I Was Mistaken For A Stripper
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I am extremely hungover today and hence why we are in the bathtub right now. We just got done with Miami Music Week. We had such a fun weekend. I cannot wait to sit here and tell you guys about it, but I mean, I am losing brain cells. My brain's not working. This was definitely by far the best ultra weekend I have ever had. We just went through the

Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Four nights straight of Miami Music Week. You guys have no idea. Last night, I was out for 12 hours straight, standing the whole entire time. Oh my gosh. Welcome back to another episode of Hot Mess with Alex Earl. ♪♪

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So it's currently Monday night right now at 10:30 p.m. Let me tell you about Ultra because some of you might be like, "What is Miami Music Week? What are you talking about?" So if you're comparing this to Coachella, right? A lot of people know what Coachella is. Not a lot of people might not know what Ultra is.

Coachella and ultra could not be more different This is not like everyone's getting dressed up really nice and it's not like a influencer fest Like people are coming here genuinely for the music. I mean we were partying in the mud in the rain like

everyone is there to have a good time and because this festival's in Miami, I started going three years ago. I kid you not, this was one of my main decisions in coming to U Miami was that I would be in the state and I would be like 10 minutes away when Ultra rolls around. This festival is like a bunch of naked people.

lasers, lights, fire, fireworks, and all of this is part of Miami Music Week. That's just when Miami's having a big weekend, a lot of people come in town to play, DJ, and it's

We went the first night to something called Afterlife and they have like super, super cool visuals. For the girls who like don't like this stuff, I'm gonna just explain it to you and tell you about the weekend that we had and the weekends that I've had in the past at Ultra because even looking back on my content from last year, it's so crazy to see that I have like

This online diary of what i've been doing with my life, which is why it's kind of cool posting online I'm able to just go back and i've looked at the transitions that i've posted Going to ultra for the past three years of college and I don't know It's just so funny to go back and look at like my first time getting ready for ultra Last year getting ready for ultra me and kristin do this transition every year and ultra has a bunch of different stages of

We really only stayed at the main stage this year just because it was a lot to get from one crowd to another. But there's a bunch of different stages. It goes like all day until midnight. One night it went until 1 a.m. actually this weekend. And it is just the most insane fun people. Like you're in a crowd and I know crowds stress people out a lot at festivals. And honestly, I am very, very claustrophobic. So I'm the first person to be like, I do not want to be...

standing in a crowd where my hair is going to get pulled out of my head and I'm going to feel really squashed but ultra doesn't feel like that at all it's very like loving and kind and no one is in your personal space everyone is respectful of each other blur peace love unity respect

oh my god you guys are gonna think that i'm actually crazy after this episode and you're never gonna listen to this show again the vibes of ultra are just so different than anything you've ever experienced before and i honestly want to start going to more like rave festivals this year's ultra was by far the best ultra experience that i have ever done and listen there's vip tables on the side

I got invited to go to them last year. I got invited to go to them this year. I got invited to go backstage even last year. And I was like, I want to be in the crowd. We entered through the VIP access entrance just because it's like a quicker way to get there. But we had a few drinks at the table. And then after we're at this table getting a little tipsy, I was like, we need to be down in the crowd. We barged our way all the way up to the front. And we do this every year. I feel like we go in the same spot, especially...

Like a lot of people that go to college at UMiami usually have this big huddle. I didn't really want to be with people from college this year, so we kind of just made our own little huddle with my friends and like the 10 of us just standing there dancing. The fire is so close and so strong. You literally feel like your eyebrows are flaking off your face and burning away. And I also, I upset some of the like EDM community on Twitter this weekend, which I

we'll get into in a minute. As I'm reflecting back on my old ultra content from last year, it's so crazy to see like mentally just where I'm at this year versus last year because last year was my senior year of college and you guys know I feel like the whole past year everyone's been like "Alex loves college so much, all she wants to do is go back, she can't stop talking about it" but like that was just such a highlight of my life and I don't think that's a bad thing but I do have to say

