Traveling With Your BF (ft. Braxton)
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Guys, it's kind of been a minute because last week we did the anxiety rerun episode and I wanted to wait to do the Europe recap until we have been to like every destination in Europe and we could do it together and Braxton's also going to come on this episode and guest star. So we're going to go over everything that's been happening on this trip and I've been having...

the best time ever. So I feel like all these spots we've been to, so we started in Cannes and then we went to Venice and then Capri and then Saint-Tropez. And I've never been to any of these places before. Growing up, my family, we would vacation, but I feel like it was just kind of like beachy vacations or we'd go to Florida. Like we never came to Europe when I was growing up. So I think the first time I came to Europe was maybe like

two years ago when I was visiting my friends who were abroad my junior year of college. And I love it over here. Honestly, like Ashton went abroad this past year. She was like, I want to move over here. Like, it's just so fun. It's just so different. But one bone I have to pick is what is with the bottle caps here? Like I...

I don't know how to explain it to you guys, but you know when you twist off a water bottle cap, it like comes off here. They're like all connected and then I keep going to pull it off and then thinking it's like stuck, but it's really just connected. And then I'll like go to sip the water and you have to like hold the cap down to like drink the water. Otherwise, the cap's like scratching you in your face. And I just, I don't know why I never noticed that. Is that a new thing in Europe? Can you guys tell me? And I'm at Earl Girls over here.

But I've literally had like a million bazillion water bottles since being here. And every time I open it, I still go to try and rip the cap off and it's just stuck. I was like, OK, this is interesting. So this trip is really, really giving me flashbacks to last year when I did a big Europe trip with all my girlfriends after we graduated college, which is a crazy thing to say that we do. But a lot of people, when they graduate from the University of Miami, do a Europe trip. And I know this happens at other schools, too. But we knew like

literally since freshman year that we were going to do this and we had been planning it out for so long. Last year, we went to Positano, Ibiza, Mykonos, and Santorini. And that trip actually ended up getting pretty viral online because there was just so much stuff that went down. And I know I've told the story a few times, but I don't think I've ever really gone in depth because Braxton and I were in Capri and we were doing a boat day to go to Positano. So we're looking at Positano and it's very like a

big mountain with like houses like everywhere you look and it's all colorful it's so pretty and Braxton was like wow I've never seen anything like this before and we're looking and I was like do you see that like huge mansion in Positano right there at the top that like pink reddish one and he was like yeah like that house is insane oh my god and I was like that's where

me and my friend stayed last year on our college graduation trip. Literally 12 girls staying in the nicest mansion in Positano and no, we did not pay for it. That was not our original plan, but I have to tell you guys this story because it's actually so insane and it's so crazy to the point that people thought this was like premeditated and it was like some scheme with Airbnb, but we were basically stranded. So this all started when we had landed in the Naples airport.

right in Italy we're coming back from Ibiza and you know after three days in Ibiza like we were all kind of like dying and we're in the airport and I actually was in the Naples airport again this year with Braxton I was like I'm having PTSD from being back here last year because me and my friends almost got kicked out of the airport so we're like delusional we're getting off the plane from Ibiza landing in Naples and you know in the airport when there's like a security exit like past the baggage claim and it's like exit like no return like there's

10 signs that literally say big red letters like this exit like you cannot come back in me and my friends are dumbasses and we all walked out of the doors and none of us got our bags yet besides one of my friends so we walk out and now we see like the doors to the street and we were like oh shit like we didn't get our bags and we go to turn back around and there's these security guards standing there in the police uniforms in the airport and they're like stopping us and they're yelling at us in italian and none of us understand we were like

we were like, wait, but we didn't get our bags, like looking like dumbasses and they wouldn't let us in. So now we're like, wait, what do we do? Because none of us got our baggage. They literally didn't care. They were like, go home, get out of here. And the one friend, I think she was going to the bathroom. She was on the other side of the doors. So we're standing behind these doors with the police in front of us,

yelling at each other. We're like, wait, can you grab all 13 of our bags, the checked bags from the carousel and like bring them through? And she was like, guys, like this is so ridiculous right now. Like how did you all walk past the sign that says like, don't walk past this sign. Point of no return. And all 12 of us are just like, do, do, do, do.

So the one friend that was left on the other side of the doors, she had to get all of our bags and she couldn't like wheel obviously like 12 or 13 suitcases at once. And she couldn't walk them out to us because if she walked through the door, the security was going to yell at her. The security was watching us like scream at the door through each other. And they were like, can these bitches please shut up?

So my friend is taking the suitcases off the carousel and she's pushing them through the door. So like letting the suitcases just like roll through the doors that like you can't come back in and the security is watching this happen. And we were like, what? We're like, we're not walking through. She's not walking through. And like, they couldn't really say anything, but they were like, we were on their last nerve. So after like an hour of pushing these bags through, like it was literally a game. She had to like slide them through the door and she finally got through and

Our one other friend didn't go to Ibiza. She was going straight to Italy.

So she got there like two hours prior to us landing there and we were like, okay, you go. We booked this house on like booking.com. We were like, you go, you check out this villa that we rented and like check in. We've been texting the owner. Like he has the keys, like go meet him. It was my friend Sophia and she gets to this villa that we had supposedly booked. And she's like, guys, I'm at the address. Like I've asked everyone in town, like this is the correct address. She's like, I'm literally just like out of field. She was like, there's no house here. It doesn't exist.

And we were like, okay, like, that's weird. Like, the owner must have said the wrong address or, like, I don't know. There must be, like, different directions to get there. Because in Positano, everything is, like, stairs and hills. And we were like, maybe there's, like, a little pathway you haven't taken yet. So now we're texting the owner of this villa that doesn't exist. And we're like, hey, like, we're having a little trouble finding it. Like, can you give us some feedback, directions? Like, does this happen when people stay here? Yeah.

ghost mode literally nothing and the owner had been like texting us back and forth for a while and then the day that we are supposed to arrive to this villa nothing not one word ghost mode so we're like oh like this is just like a little weird like what's happening and you know like we we were playing with the idea of like imagine this like villa didn't exist like imagine and lo and behold we're in the airport for like

two more hours my friend who's in Positano is asking everyone around there she was like have you seen this house like where is this what is this what's this address and everyone's like no

that's fake that doesn't exist so now we're realizing hungover in the airport in Naples coming from Ibiza 12 girls we're realizing that we're stranded in Italy because we don't have a place to stay and the other problem would be like oh okay we'll just like go stay somewhere else there's a million hotels like just go pick somewhere else to stay we were calling every possible hotel in Positano any like Airbnb any villa we're trying to look everything was booked

So now we're like, great, what are we going to do? And the other problem was it's not like we needed one hotel room, right? We needed, there was 13 of us. So I don't know how many hotel rooms that is, but like four or five hotel rooms. So finally we get on the call with this one hotel and we were like, anything, like we were like, this is our situation. Like, please, do you have anything? They were like, we have like three rooms and we can like try and fit you in for a night.

