing when I did realize I liked girls. So that's why it's just patriarch. But then in the article, it talks about how we're brought up to be heteronormative, right? So it's just like, you can't help it. That's just how my brain operates. And they were saying like, if all your crushes are men,

that are like famous or you don't know and you know you'd never run into then you're probably a lesbian and i'm like oh t but then the the more stuff drew gets to do i'm like if i ever meet pedro pascal i'll literally die like oh my god i hope it happens i just love him so much like as a person and he's very good looking but he's so cute i know that's why i'm like is he the same age as my mom yeah but i know i could i know i can make it happen but then what i i don't know

I like to make up a lot of things. So we'll see. He's a good looking guy. I just love that he watches the thirst traps made about himself. His favorite is Pedro Pascal fan account. Yeah. He loves it. And then like there's an interview I saw with him recently where the interviewer was like, hi, daddy. Yeah. And he's like, hi, mommy. And I'm like, I'm your cool slutty daddy. I'm all yes. Yeah.

It's good that you're bringing all this up because it makes me realize that I picked really good stories for you for your father knows something. Ooh, okay. Yeah. So if you're interested in hearing some write-ins related to LGBTQ plus issues, head over there because Dason is going to be on the couch with my dad as well. It's going to be so good. Okay.

Okay, so this one, let's see what this is about. Picking a girl out for calling her boyfriend dad. Her own boyfriend, right? Not her. Okay. I, female 24, was hosting a small-scale hangout with about 15 of my friends. One girl, female 23, is an acquaintance of mine, and she came with her boyfriend. We were all sitting around in the main room and eating pizza when she came to sit and sat on her boyfriend's lap. A little weird since there were open seats, but I didn't say anything. Okay.

While we were talking as a group, she would always refer to her boyfriend as Daddy. She would interject with things like, quote, Daddy just bought me a new stand mixer. And Daddy looks so handsome in this shirt, right? I told him to get it. At first, we thought she was joking or messing with us, but she continued doing it. And the rest of us were side-eyeing each other and were kind of uncomfortable.

Psh.

She started ranting at me about a whole lot of stuff, and I just told her and her boyfriend to please leave. Her boyfriend was pissed too, but they eventually got out. The rest of the evening was less uncomfortable and way more peaceful. A few of my friends who didn't know the girl I kicked out thanked me for making her leave, but we all felt kind of awkward because of what happened. Am I the asshole? No. If they're being weird and you don't really know her, you'd be like, okay, like,

Especially if she's not matching the vibe. Yeah. Well, and if she's arguing with her, then I'd be like, okay, you gotta go, dude. Yeah. I don't know what to tell you. Does it sound to you like the couple is trying to involve others in their kink? Which is making people uncomfortable? Yeah. Or just like, daddy, daddy. I feel like it's kind of a thing where people call their significant other daddy. That's a kink? I don't know. To call people daddy? Maybe. Oh. Is it a kink? No.

I don't know. Well, and it's your house. So if you don't like how someone's acting, I don't think there's anything wrong with that. And she wasn't slut shaming her. She was just like, well, did she do it in front of everyone? I would have pulled her to the side. That's kind of mean. Yeah. Daddy kink is a sexual fetish. Calling your partner daddy in bed can be an erotic way to explore power play. Okay, try it out, Morgan, and let me know if it works. Give me the tea. I literally would rather...

do so many other things the real tea with that is i call my dad daddy i call my parents mommy and daddy mama daddy i used to yeah until the internet ruined it for me i know now when i do it it's not in front of people because people are weird about my dad he's a handsome man i get it but do you have like a lot of people thirsting after your dad oh yeah it's bad what we don't even tag him anything anymore is he getting a lot of followers privileges yeah we made my parents make their profiles private what

We're like private profiles for everyone. People are so goofy. I know. Especially, I think it was when Drew posted for my dad for Father's Day last year. And then everyone was like, oh, my God. Same with my brother. I'm like, you guys need... That's enough. Wrap it up. Yeah. Wrap it up. Oh, my God. That's hilarious. They don't do that on mine. I think I have more queer people that follow me. But I think on Drew's, like, there's a lot of straight girls that are like, oh, my God. Oh, I didn't know your dad looked like that. Or whatever, you know?

