Fast Fame & Friendships (ft. Tara Yummy)
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Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Hot Mess with Alex Earle. Happy Thursday. I just got back from a lot of travels. I was in Paris and then I was in LA. Now I'm back in Miami. So I

just like have no idea what time zone I'm on. My body is still all out of whack. I am a little jet lagged, but this episode I'm really excited about because we're sitting down with one of my friends in LA, Tarayami, and we went to her house. You guys are going to see like her bedroom is just so much fun. She has so much personality and she's a YouTuber. She's also on TikTok and I don't know. I think she has a lot to say. She's a lot of fun. So I'm excited for you guys to hear this conversation.

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Whether you know Tarayami or you don't know Tarayami, I just have a feeling you guys are just gonna like fall in love with her, fall in love with her all over again. She's just so much fun. Every time I hang out with her, I'm like, I just like want to be you. Like her energy is contagious. She's so confident and she's so much fun. She also, you know, one of her things is she lives in LA. She parties a lot. So I feel like we're kind of similar in that way. Ow, I just hit my head on the wall. But we're kind of similar in that way. And I don't know, we're

We're going to I need to ask her about like the L.A. party scene because I'm also thinking that I may kind of maybe want to throw a Halloween party there. So I need to scope it out and see what's going on. So let's go sit down with her and see what she has to say. I never know how to start like an intro.

Like I'll do an intro before this, but now I'm just like we're in Tara's room. Hey, welcome Welcome to my welcome. Welcome to hot mess. I'm so honored to be here. I'm not kidding This is the most fun room i've ever sat in. Thank you so much I just moved in a couple months ago. So it means a lot that you like it This is a great house and i'm really enjoying it

thank you I put my heart and soul into it and sugar oh I've been dying to meet sugar really yeah I didn't know that yeah celebrity the snaggle tooth oh he's like it's so cute so cute okay so I feel like we should like get started with like a Tara yummy intro like how did you get started because you consider yourself like a youtuber right yeah so how did you get started on youtube

I started uploading when I was like, I'm not kidding, seven years old, but I took all those videos down. Really? So I've been posting since I was a kid. Oh my God. Those would be good to re-upload though. No. Really? Absolutely not. They're so embarrassing. What would you post? Maybe I could do them like, maybe I could like do it like recreating them. Yeah. That'd be fun. Maybe one day, but they were like vlogs. Same thing I post now. That's so cute though.

I know, but everyone looks back on themselves and cringes. Yeah. I cringe at myself from three months ago. Yeah. Sometimes I want to go back on my channel and delete everything. No, I mean, actually, I'm in a weird phase right now where anything I post, I'm like, I can't post.

Like do you know do you get that? I'm like, I can't even look at myself Well, don't say that anytime you feel that way text me and i'll make you feel better because you're perfect Thanks. So what you got started posting vlogs? Yeah, i've been posting since I was a kid and then I took them all down right after high school I started posting again and then I took those down too and then I met my ex-boyfriend jake who told me Hey, you should really upload again because you're really funny and I was like, okay and then I did. Oh, that's so sweet Yeah, yeah, so that's how not not that fun of a story but

So you grew up like obsessed with YouTube? Obsessed. Watching YouTubers? I loved it. I never was into YouTube when I was younger. Ashton, my sister, she would always watch like...

James Charles and like the David Dobrik vlogs I think I watched it too young I was watching it like seven eight years old so I was watching like do you remember like Mac Mac Barbie like Bethany Moda is that her name yes yes yeah like those okay influencers I loved okay cool even though I don't do like I wasn't I don't know where I was I never had where were you I don't know I always blame it on the fact that I didn't have an older sibling I'm like that's how I like didn't know anything but do you have an older sibling I'm an only child yeah so well I was lonely so I'd watch youtubers

I have a lot of friends, but I think that's why I do YouTube because I'm like, I know what it did for me. Like every day after school, like after middle school, I'd be like, I cannot wait to go home and watch the new like O2L. Do you remember O2L? No. I don't know anything. That's awesome. One thing about, I don't know anything like movies, shows, actors, actresses, singers. I'm like so out of the loop. We should play that game where I show you actors and you're like, and you don't know their names. Yeah. Yeah, I would fail.

I love people like that though. Ignorance is bliss. I guess this past year is when everything kind of blew up for you, but you had a following on YouTube before. So where were you at before this kind of like blow up took off? I was like doing just fine. I was happy with like a niche audience. I get, I would say like the best way to like explain it is I'd get recognized probably once a day if I left the house back then. Now,

a lot more yeah that's how i explain it it's like oh like how you know how niche were you i think i get recognized like once a day again now not so much but um i was happy i would not that i'm not happy now i'm so grateful i'm thankful but i was so happy like doing what i did for just i think i have like maybe like 300 000 400 000 subs on youtube and okay that's a lot though yeah and it was really consistent i'd get consistent views and i had a really strong audience so

I was fine. I was happy. So then what happened? I don't know. People ask me all the time. I think it was my audios that blew up on TikTok. Yeah, I was going to say, was it like YouTube or TikTok that blew up? It was TikTok. It was my voice from like a couple of Jake's videos of me saying like, I don't think I just sit here and look pretty. Yeah, that was good. And it's funny because they went back. Thank you. They went back three months prior to TikTok.

to get that video. And then the other audio that went viral of me was, um, Tarayomi is a mindset. No, not that one. Oh, that one too. But I didn't even, I said that as a joke. They're all so good. Thank you. The one that says, um, I don't believe in ghosts, but one time I ghosted a guy in high school. Yes. That was a video from like two years ago that someone went and clipped.

It was from me and Jake like going to a haunted place because I don't believe in ghosts. That's the whole thing. You don't believe in ghosts? No. But one time a guy goes to a night school. Oh no, I go to a night school. Excuse me. Oh my God, I messed up my own audio. Wait, but you really don't believe in ghosts? No. I think someone. Okay. Do you believe in like, wait, pause. Do you believe in like spirits or like afterlife or anything? I do believe in that. What about astrology? Astrology.

Kind of maybe I don't know I'm open to a lot of things And I think it's fun To believe in ghosts And like When I went to the Queen Mary It did spook me a little Like things did scare me And things did really happen But do I believe in like Ooh Like ghosts No sorry continue Okay

So you don't believe if someone dies, your grandma's ghost could be around? You know, if I did think that, I'd be traumatized. I'd be like, I'm changing, grandma. I want to see a ghost so bad. I love haunted things. Have you been to Jake and Johnny's house? Just look at Johnny. No. No.