So we are like, perfect. Let's go. We get in the taxis. We're all just like dumb at this point. We're like, what's happening? So we're in these taxis. It's like an hour drive to Positano. We get there. We check into this hotel. They're looking at like the amount of girls that are showing up for the three rooms that we booked. And we're like, do you have any like

cods you could pull into the room. Like, we just need to, like, stay for the night. Like, we had a terrible travel day. Like, we don't have a place to stay. It doesn't exist. Of course, I'm also, like, posting everything about this on TikTok in, like, real time. I'm like, we're stranded. What do we do? And they're rolling these cots into the room. We're all, like, squished. And we stayed there, I think, for two nights. And

In the midst of this, I was just posting like funny videos being like, we're stirring it in Italy. Like our villa didn't exist. Like this is a funny start to Positano. And someone I had met at a Super Bowl party like that prior year, which is why I'm always like, you know what? You have to go out. You have to meet people. You have to network because someone I had met worked for Airbnb. They texted me and they were like, wait, Airbnb wants to come to the rescue here. Like they have a place you can stay. Like they'll pick you up. They'll take care of everything. Like you can stay there for the week with your friends.

And we were like, okay, like say less, like let's go. So all of a sudden we're like, how do we get to this place? They're like, oh, don't worry. Like we'll have drivers come pick you up with your suitcases and like take care of everything. And we were like, this is fancy. Okay. So now we're like not really knowing what to expect. We're just like any place we could stay, like we will go. And we pull up to this place in Positano, Florida.

It is the biggest villa there. It was a castle. Like, I... It was straight out of, like, White Lotus. Like, the things in there... There was, like, a fountain and a pool downstairs. There was, like, three different levels. Every bedroom looked like a castle. Like, I... The paintings in there... It was like a museum. I...

I cannot describe to you the faces of all of me and my friends walking into this place when like granted the other place we were staying at like everyone we were trying to ball on a budget because like this trip was expensive so like the most anyone wanted to pay a night for like a place was like maybe $50 and this place I don't even know how expensive it is like we couldn't even look because I was like I cannot believe we're staying here and like who

who even stays at this villa like must be the highest of royalty when they come to Positano but we walked into this like what is going on like we thought it was a good joke we were like there's no way we're staying here so Airbnb gave us this place to stay at they set us up with a chef they set us up with a boat day they set us up with drivers and we were like is this real life right now like what it was just like the biggest joke because everyone in Positano was like we're just

fresh out of college, like, where are you guys staying? We're like, oh, you know, like, that big villa over there, that castle on the hill. And we had the best time. Positano was the favorite place that I went last year with my friends. And it was just, like, the most magical week. But then because I was posting this, everyone was like, oh, this was just, like, a brand deal she had with Airbnb. And this was, like, a big scheme. And, like, I swear to God, it wasn't. It was actually just...

so surreal and crazy. And I just like still cannot believe that happened. So when I was with Braxton on the boat, we were looking at Positano and I was like, can you believe that we stayed there? And he was like, there's no way. And I have to say last year traveling, like we had a few travel mishaps, bags were missing at some points, but traveling has gone pretty smoothly on this trip. It's I, I really think it's because Braxton has

planned everything. And it's so funny traveling with Braxton or just like a guy in general, because now Braxton and I are obviously like very close and comfortable with each other. And I don't know, like traveling with him is so easy. But I just remember there's times when like traveling with a guy, you just get so stressed out. Like

Like what are you gonna do? Where are you going to the bathroom? Like how are things getting done? Like you are together like 24 7 when you're traveling with a guy And I remember I think it was actually like this time last year braxton took me to the hamptons with him for this festival and That was my first time traveling with him. I remember like

going for the airport. I was dressed to the nines. Like I had this like big fancy hat on. I like wore these like flowy pants. Now I'm like, I show up looking like a rat to the airport, but like I did my makeup and I really just wanted him to think like, oh my gosh, she's so great. She's so amazing.

Like this is how she always shows up to the airport. And then this year I'm traveling and I'm like, have a sleeping mask on, my hair's all tangled. But Braxton's pretty easy to travel with. Like he gets it. He lets me have my space. Like I'll say in the bathroom, I'm taking over the whole bathroom. And he knows that. Like, I feel like when you're traveling with a guy, they need to understand that like, I will be taking over both the sinks. I need one for hair, one for makeup, one for skincare. Like...

The bathroom is going to be a complete disaster and it's going to be mine. And he gets that. He lets me like get ready in there. I'm like, you have like two minutes to get ready and I get like two hours. But speaking of Braxton, let's have him come sit down. Let's recap this Europe trip for you guys.

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Well, hey Braxton, the Earl girls really missed you.

Thanks for having me on. I miss you guys. We're reporting live from Saint-Tropez. We just got back from a little beach day, and today's our last day of the trip, which is disgusting. It's crazy. It went by so fast. It went by so fast. It did feel long at times, but it went by fast. Thinking about Cannes, I feel like that felt like a year ago. That was way too long ago. Yeah.

That was way too long ago. And that was the longest part of the trip. It was. I wish we were staying in Saint-Tropez longer. This is like honestly, it's a treat. If we would have known, I think we would have skipped Capri and come here. I would have done that. I would have too. If we would have known. It's so beautiful here. But look, Capri was great.

we're not shitting on capri capri if you're listening you were amazing they just had a lot of fucking stairs a lot of stairs it did it monsoon that day at the end so we lost the day and then it's just so nice here i've never seen like a defined calf muscle on my leg ever like for me it's just like that muscle doesn't grow and we were laying in bed and i was like my calves look like swole what's the word swole let's get into this how is traveling with me

It's actually not bad. You're actually very well organized. Why do you have to say actually? It's actually not that bad because I took a sigh, but I know the sigh sounded like it was bad news, but it wasn't. I was thinking, you're actually pretty solid to travel with. The only thing is you cannot get hot. You cannot be tired. No, or hungry. Yeah.

Hot, tired, and hungry. That's the recipe for disaster. If I get hot, I don't know if girls also get this way, but I feel like I'm having a hot flash just all the time. If I get hot, it's game over. If I'm hungry and I'm hot and I'm tired. And you're tired. See, I would take hunger. That's scary. I would take hunger.

Like that's the least out of the three. No. I think it's hot is number one. You're wrong. Tired and hungry. No, it's hungry. You just don't realize in all those times that I probably am also hungry. That's actually the underlying cause. Okay. But besides me being like a bitch sometimes, I'm pretty great to travel with. You are good to travel with. You have your stuff. You always have your handy dandy like sprays and hand sanitizers that you pull out every stop. You have the sleeping mask.

Is this all I bring to the trip is my things? I mean, I carry the bags. I typically have the boarding passes. And yeah, but that's fine. Like that's your role. But I got like my Mary Poppins bag where on the airplane I'm like, don't worry. I have my Caudalie face spray and I have my eye masks and like I make it more enjoyable. And I bring the personality and the fun. Look.