Wow. Yeah, I'd put them private too. Shit. Make your account private. This one's weird. I'm like, if it's like a part of their little fetish, whatever they got going on. Yeah. If it was every word out of her mouth, like, hey, daddy, can you grab me another LaCroix? Hey, daddy. While you're in there. Daddy, how's your pizza? Yeah. Daddy. Like, okay, enough. Enough. Especially after you ask.

Yeah. I would never do it in front of people, though. I would have been like, hey, can I talk to you really fast? And I would have made it like, because I'm passive aggressive, I would have been like, the vibe's a little weird. So if you guys could tone down the PDA, I would call it that or something. So I don't want to embarrass her, but...

I guess they didn't care. And they just said, hey, can you stop saying that? That would make me want to say it more if someone told me that. I know. I kind of think I have an oppositional tendency where you really have to Jedi mind trick me. Like my parents, especially. You have to Jedi mind trick me. Otherwise, I'm like, you said not to chew gum. I'm going to chew gum. I'm going to chew all the gum. Yeah. I'm just like, I'm annoyingly...

oppositional sometimes with like decisions not like opinions and stuff but it's weird but yeah I think I would too I'd want to be like oh you mean like this daddy just whatever does that bother you yeah the top comment goes slut shaming

She told on herself right there. She feels insecure about her sexuality, which is why she feels the need to parade it around at a party in hopes the people will validate her. As soon as everyone rightfully got uncomfortable, her worst insecurities were confirmed and she had a meltdown.

People keep confusing tolerance for alternative sexualities with, yeah, I'm totally fine witnessing them with my own two eyes in a public setting. Telling someone I don't want to see or hear about your sex life is not the same as telling them you should be ashamed of your sex life. And it's obvious that there's a kinky component to her calling him daddy, not the asshole. That's good. I never thought of it like that.

That's true. I mean, it's a pick me because she wants validation from other people. Yeah. Probably more specifically men.

when she's acting like that, I would think. Yeah. But it worked out. She left. Do you like his shirt? It reminds me of in Mean Girls where she's like, tell him his hair looks sexy. Push back. That's what that sounds like. Oh my God. And that was her being like vindictive and weird in front of everyone. So not that she's being vindictive, but I'm saying in the movie, Regina George was. Oh my God. Yeah. And it was for attention and for people to validate their relationship and stuff like that. I so see it. Okay. Well, worked out for this friend group. Yeah.

Don't invite her to any more parties. You're bringing down the vibe. That's what I'm going to say at your birthday party. I'm going to do this at my birthday party. Hey, daddy. Oh, God, no. I don't have any pet names, like, for Justin. I say, like, Boo or Babe or, like, the regular. Yeah. But I watch Ginny and Georgia. Georgia and Ginny, whatever that one is. And I thought, like, Poo was really cute. Like, Winnie the Pooh. Yeah, that's cute. I'm just like, Poo, but...

No, I got to come up with a nickname for him. You just got one. Daddy. Daddy. When Justin's daddy. Not until we have kids. Then that's acceptable to say. Oh, go tell your dad. Go tell daddy. Yeah, that's when everyone would be like, oh, that's your dad. Until then, not a chance. Okay, moving along. Okay, so this one is from Off My Chest. It is titled, My Boyfriend Likes to Block Me.

I'm 22 female and he's 27 male. He told me once that he likes to block me in weeks. One week for the first time, I'm dramatic. Two weeks for the second time, three weeks, etc. It got up to two months with no contact. What kind of behavior is this? He prefers to not talk and then go back to normal with enough time. He doesn't talk it out unless I bring up the issue again.

That's all they wrote. So he does that when he's mad at her? Yeah. So the first time I get mad at you, I'd block you for one week. The second time you piss me off, I'm going to block you for two weeks.