I feel like we need to actually explain the story the first time that we met. Oh my God. Yes, we have to. It was just so funny because I was in LA with Braxton and I think we were like DMing or something and you were like, oh, they're having a St. Patrick's Day party. And I bring Braxton with me to this party and it's just like...

Braxton was like, where am I right now? It was a house party. Yeah. It was like an LA house party. It was an LA house party. And it was just, it was just such a funny like environment. I feel like for Braxton to be in. I agree. And you know, it's so funny. It's like, that was one of their first parties. They've been throwing more now. So they're like more in tune with it. But I think no one really knew what was going on.

It was kind of craziness. Me and you disappeared for like 30 minutes upstairs. Yeah. We totally did. With my cousin. My cousin was visiting. Yeah. Yeah. But we had so much fun. I had so much fun with you that night. No, it was, it was a blast. That month also, like the month of March, it was March, right? Yeah. Yeah. That month and that week was one of the best weeks of my life. Really good. I can't say on camera, but I'll tell you later. Oh, wait, I know.

yeah you think you know i know i think i was so happy and then i wasn't yeah and and i confided in you about how happy i was remember yes i was like oh my god yeah i know i remember your happiness it was great yeah that was great um

But that was so fun and you were so welcoming. We were at this party. I actually didn't know anyone else there. And you were like, what can I get you? Hostess with the mostest. Wasn't in my house. Yeah. And she was taking over. And this was your... So this was Jake's house. This was my ex-boyfriend's house. Yeah. Your ex-boyfriend's house, which I think is...

I feel like people, it's so funny, I always see on the internet, can't get over the fact that like you guys are really close friends. Yeah. Best friends. Best friends, yeah. And you dated for four years? Four and a half, yeah. It's crazy. Can we just like get a little explanation on how that's working? Because I like personally don't know if I could do that.

honestly if you were to like tell me that I don't think hypothetically I could do it but then when you're in it and you care about each other so much as people and not so much in a romantic way anymore you live it and then you're just like okay I can do this and this person is someone that's meant to be in my life and I love them very much as a human being and I can get over the hump that we did one time hump because so many people ask me or like right in here

to like the what would alex do and they're like how do i like be friends with an ex or like

Me and my boyfriend are in the same friend group, but like I want to break up with him, but I don't want to ruin the friend group. And I'm like, I don't know if I had advice for that. But like, you just have to get over it. I don't think everyone can do it. And I don't expect everyone to do it. I always say that. Yeah. Because it's hard. It's not easy. And like, maybe we make it look easy, but it's something you learn every day. We learn something new every day about being friends as exes. It's mostly harder for other people to grasp than us. No.

no it seems that way over a year now at this point so yeah it is crazy yeah like maybe we need to move on yeah i think everyone needs to move the fuck on like it's really okay yeah we're really friends guys it's such a good example though it's so sweet thank you you guys are such good people i try thank you and i'm glad you and braxton had fun even though it was so not

At least Braxton's environment. It honestly wasn't even mine, really. Well, it's just funny. Because no one was used to a house party yet. Now they're, now they threw a lot during the summer. Yeah. So we kind of got the hang of it, or they did. But at the time, I think it was like this, I think it was the first party he threw at that house.

yeah yeah i think you were like they just moved in here yeah yeah so it was a little off for everyone i think but now it's like routine it's like party boom boom boom having halloween one you're coming right i'm coming okay good um i need to know about because you grew up in la so what are because everyone i talk to is like um the party scene's just not great here but i'm like you're out every night

So like what's going on? Maybe they're just not going to the right places. But like is it house parties here that everyone goes to? I think it's a mixture. I think it's also like the people you surround yourself with. I call it the loop. It's like if you're not in the loop, you're not going to have fun. Because it's like you got to know what's going on. You know what I mean? And sometimes I'm out of the loop and I'm like, oh, everyone went here and I wasn't invited. That's okay. But you just got to know what's going on where. I feel like think about going to like a new place.

country or new state you don't know what you could look on yelp like oh what's cool to do here but you don't know like the secret like yeah you know what i mean like okay on the wall places kind of like that where like i feel like you got to get into the now

Party scene, it's what you make it. I have fun everywhere I go because I have fun. Yeah. But it's what you make it, I think. I think that's a lot of it like with partying too and just the people you're around. Like you could have fun in a room doing nothing just with music on, dancing. But like some people need to be like

having such a glamorous experience for partying but I agree it's around it's what you make it I mean like there was nothing glamorous about that house party but you and I were dancing no I had so much fun that's what I'm saying it's like it just matters like how much fun you're having it doesn't matter like the party scene like I don't I don't like that people say that because it's like

have fun with what you have but it is more house parties here because maybe in miami there's really never any house parties it's only like the clubs and i feel like we lack good bars they're just like there's no in between do you know what i mean yeah i don't go clubbing here i go to like bars and house parties you're right but i like i like clubs in other places you've never been to like space have you no i ended up

crazy for me to say I ended up crashing that night but then I ever went to space really I like is that your vibe what space no yeah I don't think so so like so I was fine yeah what type of party do you like because that's more like house EDM I don't like house or EDM it kind of for me gets old I'm like

I could only listen to it for so long. Well, if there's no lyrics. I like something I could sing along to. Yeah, I love a good sing-along. It depends on the mood that I'm in. There's different moods of going out because I do like that. And I do love a good rave song.

head-banging night but at the same time if i'm like going out with my friends i need something that i can like sing my heart out to scream yeah i like to scream people know that but like i have to be able to sing along and like dance you know what i mean yeah no i i can't just go like this that's just not me yeah it depends the night for me i could do both you could do both i could do both so you don't like festivals i do like festivals i used to go to a couple raves like back when i was 18 i had a little phase for sure

I like anything that my friends are at. Again, it's what you make it. You know what I mean? And you also are known for having these like Tara yummy parties. Saying Tara yummy party is so cringe. Right? But like, isn't that... Sure. Like Tara yummy parties. Yeah. I want to know about them. I just...

I don't know. I just like everyone to have fun and I try and make sure there's dancing because I feel like there's no one dances anymore. And like, I feel like you can ask my friends and the people who go, they're like, oh, did you dance? Like, yes. I really want people to dance. Yeah. And I make sure there's a dance floor and, you know, everything's fun with an open bar and dancing is important. Yeah. There are. I do have a present for you, though. Oh, my gosh. Wait, I know what it is. I know what it is. Yes, I do. Yes, I do. A Tar Yami sticker. No, it's a Tar Yami condom.