Leaving college is really hard like that transition no matter what you are No matter what you're doing is difficult and it's scary and confusing and i'm not gonna lie for the first like six months post-graduating I was like, what am I doing? Like this is so Depressing and i'm lost like i'm not really sure what I want to do with my life Like it's just so much easier I feel like when you're in school and you have a schedule and you know your responsibility is to go to class take your tests and

not fail out and then you also get to go out and have fun. So I don't know, like for a while, it's a really weird, awkward transition. But now I feel like I'm at a place where I'm content with not being in college anymore. Would you guys believe it? I'm actually happy and excited for my life and my career and where I can take things forward.

But it did take a minute to get to this place. And I feel like if anyone's going through that, or if you're listening to this right now and you're graduating this year, next year, like who I keep telling my little sister who's in college, I'm like, live it up.

live it up. And touching on the topic of post-graduation from college and feeling that sadness and anxiety after graduating, I feel like that just goes for any change in life, whether it's like a new job, a new relationship, any change is hard, but you just need to give it time because mentally where I'm at now is so different than where I was at a year ago, where I was at three months ago. And I feel like you really need to just

like let it process don't stress yourself out take the time let yourself heal let yourself adapt to the change because changes are scary but it doesn't have to be so i don't know little tidbit about if anyone's going through a change and is feeling a little lost i feel you so for ultra everyone goes like literally butt naked i'm not kidding like nipple stickers and a thong and a water backpack and that's what people wear

And I feel like in college, I'm going to show you guys right now some of the outfits I wore in college. Like here we are, nipple stickers just hanging out. I mean, I wore this one pink gem bikini two-piece with Kristen last year and then was so...

So embarrassed because we went on this like nice ass boat after we got invited on this party boat Actually braxton invited us because this is when I started talking to braxton last year But we're on this nice boat These people are literally in like dresses or like jeans and sneakers and i'm in this outfit right here this pink slutty gemstone outfit after being in the pit in the crowd for like six or seven hours straight and and Sweaty gross like sparkles running down my face. I mean, it's just like

It's a different scene. And my thing is I'm going to be walking in, in this VIP section. Once I get myself settled, we're going down to the crowd, but I'm like, can I still be naked? Because I don't want to be sweating and like hot and gross. And it's also fun to dress like that. Like being able to just freely be naked and not be judged is so amazing. Like maybe some of you are judging me, but like everyone at this festival is on the same wavelength. So I don't know, like I was loving it being naked. So this year I'm,

You know, I was like, I'm going to be more conservative. And then I wasn't really. My one outfit was actually like really, really see-through. But the other outfit I just stole from Ashton. My one outfit was like too naked. I don't know. I might wear it to Coachella. But just the outfits are so fun and getting dressed and getting there. And while I'm looking back at these photos and old photos of me, I realized there's a huge topic that we have never touched on before.

That we need to go over. Okay. Some of you guys might kill me for saying this. And some of you guys might be like, thank the Lord. It's about time. So remember last year.

when I kind of blew up on social media. I was well known for my makeup routine that I was doing, and I did this white eyeliner in my waterline, and everyone started doing it. Like, the white eyeliner pencils were selling out everywhere. Everyone was, like, getting on the wave. Some of you probably did it, too. And I thought it looked really good, okay? In the moment, like...

I don't know when I started wearing white eyeliner. I think it was in high school But I I don't know I think i've always been like insecure I've always felt like my eyes like weren't like big and doe eyes and this one girl that I just like admired in high school She had really big eyes and she would wear this white eyeliner and it would make her eyes look like so big and beautiful So I was like i'm gonna try this white eyeliner thing Like let me just see what's going on here and I did this for probably

six, oh my god, no longer. Probably like seven or eight years I wore this stark white eyeliner. Like I'm not talking like a nude, like there was like a clear white strip on my eyes. And then somehow over the past year, I started to see some comments on TikTok that were like,