That's toxic. I don't know if I've ever heard of a more unhinged conflict resolution tactic. He's also 27 and she's 22, which is kind of a red flag. But, um, a little bit. Especially depending on when they met. Yeah. Girl, yeah. If you really think about that. Um, yeah, that's toxic. That's, and like, obviously manipulative and like, there's probably a little bit of gaslighting in there too. Like, well, you did it. What did you expect me to do? Yeah. You know?

Also, if someone blocked you and didn't talk to you for two months... We're not together anymore. Wouldn't you just think you broke up? Yeah, I would. I don't have a boyfriend anymore. I don't have a boyfriend.

hell no, I'm getting my ass back on Hinge. Yeah. I'm gonna have a good time. He's like, what are you doing? We're still together. No. What do you mean? You didn't talk to me for two months. Yeah. Well, and then do they not hang out for two months? Yeah. Nothing. That's weird. Nothing. I don't like that. He's probably got a whole nother girlfriend. Yeah. He rotates the block schedule. Yeah. Yeah. I've had that where people talk to me like on Instagram and then we start texting and then they only talk to me on Instagram. I'm like, oh, something's off. You're juggling girls. That's fine. But...

Don't make it weird. I had an ex that would, like, literally ghost me every weekend and, like, disappear for weeks at a time, and I put up with it. That's so weird. Who was I? I know. And then you, like, normalize it. You're like, oh, it's just one of those things, you know? I did. I was like, oh, he lives in Canada. He said his phone service isn't that great. You don't know any better. Yeah, at the time. I'm not fucking Canadian. I have no idea. You're like, there's not even a time change. I should have known that. Like...

Like, I was so messed up. I was like, I don't know what was wrong with my little brain back then. But don't put up with stuff like this, you guys. This is weird. It was only posted a day ago and there's not a lot on it. But someone goes, do you actually think you're in a real relationship?

And the next person goes, I wish someone would have told me long before my abusive relationship in my early 20s that I deserve to be loved, seen, and accepted for who I am. And the best way for that to happen, and only way really, is if you choose things for yourself first. Otherwise, you will keep letting people treat you like dirt. And honey, you are not dirt. Yeah. You should want to be, you should be with someone who communicates with you in the way that you like to be communicated with. Absolutely. Absolutely. Absolutely.

Account has been deleted. I don't see any comments from OP. So I hope this was received well and like they can grow and find someone who doesn't fucking block them like this. It has a whole schedule out for them so they know. That's so weird. That's manipulative. I don't like that. It's very strange. Very strange. Okay. Up next. Am I the asshole for suggesting my friend re-homes her kid?

English isn't my first language, nor the one the conversation in question was held in, so sorry for any mistakes. My 22-female friend, 24-female, has a 5-year-old son. The kid is, to say the least, difficult. She tries therapy, daycare, lots of educational methods, but he's wild. Cries a lot, destroys stuff, yells with her. Anyway, you get the picture.

The dad pays pension but isn't active in their lives and she doesn't have many family members nearby, so she's pretty much alone most of the time to deal with this. Poor thing is destroyed. Whenever we hang out, it's clear from her physical appearance that she isn't very healthy and she is always tired and anxious. She takes meds, but her doctor said that unfortunately there isn't much to do because there isn't anything wrong with her. It was an outside factor.

It's really painful for me, as she's a close friend from many years. So the other day, she was in my house while the kid was in the daycare. She had a breakdown, started crying, saying she doesn't know what to do anymore. Then this is when I may have been the asshole. What?

I said she tried her best, but maybe it was time to think of more difficult possibilities. To think if there wasn't anyone with whom the kid could stay while she took care of herself, because she needed to. She looked at me quite shocked and asked, are you saying that I should rehome my son? Like he's a fucking dog? I said no, don't take it that way. I was only saying that maybe it would be better for everyone, including him, if he stays with someone who could deal with him in some ways you can't.