At times, yes, you do bring the personality. I do. Or if, well, that's the other thing, and it has nothing to do with us. It's just sort of rolled the dice like that guy on our plane who didn't smell good. Okay, what's with people in Europe not wearing deodorant? Yeah. Is that bad to say? Because it's true. Because they're definitely not. Because we were getting on a flight. That was bad. That flight for you, you were... We sat next to this guy that smelled like...

I don't know how to describe what he smelled like. Well, he walked by because we had to put our bags up. He walked by and I was like... And then we were like, wait, there's no way. And then he had to get up again and he had to reach above the bins. He was reaching above me. His armpit stench was coming towards me. I was like, I've never smelled someone so bad in my life. And it's kind of common here, I feel. You were hot, hungry, tired.

and and sitting next to a stinker i doubt that was a miserable fight for you you literally said don't look at me don't touch me put your face mask on before that's the thing though is i've learned to like warn him because i'm a good girlfriend i'm like it's going downhill like i'm just like you might not like we're entering territory right now where i'm getting a little hungry i always know when the tone of her voice when she starts a sentence yeah i just want you to know save it we're good

You got it. I just want you to let you know, stay 15 feet away from me right now. Don't look in my direction. Don't talk to me. I'll talk to myself.

but we've had a really really great trip and i guess maybe we should like recap starting in can so that like feels like three years ago what was it it was a little over two weeks i also kept calling this a three-week trip to europe and i realized today you did i let you run with that i didn't know how to burst your bubble i'm posting i'm like travel with us to europe for three weeks well that was like two weeks after you put that first videos when i saw it and then i was like i

I don't know. You couldn't break my heart? I couldn't break your heart. It was already out. No, I went on the calendar today and I was like, wait, one Sunday? I think it's because I counted like three Sundays that I was like, oh, three weeks. Numbers are hard.

That was tough. Anyhow, Cannes was, so that was like a work part of the trip, right? It's like panels, it was meeting, it was networking. So I'm not thinking that like it was going to be a party and we were going to Venice straight from Capri, which was for your friend's wedding. Yes. Which was like parties all night long. Venice straight from Cannes.

Yeah, whatever. It's one of those three-week trip things. They understand what I'm saying. But I thought that we would be fresh and ready to go when we were in Venice. We pulled up to Venice and I was like, I feel like I just got off a 10-day bender. You lost that Thursday. That Thursday that we were in Cannes with nothing to do, you lost the whole day. I don't think you guys understand. We were at these work dinners and

you're thinking work dinner like okay i'm gonna be professional i'm gonna like talk to everyone and not even like maybe i'll have a glass of wine but like not even like i'm here to like present my best self and they're like let's get fucked up they're ordering like shots rounds of wine i had like dirty martinis aperol spritz well a lot of them like this is like they're like conference right like this is like they're like vacation like they're away from home

away from, I guess, the wife, kids, husband. It was my type of networking. I was like, listen, if there's a time to put me in front of a CEO, it's with a drink and a tequila shot in my hand because I will, I will have a fun time. Yeah. Well, it's like that first night,

it started out a little like stuffy, right? Like the dinner. Everybody was kind of to themselves. Everybody was nice, cordial. But like you could tell, you know, people were trying to feel it out. No, we were at a dinner with like 10 other people and we're like, oh damn, is this going to be fun or whatever? Just like, what are the vibes of this? And by the end... And fast forward. We were shaking ass on the table and... We... No, you...

you don't bring me into that one they handed out like roses at this restaurant and i was just like having the time of my life dancing and the owner of this restaurant comes into the little room we were in and i have a rose and i'm smacking him in the face with this rose do you remember that yeah that was and then i woke up and i was like i had the worst carries right now that's when i posted a tiktok i posted this tiktok i woke up with a my

tank top which i was like my favorite white tank top from brandy melville was like so good it's just like that was like my go-to white tank top and like i feel like if you're a girl you'll get it like that was the one just always fit the best it was like comfy it was great and i woke up with orange you're really sad about this all over it and i was like wait what the fuck happened last night and it's because of these damn work dinners and blame the work dinner i'm a good drunk though

Yeah. I'm a good time. Like, I'm never like you have to like take care of me. Besides if I want you to carry me. Yeah. I've had to take care of you a couple times. But you are a good... But not like... Yeah, but by definition, you're a very good drunk. Yeah. Like, you're a fun drunk. Yeah, yeah. You're not like...

oh shit she's drinking yeah yeah i'm always a good time like another thing i do that i think scares braxton a little bit is when i drink i like to just like get naked i don't know why it's always been my thing and like we were in the can running i was running through that was like your thing hotel i don't know floor every night in my heels and just naked once we got off the elevator you'd take your heels off and then you'd either pull it up and pull it down and start running

I'm a free bird. Let me fly. And the funny thing is, like, you didn't have the room key. So when you ran and got to the door, you just had to stand there. It's so funny because I have videos, even from, like, freshman year of college, Hannah has videos of me running through the dorms the same exact way. I would get off the elevator, strip down, and run. Like, there's just something about...

Like, it's so freeing. It's liberating. Being naked when you're drunk. Anywho. So the way that we got to this point was we started at the work dinner. Things got a little crazy. We're smacking the owner of the restaurant in the face with the roses. And then I was like, let's be responsible.

let's go to bed. So there was after parties and we politely declined because I knew that we had like meetings the next day. So I was like, let's go to bed. We had a good night. Like let's chug some waters and let's get out of here. At this point, like I was like coherent to the point where I was like, we're going to bed. This is going to be fine.

Then we... How'd that work out? Well, we got to our hotel and our hotel was like one of the main hotels on the strip in Cannes. It's like, I don't know, it's like hotel, hotel, all these parties, all these...

networking things, activations, brand activations on the beach. And we're right across from the beach. And I guess we had like one of the like popular bars in our hotel, which I did not know. And we get out of our Uber and I hear music and I was like, well, we walk into the lobby and we're like eight steps from the elevator. And she looks at me, I look at her and we're like,

One drink. Fine. Yeah. Because I was like a kid in a candy store. I was like, look at this. But it was also like, it was so packed that we thought it was like some event. Yeah. We're like, let's just, let's go check it out. I said, what's the problem if we go in for one drink and then we go upstairs to go to bed? What's the worst that could happen? What's the worst that could happen? It got very dark. It got very dark very quickly because we...

One, we went in to this place. We both got like pulled apart in a matter of minutes. Someone we know ordered. Actually, we didn't know them. No, we didn't know them. They said, we're going to buy you a drink. What do you want? And they were like, rosé. They kind of answered for us. And we're like, yeah. And then lo and behold. They ordered a bottle. Two minutes later, big bottle of rosé. And it was just two other people. So we like not felt obligated because they're a good time. But we felt obligated not to like take a drink and run. Yeah. Yeah.