I don't sell these, but I did have them at my party. So now it's like you went. Okay. I'll give you a sticker later. Okay. I requested Tarny Yummy stickers. No, I'm never going to use this. I'm just going to. Just keep it in your purse. I think it's funny. It's like bring this around. This is so cute. Yeah. I wanted everyone to make sure they were safe that night.

I feel like my parties get kind of like crazy. I love my favorite thing about like my parties is my hair stuck is after them for the next like week to two months after my parties I get calls from like all my friends and they're like you wouldn't believe what happened to me that night. And I get to hear each party

person's experience at my party that's so these parties are you renting out a club yeah I rent out like a like an event space whether it's a club and up like I've done like a rooftop bar where I kind of made it more clubby I've done like a club bar vibe and I did I did last time for my birthday I did it was like a venue that hadn't been used for years and it was like

It used to be the old Beauty and Essex in LA. And now it was empty. So I was the first person to use it. And it was just like a big event space that I made look and feel like a club. That's fun. Yeah, because I want it to be big and I want to be outdoor and indoor. Did you do decor at all? Yeah, I use my like Playboy shoot as the decor this year. And I made like red and like, yeah, thank you so much.

I liked your Sports Illustrated. Thank you. That was the most impressive, cool, beautiful thing I had seen a woman creator do in a while. And it was really cool to see. Really? Yes. Thank you. I remember texting you about it and being like, this is so impressive and cool. Thank you. No, it was like really, it was like a dream come true. That's how I felt about my Playboy. So like, how is that like getting to do things like that? That's just like. I can ask you the same fucking thing.

What do you mean? I know. It's weird, right? It's weird. I get imposter syndrome. No, I don't. I'm not meant to be here. No, not at all. No, because I'm no different than anyone else. So why do I get to do this? No, I feel that way all the time. And just like,

especially recently I don't know what's going on with me but I'm just like what I don't know I'm like I mean it's gratitude it's a good thing it's a good thing to feel that way because you feel like gratitude and like gratefulness towards everything towards everyone watching and just like everyone yeah no but it's definitely imposter syndrome and I'm like why am I here or especially when you're in like a room with people and I'm like what am I doing here oh you're like I don't belong no no why am I looking at like I like looked at Sabrina Carpenter one time and I was like

She had no idea who I am or why I was there. But like I was looking at her and I'm like, I shouldn't be in the same room as her. Yeah. She's way cooler than me. It's a weird thing because it's just like, especially with the internet too, it just kind of like overnight can blast you off. Yeah, I know. It's not really deep. Blast you off.

Yeah, what were we talking about partying? Wait, I do... I want to know because I think I'm going to come back here for Halloween. That's going to be awesome. I'll make sure you go to all the parties. And I think I may throw a Halloween party, which is what I'm trying to do right now. I have to do a whole new costume for that. But I'm like...

I'm a little late. Yeah. I'm a little late. Why don't you... This isn't to discourage you. Why don't you go to the Halloween parties this year and next year and throw one? Why don't you do like a New Year's? I've always wanted to do a New Year's party. I've done one, but... New Year's does need another party. Because New Year's I always go out and then I get stranded. It ends up being a dud. Yeah. Yeah.

It's never as fun as it seems. New Year's will be fun. I think I need to come here and start also having parties because everyone keeps telling me that there's no parties here. Yeah. And I did just get a place here. That's exciting. Is this new information for them? Yeah, this is new information. Oh my God. I feel like I'm like... She just side-eyed the camera too. But like, did they know? No, because I don't want people to be like, oh my gosh, she's moving. No. I'm just having a place here. I'm just having a place and testing it out. A place? I'm just having a place. Well, maybe you should come and throw parties because...

it's getting kind of hard for me. Yeah. I need, I need someone to take the, take the reins. I know Jake and Johnny and Carrington throw parties sometimes. And that's nice. Cause it's like pretty often. It's like probably once a month they have like a house party and that's fun. And then I'm stuck doing like, you know, the bigger parties.

400 fucking person NDA ass fucking parties yeah and oh do you have people sign NDAs I had them do it this year and people made a huge deal about it online they're like oh why I'm like well it's for like their own safety because I'm filming it and like yeah just for I don't so I'm not responsible for things it's not for anything in specific people were being really crazy about that but I think you should you should come throw parties we should throw a party together yeah that'd be fun that'd be really fun part one in Miami part two in LA yes we should do that

That would actually be really fun. But the clubs here close at 2. Unfortunately. So the parties have to end at 2. But then do people after party? People, so yes. And I never go. My rule is I don't go to an afters unless it's mine.

Or unless it's a really, really crazy circumstance. Why? Because nothing good happens at an after, Alex. That is true. Nothing. I have not once been like, oh, that after was good. I'm so glad I went. But how do you have the self-control when you're out to like turn yourself around? Because like, if I'm out, I'm like... No, I don't. Nothing good's gonna happen here. Really? No. And then I'm gonna have to...

deal with the consequences tomorrow the contests will quench alex yeah i've never struggled with self-control when it comes to that because i don't want the anxiety of what is going to happen i thought after is also it's just it's just full of just i don't know i just don't ever want to be around that when did you start this cut off

uh it's always been my role really i go to my own afters if i'm doing it or if it's my idea like if it's like my thing i'll do it or if it's like my birthday i'll throw an afters or if it's someone i'm really close to again it has to be like a really special circumstance otherwise count me out honestly like this might be great information for me to start utilizing are the actors in miami fun i feel like what is that eight in the morning well no because i mean you don't really need an afters in miami because

you can stay out like I went out last week and to space and we were out until six which was like early at space to leave because everyone wants to stay for the sunrise so everyone stays until like 11 a.m which is crazy but you just I have a cut off I do people think I don't I do yeah I've been trying to like wrangle myself in a little bit more though because I'm starting to get hung over like I'm getting old