She yelled at me for saying that she couldn't believe I could even suggest such a thing, and how heartless could I be? I tried to apologize, but she stormed out and hasn't talked to me ever since. Some of our friends are saying that I wasn't asked for suggesting that for a mother, while a few others say that she needed to hear it, even if it was hard. Am I the asshole?

Well, I mean, yeah. To rehome a kid, yeah. I don't know, just give him up, you know? Go surrender him to your local shelter and...

You don't have to deal with them anymore. I see, like, wanting to, like, encourage your friend to take care of herself. Like, so maybe it could have been done in a way where she's like, oh, let me watch him, you know, for these many days. And then, yeah, but she doesn't want to deal with it. So she's like, I don't know. Isn't there, like, some sort of aid or someone like that can come over and help her, like, alleviate her so she can have some time to herself? You would think so. I mean, he's in daycare and stuff like that, too. It sounds more like

And it does say, like, she's tried therapy, daycare, and lots of educational methods, but he's wild, cries a lot, destroys stuff. Like, I don't know. I find this hard to believe that this kid doesn't have, like...

autism or um like odd which is like oppositional defiant disorder um there's so many other things that kids can have like he could just have sensory issues where he's being overstimulated and it's past that threshold and he just can't handle it anymore you just don't know so it's like i'm surprised that she's tried therapy and like none of that has like helped come to like

Yeah.

It wasn't... I think the friend kind of took it as, you think I should rehome him like a dog? Yeah. But it does more so sound like, do you have any other family? Like, can he go with grandma and grandpa? Yeah. And honestly, like, maybe dad would be good. Maybe he's missing that father paternal figure in his life. Like, kids need a village. And so it's weird that she interpreted it that way. It makes me think...

someone else has said it to her before yeah like it sounds like some projection yeah well then maybe she feels like something's wrong with her like the way she's parenting as a mom yeah so she's projecting that onto her friend when her friend's like

maybe that's what i'm saying like maybe there's like two days a week where like the dad watches him so then you can have a whole day just to you yeah i mean because daycare will be like while she's at work so she still has to see when she goes home yeah and so i can't even imagine having to like juggle all that you know what i mean or every other weekend or something it's a lot yeah i think this is like one of the things that scares me about having kids is i was such a terror i know it's gonna come back to me like tenfold i'm just like i'm not

I'm not mentally prepared right now. It's hard being a parent. I know. I feel that. It's so hard. Because my brother was born when I was 11. So he's always been like my baby. That's why I've always looked at him like I had a baby. Yeah. And so now he irritates me because he's 18. But when he was a baby, I like would tell my mom like, go take a

bath and I would like make dinner and like hold him like I loved my I still love my brother but um so I've always thought I wanted kids and as I get older I'm like if I have them I have them it's not a big deal but it is scary yeah I'm like in that same boat like I recorded a father knows something episode with my dad last night and had like a mental breakdown bawling and he was like we were talking about kids and stuff that like what triggered it yeah bad but I was like I don't

know where I stand and I feel like that's a lot of our generation I agree like my friend Alejandra is the same way she's like I don't want to rule it out yet but I'm not really sure where I stand is that normal like is that normal I think so yeah I think too because we're like I'm gonna be 30 this year you're gonna be 29 in like four days or so right I think um

I'm like when I was like 19 and in my first relationship I'm like okay by the time like telling my ex I'm like okay by the time we're 25 I want to start having kids because I was so used to that's what I saw all my friends doing like yeah we graduated everyone got married started having kids and then obviously we're gay so like it's gonna take a lot more money and time to like have kids and buy a home and whatever um

um and so after we broke up I was kind of like if I have kids I have kids yeah and now I'm glad we didn't have kids with each other because she sucks but for me you know what I mean I'm like I'm glad too because I want to be the best version of myself I can be to when I'm a mom and so and I grew up with the best parents so it's also like that's a high standard to have to live up to as well yeah intimidates me a lot your family's so amazing there's just a bunch of sweetie pies except for my brother just

But yeah, Donovan's land. Yeah, I'm gonna take him down on two hot takes. But no, it's it's scary. And I think it's just because of our generation, like, especially because we're a little bit older. But I also I'm so excited to be 30. Like when I turned when I was like, until I was like 25. I was like, Oh my god, like my life is over. Like I'm not doing anything. Yeah, I'm wasting time.