And then we got pulled apart and then all the wheels came off. While Braxton's getting this bottle of rosé for us, I'm still in networking work mode and I meet these girls and they were like, hey, we're here. We're on an internship. The one hands me a business card and I was like, well, this is professional. I didn't have a business card when I was in high school. I mean college. She hands me a business card and all of a sudden, what happened?

what was I thinking? I didn't have a job to interview her for, but I start interviewing or trying to interview this girl at the bar. I'm like, can I rely on you? I'm like, are you accountable? And Braxton comes over during this conversation. I just hear, I just hear she's, she's right behind me at this point. All I hear is,

are you accountable? What the hell is she talking about? And who is she talking about it too? So I turn around and there's these three girls and you know, your hands like on her shoulder, you keep hitting her. She's like, what? You're like, can I count on you?

Bitch, tell me please. And now I'm laughing like this has my full attention. So I completely turn around and watch this show that's going on. And the other girls in the back, they're like, oh, my God, she's so drunk. I love it. Yeah. So then I had to wiggle my way out of that one because I was in no position to be hiring someone for a position that doesn't exist. So then I make my way somewhere else.

This guy comes up to me. He was like, oh, like I work with like Paris Hilton or something, but I don't have no idea what he was saying to me. And he hands me like a

of Paris Hilton stickers. It's like, that's hot, slimming, like slay, whatever. And then we ended up seeing Paris Hilton two nights later and I was talking to her and I was like telling her, I was like, oh, this guy was like handing me your stickers. Like, do you know him? Like, what are you talking? And she was like, I literally have no idea what you're talking about. So I have no idea where these Paris Hilton stickers came from, but that was another lore next to me when I woke up covered in...

in my sandwich i was like okay so then i wander off to another table and some guy's like hi oh my god like my daughter loves you like it's so nice to meet you and i always like try to have conversation with people when i i mean at this point i shouldn't have a conversation with anyone i needed to go to bed but i'm having a conversation with him and i was like oh how old is she like where are you guys from and he she was he was what yeah

brain fart he was like oh she's in middle school and i was like and he was like she's having a really tough time in middle school like could you please make a video for her saying hi like i just she's having a hard time and like whatever and i so i had a hard time in middle school which like this is just something that like i don't know i will never get over i was severely bullied in middle school and it was really rough for me and i almost transferred so like when he said this to me and i'm drunk and then you know you get like emotional when you're drunk i was like oh my

God, of course. Of course. So I was like, let me make a video for her. Oh, she made a video. I had a speech for this girl. I don't know what I was saying. So first off, I'm like...

i'm like hey it's alex like so nice to meet you whatever then i'm talking and i get like close and i'm like i also had a really hard time in middle school like i think you just need to be like i'm the video it was sweet though like the message was very the message was sweet the intent was there yes but this girl got a video of my nostrils because i'm this close to the camera literally like i'm so sorry like in the bar like probably i don't know slurring my words

And I sent her a nice message about just being a good person and getting through middle school. And that, when I remembered that the next morning, I was like, I'm so embarrassed. And then I'm pretty sure that video ended up on TikTok. It did end up. Which I can't...

You couldn't watch it. I could not bring myself to watch it because I said, this is not happening. But then after that, I think Braxton was like, Alex, like we need to go. Yeah, no. At that point, it was like, it's time to run interference. So we went to bed and then we ordered room service and we got this like the room service at this hotel. That chicken club. No, so good. So good. It was that.

And then what else did we get? Roxanne's never looked at me the way he's looked at this chicken club. She got so jealous. It's funny you say that again because I thought you forgot about that. No, like this chicken club would come and he'd be like, wow, like look at this. And I was like...

Aren't you supposed to be saying that to me? I do say it to you. And I'm eating this chicken club, but just like laying in bed. So it's just like going all over me. That's how I ran ruined my brand new Melville tank and can ended up being a lot more fun than I expected it to be. But by the time we got to Venice, which his friends getting married in Venice, which was just gorgeous.

It's gorgeous. The coolest party ever. I mean, first of all, I've never been to Venice, so I knew it was going to be like fancy and cool and whatever. But like to get there, you have to take a boat because there's no cars there. It's like this. I guess the mass of Venice is like a big island, but it's like 174 little islands. When we pulled up, I was like, wait a damn minute. I'm confused. Did they build this in the middle of the water? Because...

It was just like, I was like, there's no way they dug tunnels through this like whole island, but it's because it's a bunch of little islands, but they're like so close. It's like one's right there and one's right here. And then little bridges, it's just water. And there's no, there's zero cars. Like that's the coolest thing. Like you do not hear, take a little water taxi boat everywhere. The gondola, some places take a water taxi. If you got to go far, it's so cool. It's actually, if you've never been to Venice and you're able to go, absolutely recommend. It was really, really cool. Yeah.

It's like just a different experience. I've never seen... Nothing. Nothing's like that. I was shocked. This is going to sound kind of bad. I don't really care about the history of places a lot of times. But when I got there, I was like, I need the history books out right now. How did this come to be? Because it was so magical. Like, I don't know. I felt like I was in like adult Disneyland. No, it was cool. It's like you can't describe it. And we are not like museum people at all.

At all. Like we're not like, let's go check it. But this place we started researching immediately because we had to know. That makes us sound bad. We're not museum people. No, it's not a bad thing. We like to know things. I do like to know things. And I like to see, I like to see what I need to see. But like, we're just not museum people. No, not really. And that's okay. But that was cool. There's a time and a place. Yes. And that was one of the most historic places, I think, in the world. But like, I've definitely ever been.

And it's supposed to be underwater in like 20 or 30 years, which do you think that will happen? I'm no meteorologist or whatever else that would be, but... Meteorologist? I hope not. Isn't that like the sky? Well, they tell the weather. Oh, yeah. The way the sky. I have no further comments on this.

I hope it's not underwater. But anyways, the only Venice I had ever been to is in Vegas. And I was like, wow, like this is like really, this really outdoes the Vegas one. And we got there and we had a few hours. We're going off of like, I think when we traveled to Venice, we were going off of like three hours of sleep.

Which was horrible. Yeah, Venice was... It was a horrible travel day. And that's when we were next to the stinker. Yeah, we just didn't get to bed early. So we get there. We have like two hours. And then we're getting ready for this wedding. And both the nights of this wedding were just like so beautiful. The one was a masquerade ball. Like...

I have never been to anything so extravagant in my life. We took a little boat there, right? So the wedding party had it set up so that like all the hotels, like it just had like these little water taxis that would come get you and take you to the parties. We go to this- Which is so cool because everybody gets to go there together. Yeah. Like it's like party buses, but on the water taxis. So we get there. The huge brick building event venue space, like it looked like a castle, but just like

I don't know how to describe it. I'm just going to have to insert the pictures. It was crazy. So we get there and I immediately like turned to Braxton. I was like, oh shit. Like this is like about to be the best night of my entire life. And we go in. There's these floating girls like floating through the sky in masks. There was this peacock lady like dancing on this archway. They're handing you drinks when you get in. There was a picture frame with girls in it. Then we went inside to this ballroom.

which was even prettier somehow. It was like Harry Potter, but like elegant. It was so cool. And the floor was like checkered. So we had an amazing dinner in there until like 11 p.m. They did some speeches. It was really nice.