Like i'll get hungover, but now i'm like actually struggling to like think properly for two days straight. Do you get that way? Yeah, no, I didn't go out last night because I knew we were doing this today Really? You didn't go out last night. I stayed at my house. I stayed my ass home Wait, that's why I was trying to like take my time because I figured when you texted me this morning like oh like

no rush like whatever i was like oh my gosh she's probably hungover so i was like i'm gonna like wait no my roommate had some friends over i think there was like 10 people at my house they drank yeah i stayed sober wait this is like i went to bed at like three yeah i went to bed at like three woke up at nine cleaned the house i was ready for you wait that's what i want to know what's a like tar yummy day in the life what time do you wake up like nine or ten okay i'm not a big are you do you sleep in

it depends i feel like i get up usually at like nine or ten yeah but what time do you sleep sleeping's my problem i'll go to bed at like 12 or one that's pretty good but like one is like good sometimes if i'm like up and i have like insomnia i've been like not been able to sleep and i listen to like tiktok asmr to help me sleep they're like you have to go to sleep now i'll brush your hair while you go to sleep and that's what you go to

I'd be like, I'd be like, someone's in here watching me. No, and it replays because I'll fall asleep to it. And then at like five in the morning, I'll hear someone like, and then I freak out and then I have to turn it off. I just fall asleep to TV.

I can't do ASMR. I don't think I could fall asleep to TV. My mom is like that. I have to have the TV on. Really? Impractical Joker stays on. I don't know. I can't do it. And I'll stay in hotel rooms with my mom and like she'll blast the TV and I'm like, can we just sleep? And then I wake up like you at five in the morning. I'm like, oh my God. Yeah. And then I have to turn it off. But yeah, I have to sleep to TV. Did you notice there's no TV in my room? I've never had a TV in my room.

I try not to because... Wait, so then where are you watching TV? My computer. Oh, okay. My whole thing is like I have this house, this beautiful home that I got. I'm going to like spend my time in it. So if I want to watch TV, I can go downstairs in the living room. I love... And you have a roommate, which is so fun. Yeah, I have two roommates.

Oh, two? Yeah. Where's the other? He's in his room. Oh. Yeah. He's just my friend from high school. I wanted like a normal male that I've known for a long time living with me. Just for my protection. Yeah. Yeah. I feel like I come out here a lot for work anyway and I like it here. So I'm like now at least I don't have to stay in a hotel. Have you ever gone out here? Like what do you do when you go out here? I haven't been out here that much. Like I have been to a few clubs, which I don't even know what they're called.

But I don't like that. I will say I don't like the club scene in L.A. If that was your question earlier. I haven't been out that much. I hate the club scene in L.A. I think it's just really stuck up. No one loosens up. Everyone's just standing around. Some people say like they don't like the party scene in L.A. It's so weird. I actually I think this must have been in March when I was here or maybe a little bit before. But I went out to a club and I think it was on like sunset or something. Yeah. Wait, I think it's called off sunset. Probably. Yeah. Yeah.

I was dancing just like normal. And no one else was. I stood up on like the table we were at and I was just dancing like normal. And the guy next to me was like, oh my gosh, where are you from? And I was like, Miami.

Like, why? Like, why? And he was like, oh, like, I knew you weren't from here. And I was like, why? Because you're having fun. And he was like, because you're dancing. And I was like, well, now I'm self-conscious and there's no one else dancing here. Dance your fucking ass off because I dance when I go to clubs. But that's crazy. And people look at me like I'm fucking nuts. And that's why I'm like, oh, Tara's fucking crazy. But what are you doing if you're not dancing? Being stuck up. That's what people do. It's really annoying. Do you feel that way here? Because that's the one thing that's always kept me from coming to LA is like the people. Yeah.

You know? Yeah, I know. But I feel like I've met good people now. That's what matters. Yeah. Go out with those people. So now that I've like, I met you. Yeah. I had Jake and his friends. Yeah. My other friends. And I'm like, oh, okay, great. Like I could see myself hanging out with people here. But like friends are such a big thing for me that I was like, I don't want to go somewhere that like I'll get sucked into people that I don't want to hang out with. You'll be okay. You'll be okay.

Also like for me to avoid that scene, I try and go to like bar clubs. And by that, I mean like, I don't know how to explain that. It's like loud music at a bar is easier to dance to then. Cause you get to get up and like walk around and like, I am dancing. Yeah. I will dance. I don't care. Like a karaoke vibe because karaoke, everyone's always dancing and singing. That's kind of how I like,

I maneuver that. I don't go to like clubs unless I absolutely have to in LA. I like clubs in other places. Yeah. Not in LA as much. Okay. Interesting. And we won't be doing that. We'll be going to fun things. I promise. I'm like going to come here and you're going to have to take me out. Of course. You're not going to have to drag me. Of course. Okay, good. Thank God. I feel like all my friends, it's so funny because I'm so extroverted and I'm so down to go out all the time. All my friends are so introverted and like want to stay in. So it's like, I'm always like, please, please come out with me. I always love going out, but weirdly in Miami recently, I'm like, I kind of like,

But I don't know. I guess I've just done it all for like six years and I'm like, try something new. Yeah. Well, that's my favorite thing to do when I go somewhere new. Like when I went to London, my favorite thing was to go see like the bar scene or the club scene. Did you go to the box there? No, I've always wanted to go. You've never been to the box? In New York either? No, we should go. We should go. It's so fun. It's crazy.

crazy it's so disgusting I know I love it's so disgusting because I'm like so open to everything I'm like try not to be judgmental of anyone so I'm like this is gonna be fun for me no it's it's really fun I think you would like it I went with Madeline actually oh really yeah she told me to go that was like one of the first times that Madeline like kind of opened up to me is I was like we're at the box in London I was like come and obviously that it's just like the

stuff going on. It's like, I don't even know. There was a grandma like squirting tomato soup out of her ass. And I was like, people do like ping pong balls, like,

No, it's crazy. And it's kind of nauseating, but then it like stops and then it's just like regular music. And then I'm like, you're like, oh, OK, like whatever. But yeah, me and Madeline had fun at the box. It was a good time. We have to go. We have to go. Do you get FOMO? Oh, my God. The queen of FOMO. I've been better lately because I'm like, if I'm not there, it's not fun.

I try and tell myself that like, Kesha, like the party don't start. So I walk in. I try and get that vibe just to keep myself from having FOMO, but I have really bad FOMO. I have really bad FOMO too, which is why I always end up saying yes to things. Me too. And just every opportunity. And I'm like, I have to go. That's how you end up.

on Paris, LA, and Miami time all at the same time. Yeah. Because I understand I'm the same way. Yeah, I have to go. I've been to three places in the last three weeks every week. I don't know how people say no. Me neither. And I don't know. I don't know what about FOMO. You and I are going to be dangerous together. We shouldn't hang out. No one take us out together. We party together once.