And now I feel like I'm restarting my entire life within the last year and a half. So that's why I'm kind of like, if I get married... I want to get married. That's like where I'm going to do that. But kids, I'm like, if I have them, I have them. If I don't, that's okay. Yeah. I'm in that same boat. And I just... Like, I think...

I'm not excited about my birthday party because it's just like a lot of pressure. That's anxiety. Yeah. I just, it's always like, is anyone going to show up? I feel the same way about our live shows we do. I'm always like, I'm always anxiety riddled just about people coming because I don't, like that, that rejection, I can't handle. So, I'm excited about like,

But I'm really excited for 30 because you always hear, too, where it's like your 20s are for grinding. It's a little struggle financially probably. But your 30s, you're a little more established. You have all these. I'm just like, bring it on. Yeah.

Let's go, baby. That's where I feel too. I'm excited. Yeah. So she gets 27 is usually when your Saturn return comes. So that's why I think a lot of celebrities haven't, a lot of them died at 27 or something like that. There's like a pattern. 27 club. Yeah. Yeah. And so, but there's the Saturn return where it's like this part of your life where like, I don't know the science behind it. So everyone's gonna be like, if they do know, they're gonna be like, you're wrong. But it's the way these planets, your planets land, like some, there's a huge shift in your life.

So I never would have thought at 27, after being with the same person for eight years, that we would break up just randomly. And I was like, what are we doing? And so it was like I literally had to start my entire life over again. I think Teffy told me that. She's like, it's your Saturn return. I literally, my life flipped on its head at 27. Yeah. I'm sitting over here. Yeah. Did you change your career? I couldn't get a job as no T, so I started the podcast. Yeah. And my life like that flipped.

It flipped on its head. And it's scary. What the hell? What is this so I can research? Saturn return. I'm going to figure this out. My sister, she just turned 28. She'll be 29 this year. Wait, no. No, she's 27. That's normal. It's your Saturn return.

But she's had crazy stuff happen for her too. I mean, the past year of her life has been just astronomical growth. Yeah, our whole family, honestly, with everything my sister's been able to do for us, like it's a completely different life. That's incredible. Wow. Okay. I'm really going to dive into this. I really want to get more into astrology. Yeah. It helped me with my healing through my breakup era. Do you have a club? Yeah. It's starting right now. You're invited. Okay. Maybe this is what you put on your Patreon. Yeah.

oh okay you have dayson's monthly astrology meetings okay i just need to do more research i feel like i know a lot but not that much you know what i mean i feel i i know nothing and you could bring on experts every month to talk astrology okay okay so check out two idiot girls patreon and dayson's monthly astrology club coming soon coming soon drew loves astrology too so that would be really cute i've never met with an astrologer or like a psychic i really want to i really want to go to a psychic yeah

Maybe I should see if I can have one come to my birthday party. That'd be fun. Fuck! Okay, I gotta make some calls. I was gonna do tacos, like a little taco guy, but now I'm like, fuck no, I want a taro psychic. Yeah, they're a course for food. You're like, get your fortune read. I'm doing, this, this is incredible. This is incredible. Okay. The top comment on this one.

is from like an edit. So they added an edit. They must have added an edit right away because of the backlash. And so it goes, edit. Since most of you are saying I should help her, I do. I usually help her with errands such as groceries, pharmacy, picking slash dropping her or the kid and house chores.

The boy spends most of his day at a daycare. I did not suggest she gives him up to food option, only that she lets him stay with some relatives or on a sleep-in school while she recuperates.