Then they're like, okay, next room. And I was like, what the fuck is going on right now? Yeah, so from outside to like the ballroom, like you walk inside and like you're just guided down these like hallways and there's like greenery around them and you just go to whatever like you can see. So like obviously there's black curtains everywhere and they just lead you to the ballroom.

So when you walked in, where the bathrooms were, that curtain there that was closed, that was where the party room was. But nobody knew that there was a party room or anything because it was just covered. And the...

And so you went to the ballroom and then they're like, all right, make your way back out like towards outside. And then it basically like they switched the configuration where it led you into the party room. But the craziest part I actually forgot about how they told you that they were switching the place was it just was like the music would stop. It was like over the loudspeaker, like a woman on a microphone, like, OK, please make your way to the ballroom. Please make your way to the party room.

It was like mysterious. I was like, are we like in like a crazy like White Lotus movie right now? I was like, this is crazy. Like the voices of gods are like, okay, now go into this room. And they had Florence performing. They had Florence. Then Martin Garrix. Martin Garrix. What? It turned into a club beyond me. And now it's... Yeah, so it was Florence. And then they didn't... So the thing about this wedding was it was very like...

secretive in the way of you didn't know what was going on. So as long and obviously like when you get there people start talking but nobody really knew what was about to happen or like the timing of anything. So after Florence went on and she went on until about probably 1, 1.30. But the thing was is that this invitation this night for the masquerade ball said like

8 p.m. to 8 a.m. Like sunrise, yeah. So I was like, something else has got to be happening here. But they didn't announce that, like, for instance, Martin Garrix was going to come on. So once she ended, you know, like an older crowd or whoever was tired, you know, music was playing, but everybody kind of started to file out. And then all of a sudden, bomb drops, Martin Garrix is on. And it turns into like...

So you... The graphics behind the stage? Yes. I was like, we're literally in this brick building in the middle of Venice and they have these squares with ballerina dancers in them with lights. It turned into a club. I was like, how did that just happen? So he finishes...

It's what? 3.30ish? Yeah, this was when Big Al was starting to lose it a little bit. Pasta comes out, cheese balls come out. No, these fried cheese balls were like... Imagine like a big cube, almost like... I wouldn't know because I went and chased a few for her. Like two inches each side, like a huge cube. And I was like, what is this? Whatever.

melted cheese. It was like, not even like a mozzarella stick where it's like hard. It was like gooey and like, oh my God. So Braxton gives me like a bowl of pasta and he gives me like six of these cheese balls and he was like, hold on, I'm going to the bathroom. I'll be right back. He comes back. I'm laying in my gown on this couch at the party with like all the cheese ball dust around my face and I was like, it's all gone. I ate all the food and I'm so sorry. I got to try one, but...

Those cheese balls were really good. That was disappointing. So then you're going to hand me loads of cheese in the middle of a party and loads of pasta after we've been going out for however many hours at this point. I was like, Big Al was starting to be like, what?

Wonky wonky. Should we go to bed? It was about time to run interference. Let's put it that way. But then. But then. The smaller. No, no, no. We went. Oh, we went outside. We went outside. Because I was like, I need a break. Like, I need some fresh air. I also weirdly felt like I was about to have like an ovarian cyst like pop.

I don't know. Just girly things. And then we were outside and the lady comes over the speaker again because we were like, Martin Garrix is off. Like maybe now it's just like DJ on the speaker vibes, whatever. They were like, please make your way into the Disco Inferno. Blondish is performing. And we were like, what? What?

So then we go and there's a smaller club. But it was so hidden. So we walk into where the party was. It was behind the other club. And we're like following the music because there's no signs. It's like dark in there. And you just have to like start following. All of a sudden you see like red, like low lights. And it just leads you into another. But a smaller. This was a club like.

Yeah, this was like a small club. The size of this room. And it was like one little bar, this, and now this. This was like for the actual party goers who could stay from like 4 to 8 a.m. Yeah. And...

I think we stayed until 5.30 because we left and then like we saw the sunrise actually on the water taxi back in Venice, which was so beautiful. But I was like, I need to put myself to bed or like dark bad things will happen. I'm kidding. I was actually fine. I was really tired at this point. Like the weekend can took me out. And then our last day in Venice, we just kind of like trolled around a little bit. Yeah, no, it was fun. We had a pool party.

We got a gondola ride. We did go on a gondola ride. Oh, and then we went to dinner. Oh. Okay, here's another... Capri caught strays. Here's another thing. This restaurant's about to catch a stray. Here's another thing. No, no. The food was so good, so immaculate, but it was like a seafood restaurant. And I'm thinking...

Seafood. Love seafood. Like, I'm not a picky eater. I'll eat anything. We ordered oysters, calamari. We got a seafood salad. We did this wrong because, first of all, the oysters came first.

It was tough. No, they were just big. No, they were big and scary. They were very big. There was like a little monster in that clam. They had wings. It was pretty frightening, those oysters. And we looked at them and we were like, well. And I said, let's not judge by the cover. Maybe they're good. Let's try. Let's try them. Let's see what their personality is like. We felt bad after that. So we started to like fling them into the...

Is that bad to say? We were sitting on the water. We felt so bad. And it's seafood, so we were just, like, bringing it back home. But, like...

i didn't want the waiter to see that like we couldn't eat any of this food because like i've never gagged at food in my life no it was and it's not because it's bad it's because it's fresh and we're used to american food where they fry everything and put it in oil and butter and salt zero seasoning it was it was no seasoning and i said this is too like healthy and clean for me i can't do this so we just took the little oysters on our fork and we

I did have a bite of like this little squid or something. And like, I genuinely like,

It almost came back up. So we ended up walking and finding pizza. So yeah, we left the restaurant early. On the street in Venice. We didn't get like, because we didn't order entrees at this point. But at this point, I was like, you know what? We need some greasy pizza because this is just like, I need some grease. So we got some pizza on the street and it was great. It was great. From Venice, we went to Capri. We had a few days in Capri. Beautiful. Beautiful. Beautiful, beautiful. Oh,

Go ahead. I knew it. I knew it. So we're leaving Venice now and we're heading to Capri. Yep.

And we get to the airport. I was like, okay, how do we get to Capri? Because we're in Naples and Capri's a little island. So I was like, what's next on the itinerary, Braxton? He was like, we're taking a ferry over. And I was like, oh, okay, perfect. So he was like, there's going to be someone to like greet us and take our bags, put them in a car, drive us to where the ferry is. And I was like, perfect, perfect. We get out of the security, get our bags, we meet this person. And Braxton was like,

So there's parts of this trip that I couldn't tell her because like for instance this, like the helicopter ride. Because she would have thought about it from the moment I told her, which was probably two weeks before Cannes, until that moment. And she wouldn't have been able to like enjoy it. Like she just would have built it up in her head as like big scary thing. She just would have been stressed out. I get a little scared about the helicopter. And I understand that. But logistically to get to Capri is kind of a nightmare. I think.