Yes. That was fine. It was a controlled environment. But that was a controlled thing. And I think I had to be up the next morning for something because I left. And I wasn't like going crazy or anything. I was like, I have to go. No. You know, that night I was on antibiotics and I'm like, I'm going to drink. Bad mistake. Don't do that, guys. But I did. And I ended up having to do like another round of it because I did it. Really? Because I was so excited. It like cancels it out. Yeah. I was like so excited that you were there. And I'm like, we have to party. Well, you showed me a great time.

I'm so glad. Wait, we never finished your day in the life. Oh, it's a lot of sugar.

sugar my dog oh it's a lot of taking care of sugar i was like you don't need to tell me what you eat i'm like a lot of sugar that's how i stay so because the dog yes the dog i want to get a dog but see that's the problem is i can't get a dog i'm so lucky that i have my mom here so when i travel my mom watches sugar but if i didn't have my mom i would never have gotten a dog yeah yeah i really want a little wiener dog i could so see you with a little weenie the blonde ones

That's so you. Wait, this is a discussion that we need to have because I was saying that I wish I could have dark hair. I'm annoyed with you. No, I... No. Blondes are just like a choogy. I would do anything to be blonde. No, it's not cool anymore. You go first. I'll rebuttal you. Okay. Like dark hair is sexy. That's all you have to say? For me? It's more like, it's more unique. If you have dark hair...

And you're hot. Like it's just like so much more of a flex. Oh my God. No. Yes. No. Alex, for me, it's like at least blondes could go dark. I can't go blonde. I can't. Yes, you could. No. Your sister is dark hair. Yeah, but I would look ridiculous. I don't think so. I think you're I think blonde people or like people with lighter hair, their complexion could potentially suit dark hair. Well, I wish I had dark black hair.

It's just like that makes me so angry because I would do anything to have your hair just to be like a blonde girl. No. To be a blonde girl. I don't know. I don't know why I got the ick for it recently, but I'm like, I just want it doesn't feel special. You have such a nice blonde. No, especially like not now. It's just I don't know. You're crazy. No. No, you're being crazy. I think you're being crazy. No, you're being crazy. I think this is like also feeding into the thing that you just don't like posting. I think it's that. I think it's that. I think we need to get out of that funk. Okay. You gotta step out of it.

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I would like to say I'm so glad that this is the first podcast I'm doing since I left the one I was on because this is so relaxed. I'm always curious like how other podcasts do their podcasts because I'm like-

really this is so easy I'm sitting on my own bed with a fucking mic yeah this is a traveling podcast we don't have much of a setup like I traveled so much that like I had to go you know to the house that was that was getting filmed all the time and like it took a big chunk of my time away and that's not why I left but you know definitely adds to it so was it like a

Not like a script, but did you know like what you were talking about going into it or not? Actually, no, it was more relaxed than that. Okay. Yeah. Because yeah, I can't like do a script. No. That's just, I remember, I remember I went on BFFs and like, this is actually no hate to them. This is actually kind of a nice thing. They gave me a like booklet of like my life, like every research, it was actually so impressive that they researched so much into me that like, it was like things I didn't know about myself. Oh, I didn't know that.

How did you find that out? How did you find that out? It's kind of awesome. And it's definitely probably more prepared. But I do prepare. I do prefer this over that if it were my own. Yeah. Or being on one. Yeah. Drink your caffeine, girl. I can't believe you have a flight today. Yeah, I have a flight in... A couple hours. A couple hours. Are you going to be able to sleep on it? Yeah. I'm like a professional sleeper on flights. Do you get afraid of flights? I'm not scared of flights.

I've had so many bad experiences flying that now it's like I have to be in my own little pod. And if I'm not, I freak out because like people next to me have like literally harassed the fuck out of me. So like that's what scares me. It's more the people on the plane, less the plane itself. Do you get a harass because you're a tar yummy?

I guess more recently, but the time I'm thinking of, I got harassed and it wasn't because I, it was just because I was a girl. I was sitting next to this dude and he was like, yeah, I just got released from prison, blah, blah, blah. And I was like, oh, that's really cool. Like no hate, you know, to the incarcerated, like cool. Like you got rehabilitated, you're out. This guy ends up talking to me on a six hour flight from LA to Maryland. Cause I was born in Maryland actually. And, um,

I was like, oh, I'm just going to watch my movie now. And I was trying to be as respectful as I could. But he just kept being like, oh, so what's going on in your movie now? And like, I just think he didn't understand like when to stop talking to me. And he was like raw dogging his flight. And then when I, when I mean harass, that's not what I mean. I mean, the plane had some turbulence and he literally grabbed my boob. And he was like, I was like, sorry, the turbulence.

pretend this is my boob and he was like sorry i'm just really scared of the turbulence and i was like wait that's like what i think he was trying to like maybe grab my shoulder my hand but like he grabbed my tit did you like scream at him no i was like it's okay yeah and then he was like so what are you doing when you land i'm like my uncle's picking me up

Like it was just like, I always think about that with planes. I'm like, you're so close to a stranger. And like, you just share so much. Like you're on a plane for a while sometimes. And I'm like, we're sharing so much life together. I hate it. Get away from me. Stop touching my tit. I don't care. We have turbulence. Get off me. No, some people can't take a hint. Like I, there was one time, this one guy, it was actually me and my friend, Kristen were on a flight. Kristen was a row behind me with this guy. He was like talking to her the whole time and kind of kept poking her. And he kind of kept coming up and,

in like between the middle of the seats and kept poking me and was like hey hey and i was like can we just like can we not do this right now is it because you're alex earl or because you were no no i think he was just like i don't know i think he was bored he was old and i think he was bored

but he was i feel so bad for old people i know but one time i also fell asleep on a flight and i woke up and the girls next to me like lap because i like guess i just like fell asleep and she she didn't wake me up but i'm like i feel so bad for her but it's just like you go through so much together that's what i'm saying put me in my own pod i don't care if i have to pay like i will gladly pay for the extra comfort because i've gotten harassed so many times on a plane but i'm like i can't do it you're stuck in a tube full of people i still don't understand how planes fly

How do boats float? I don't know. Like, do you like are you someone who gets freaked out by like space? Because the second I start thinking about space, I'm like, I don't know. I don't exist. Yes. I got uncomfortable. Just you think you saying it like thinking of how tiny Earth is compared to the whole world.