I don't see anything wrong with that. I don't either. Yeah. I don't think the asshole on this one. I think maybe the language barrier like translates it to be like give him up for. Yeah. I thought that too. Well, I also think kind of like what we said, the friend is taking it really personally. And like, it's fair. Like, yeah, I would too. As a parent. Yeah. I'd be like, because you look at your, you know, your kid and you're like,

my best and yet he's still a little Tasmanian devil. Like, what can I do? That's why I felt like she was kind of projecting on her friend. Yeah. And she was like, I didn't even say that. Why are you saying that? I totally said that. I don't think you're a bad mom. I think you just are a person. You're a human and you need help. We all need help. And there's something wrong with that. Yeah. It takes a village. It really does. And it's what makes me so sad for people that are single moms and feel like they don't have any help or family to rely on. And this is where like

It's so important to get involved in your community with neighbors, other moms that are single with kids your same age and pass them off and you do playdates and trade and whatever. But it's tough. It's really tough. So the top comment then is from your edit. It sounds like what you were talking about is respite care, which is very reasonable. Maybe there's an organization that offers a summer camp for high needs kids. You could help your friend out by researching options like that. Yeah.

And someone comments after and goes, yep, not the asshole. And someone, it sounds like, has personal experience and just goes, and these programs are wonderful. I had a friend growing up who had kidney failure slash was going through the transplant process. Her dad was wonderful. However, everyone needs a break sometimes, even if the kid does nothing wrong. Yeah. And that's so true. Yeah, I think so. So true.

Okay, last one, which kind of has like a wholesome twist to it, even though it's sad. But I figured after all the trauma we just endured, we kind of need like a little pick me up to show like rainbow at the end of the tunnel or whatever light at the end of the tunnel. God, I really do botch sayings. Okay, so this one is also from True Off My Chest. It is titled, My Bridesmaid Accepted Her Role in a Way That Hurt My Heart.

I asked three women to be my bridesmaids with a small gift. I asked each woman privately at their homes while visiting so it could be a heartfelt personal moment between us alone. One bridesmaid I'll call A is a kind-hearted woman I've known for more than half my life who's been with me through some serious ups and downs, including the death of a child. I have known I wanted her to be a part of my wedding forever.

for many years. She even offered to host in her backyard when I was brainstorming budget venues. A doesn't have many close friends, but I'm not her only friend, and she's significantly older than I am, so she's talked to me about plenty of weddings she's attended before. I just assumed that she'd been a bridesmaid before, since she has long-term childhood friends who are married. She's even talked about helping with setup for weddings, hence my assumption."

But when I asked her to be my bridesmaid, she burst into tears and said, quote, you're so sweet. You don't have to make me one of your bridesmaids, though. Confused, I asked, quote, why wouldn't I want you to be my bridesmaid? And she said, quote, I've never been pretty enough to be a bridesmaid.

I was flabbergasted. Apparently, all of her other friends asked for her help, both labor and money, but never allowed her to be in photos because she's overweight.

Like, straight up shooed her out of the photos. I can't even imagine doing something like that to a person who's given so much of herself for me over the years. Who gives a shit what she looks like? I assured her repeatedly that she is pretty and I don't care about her weight. I care about her heart and she's done more than enough to deserve a place beside me at my wedding. Whether or not she hosts it in her backyard.

But I feel sad and infuriated about what was supposed to be a moment of joy and excitement between us, and that it was dampened by a lifetime of others ruining her self-esteem. I feel like I'm going to lunge at her childhood friends next time I see them because I'm so pissed to find out how they treated her. She deserves better friends. Yeah, what the frick? To shoo her out of photos. That's so mean.

I would leave. I'd be like, okay, bye. Or if they wouldn't, if I'm like, I mean, that's something to take into consideration too, how much they use her and she's just so used to it. Yeah. That's so sad. I'm sure it's like every area of friendships with these people and she just thinks that's what she deserves. Yeah. Or it's like, obviously normalized to her. Yeah. Well, I'm glad she finally gets to be in a wedding. That's super exciting. And someone that appreciates her. Yes. Yes.