I figured that this would be like fun and it would like definitely save some time because we were only there like two and a half days. So we walk out and on the lady's shirt and this is like so you like not to... I have no idea what's going on. On the lady's shirt, she has my name. I'm like, okay, babe, like right there. So we walk up to her. They like talk for a minute. She's like, yeah, we're going to walk this way in a second. So I haven't told her yet, obviously. It says on her shirt like...

hoverfly helicopters and so she so she looks at me she smiles she's like okay this was easy and i'm like babe did you not see it she's like no i was like read her shirt and then i read her shirt and i see helicopter and i was like oh no way but then you were able to it was like fun it was no it was such a it was like in the moment i was like oh my god this is happening this is happening this is happening and

I really get so scared on helicopters. The whole helicopter ride over, it was only like 20 minutes. I was squeezing your hand. And every minute, I turned to him like this. Nothing would happen. She'd just look at me and go...

Cause I need to, I need to know that like, cause you can't really hear like talking in there. So like, I need to know that like he thinks everything is also going okay. Because in my mind we're going down at every possible second. I also made the mistake cause like all the gadgets are like right in front of you. Right. And so like, I'm like looking like trying to see how fast we're going. Like, I just want to like, no. So I'm like looking a little and she like grabs me and she's like,

Yeah, yeah. We're on this helicopter and all of a sudden he peers in the front like he's looking at the like little dashboard thing. And I was like, like, I would know if something. What are you not telling me right now? So because we took a helicopter in Vegas and no, no, no.

You cannot convince me that that was normal. You're so dramatic about this. This helicopter pilot almost flew into the side of this mountain. We were literally like this. And then as soon as we got like...

close to the mountain he went like zoop and up and over and i was like how about we just cruise on top of it the whole time because like i genuinely i turned to the pilot she turns to the pilot i go you have i took my headphones off so and i go are we gonna go over this mountain are we gonna go over this or around it i'm just wondering poor guy has done this flight a thousand times you never know i you know i know you're i know your theory so anywho but

So we get to Capri. We made it there. Beautiful. Gorgeous view. Like it was stunning. It was so pretty. Oh, you know what was the coolest part? Which like initially was my favorite part. So like the first night we spent there, we went out to like a little dinner. And it was very quiet in town. We did like a 20-minute walk. And the way that we went for dinner, this restaurant wasn't in the like main town. It was kind of on the other side. So we were passing like

where everyone lived and the houses. And it was just like so like authentic and cool. And you see people like shirtless or so like everyone was around the dinner tables having like pasta family dinner. And you could hear that there was like a football game on, which is soccer. Yeah.

But they call it football. Look at you. Yep. Look at you. And. That was the coolest part of Capri. So we're walking back and we're kind of like peering because like I'm a lurker. And I'm looking in everyone's windows at their houses. And you could see everyone like having family dinner, like watching the soccer game. I mean, the football game. And I was like, wow, like this is so cool. And all of a sudden, the whole entire island from like top to bottom screaming. Screams. At the top of their lungs. And I was like.

What's happening? Someone's here to kill us. And it was, I guess they scored in overtime. Yeah. Italy was down one, nothing, one nil. Uh, and they're in stoppage time in the literally the 97th. Is that what it's at? Like one nil. Yeah. Oh, cool. Um, and so, but they're in stoppage time. And so like, it was the, literally the last call it 20 seconds. They could score to tie this up to like advance in this tournament. Um,

And we're walking. And we're just talking like, oh, there's a soccer game. Like, we should see if we can watch it when we get back. We're like five minutes from the hotel. It was crazy. But you hear like all of a sudden it's one, two, and then the entire island erupts. And it was like howls. You could hear like everyone from their homes.

own households just like screaming with their families it was so cool i don't know how to describe it because in the moment it's just like oh you heard everyone cheering but like we literally heard like a whole island and this is like a tall mountain so it would like kind of echo down it was like we heard everyone just in their house like so excited and i was like that's so cool that was amazing it was the coolest thing like me and braxton were like that's the coolest thing we've ever experienced like oh i have the chills now too yeah no it was really sweet and cool and capri

We did a boat day because I ended the boat. Okay, I booked this boat day and the boat was actually there, which you would think... For Mother's Day. Why would the boat not be there? But there's a thing. Okay, this trip has gone so smoothly and so nicely because Mr. Braxton has booked it all. Anytime I book something...

it doesn't exist it's a lie it's a fluke like i booked us all a boat for mother's day like the one thing i had to do this whole mother's day trip i was like let's do a sunset cruise with our mothers like it'll be so sweet for them we can get some family photos an hour before we're about to get on this boat they call me and he goes engine doesn't work no other boats sorry and i was like oh my god

Your birthday trip. There was so many things on his birthday trip that I tried to plan and he had to end up like taking it over and planning it because it just like wasn't going through. There's so many examples of just like every time I book something, a reservation, the restaurant literally doesn't exist. It's just bad luck. Like you do it the right way. It just like something always happens. It's just like, I don't, yeah, I don't know. I guess I had bad luck with that stuff. But this trip has been so great. Which means you have to plan everything. Deal. Done. Which I enjoy. I was,

I'm so diligent about this boat. I had my receipts printed out in my hand to go to this place. She did have a receipt printed. I was so, because they said, do you have the receipt? I had a binder. I was so surprised there. Because I was like, you know what? We're going to this boat and I'm going to make sure I have my reservation number right here. I checked the dates 10 times. I was like, we got a boat booked. And we went and it existed. You did a great job. You planned a great day. It was amazing. And we spent maybe 30 minutes on the boat. An hour. An hour.

We were supposed to take a boat around all day and then like go to the beach club for like lunch in a little bit. And we ended up staying at this beach club all day. We closed it down. It was so much fun. We had a blast. This beach club actually... Last year, I went with my friends. I had food poisoning that day, so I didn't really get to enjoy it. I was kind of like...

miserable in the corner the whole time and this time it was amazing the sun was out we jumped off these rocks with this family that was sitting next to us they were like so cool and nice and they were like hey like you gotta like go cliff jumping with us and I was like I really don't want to and they were like well you have to and I was like okay fine and it was like it was so fun like they were such a cute family

It was wholesome. Yeah. It was very wholesome. It was like the mom, the aunts, the cousins, everyone. And so we went with them and we became a part of their family for a little bit. And then all of a sudden, I think we took some limoncello shots with everyone on the beach. Yeah. That happened.

But we had a blast. No, it was, oh, it was a great day. Bebe was being Bebe and trying to be, this was, no, this was the funniest part. We got kicked out of this beach club basically because it was now like, I think 5 or 6 p.m. And they were like, the last boat is leaving to get out of here. Like you guys, like all the umbrellas are closed. Like we're not serving anything. Like you must leave. And we were like, oh, okay. Like, let's get up to leave. Like whatever. I'm wobbling because I've had a 45 Aperol spritz and I'm like, whoa, whoa.