Do you know? Have you seen those videos? Yes. Where it zooms out? And then your little problem is nothing. It's kind of nice though. Yeah. If you're ever going through like crisis, you're like, well, I'm just on a pebble. Yeah. On a rock in space. What's your astrology? I'm a Leo. Triple.

From what I know of. I think my mom messed up my time, so I might not be a triple Leo, but last I checked, I was a triple Leo. You should just like lie and say triple Leo. Well, last I checked with, I think it was the correct time, but I don't know. I got to look back into it. Triple Leo. So scary. What about you? I'm a Sagittarius. My rising is a Scorpio and then my moon is a Virgo. I don't know anything about that shit, but that's amazing. I'm so happy for you.

like okay yeah yeah i do know like some things about scorpio some things about leo's but i don't know you get very leo i know yeah yeah unfortunately but you know i live with it there's something i can do so do you get like because you're so like sure of yourself i feel like it seems that way at least from the outside and like even your like sense of style like you have such like a

i don't know like if someone you know what when i play dress to impress all the time and there's like the theme and then something's like i'm tari yummy and i'm like because you have such like a look in like a good way thank you like how do you find that and how do you like your aesthetic like how do you find it because i always feel like i'm like i don't know and then especially when you like

aren't in an industry where there's other people or there's fashion and everyone's kind of like comparing what you should wear it's like oh carpets or do this or do that and I'm like I feel like you're so good at like sticking in your lane and sticking to like what works for you that's so nice that's such a compliment thank you and help me find mine and help me um anytime anytime you need help I'll help you um I think it's just what I feel best in it's what I feel like

Tara is Do you know what I mean? Yeah I always used to joke And be like My style is a Marilyn Manson And parasol Not a baby Okay That makes sense Yeah And that's kind of I also love like a Bratz doll So like when I think of like Yes I try and like emulate All those three Um I don't know what it is And I don't know how I did it I think I've always been A little bit this way Um

So it's hard for me to explain or give advice on. But anytime you need help, please let me know. It's anything you feel best in, I think. But do you ever feel pressure now that you go to these events with people or you're like, oh no, I need to switch it up and wear something like...

I think I was watching when you were getting ready for Beetlejuice or something. You were going to a fitting and whatever. But like, I just love that you just stick to your style. Yeah. Fuck no. I don't give a fuck what anyone else wears. I want to wear what I feel best in. Okay. I still, I obviously I'm going to respect the dress code. Like if it's like, you know, red carpet, I'm obviously going to like do that. But do,

Do that. Do that. There's different ways to do it. You know what I mean? It's like there's a way to incorporate how I feel and what makes me feel good into something that's appropriate for the event. This is such good advice. Thank you. I try. I really don't think I'm that good advice. I feel like

When I do like interviews or like I'm on podcast, I'm like, I don't know. And it's like I'm the worst person to get interviewed. But no, you're not. Thank you. You're great. Nice. I feel like I got to I don't know, just afraid to speak or like to like media trained or whatever, because anytime there's a camera or anything, I was like, I like lost all my sense of personality. And I was like, I'm just going to say like you because no, because I'm

I'm sorry, just perfect. Speaking of me, I'm like, it's people really hate me for being me. So it's like I can't even be like, no, but people love you for being you. They also hate me. Well, that's OK. Not everyone's always going to like you. No. And I've always been one to say that. But it's it's not as easy to look past the hate as I make it look. I will say that. But there are days where I'm like, I'm the worst person in the world, actually. Yeah. But being so sure of myself.

I think it's because I was just surrounded with people who loved me growing up and I'm really lucky to have good friends and like,

my parents really did love me so it's like yeah it's that's why I think I'm so sure of myself that's another thing I wanted to ask you about was like your friends yeah like what do you have a core group of friends or not even like a friend group but like friends that you've been friends with for a while or do you like constantly making new friends I love constantly making new friends because I feel like it's so fun to learn about other people's lives and like I feel like I have so many friends that

aren't like me and I love that and like people who are so different than me I love learning about their lives and the way they see things because that's like the human experience but I also have friends that I've had since kindergarten still like I don't like burning bridges I like working on friendships and working on relationships and like I've never had like problems in friendships because I try to be a good friend um but yeah I I have all of my high school friends still yeah um so you never like cut friends off

I could think of like one instance. Really? But like other than that, no. I try and work on everything because it's just how you better yourself as a human being. That being said, there are bad people in the world that you should cut off. And if it's a toxic relationship, cut it off. But I'm so lucky that I grew up here and I have all my friends still around me. My middle school friends,

Some of my best friends to this day are friends from elementary school. It's so funny because I have so many friends and it's because I'm friends with like people who aren't on the internet too. Like my Tara Yummy parties, I think the reason they're so fun, this is a secret, is because my high school friends come and they dance and they don't care. Yeah. And it gets other people dancing. That's how I feel about my friends dancing.

All like my friends from college. I've noticed you, you know, same with you. None of, none of my friends do anything on the internet really. And it's great. Yeah. And I'm like, but that's what scares me about LA. No, it shouldn't because you'll find the people that are kind. Yeah.

That's all I'll say. Okay. No, not in like a crazy way. You looked at me like... One of my best friends is Jake and he's online. One of my best friends is Johnny and he's online. Yeah. It's not to say people online suck, but it's harder. It is harder. Yeah. Do you feel like people are friends with you for the wrong reasons? I'm definitely careful. Yeah. And I definitely don't give all of me to those people. I'm still kind and welcoming.

But I've never given all of me to those people because it's very obvious who those people are. And then since you've like blown up, have you had people that have tried to come into your life that like weren't in it before? Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely. Yes. And I'm sure same goes with you. Yeah. You blew up in fucking college, no? University. Mm-hmm. That's ridiculous. Every sorority girl ever wants to be you.