Yes, hopefully karma bites her friends in the ass. Yeah. I've only been in one wedding and I don't want to be in any other one. So don't ask me to be in it. Well, if you asked me, Morgan, I would be in your wedding. I think you're good. Me saying, okay, yeah, I'll be in your wedding.

I'm going to make it so easy on people, though. Like, all the stress and, like, all the spending money for bridesmaids. It's like, if I ask you to be a bridesmaid, like, I'm going to pay for your dress. I'm going to do certain things where it's like, I don't... I think it's ridiculous when people spend thousands of money for their friend to get married. Yeah. It's like, what? I like when they let them pick whatever dress they want. Like, I like that that's a thing now. Yeah. Because not everyone feels comfortable in the same types of materials or shirts.

and stuff like that. Absolutely. I like that. And then they all just have to follow a color theme or whatever. I think that's really cute. I think that should be the bare minimum. Yeah. Because then you can re-wear it to something else. Like if I like how it looks, I'll wear it to another wedding, but I'm not in the wedding. Yeah. You know what I mean?

yeah i had a friend that got married in november so it was like a fall late fall winter wedding and her bridesmaids dresses were black oh i love that everyone looked unreal yeah unreal it was so good it was so good yeah my cousin got married and she had everyone wear black like even the all the guests and stuff like that and it came out really cute i love that i love that i think i'm gonna be absolutely unhinged and have everyone wear white you wear black

No. Fuck no. I'm wearing white still. I'm just kidding. I would look good, but no. Either way. I'm glad she got to be in a wedding, finally. Yes. Beautiful ending. You'll get to come to mine, but you'll have to come to Minnesota. I don't care. I want to go. I want to go to your little barn. That's where it's going to be. Well, if Justin wants. In the barn? It's going to be on the farm. Full body chills. In the barn. Oh.

Maybe not in it. I just can't believe you guys both moved to California and you're both from the same state. I know. And found each other out here. On Hinge. Girl, I'm on there right now. Fingers crossed. I love that app. It works out. I don't know how it is these days. How is it these days? It's pretty awful, but it's okay. I'm trying. I'm trying. Well, okay. If anyone out there wants to submit their application to date Dacen, let me know. I'll pass it along. Okay. I'll screen you first. Yeah. I really want to be a matchmaker. Okay.

Okay. That's like my, like, I want to be an interior designer and a matchmaker and a dog trainer. I could see all of those working for you. In other lives. But we'll see what we can do. Yeah, let's do it. But how can people find you?

Everything. I'm Dacen Offawalo. I'm Drew's sister, by the way. And then Two Idiot Girls we post every Tuesday. The video always goes out on Tuesdays. I'm so excited. You're good. You're better than me. I remember you told me, you're like, it doesn't have to go out the same day. Well, yes, it does. Because I have to. It has to. You're better than me. Sometimes I just can't do it. It's so much. You're definitely more type A when it comes to editing than I am. I'm kind of like, there's sniffles in there. You're going to see them. You're going to hear them. But.

But I know that would drive Morgan like wild. Off a wall, you guys. You know I cut my mouth noises. I'm a lot more easygoing, I guess. I'm just like, ah, it's fine. But yeah, we post every Tuesday. You find me on TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, Dace and Off a Wallow. Go check out Two Idiot Girls. The show is absolutely amazing. I went to your live show that you guys had. Oh, that was so fun.

Incredible. I cannot wait for more live shows. So get ahead of the curve, you guys. Go listen to it so you're ready for when they go on tour again because your crowd interactions and the banter

I was blown away. It was like a stand-up show. It was kind of fun. It was pretty wild. It was hilarious. Yeah. There was one, you guys took like your listeners' write-ins at the end. And you really, with your show, you interact with your listeners week after week, which is amazing. You're building such a great community. Yeah.

But one of the people at the show wrote in and they were like, I worked at a quick service restaurant. And you and Drew both go, so fast food? Yeah. It was Chipotle. Just say Chipotle. Who cares? Oh, my God. It was so funny. It was a great, great show. So check it out. And other than that, until next time. Bye, guys. Bye.