Hey, like as much as everyone was jumping on this trend of wearing white in their waterline Some people were like, maybe you should try nude. So then Tarte had this like nude fake awake thing I was on a brand trip with them. I tried it It was less white and more like nude and I was like, oh I kind of like this better and now

I don't really do either. I am looking back on these photos with the white eyeliner. I feel like I looked kind of crazy. Like it kind of looked like costume makeup. Like when people are dressing up for a doll for Halloween. I don't know. I kind of am thinking that white eyeliner is out and I'm very sorry.

for anyone who followed me in that trend and listen if you still want to wear white eyeliner i'm going to compliment you on it i'm going to love it but for me i think it's an out 2024 i think the white eyeliner is out we're going to leave that one in 2023. i just looked to the side and realized i have a massive gigantic piece of hair sticking up right here

oh my god maybe this this one will be no video we're switching to audio only for this episode but on the topic of clothing i feel like i need to talk you through

Fashion of ultra this year and how I went about it because I tried not to be as naked as before Um, I did like less glitter on the face. It looked a little less ravey I would say but I think we still kept it hot and young and fresh and I have a story in a second that i'm going to tell you guys about something I wore one year and you guys are gonna die, but My sister ashton one thing about her is she's cool. Like, you know when girls are just cool like i'm

not one of those girls like ashton is just cool like i'm too like high strung and whatever she's just like chill laid back and like everything she does everything she wears everything she says like she's just cool and i want to be her but i hate going to events with her i mean i love going to events with her but it always stresses me out because even i'll have like a professional stylist come over drop me off this rack of clothes and my little sister will just come in with something she like thrifted and she looks so

so good and everyone's always like complimenting her outfits and i'm like ashton can you just like style me and find me these niche things but i don't know even the things she wears i'm like if i wore that it wouldn't look good she's just like really cool but the point i want to get to here is this story from two years ago my first ultra ever i was clearly having too much fun

And, you know, I wanted to keep the night going. It was midnight. The festival was over. I was hyped up by the music. Like, I don't know, when you just feel the music like coming through your body. I was just like, oh, my God, I'm loving this. Like, it gives me so much energy, that type of music. And especially the like, like some people think that's scary. I love it so much.

And, you know, we're leaving Ultra. All my friends are taking the Metro home back to campus. And I was like, I don't really want to go to bed. You know what? I'm going to go out. And of course, where did I end up? At the Strip Club 11 because I end up there every night in Miami. And...

I don't think you guys understand. I'm walking into line here, sparkles on my face. I'm going to show you the outfit right now so you can see what I'm talking about. This literal chain bikini from Amazon. Like it was completely see-through and that's all that I wore to the club. And I went with my one other friend. We're in line, we get in. To set the scene for you, Eleven is a strip club. So all of the girls, all the waitresses, all of the strippers, the dancers, all

all wear, you know, pretty like minimalistic clothing, similar to what you would wear to kind of like a Coachella. Like they're wearing like little chain bikinis and, you know, very tiny, minimalistic, sparkly, fun clothing. And that's what I was also wearing. So I go to the bar and this guy starts talking to me and I'm like, oh,

Free drink. I'm gonna entertain this. Even though it's like an old ugly man. But you girls know the vibe. When it's just like you just want to get the free drink and you want to leave. Especially at these clubs in Miami. Like these drinks are...

like $25. I'm not kidding you. $25 for a drink, sometimes more. And sometimes they're $20, which is like considered cheap. So it's just a lot, especially in college. I didn't have any money. I was like, you know what? This guy's going to get me a drink. So I'm talking to him and he's like, yeah, so like how much do you charge? And I was like, what? Like, I don't really understand what you're saying. And he's like, yeah. So like, how much do you charge? I'm like,

for the drink like however much they tell you for the drink and he's like how much for a dance and kind of gives me like a wink and that's when it hit me I was like holy shit this guy thinks that I am a stripper and I think he thinks I'm gonna take him to a private room right now and get him a dance and I was like that's when I realized I was like wait I fully look like a stripper in the club right now so I ended up walking away because I was like you know what I don't want to take this drink and then

feel like I have to owe this man something. So I just ran away into GA around the stripper pool. And now the second part of this story, which you know, if you know...