How does that feel? Well, no, I don't know. I'm not at my school. I got dropped by all the sororities. And you know what? I mean, I got into one. Look who's laughing now. The people who denied Alex Earl to be in their sorority. But I don't know. I don't look at it like that. I just feel like it wasn't. That's kind of you. I do. I'm like, fuck you. Because you're amazing. Well, I feel like everything happens for a reason. You know, I'm like, would I have been the same person? Would I have been a little bit more shallow? You know, I love a good shallow moment.

sometimes i look at a guy i'm like you're ugly only men though only men only men all women are all women are beautiful truly truly i mean think about the girls i don't know that's just me i'm like i go look at any girl and be like you're beautiful in your own way and you're so beautiful and like you know i have the beholder men there is just some fucking ugly men in the world sorry i'll get hate for this i don't care like on national boyfriend day get your ugly boyfriend off my fucking feed not you

Braxton so sweet get your ugly ass boyfriend off my feed you are too pretty for him yeah sorry that boils my blood off topic continue I apologize I got so angry right now at the boyfriends of the world is that like upsetting you for some reason in particular no just people's ugly ass boyfriends are on my feet all day but what if they're nice I don't know I'm just kidding no but just I just see some girls and I'm like you are too beautiful and too kind to have an ugly ass boyfriend

Unless they're sweet to you. Yeah. They usually aren't. Yeah. They usually aren't. I don't know. I have no comment. You're too nice. I'll say it. Get your ugly ass boyfriends off my feed. Thank you. So wait, did you go to college? Good question. Yes. Where? Online. Oh, okay. Yeah. Nice. And how was that? It was good. I stopped.

Okay. Yeah. That's how I got into partying in L.A. is because that's how I got into the scene kind of like YouTube scene. That's why I met Jake is because I was so jealous of my friends in university and like around the world partying and going to these frat parties. I was like, fuck this. Like I need to go out. And I started finding these L.A. parties. Really? Mm hmm.

So did you were you able to make friends at all really through online school or like not really? No. Yeah. I have like I went to in-person school. I went to Santa Monica College. I made like one friend there named Kenneth and he like dropped out and joined the military. OK. We keep in touch. He told me to drop out and do YouTube and I did. Nice. I love that for you guys. Thank you. So did when did you drop out?

I still took classes up until last semester or two semesters ago. Oh, okay. Yeah. And when did you not? You were just for like...

I don't need this. Not that I don't need it. I think I was doing it to just have my degree. And I think I just, I was like, I don't have time. Honestly, I will lose my mind if I do school and YouTube full time and be able to say yes to every opportunity. I want to start making YouTube videos. I vlogged Paris, but I'm just like, it's definitely so bad. So I'm like, I'm not using the footage. But like, that's not true. Don't say that. I don't know. I think YouTube's so fun. It is.

it is so fun and i enjoy it so much and i think every creator should try it at least once and it's not for everyone it's not the easiest thing in the world but i think you should upload the paris footage what's wrong with that i just don't know if i got anything like that interesting i'm like that's not true let me take a look at it let me see what i can do okay i'm gonna try and i think i'm going to disney with broxton next week and i'm like i think that would be such a fun vlog so fun that's perfect thing to vlog excited to go to disney

Like I've just been having a Disney itch recently. We should drink around the world. I've never done that. I've never done that either. Also, I think I'll be done by drink too. Okay. Are you lightweight? I think I handle my alcohol really nice because I pace myself and that's how I can last the whole night and I never get like messy. But I am a lightweight. I just think I just know my own, but I will happily drink around the world with y'all. I've never drank in at an amusement park in my life. It's not, I don't know.

I don't like to like casually drink. Me neither. And I'm like, I'm not going out. Like, I don't understand the point of having to drink right now. Me too. You know, when like you're at dinner and like, you know, you're not going out, but like your friends get a drink. I'm like, I'll just get a Diet Coke. A Diet Coke? Fill that DC up. I'm literally glitching from this drink. But I don't like to like casually drink. Me neither. Okay, great. Oh my God, that's amazing. See? Ugh.

It's beautiful. Which I feel like people would never, people always think they're like, she's an alcoholic. She's a problem. I'm like, she's drinking. I don't even go out anymore. Also, when I go out, I don't know if you know this. Excuse me. I've talked about this. I don't drink every time I go out because I go out almost every single night and I need to start trying. I drive myself half the places and I don't really. And do people think you're drunk? Yes. The other night, my roommate turned. Just because you're having fun.

Yes. Yeah. The other night my roommate turned 21 and she did this big like 21st, you know, she finally legally drink. She was like cutting up her fake IDs. It was awesome. And when I was leaving the party, I was driving my other roommate home. This guy came up to me and that's one of my roommate's friends and goes, are you okay to drive? And I'm like,

I have had a Red Bull all night. People thought I was wasted. And I was sober gopher. I think that this has like happened so many times where people are like, give me your keys. Like you're not going to drive. I'm like, I had a Diet Coke all night. Yeah. Like some people just, I've done that before too where I haven't,

and people are like oh my god you're so fucked up right now and i'm like i'm not but i get that allegation all the time with like drugs anytime i post videos of me like from when i'm drunk and i'm like whatever doing something funny and i post it online and everyone's like oh my god she's like it the snow emoji whatever and i'm like i'm like actually like i can have fun without that so yeah actually i'm up all night without that i have insomnia and i have um a celsius yeah

No, I agree. People always think I'm fucking skiing the slopes. Guys, I'm glitching from this. I'm literally staring at this right now. This is you glitching? You're so calm. I feel like I'm seeing 10. Really? For me. Maybe in my mind, I'm like... No. This is amazing. Do you have mental health issues? Yeah. Really? Like anxiety? I think...

No I'm not that much of an anxious person as I am Like I've learned something about myself I think someone misdiagnosed me growing up Someone said I don't have ADHD and I know I do I know I do

I feel like I do, but I don't... I'm like, what am I going to do about that? Nothing. Like, I can't do anything about it. Yeah, there's... Because I guess Adderall. But one time I took Adderall to study and I was awake because my anxiety is like through the roof. So I couldn't even focus because I was so anxious from Adderall. So I'm like, I guess I'll just be... Is your anxiety like a day-to-day thing or is it like a... I've been on Lexapro since I've been 14 years old. So I've...

Been on it for a while and it's kind of like regulated. But recently, like if it gets bad, it gets like really bad where it's just like and I don't even know if

People don't understand when I talk about it online. They're just like, oh, what are you anxious about? It's not even about anything. My body just literally freaks out. I don't know why. It's like my heart. I feel nauseous. Some people don't get it. They're just like, oh, we'll stop. Stop drinking. I'm like, I haven't drank in two weeks. Some people are just born that way. Born anxious. It's like a chemical imbalance. That's fine. I think we should do...