Like, let's leave. We're partying with all of these people. They were so much fun. And some lady's hat flew off her head and like went in the water. And we were on like a dock at this point ready to go on this boat to leave the beach club. And this lady's hat flies in the water. So I look at Braxton. I was like, go get that hat for her. He's already stripped down. Hats off, shoes off.

tops off he's he's ready he and before i by the time i say braxton he's already swan diving into the ocean at this point and he gets in there i'm like oh this is so great and then this is my favorite part of like honestly the entire trip was this part when braxton got a little hurt

Because... Did not get hurt. It just... A little bit. It didn't go as planned. I want to, like, set the scene of this. So Braxton is coming back. He tosses the hat to the woman, right? Heroic, by the way. All the women are, like, cheering. They're, like, touching and grabbing on him. I was like, well, hey, now. Wait a damn minute. Guys, this is my moment. So Braxton's feeling like the king of the world because he's swan dove in for this woman's hat. And...

He is getting back onto this dock. So I said it's like a skinny metal little dock, right? And the way that it was, it was like right at the edge of the ocean. So you have the waves crashing in and crashing out. And imagine when you're trying to like... Because there was no stairs or ladder. And it was deep. I couldn't because we were like walking. It was like high above your head. So I couldn't touch. I couldn't jump. It was two things. I either...

grabbed on it and tried to pull myself up or i would have had to swim to the shore and then walk up but he wanted to look like a strong which obviously no he said there's only one i got this woman's hat now let me look strong and buff like i am so imagine like at the side of a pool right when there's no stairs you have to like put both of your hands on the sides of the pool like push yourself up and it's like never really a cute look but at this point you have the waves like going against you kind of so it's like you're kind of being pulled in and out so braxton's

coming up you're a boy yeah right so he he puts his hands up and the second that he goes to like push off and take flight and hoist himself onto this little metal walkway

The wave goes out, so the current rips him under. He completely drops down, and his body was like a little sardine fish smacked against this metal thing, and it was so... I'm saying it didn't... Let's be honest. It didn't look good. It did not look good. You were definitely a little embarrassed. Absolutely. You flung a dead fish, like, smock! Like...

But I wasted no time in trying again because I was like, I can't swim to the shore right now. No, but he got up. I'm going to ruin everything I've ever done. I thought I was like, for a second, it really scared me because it was a big bang. And I was like, did Braxton break like a rib or something? And he gets back up and he was a little scraped up. He had some red marks here. That was your favorite part. But I was...

laughing. Like he... She actually did love nothing more than that. No, like seeing Braxton just like... Because it was definitely like an embarrassing moment. She didn't ask if I was okay. No, because I saw... She didn't ask if I needed anything. Maybe because I saw...

Maybe because I saw. But like, come on. I always embarrass myself. And the one time he does something like it was so funny that I was like, oh, my God. Like, imagine him just like, like hanging out of the water. I don't think we need to run through it again. I don't think I wish I had a video. I think they get the picture. But you did great, sweetie. Thank you so much. Love you, too. We are now here for another wedding, which...

The first day there was like a little white party for it. And then there was yesterday we did like a beach day party for it. And that was so much fun. And then today's the actual wedding. So right after we're done recording this, we're going to get dressed for the wedding. But this wedding has been so much fun. Like there's a lot of like little kids at this wedding or like the events that we've been going to. And it's like, it's so sweet. Like,

Granted, I came as a plus one to Braxton because it's Braxton's friend getting married. But like this family is so nice. Like I've become friends with all of them, I think. Yeah, no, it's been such a good group. And it's a big group too. It is. And it's really fun. And the sisters were giving wedding speeches and I was bawling my eyes out. Like literally sitting in the corner and I had to take Braxton. Mind you, she's never met these sisters. I know.

Which is probably the sweetest part of the whole thing. It was the white cocktail party, the speeches. And we'd got there like pretty recently. So like, you know, like we're like fresh there, right? Like we've seen a few people, whatever speeches start. And all of a sudden I look over and she's just dreaming. I was crying because speeches make me so, I love a good speech. Like I love speeches and they make me so emotional. I actually said a good speech to you on this show. You had a great toast.

Yeah. I was not expecting that. I said, let's toast. And you said, I got this one. We were in Cabri and I pulled out the toast of my life. It was. I wish we had it to where we could hear it again. I don't know. It was so sweet. I was jumping all over the place with it. But... It didn't flow, but I said a lot of nice things. You said a lot of nice things. Yes. And it felt really good. And for me, like, being emotional...

I'm into it now. I'm emotional now. She's leaned in, guys. I've leaned in. She's leaned in. This trip has been so amazing. And thanks, Braxton, for booking it all. You're welcome. No, it has been incredible. And it's gone. Every part has gone crazy.

better than I think we expected it to. Yeah. And like, we're just like such great travel partners, I would say. We are. Like we like, we both get things done. We're good at being on time to the airport, flowing through things like logistics. Like if I don't have, if I don't know something, you know it. And if you don't know it, I know it. Like I feel very good at like balancing each other. I feel like that's a huge test in a relationship, like travel together, like go to the airport together.

yeah because there's there that can be 45 times with 10 suitcases through europe for three weeks that's actually two weeks that i lied about to everyone but even just like i feel like we've been like pretend living together on this trip you just like haven't gotten rid of me no and it's been easy it's been fun it's been so easy i've loved it besides when i get hungry it was hungry hot and tired well we should probably get ready for this wedding now yeah with

time is it? We can't be late. It's time to get ready. No, we won't be late because I actually have been so good. I need to like write everything down. So I had a little notepad today where I was like, okay, we have this amount of time for the beach, this amount of time to set up the cameras for the podcast, this amount of time to podcast. Then it's going to take me this long to get ready. I allotted like hair, makeup, outfit, like filming everything in there. You're very productive when you like

write things down like that no i am like you stay on schedule with my lists yeah so now sticking to the list we're gonna jump into what would alex do we're gonna change and get ready right now thanks braxton for coming on the earl girls missed you and yeah let's do some what would alex do

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Now it's time for what would Alex do where you guys write in on the hot mess Instagram hot mess TikTok. There's a little section that says what would Alex do you guys write in your questions or your stories and I give you my advice on what Alex would do. Maybe it's not the best advice, but it's just what I would do. Hey Alex, my friend is dating a known player. Someone told me that he cheated on her by cheating.

Another girl, but the source told me that this has previously been a little unreliable. Should I tell her even though it's alleged or should I stay out of her business? Tell her. Always tell her. That's my personal opinion though, but I just...