The hunt to get on a table at a club when you're not invited on one is like a full-blown mission. You and the girls are out there searching for the best place to be because, you know, you're on a table, there's guys, there's free drinks, and you want to get up there, you want to have fun, but it's like, how do you get invited up there? You can't like go up and ask and you want to be cool, but you also need to like seem like

interested. So it's like a full game. And I kind of miss this game because now I feel like I'm at a position where

Which is so nice that I can sometimes like get tables for me and my friends and I'm like the fact that we don't have to like Talk to some old creepy men right now to get on a table is actually like very nice But there is just like that chase of trying to get on the table. It's like a game So we're sitting in ga me and my friends are dancing I'm, pretty sure fisher was playing and i'm like, how are we gonna get on a table here? I'm looking around we're like what's the best way to approach where it's the cute guys all of a sudden

25 bottles of this expensive champagne. It was like, I think in the like gold, like magnum-y bottles, I don't know, are getting airlifted over to this table. You know, all the bottle girls, they have the signs, they have like the confetti and it's in the corner of this club. And I looked at my friend and I'm like,

we have to get on that table, I don't care what it takes. This is where Big Al kicks in. So we're dancing, you know, you're like twisting your hair and like trying to look cute. But mind you, it's like in my mind, I'm drunk and like think that I look really hot and cute right now. I do not. I've been in a sweaty crowd for like eight hours. I probably have extensions falling out of my hair. Mascara is most definitely down my face. Like I probably have dirt on my body. I probably reek. And I was like, I look great. Like I'm just gonna sit here and twirl my hair

And you know, after like 25 minutes of like light smiles, looking over like a little, like dancing like this. And you know what? We got invited on the table. They brought me and my friend in and they started giving us all this fancy champagne. And I was downing it all. I was like,

here we go, we made it. But it just like makes me think back because it's like, I forget that. It's like, that was just such, and obviously I have a boyfriend now, so it's a little different. I'm not going to go creep and lurk on men, but it's like,

getting to a table is actually like such a mission and I feel like it's not talked about enough because the girls will do anything to get on the table. Like even if you have to like use a friend or like, you know, you're going to get to the guy who's like, maybe not like the head guy, head honcho at the table, but you're like, hey, like whatever, like, oh my God, why are you like suddenly so interested in them because you want to be invited on this table? Um,

So I don't know. I just, I thought that was a funny story and that just really aids to like the naked and scariness of ultra. This episode is brought to you by Tinder. We all have a dream of how we'll meet that special someone, right? We think it's going to be this big romantic moment. I'm going to be walking down the side of the road. He's going to see me, think I'm the most beautiful girl he's ever seen, turn right back around, come sweep me off my feet. But that's never a

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I'm gonna take you guys through really quickly Thursday into Monday morning. The party don't stop, Miami Music Week. And there's just nothing like Miami. I'm pretty convinced that...

no one here like works it's actually insane because we were at the club last night which was sunday night until 6 00 a.m and the performance like the main djs come on at like 5 7 a.m so people stay until like the sun's fully up people are going to work but it's like that place that we were at was completely packed to the brim and i'm like

Where is like everyone? Like, what are they doing? Even my guy friend today was at this club called Space, which literally stays open 24 hours. And it was awesome.

fully jam-packed in there on a Monday of people just raving. And I love it so much, but like Miami, are we okay? What are we doing? So Friday night, this is actually a really funny story. My friend Carter, who lives in LA, was coming to visit for Ultra Weekend because I was just in LA and I'm a pretty good convincer. I'm like,

gonna have the best time ever you need to come to miami for ultra weekend he books his flight i'm like stay at braxton's place it'll be fine like let's go let's have a fun time so it's friday i'm like oh the first day of ultra i'm so excited carter texts me he's like hey um i'm getting back from the airport right now it's like oh my god so amazing do you need me to pick you up he's like no i have a ride um i'm in an ambulance