Because we'll always do what would Alex do on this podcast where people write in questions or scenarios and then I try and like give my advice. But I think we should do what would Tariyami do? Because we got to get into the Tariyami mindset. I always joke like why would you want to be in my brain? It's horrible in here. Well, we're going to get into it. Okay. What would Tariyami do?

When I'm drunk in my college town, I have weird urges that I want to hook up with my guy friends who I would never date and I'm not attracted to sober. I have a long distance boyfriend who I love with all my heart and I know he is the one for me. But how can I explain these weird thoughts that cross my mind? Should I limit...

around these kind of friends. Oh my God. So I feel like that's a thing where it's like you are in the wrong relationship personally is what I would think. My initial thought. I think I'm going to agree with you. Yeah. I think if you're in the right relationship, you're not going to have those thoughts, babe. I know. Because if they're your friends that you're not attracted to, although I get that. Sometimes I get like, well,

Well, yeah. I mean, there's definitely like alcohol impacts, whatever. But like, I still think sometimes it can bring out like your like true thoughts, you know? So I would say it's not the limiting the drinking around your guy friends. I would say it's... Maybe look into that relationship. Limiting the boyfriend. Right. Your subconscious says a lot. That's what I'll say. And I feel like if your subconscious is what comes out when you're drinking...

I also think, though, you can be happy and, like, be best friends with someone, but it's, like, if you're, you don't maybe need to be dating him. You know what I mean? Hi. Yeah. Yeah. Like, I don't know. I relate. I feel like you wouldn't be having those thoughts, personally, if it's, like, a relationship. I think I agree with you. I think I'm on what would Alex do, and it's that. Maybe look into the relationship. Okay. Okay.

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I'm genuinely in love with two different guys. I've been casually dating them both and things have been ramping up in terms of seriousness with both. And now I'm at a place where both are asking me to be exclusive and I actually can't choose. I care about both of them equally and I don't want to lose one. What would Alex do? What would Tarayomi do? In that case, and this is what I do when I can't make a decision, I get a coin and I flip it. No. And when it's in the air, I know what I want it to secretly land on deep down in my heart.

really you're like please be tails you don't feel that way i've never tried that like in that millisecond it's in the air you're gonna be like oh i want randy over ryan that's the only that's the only way that's pretty good i would never think to do that that's the only i was gonna be like pros and cons list i don't know but she's already done that i feel like because she's like oh they're both amazing and i love them both

I think it's a subconscious thing too. Just like the other one where it's like once it's in the air, maybe that's when your brain's going to be like, oh, I really want this one actually over this one. Unless that, if that doesn't work, I can't help you. But have you been in a situation before where you're like, no, I don't know. I've always been so sure of everything in my life. Really? Really?

And how? I don't know. I think truly deep down, I'll always know what I actually want. That's why that flip coin thing works on me. I'm so... Indecisive? I feel, yes. I do know what I want, but then I feel like I like trick myself and I'm like, actually, I don't know what I want. And then I cannot make a decision for the life of me. Like that's something I struggle with. I'm on the other side of the phone, girl. You gotta text me. Okay. No, I'm Toriyami Hotline. Okay.

I pick up whenever. I'm so good with my phone. Help. My best friend's older brother is 10 years older than us. Just moved... Just moved home for the rest of the year before he moves to a new city in 2025. I've had a crush on him since when we were kids. And now I want to make a move. I'm 18. He's 28. So that's messy. Plus, I think...

My best friend would be a little upset if she ever found out I did anything. Is it worth it? I literally fantasize about sneaking into his room every time I sleep over. I don't think it's worth it. I have so many questions. I know. I like, is he interested in you? Age difference is kind of crazy. The age difference is crazy, but yeah. Yeah.

It is, but I don't know. It is. Yeah, it is, but I mean. Whatever. That's a tough position to be in. I just feel like if he's moving away. Oh, he's moving away. In 2025, she said. Oh, wait, are we in 2024? Yeah. He's moving away. It's a year. Well, it's only. Oh, my God. What? It's October. I'm having a crisis. Do you know what year it is? No, I don't. Like that's in like a few months. No, I don't. I just feel like if it's going to make your friend upset. I think it's worth talking about with her.

Communication is key. Yes. If she expresses to you that it's going to upset her, obvious no. But why don't you just ask? I don't know, but I will say things are always better when you can't do it. Like she's like, oh, I've been fantasizing about this. I'm like, it's probably because she like, no, she can't. Yeah, you want something you can't have always. And then you get it and you're like, wait, this sucks. It's happened to me where I'm like, I get it. I'm like, I'm so happy. This is exactly what I needed. Yeah. Yeah.

Okay, so I think communicate if she wants to go to the route of like doing, you know, living out her fantasies, then communicate with his with your friend and his sister. But I think my first thing would be like, don't risk it. What if you absolutely need to just communicate first?

Okay. I would say communicate. Yeah. That's usually the answer I give with everything. Yeah. And my communication fixes a lot. It does. I'm a freshman in college and I moved pretty far away from my hometown to a big school and I've been struggling to make new friends. I don't really see my roommate that often because she's always hanging out with her friends and I always feel like a burden when I try to hang out with them and I always feel awkward and embarrassed around them. It's been really hard for me to make new friends who like going out and having fun. I've been feeling really lonely lately and don't know what I should do.

Since I never went to, like, a college where I'm, like, I'm a freshman and, like, I don't really know how to go about that. Do you? I think it's just, like, in general... Like, you're in a situation, a new place, right? She moved far away from home and she's, like, trying to make friends. And so is everyone at the same time, which is, like, the weird thing about school at that age is everyone's trying to make friends, but also at the same time, I feel like everyone feels so lonely. But, like, you have to just realize that, like, everyone else is trying to make friends. And I think just...

like attempting it you know what i mean like everyone's in the same boat so i feel like just

I don't know shoot your shot like I'm a psycho I'd like go up to someone at lunch and be like do you want to be my friend yeah like be like oh I like your shirt that's what I would do I'd be like oh like a lot of my friends actually one of my best friends I made like we were both getting with the same guy and I wanted to ask her about it and I was like do you want to like go to Starbucks and we went to Starbucks and she's my best friend that's crazy yeah like I wasn't even worth it no we both like I was like wait like

we were just kind of like yeah again goes back but it wasn't even like a like a we were mad at each other because it was kind of just like so casual but i just was like curious i was like oh hey that's crazy i know holy fuck but i feel like you just have to like put yourself out there i agree

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