Like I cannot imagine if I was dating a guy say and we broke up or something came out that he cheated on me and you my friend knew and didn't tell me like I literally would slice your head off like that's not okay. Like I always think you need to tell the friend and there's always situations where girls are like but I don't want to get involved or maybe I don't want to say anything but it's like.

wouldn't you want to know? Like, I would always say tell them. Hey Alex, I just re-listened to your anxiety episode. I've been struggling really bad but haven't wanted to take medication to interfere with my social life. Do you drink on these meds? If not, how do you balance medication and your social life? I'm 24 and I want to live my life but I'm not sure what to do. So I talked about this a little bit in the episode but I still drink, obviously, on the medication I'm taking. I take Lexapro for my anxiety.

If you don't know what we're talking about right now, go back. It was the last episode. I did a rerun of the anxiety episode, but I started taking Lexapro at 15 years old, like freshly 15. And that was something I was really scared about at the time because obviously like you're getting into high school, people are having some drinks and I didn't want that to be a major factor for me. And honestly, it really hasn't affected me, but everyone's different. So I'm not going to say like, hey, if you're on this medication, like you can definitely drink.

I would say try it out. Take it slow at first. Talk to your doctor. But it also depends. The medication you're on might affect you differently. But personally, I've been fine with it. And I would say like...

I know you're saying you don't want to affect your social life, but for me, the anxiety was like so crippling to the point that I couldn't have a social life. So it's like, at least if I couldn't even drink, like at least I could be with my friends because like I wasn't even able to like leave the house because my anxiety was so bad. So I feel like it depends, but I would say fix yourself and your mental health and then you can figure the rest out from there. Hey Alex, I'm thinking about reaching out to my ex-boyfriend's ex-girlfriend. Okay, wait.

Ex-boyfriends, ex-girlfriend. Okay. He and I broke up last week and I'm struggling to work through all the shit he put me through. I want someone to talk to who will get it. What would Alex do? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no. Maybe eventually, I feel like this is a thing where like sometimes like ex-girlfriends of the same guy like get together and they're like, holy shit, we were going through the same thing.

but I wouldn't like fresh out of the breakup be like, hey girl, because honestly she probably doesn't really like you. So if you need someone who will get it, maybe like talk to a therapist or talk to your friends. And I think if you make it known that like you went through a breakup or you post some like salty TikTok or like something shitty, I mean, that's what I would do. I'm always like, whatever, I'll expose them. I think maybe she could reach out to you and then you go about it that way. But I don't think like you reach out to her unless you're

like close with her and you know her and she's like somehow in your same friend group at school um

But I don't think I would like out of the blue like DM this girl and be like, hey, but maybe if you know her in like social settings and you guys are cool and you guys talk, but if you don't talk at all, like I think that may be a little alarming to reach out to her. So maybe like hire a therapist. Hi, Alex. I feel like me and my super close friend are growing apart and it's kind of awkward when we are together because we run out of things to say and kind of just sit in silence. I don't want to drop her because she is a good friend, but I feel like our friendship is ending. Help.

Okay, I kind of talked about this in...

one of the past episodes I did with Ashton where I had a friend that like we literally just like weren't keeping up with each other anymore and it like wasn't anyone's fault we just like weren't putting in the time to like reach out to each other and talk and like things started to drift and in my mind I was like oh my god she doesn't want to be close with me like she doesn't want to be my friend and in her mind she was like Alex doesn't want to be close with me Alex doesn't want to be my friend so we literally just like had a conversation but it feels like if you guys are like talking and hanging out and you don't really have anything to talk about like

Maybe you could be growing apart. And I'm going to give like two different scenarios here because I think there's times with like friends and stuff that you like grow apart. You change. You're like, I haven't had the same friends forever. Like I've had maybe two or three friends that are still from like high school. But a lot of the girls I was friends with, like we kind of grew apart because you change and like especially when

I'm assuming maybe you're younger in your teens or early 20s or even when you're older, like you change and different aspects of your life change. And it's like, okay, maybe you had a boyfriend or you move somewhere, you're going to college or like you have different interests and things or you got married and you have kids now. It's like there's so many different circumstances where like you may be just like changing as people. And like I think about that a lot with like friends I had from college because I feel like in college it's very like

okay, like, we're all gonna go out together, like, Sigma Chi is having a party, so, like, we're all gonna get ready and put on our crop tops and we're all gonna go to the party together, but, like, then there's the part where it's, like, after college, it's, like, maybe you guys have different interests in, like, actual things going on in life rather than, like, a frat party, so, like, maybe you're growing apart as people, but I think there's another part where

maybe things are just like getting awkward for some reason or another. And like, maybe she has like, maybe she's mad at you for something and she's not telling you. And there's like a weird little like shtick going on between you guys. And like, that's where I would say just like sit down and like talk about it. But I always think like sitting down, addressing the situation, talking about it is so much better than not because like,

then, if anything, you're just going to continue to grow apart. And at least if you talk to her, like, maybe you'll then have some clarification. Hey, Al, the guy I'm talking to asked me to make him a summer playlist and I have no idea what type of songs to put on it. Should I put what I actually listen to, like, Taylor Swift and Sabrina Carpenter or put, like, cool indie songs that will impress him? Why is this so stressful when guys ask about, like, music? I...

I remember specifically when I was talking to this guy that I had ended up dating him but in the beginning he was like oh like who do you like to listen to for music and I was like trying to think like so hard I was like okay well who's someone I can say like I feel like Frank Ocean it's always like a safe answer it's like everyone likes Frank Ocean so I was like oh my god like what do I say my friends were like Alex you should just say like something like

you like something that you like to listen to that's like niche that like just see what he says and i was like really trying to go for more of the like blanketed answer and i was like um megan the stallion

And he actually took it very well. But I was so scared in the moment because like in the beginning stage of talking to a guy, you're like, I don't want to scare them off. Like, what are they going to think? But like if he's asking you to make him a summer playlist, like he probably doesn't want to listen to Taylor Swift or Sabrina Carpenter. But like maybe he does because I've turned Braxton into a Sabrina Carpenter fan. He's walking around saying, please, please, please. I'm like, OK, Braxton. But yeah.

He wants you to make him a playlist. I feel like this is like a type of test. So I think don't put music that you don't like because then that defeats the whole purpose. I feel like the point of this is something that you guys can like listen to together. Like, I don't know if you guys are going to listen to like Taylor Swift songs about like a breakup and like be crying together. Like, I feel like that's not really the vibe, but like maybe play some like fun music that you like. If you like indie music, play indie music. But if you don't, don't.

But that is so stressful. I'm not going to lie. At least though, it's like a playlist and not like one song or one genre. Like you can make it a bunch of different things. But I feel like a summer playlist is like, I'm trying to think of like songs you would want to listen to with like the windows down, you're driving in the car together along the beach or you're like sitting on the beach together. I don't know though. Honestly, I would probably block him and run away after that question because that would just be way too much stress for me.

Okay, well that was all for this episode guys. I love you. Thanks for listening and now we are off to Montauk for the whole month We are going to have a summer house there with my girlfriends and my sister and I'm so excited to see them I miss them so so much like I could cry so I can't wait to get back home to them Well, not really home, but you know what I mean? Don't forget to follow like subscribe to this podcast and

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