So I'm like, uh, hello? Are you okay? Like, what's going on? And mind you, this is like while we're about to leave in like two hours. He's getting wheeled out of the airport into an ambulance. So here's what happened. Before Carter was boarding his flight,

He was sleeping at the gate. It got delayed and someone from the airport like woke him up and said, you know what? You got to get on the flight. Like everyone else has boarded. Let's go. And you know, when you're sleeping awkwardly or weirdly and you're like footfalls asleep, he got up to run to the gate and his foot was asleep. So he fully rolled his ankle. He said, everyone turned around. He fell flat smack on the floor, had to be helped up. And then he had to be wheelchaired onto the plane. And I'm like,

If you had to be wheelchaired onto the plane, like, were you just, like, thinking that you were going to sleep and, like, wake up and it was going to be fine? He was like, yeah. And he was not fine. He was in a lot of pain when he woke up. So they wheeled him out to an ambulance, took him straight to the hospital. And I'm like, are you okay? Because as someone who, like, is visiting another city, if I was there in a hospital with no one I knew, like, I would be so stressed out. So I didn't want to leave and go to Ultra Festival without him because...

That's just not a vibe. I don't think that's a good friend. And I was like, okay, well, we'll wait for you. Or why don't we just stay in and watch a movie tonight? Like we have two more days of this. Like we don't need to go today. And he's like, no, I really want to go. And I was like, are you sure you really want to go? And he's like, yeah, no, I really want to go. I think they're going to give me crutches.

i was like i don't know exactly how crutches are gonna work at ultra but we can make it work we waited for him and the time he finally like got to my place showered got ready got food it was like 9 30 p.m there was a tropical thunderstorm had hit miami and like the lightning was blowing up our balcony it was so scary it was actually like rain where you just are outside for one second and like downpoured so they shut down the music festival friday night and we ended up going to this club in miami which

which is going to be my new favorite spot. It's called M2. It was really, really cool. So Friday was kind of like fun, but it wasn't really what we were expecting. Saturday, I had the best night of my entire life. Oh, it was so fun. Like the vibes, everyone was just amazing. Like nothing went wrong. And we got to Ultra, we had drinks, we went down to the crowd. We stayed there for like

four hours, five hours. And, you know, we skirted out quickly before the festival ends so we could like get back up into the VIP entrance and like skirt out the nice way. And again, we were not ready for the night to end. But this time I wasn't the only one on that vibe. Everyone else was also like, I want to go out and have a fun night. So we left by a boat from Ultra. Was feeling very bougie. This was Braxton's friend's boat. So we boat, we went to their house and then...

John Summitt was playing at live so we were like obviously we need to go to live and we went to live we had fun we were there until like 5 a.m and I knew because last year I did not make it to day three of ultra because I was so down bad after Saturday night um that was really scary my Saturday night of last year ultra Braxton and I partied until the sun came up I have to show you guys this video right now of us dancing in this kitchen and mind you this is like

only a few weeks into me hanging out with Braxton and we already were just like clicked like we were just attached at the hip I was just like he is my person and I don't know like our vibes were especially when you just meet and you just start to have like such a big crush on someone like we were dancing the entire night we went back to Braxton's house we turned on music just the two of us we danced like

until the sun came up and then obviously I did not make it to day three of ultra so I was determined this year I looked to my friends it was 5 a.m I was like we have to get out of here or we're not going to make it tomorrow and I was just like dead at this point like it was such a long day we go home we wake up for Sunday in my mind I thought that Saturday was our crazy night

I was so wrong because it actually ended up being Sunday night last night and again festival rave boom boom boom oh I have to tell you guys how I pissed off the EDM people on Twitter um so I posted something about excision which is a DJ dubstep like very like like if you look it up you can see what I mean

and I love dubstep, and I feel like that's a very hot take. All my friends are like, this is a lot and too scary. We just like more of a beat that we can bounce our head to, but I love feeling the rage from the music. I'm a headbanger, okay? And I posted about...

and it got posted on Twitter somewhere. The EDM fan base was like, get this bitch out of here. Like, what is she doing? She's going to ruin this, blah, blah, blah. And then John tweeted back. He had my back. Thank God. He was like, let her live. But yeah, so that's why I said that I pissed off people. But now I think it's fine. I really hope the rave community can let me in. Like, I know I'm kind of annoying sometimes, but I'm cool at

at the raves, I promise. After the festival Sunday, it ended at 10 p.m. because it's a Sunday night. There's like some type of restrictions on the town. We went to this other place called Factory Town and they had Elro there, which is like where they have the big people in costumes and dancing around confetti. It's like very, very fun. So we went to Factory Town from 10 and I was like, yeah, maybe we'll stay until like 1 and then probably head home, go to bed.

Nope, no, no. We were...

At the one stage that had elro and then we went to the other stage to go see Domdala and he wasn't on until three and he was three to seven and then seven was malpi So I was like, you know what? Let's go over there We had so much fun. Like it was just me and my friend group One of these guys that we were with just kept handing us tequila soda so we all just kept drinking them and like

Probably wasn't the best idea because I was just way too like wired and up and like dancing around like a maniac. And I think it hit around 6 a.m. that Kristen was like, we need to get out of here. Like, we need to go to bed. And...

We fully left and I was like, I could keep partying. Like I was having the best night ever. And on the way home from last night, which was 6 a.m. this morning, I realized that I had booked a facial because I've been getting these acne facials every like few weeks for my skin. They've really been helping. And I had the facial at 11 a.m. And I was like, oh no, like that's not gonna be good, but I'll get up, I'll make it. When I got up this morning, guys,

I actually felt like I had been hit in the head by a bucket of fucking bricks. Like I actually couldn't even see straight. I was like, I don't think my brain is in my body. I don't like, you know, when you just know, like you're like, today's not going to be a good day. Like things are not happening today. The second that I get up and started to walk, I was lightheaded. I was like, I think I'm going to puke. So today was like,

one of the worst I've ever felt and you know what that's what happens when you're having tequila sodas at 6 a.m but but I am so attached to my lady who gives me my facials and she just had a baby last week but she was coming in she's obviously off of work right now but she was coming in just for me to give me this facial and all my friends are like Alex just cancel like you don't have to go and I was like I don't think you understand like I can't cancel like

I think my dad taught me this. He's like, if you make a commitment, like you stick to it. So, you know, I was like, I'm not canceling on her. I don't care if I feel really, really horrible. Like I have to go. And there was a period where I was like, I can't get myself downstairs. I had to Uber there. I couldn't drive. That driving was not in the cards for me this morning. I have like a coconut water. And then there's some ramen noodles that were left on like the coffee table. Oh, yeah.

I didn't mention this, but I slept on the couch. I slept makeup on, clothes on. I woke up face down on the couch. My top was to the side. My nipples were out. I literally was like on the couch.

So, um, yeah, I didn't make it past the living room last night and I woke up apparently I think someone made me one of my friends made me ramen noodles last night I did not stay up to have them. So I had some of those for breakfast. I needed a little sodium I was feeling I was feeling real ill. This was like the worst facial i've ever experienced and not because she doesn't do an amazing job because I was spinning the entire time and

I was laying in the bed and you know, they put facial like steam on you to like open up your pores. I almost, I was like, oh my God, I can't breathe right now. I was like...

I was sitting there and I was like really trying to just like make it through, but we made it through. I can go out and I can still get shit done. I had meetings actually all day today too that I made it to, but like the second that I'm going out and then I'm not getting my work done in the morning, that's when we have a problem. But as long as I'm multitasking, I'm allowing myself to do both, you know? So I didn't get myself into trouble today because I made it to my facial and then I made it to my meetings. I did sit...

in my room for some of the meetings that were on Zoom, literally with the lights off, but I made it there, okay? I was present and I think that's what matters. Like I think if I'm able to do both, it's not like the going out's taking away from the other aspects of my life. I felt very horrible this morning, but it's because I had an amazing weekend. So now that we're done with this bender, I just like can't wait for next year.

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We made it to my couch. I tried to clean up a little bit over here so you guys couldn't see too much of a mess, but welcome back to another segment of What Would Alex Do? Alright, you guys wrote in some pretty good stuff. I found out my boyfriend cheated on me and had sex with another girl, but we are going to Cabo together for spring break with a lot of his friends and their girlfriends in four days. Do I still go on the trip or do I break up with him after? What would Alex do? Guys...

Sometimes you guys need to really pull it together. This is one of those moments. We're not doing that. You're breaking up with him. If you're gonna do it, I just say rip the band-aid off and do it. So I just moved to a new city in the past year that's 1,600 miles away from my home and started hanging out with this guy and he quickly became a comfort person in this new city away from everything I've known for the first 23 years of my life and

His life isn't going so great right now, and being the closest person to him, I feel like he uses me as a punching bag. Oh no. Every time we do something together that involves leaving the house, it somehow blows up and I end up in tears. I've been called a moron and a loser, and I could continue, but let's not, and I know I deserve better, but I'm so scared to not have him as my comfort person, and I fear feeling lonely. I don't know how to navigate this and start focusing on myself again, but I feel like I'm losing touch with myself and my standards.

oh that is such a tough situation especially I feel like this goes with what we were talking about early in the episode would change and change is scary and it takes time but you should 120% not be with someone who's calling you a moron and a loser or anything even closely remote to that so I just feel like sometimes

Girls, we need to get better with our standards because, and this is not to blame you at all, I've definitely been there as well, it is really hard to leave someone, but you have to do it and it will hurt, it's going to feel uncomfortable, the change is going to be scary, but in the long run it's going to be so much better for you. I was dealing with one of my friends this weekend that was dealing with a guy who

that she was seeing, telling her not to post something, that she looked like a slut, that she looked like a whore, and it's literally, like, a cute picture of her on Instagram. And I just think if anyone, in any way, shape, or form, who's with you isn't, like, bringing you up and making you better, like, if all they're doing is...

helping you from feeling fearful of change. I just don't think anyone should accept anything less than being treated amazingly and being hyped up by the person you're with. You need to get out of that situation and the longer that you drag it on, the harder that it's going to be to leave. If Alex was in this situation, she would dump him and leave and distract herself. You're

focus on meeting like new girlfriends and new girls and then guys will come you go out to the bars maybe you see some but like I would focus on making girlfriends because those are really what's going to be the best comfort blanket for you when a guy does get ripped away because

Girlfriends are always there. Hi, Alex. I know this is a very long shot, but my absolute bestie, her name is Shreya, is turning 21 and I'm going to be with her in Chicago to celebrate it. She and I both love you so much. Oh my God, love you too. And I think she would actually pee her pants if you could like wish her... Guys, I can't read right now. My brain is like scrambled eggs.

If you could wish her happy birthday on video, Shia, happy birthday. I hope you have the best 21st birthday ever. And this just gets me excited for 21st birthdays and thinking back to my 21st birthday.

I had an insane night and I'm actually going to be going to New York for my sister's 21st birthday, Ashton's 21st birthday in like two weeks. And of course, we're going to be taking you guys there along for the ride with Hot Mess. So I cannot wait for that. But 21st birthdays are the best. Live it up. Be safe. Be happy. Hi, Alex. I just became closer with one of my friends these past few weeks.

but she has a reputation of hooking up with people she shouldn't be hooking up with. I introduced her to my situationship and when I wasn't around, then she asked him for a Snapchat. I only know because he told me. After that interaction, she went to my best friend and said my situationship was hitting on her, but she asked her not to tell me. Am I wrong to feel insecure about this interaction and to be suspicious of my friend? Um, no, you're not wrong at all.

First of all, I have had a few girlfriends and one of them, in fact, like would it was actually like she was addicted to going after guys that we were interested in. So it became a thing like we couldn't tell her.

who we were interested in because then she would just come and like literally prowl and attack and like some girls love that for some reason, but that really does not make for a good friend and that's probably someone instead of getting closer to them, you should probably distance yourself a little bit. There's no need for you to like

fight and really make a big drama out of it because if you bring it up to her she's probably gonna say exactly what she just said like this guy's hitting on me and blah blah blah and it's just like so much drama but I would definitely distance myself and just stop hanging out with that person in terms of like

qualifying them as someone that I would like actually really trust and love because that's not a good friend and I feel like once people do that they always do that like this girl that I know that did this still does this stuff and literally like copies my every move even to this day so I

it's just like they're just gonna keep doing it just do you and i would probably distance myself from her and i don't know that would probably also make me feel weird about my situationship i mean at least if he told you that's a good sign communication is key but yeah no i wouldn't be friends with her hey girl praying that you see this but this isn't really a relationship question by the way guys these don't have to be relationship questions these can be about anything in life

My dream school is UMiami and I'm currently going through the whole college process. Do you have any tips? Also, what was your college essay on? Because I'm struggling. I feel like my ACT and SAT scores aren't good enough and I'm just all over the place. Help a girl out. The whole college process is so frustrating and very stressful and I had like this college administration

advisor person that was helping us out from our high school and you know she was kind of with me she would check over like my essay and I wrote my college essay on it was kind of about my parents divorce but like being a big sister through that and how I feel like that shaped me as a person just wrote about like protecting my little sister and how that's come out in like a lot of the ways of like my personality and I don't know I would always like

get her ready for everything like make sure her homework was done like make just like looking after her write about anything that feels good to you anything that feels like natural for you to write about I also am just such a believer in like everything happens for a reason like if you get in you're meant to be there if you don't you're not meant to be there like you're meant to you're gonna go to a different college and meet new people and then you're gonna look back in 10 years and be like oh my god I can't imagine if I

Didn't go to this college and meet these people and like these are my best friends or this is my husband You know, it's just like everything happens for a reason. So just let the universe take it and just Wishing you the best because I know it is stressful and it's like where am I going to spend the next four years of my life? But it will work out. It'll all work out. Hi alex Every time my boyfriend comes over He immediately plops down on the couch and scrolls on his phone for the entirety of the time. He's there. Um

But when he's with his friends, he gives him his full attention and won't pull out his phone at all. How do I address that something like that is bothering me without sounding insane? First of all, I always think if there's a problem of any sort, communication. Maybe there's a reason. Maybe it's because he feels really comfortable around you and he's just trying to like chill.

That would definitely make me a little bit mad, but it's also like just having an honest conversation with him. Like if you guys are really close and able to like communicate like that, maybe he's not feeling like he has to like put on some act around you, but it would make me mad if he was on his phone and not paying attention to me. So yeah, I don't know. I think have a talk. If he's gaslighting you, break up with him.

And if he still goes on his phone, break up with him. Moral of the story. Because you can't have fun with someone who's not paying attention to you. I feel like all my advice all the time is just break up with them. And I don't know if that's the right move, but you guys are asking for what would Alex do? That's probably what I would do. Life is too short to be hanging around...

stupid boys that is all for this episode of hot mess with alex earl don't forget to like follow subscribe to this podcast it really helps so much means so much i love you guys and now i have to put all this stuff in a suitcase because we are going to saint thomas with my family we're going on a family trip and

Ashton's coming. Braxton's coming. We're going to have a good time. We're going to be living on a boat for a week and I have to pack up all the camera equipment right now so I can bring it there and we can podcast. But I love you guys. I will see you next week. Bye.

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